By Anne Malatt and Paul Moses, Australia.
When someone walks into a room, we know how they are feeling.
We can feel it with our whole being, and we then confirm it with our five senses.
If they are angry, we feel it first. We then see it in their facial expression, in the way they hold themselves hard and the way they move and walk, we can hear it in the way they bang things down or stomp their feet, we can smell and taste it in the air we breathe and we can touch it if they come into contact with us, but most of all we just feel it.
And we can react or respond in different ways.
Most of us tend to tense up, contract, and go hard ourselves, in an effort to protect ourselves from what we can feel is coming at us. We may be on edge, ready to fight, or flee. It may bring up memories and feelings in us of when other people have been angry with us, and may even have hurt us, or those we love.
Whatever our reaction, it can be very challenging to stay open and loving with someone who is behaving in this way, no matter how much we may love them.
So, can this anger be contagious?
Can this force affect us physically, just as much as if it were a bacteria or a virus?
And can the way we react to it, the dis-ease it creates in us, in fact be the underlying cause of illness and disease?
Is it possible that if we harden or contract in the face of anger, our connective tissue, muscles and joints may stiffen up, leading to inflammation, fibromyalgia, or arthritis?
Could our blood vessel walls harden, leading to high blood pressure and heart disease?
And how about the ways we deal with anger? It is an uncomfortable emotion to feel, and we don’t like feeling uncomfortable. Most of us have developed ways of living that reduce or numb these emotions – like smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol, or eating certain foods, particularly dairy, sugar or carbs. And could all the consequences of these behaviours stem from the fact that we did not want to feel uncomfortable in the face of anger or other emotions – be they our own or those of others?
It may be challenging to think of emotions as being contagious as any virus, but what if they are?
What if the diseases that we label as ‘random’, ‘bad luck’, or even ‘genetic’, are in fact a result of the dis-ease we experience, every day, day after day?
What if our way of dealing (or not dealing!) with the ill-at-ease we feel every day – and can never stop feeling, no matter how hard we try to numb ourselves – is in fact the underlying cause of our illness and disease?
Could this ill-at-ease be the tension we feel, that we label as stress in our lives?
We are living in a sea of emotions, all day every day, at home, at work, in relationships, in life. Try as we may to numb ourselves, we can never stop feeling, and if we do start to feel that the behaviours we are using to numb ourselves are hurting us, and try to stop them, all the uncomfortable feelings that we have been trying not to feel are there waiting for us. No wonder we have trouble giving things up and letting things go!
So how can these emotions that we feel, that we consider a normal part of everyday life, be the underlying cause of illness and disease?
Read more:
1) Learning to observe and not absorb life
2) Emotions and feelings is there a difference?
3) Energetic integrity and energetic responsibility
Medicine and Serge Benhayon 
We can feel it if we allow ourselves to be affected by the emotions in someone else. In the cinema and theatre this is exactly what the production is aimed at, to stir up emotions and try to get the audience empathising with the image portrayed in the film or play. But these emotions are not yours but you may have absorbed them from others and been affected by the contagion.
This is a really interesting way to look at the interplay between how we deal with what’s happening in life and how it affects the body. “What if our way of dealing (or not dealing!) with the ill-at-ease we feel every day – and can never stop feeling, no matter how hard we try to numb ourselves – is in fact the underlying cause of our illness and disease?” This is such a great line as to me it is about empowerment, that we can with support ascertain how situations are affecting us, let go of our reactions, and live more harmoniously inside ourselves allowing our body to return to its natural homeostasis.
How often do we feel the emotional out play of another but over rule what we have felt and find ourself affected by it later. Observation is the key to not absorbing other people’s situations
We feel everything, and I suppose that doesn’t have to mean we catch and suffer from it all the time, but we do more often than not, and we often adjust our movement to minimize its impact, as well as the physiological reaction.
The saying ‘you can cut the air with a knife’ is quite apt for a lot of work situations when people are in reaction to each other and carry hurts about situations that have arisen. This work environment, unfortunately, is commonplace today and almost expected – the sad news is that sitting in it does affect us.
We harden our body or numb ourselves to not feel what is going on around us, having the idea this is needed as protection but we are hurting ourselves much more than when we would stay open and see how energy is playing with us, see how we are taken over by emotions and no longer ourselves.
I have recently heard someone say that they could feel their joints becoming inflamed and painful when they became angry and emotional. Although most people don’t make the connection between the emotion and the illness, or use the illness to blame the person who ‘made’ them angry, the link is there to be seen if we open our eyes and are willing to listen to our body.
We are feeling everything and trying our hardest not to feel – makes sense. In the attempt to harden and protect ourselves we hurt ourselves and cause illness in the body, and all the time we are feeling everything. What an illusion and what a waste – obviously this way of life is not working as illness and disease is rife and on the rise.
There are times in my life where people have blasted me with anger and I have felt this permeate throughout and affect my entire body so yes how we are with and in our emotions etc can absolutely affect others just as a bacteria could. I feel inspired to learn more about connective tissue now! More about the Universe ✨
“It may be challenging to think of emotions as being contagious as any virus, but what if they are?” A great question Anne and Paul. We can and all do feel how much someone in a ‘bad mood’ can pull other people down as there can be a tendency to tiptoe around to not upset that person anymore. Or if someone is scared, the fear can spread like wild fire throughout a crowd of people. Do we choose to stay connected to who we are in situations such as these and remain steady and calm, or do we take on the emotion that has been released and let that run our body and consequently how we feel and then respond?
It makes so much sense that “we harden or contract in the face of anger” as anger is actually totally foreign to our body’s natural makeup. And of course, the more we feel angry the harder we, and every particle of our body, become and this is what we reflect to all those around us. Is it contagious? As far as I am concerned, yes, it is.
All you have to do is watch a group of kids playing together contently and when another child joins the group in a demanding way and grabs the toys out of the hands of the others without asking it causes a ripple effect within the whole group and before you know it, they are all fighting and yelling at each other. The same goes for adults, but many times we are all too polite about how we feel and we then use all those techniques mentioned in this blog to not feel the hurt of someone acting in an angry or harsh way. The point is, that emotions are configurations of energy held within our bodies just like bacteria or viruses are configurations of molecules that enter the body. Just because the former is a nonphysical energy does not mean it does not have a direct effect on the body. Just look at how UV light can cause sunburn!
‘It may be challenging to think of emotions as being contagious as any virus, but what if they are?’ Great question, and I have noticed that if a parent has an illness or disease, the child of that parent suffers the same illness and disease not through genetics but through making the same choices.
