Missing periods – it’s not normal

 Gyl Rae, Teacher, Scotland

Last year I visited the doctor, after not having my periods for three months. During our conversation I was told to ‘not worry’ about it, and this was normal.

Every cell in my body knows truth ­­– this is not normal.

Our bodies are intrinsically made up in a way that is in divine order with God, working in natural rhythms and cycles, just like nature and the Universe. Every month a woman’s body creates and releases an egg, which, if not fertilized, results in her having a period – this is normal.

For some women this may not be the case, and missing our periods is a clear sign from our body, telling us that how we are choosing to live is out of rhythm; it’s not ‘normal’ or ‘natural’ for us. So why is it we choose to ignore or override our body and believe that we can make something that is not our natural divine order and rhythm our normal?

Could it be a way we avoid responsibility? I know it was for me.

The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.

By stillness I don’t mean lying down on the couch, feet up, not moving; I mean embodying the quality of stillness in my body. In stillness there is no doing, only being, and in this there is no way you can deny you are divine and deeply connected to God. There is a natural rhythm, life flows, there’s no need to try, push or rush. Stillness is as natural to us as breathing; it never leaves us.

I was living in a way where there was a large amount of motion and anxiety in my body. By this I simply mean thinking, over thinking, doing lots of things, fighting my awareness of what I feel, surplus activity, planning ahead, e.g. driving home and thinking about other things instead of the one thing my body is currently doing. You could call it ‘checking out’ – basically, not being fully present with my body in what it is doing – making dinner in a rush, or running a bath at the same time as checking my phone, eating when I don’t need to, writing an email and walking the dog – slight exaggeration here, but you get what I mean. There were moments where I was very still and brought that to my day, but I was living in a way that was not true to the innate divine wisdom, stillness and sacredness, I am and come from.

Motion is not a bad thing, but not in the excess that 99% of us live in, that constant doing, distraction and raciness. It’s about learning to deeply embody and connect to the quality of stillness in my body first – then doing what needs to be done from there – rather than from raciness, stress, drive, nervous energy or anxiety.

So when the doctor said to wait another three months and if my periods didn’t return, to come back and we would contact the hospital to run some tests; this is exactly what we did.

At the same time, I sought support from Universal Medicine Practitioners who confirmed what I felt.

If it was not for Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon I would have carried on living the way I was, in total disregard, and not seen this as an opportunity to take responsibility for my choices and how I live. Both Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon have always been and are an incredible support in my life by reflecting how to deeply honour, nurture and take care of myself and my body.

So three months later at the hospital, I had several blood tests taken, alongside internal and external scans – they all came back negative. I know it was deeply supportive, responsible and honouring of my body to get these tests done, to make sure everything internally was okay and there were no major medical issues causing this.

After eleven months of not having my period, it was suggested I go on the pill for six months to see if it helped my periods return naturally, to build oestrogen levels and keep the onset of osteoporosis at bay – as there were warning signs of this on one of the test results. This is something I started to do, but felt the pill was not supporting me, so after a few months I consulted with the Doctor and chose to stop taking it. I worked closely with an Esoteric Naturopath on rebuilding the health of my body from the inside out, through food, nutrition, supplements and vitamins, alongside watching overactive thoughts.

Coupled with this I have been working with an Esoteric Connective Tissue Practitioner on a regular body movement program, alongside attending courses in Esoteric Yoga for Woman. Both of which I have found, and am finding deeply supportive and nurturing. I didn’t realise just how disconnected from my body, my ovaries and being a woman I was. From the first session this has changed. I am re-learning what it is to truly be a woman again.

On a practical level how does this look everyday? I’m re-learning to deeply take care of myself and my body, to nurture myself, to speak and live my truth, deepen my awareness and honour my feelings again.

There are gentle Connective Tissue exercises I do every day, when I need to, I stop to feel my breath in my body, how my body feels, rather than rushing to get something done or go to the next place.

Being aware of the quality in which I move, is it delicate, tender and gentle or is it hard and harsh? Feeling that I don’t have to do everything at once, nor by myself, and that it’s okay to say no or ask for support, speaking up when needed, rather than holding back what needs to be said. Not over-eating and stopping when I feel to rest. Living what I know, instead of knowing it from my head. Setting up my home, my car and my space in a way that supports and confirms me – my safe space, so there’s lots of order, precision and space, as this is what I love and deeply confirms who I am.

