Breast Cancer: what links us?

by Fiona McGovern

Last week as I sat in the over-full waiting room for my oncology appointment, a woman passed me by handing out questionnaires on the chemotherapy and cancer services in our local health board area. I asked if I could have one and she apologised as she had not recognised me as a cancer patient. She explained that the number of cancer patients was predicted to rise by 9% in the next few years and the services could not cope as they are at present, so the questionnaire was to establish where their resources should be spent in order to best cope.

I pondered on how best to answer the questions.  I felt supported by the present system but knew too well that some basic questions were not being asked: why do so many women have breast cancer?  How are women living that creates such an illness in their bodies? How can we educate and support our young girls to be, so that breast cancer is not inevitable for them?

I looked around and observed my fellow patients: there were women of all sizes, from all backgrounds, most with children, some like me with none. There were those who dressed elegantly, some sexily, some plainly, some were chatty, others kept themselves to themselves.

What then linked us?

When I have chatted to them many have questioned why it is happening and most will then find an answer in the environmental pollution around here, the nuclear fallout from Chernobyl.  None buy the genetic explanation, many have experienced bereavement or family fallouts, a few will say as women we are under too much stress to be perfect at all things…. as yet I have not met one who will take responsibility for the life and choices they have made to date, although they all nod when I say I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.

I took a deeper look at the eyes of the women and I saw fear, anxiousness, a bewilderment, a shutting down, a giving up; they said “let’s just get this over with and return to how we were.”

What links us – we are all women.

But do we know what being a true woman means?

I know that before the chemotherapy and the esoteric healing I had no idea what being a woman truly meant. I looked outside for an answer on how to be  a woman.  With the healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.

How different the ward would feel if all the patients and staff knew that the healing lay in this reconnection.

So is the marriage of Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine the way the health services can address the ever-rising numbers of women with breast cancer?  I feel it is the only way.

It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.

 

211 thoughts on “Breast Cancer: what links us?

  1. So many want to ‘get over ‘ their illness and return ‘to a normal life’. Yet it is this way of living that contributes to the illness in the first place. Bring on the day when we all start to take more responsibility for our ill health, rather than blaming outside influences or ‘bad luck’.

    1. Sue I have observed the same. Illness is often seen as a weakness rather than a blessing and opportunity to look more deeply into how we are living. It usually causes a ‘stop’ in our lives, to reflect and re-connect to the wisdom of our soul and learn the lessons being presented. To rush back to work and seemingly normal life without connecting to this wisdom means we re-enter the ferris wheel of life with the same quality of energy we left it and could easily repeat the very conditions and life-styles that caused the illness in the first place.

    2. Why do we consider pushing ourselves to be normal, and strive to get the illness over and done with so that we can get back to that? We all know it feels horrible in our bodies, that it makes us hard, yet we continue to push on through, driven by false ideals and pictures we’re holding onto about how or who we need to be, instead of letting go and accepting that we are already enough, that nothing we can do is greater than who we already are.

  2. The true sickness is not just cancer; it’s inhabiting bodies that we have no relationship with. It’s like driving a car with a hood over our eyes, with no idea where we’re going and the harm we’re causing to ourselves.

  3. ‘a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be’ what an amazing way to live and be, and how awesome to find this and to come to the understanding that cancer can be a gift to undo those behaviours which are not true and to come back to the true woman. Fiona has blazed a trail for all of us in this and her absolute grace in how she approached and lived this is deeply inspiring. We need to look beyond the surface in what we see and understand there is something further at play here so the question for all of us is how are we living as women? And do we know what it is to be a woman? Do we understand and live in a way that knows that a woman lives from the inside out, not the outside in? And perhaps the biggest question of all, are we willing to see and accept that we are where we are due to the choices we’ve made. This is something for us all to explore and live.

  4. I recall an incident in the 1980s when a female sales person shocked me by turning to me and saying you men have had it all your own way but that is all about to change, you are going to discover that us women are smarter than you and tougher than you. You won’t know what has hit you because you are so complacent in your superiority. And she was right, from that wake up call I realised and started to notice more and more that women had changed and were harder and more aggressive than men. I was very sad that women were no longer the gentle tender caring creatures that I had always loved and respected and were now fully in competition with me. Could this be where the huge escalation in breast cancer originates? Women no longer living as true women but instead living in the energy of men?

