Alcohol & Cigarettes: the body’s cry for moments of stillness.

by Sue Kira, Naturopath, Gold Coast, Australia. 

When I am with clients who are suffering from fatigue, we discuss the things that may have been draining their energy.

Some share with me how they like to have a glass of wine or two at the end of each day to wind down. It can make the difference between them saying to their kids, “Ok it’s bath time darlings”, rather than angrily blurting out “get in the bath you little monsters or I’ll…!”

All they want is some peace and quiet at the end of the day. How often have we used a glass of wine, a cigarette or even a cup of tea or coffee to sit quietly and unwind? That moment when you have a sip of the drink, or drag on the cigarette and you are totally focused on the moment; think about it…the long drag in and then exhale with relief, or the sip, swallow and the ‘ahhhh’ as you breathe out with ‘relief’ and relaxation.

I realised that what people often miss when they give up these things is the time to simply relax and just ‘be’, because our bodies really crave moments of stillness.

I remembered how I did the same thing. These moments are our search for stillness, but the substances we choose to use actually take us away from true stillness. The caffeine in tea and coffee, the sugar in alcohol, and the nicotine in cigarettes, all make us racy, running faster inside than our natural rhythm.

At other times I would stop on my way home from work and just sit by the river to relax before going home to the family. It was a moment just for me; a moment of stillness to reflect and just ‘be’.

I chat with my clients about how easy it is to create moments of stillness that don’t have to be harmful to the body. By creating a space for ourselves of only a few minutes to sit, close our eyes, breathe very gently and feel our body, feet and eyes relaxing and our hands resting on our thighs, we can feel an absolute presence with ourselves. And then, by gently opening our eyes, we can hold that feeling of gentleness and presence and continue to be with ourselves.

When we share a few minutes of doing this together in the clinic, they are often amazed at how lovely they can feel in a very short time without substances, tapes or any cost and how they can do this at any time, even with their eyes open.

We may also discuss how being calm and present with children can bring them to gentleness and calmness. Some have noticed that when they are ‘actively present’ with their kids by maintaining eye contact and really connecting ‘with’ them, they are lovely and calm and less aggressive. They have also noticed that when they are stressed and cranky, the kids are harder to be with, which makes things worse for all.

While there is no need to speak about esoteric ways and esoteric healing or the fact that I learnt how to access stillness and presence through Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon and the many wonderful esoteric practitioners that I have had the pleasure to spend time with, it has been a deeply profound experience for me and for my clients to feel how easily we can feel this way any time we choose.

646 thoughts on “Alcohol & Cigarettes: the body’s cry for moments of stillness.

  1. I have also done this in the past
    ‘At other times I would stop on my way home from work and just sit by the river to relax before going home to the family. It was a moment just for me; a moment of stillness to reflect and just ‘be’.’
    Only it wasn’t a moment to reflect and just be with me it was a moment to brace myself before going home as what was there to be faced was a relationship I no longer wanted to be in.

  2. My husband used to smoke around 20 roll ups a day, he had tried giving up before and nothing worked, the only thing that did it was him reconnecting and getting to know his true self again, this was helped by the amazing teachings of the amazing Serge Benhayon.

  3. I’m learning that there is a part of me that actually wants to avoid the stillness of my body and I will use certain sugary foods to race my body to avoid the stillness that I can now easily access. It’s as though I want some time out from the harmony I can feel in my body when I am in stillness. Being racy keeps me in the individuality of being human and I feel I am in control. It’s great to expose the part of us that does not want to go back to the stillness it separated from in the first place because if it does it will no longer be individual but part of the whole. The urge to stay in creation rather than in co-creation I feel is the biggest hurdle we all have to overcome.

    1. “Being racy keeps me in the individuality of being human and I feel I am in control” what’s interesting Mary is that when we are in the illusion of individuality and also the illusion of being in control then this is evidence of the fact that we are neither being us (the real us, which is the collective us) or are we in control. In fact the opposite is true, we are being something that in truth we are not and dictated by a force that is outside of us. Pure cannon fodder for the forces that would prefer us not to know the truth of who we all are.

      1. What you have shared Alexis is true that feeling that we are in control really means we are totally out of control we are caught up in a false reality. What many of us do not want to hear is that we are
        ‘Pure cannon fodder for the forces that would prefer us not to know the truth of who we all are.’
        What you have shared here is massive and will not be accepted for a very long time but just because it will not be accepted in todays society doesn’t take away the truth of what you have said.

  4. I can relate to people using food, drinks or substances that are foreign to the body, to relax them. I once used to do this, but what I hadn’t realised at that time, was the fact that I used them as my form of reward for working hard. It was my trophy every weekend or at the end of a hard day at work.

    I’ve let go of many of those things and from time to time, there’s a little spirit in me that likes to hang onto things or will play up and be unruly. And when this occurs, I observe not only how it affects my body, but what I have done to reach for these things. I haven’t quite mastered it but I’m a lot more observant what I put into my body now than I was once upon a time.

  5. ‘I chat with my clients about how easy it is to create moments of stillness that don’t have to be harmful to the body’ Interesting how we need to re-teach ourselves how to be still. As young children this was so natural and yet life teaches it out of us so that we have to resort to artificial and harmful ways of trying to achieve the same thing. As Fumiyo shares above – the cigarette, the alcohol or whatever it is, is never going to be able to generate that connection as these substances take us further away from that connection not towards it.

  6. “a moment of stillness to reflect and just ‘be’.” The Gentle Breath Meditation is a prescription freely available to all to offer a moment of stillness.

    1. “a moment of stillness to reflect and just be’ – YOU. Nothing else, just you and to be with you and nothing less than this.

  7. We are all seeking stillness, because this is our natural way of being, but humanity is now living in perpetual motion, so it is impossible to move from motion into stillness, without a bridge such as the Gentle Breath Meditation, which allows us a moment to stop and connect back to ourselves. We instead have reduced ourselves into accepting a bastardised version of stillness, through substances such as alcohol or cigarettes, TV, or food, all of which numb us to into a false thinking that relaxing with a glass of wine while sitting in front of the TV will give us the stillness we so desperately seek.

  8. It’s interesting that we know what the body needs but we go to substances that do the opposite. For instance, we know that we want to relax at the end of the day and have a chance to recoup after a full day’s work but what we put in our bodies will not give us the stillness we are so desperately wanting but only mask over the tension we feel; be it the TV, food, alcohol, computer games, all of which offer us a relief via distraction.

  9. Alcohol and cigarettes numb the body, so we don’t feel the tension or our true essence. We can easily mistake the numbness for feeling relaxed, hence why both these substances are so addictive because once the effects wear off, we can feel the tension again. But if we live in a way that reduces or even eliminates tension and reconnects us to stillness from within, then we are not so reliant on any external substances to give us a high or a low.

    1. Chanly88 I agree with you when the effects of the alcohol wear off we are still left with the issue and we feel the negative effects of the alcohol in our bodies, so actually we are worse off. If we were to deal with the issue then our bodies would be clearer and the need for alcohol would lessen as we wouldn’t need the temporary relief alcohol gives us.

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