It is as if the human psyche is an instrument laid bare for whoever so chooses to play out whatever it is they want to play out… Whether it be manipulation in the media, music scores from films that take us high and take us low… what we need is to be able to step back and feel our deep connection and the freedom that comes from this.
Fascinating. Indeed, if we see someone in anger, and sympathise or absorb what is going on in them, we would be definitely affected by it. And thanks to Universal Medicine, I know how observing instead of absorbing keeps me detached from what goes on outside while I stay with myself – this is very much a work in progress, but I know it to be true. So this makes me wonder – how can that ‘observe and not absorb’ be applied in physiological form? Maybe the answer is in its refinement. Who knows? I only need to keep trying.
Learning to be in the sea of emotions that swirl around us all the time without absorbing the impact of them is something that I found impossible until I attended Universal Medicine presentations and learnt I had a choice in whether I just observed the emotions in others or chose to absorb them with devastating effects on my mental and physical wellbeing. Working in an intense environment I am given multiple opportunities every day to go there or not and it is down to the choices I make from the moment I wake up whether I am able to stay with me and not get affected or not and also choosing to go Ooops when I make a non-loving choice and not wallow in the contagious emotions and choose to move in a way that reconnects me so that my body is supported through the rest of the day.
The fact that we may feel ill, as in ill-at-ease, is a clear indication that emotions can make us ill.
I have been reacting lately, and getting all emotional and the effect on my body has been intense. How do I know? Well it’s been a while since I have allowed myself to react, or I haven’t been triggered by hurts. Now that I have, I have a clear feeling in my body of what actually happens and it is very physical and very exhausting.
This contagiousness seems to be quite well understood. A few decades ago a New York mayor said ‘I don’t get ulcers, I give ulcers’ (Ed Koch), as an example.
When someone walks into a room we already know how they are feeling as we felt it long before our five sense came anywhere near them. That is the strength of our first sense – feeling.
This is the key to our health and vitality. If we don’t learn to deeply observe the world we have created – the good, the bad and the ugly – we will absorb it. It is this absorption that creates a dis-ease in our body that then leads to all illness and disease as we know it.
This makes perfect sense to me. Such contagions only enter through the door we leave open by virtue of our chosen blindness that the emotions of others are not having a physical and energetic effect on us. To seal the door and halt the absorption, we need only observe and give ourselves permission to ‘feel it all’ once more.
Yes, to feel the unpleasantness in full rather than shut our senses to it. Otherwise we get affected without noticing it.
There is a lot of proposed ways of dealing with emotions such as anger management or other ways, psychological solutions that numb, distract or manage the situation, yet none of those consider the impact of emotions on our health at such a refined level as in this article.
Stunning questions that shine a spotlight on an area of medical understanding that is sorely overlooked –
that our emotional responses to our environment, particularly as prolonged patterns of behaviour, have every part to play in the advent of related dis-ease in the body which over time itself creates its own form of manifesting illness and disease.
Anne and Paul this blog is a great reminder to me of how often we disregard what we feel and know in our hearts is true for what is not true.
A feeling is just a feeling and I am not meaning that some don’t appear it feels as though they are worse then others. But basically, a feeling is just a feeling and it is a choice for us to be aware of the feeling or not. We truly can never stop feeling and so to say you can choose to feel or not is actually not possible as it is only the awareness you can turn down. Anyway as we have said there are feelings we place more or less on and we attach things to and anger is one of them. Anger is something ‘bad’ or ‘ugly’ etc and so we tend to shy away from it and avoid the awareness of the feeling, but what if we let go of labels, even for a moment and just bring the awareness to simply feel and be. Nothing else, no answers or solutions just the acknowledgement and the appreciation that you have felt something. It would seem our non acceptance first that we are feeling all the time leads to many perceived confusions or unknowns when in fact all is known from feeling, it’s just we need to come back to it.
Totally Linda, if we lived this truth (that everything is energy) we would see that not taking on energy is just as important as picking the right food for our body.
I love this Anne and Paul, opening up the possibility to live life seeing ALL as energy, and if this were true then we would in truth be harmed or healed by it. Imagine the responsibility you need to live if you chose to see this truth in its full light. You get to see why many turn a blind eye.
It is quite a painful pill to swallow, but what I have come to understand is that this fact is better handled when we simply are being honest and no longer deny… A contagion that is dangerous as taking on others’ emotions is quite hard to undo, as they are not our emotions and we do not carry the root cause of it – hence harder to undo. Thank you.
We absolutely live in a sea of emotions and so it makes sense that we are constantly trying to not feel what is all around us… and that these choices in fact harm us and not protect us as we falsely believe they do. The tension we all live with is insuppressible, and it and our coping mechanisms so common, they have sadly become normalized.
I agree with all that this blog is saying, we are naturally extremely sensitive beings but there is a part of us that wants to stop feeling, it is a false form of protections I guess. There is this idea that if we could only switch off from everything we would be safer and there would be less to do, less responsibility.
The way in which we escape can be different for each person but most of us choose, drinking and eating certain foods, over doing sport, emotions or television. No matter what your flavour it is all in an attempt to make those feelings feeling “go away”.
The concept that we actually have a lot more say over if we get ill or not is very empowering, it means that if we allow ourselves the space to feel, rather than run, then we can use that space to know who we are solidly. We are less likely to become a sponge for others emotions, allowing ourselves to feel with zero judgement could potentially be very beneficial. Much like a gym membership or a great diet, if done daily and in a routine could be a huge step forward for us.
So what we could say from all this is that energy is ‘contagious’ in the sense that if we do not discern whether another is coming from love or not (the only two sources we can align to) or react to what we feel then we can easily be influenced to join them in an emotional state that is not true to the love that we are.
Anne and Paul, you are definitely on to something here. It’s easy to dismiss the impact of emotions because they’re not physically tangible (well, not until they actually affect the body). It’s much easier, for example, to have an awareness of the impact of food (even though our relationship with food is driven by the choices we make, which also starts with intangibles). Suffice to say, we definitely need to pay far more attention than we do to the emotions we take on, be they those of others, or beliefs, ideal and consciousnesses of varying kinds, or those we generate within ourselves as we react to life.
You ask some great and pertinent questions here Anne, and offer much to ponder on. For it is true that when we experience someone who is in a ‘bad mood’, it can bring us down; in the same way when someone is in a ‘cheerful mood’ it can pick us up and we feel better. If it is so easy to be influenced by how another person feels there has to surely be some chemical reaction within the body which is bound to have an impact on it in one way or another.
