by Fiona McGovern
Last week as I sat in the over-full waiting room for my oncology appointment, a woman passed me by handing out questionnaires on the chemotherapy and cancer services in our local health board area. I asked if I could have one and she apologised as she had not recognised me as a cancer patient. She explained that the number of cancer patients was predicted to rise by 9% in the next few years and the services could not cope as they are at present, so the questionnaire was to establish where their resources should be spent in order to best cope.
I pondered on how best to answer the questions. I felt supported by the present system but knew too well that some basic questions were not being asked: why do so many women have breast cancer? How are women living that creates such an illness in their bodies? How can we educate and support our young girls to be, so that breast cancer is not inevitable for them?
I looked around and observed my fellow patients: there were women of all sizes, from all backgrounds, most with children, some like me with none. There were those who dressed elegantly, some sexily, some plainly, some were chatty, others kept themselves to themselves.
What then linked us?
When I have chatted to them many have questioned why it is happening and most will then find an answer in the environmental pollution around here, the nuclear fallout from Chernobyl. None buy the genetic explanation, many have experienced bereavement or family fallouts, a few will say as women we are under too much stress to be perfect at all things…. as yet I have not met one who will take responsibility for the life and choices they have made to date, although they all nod when I say I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.
I took a deeper look at the eyes of the women and I saw fear, anxiousness, a bewilderment, a shutting down, a giving up; they said “let’s just get this over with and return to how we were.”
What links us – we are all women.
But do we know what being a true woman means?
I know that before the chemotherapy and the esoteric healing I had no idea what being a woman truly meant. I looked outside for an answer on how to be a woman. With the healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.
How different the ward would feel if all the patients and staff knew that the healing lay in this reconnection.
So is the marriage of Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine the way the health services can address the ever-rising numbers of women with breast cancer? I feel it is the only way.
It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.
Medicine and Serge Benhayon 
I couldn’t agree with you more that the ‘healing…comes from inside from reconnecting to the beauty’ and ‘that the healing lay in this reconnection’. When we connect to this reconnection, then many other things happen, we become more than what we appear to be. We become someone who is here for some others, in other words everybody.
In that asking – what it is to be something that we already are – we can easily set ourselves up to disempower ourselves by seeking an answer outside us. When we do know we are already that – regardless of whether we live it, or to what extent etc., and all it takes is to reconnect and surrender to what is actually most natural to us, it completely voids our assumed position of not knowing and feeling lost.
Fumiyo, this is very common, we seek answers outside ourselves and yet deep down inside of us, we all have the answers if we just allowed, and trusted ourselves.
This is a great question posed by Fiona, and a great reminder that cancer is non discriminatory and that we probably all know someone who has been affected by cancer, for every one diagnosis there will be many others that are also affected by that diagnosis.
Cancer is definitely on the increase and what was once occasionally talked about it is now an everyday occurrence, and a great reminder of how important it is to self-care and to honour ourselves as women without any compromise.
It’s a powerful image of women of all different shapes and sizes sat in a waiting room waiting to be treated for breast cancer, to me it shows that no one is exempt and that our day to day choices are so incredibly precious.
Great and wise questions asked Fiona. Noticing that this was written over 5 years ago and today the rate of women falling ill with breast cancer in still increasing. The answers are available for us to understand how not only it is that we become ill but also how we can heal ourselves in the true sense of the word, and not just a band aide or a diminishing of the symptoms yet leaving the root cause of illness still active. Esoteric Medicine offers a way that the answers as to why we fall ill can be explored and understood, one that is complementary to Western Medicine, which together have a profound impact in arresting illness and offering the opportunity to truly and deeply heal the body and being from within.
We could say that our way of living leads to cancer, but before that our way of living disconnects us from the love and beauty we innately are within. We have no idea how precious we are nor the way we could lovingly care for and nurture ourselves everyday.
This is so beautiful to feel – a radiance, warmth and total embrace of one’s self: the choice to live like this is available to us all, at any time, and embracing and enjoying the fact that nothing is of greater value.
‘…although they all nod when I say I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.’ Maybe we could reflect on the possibility of this common link that seems to be between women with this condition and, apart from the medical attention they receive, take this into consideration as a way to prevent and support the treatment of it. What you show here Fiona is that invaluable as it offers another way to approach this condition and the possibility of making other choices to not arrive to that point.
These are such important questions that you have asked here. I especially admire the one about how we should perhaps begin to consider how to educate our young girls so they may grow up not with breast cancer as an inevitable condition.
I love your inquisition here… could there be more that links us? If 50 women have breast cancer then what if that’s 50 women who have denied what it means to be a woman, all we would need is for one woman to start claiming back her sweetness, start deeply nurturing for the other 49 women to be inspired to also make that same move back to themselves.
Feeling supported – I am beginning to wonder if this entirely depends on the system that provides the support. The fact that you did not even look like a cancer patient sitting amongst other patients at hospital gives much away already. There is a part we have to accept as our own responsibility and contribute to our own healing.
On seeing Fiona for the first time, I was totally drawn to connect with this sparkling, bright eyed, joyful woman before me. I only learnt she had cancer after we had been speaking for a while.
What a joy to meet a woman so deeply living from her inner radiance.
“With the healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance”.
There are some who slam Universal Medicine by saying it blames people for being sick which would be the natural response from those who want to deny (mostly to themselves) the responsibility and the power we have for and over our own health and wellbeing. UM does not blame people for being sick in any way, in fact it is full of love and understanding, but it does encourage and support discovering the fact that what we choose, how we live, the quality in which we are with ourselves and others is a key ingredient to our well being. This is not blaming, it is empowering, as you so beautifully show by your own livingness with this illness Fiona.
Fiona reflects a connection here of a continued commitment to life, full of purpose to show that illness is not there for us to give into, but to surrender to the healing that is offered.
It is a great topic of discussion to consider how young girls are being raised and if they are being given the opportunity to know and experience that responsibility for oneself goes way beyond being able to function in life and how simply life can include self-nurturing and quality that need not ever be compromised and yet there can still be fulfilling careers, relationships and the kind of joy that goes beyond momentary glimpses of satisfaction.
Coming back to this beautiful blog I can feel how if we were open to connecting to each other as women and supporting each other to explore what it truly means to be a woman then the numbers of women filling the oncology waiting rooms would start to decrease as we not only took more responsibility for ourselves but also let go of the idealised pictures of how we should be in the world.
‘a woman reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be’ … and how great is it to read that and know that this is possible no matter what, that whatever life presents us with we can choose to be us in it and consider how we live and what can truly support us to just be ourselves.
“How are women living that creates such an illness in their bodies? ” This question is never addressed in the western medical model. It used to be all put down to your genes, but now there is more concentration on alcohol and food consumption – gestures towards lifestyle being implicated. But what if there was something much deeper – the way we regard and nurture ourselves – or not? Do we as women allow ourselves to be naturally who we truly are – and were as young ones?
It is very normal to hear women describe their roles as mother, wife and whatever job they happen to be in, without ever mentioning themselves as a woman. This omission is the heart of the problem. If we don’t even acknowledge and relate to our core being as women how can we connect to it? This self-forgetfulness feeds conditions and symptoms that may lead to cancers.
It’s quite tragic that a woman can go her whole life without truly knowing who she is as a woman, and by that I mean her amazing qualities, her tenderness, her delicateness, her ability to nurture. I think these moments like when we are diagnosed with breast cancer, or even just have a cold are great opportunities to rediscover the amazing things about ourselves that we may be missing out on.
