by Julie Snelgrove, Teaching Assistant, Somerset, England, UK
I first met Serge Benhayon 9 years ago, and the impact on myself and family has been profound. As a result we have made great changes, and had we not, I am sure life would be quite a mess by now.
The areas that have most been impacted are:
- the care and attention I now bring to myself, thus having
- a positive effect on my health and wellbeing and feeling of self worth,
- how I relate to my family and
- my attitude towards conventional medicine.
I attended my first presentation by Serge Benhayon at a time in my life when I was in overwhelm and exhaustion, though to myself or most outsiders this did not seem the case. I was a single mother with two young children, and was driven in fulfilling this role ‘perfectly’. All my time was dedicated to them, 24 hours a day, as they were being homeschooled. This meant I had no job and was reliant on my ex-husband financially. I had just completed training to be an alternative therapist, as I had been against conventional medicine since around the age of 15 – though for no particular reason, other than thinking it had nothing to offer other than making people sicker. Consequently I used many alternative medicines to manage my health. I even refused to go to the doctors for antibiotics or painkillers when I was seriously ill or my children were unwell.
When I first met Serge Benhayon I heard him talk and be very positive about conventional medicine – something I had never come across ever in any complementary therapy presentation.
After I was diagnosed with breast cancer I felt it was necessary to consider conventional medicine, which I did slowly. As I spoke with and had more correspondence via email with Serge Benhayon, it helped me break down the negativity I held towards medical professionals, so it wasn’t long before I could fully accept all that medicine had to offer to support my body to treat the breast cancer. I learnt to work with the doctors and felt empowered in all the relationships I developed with the medics helping me.
In all my correspondence and communication with Serge Benhayon regarding breast cancer, I was always met with absolute understanding of the disease and what was happening, but there was something else I would feel, and that is that I was not the disease but rather me as a woman first. Feeling this meant that I could feel a quality, or something in myself equal to Serge Benhayon, that meant I was worth looking after. I began making changes in how I treated myself and regarded my body. This greatly improved my relationship with myself and with my family.
In using conventional medicine and then feeling supported to look deeper within me, I have had an extremely positive experience with a life threatening disease. This experience came from the way I approached breast cancer, in that it wasn’t something to ‘just get through’ but an opportunity to stop and reflect on how I was living in every area of my life, particularly in regards to how I treated myself and was towards my family.
In time, I also met Serge Benhayon’s wife, Miranda, and his children (all equally as loving and responsible adults). Watching them and how they all related with each other was not how I had seen families and behaviours play out before. There is a love, care and depth of respect that is always felt around them. When my children were introduced to them they felt the same, and they absolutely love spending time with the Benhayons whenever they can, and are always welcomed as part of their family.
From these observations and from questions I had asked Serge Benhayon over the years, I grew to learn that being in a family was not about controlling and imposing on my children, to be and become all that I would like them to be, but rather to show love and care towards myself, then this would happen naturally in the family, as they could accept and be themselves. Being a mother does not mean sacrificing myself as I was previously doing, having no respect for my body in how I treated myself. I had accepted it was normal for me to be living constantly feeling tired and then regularly using alcohol and certain foods to bring comfort and relief to the lousy choices I was making.
Everything – as in time, understanding, commitment, respect and care – Serge Benhayon has offered through email correspondence or in person, has been of the same quality as I see him give to everyone, whether this is his family, a work colleague, my family, friends or a tradesman. My experiences have shown me that Serge Benhayon practises true charity – where he often gives freely of his time and expertise with no personal gain or recognition for himself.
Through knowing Serge Benhayon over the last 9 years, my life has changed hugely, in particular the love, care and sense of worth I now feel towards myself which has brought many changes:
- I am no longer exhausted
- I feel vital and healthy
- I have a relationship with my body and know how to treat it with care
- I now utilize the skills and services of conventional medicine
- My relationship with my children has changed and we work on developing care and love within it
- My children have attended school for the past 7 years and are responsible teenagers who have not been seduced with alcohol, cigarettes and drugs. Though they feel all the same pressures as other teenagers and encounter the same difficulties and upsets, they have support and love around them to talk through any issues.
- I work full time in a local school, as well as volunteering in a local hospice, a children’s centre and breast cancer support groups.
My life and the responsibility I take in it towards myself, my choices, my family, friends and work is unrecognisable from how life used to be. I have also witnessed this for many, many other people I know. This is down to one man who has simply, openly shared and presented how he lives his life, all of which makes sense, and he has never watered this down in fear of how it might upset another. He has met, accepted and understood me on every level, even at times when I have not been able to do so myself! His way is unimposing and is only ever loving, which means I have chosen to make changes for myself in my own time with no sense of pressure – all of these unique qualities I had not felt previously in anyone else I had met through my life.
For this I will feel eternally thank full and appreciative of all that has been brought to me, to my family and my relationships with many other people, as I constantly feel inspired to learn and develop more.
Medicine and Serge Benhayon 
What I so deeply appreciate when returning to blogs written a while ago is how the teachings of the Ancient Wisdom always always have a place to support us to keep learning and developing to go deeper in our relationship with ourself, others and the constant communication from the space around us. Whether it is our own personal illness or dis-ease or that which is happening with others there is ALWAYS so much more to learn as we deepen and unfold. Despite the chaos that is happening around us there is always the calm within to return to and hold as sacred.
In hindsight I now fully agree the my normal was awful, however as you also state I also did not realise that I was on the path of self destruction before the diagnosis of disease.But I did know I was not feeling great most of the time and was making no attempt in changing how I lived to change this this feeling as the way I thought my life needed to be was more important.