Emotions are like a virus that do make us unwell, feel ill-at-ease, and consequently we don’t feel ourselves at all. Emotions exhaust us, as we are taken over and driven by a reaction to a hurt, that in avoiding to address, continues to own and run us. As such we behave in ways that are loveless and in complete disregard to the truth of who we are and what we feel at heart.
We really do put ourselves into so much complication and harm in the way we deal with things, we just don’t want to feel so much of what is being presented, we are really so invested in numbing ourselves. But as you very correctly state, the feelings are just there and do not go away, so they will come up at some point, and just may not be in a way that you think or know it will.
Great and very needed reflection, as we all live surrounded by emotions. What better than ponder on the way we deal with them to not be hooked, sicken and led by them and its effects?
Dealing with our ill-at-ease and what we feel, in every minute of the day, is our responsibility and our choice. I certainly agree that emotions are contagious, however we can learn not to absorb the emotions and situations of others; practice and learning from mistakes is the key.
I completely agree with the statement that emotions are contagious. In the past no matter how hard I tried I felt any emotion of someone else as my own, it was as if I was constantly living in an emotional roller coaster, living in this soup of emotions and frustration was my go to. I had migraines and headaches on a very regular basis. I was not living who I felt I was on the inside and I was very aware this was the true cause of my migraine and headaches. Since I choose to observe life instead of absorb and honour the love I feel is me much more I have no migraines anymore and rarely any headache.
Really interesting how we are going around in the same cycle, knowing nothing will change until we acknowledge that we feel everything, and that we completely numb ourselves of feeling in various ways, because many of us are unable to handle what we feel, and we are not prepared to make different choices in order to break the cycle we are in.
A thoughtful piece, Anne, and one that feels particularly relevant at the moment. I know first and foremost that I am a lovely, loving, tender and gentle being. But in an instant I can choose to get caught up in drama, emotion and reaction. That feels awful. By spending more time with myself as the natural man I am, my awareness of when I am not that grows. That may throw up lots of new questions for me, but remembering who I am, naturally, is always a great start.
An awesome article. I say yes to every question asked here, whether we tense up to protect ourselves from anger, or to simply protect ourselves from whatever life brings, doesn’t matter. The amazing thing is I personally never knew that I even did this, or that it was not the way to do life until I was shown how to connect again to my essence and to again feel the strength that is held there, thanks to Serge Benhayon. Learning to let this strength lead my way in life is now how I do life.
In answering your question at the end I would say our emotions do develop, or can support the growth, of illness and disease in the body. If I get angry my body shakes, my nervous system really gets a battering and it takes a while for me to calm down – imagine getting angry every day and not having that time to settle the nervous system. It’s like water in a river – our emotions can over time erode our health. Yet we have a world that champions our emotions, look at operas or dramas on TV or the movies that are very emotional. Looking at my emotional reactions to life has made huge changes to my health and would flip the medical world on its head if we started to entertain the idea that emotions are a health factor.
How can we ever think that the way we choose to live our everyday and the emotions and drama that we indulge in not impact on our health and wellbeing.
It seems that on a day to day basis, we live with an incredible amount of tension and ill-ease within our bodies and for the best part we are so used to it that we dismiss it as being normal, and only when it gets to a troublesome point or manifests itself into an illness that we do something about it. But how many of us are aware that we are absorbing other peoples’ anger, misery by sympathising or constantly reacting to life, and the effects this is having on our overall well-being.
It was interesting to read your blog again Anne. I have recently been aware of several situations where I felt very ill at ease. I have been aware enough to observe how this affects my body. I clench parts of it, including my jaw and brace across the chest area. It also makes me freeze so that sometimes I am unable to respond verbally or my words will come out garbled. We are communicating with each other all of the time even when we don’t speak. It is good for me to accept that I actually feel everything; a starting point to not be afraid, nor try to numb so that I can heal the underlying causes of my reactions.
We have separated body illness from the whole body where everything affects everything. Heart disease is put down to a physical cause which it is, but there is another step which is the emotional, the lifestyle as Ann and Paul have shown the connection. Very powerful sharing.
When we understand the interconnectedness of all things, then understanding life becomes much simpler, indeed so much is revealed too.
Sounds bang on to me! If we are feeling all of the time, then naturally our body is responding all of the time. So yes, surely illness and disease is related. It makes perfect sense.
We feel everything all the time, even though we may try to numb ourselves…’We are living in a sea of emotions, all day every day, at home, at work, in relationships, in life. Try as we may to numb ourselves, we can never stop feeling’.
Its interesting how there is a message in the terms dis-ease or ill-at-ease. Could it be that we are looking for a way of living that is at ease with who we truly are, where we are not trying to be something other… just ourselves.
A great discussion on how the sea of emotions we live in can cause dis-ease in the body and the contagion can spread to others around us. Feeling unwell and ill-at-ease with an epidemic of emotions is our body’s way of letting us know that we have to let go of emotions and learn to live from an inner stillness.
‘We are living in a sea of emotions’ what a great way to describe how we all live and also that we are feeling all this emotion all of the time. Even if we try to numb it, it is still there.
Our bodies are antennae, we can rationalise what we have felt by referring to the senses but there is no denying that we feet it well in front of putting thoughts to it…. “If they are angry, we feel it first. We then see it in their facial expression, in the way they hold themselves hard and the way they move and walk, we can hear it in the way they bang things down or stomp their feet, we can smell and taste it in the air we breathe and we can touch it if they come into contact with us, but most of all we just feel it.”
For me the questions raised make total sense and while I do know that the emotional sea we live in has an affecting ability, I feel there is more to honour in this fact. It’s like going into a chemical spill area without a hazmat suit by not honouring the fact that our and others emotions do and can affect us. A major support for me has been to claim those feelings I don’t want to feel, to say ‘I feel hurt when you spoke to me like that’ to another has been deeply empowering and in that claim I don’t require the avoidance behaviours nor feel a tension of denying or rejecting what I have felt.
This blog is brilliant and, of course, it makes perfectly good sense. Our level of awareness can vary at different times but we can always sense whether something feels okay or not – we just need to master not over-riding or dismissing what we feel.
This blog shows how important it is for us to be aware of when we have gone into an emotional reaction. We are such feeling creatures, and if one of us is ‘off’ we all feel it. One person in anger in an office or home has a huge domino effect, even though we may not say anything. From keeping our heads down, going into sympathy and trying to fix the situation, we can also be drawn into a way of being that is less or not true for us.
