The Body Doesn’t Lie – Being Diagnosed with Osteoporosis

By Inmaculada Cobo Soler, Spain. 

Three years ago, I was diagnosed with very advanced osteoporosis, which led me to enquire honestly about the relationship I had with my body.

I come from a family which fundamentally values two things: a person’s capacity to accomplish great academic achievements or, in the case of not having higher education, the ability to be acclaimed by a natural intelligence and work capacity. The body was a mere instrument to this end, and it could be subjected to sleepless days and nights if needed, sustaining itself with the help of coffee like my father did or, as I used to do, living off my nervous system.

After finishing my higher education and starting work, I did what I thought was taking care of my health by doing road cycling and running half-marathons. Also in the name of health I dedicated many years of my life to learn and practise different kinds of nutrition.

The common denominator of this path has been my body being tyrannised by the demands and wishes of my mind. From the moment I decided what I wanted to do with my body, and left no room for feeling and listening to what my body actually needed, what was supposed to be “healthy” stands as an external imposition, based on ideals and beliefs, and therefore becomes unhealthy.

It is paradoxical to witness how many different ways of caring for our bodies are offered to us nowadays and at the same time we see how illnesses proliferate.

Being diagnosed with osteoporosis

My first reaction when I was diagnosed with osteoporosis was disbelief and anger. Anger at having believed that all the time that I had dedicated to apparently taking care of myself was supposed to be a guarantee to avoid illness. Then, after I calmed down and became aware of the extreme frailty of my bones, I felt very sad and vulnerable.

Up to that time I had hardly used any medication, and suddenly I was facing this new, overwhelming situation. I needed to choose between different treatments, all of which had such potential side effects that I could be left facing even more illnesses.

Whenever the doctors talked about the state my body was in, I felt like it was foreign to me. Even though it seems absurd, I felt betrayed by my body. I connected with a lot of fear, distrusting myself, and with the temptation of playing the victim, hence burdening others with my illness and my doubts.

Establishing a new relationship with my body

I chose not to be a victim. I had to assume that my body was a stranger to me, that I needed to get to know. Little by little, without pushing myself or despairing, I’m establishing a new relationship with it, and with myself, as a result. It is the clearest mirror I have to look at myself.

My bones are regaining mass bit by bit. I don’t know how well they will evolve in the future. What I do know, however, is that my relationship with osteoporosis is a living experience from which I am learning. The first thing it produced was a great dose of humility, for it placed me where I was energetically, instead of where my mind thought I was. Meeting Serge Benhayon helped me achieve this. Opening myself to his esoteric reading of every organ, tissue and to the consciousness that was in each forgotten area of my body, allowed me to embrace the fact that each illness has a deep root that transcends the merely physiological reality.

When I asked him about osteoporosis, he told me that energetically osteoporosis is related to long term deep disregard and that healing requires full regard for myself with deep self-worth, care and nurturing. These were things I could work on myself as well as taking the advice of the medical doctors to treat my condition.

It took me a long time to realise that THE BODY DOESN’T LIE, that only our mind is capable of creating a mirage, which can make it look like I’m being ever more careful with myself, whilst I may be hiding a deep lack of acceptance and cherishing of my own self.

I have learned that we cannot deceive our body, for it only responds to love. The fact is that I had only taken just enough care of it for it to be useful to me, but I had not deeply respected it. This means that I had demanded too much of it, that I had at times abandoned it.

I have learned also that wisdom is truly wisdom if it stems from the body, and that this is only possible when there is an intimate, sensitive and loving listening to it.

It has been humbling to learn that my body never lies…. and it is thanks to Serge Benhayon that I have been inspired to develop an ever-deepening and loving relationship with myself and my body so that I can hear and heed its messages.

Read more:

  1. Osteoporosis and a lifetime of dairy consumption 
  2. Learning the meaning of osteoporosis
  3. Osteoporosis – how could this happen to me? 

312 thoughts on “The Body Doesn’t Lie – Being Diagnosed with Osteoporosis

  1. Thank you Inmaculada , what you have shared is amazing in the fact that it takes full responsibility back to ourselves and the spherical bigger picture of life as matter and all because of energy. Something that can be missed at times by modern medicine as wonderful and helpful as it is, there is always a solution being looked for instead of the understanding that you share in relation to how one lives.

  2. It is so true that the body never lies, it is actually constantly communicating with us, ever giving us opportunities to heal, and amazingly even after years of the disregard if we then choose to take steps to be more attentive to our bodies needs our bodies will lovingly do their best to bring our organs and tissues back to harmony and health.

  3. Interesting here how you switched from the obvious abusive lifestyle behaviours of not enough sleep etc to more so called ‘healthy’ behaviours like exercise and yet your body still felt under pressure and unwell because in both cases the lifestyle choices were coming from information outside of you rather than from truly connecting with and listening to your body and making adjustments from the inside out.

  4. At the end of every minute there’s a quality, at the end of every day there’s a quality, after all the dramas subside and memories fade, at the end of every life there’s a quality. And while our physical body dies we will absolutely return, to the very same quality and begin again. So does it not make sense to make every day about deepening how we live?