‘ With the healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.’ I love this Fiona, when women reconnect to their Sacredness their beauty and wisdom has a powerful ripple affect that is felt far and wide.
What is being a true or real woman though? Let’s nut it out more now, together, Fiona has kick started the conversation with this stunning blog, I think it only fair to flesh it out, for God knows, if we had nailed this, the hospitals would not be as overwhelmed with this disease as they are. For me, being the true woman is bringing more awareness to the way I move, even if I am rushing or hard, just watching myself so at least I can feel it and then decide from there what I want, it is knowing I am enough, even if I get nothing done that day, it’s allowing my words to match my beauty, it is letting go of my muscles when I feel them tighten or harden. It’s remembering it’s okay to laugh and that I am not responsible for everyone else, all the time. It is remembering I am sexy without trying, it is knowing that I am nurturing by my quality and that I am love.
Fiona brings up a great subject here, personally for me I feel I made equality with men a big part of me, and now I understand that equality will only come through embracing myself fully as the woman I am first, and from there moving in a way that honours myself and everyone else too.
It is these little encounters that make all the difference, somebody very experienced not recognising that we are very ill for example that show just how different life can be.
“But do we know what being a true woman means?” No, I don’t feel we do, I know I didn’t before Esoteric Medicine gave me the insight and understanding that we need to live as a woman from our inner heart and not from the ideals of how we think we should be. Natalie Benhayon has been a rock solid example of what it means to be a woman, not from any ideals but from her own understanding of what it feels like in her body and what feels true for her. She is for me a constant inspiration and marker for me to live by as a woman.
I certainly did not know what being a true woman meant. If being a woman in this world is giving us cancer, we certainly need to look at the way we are being a woman.
Yes, that is what is happening to a third of all women and half of all men and we need to look.
“a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be” everything is being said with this line, as to me it states clearly that we already are everything we need or want, we only have to let all our ideals and beliefs of how life should be go and return to the way we were when born.
To return to the truth of our essence and fully embrace the innermost beauty, stillness and sacredness of the true women waiting patiently within us all equally so, is the greatest gift we can bring to ourselves and thus serve the all, by bring this quality to the world in full.
“With the healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance”.
What is remarkable about what is shared here is so few are indeed asking the questions, truly asking the questions of what is going on here, with so many women having breast cancer as but one example here. Many of us just want to battle on when we are faced with any illness or accident, but the truth is that we are offered a stop in these moments in a very clear and definitive way, and the question then becomes what do we do with it? Do we dig deep and look at how we live and make changes to more clearly support us or do we battle on, determined to get it over with so we can get back to how we were? Do we live the depth of the women we are, and do we see that each thing offered to us might in fact be allowing us to find our way to that, for some it will be cancer, for others something else. Are we willing to look underneath? Are we willing to change?
That the number of cancer patients in your area was predicted to rise by 9% in the next few years Fiona is alarming. And though it is very practical to ask all of the patients who are being cared for within the system at that present time to do a survey, I cannot but wonder if that survey was also considering the root cause of why so many people are getting cancer in the first place.
Magic, there is no judgment and pure love, thank you. The subject of what it means to be a woman truly is often avoided or over looked.
It is so gorgeous to read how esoteric medicine has empowered you to be yourself and find the woman within so that you can rejoice in the radiance of that. This is a rarity and yet would be transformational globally should others know of the healing that lay in the reconnection your have found from this. Currently we are suffering in the fall out of disconnection and the ill health world wide is a stark reflection of this.
True and deep healing comes from within and our willingness to be honest and take responsibility first and foremost and then conventional medicine can do what it does so well with much more efficacy and genuine support from the patient. The two work hand in hand then.
Allowing space in my body for the qualities of tenderness and delicateness, of purity and innocence, of sweetness and playfullness of sexiness and grace, of strength and power, all these and more , allowing them to surface from within rather than adopting their ways as we have been taught or told they should be. A new way of being that can start even way past menopause. A way of being that can be initiated whatever our state of health, even with a terminal illness. The marriage of Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine supports this return to living and being a true woman in the world.
In our search for what is the cause, what is responsible, what is to blame for the illness and dis-ease that we are experiencing within ourselves and in our bodies, we so often negate the possibility that we are the ones responsible for every part of the way our lives are lived. In being open to this possibility we begin to understand that our every choice shapes the quality in which our lives are lived, and that this is in essence a reflection of the degree of love within us that we are choosing to surrender to or be in union with.
I agree whole -heartedly with what you have shared here Carola with the way in which we negate how it is our choices that have lead to illness and disease in the first place. What I find interesting about this is how when people find out they have cancer they typically feel extremely helpless and ask “why me???” , as well as feeling powerless or giving up their power to the medical field completely. But the irony in this is that they are completely power-FULL all along and if they simply accepted that it was their lifestyle choices that got them there, they can make different choices to heal themselves. Quite empowering, indeed.
I’ve read many testimonials in regards to Cancer and the support Esoteric Healing can bring to those going through cancer treatments (or any other medical conditions) and there is a lot of anecdotal evidence that shows that these two can and do work beautifully together. The health systems don’t have all the answers, otherwise wouldn’t illness rates be dropping not rising? In my own experience and in those around me health rates are increasing and this wasn’t the case until Esoteric Medicine came into their lives.
There is so much that Western medicine can do and is doing for the rising numbers of women who present with breast cancer and most people would acknowledge this but how many of us have been fortunate enough to also allow Esoteric Medicine to be the other half of the healing marriage? I know how powerful this combination can be and it really does seem the only way we are gong to see a big shift in healing diseases of any kind.
Health services are already overwhelmed with the numbers presenting with breast cancer and other diseases where lifestyle choices are a causal factor. Until we are willing to address the part that we have played in becoming a disease statistic the numbers will continue to grow and our health services will be bankrupted. Fiona was so inspiring in how she approached her life through all her treatment and her legacy lives on in her writings and the understandings she shared about her journey with a lightness of touch and her ever present joy for life.
There are some great questions about and some great realisation around cancers. Just as a note I had to look up what oncology meant, I’d heard it plenty of times but never taken the time to actually acknowledge what it meant. Anyway we make some great discussions around cancers, great research and the list goes on. But with respect if we are still rising then we need to look bigger and wider. Something we are all doing to ourselves, because we are all on this planet living together is literally killing us off. I know if there was a particular part of the world people visited that killed them in the proportions cancer did we would not visit this area at all and it would be off limits to everyone and besides the keep out signs we would be actively stopping people to go there. Yet we have smoking for instance and it becomes ‘their’ choice which is true in part but why do we just stand by? I am not saying we need to tackle every person that tries to smoke but what else can we do to support them. Can we change them or do we need to make changes ourselves in such a consistent way that no one on the planet would ever dream of hurting themselves or another. This is the link, if as a world we are rising illness and disease at these rates then not only are we all responsible but we need to action ‘our’ part now. Not only to stop the rise but to truly support people.
What a joy it was to meet Fiona McGovern a few years back – there was a quality in her eyes that was irresistible and drew me from across a room to see and speak with her. A beautiful woman living from her truth.
“It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be”.
“let’s just get this over with and return to how we were.” Thank you. I was at a meeting yesterday where there was very much a ‘let’s get this over with’ attitude and now I am wondering where that came from. Is there a desire to move on or to go back to where we were? It certainly feels like a kind of giving up, as if we are tired and don’t want to really engage fully with the situation but sweep whatever is getting in the way under the carpet rather than acknowledging what is getting in the way and sweeping it clean.