Having spent my 20’s in emotional relationships, I can vouch for the huge drain and harm emotions create. I feel like this decade was wasted in many ways, as I was like a hamster going round and round in my own dramas and emotions. This seemed like the norm at the time and what I had been shown was what love was all about, but now I can feel how much emotions keep you down and unable to feel the amazing potential you have inside. Not being caught in emotions allows you to step back and have clarity and wisdom to deal with everything that may be presented in life.
It’s really interesting to bring awareness to ourselves in terms of how we act. I asked myself the question in reading this, in my current energy of choices would others wish to be around me, and how does our emotional reactions impact those we come into contact with. If we live in a field of energy, which we don’t often think of, yet it is grounded in scientific fact, then how much responsibility have we taken for that field, and it is worth considering, is being emotional a pollution of that field, maybe not the positive things we often see being emotional as being but in fact a harmful way of living that causes us to put ourselves and even others around us who are not aware, out of balance.
Spot on Anne and Paul. We live in a sea of energetic imprints that is the collective expression of Us All. When these imprints are born from emotion, the seas get stormy and it is very difficult to hold steady when you cannot find solid footing. But at any time we can stop and through careful observation begin to see the quality of the water in which we all swim and thereby have the power to change what we express back into this pool. The key is to feel everything by not putting up barriers to inhibit this but at the same time, we must hold steady in what we observe so that we do not absorb what we see and feel and thus go under where we are no help to anyone!
‘Can this force affect us physically, just as much as if it were a bacteria or a virus?’ Yes in the past at times I have been shouted at really angrily I could feel the force blasting through my body and affecting everything within. I could feel how this affected my organs so know what you are saying here to be true.
Good question! There is no doubt for me that we feel how someone is feeling well before they speak, or smile, it is in their movements, the question is do we want to feel it or see it? What behaviours do we take on if we don’t? I will enjoy playing with this in my observations and learning.
Most of all we can feel it in how people move… their entrance, their movements round a room, interactions with what they are doing and other people. Everyone can get a sense of it if they just pay attention, and the reading of how another is doing can be so accurate even with little or no interaction.
Love this blog. “Try as we may to numb ourselves, we can never stop feeling”. A bit like, “You can run but you cant hide”. I have tried this, particularly so from myself (!) but it doesn’t work. We have to surrender and start to feel sometime, otherwise, as in my experience dis-ease and illness begin have their way with us. I am beginning to see that dis-ease and illness are a loving nudge and reminder to wake up. It is wise to notice sooner rather than later.
I recognise that I have a finely tuned radar to what is going on and can react defensively before what has been felt is consciously registered, and then blame myself and or others or my own behaviours (a very tricky set-up!). And so the common self-beliefs are spoken and constantly re-inforced eg- I’m no good in groups, I’m shy in meetings etc. Gradually this pattern has been dropping away as I have become more willing to simply feel what is going on and ‘read’ the situation before slipping into habitual defensive modes of behaviour.
love the example you give here – anger is simply hardening our body and not expressing what ever is coming through us. Sometimes we harden because we don’t want to feel certain things, but the fact is we feel them anyway, and if we live in the acceptance of the fact our body is far more loose, responsive and energised.
It is true, emotions are the underlying source of disease in the body. I can feel this strongly in my everyday life, even the small outings of emotions are having an effect, everything is felt. And it is up to us how we cope with it, are we choosing to react, numb ourselves, or are we choosing to observe and respond in a way that keeps us out of harms way. We can choose to be affected by what we feel or not.
We can only be hurt by those emotional energies if we choose to live a lesser life compared to the grandness we are. The tension we all can feel of not living this grandness is the underlying reason for all the emotions we put in place to not to be confronted with the reality we have created by this conscious choice of our own making. Through our emotions we make it someone else his problem or fault and by doing so we withhold us from looking to our own part we bring in the equation and at the same time allow an ill making energy to run our lives. We ourselves are the only person who can choose for the other and true way of living that will return us to a life of true health and vitality instead. What way of living do you choose?
I agree that it is impossible to ignore the anger present when someone walks into a room or “stomps” around frowning etc! This energy is quite potent and possibly could cause harmful reactions in our bodies also as we withdraw to protect ourselves.
How amazing it would be if all of humanity began to understand that “Try as we may to numb ourselves, we can never stop feeling” and that the effort that we make to numb something that is undeniably true is, in the long run, so very futile, as in many cases we will eventually be stopped in our tracks and made to listen. What a different world we would live in if every child was raised to know this absolute truth.
The efforts to try and numb ourselves is what we are witnessing world wide with an enormous increase in social media interactions, constant movie access at your finger tips in the comfort of your home and a myriad of foods and drinks to make you sleepy, race, agitated and the list goes on. We are all noticing that life does not feel right and for many searching through various means to feel better, yet the main focus as mentioned in this blog is whether we choose to make it part of our living to listen, understand and make choices that brings the vitality and joy that others keep searching for.
So interesting how you describe the chain reaction that feeds the contagion. And where is the stop… how bad does it need to get before we notice and take action to curtail it? For me, as I become more aware, more gentle… the early warning system is a billion times more effective and stops this a lot earlier than was once the case.
We feel so much more than we have allowed ourselves to appreciate and once we overcome the fear of the discomfort, it can open up a new world to us. There are times when we can simply sense when someone is not listening to us – even on a long distance phone call. It is more than the fact that they do not answer when we ask them something – if we are tuned in, we can pinpoint the moment they ‘tune out’ of the conversation. But what else can we sense once we are open to the awareness that we do sense everything in life?
I do a lot of work with groups mainly in training environments and it is very clear to me that energies are contagious. I have no doubt that we can sense how someone is feeling and occasionally, when a person comes on a training course and is very resistant to being there it affects the whole group – unless the rest of the group have the awareness to not allow it to do so. I feel sure this is something we will understand more deeply in future.
There is so much more happening then is apparent to the un-tuned five senses… It is essential that humanity takes steps to remedy this, to wake up our energetic awareness so that this becomes a part and parcel of everyday life, so that we can perceive feel and read everything that is going on around us… This is what will free us from this ongoing tsunami of apparently unnoticed energy washing through us all the time.
We could even take it back a step further. Well before we walk into a room we know what we are going to meet – what is energetically is going to be there. The question is do we give ourselves permission to feel and be aware of what is before us? Which of course is being chosen by the way we are living.
Imagine if we opened ourselves up to this fact. Our every move would matter as we would be preparing ourselves for the next.
This blog makes so much sense as we do feel everything, even if we try to protect ourselves, we are still feeling all of the emotions other people are putting out and it makes us feel hurt, uncomfortable, tension builds, our bodies harden and then that’s what we take home with us – this altered state of being. This also then affects the choices we then make as to how we are going to unwind from our day and how interactive we want to be with our families, and then what quality we are sleeping in. One of the best things we can do for our own health is to not absorb other people’s emotions, along with being responsible for our own output.