  5. I agree, wisdom from those who live that wisdom has a huge impact, as does an article like this, I get the sense of deep learning and openness to what is presented in life and a willingness to make your body your best friend and something worth caring for – this is monumental concerning our health and wellbeing, a powerful to reflection to ponder.

  6. I have had a couple of conversations lately, where it has been noted that people they knew with dementia were extremely intelligent. This made me consider what the connection is and this blog reinforces what I had come to. As the writer shares, with a strong focus on the ‘intelligence’ generally valued in society, “the body was a mere instrument to this end, and it could be subjected to sleepless days and nights if needed, sustaining itself with the help of coffee like my father did or, as I used to do, living off my nervous system”. It is when the mind is given full priority at the expense of being present and respectful of the body that harm occurs to our health.

  7. One of the points to consider that we may be perfectly organised in our life and even have a good figure but still be in deep disregard.

  8. I agree with you it is very humbling to know the body never lies, I didn’t want my body for most of my life because of the pain and illness it had but now this has completely changed and I appreciate everything it shows me as it guides me in deepening living a loving life.

  9. A beautiful sharing and very inspiring for the body does not lie and the importance of our love and caring for it listening to the messages and guides it gives us . Pure magic yet disregarded so often. “I have learned that we cannot deceive our body, for it only responds to love.” a great refection .

  10. This is so true and something that sticks in the throat of many of us….”THE BODY DOESN’T LIE, that only our mind is capable of creating a mirage, which can make it look like I’m being ever more careful with myself, whilst I may be hiding a deep lack of acceptance and cherishing of my own self.” Do we want to be honest that our bodies reflect every choice we have made? Is it worth exploring with out a doubt – YES.

  11. Because we have allowed a great divide to happen between religion and science, we have reduced the body to a mere machine that at best can only function, rather than revere it as a temple through which we can express a much higher truth.

  12. Yes our body does not lie and also it is not just about caring for it so it can keep going. I have been feeling very exhausted lately and not until it was said to me by an esoteric practitioner that my vitality was not great I really started to be honest with myself. What I noticed was that every time when I was tired I would go for some nuts or something alike so I would feel a bit better and could function – but it would not solve my exhaustion. I am now learning to respond differently and instead of eating I really stop, do not push through and be with myself lovingly so to understand what makes me so tired in the first place and avoid going into overwhelm. I go for a walk or do some exercises and this feels totally different. So yes our body does not lie and this is a true blessing as it offers us to choose another way.

  13. We have been following the wrong things for so long it can be a shock when we are brought back to the truth of the matter in this way however what an amazing thing that our body can not only do this but also offer us the opportunity to heal the situation and in understanding it learn to not repeat the choices which have been harmful in the first instance.

  14. When we start to look at the energetic cause of the illness our body exposes by our ill way of Living it is not always easy to realise that the way we lived created the disharmony And that the only way to truly heal is to make different choices but it is very much worth while. This way we re-build our relationship with ourselves.
    And if we need medication it just works much better as we work together as a whole to heal.

  15. I love how the body is a living barometer of life. Through symptoms, feelings, and medical tests etc we get the whole picture of the way we have been living. I have to say I find this really really interesting – in understanding the ’cause and effect’ of the way we are living, and understanding that this is a microcosm to the way we live on this planet.

  16. The body doesn’t lie! How amazing is this. It means we have a best friend on whom we can trust. It’s totally worth building a relationship with our body like we would with a best friend.

  17. Our bones are such an incredibly responsive part of our bodies that show us quite literally how nothing in life is set in stone. We can, if we choose, deeply alter the course of our lives when we embrace the love we are and begin to live in accordance with this immutable truth.

  18. “THE BODY DOESN’T LIE, that only our mind is capable of creating a mirage” – This is important as we shouldn’t get frustrated with or ‘shoot the messenger’, i.e. become angry that our body has failed us, but instead appreciate that it DOES show us a reflection of our choices while our mind/thoughts have actually justified a certain way of living that may have been slowly damaging our body and health.

  19. The body sure is intelligent and I think what is needed in society is for us to really listen to what our body is communicating with us. As an example, when we drink alcohol we know what our body is telling us but many choose to ignore it and keep on doing this bad habit. Same with many other physical ailments, we don’t really listen but I think eventually we have to because it costs way too much both money-wise and for us as humans to ignore the greatest physician which is our very own body.

  20. “energetically osteoporosis is related to long term deep disregard and that healing requires full regard for myself with deep self-worth, care and nurturing. These were things I could work on myself as well as taking the advice of the medical doctors to treat my condition…” Having the awareness and understanding the energetic cause of a dis-ease of the body in combination with conventional medicine takes the opportunity for deep healing to another level.

  21. Whilst it can be seen as an unwanted friend, our bodies truly do always have our backs – they are like those friends who never hold back, never sugar coat or beat around the bush but just tell you it like it is. When you abuse and push and drive, your body will let you know sooner or later.

  22. Sickness makes us humble, if we allow so. It shows very tangible, that we cannot rob our body endlessly. Beautiful how you took the chance and connect whatever Western Medicine is recommending with the therapies of Universal Medicine. Only then an all encompassing true healing can occur.