  5. I agree the way forward with medicine is a marriage of Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine, they both have much to offer.

  6. ‘Being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.’ So eloquently and beautifully written. As I reconnect to more of who I truly am within, simply by stopping to breathe and feel that stillness we all hold within, I discover that being a woman, being me, is nothing like I thought it would be. There’s no earth-shattering emergence of a powerful woman, but a gentle unfolding of inner stillness and strength. It’s got nothing to do with making it look good from the outside, with my hair, make up and nails – for if there is no inner connection first, all of this is just empty decoration, with no substance. When I feel who I truly am and connect to that and then do my make up and nails, it becomes a confirmation, an expansion, of the beauty and grace I’m already feeling.

  7. The fact that the cancer rates were predicted to rise by 9% should make us stop right away. What’s going on in our personal world to make our bodies attack themselves this way? Could it be that this is just a symbol for the way we treat ourselves? For something serious is not working. Like a child trying to pursue an impossible dream to prove ‘they can do it’, we relentlessly push on. But there is no need and actually no-one to please.

  8. “With the healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.”
    Every woman deserves to read these words and be given the opportunity to ponder, to stop and again reconnect to their own beauty within and rejoice in their radiance.

  9. There are lots of popular theories currently bandied around as to what causes breast cancer but none of them have succeeded in stopping the rise of this condition. Could the answer lie in how a woman chooses to live based on how connected she is to her true essence? Have we really fully explored this option before we dismiss it as too simple?

  10. “I looked outside for an answer on how to be a woman.” I spent many years searching outside to find myself, it seemed like I was going around in circles, feeling more confused than when I first started. Then I discovered through Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine that the answers I wanted to know could all be answered in looking within myself and connecting to the truth I felt from my body. It made absolute sense. I am now building a deeper relationship and presence with myself and enjoying opening up to living more of the woman I know myself to be.

  11. How different would the whole world be, if we made it about connection first – a connection to the stillness and steadiness we all hold within, and lived and connected with others from there, instead of trying to search for things on the outside to fill us up and distract us from this lack of connection. I remember when I first came across this idea of ‘connection’ to myself. It seemed so foreign, so distant, I couldn’t imagine that there was anything within me worth connecting to. All I could feel, when I dared to go there, was anxiety. But the more I’ve slowed down and just taken the time to be still, and be with me, without ‘doing’ anything, the more I’ve experienced a deep contentment and joy in the just being, instead of the doing. It’s a space and grace that comes from within and isn’t reliant on anything outside of me.

  12. What a woman can be ‘a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.’ and to know that it’s always there ready and waiting. Not knowing how to truly live as women is deeply affecting all of us, yet within us is the deep knowing of what this is.

  13. Fiona presents a great point ‘as yet I have not met one who will take responsibility for the life and choices they have made to date, although they all nod when I say I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.’ When we look at illness and disease more deeply especially cancer, if we are truly honest with ourselves we know that the choices we make are not coincidental to our health. An opportunity for us all to feel into the choices we make and take responsibility for ourselves.

  14. “let’s just get this over with and return to how we were.” Thank you. I was at a meeting yesterday where there was very much a ‘let’s get this over with’ attitude and now I am wondering where that came from. Is there a desire to move on or to go back to where we were? It certainly feels like a kind of giving up, as if we are tired and don’t want to really engage fully with the situation but sweep whatever is getting in the way under the carpet rather than acknowledging what is getting in the way and sweeping it clean.

  15. What a joy it was to meet Fiona McGovern a few years back – there was a quality in her eyes that was irresistible and drew me from across a room to see and speak with her. A beautiful woman living from her truth.
    “It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be”.

  16. There are some great questions about and some great realisation around cancers. Just as a note I had to look up what oncology meant, I’d heard it plenty of times but never taken the time to actually acknowledge what it meant. Anyway we make some great discussions around cancers, great research and the list goes on. But with respect if we are still rising then we need to look bigger and wider. Something we are all doing to ourselves, because we are all on this planet living together is literally killing us off. I know if there was a particular part of the world people visited that killed them in the proportions cancer did we would not visit this area at all and it would be off limits to everyone and besides the keep out signs we would be actively stopping people to go there. Yet we have smoking for instance and it becomes ‘their’ choice which is true in part but why do we just stand by? I am not saying we need to tackle every person that tries to smoke but what else can we do to support them. Can we change them or do we need to make changes ourselves in such a consistent way that no one on the planet would ever dream of hurting themselves or another. This is the link, if as a world we are rising illness and disease at these rates then not only are we all responsible but we need to action ‘our’ part now. Not only to stop the rise but to truly support people.