I have finally come to understand that illness and disease is not “‘random’, ‘bad luck’, or even ‘genetic’” but that it is simply as a result of the way we have been choosing to live. This was a huge wake up call for me, as no longer could I blame anyone or anything for what was happening in my body, it was/is purely my responsibility and mine alone. To acknowledge that I was making myself sick by the unloving choices I was making was one big “ouch” moment, but one revealing moment that I really appreciated, and still do.
We cannot deny the fact that when someone walks into a room we know how they are feeling, in fact we know well before the meeting takes place. A couple of weeks ago I made a phone call, a phone call that I make quite regularly, but this time it felt different. My stomach began to churn and I felt anxious every time I thought about the call. I made the call to find I was at the receiving end of another’s harmful emotions; it really does pay to listen to our bodies.
The more I surrender and let go, the more I can feel and the more aware I am getting; it really is a dedicated commitment to self.
“What if our way of dealing (or not dealing!) with the ill-at-ease we feel every day – and can never stop feeling, no matter how hard we try to numb ourselves – is in fact the underlying cause of our illness and disease?” This, and the other questions you ask Anne and Paul, brings a completely different perspective to the understanding of the underlying causes of illness and disease that is generally accepted, and if truly considered would revolutionise the approach to illness and disease.
Having opened myself up to the awareness that I can indeed feel the emotions in others, I am wondering how on earth I have managed to deny the fact for so long. And when I discuss the fact with others, they too are aware that they can feel how a person is when they walk into a room, or they receive an email from them, or a letter, a phone call etc. It is a most natural way of being and as is rightly shared in the blog, we can never stop feeling – but we can deny, numb and distract ourselves from the fact. Why would we want to do that?
When we begin to claim our sensitivity and no longer play the game of ignoring and denying what we feel, our lives transform and we are no longer at the mercy of illness and disease.
it is indeed true that we never stop feeling, but this is at such odds with what the world in general thinks, that most people can simply deny this energetic fact … however that is what this is …. An energetic fact, and one day humanity will realise this.
‘So how can these emotions that we feel, that we consider a normal part of everyday life, be the underlying cause of illness and disease?’ – yes, they can be, Anne and Paul. Claiming this as truth is empowering because we can then choose the truth that they are not who we are. This exposes the illusion that emotions are real . We can choose to be an instrument in our own healing and claim the way we were meant to live – free of the emotions and drama Society has conned us to believe is real.
A great introduction to the contagious nature of emotions and the way the question is posed leaves me to just sit with: what if at the least I hold awareness that I feel all the time and we live in a sea of emotions. Already as a question to explore it feels very empowering without even looking for a solution. It struck me that we already know the answer inside us and once aware of the fact, can naturally take steps to halt the harm. So a great blog that completes just where it needs to.
Stress is such a common one and has become an acceptable way to deal with life, but it is very clear the implications that this is having on our health. To be able to work and live with out stress is actually possible and this is something that I have been working on since attending Serge Benhayon’s presentations. As a general manager in an extremely busy cafe I have several opportunities to go ‘into stress’ and trust me I have. But recently the more I commit to being in connection with my essence then what ever comes my way I know I can work out and deal with. There is always a solution to a problem and when you let go of trying to control a situation everything flows a lot smoother.
This blog blows the lid on blame for the world’s illness and disease rates. There are plenty of places that blame are directed, but what you share here brings us all to our own responsibility.
A much needed straight to the truth blog about illness and disease.
Yes, we need to be much more aware of the dis-ease or ill-at -ease in our body which allows us a greater level of self responsibility, rather than disease which we often feel is happening to us and do not take responsibility for. For the dis-ease or ill-at-ease occurs long before the disease actually physically manifests in our body.
This is absolutely the key. When we understand energy, it becomes obvious we have a choice too, it is not just something that happens to us. We can’t ever stop energy, but we can choose its source.
Anne and Paul, I love the following sentences as I had an experience yesterday where I felt that tension for this exact reason;
“What if our way of dealing (or not dealing!) with the ill-at-ease we feel every day – and can never stop feeling, no matter how hard we try to numb ourselves – is in fact the underlying cause of our illness and disease? Could this ill-at-ease be the tension we feel, that we label as stress in our lives?”
I felt in my situation an ill-at-ease and could feel how that started to filter through my body. The truth however is this happens every day, we often choose not to listen to it.
It’s kind of crazy that we are not aware of our emotions and the impact they have on us and others. We study the weather on a daily basis and we can all talk about it but do we really know the impact of anger which can be like a black cloud in a room, or joy which can spread like the sun. If we were as familiar with our patterns as we are with weather patterns we would have an understanding of behaviour and the causes which could introduce clarity and responsibility.
That’s so true Susan, ‘a sea of emotions’ that we don’t take responsibility in understanding and reading. We have lived in denial of there existence in our lives and completely ignore the idea that as a result there may be consequences … Like illness and disease. How can we be so blind and disconnected from our innate natural senses that we choose to override every second of the day?
I lived a life of being buffeted around by emotion, usually shutting down to cope by ignoring the energy that came across as angry and it literally spread like a contagion which was immediately felt by all. The end result of constant tension in the body was asthma and a tumour , I am in no doubt that the constant way I held my body and the ignored and stored feelings were the catalyst for both dis-eases.
I love the way you’ve described that Merrilee “ignored and stored feelings” – it makes so much sense as ignoring what we feel simply does not work – your story is testament to this. We try to fool ourselves that by ignoring what we feel, it will magically go away, but no – if what we ignore is simply stored in our body.
Emotion is a bit of a hot topic and something I have always heard as being extreme, healthy, intense. Emotion is portrayed as a good thing; in terms of love and sadness and sympathy, and a bad thing in terms of sensitivity and reaction. But I have also come to understand that emotion is not a feeling. And a true feeling, like love or sensitivity – has no emotion – it is purely a beholding, a connection. So it poses the question of how we use or misuse words, and why we use emotion to try and get somewhere when really it is very harming to the body, and in my experience, causes illness and disease.
This understanding quite simple turns medicine upside down. No longer is it just about any physical condition, but our choices and ways of being that is actually then pathogen of our ills. So simple, but are we prepared to accept the level of responsibility this asks for?
