The Evil of Hope

by Fiona Lotherington, Registered Nurse and Complementary Health Practitioner, Northern NSW. 

You may think that the word evil is extreme when describing the effect of hope. Yet I define evil as anything that holds back our growth and development and anything which perpetuates the separation from the truth of who we are or which delays the healing needed to return to our essence. Defined in this way, evil and hope are perfect bedfellows.

I was recently listening to a friend talk about his experience with his partner who had died many years ago from breast cancer. As he shared the details of the events around her illness and eventual death, the word ‘hope’ came up several times. Each time I heard this word, I experienced a growing sense of dis-ease, as I became aware of what a detrimental role hope had played in her illness and death.

For a moment this surprised me, as hope is normally considered to be a virtue. Like a warm coat in winter, it is used to comfort ourselves or other people when we are ‘down on our luck’. It is common to hear people say, “I hope you get better soon” or “don’t give up hope” and consider this a kindness. We give generously to charities dedicated to researching medical conditions, in the hope that a cure will be discovered.

When I looked at the definition of hope, it spoke of having an expectation or desire for something to happen or wishing for a positive outcome. Reading these words confirmed for me the evil of hope and how it could wreak such havoc in our lives.

In the case of my friend and his partner, the hope they clung to prevented them from accepting the diagnosis or the reality of the rapidly growing breast cancer.  The searching and hoping kept them focused in the future, believing they would eventually find a cure. But in reality, this chase was a distraction from dealing with the severity and urgency of the situation. Like a magician’s trick, hope distracted them, drawing their attention away from what was really taking place before their eyes.

Hope allows us to stay stuck in a loop, repeating patterns and cementing beliefs that do not heal the root cause of our illness. In hoping that ‘something’ will change, we avoid taking responsibility for these patterns we are stuck in. Instead we place our hopes outside of us and wait for the elusive cure, the great healer or the latest treatment. This outward focus means that we never look inside to see what this illness means for us or the part we have played in it. We miss the opportunity to heal the root cause that this illness is presenting.

In the end, hope leaves us surprised and completely unprepared when the reality of dying inevitably hits home.  All the denial, all the hope is revealed for what it is; illusion and delay. Suddenly with only days left, my friend and his partner were met with everything they had avoided facing. Hope had prevented them from using the precious time leading up to her death to heal and prepare for her passing.

As a nurse and friend, I have seen that there is so much to be healed and gained through the palliative care process, not only for the person who is dying but everyone around them.  Surrendering to and taking responsibility for the process, supports the looking at, dealing with and healing of old patterns, deepening of relationships and completing anything left outstanding from this life.  In this way, we are released from these impediments and left free to move on.

What better way to prepare for our next life?

Read more:

  1. What is Evil? 
  2. The way we are living is killing us.
  3. What if reincarnation is true? 

 

 

766 thoughts on “The Evil of Hope

  1. I grew up believing that hope was good, in fact it’s touted as being as good as good gets. So we humans spend all our money and hope to win lotto, get really sick and hope we get better, mess up the house and hope someone else cleans it, buy lots of plastic garbage and hope someone fixes pollution, refuse to love ourselves and hope somebody else will … sounds like a recipe for disaster.

    1. This just confirms that everything about hope is related to an ideal or expectation that something outside of us will sort out/cure/fix whatever it is that is an issue or problem in our lives. Whereas if we live by what we know is true all the time, we dont need to look anywhere apart from inside ourselves, as therein lies all the answers we need.

  2. As you say hope is so often a fantasy, allowing us to dodge looking at how we are truly living and what is really going on. How are we going to live or die in the truth of ourselves if we live like this?

  3. Hope is like holding onto a tightrope where you can lose your grip at any moment. This creates anxiety in the body and this is not supportive in any way, shape or form.

    1. Hope is a total disempowerment. And great comment: it does not come from a body that is at ease, it feeds constant anxiety, as you don´t know if the end result you are wishing will come true or not. Instead of going with everything that is there to see and accept and trusting being equipped to deal with anytime.

  4. This really highlight the harm in offering people ‘hope’ in any given situation which delay them in coming to the truth and taking responsibility for the situation they find themselves in.

  5. A comical way of looking at the word hope could be to break it down to single letters like, H= hold, O=on, P=please, E=everyone as this is basically what we do when we spread the use of the word hope in religious groups and so on, keeping us all held in its unnatural and unloving grip.

  6. When times are tough, hope comes in like a saviour promise, shining its light and offering salvation. There is hope and so there is a glimmer of chance that everything just might be alright. And I can see how this is an illusion, how hope serves to distract us away from seeing what is really going on, away from feeling what is really there to be felt, because with a saviour light that comes from an outer source, we are forever enchanted by it and beholden to it. But when there is a turning in to our own light, the sacred esoteric light within, then there is no need for hope, because all is as it should be, and tough times are understood to be part of the re-balancing and healing processes of life. We can embrace our inner-light and re-ignite our wisdom, therefore giving way for a more profound understanding of difficult situations.