  17. Health services are already overwhelmed with the numbers presenting with breast cancer and other diseases where lifestyle choices are a causal factor. Until we are willing to address the part that we have played in becoming a disease statistic the numbers will continue to grow and our health services will be bankrupted. Fiona was so inspiring in how she approached her life through all her treatment and her legacy lives on in her writings and the understandings she shared about her journey with a lightness of touch and her ever present joy for life.

  18. Some great points and this poses questions that no one is asking but which need to be asked. And the point that none of the women buy the genetic explanation was interesting. Since breast cancer was comparatively rare only a couple of generations ago and now it is an epidemic means that it cannot be caused by genetics so far as I can see.

  19. There is so much that Western medicine can do and is doing for the rising numbers of women who present with breast cancer and most people would acknowledge this but how many of us have been fortunate enough to also allow Esoteric Medicine to be the other half of the healing marriage? I know how powerful this combination can be and it really does seem the only way we are gong to see a big shift in healing diseases of any kind.

  20. This is quite spot on. The health industry poses some questions regarding the rise of cancer, but not others. And, the ones that do not ask, are those that hold the key on the matter. The focus on management is only the consequence of not focusing enough on the cause and of not being open to explanations that are not within the current medical paradigm.

  21. I’ve read many testimonials in regards to Cancer and the support Esoteric Healing can bring to those going through cancer treatments (or any other medical conditions) and there is a lot of anecdotal evidence that shows that these two can and do work beautifully together. The health systems don’t have all the answers, otherwise wouldn’t illness rates be dropping not rising? In my own experience and in those around me health rates are increasing and this wasn’t the case until Esoteric Medicine came into their lives.

  22. “I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.” This is such a beautiful description of connecting to our essence, and I agree with Fiona, if people knew about this way of reconnecting back to this innate way of being, there would be true change in relationships, in the way women and men relate with themselves and interact each other.

  23. In our search for what is the cause, what is responsible, what is to blame for the illness and dis-ease that we are experiencing within ourselves and in our bodies, we so often negate the possibility that we are the ones responsible for every part of the way our lives are lived. In being open to this possibility we begin to understand that our every choice shapes the quality in which our lives are lived, and that this is in essence a reflection of the degree of love within us that we are choosing to surrender to or be in union with.

  24. Allowing space in my body for the qualities of tenderness and delicateness, of purity and innocence, of sweetness and playfullness of sexiness and grace, of strength and power, all these and more , allowing them to surface from within rather than adopting their ways as we have been taught or told they should be. A new way of being that can start even way past menopause. A way of being that can be initiated whatever our state of health, even with a terminal illness. The marriage of Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine supports this return to living and being a true woman in the world.

  25. True and deep healing comes from within and our willingness to be honest and take responsibility first and foremost and then conventional medicine can do what it does so well with much more efficacy and genuine support from the patient. The two work hand in hand then.

  26. It is so gorgeous to read how esoteric medicine has empowered you to be yourself and find the woman within so that you can rejoice in the radiance of that. This is a rarity and yet would be transformational globally should others know of the healing that lay in the reconnection your have found from this. Currently we are suffering in the fall out of disconnection and the ill health world wide is a stark reflection of this.

  27. That the number of cancer patients in your area was predicted to rise by 9% in the next few years Fiona is alarming. And though it is very practical to ask all of the patients who are being cared for within the system at that present time to do a survey, I cannot but wonder if that survey was also considering the root cause of why so many people are getting cancer in the first place.

  28. What is remarkable about what is shared here is so few are indeed asking the questions, truly asking the questions of what is going on here, with so many women having breast cancer as but one example here. Many of us just want to battle on when we are faced with any illness or accident, but the truth is that we are offered a stop in these moments in a very clear and definitive way, and the question then becomes what do we do with it? Do we dig deep and look at how we live and make changes to more clearly support us or do we battle on, determined to get it over with so we can get back to how we were? Do we live the depth of the women we are, and do we see that each thing offered to us might in fact be allowing us to find our way to that, for some it will be cancer, for others something else. Are we willing to look underneath? Are we willing to change?

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