From my observation and experience I would say yes absolutely “It may be challenging to think of emotions as being contagious as any virus, but what if they are?” Like a bush fire emotions and moods, leap from one person to another and if we do not observe what is going on we also join in. I know this to be true because I used to join in, with the anger, righteousness, injustice and I would feel my heart out of rhythm, my face flushed, my stomach ached and flipped, my connective tissue and muscles tensed and harden and I felt awful. Choosing to observe more has allowed my body to remain more stable and still, and some times this stillness is also chosen by those around me, rather than than the emotions and drama that is flying around. We can discern, if we choose what energy we are in and why.
“Is it possible that if we harden or contract in the face of anger, our connective tissue, muscles and joints may stiffen up, leading to inflammation, fibromyalgia, or arthritis?”
I say a big yes to this having experienced it myself and now that I no longer engage in that emotion to the best of my ability, I no longer have the fibromyalgia, or the arthritis. This has been immensely freeing and now whenever I notice myself harden even just a tad it is immediately noticed and steps taken to release that.
Thank you Anne and Paul for bringing the awareness that we do feel so much going on in our lives and that simply pondering this, we can explore how to use feeling for its wisdom. Our feeling speaks to us about all the influences in life that are energetically moving in and around us all the time and offer us all equally the wisdom that it is indeed possible to choose what influences affect us.
We have mastered the art in how to numb our feelings and emotions with what ever we can get our hands on, we can even pretend that we have gotten over a certain habit by replacing it with another to continue this numbed way of living. When we really start to look at these numbing techniques you get to actually see the intricate avoidance we have set up.
With the support of Serge Benhayon I truly got to see the way I had been living my life and actually how I did have some deep buried hurts that were feeding these emotions that I was so attached to. Letting go of these hurts – and I’m sure there are some more tucked away – I have opened up and life is Joy to be living – Just like Kirsty.
This is so true Natalie, I can relate with what you share, ‘We have mastered the art in how to numb our feelings and emotions with what ever we can get our hands on, we can even pretend that we have gotten over a certain habit by replacing it with another to continue this numbed way of living.’ By choosing to see, feel and heal these hurts, I now am feeling more and more.
I have really felt strongly the harm not expressing the feelings that arise in me. The other day I was in a situation where I had the opportunity to express that something wasn’t right and didn’t take it. I instantly felt a lot of emotions arise, particularly anger and could feel in that instant how not communicating had harmed my own body and how I then was harming to others. That is one example, so if this is happening a lot then the effects on our bodies must be quite significant. There is much we have yet to consider about the contagiousness of our feelings, how we can be negatively affected by what is going on around us all the time.
This is a great blog Anne and Paul, it asks some very important questions about what really does cause the illness and disease that we as humanity are so under the influence of.
Thank you Anne and Paul for this great blog, I can really relate and agree with what you share here. I personally used to get affected by other people’s state of being and their health and emotions, and am now learning to swim like a fish in the sea without getting wet, so to speak.
Wow, what a powerful blog Anne. You raise some really important questions, and much to ponder on. Thank you.
If we are troubled by emotional behaviour by another person, and take it on, this really does show the contagious nature of emotions, and the dis-harmony and dis-ease it cause in our body. Universal Medicine brings understanding about this with the simple statement of ‘Observe not absorb’, and in my experience, this has been the best dose of medicine we can give ourselves.
Awesome blog 101 on where and how dis-ease and ill-ness forms. This is a great read. The whole blog was a highlight – very educational and insight-full. It’s a simple presentational study that really needs to be presented to the ministry of health …
Slowly humanity seems to be waking up to the fact that diet and exercise are important for physical and mental well being, most are looking for quick shortcuts to make this easier – protein smoothies, crossfit etc. We still seem to be a long way off taking responsibility for accepting that our emotional state- stress levels have a massive impact on our body and how it is able to function and the creation of illness and disease. There are plenty of facts to support this and when we pay attention to what our bodies are telling us it is all there.
All relationships and communications are infectious… We spread illness and disease or we heal it, depending on our state of being, whether it comes from love and truth or not…is the determinate of what we offer to infect another with.
I agree Kevin it is something our kids should learn from day one – that means it is time to take a bit of responsibility and live like this in every moment of our lives.
Well said Kevin, it is that simple in essence we either invite someone to be the love that they are or not. Both ways it is infectious but whether we catch it is up to us!
Well said Kevin, showing us that in every movement we make, we hold the responsibility to either be healing or harming.
When we absorb the ill energy around us we become the postman that carries bad news but never delivers it till the weight affects everything we do.
To consider emotions as contagious is revolutionary, as it straight away, brings awareness to what precautions and responsibility one needs to take in order to not take on and absorb something that is so theirs. This is a brilliant way to address many human relation dynamics.
“It may be challenging to think of emotions as being contagious as any virus, but what if they are?” – when i read this Anne, i get the image of something whizzing around airborne that’s able to attach itself to openings, holes or orifices it sees to settle in a host (us). If we saw this exchange happening visually as I often do think about, then we’d be a huge amount more careful about what we bring in to offices/workplaces/family homes because we can see it happening. Just because it’s not seen, doesn’t mean it’s not being felt. Funny that we seem to quarantine ourselves when we’ve flu, wear a mask or stay isolated until we feel better — why not the same if we’re hosting anger or any other emotion that is equally ‘deadly’?!
To be open and loving is contagious. To be tender and joyfull is contagious, it needs just the choice to allow it.
Very true Kerstin, yes, the contagiousness of living truly is expansive.
Ahahaha thats true kerstinsalzer15 and I have to add that joy is also contagious . . .
Very true esteraltmiks – joy is definitely contagious 🙂
Honouring our feelings and choosing to allow them, to not harden or protect, is where our strength lies – not what we are used to but it is what our body is actually asking for.
Put so simply it is clear that emotions can be contagious if we choose to catch them. Even by ‘hardening’ we are equally affected because of the side affects you mention. The ‘normal’ remedies are also contagious, we spread them by offering, sharing, imposing, and insisting someone smothers what they feel with a substance or behavior thinking it will alleviate the situation. But it never does it compounds and delays and leaves us susceptible for the next wave of emotion that gets dumped.
This is a superb question to propose Anne and Paul… “What if the diseases that we label as ‘random’, ‘bad luck’, or even ‘genetic’, are in fact a result of the dis-ease we experience, every day, day after day?…” To recognise that there is more that meets the eye,… that having energetic awareness offers greater understanding to what is in fact going on, would add formidable depth and understanding to illness, disease and the healing capacity of medicine.
Contagious is when I stop and don’t react to other’s emotions. My experience is that there is a little irritation followed by a stop and change of tracks for the person that was formerly trapped in the emotion.