Fiona presents a great point ‘as yet I have not met one who will take responsibility for the life and choices they have made to date, although they all nod when I say I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.’ When we look at illness and disease more deeply especially cancer, if we are truly honest with ourselves we know that the choices we make are not coincidental to our health. An opportunity for us all to feel into the choices we make and take responsibility for ourselves.
What a beautiful piece of writing Fiona.
What a woman can be ‘a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.’ and to know that it’s always there ready and waiting. Not knowing how to truly live as women is deeply affecting all of us, yet within us is the deep knowing of what this is.
There are lots of popular theories currently bandied around as to what causes breast cancer but none of them have succeeded in stopping the rise of this condition. Could the answer lie in how a woman chooses to live based on how connected she is to her true essence? Have we really fully explored this option before we dismiss it as too simple?
“With the healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.”
Every woman deserves to read these words and be given the opportunity to ponder, to stop and again reconnect to their own beauty within and rejoice in their radiance.
The fact that the cancer rates were predicted to rise by 9% should make us stop right away. What’s going on in our personal world to make our bodies attack themselves this way? Could it be that this is just a symbol for the way we treat ourselves? For something serious is not working. Like a child trying to pursue an impossible dream to prove ‘they can do it’, we relentlessly push on. But there is no need and actually no-one to please.
I agree the way forward with medicine is a marriage of Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine, they both have much to offer.
‘a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be’ what an amazing way to live and be, and how awesome to find this and to come to the understanding that cancer can be a gift to undo those behaviours which are not true and to come back to the true woman. Fiona has blazed a trail for all of us in this and her absolute grace in how she approached and lived this is deeply inspiring. We need to look beyond the surface in what we see and understand there is something further at play here so the question for all of us is how are we living as women? And do we know what it is to be a woman? Do we understand and live in a way that knows that a woman lives from the inside out, not the outside in? And perhaps the biggest question of all, are we willing to see and accept that we are where we are due to the choices we’ve made. This is something for us all to explore and live.
The true sickness is not just cancer; it’s inhabiting bodies that we have no relationship with. It’s like driving a car with a hood over our eyes, with no idea where we’re going and the harm we’re causing to ourselves.
So many want to ‘get over ‘ their illness and return ‘to a normal life’. Yet it is this way of living that contributes to the illness in the first place. Bring on the day when we all start to take more responsibility for our ill health, rather than blaming outside influences or ‘bad luck’.
Sue I have observed the same. Illness is often seen as a weakness rather than a blessing and opportunity to look more deeply into how we are living. It usually causes a ‘stop’ in our lives, to reflect and re-connect to the wisdom of our soul and learn the lessons being presented. To rush back to work and seemingly normal life without connecting to this wisdom means we re-enter the ferris wheel of life with the same quality of energy we left it and could easily repeat the very conditions and life-styles that caused the illness in the first place.
At the other extreme is an emphasis on women who do-it-all, emulate men, are career obsessives and subject themselves to tough physical challenges. The innate essence and wisdom of being a woman trampled over in the rush for recognition. We as women need to return to simplicity, connect to our true essence and not constantly feel we have to prove ourselves. This constant drive to over achieve can cause physical imbalances that lead to illness and disease.
How interesting to read that your diagnosis has led to a true woman being reborn – that is deeply inspiring for all the other people you meet who are in similar circumstances. You certainly do not feel like a victim!
“It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.” Now what woman in her right mind could possibly say no to this!
Yes and what a sparkle!! It is so easy to get caught up in the must dos and should dos we forget about the being. I am starting to rediscover just how sparkly my eyes can be just by slowing down, lightening the load, being in the moment, building stillness in my body, feeding myself well and having fun!
‘With the healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.’This is such a special feeling and one that can change our lives forever. Western Medicine is amazing but without this compliment of the Esoteric we would go back to our old ways and miss out on reconnecting to our true power and glory.
I agree there are a lot of unasked questions. It seems that we do already know the answer to these but to make changes can feel too hard. Maybe as women we can support each other more to do this. I find http://www.esotericwomenshealth.com and http://www.foundationalbreastcare.com to be excellent websites which have true wellbeing for women at heart and have supported me in so many ways to make simple loving changes in my own development back to the woman I truly am.
I so agree that “some basic questions were not being asked: why do so many women have breast cancer? How are women living that creates such an illness in their bodies? How can we educate and support our young girls to be, so that breast cancer is not inevitable for them?” Doctors do not usually ask these questions – hence the importance of Universal Medicine – which gets to the underlying cause of an illness. As we know everything is energy as shown by Einstein equation E=mc2. Thus ‘everything is because of energy’ Serge Benhayon. Collaboration between western medicine and the esoteric is a match made in heaven.
Thank you Fiona you put your finger on a hot topic – the responsibility we all have for ourselves. This is really what links us as women because most of us are living more from the outside in instead from the inside out. It is so good to spread the fact thats our choices what causes our illness instead of genes or the environment.
‘as yet I have not met one who will take responsibility for the life and choices they have made to date, although they all nod when I say I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.’ This is valuable research Fiona as it shows a disconnect between the women and their relationship with themselves. You are a living testament to the value of the marriage between Esoteric Healing and Conventional Medicine. Medicine can only do so much, it is up to us to understand how our choices have contributed to our current state of being and make the needed adjustments. Esoteric Healing does this brilliantly in my experience.
“With the healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.
How different the ward would feel if all the patients and staff knew that the healing lay in this reconnection.” What is being offered here is a true way to be with and address our health issues whether this is breast cancer or another diagnosis. From my own experience of breast cancer I came to the same realisation that I needed to reconnect to being a woman and accept and live all the qualities of being a woman. In being willing to see this as part of the healing I have then come to feel and be aware of what supports me and my body throughout the day as a woman. I now see Illness or disease is a way or opportunity to discard all the behaviours that contribute to me being who or what I am not. In this I can expand to the grandness I am.
The truth behind why someone has cancer, an illness or disease or any other forms of stop moments can be a hard pill to swallow. But is this because as a society we have run ourselves generation after generation in a lack of responsibility and consequence for how we live? What I love about how Fiona approached her cancer treatment, is that she embraced all it was showing her and taking every bit of healing and understanding she could from all she experienced.
This blog asks so many pertinent questions about how we are as women and how we got to where we are as women, whether it be with cancer or not. What I find interesting reading this and I know and can feel this in me is how quickly our coping mechanism kicks in and how much we want to get things over with and move on, with many things in life and how in doing so we actually miss the point of what life is offering us, an opportunity to see and feel where our choices have brought us and to lovingly learn that how we can live and be as the true women we naturally are. And most of all I feel how much we avoid responsibility, that’s why we push into coping and solutions so fast, (and it’s very engrained in us all), and when we’re offered something different, as Fiona offered here, another path, what do we choose? Are we willing to see our choices and to see the responsibility we carry? And are we willing to understand that we are offered always a choice to choose love, and that true freedom comes with taking that responsibility.
It’s so inspiring to read that Fiona knew the only way to support her body with a true healing was to reconnect to herself, as a woman. It’s a blessing to be able to read her journey as what shines through for me is that these blogs are the writings of an amazing, claimed woman, not a cancer sufferer. To wholeheartedly embrace cancer as a healing, and to fully take responsibility for the body having to resort to this level of illness and disease to heal the dis-ease that has been dumped in it is an absolute inspiration. I feel humbled and honoured to be able to learn from Fiona’s experience.