  23. ‘energetically osteoporosis is related to long term deep disregard and that healing requires full regard for myself with deep self-worth, care and nurturing.’ This is a lesson for many of us who have been living in a way that dis-honours our bodies, true, deep self care is not just having a nice bath every now and then, it involves us appreciating ourselves in full, never criticising, always moving with tenderness and loving who we are 24/7.

    1. The more depth that I bring to my self-care, the more I am able to understand and feel the level of disregard that I lived with. In fact the word ‘disregard’ no longer feels applicable, as it does not actually convey the level of harm that I did to myself. Let’s not mince words here, what I did to my body was out and out wanton abuse.

  24. Coming to terms with where we really are at versus what our mind might suggest or deny or bury is truly a very sobering moment. It can be made much easier to accept where we are at when we can be honest with ourselves.

  25. “The fact is that I had only taken just enough care of it for it to be useful to me, but I had not deeply respected it” This is the one to watch, we can become complacent about our bodies, take risks with it, if it isn’t shouting at us we assume all is well. This has to change and the way is to deeply nurture and care for ourselves everyday, and not just when we become ill.

  26. My body had to scream at me too, Inmaculada before I listened, but great that we are listening now. Getting this message out to others that we can connect and listen to the body’s messages on a daily basis is great service to everyone. The head is such a fibber.

  27. ‘I have learned that we cannot deceive our body, for it only responds to love’ if we really felt what we were doing to our bodies then we would know that it wasn’t in the name of care or love for the body and our being.

  28. “I have been inspired to develop an ever-deepening and loving relationship with myself and my body so that I can hear and heed its messages.” We absolutely need your reflection of this Inmacculada it will inspire many more. Thank you for valuing yourself as you do, and deepening that.

  29. “From the moment I decided what I wanted to do with my body, and left no room for feeling and listening to what my body actually needed, what was supposed to be “healthy” stands as an external imposition, based on ideals and beliefs, and therefore becomes unhealthy.” It is such a false belief that mind over matter is the solution to problems.

  30. Our bodies are amazingly adaptable! We have spare parts; kidneys, lungs eyes and ears. It can reconfigure itself with less. Accidents or self-abuse can leave us with less, but the body adapts. So, what can we do when we take care of ourselves and naturally wear out everything at the same time?

  31. “My first reaction when I was diagnosed with osteoporosis was disbelief and anger…” When we receive a diagnosis, the confronting thing is how it highlights the consequences of what type of relationship we have had with our body.

  32. It’s a wonderful sharing here that its never too late to start to turn things around for our bodies and see how much recovery can be made.

    1. Isn´t it almost non imaginable- we treat our bodies for decades in a way, we would never treat a newborn, for example, but it still recovers after so many years. It shows how divine our vehicle innately is and that it is so much grander than any driven, harmful energy. The moment we stop feeding the body with destructive energy, everything blossoms- as it eventually can align to where its particles are made of- the universe.

    2. Exactly anything is possible and everything is possible its just our choice that the sooner we start to build love the less un-love we have to let go of.

  33. Well I can certainly relate to my body being tyrannised by the demands and wishes of my mind – half a lifetime’s worth really – but now my body is being treated in a much more loving way and guess what I am more truly productive than ever.

  34. It is a big shift in our understanding of medicine and life to stop seeing the body as something subordinate or secondary to the mind and that it is just there to carry the mind around from A to B. What if the body and its particles actually held the key to connection with an intelligence that is far grander and wiser to the mind and can actually support our health and wellbeing?

  35. I am in constant awe of how easily our bodies can come back from major illness when given the correct care, nurture and love. It proves time and again how Love is our truest medicine.

  36. “My bones are regaining mass bit by bit…….. What I do know, however, is that my relationship with osteoporosis is a living experience from which I am learning.” Choosing to learn from any illness gives us a true opportunity to deeply heal. Our bodies tell us what’s really going on for us.

  37. If I have a cold or flu or injure myself in some small way I consider these as messages from my body and listen to the wisdom of the body.

    1. Yes – I agree, love letters from the body – which the body is always giving us 24/7 but how much do we listen, and appreciate what the body is saying?

    2. Indeed its not if we get sick that really counts but if we listen to, read and reflect on what the body is showing us. Then we get to heal whatever it may be.

  38. In conversation with women recently, I observed how all of them placed mental intelligence and academic achievement as markers of success for their children. Body intelligence was not even mentioned.

    1. Reading your comment kehinde2012 I see how crucial it is to have built into our way of raising children the understanding that keeps them feeling from their bodies, something they do so naturally. It will take a system overhaul, but is absolutely necessary if we are going to have any change in the way our young grow up – to be the adults that bring in the children, that grow up – to be the adults that bring in the children….

  39. This is a great example of taking the advice which is widely available to stay fit and healthy and yet still end up with a health condition. Then when we dig a little deeper, we can find disregard even with the best intentions.

  40. How many of us are ruled by our minds at the expense of our bodies? Do we really think our bodies like pounding the pavement and other so-called fitness regimes, true care of oneself comes from feeling what is needed first.

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