The moment I stop thinking that it is MY emotion and understand and feel, that I merely tap into an ocean of emotions that is all around me, it’s so much easier to stop, detach and laugh about the situation.
Great point felixschumacher8. They aren’t our emotions, and we have the choice as to what we allow to flow through our body at any given time. It is a powerful moment when we say no to those energies.
Beautifully said Felix and a great reminder to not own what is not ours. Stopping and detaching is a sure way to begin the letting go of our connection to that “ocean of emotions” and a good laugh is guaranteed to bring the process to a joyful completion.
I absolutely love this Anne and Paul… and all you write is so very true. In my experience, it is how I react to another’s emotions/state and what I absorb… along with my own emotions/state that end up making me ill.
Yes Brooke, it is very clear to me today that when something occurs within my body eg. a cold, tightness in my chest, headache etc., it is because I have reacted in one way or another. I can say without a shadow of a doubt that how I am with myself in living each moment either harms or supports me.
What a great way to consider emotions as contagious… because without awareness and having a clear sense of yourself, it is very easy to react to another person’s emotions, and take on that same kind of emotion. This ‘dis-ease’ is then seemingly transferred or taken on from one to another. Common sense could suggest that emotions and reactions could be the first in roads to illness and disease in the body on a cellular level.
‘And can the way we react to it, the dis-ease it creates in us, in fact be the underlying cause of illness and disease?’. Yes yes yes, and the dis-ease can be the medicine that takes us to the root cause if we are willing to walk this path.
Great point Matthew… if we care to look, and feel into it… by looking at the disease we can uncover what is here for us to heal.
I have uncovered an underlying emotion within me that is self-critique, this is insidious and very much hidden as being critical of ourselves is considered a virtue in my culture. Whenever we slightly feel our grandness, we would, boom, revert to this pattern of putting ourselves down, it is so ingrained and automatic that it becomes hard to catch. The feeling that comes up from my body whenever I go into this pattern has repeatedly supported me to understand and eventually reveal the debilitating impact this pattern has put on my whole life.
Thanks for sharing this Adele… the self critique is huge, and by coming back to the body and feeling into what is going on always supports us to connect to what is really going on, why we allow these patterns.
This self-critique of ourselves is insidious, putting ourselves down is ingrained and automatic in society. Why is this, and where has this come from? Imagine how we would feel if we consciously chose to stop this behaviour. I personally am choosing to stop this pattern and find it so freeing and life changing.
Isn’t it interesting, for want of a better word Adele, how we play out emotional patterns held in our bodies over and over again and how even if very harming to ourselves or others, will still choose this as our identity in that moment?
“if we do start to feel that the behaviours we are using to numb ourselves are hurting us, and try to stop them, all the uncomfortable feelings that we have been trying not to feel are there waiting for us. No wonder we have trouble giving things up and letting things go!” This is a very true experience probably for every single one of us.. I know that you have summed up my experience exactly.
This is a great blog, bringing to light what we all inherently know but studiously avoid knowing. Meanwhile our bodies keep offering us the opportunity to say “Yes I do know” and take the needed steps to undo what we have done to take ourselves away from that knowing. To get to truth start looking at tension.
I agree Jeanette, this is a great blog, ‘bringing to light what we all inherently know but studiously avoid knowing.’
Such a great awareness offered – thank you. The tension we feel is the messenger – rather than listen and observe we shoot down and numb beyond recognition. Causing us symptoms that are harmful to our well-being. Discovering tension is not the enemy would be a great life skill to understand from very early childhood.
Supporting someone recently who was struggling with some diabetes issues, I was intrigued to learn from a diabetes educator the massive impact that stress had on blood sugar levels. It was amazing to see the levels fluctuate according to how stressed the person was. We are literally killing ourselves – we don’t need to go to war, there is already a war raging in our own bodies caused by our lifestyles.
If we approached our whole life from the understanding of energy, then how different would our relationship be with life and with people. Energy can’t lie so we would have the opportunity to know and understand what was going on equally – that would be a great basis for our relationships where we can understand life and ourselves from a platform of truth and from there move forward evolving together.
Absolutely Annie. There is no where to hide when it comes to living from the understanding that everything is energy. Perhaps this is why we have conveniently made ‘everything is energy’ a scientific concept instead of an everyday responsibility
Wouldn’t it be so different if we could see energy – we would no longer be able to deny what we feel.
Yes Michael, energy seems to be something that as a human race we conveniently consider when it suits us, such as the energy to heat a home or run a car, yet are unwilling to look deeper at the fact that energy is at play in every single thing that happens. Everything is governed by energy was shown by Einstein, and so I wonder why we are so resistant to talking of it normally and have the need to spiritualise it and make it otherworldly, when it is clearly very much a matter of fact.
The thought of that is a bit mind-boggling, imagining what it would look like to see energy, wow, it would change everything.
Absolutely Lorraine, seeing energy actually flowing through us would raise huge questions about where it comes from, what it is and how can we choose which energy we allow to do so.
Yes, absolutely. And as Anne and Paul wrote – we FEEL things first. It is scientifically proven that we feel things before we even register them mentally. It is a choice to be aware of them, to honour those feelings.
Hi Annie, this is indeed the way to go, and a way that some of us are already coming back to. It takes a real detachment and honesty to be able to live in this way, and for now, the majority of us live blind to the fact that ‘everything is energy’, and also live governed by our attachments and need to be recognised and fit in. There are few who are ready to stand in this knowing despite the strong criticism that is and will be thrown their way in their very being doing so, asking others to do the same. Serge Benhayon is one such man, and there are others. The courage to stand for the energetic truth no matter what.
This would absolutely bring it back to the simplicity it really is in truth.
How perfectly exposing this is Annie C. ‘Energy can’t lie…’ and we can all feel energy if we choose to and hence we can all feel what is true. Our choice not to embrace these truth speaks volumes.
Thank you Anne and Paul for bringing this to my attention. I recognise that I sometimes feel I go into protection mode if someone is hurt. I tend to be sympathetic and try to jolly the person out of it or tell them they are OK. If on the other hand the person is angry I feel hit by the emotion and sometimes take it on as well, until I realise I am doing so.
Thanks Roslyn, I know this one too… and what I can feel when I do this is the effort required to jolly the person out of it – and it takes me out of my own natural way of being and therefore puts my body under stress. And usually, the person doesn’t really want to come out of it, so it’s a waste of energy anyways… and I get even more drained!
