The Evil of Hope

by Fiona Lotherington, Registered Nurse and Complementary Health Practitioner, Northern NSW. 

You may think that the word evil is extreme when describing the effect of hope. Yet I define evil as anything that holds back our growth and development and anything which perpetuates the separation from the truth of who we are or which delays the healing needed to return to our essence. Defined in this way, evil and hope are perfect bedfellows.

I was recently listening to a friend talk about his experience with his partner who had died many years ago from breast cancer. As he shared the details of the events around her illness and eventual death, the word ‘hope’ came up several times. Each time I heard this word, I experienced a growing sense of dis-ease, as I became aware of what a detrimental role hope had played in her illness and death.

For a moment this surprised me, as hope is normally considered to be a virtue. Like a warm coat in winter, it is used to comfort ourselves or other people when we are ‘down on our luck’. It is common to hear people say, “I hope you get better soon” or “don’t give up hope” and consider this a kindness. We give generously to charities dedicated to researching medical conditions, in the hope that a cure will be discovered.

When I looked at the definition of hope, it spoke of having an expectation or desire for something to happen or wishing for a positive outcome. Reading these words confirmed for me the evil of hope and how it could wreak such havoc in our lives.

In the case of my friend and his partner, the hope they clung to prevented them from accepting the diagnosis or the reality of the rapidly growing breast cancer.  The searching and hoping kept them focused in the future, believing they would eventually find a cure. But in reality, this chase was a distraction from dealing with the severity and urgency of the situation. Like a magician’s trick, hope distracted them, drawing their attention away from what was really taking place before their eyes.

Hope allows us to stay stuck in a loop, repeating patterns and cementing beliefs that do not heal the root cause of our illness. In hoping that ‘something’ will change, we avoid taking responsibility for these patterns we are stuck in. Instead we place our hopes outside of us and wait for the elusive cure, the great healer or the latest treatment. This outward focus means that we never look inside to see what this illness means for us or the part we have played in it. We miss the opportunity to heal the root cause that this illness is presenting.

In the end, hope leaves us surprised and completely unprepared when the reality of dying inevitably hits home.  All the denial, all the hope is revealed for what it is; illusion and delay. Suddenly with only days left, my friend and his partner were met with everything they had avoided facing. Hope had prevented them from using the precious time leading up to her death to heal and prepare for her passing.

As a nurse and friend, I have seen that there is so much to be healed and gained through the palliative care process, not only for the person who is dying but everyone around them.  Surrendering to and taking responsibility for the process, supports the looking at, dealing with and healing of old patterns, deepening of relationships and completing anything left outstanding from this life.  In this way, we are released from these impediments and left free to move on.

What better way to prepare for our next life?

Read more:

  1. What is Evil? 
  2. The way we are living is killing us.
  3. What if reincarnation is true? 

 

 

837 thoughts on “The Evil of Hope

  1. Sometimes I meet with very elderly people, who are very ill. And often I hear them say that they do not want any more medical intervention, that they are grateful for having lived for so long, and now they want to be allowed to pass over, and quite often I hear them say that they do not want to be a burden on their family anymore. And while this is sad, I also hear in their words not a giving up or a lack of purpose, but rather that they have accepted that their time in this life has come to an end and there is no longer any need for hope, for they are ready to depart and to let the next story begin. It is very beautiful.

  2. “When I looked at the definition of hope, it spoke of having an expectation or desire for something to happen or wishing for a positive outcome. Reading these words confirmed for me the evil of hope and how it could wreak such havoc in our lives.” Yes, and I wonder how many of us rely on hope in our everyday and then have to deal with the fall out of those expectations not being met? And how much time and energy is given to the falsity of what hope offers?

  3. Anything that stops us being present, that takes us out of ourselves, that encourages us to live in a mental construct, or to anticipate such a construct rather than actually experiencing what is happening now can truly be classified as destructive and evil.