In all the various different initiatives about cancer and breast cancer, as Fiona notes here we have not been asking the real questions; we’ve been looking for a culprit, be it environment or something else, something which we can then fix, but we’ve not been willing to ask the deeper questions about how we are in ourselves as women and how we live, we’ve not been willing to see our own part in it. And the truth is until we do, no cures no matter how amazing will truly work – modern medicine is amazing and has much to offer us, but until we reconnect back to the true women we are and allow ourselves to be and feel that, we will miss a key piece of the puzzle. And that piece is there ready and waiting inside us all.
It seems to be a common pattern for many of us that we avoid the responsibility of looking at our own choices and its subsequent outcome, but rather try and avoid this by blaming or attributing this to something outside of ourselves. We have the opportunity to experience true healing in the former (regardless of whether or not the body itself becomes free of the actual disease), however although we may experience temporary relief with the latter, it will never result in true healing.
“Let us just get this over with and return to how we were” – but “how we were” led to us having cancer. Why go back there? For more cancer?
“It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be”. Yes this is gorgeous to read and the sparkle in my eyes is returning too. I feel it has a lot to do with honouring what I am feeling in full, as that is what makes life so joyful, to be deeply loving with yourself.
How wonderful Fiona that you are connecting to your feminine inner beauty and expressing it to everyone in the waiting room. We have epidemic problems when humanity doesn’t want to be responsible for their choices. Everyone pays the price, we don’t get off scott free.
Fiona I love the questions you pose, they encourage us to consider deeper our equal role in creating the ill health we experience. What binds us is our choices to move away from our true self, this is where we allow all those things outside of us to define who and what we are. The moment we stop and truly consider how it is our choices, our way of living that creates this, only then can we begin to come back to our self. You are indeed a shining example of what is possible when we begin to look at our whole self, and seek support that marries esoteric and conventional medicines. As you share “is the marriage of Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine the way the health services can address the ever-rising numbers of women with breast cancer? I feel it is the only way.” absolutely!
Your sharings Fiona are pure gold – so much wisdom and love and I love your last sentence “When you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love,” very inspiring and very empowering. Thank you.
What you share with us Fiona is truly beautiful and so inspiring. This sharing alone would help in raising awareness to those woman who have lost that inner connection within themselves as the beautiful, gorgeous, precious women that they are. A copy of this blog would perhaps initiate a spark of inspiration that there is a different way of thinking/feeling and connecting to themselves.
Beautiful Fiona, do we know how to be true women, a great question. And for most of us we don’t, and there’s a dearth of role models out there who do. Your article is gorgeous as it shows that no matter what the circumstance we can connect to that innate true woman in us all. And every woman (including me) was deeply touched and graced by that spark in your eye I saw. You deeply moved me and showed me that life always offers us exactly what we need to heal and we can go with it or not – you went with it and in doing so inspired us all.
“What links us – we are all women” … A very touching statement that says a lot Fiona, thank you.
Fiona,
The beauty that you lived while going through your treatment offered to each of the women you met, be they fellow patients or medical staff, the simplicity and absolute divine beauty of a woman connected to her essence. Presenting to each person that there is another way to be with ourselves. So beautiful.
‘a woman … reconnecting to who she was born to be.’ What an awesome line. And one which most women do not truly understand yet alone truly live. I love this blog for its simple claiming that a combination of conventional medicine and esoteric medicine is a way forward to healing illness and disease and in particular with breast cancer, a reconnection to understanding what it is to be a woman is a way forward to support healing breast cancer.
I loved reading your blog Fiona – what an inspiration you are to others. Your self-love and responsibility led you to a deeply nurturing space within yourself. Your commitment to life and love is palpable.
The clue lay in the fact that you didn’t get handed a questionnaire because you don’t look like a cancer patient. The fact also lays in the responsibility of the connection with yourself as a woman and the choices you have made is the result in you with cancer. Beautiful sharing Fiona and thank you.
Absolutely true Concetta. That fact that Fiona wasn’t handed a questionnaire is true confirmation that her connection to her inner beauty was more powerful and radiant that the energy of the other patients.
It is truly remarkable to read that you not only feel empowered by knowing the part you played in your illness but in connection to your beauty and radiance, you are totally committed to your life and living the woman you were born to be – you are a deeply inspiring reflection to all women, with or without breast cancer.
Wow Fiona – I can really feel your love of humanity here and know that it stems from your deep love of yourself. Things are dire in the medical world: our hospital systems are overwhelmed, our GP’s over worked and the expense of health care on our governments is all increasing – but self love and responsibility can start to turn that around – thank you for shining light on a possible new path where conventional and truly complementary medicine can support people simultaneously.
Your observations of others is beautiful to behold Fiona…we all see and feel this but rarely is it acknowledged let alone expressed. This is all about taking responsibility for ourselves, for our life choices and our healing, and for being the true woman we were “born to be.”
From the way this is written Fiona, I can see the sparkle in your eye and I can feel that you have re-discovered your playful nature and the beautiful woman inside and all this despite of breast cancer, in fact you are thanking your illness for the lessons learned. This is truly inspirational and it is the approach we so need in the health system – it makes all the difference.
It is unheard of to thank your illness for the lessons learned Judith, but I agree this is what Fiona conveys in her sharing, and it is truly inspirational, an approach if we all adopted would make a huge difference in how we recover, heal and learn from what the illness or disease presented to us.
A valuable mapping out of the various reactions and responses, perceived causes and attitudes to ‘getting better’ in your waiting room of women with breast cancer – a great representative microcosm of the whole. I agree, conventional medicine to treat the problem works best when at the same time, we begin to unravel the way we have been living and take responsibility for the choices that got us to that point. Then we can, if we choose to, heal the underlying emotional causes and move on, not back to how we were.
So beautiful and simple. Connect with yourself as a woman. I can’t remember any discussion or class at school where we were encouraged to appreciate ourselves as women. I can’t remember any conversation I had with anyone where an appreciation of being a woman was enjoyed, until I went to a Universal Medicine event. I was 44 when I went to my first healing session. That’s quite a while to live without an appreciation of my own gorgeous situation of living within a woman’s body. I am wholly appreciative of the gift that Universal Medicine practitioners have brought to me. The appreciation of myself as a woman.
Amanda, it’s the very thing we’re not encouraged to do, or only to consider (being a woman), once that thing you need to do is done. I know I like you had no idea of how to appreciate me as a woman, or even connect to it and live it until I came to Universal Medicine and learned to look at life from the inside out rather than the outside in, and over time I’ve been learning more and more how to be that in the world. What struck me reading this piece today, was even in the face of illness we still want to surmount it so we can get back to life as it was – it’s not common what Fiona has done, use her illness as a reflection to connect back to herself as a woman. And this applies in many areas, as women we all have this tendency to leave ourselves when the demands of the world encroach, rather than stay connecting and consider how to be the woman in the world in that moment. Lots of learning or more aptly unlearning to be done, as the truth is we knew this as children, and now as adults we can connect back again.
When truly felt Amanda, the gifts Universal Medicine are bringing to us, to humanity, are enormous. We are blessed being part of the Student body, being a student of our own ‘Way of the Livingness’ as originally inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. I am appreciating myself and my fellow students more and more for the fact that we have chosen to make our lives about Universal Medicine, to become Universal Medicine. By doing so we are able to bring Universal Medicine to the world as we are all connected to the one and the same ‘Ancient Wisdom’ with the only difference that each of us individually has his own and unique expression in this which to me is design from heaven.
That is such beautiful sharing Nico.