This is an unfolding process, but what I do know is, it is both Esoteric Medicine and Western Medicine that have supported me to take responsibility and address the moment-to-moment choices that I have made and make in life. The combination of both Esoteric Medicine and Western Medicine  is deeply supportive and nurturing; together they are supporting me to return to living the true woman that I am.

With this support, and the choices I am making my periods have come back, but I know this is not the end. I know it’s time to continue deepening my connection to the stillness and sacredness in my body, and with that even more Ancient Wisdom.

With absolute thanks and deep love to Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon – for their consistent deep love and care.

 

Read more:

  1. Women’s periods 101
  2. Our monthly period – curse of woman’s wonder?

692 thoughts on “Missing periods – it’s not normal

  1. What you have highlighted here Gyl needs to be deeply considered, we run our body so far from our natural rhythm that we often miss what our body is truly communicating on a deeper level. Building our awareness and relationship with our body is key to knowing ourselves from an inner stillness that is our true nature and rhythm.

  2. “Being aware of the quality in which I move, is it delicate, tender and gentle or is it hard and harsh?” This one is a cracker to be aware of. So simple to tune into as well and quite obvious. Close a drawer or a car door in a hard/harsh way and then close it in the quality of tenderness. And then feel the result in your body. It’s like chalk and cheese if you are open to feeling it.

  3. My periods also stopped and today have come back again. I don’t take it for granted and know that how I live affects these cycles – or my body in the cycle. Reading this reminded me that just because the period is back doesn’t mean I am out of the woods so to speak. There is deeper levels of care and love to go.

  4. ‘I didn’t realise just how disconnected from my body, my ovaries and being a woman I was.’ I have learnt how important it is to honour ourselves as women, and to respect the sacredness we hold as women too.

    1. It can be and constantly multitasking or thinking about one’s to-do list, pushing and driving is very stress-full! The body really gets disturbed when we are thinking something and doing something completely different.

  5. Although I am very familiar with how the teachings of Serge Benhayon have described the difference between stillness and motion and how it plays out in our daily lives, there was something that really clicked on a deeper level after reading your blog here, Gyl. Suddenly, I could feel in a very deep way how I have bought into the belief or ideal that I could evolve to become more soulful in my life via my involvement in various projects or activities that were of service to others and humanity at large to help them live in a more loving and harmonious way. Although at face value that may seem like a great thing, to me it now feels like it has nothing to do with a movement towards my soul, but something to merely ‘check the box’ and feel good about. In other words, there was no aspect of allowing myself to just be and connect with that inner stillness that needs no action to confirm itself. As Gyl stated so beautifully above – “In stillness there is no doing, only being, and in this there is no way you can deny you are divine and deeply connected to God.”

  6. Connection between stillness and health to me is just as vital as Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine. Both go hand in hand and support the other to work in full.

  7. If I find something that is not ‘normal’ about my body, it is hard not to go ‘What is wrong with me?’ Calling anomaly a normal feels like a feeble attempt at cushioning this self-critique. I find esoteric medicine to be a truly great support in this process of looking at and accepting what is really happening, as its core lies the truth that we are love already and self-judgment has no space.

  8. We often ignore what happens with our body, yet there is always a message for us if we are willing to be honest with ourselves and feel into how we are living and if there is something that needs to change.

  9. ‘I didn’t realise just how disconnected from my body, my ovaries and being a woman I was. From the first session this has changed. I am re-learning what it is to truly be a woman again.’ For most women this would sound like a foreign language, we are not taught how important our bodies are or that through this connection we develop a deep and loving relationship with ourselves first. It is the missing key to life, beautifully explained here.

    1. Yes.. learning from young about the importance of maintaining an awareness of what’s going on in the body would have an enormous effect on our overall rates of illness and disease. Even though it might take a while to let go of some of those ingrained behaviours, becoming aware of what and how we’re feeling and the impact of those behaviours on our body is the first step towards letting go of them.