  4. Hope is just a giving -up-ness, not taking responsibility for what is going on in your life. It is so much more empowering to just get on with it, do the best you can, and listen to the message that is being delivered to you from Heaven.

  5. Hope is an excuse for abdicating responsibility and as such can definitely be defined as evil. Thank you for exposing this truth.

  6. I had the realisation a few months ago that hope isn’t real, it doesn’t exist. It’s an expectation of what could happen, not what will happen. So, by having hope I would be setting myself up to fail. By being matter of fact about something I remove this expectation and emotion to deal with the issue at hand.

  7. I agree with your definition of evil, and can feel how it affects the choices I would be making. Anything that stands in the way of truth, for me that is evil. But when we take the reality of this world as the truth and not the house of lies that it really is, it is understandable the harshness of the reality is too much for so many that numbing and distraction, and hope, are what get us going.

  8. Thank you for writing about this Fiona, it is an important topic that I find is rarely discussed with this level of honesty. This line is a cracker – “Like a magician’s trick, hope distracted them, drawing their attention away from what was really taking place before their eyes.”. I have fallen for this one many a time, and it has robbed me of time and energy as well.

  9. “Like a magician’s trick, hope distracted them, drawing their attention away from what was really taking place before their eyes”. At the time it seems like an innocent choice to focus on hope rather than the reality. However, I am finding how deliberate the focus on hope can be, so that I don’t need to act or change and can stay in the comfort of what is familiar and known.

  10. I am sure that most would feel “that the word evil is extreme when describing the effect of hope.”, but I for one have come to understand the truth of it; how hope keeps you locked in a place where there is no possibility of moving forward in life. In fact, the effects of hope can be so very harming to our body, to our vitality and to our full presence in life, and without our presence in life there can be no possibility of the healing we are hoping for.

  11. I agree totally Fiona as I know someone personally, with a chronic illness, who has lived in hope for many years that someone or something outside of themselves will appear with the magic cure, and by doing so is relinquishing any responsibilty for, or any recognition of their part in the illness, and in continuing with this ‘hope’ from what I have observed, nothing will change.

  12. Choosing hope over truth denies us the opportunity of reflecting and appreciating all that we are offered and preparing for whatever is next.

  13. Having spent much of my time putting my energy into hope, I have come to realise that this is just a waste of time and energy as hope only delays us facing up to the reality of so many different situations.

  14. The phrase “don’t give up hope” is actually keeping us in the illusion that we need to hope for better instead of knowing we can change our lives truly if we start to make different choices. Whilst hope keeps us in the possibility but never the true reality of change.

  15. “I define evil as anything that holds back our growth and development and anything which perpetuates the separation from the truth of who we are or which delays the healing needed to return to our essence. Defined in this way, evil and hope are perfect bedfellows.” But what terrible bedfellows they are – ones that eat at our core if we let them.

  16. Hope is a small example of ‘Evil’ and the power of distraction from the truth of who we are, what we have to bring and the purpose of our livingness. I too, have observed ‘Hope’ play out in terminal illness and the devastation at the end. It also plays out in everyday life where we are always in the future living pictures that block the essence of love we are and the true connection that can be lived in the moment. This blog is very powerful and needs to be shared.

  17. In anything that we do we act as a role model for customers as well as other colleagues, and in our chosen field there is an extra opportunity for us to practice utmost integrity and mastery relating to that field. An accountant who has their own masterful relationship with money and is forever learning and developing this is a true financial consultant for example.

  18. “Each time I heard this word, I experienced a growing sense of dis-ease, as I became aware of what a detrimental role hope had played in her illness and death.” When we cling onto hope we not only give our power away, we live with disharmony in our body, which eventually comes out of the body in a form of illness and disease. When we accept rather than hope we maintain the harmony within.

  19. Hope, looked at through the lenses of honesty and responsibility, is a detraction from reality and the facts of life, as it is a barrier to what is on offer in the form of true healing.