Gorgeous expression Nico, yes we are all designs from heaven!
Fiona I just love how you have raised our awareness that as a society we need to start asking the questions why disease and illness is escalating in a time when our medical system is more technologically advanced than ever before but at the same time getting more and more overwhelmed with the burden of these projected health statistics. Each of us needs to honestly and maybe even painfully question if it is indeed how we are living that is feeding and creating these stats, while we simultaneously ask whether or not it is the health care system’s responsibility to heal us and arrest these statistics or in fact our own. I totally agree with you, the marriage of Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine is the only way this can happen, and means we all need to take responsibility for our own lives and live in a way that cares for and supports ourselves.
Thanks Fiona for further reminding us that everything is a result of our choices. Nothing happens for no reason. Accepting responsibility of our choices is the only way true healing can begin. We all have something to learn from your experience and the choices you make today. Thank you!
“let’s just get this over with and return to how we were.”… this seem to be the catch cry for any ill health condition…
There’s a true power in being able to take self-responsibility and look at our own choices from a place of self-love, and not of self-loathing or critique. It is inspiring to read how your reconnecting to yourself as a woman has supported you to do just that, and kept sparkles in your eyes.
Fiona I wonder how the Esoteric Medicine, its philosophy and wisdom could be brought to the hospital wards. Your sharing with the women in the ward is surely a way to introduce a reflective way of thinking about their health and responsibility in the matter as when you say “although they all nod when I say I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.” You are the reflection for them of a different way of being in spite of sharing the same disease.
Thanks Fiona, It is amazing to see all the women who are choosing to connect with the deeper inner aspect of themselves. There is definitely an openness and tenderness in the eyes as well as a beautiful vulnerability and innocence .
I agree, it is in this reconnection to the beauty, power and tenderness within that provides true healing along side the miracles of conventional medicine. I too had really no real idea of what it meant to be a woman and the feeling that I was very far away from whatever that may be. Universal Medicine and particularly, Natalie Benhayon has shown me through inspiration that I am that, and that what I have been searching for is within and yes, this is for all women to discover in themselves as well.
“It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.” How a beautiful reflection to be offered. Perhaps, and probably, the greatest in their lives. What a blessing for the other women!
Thank you Fiona, to look into your eyes or the eyes of student the Livingness is a true inspiration.
“Let’s just get this over with and return to how we were.” This is the catch cry of many people when illness strikes. It reminds me of the old Protestant work ethic which was about religiously working hard – work (doing) was everything and the body was to be ignored. This applies to men and woman and for women it doesn’t matter if you have chosen to be a career woman, a family woman or both, a student … Whatever the choice, it is still a choice to do… It really is like a religion that we still carry with us even if we don’t go to church anymore we still seem to be stuck with this way of living and we keep adding more things to do on top of it, Championing ourselves for multi-tasking and being able to be independent – who needs a man, we can do it all!
Breast Cancer feels like a blessing, a forced stop, but it is most certainly not about returning to how we have been living. How we were living before this disease took shape was not working. As Fiona shares, for her the cancer was a call to come back to the woman she is, in full, so much so she didn’t even look like a cancer patient in the oncology unit … That says a lot .. And we can do ourselves a favour by listening to her wisdom.
For some reason I keep coming back to this blog Fiona. It is not hard to imagine a waiting room where the women would come to get medical treatment yet in the full knowledge that reconnecting to themselves and their choices would take them back on the path to recovery. This already happens for many of us!
I do believe that what you say here Fiona about the marriage between Esoteric Medicine and Conventional Medicine being the way forward for every one, for every illness. In time, this will be the way we all begin to live. Taking responsibility for where we find ourselves and making choices that support and love our bodies, bringing understanding to illness and then the fear and anxiousness that so often comes with illness would be way lessened, replaced instead with the steadiness that understanding brings and a commitment to ourselves that in this present day is so greatly lacking in how many live.
There are, among many others, two simple reasons why more and more people have cancer: Science has not found a way to reduce the rate we get cancer, i.e. we get cancer just as much (no more, no less) than at any time over the last 20 years – the smoking-related reduction in lung cancers is taken up by other cancers. Hence there is no progress in getting cancer. There is much progress once we have cancer but not in avoiding cancer.
The second reason is really simple: 70-year olds have many, many, many more cancers than 20-year olds and we are as a society rapidly getting older. Hence the rate of cancer is not rising at the moment but the incidences of cancer are rising rapidly and we have a totally overloaded health system as doctors treat incidences, not rates.
The marriage of Western and Universal Medicine has to be the way to address the ever increasing rate of illness and disease and support people to address the lack of self-care that most are living with and thus taking responsibility for the choices we have made and the impact that has had on our bodies. As Fiona experienced when she shared honestly ‘as yet I have not met one who will take responsibility for the life and choices they have made to date, although they all nod when I say I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.’ There is a deep knowing within us all but we need support to re-connect to that and start making choices that will support our health and well-being.
This is so true Helen – ‘There is a deep knowing within us all but we need support to re-connect to that and start making choices that will support our health and well-being’ and with Universal Medicine I have found this support. Up until that time it always felt like a choice between conventional medicine and alternative therapy but what Universal Medicine offers is all encapsulating.
What we seem to have lost in our lives is the ability to discern – we have been given a way of life that encourages us to seek outside of ourselves for the answers, when deep within we have this amazing resource that is the fount of all wisdom.
I feel deeply supported by this blog and by the woman who wrote it. It’s so true, we age not ever really connecting to the woman we are or even being clear on what “a woman” is. I still connect more to myself as “a person”, than as a woman. I feel this blog is really giving me a nudge to go deeper, to find myself as a woman and delight in that original way. The essence of this beautiful writer is all the inspiration I need 😉
I too struggled for many years to see myself not just as person, but as a woman; in fact it has taken me a while to understand what a woman truly is, but I am slowly learning, and in the process getting to know me a little bit more every day and that has been a beautiful journey. And like you Melinda I can feel the support from this inspirational blog – it feels so very tangible.
You are showing us the way to true healing Fiona McGovern, that we also have to consider to look for the underlaying couse of the illnesses and diseases people in our society are currently facing. Western medicine in combination with the complementary treatments delivered by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine are the way to true healing and to restore true wellbeing for all of humanity.
“How different the ward would feel if all the patients and staff knew that the healing lay in this reconnection?” – Bang on Fiona! Reconnection to ourselves and each other is the key to healing. In fact the very reason we have disease and problems in the world today is because of dis-connection!
Getting to know the woman within is an amazing experience – I have learnt to take responsibility for my choices and I try to look at why I choose certain behaviors. I know now that my greatness is inside of me, it makes me who I am, not how I use to think that it is in what I do. Once people see this way of living is making a difference it will encourage other’s to do the same.
I love this line Fiona ” The healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.” Being true to the women we are within and connecting to our innate stillness will always win. Thank you.
These are the questions that need to be asked to bring about a deeper understanding of breast cancer. As Fiona has stated reconnection to ourselves is the starting point for true healing.
Another amazing contribution about breast cancer and a deeper exploration of its root causes, very personal and universal at the same time.
Beautiful Fiona. Yes, the marriage of Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine is the way that health services can address the ever-rising numbers of women with breast cancer. But not only this, every illness.
Very often now, when in the company of women, I witness the struggle they’re in. Very few are relating what is happening in their lives or health to choices they themselves made in the past. Consequently, they remain trapped in the same vicious circle. I see myself in these women as I was in the same position, and not so long ago. I am ever thankful to Universal Medicine for teaching me that the first step to healing is self-responsibility.