Knowing you personally as I do Julie I have to say you are amazing. I had totally forgotten you had breast cancer as you are so vital and full of energy. My question has to be: why is there not more attention given to the union of Esoteric Medicine and Western Medicine. Surely this is worth looking into?
‘..it wasn’t something to ‘just get through’ but an opportunity to stop and reflect on how I was living in every area of my life, particularly in regards to how I treated myself and was towards my family.’ So often when confronted with a serious illness we just want to get better so we can get back to how life was before, but in reflecting deeply on how our health and vitality have been impacted by life choices, we grow, learn and evolve.
“Through knowing Serge Benhayon over the last 9 years, my life has changed hugely, in particular the love, care and sense of worth I now feel towards myself which has brought many changes:” I agree for myself too Julie. Certainly more vitality due to my changes in lifestyle – through my own choice – than I would have if I’d kept on doing what I was previously doing.
Julie, this statement stood out for me, ‘I was not the disease but rather me as a woman first’. I felt this is the case with any illness/disease where we have separated from ourselves.
I love how you have turned your life around from putting others first, to placing yourself at the fore front, now that’s not selfish instead, its self loving and nurturing. Thank you for inspiring others.
It’s just incredible when someone never tells you what to do, no imposition, no coercion, no convincing whatsoever, but you are able to say this person has changed everything for you. That is true inspiration.
I agree Fumiyo. Just by the sheer reflection that is so consistantly offered with absolute truth, are we inspired to look at and make such substantial and lasting changes to our lives.
Not only what you have expressed is spot on, Fumiyo, I’d like to add that we can be living, walking proof that reflects to others, there is another way of living, without uttering a single word.
So true Shushila. I attended a memorial service for a friend and hadn’t seen any of my friends who lived close by for a few years, as I had moved house. I knew I looked well. One person asked me if I had a man in my life! What a sad indictment of society that there must be that sort of a reason to be looking so vital and well!
Feeling that we are worth taking care of is the best medicine and goes a long way to taking responsibility for our own health.
So true Julie. if we don’t value ourselves then we wont bother to care for ourselves or look after our body. We then go to the medical profession to rescue us. Taking responsibility is key.
“I was not the disease but rather me as a woman first.” This is a powerful understanding for anyone who is experiencing a serious illness or disease.
The important thing to note is that you can actually change your health BEFORE you get sick – and we have the full opportunity to turn our health around through every single choice that we make.
Yes, it’s so much harder to turn things around when we are well than when we have a disease. Yet there are so many still who want to return to their old life that produced the illness in the first place. Almost as if we prefer our coffee and sugar fix etc to being well. When mainstream doctors take on board the real effect of lifestyle changes maybe things will change.
The deepening of self care and self love encompasses such a broad meaning of medicine.
“My life and the responsibility I take in it towards myself, my choices, my family, friends and work is unrecognisable from how life used to be.” This is the case for so many students of Universal Medicine who take such loving care of their own health and wellbeing – and reflect this out to others.
“Being a mother does not mean sacrificing myself” – this is so true and women the world over would benefit from these true words. Sacrificing ourselves does not support anyone, least of all ourselves.
If only this were mentioned to all new parents. So many end up exhausted. What effect does this have on their children and what a pattern for them to follow for future generations!
This is so true Sue, how our children are likely to follow the same patterns, I know I did. Then this justifies the story that breast cancer can be hereditary. However is it that the disease is hereditary, or that the same behaviours and movements are carried on to ensure the same disease is manifested in the body? Going along with the hereditary story and blaming our genes, means we do not have to take responsibility for our choices and behaviours.
My life has also changed beyond recognition since applying what Serge Benhayon presents into my own life and my own pace. There’s no pressure or even expectation to take on board what he presents, the results speak for themselves in his own life and in those of now thousands of others.
Serge Benhayon has introduced modalities to the world that support people to bring real and lasting change into their lives.
Another miracle from being a student of the Ageless Wisdom. – http://www.unimedliving.com/ageless-wisdom
“My children have attended school for the past 7 years and are responsible teenagers who have not been seduced with alcohol, cigarettes and drugs. Though they feel all the same pressures as other teenagers and encounter the same difficulties and upsets, they have support and love around them to talk through any issues.” This alone in this day and age is a miracle.
It is incredible to observe how one choice based on an ideal or belief can actually be so damaging to us, as like you shared for instance avoiding western medicine, and then imagine having loads of these ideals and beliefs that are not truly true to our bodies and being.
Serge is absolutely a deeply inspiring person, often I’ve heard other people doing presentations and the words might have been inspiring to me but afterwards there were no real changes in my life. To be honest it was more about the presenter and not truly serving the audience. What I’ve found with Serge is what he shares is never imposing, never for him, it’s spoken with love and truth, meaning there are no expectations or needs placed on the audience, and it’s practical, real and relates to and is applicable to every part of life. Serge lives what he shares so I can see the outcomes of what he presents. What Serge offers is also self empowering as it’s our connection to ourselves and our body that prompts the changes, it’s listening to and honouring our own feelings and truth. Serge is truly an amazing fellow.
It is interesting how we can think we are being responsible in how we live but we do so with blinkers on and therefore we are not open to anything else. Serge Benhayon through the way he lives, his incredible and deeply felt wisdom is able to show us how blinkered and set in our ways we all can be.
I have found that through responsibility I can not sit back in the comfort that I once did, I now find myself taking responsibility for my choices because they not only affect me but they affect others too.
If there is no self-care then there can only be self-abuse.
Simple powerful words.
True, and at the same time self care has no end, as there are constantly new levels to be embraced, when we start to consider and live it in our life.
This man has changed so much for so many. A weight that has lifted beyond measure and the lengths of deepening and surrender are beyond words.