  20. As a society we do need to redefine the meaning of evil, as it is currently saved only for events and actions that are grossly and obviously blatant. However, in redefining evil we are called to accept our responsibility for allowing the force of evil to be as dominant as it is today. For in-truth evil is anything that attempts to interfere with our connection to our love within and our evolution as a humanity. It is the subtleties of evil that keep us ignorant and disconnected from our true potential, from living with responsibility and in fact evil is evil, none greater or lesser in its activity. And so, as you have beautifully presented ‘hope’ is a classic example of how evil interferes and circulates, mostly going unnoticed yet completely ignoring our opportunity to truly heal, to let go our ill-momentums and deepen our relationship with our love, our Soul and each other, as such hindering our opportunity to evolve.

  21. Hope takes away from us an experience of death as a connection to the soul and has us searching outside of ourselves for a cure; leaving us unprepared for the next stage of our evolution.

  22. Before I met Serge Benhayon hope was a positive value for me. In looking back I used hope in situations to avoid feeling and not letting things drop deep to reflect on them. How much we are cutting us off the universe and disregarding that there is a much bigger plan behind everything. Knowing that everything that happens I do constellate and that I have to carry the responsibility for every action and re-action.

  23. Hope is a disconnection to our body. It caps the access to the actual wisdom that comes from our body and instead feeds the mind and keeps it busy with distractions and solutions.

  24. A great expose on the illusion that hope is, a complete distraction from not wanting to take responsibility for ourselves, to face the choices we have made and the part we played, living to a picture of how we want an outcome to be and missing the truth and learning that is offered to grow and evolve from in preparation for what is to come.

  25. Hope is considered to be such a virtue, that to consider it as a holder back of truth can be a challenge, but as you have exposed it so eloquently the truth of what you share can’t be denied.

  26. For me, hope feels like a barrier in the way of feeling and accepting of the truth. There’s no acceptance of the reality but the focus on what could possibly happen, if something else happens and so on. By accepting the truth of where we are right now, we take the responsibility of what comes next and within it the opportunity to begin to heal the issue, whatever the outcome may turn out to be.

  27. In hope we are blinded from the reality that is surrounding us, our vision is blurred with what we want life to be and we get disconnected from the now.

  28. Hope does not ask us to engage with the situation and attend to our portion or business that we were instrumental in.

  29. If we don’t accept how things are, how can expect to connect and be real? If we want everything to change, isn’t there something we are missing? For everything here, is as it is, for a specific reason.

  30. When you put hope in this context I can see how disempowering it is in that we place all our focus on something outside of us that we hope or assume is going to come and rescue us rather than looking at our part in what is happening.

  31. There is nothing more glorious than this moment right now lived with all of our love. Being drawn into future changes that may come, just shows us we have neglected our heart.

  32. Hope seems like a life jacket to buoy you in turbulent seas but in reality it’s like a lead weight anchor tied to your feet. It indulges a perpetual game of attachment to events and judgement. It has us sailing after golden shores when the spot we’re at right now has everything we need to thrive.

    1. Hope leaves us in the what if? that brings with it levels of tension and a myriad of pictures and ideals of what life should be like. A tension that eats away the fabric of a being – evil no doubt in the game that is being played here!

  33. This is great. When we make it all about evolution, it just exposes how our values are really upside down. I can feel how hope is really a forward projection of an image that does not bear resonance with the reality of what is actually taking place therefore acts as a distraction.

    1. It is very true Michael – and when we begin to address the subtleties of the evils we accept in our lives and allow to move through us, the evils of hope and such others will no longer have space to exist and circulate.

  34. Fiona what you have written here is so true
    “I define evil as anything that holds back our growth and development and anything which perpetuates the separation from the truth of who we are or which delays the healing needed to return to our essence.”
    I do get a sense of something that actively engages with us to stop and keep us all locked down in the separation to the truth of who we are and what we are here to do.

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