This is so true Kehinde, taking responsibility for myself has been a very challenging, yet extremely rewarding way to live. The biggest challenge has been in accepting that it is my choices that have gotten me to where I am, completely eliminating any blame of another. Living in the blame left me powerless and feeling I had no way out. Taking responsibility has given the power back to me and there is always much that I can choose to adjust in how I live that brings much more joy into my life.
Leigh what you share is true. Blame is destructive and poisonous. It prevents us from taking the responsibility needed to free ourselves from the very conditon that causes misery. Without it the vicious cycle continues.
The potential within the marriage of Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine is huge. The UK health service is in financial crisis and the ever growing numbers of cancer rates, diabetes rates coupled with the complexity of conditions is an increasing burden. Only with this marriage and with the self awareness this will bring can these illness and disease rates be reduced. It truly is a marriage made in heaven.
Hi Fiona a great post. Your question “So is the marriage of Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine the way the health services can address the ever-rising numbers of women with breast cancer? Absolutely, and you are demonstrating how it works by the way you are now choosing to honour and nurture yourself, by the look in your eyes of the joy of living the woman you were born to be.
Wonderful question: ‘what links us? – we are all women’.
Before I was diagnosed with breast cancer (July 2011) I had no idea what ‘being a woman’ truly meant or was. I had no idea that my body was hard from all the pushing to do more, striving to be more, and taking on far too much. I had to relearn how to self care and self nurture and to put myself and my needs first before that of others; I had to relearn what it meant to be a woman….Thus, the breast cancer created space in my life to slow down and to spend much time with myself, which allowed me to slowly develop a relationship with myself again and to reconnect with my body so that I could listen to my body and its message in what would best support me at this time….and boy, I was ready to listen! This was a huge turn around in my life and at the same time a wonderful blessing that continues to serve me today. Awesome sharing Fiona.
Outstanding Fiona. Life is about taking responsibility for our choices and accepting it with open hearts.
I too have experienced the power of true healing from the marriage of Western and Esoteric medicine. And through this I have also learned to re-connect to my beauty within, to re-connect to the gorgeous woman that truly I am. As you have beautifully shared – ‘It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.’ – thank you Fiona.
I certainly agree Carola. The marriage of Western and Esoteric Medicine is our true way forward, and that re-connection is what everyone is seeking even if they don’t know it yet.
Thank you Fiona. This is a huge subject and so much more needs to be written about this. This issue of being a man and woman in truth needs to be known and understood by all. Having this awareness alone can change all that you live for.
Since applying esoteric medicine techniques through all its modalities, including my favourite, esoteric psychology, I am still unravelling the true nature of a man in his tenderness and sensitivity. I am now in the fight of not withdrawing and showing and honouring that sensitivity in full view to all around me.
Yes Rik, before Serge Benhayon & Universal Medicine presented what is the true nature of man and woman (in effect we are the same) we were judging ourselves based on how society has taught us to be as a particular sex. I feel a lot of people actually know that what is being portrayed as manly or womanly is false yet the pressure and constant bombardment from our society overrides this and we try to fit into the mould that is made for us. Thank you Fiona for helping to break this mould and carve out a new one, a true one.
I am also learning to reconnect to myself as a women – to drop all the roles that I play: mother, wife, daughter, friend, health care professional, etc, etc – and reconnect to the glory and stillness inside of me (definitely still a work in progress). This is far away from how I was brought up, or my Mum, or her Mum, which is true for most women. We as women today have a choice to possibly change the predicted statistic of a 9% increase in breast cancer in the next few years. As Fiona shares, this starts with taking responsibility for our past and present choices and connecting to the love that is within us all.
What links all women is that underneath all the busyness, investment in our families and trying to be superwoman is the quality that you have re-found. There is a steady, resounding feeling that ripples out from our epicentre. The way our struggling health system will be able to cope, will be to remind women of this, so they can find their inner loveliness again.
Beautifully expressed Fiona and very true.
It is very telling that people agreed when the writer mentioned that she knew that her breast cancer had come from the choices she had made and how hard she had pushed herself. It is like we know, deep down, but we don’t want to know at the same time.
Beautiful. It goes to show that no matter what comes our way for us to heal, the sparkle, playfulness, silliness and the love is always there inside of us.
Absolutely Caroline and Fiona was such an amazing example of this.
This is so true Fiona. Our family has experienced the marriage of both modern medicine and esoteric medicine and the results have been very powerful. It also provided an opportunity for all of us in the family to be responsible for how we held ourselves during the period of dis-ease . The addition of esoteric medicine into the healing process offers not only the “patient” an opportunity to heal but to others who are supporting that person.
Well said Fiona, the most incredible experiences I have had with healing of dis-ease has been through the marriage of both the scientific understanding of the body and equally if not more important the energetic understanding of the body and all the choice we make in living – this truly wholistic approach is the way forward for our society with all the dramatic increases in sickness and disease.
Fiona your commitment to truth and re-turning to the fullness and grace of the woman is beautiful, and the comment the nurse made in not realising you were also cancer patient, clear testament to this very fact. You present it so well, and consider the all when undergoing medical treatment mixing it with the spherical healing, teaching and living as presented by Esoteric/Ancient Wisdom healing. As such your story offers great inspiration and reflection particularly for those undergoing cancer treatment, but additionally for us all.
Thank you Fiona for sharing this very real and moving account of what is such a common predicament that affects the lives of so many people in this day and age. It is such a blessing to have chosen to explore and understand the true cause of cancer and yet, such a tragedy that the healing is within each and every person and yet it still escapes so many.
Awesome sharing Fiona. For me stood out:
‘I have not met one who will take responsibility for the life and choices they have made to date, although they all nod when I say I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.’ We as women have lost our connection to what it means to live as a woman and to honor our rhythms and the cycles we live in. For me owning up to me being responsible for how I felt was a big one and I am still learning every day what it means on a practical level to live as a woman without all the pushing, drive and business. All the things I ‘have’ to do can overtake easily and then there is not enough connection and listening to my body.
Wow Fiona, I can feel your spark and love for life. Your strength is empowering and inspiring.
Beautiful Fiona, what you shared here feels very true to me, we as women often live in a way that does not feel natural to our bodies – for me I can say I did live ignoring my body most of my life until the recent years when I came in contact with the teachings as presented by Universal Medicine. Now I am honouring my body more and can feel how indeed the world does not need to be in this most of the time driven and stressful way, if we only all chose and allowed ourselves to live more in line with how our bodies are feeling.
“So is the marriage of Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine the way the health services can address the ever-rising numbers of women with breast cancer? ” yes I believe so Fiona. As the student body goes on expanding the message will spread widely that we are the creators of our own health.
What I found interesting Fiona is that the lady handing out the questionnaire did not recognise you as a cancer patient. That is so powerful.
Fiona, I am glad you are going against the trend and taking responsibility for your illness with grace, the stillness of a strong woman, and a sparkle in your eyes.
A beautiful sharing of what is true – allowing the inner knowing that we are the outcome of our choices and then choosing to not deny, but accept. Our conventional medicine is doing an amazing job, and to combine the consideration that we play a part in developing illness will support the healing that conventional medicine seeks to bring (but at a much deeper level).
I found that really interesting – the only thing you could find in common was that everyone was a woman. Clearly this might mean that everyone can get cancer. It sounds trivial but the sheer fact that there is a major disease which anyone can get is quite distressing.