  7. It’s great to look more closely at these words we use .. faith hope and charity and feel into what they are really conveying

  8. Hope keeps us hanging on to an illusion rather than facing facts where we can make informed decisions about how we would like to pass over, and we get the opportunity to look at the choices that led us there.

  9. This is a great subject to bring up as the other day I heard some news that a guy I knew from my school days had been diagnosed with cancer and my immediate reaction was oh I hope it’s not terminal or I hope he can beat it and then this blog sprung to mind, which definitely got me thinking about it in a different way.

  10. It’s great to look more closely at these words faith hope and charity and feel into what they are really conveying.

  11. ‘We miss the opportunity to heal the root cause that this illness is presenting.’ And in doing this we give up to ‘hope’ in a particular favourable outcome from the illness or situation. We do this resigned to the fact that it will be determined by the situation itself and that it came about by a set of circumstances beyond our control, however the opposite is true. We create the circumstances and the resulting outcome and therefore can also change this path we are on and learn from it all through our choices. Hope = zero responsibility.

  12. We can become lost when we have an expectation of how life should be, so it follows that hoping for something is part of that expectation or picture we hold.

  13. When my mother died many years ago, hope was everything for me. It seemingly helped me to cope with the very sudden situation. And I agree, everyone would say, what a positive way to go with the dramatic circumstances. But it wasn´t – instead it was a perfect way to not feel. To not allow vulnerability, to hide behind a movement that sells me “good” feelings but no true feelings.

  14. What a brilliant article Fiona: ‘Like a magician’s trick, hope distracted them, drawing their attention away from what was really taking place before their eyes’. Hope is exactly a magician trick of distraction! And from the start we are all programmed to see hope as a ‘good thing’ but as you have so astutely pointed out, hope is exactly the opposite of true good, even though it appears ‘good’. Our whole race has been traced by the ‘good’ which is not true good, but just an appearance of it – a conjuring trick.

  15. After reading this article, what came to me was the following question: When people are hoping for something to change, say with their diagnosis of a terminal illness as described in this blog, just what or who are they waiting on to make this change. Obviously this brings to light people’s faith in a higher power supporting and healing them in a miraculous way. But what if that higher power or God is using that illness or disease as a clearing of energy that does not belong to the body and an opportunity for that person to look deeper into the choices they have made that lead to the accumulation of that energy to the point that it eventually manifested in a terminal illness? If viewed in this way, the disease is actually a blessing, not a curse.

  16. ‘Hope’ is a part of what has been revealed to humanity as the destructive, deceiving ‘ good illusion’. Many years ago when I first came up north, I remember in a healing session Serge Benhayon asking me what I experienced when playing a particular piece of music on the piano and I said I could feel in the music the rumblings of war and then sections when it was lifted by hope. He pointed out to me the illusory nature of hope and this was particularly clear to me . . . and I asked ‘Is that like people thinking that you can have paradise on earth?’ and he confirmed that.

  17. Throughout my life I have never seen anyone truly helped by giving them hope. All it does is assist them to deny what they in fact know and feel.

  18. There is little hope in us changing our future circumstances unless we address our ill choices that were not made in a quality of love.

  19. This is one of the most important blogs written Fiona. Hope forms such a pillar of the good illusion which is one of the main obstacles to humanity ever leaving its reduced plane of ‘existence’ and evolving with The Livingness – a way of life based on Love not hope.

  20. “When I looked at the definition of hope, it spoke of having an expectation or desire for something to happen or wishing for a positive outcome.” for me when I had ‘hope’ as part of my life it meant that I was not willing to take the various steps that I knew, to make different choices but instead I would continue doing the same but hoping things would change. Very dangerous when I look back on it!

    1. So true DN. I too spent much of my life hoping that something would change to ‘suit me’, rather than making different choices for myself that would then initiate changes to support me and everyone else. When life is lived from this perspective, it is literally amazing what can open up for us, and very quickly reveals and exposes the true ‘evil of hope’.

      1. Yes Sandra and DN, hope can be an arguing with or denial of reality that is enormously draining of energy and a total distraction from being present with the choices of the moment. This reminds me of younger days playing a card game where I learned how stagnant it felt to wait for a certain card to come up on the table rather than get on with my deck, turning the cards over two at a time and getting on with playing my hand and all the other opportunities that can then come my way. Hope can paralyse us from moving forward and living the truth that is unfolding.

  21. Yes ‘hope’ certainly belongs to the world of our own creation and not to God’s. It belongs to the world of ‘comfort’ and ‘kind’ wishes for people to get better when the most spectacular and amazing clearing may be occurring which will bring a ‘clean slate’ for the person to begin living and moving in the Field of God again. This is not to say that we don’t do everything within our capability to support and love that person through the difficulty – whatever that may be.

  22. Wow this really is a very well written article, such an easy read, straight to the point and loaded with real life experience and the truth of the matter – that hope is a poison and one so many of us have drank far too readily.

  23. Certainly as a fellow healthcare worker it has also been my experience to see the enormous freedom that acceptance of one’s situation – no matter how grave – can bring, rather than be in the delay, distraction and battles of trying to change things that simply have gone too far. Then, as you say, the focus can be applied to what is now important with that new awareness.

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