  10. What is shared here is gold for women in our world, to have such a clear understanding that how we live directly affects how our body functions is a wisdom to be explored, in many areas of health, let us not ignore what is here divinely offered.

  11. “Every cell in my body knows truth ­­– this is not normal.” I was talking to a friend recently who shared something similar. Health professionals had been telling her that what she had was normal, but it was not feeling normal for her. It is important to honour that and explore avenues to find the truth for you.

  12. It does work! I have experienced for myself that the more I’m willing to really take care of myself and address the ill patterns and behaviours I have, the smoother my periods have been. From chronic pain to having a period that doesn’t require any drugs has been a miracle. It’s not painless every time, but slowly I’m noticing a shift and I’m working on building on that. The crippling pain hasn’t been missed.

  13. ” but what I do know is, it is both Esoteric Medicine and Western Medicine that have supported me to take responsibility and address the moment-to-moment choices that I have made and make in life ”
    A true choice for healing thank you, for sharing Gyl.

  14. ‘Last year I visited the doctor, after not having my periods for three months. During our conversation I was told to ‘not worry’ about it, and this was normal.

    Every cell in my body knows truth ­­– this is not normal.’

    Amazing that you took your body’s advice and delved deeper into what was going on.

    1. Agreed. For most woman such advice would have been heeded, leaving them with possibly even greater health issues the longer such an imbalance in the body was left unaddressed.

      1. ..and it goes for most things. When my son was very small he threw very high temperatures and had constant infections, at times he was hospitalised. I was always at the doctor’s for medicine. When I said that there was something more going on I was told this is normal. I did not buy it. I found out, through my own way with food and nutrition, that he was severely allergic to gluten and dairy. Once I had found the cause the symptoms cleared. This is no a judgement on doctors but it is an example where we know the Truth and not to let that go based on another’s opinions. If we feel something isn’t right, wisely act on it.

  15. Missing periods is not normal, drinking alcohol regularly is not normal for the body, needing caffeine and sugar during the day – the same. We do a lot of things that are perfectly normal but they don’t seem to be harmonious at all.

  16. It is a great one to ponder on that thinking, over thinking, planning, fighting awareness and anxiety are motion, and all are at the expense of our body, exhausting it and not allowing it to rest and settle with the natural stillness within.

    1. This is just what i needed to read right now: that thinking and overthinking and analysing are all mental activities that cut us off from what we can feel and know within our bodies. These things have their place and we need them, but not at the expense of our bodies’ innate wisdom and communication.

  17. The problem of calling ‘normal’ or ‘natural’ something that is neither normal nor natural is not only that we are misdiagnosed, but also that we miss the point our body is trying to make and to communicate to us about our livingness.

  18. This is amazing, what I love about this is you covered and explored every angle of your life, your home, your body and left no stone unturned. What we can learn through our bodies and illnesses are invaluable lessons, as you pinpoint, an illness is a brilliant “opportunity to take responsibility for my choices and how I live”.

  19. “There is a natural rhythm, life flows, there’s no need to try, push or rush. Stillness is as natural to us as breathing; it never leaves us.” I agree Gyl, when we are deeply connected with the quality of stillness within our essence it feels unnatural to try to push and drive our body and leave the harmony and rhythm that we naturally hold within.

  20. By uniting Esoteric Medicine with Conventional Medicine, we are able to address and understand the root cause of our illness or disease while having the necessary physical support to help us heal our body.

  21. We shrug off, dismiss or ignore so much of what is going on in our bodies that we have made it ok to do so and continue to live like this. Sadly this has meant that so much of what can be dealt with early on results in illness and disease.

    1. And yet it’s never too late to start making different choices, to start paying attention to the body and listening to its innate wisdom, and start dealing with our ‘stuff’ – our unresolved issues that get in the way of the body’s normal and natural harmonious flow.

  22. When feeling that something is ‘not normal’ or ‘off’ from my experience conventional medicine can only take this if it is a physical pain or possibly look down the mental health avenues. But the Universal Medicine modalities supports that ‘off’ feeling from the basis of our sensitivity to energy which is equally as important to address as physical pain.

    1. Yes, the science of what causes illness and diseases may be in its infancy. Lots of individual details seem to be known but do we have a comprehensive theory on what causes ailments?

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