Love this amazing blog, in the waiting room Fiona says they all nod when I say it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself, That’s simply gold.
Yes Fiona, taking responsibility for my health has turned it around and as the student body of Esoteric Medicine expands, more and more women will deepen into its wisdom.
It’s pretty scary to think that such a devastating disease that already affects so many people will affect so many more people in our future years. Is this what we accept for our future? is this what we really want?
I totally agree with you Fiona, especially: “some basic questions were not being asked: why do so many women have breast cancer?” We will keep voicing this until all women (yes, all women, regardless of whether she has/has had breast cancer or not) will say this in unison.
A beautiful sharing Fiona – your reconnection to the preciousness of the woman.
A powerful blog on true healing, thank you.
It is true what you have written Fiona, the marriage of western and esoteric medicine is the only answer. That would start with people feeling and taking responsibility for their choices, might take a while when a lot of people believe their doctor is responsible for their health and their health problems were caused by all sorts of things, anything but themselves. I was like that, it is different now, the initial steps were difficult, but well worth it.
Fiona, it’s interesting how easy it is for us all to not truly look at the choices we’ve made and where they lead us – I know I can struggle with this, less yes, but it’s still there. It’s so easy to blame the outside and it can seem a comfort to do so, but it doesn’t work, as when we do we give our power to something outside us and we shut down the possibility that we can change things through our simple choices. So no matter where we are, be it cancer, an accident, an illness, job-loss or bereavement, if we connect to the stillness we all as women hold within, we have the grace to look and feel and we remain us no matter what. So as you showed, even with cancer we can have our sparkle, our joy, we can remain us. So inspiring to know that someone has lived this, to know it’s possible for us all.
If I did not begin to know( I say begin because I feel I am still very much learning) what it means to be a woman and begin to honour this for myself, knowing that I have a responsibility for all the choices I have made throughout my life I would probably feel like many of the women in the waiting room. It is incredibly empowering to know that we can make a difference to our lives, health, and well being, by re-connecting to the inner beauty and delicateness of what it means to be a woman rather than looking outside ourselves for answers .Thank you Fiona for sharing your experience you pose some great questions.
I love the final line of this blog ‘ a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.’ Fiona this feels like a delicate graceful statement of who you are as a woman. Simply yummy.
This is a great blog and question “what links us?” Having been diagnosed with breast cancer and experienced surgery, once over the initial shock of diagnosis, I could easily see that breast cancer was not something to live in fear of and just ‘get through’ but it was a time to take stock of my life and choices so therefore became about me re-connecting to myself as woman and developing a relationship with my body. So in the moments of sitting in the waiting room at the hospital I could see many other women who had simply lost their way too and were being called back to themselves as a woman.
So beautiful to see how full Fiona claims herself here. She is a true inspiration to me in my process of reconnecting to and feeling my femaleness. I see her sitting there in the waiting room with a questionnaire which is being put around because our current medical system is recognizing it is in over its head; overwhelmed.
It’s as if Fiona was, at that moment, a doorway to link esoteric medicine with conventional. Every one of us is this potential doorway and one day medical professionals will start walking in and out exploring all the support of the esoteric that is just waiting…for us all.
I re-read the blog today and I can feel the truth in your words, how choices are what create our health. The sum total of my well-being is down to me. Thank you.
I agree Judy, it’s very empowering to know that the state of our total health and wellbeing is our choices, completely up to us. And understanding that we can get true healing through our illnesses as Fiona has given us in this example is pretty amazing.
‘I know that before the chemotherapy and the esoteric healing I had no idea what being a woman truly meant. I looked outside for an answer on how to be a woman. With the healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance’ esoteric healing is such a beautiful gift to humanity allowing us to connect to our true selves again. The depth of honesty and responsibility that this brings is true medicine. Thank you for sharing your sparkle Fiona.
This is an empowering and inspirational piece of writing, the depth of the words written here offers the opportunity for everyone affected by any disease to change the way we view that dis-ease in our body. Illness is much easier to handle when we fully accept our role in how it came to be.
“But do we know what being a true woman means?” Fiona – an inspiration for all women, not just for those with breast cancer. Why is it, as women especially, we take such great care of those around us – but don’t deliver that same level of care and love to ourselves? We choose how to live, we make our choices, although it doesn’t always feel like it. I am slowly learning to adjust and change those ways that do not serve me, by making new choices. Feeling the effects of these new choices is great. .
Wow – this blog blows me away in it’s depth of understanding and the amount of responsibility I can feel here. It really touched me when you wrote how many women know they have cancer due to the way they have treated themselves, but no one is prepared to take responsibility and really change their lives, the way you have so beautifully done.
Such a beautiful sharing of connection with others. There is such a gentle holding here and a complete lack of any kind of judgement. Thank you, Fiona.
This is deeply beautifull and very healing for all.
Hi Fiona, On re-reading the blog this morning I can feel such a very deep stillness within the words, it is beautiful to feel. Thank you
“How can we educate and support our young girls to be, so that breast cancer is not inevitable for them?” Such a crucial question and Fiona gave the answer loud and clear: from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance. I absolutely love the way she describes it as “living the woman she was born to be”, a great reminder, thank you Fiona!
It would be amazing Jane, and even more so when all women begin to communicate deeply, and honestly with each other about how their lives really are. In a womens group I belong to, the beauty of the honesty we share blows me away, and I always find reflections there for changes in the way I live my own daily life.
Fiona it’s a great question to ask and really I imagine gets every woman thinking…. We all rush around putting everyone first all the time….. So much so that in my case, I still have no idea who I am under all the doing! It’s dangerous stuff to wrap yourself up in all this distraction to ignore what your body tells you…. Thank goodness you married western medicine with esoteric medicine 🙂
Fiona said “I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.” What if it wasn’t as scary as it first seems to admit that, and if you could, then the power to make the changes is completely within you. When you blame everything outside you, pollution, societies expectations on women etc. then you leave your self at the mercy of that. I have felt true power when I have been able to except my choices and to move forward with new ones.
Fiona did indeed live what she wrote – “It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.”
With all of this lived, she was a playful powerhouse and an inspiration.
Yes Michelle, Fiona did live what she wrote. She was indeed a “playful powerhouse and and inspiration” and a very beautiful friend.
Thank you, I love the simplicity and power of what has been shared here, from my experience of talking with some nurses they acknowledge it is the patient who holds the key to their own healing.
What I love about this blog is that with self-responsibility and self-care you can still live and clearly show that you and the cancer are not inseparable. It is not something that has to dominate or loom over a person like a dark cloud.
Thank you Fiona for showing another way to live with and look at cancer. Great insights and truly inspiring.
Fiona re-reading this, I completely understand why the woman handing out the questionnaire didn’t think you were a cancer patient, what I feel from your writing and from having met you, is that you were you, your gorgeous sparkly self and never identified as a cancer patient. You completely blew away any ideas I had about the ‘dreaded’ cancer, I just met you and nothing in that interaction was about anything other than meeting a beautiful connected gorgeous woman. It truly is about reconnecting to the woman within, the missing link in how we approach illness and disease, and you have been a beacon in showing the way for us all. Thank you, I learn so much with reading your blogs and can see that this reconnection applies to us all no matter what our situation in life.
Amazing insights have been shared in this article. A combination of western and Esoteric medicine is a great way to stay empowered with any illness or disease which lessens the fear as an understanding is gained.
Beautiful Fiona, so well said. Thank you for sharing your experience and showing everyone that there is no need to go into a frenzy over why you had cancer rather simply accepting it and seeing the choices you made, your role in it and learning from it, not fighting it. I love how you end by saying: ‘It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.’
I agree Jane, we can feel Fiona’s sparkle in her writing. There is nothing but joy and appreciation in her writing, no self pity, nothing of the victim about it. Just joy, appreciation and a desire to leave a record for others to realise that there is another way to be with cancer.
A lovely gentle blog that just flows from the heart without any heavy emotional thoughts distracting the reader from the truth that it all inside us and just waiting to be allowed out. As Fiona is showing us, all healing comes from inside us and when we combine this with conventional medicine, we have a combination that can and will change everything.
Totally agree Doug. this combination of the esoteric and conventional medicine, takes away the emotion and fear that can come with a diagnosis, and offers total support to us all.
With or without Breast Cancer this article highlights the Marrying of Western and Esoteric Medicine as an essential way to not live in fear of the disease but instead to feel empowered as a woman. Sacred Esoteric Healing Modalities can support women to make choices now, before a diagnosis, to bring self care and nurturing into their lives, and then visit the doctor when and if checkups are needed.
Thiis blog beautifully outlines how Western medicine and Esoteric medicine can complement each other. Fiona’s story will be a huge support and inspiration to those undergoing Chemotherapy.
Yes Fiona the marriage of western medicine and complementary medicine is absolutely the way to go. If girls were educated at school on the subject of self care and to include accessing both western medicine and complementary then they and the future generations would live much healthier lives. I love your closing phrase ‘It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.’ I can feel how playful you are.
Fiona you are a truly amazing inspirational light for all women and the world – so beautiful to read. If we were all taught to connect to the deep beauty within that we are how different life would be. Medicine, healing and illness would have a completely different role in life for us all.
The real woman within when connected to is awesome as you are Fiona, thank you for your beautiful sharing to be read and read onwards.
Beautifully written Fiona, and some great questions and observations that come through so clearly.
There is much that is shared in this blog and it is worth reading again and again and relevant for any woman. ‘What links us-we are all women’. Awesome!
So beautiful Fiona, I feel the joy as I read your last few paragraphs, so true, as I have been with you and felt that joy and appreciation of yourself as an amazing woman. It is so inspiring to be with you and read your words.
I love your simple yet elegant connection – we are all women… how powerfully you write those words and through your words, how powerful I can feel that connection is.
Thank you for your beautiful article, your gentle light is an inspiration.
There is so much wisdom in your words Fiona and it is an absolute joy to read them. The last sentence is so inspiring “It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.”
It certainly would be a very different ward if all of the patients and staff were rejoicing in their beauty, even amongst any medical treatment. To stay connected to our inner beauty is amazing as it can transform our view of life, others and ourselves. No matter what is going on, with that connection there is a strength from which one just knows what is needed and a confidence develops that is very strong.
This is a true testament to the fact that the marriage of Western and Esoteric Medicine is the path of true healing.
‘So is the marriage of Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine the way the health services can address the ever-rising numbers of women with breast cancer? I feel it is the only way.’ I too feel its the missing link as well Fiona. Western medicine is truly amazing. However, I have found esoteric medicine heals emotional hurts and gets to the root cause of what helped to cause the dis-ease in the body in the first place. Together they are a powerful combination.
Hi Fiona , thank you for this powerful blog. Yes, marrying Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine is certainly the way forward to obtain a full rounded picture regarding any health issue and also having the leaflets that are handed out with the questions you posed would certainly be a step in the right direction.
Fiona, thank you for a great blog. Your love, sparkle and joy shine through, and I love the questions you ask about how we live as women and how these choices impact us.
I am not surprised that the woman handing out the questionnaires did not recognise you as a patient Fiona ;0) Your sparkle is felt for miles!
I loved re-reading your blog Fiona, thank you. ‘I know that before the chemotherapy and the esoteric healing I had no idea what being a woman truly meant. I looked outside for an answer on how to be a woman. With the healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.’ Beautiful!
What a beautiful response Jane, and how amazing it would be indeed if true support and opportunity for reflection like this was given to women throughout their healing process.
Yes, I agree Janet and Jane! How amazing would it be if true support and opportunity for reflection like this was given to women throughout their healing process!
My recollection of the counselling which was given to me was to get rid of my low cut dresses before my surgery and accept that my life would be changing. It was Serge Benhayon who offered me the opportunity to consider how I, and my female relatives, had been living and support for me to make a lasting change..
So yes, it would be great to have that support from the doctors and nurses, part of me wonders though whether we should be supporting them to reflect on how they live their lives in what seemed like a very busy hospital department.
This is an amazing and enlightening writing and from my own experience every part is so True. Marrying Conventional and Esoteric Medicine together is the only way with which there is then the potential for healing to happen and how we live as women will change and the breast cancer figures turn around. Inspirational!
yes Jane, it would be so beautiful and healing if time was made for such conversations to take place and for women to be given the opportunity to allow themselves the time to reflect on how they are living their lives.
And yes it would be great to have blogs like these in womens magazines – let me know if you feel there is a way to do this.
What an awesome and beautiful woman you are Fiona. No wonder the woman handing out the questionnaire’s didn’t recognise you as a cancer patient. I wonder if she herself stopped to become conscious of why that was? No doubt she could feel your beauty and your sparkle and playfulness that you take like a shining beacon into a place where people are feeling really up against it. I am full of admiration for who you are and what you are being!
Hi Lyndy,
i often smile to myself when others do not seem aware of how well I look and am despite what the body is going through. They want to focus on what I maybe can’t do and not feel the beauty that I now radiate – so I feel it’s for me to constantly claim the amazingness of this healing.
Keep shining your light Fiona! Your blog is so inspirational and healing for those who may be facing a similar diagnosis. You are showing that there is another way and yes, you are amazing!
What a power-full piece of writing, and I 100% agree if we want to utilise modern medicine to its full capacity we need to marry it to the esoteric, they go hand in hand when it come to health and supporting the human body.
What a beauti-full reflection and inspiration you are to all women-being so honest and truthfull re cause of breast cancer and taking responsibility by committing to life.
Beautiful article Fiona, who ever said to keep writing knew what they were talking about!
Fiona I am inspired by the way you totally take responsibility for the choices you made which created stress and disharmony in the body, and your ability to accept without judgement, your body now. What an amazing, courageous healing path you are living!
I agree with what you have said Bernadette. I felt the lightness in the article, the responsibility about choices that were made, acceptance of self and the changes that Fiona is making as a loving commitment to herself on her healing path.. Truly inspirational Fiona.
So true Fiona their is a marriage between Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine and you are a shining example of it. It has been amazing to follow your journey through this blog and feel your strength and depth of understanding for your cancer. Knowing what it is to be a woman is something so many of us have forgotten, and re-claiming this is an necessary part of any healing.
Dear Fiona as I read your words I felt how fortunate it was / is for all women in and out of the waiting room to have the beautiful reflection of true health that you bring, deep felt thanks to you.
Dear Fiona as i read your words I felt how fortunate it is for all women in and out of the waiting room to have the beautiful reflection
you are, deep felt thanks to you
whats an awesome and beautifully written piece. You are an inspiration. I could read your writing all day.
Me too! Inspirational to read how we can choose to live with cancer, rather than fight it as a victim.
Thank you Fiona for a beautiful reflection of what it means to be a woman who is living with cancer rather than a victim of the big C.
And what a shining, guiding light you are Fiona, not only for women but for all and especially the medical fraternity. Your reflection is amazing…