Being sympathetic and taking on another’s emotion can sneak in so easily and then I have to work at letting the emotions go. But why do we feel sorry for another? Do we invest in something when we sympathise? Why do we create this in our lives? I have sympathised and taken on people’s emotions for most of life and as I become more aware of this game I play I am becoming increasingly energised in my day.
What I still find a challenge to this day is to not attune my mood to that of those I am around, so if I feel quite bright and energised, maybe even joyful, it is still a challenge to not tone down this mood if someone I am around is feeling flat, or low or even depressed in their mood. Calibrating in this way feels quite self destructive, a form of protection that actually only harms us.
Me too Stephen – what a challenge it is. I’m beginning to feel the protection is worse though and the awareness of the calibration gives me a choice and i’m choosing to breathe me and feel me again – as always it’s a work in progress 🙂
Same here Shelley and Stephen, trying to create an issue in my life to hide that I am amazing and that I have the power of choice to be amazing so simply creates a huge tension. Life has been geared towards us attacting to and identifying with that tense, numbed state and when feeling that we can choose to not be like that but actually light and amazing there is a tension with the part of us that doesn’t want to let go. Bigger and more draining than it is worth because when I stop to feel the tension and stop to feel the real me there is a detachment from it. It can pass by and I am left as who I am, amazing. But without addressing or identifying with the tension only brings in more dis-ease and illness.
Beautifully expressed Stephen. Our joy is so powerful and usually the exact reflection that is required when we are around people who are low or depressed. When I feel someone who is openly expressing joy it very clearly presents the choice we have – to resist or not to resist.
So true Vicky that it can go either of two ways – letting go of what is getting in the way of being the joy that we naturally are, or holding on to what we are identifying ourselves by and resisting this joy.
When you are around someone that is living this joy and you are in their presence, you have a reflection to be this same joy or not, it is that simple or challenging. The choice is ours, we decide.
This is something I also find Stephen. It is not only if another is feeling flat or down and I am feeling joyful, but also when another/others are in excitement rather then true joy and I am feeling very still. I am often then asked what is wrong because I’m not enjoining the buzzing energy and it really stands out. I find many people are really challenged by this choice to not enjoin, hence it takes great will and love for self to not crumble in that tension or even judgment. But I am loving strengthening my commitment to love through this. Thanks for your comment which has allowed me to express and confirm what I know is true.
Yes Anna, I too am finding that people get really challenged when I do not enjoin with the excitement that is going on. I have been called ‘boring’ on several occasions and I do have to observe myself when in a large group of people. What I am learning most is not to react when I observe another choosing to be in excitement one minute and then in anger the next. As my awareness increases so too is my acceptance and allowing of another.
Aha, the old ‘you’re so boring’ number….I know that one well. When we don’t choose to live on life’s roller coaster, we can very easily get classified in the boring box.
So recognisable Stephen, it is a way of protection that only makes us feel worse.. really crazy actually when feeling into it. But recognising it is a great step to healing what is underneath, what is it that is holding us back to be and show all that we are? It is a constant development, to get back to being ourselves all of the time.
So true Stephen. G. The harm is far greater in the long run as we are allowing and dropping our feelings of vitality to play ball with another even though are body is screaming joy and vitality.
Great point Stephen G and what a great lesson to learn in life – how to hold ourselves and others in that joyfulness rather than calibrate to their mood. Work in progress for me too, but one well worth the overtime!
Yes Stephen, I find this challenging too as I can sometimes feel a disappointment in that I want them to join me in how I am feeling. Learning to back off and accept others for the choices they are making is helping me to stay steady as I am beginning to accept that the greatest choice/choices I can make are to support me to stay with me no matter what the reactions are within another.
Great spot on. I so related to the hardening and numbing that you have described here, this is a way of being that I am learning to let go of but oh it is so deeply ingrained. There are times that I slip back into the old behaviour because this is way I grew up, this was my way of coping with feelings I didn’t know or wasn’t shown how to cope with. The dis-ease starts here. A great question, is there another way?
I am experiencing the same as you Kate, learning to let go of old numbing behaviours, ways of living that have never truly served me but are so ingrained that I am slipping into them even before I realise it. So is there another way to live? – yes there sure is and it is a way with love and self responsibility as its foundation
It is not easy to rise out of one’s comfortable slumber, but it is so worth the effort to return to something that is absolutely true.
It’s interesting to clearly see how emotions and undealt with feelings can erode our health and come out in the body as illness and disease. It doesn’t seem so strange at all, just logical.
What if emotions had colour and when we felt an emotion we would give off a certain colour that expressed it and others could see, would we then be more aware of how we were acting (or reacting) to the world around us? Stress certainly could be called a disease, it’s just society has accepted a level of stress that is considered normal.
I love what you have presented Anne and Paul, it is a great question you pose…..can anger can be contagious? My feeling is that the answer can be yes and no, yes in so far as, if you make the ‘choice’ to match the anger of someone if they are angry, then yes it is contagious, you see the person get angry, join in with that anger and off you go, both parties are just lost in the anger or trying to be right. The other approach can be, yes someone gets angry, but there can be a choice not to match the anger, to stay with oneself and not react back. This can take some practice and is definitely worthwhile, getting into such emotion is what causes illness and dis-ease in the body.
I love this blog Anne and Paul. So beautifully and simply expressed. Since I have become involved with Universal Medicine my life has certainly become less emotional. I look forward to part 2 !
Since becoming less emotional due to the teachings of Universal Medicine my life has changed dramatically. I feel stronger and calmer, more confident to deal with what comes my way in life.
Emotions = dis-ease, its quite a statement and for many I am sure hard to comprehend, but given the disease rates and the turmoil in which so many of us live our lives, the question is, what have we got to lose in considering this more closely. I have experience the state where I felt free of emotion and my body has felt really steady and lovely, I now feel when I have emotions that I am off balance and my body is not in its natural state, which is true regardless of whether the emotion is happy or sad, up or down.
This is beautiful Anne and Paul to read and feel all you are presenting. To appreciate and claim that we feel everything is a big step in honesty and a way forward for humanity. It is very freeing and brings a real feeling of relief in allowing ourselves to simply feel what we feel and stop protecting ourselves from it all . Opening up and allowing ourselves to feel everyone and the love we all are underneath is a great gift and choice and really can help the tension and stress in our lives as it allows for understanding and observing rather than emotions illness and disease to enter and consume us. Thank you for offering this so simply and clearly to be felt, it is amazingly, lovingly, contagious.
We really can go into protection when we feel these emotions come at us. It’s like someone is throwing a knife and an automatic response is to duck and hide away. However, with the teachings of Serge Benhayon, I’m constantly learning to just read them, then the knife becomes a meaningless image that belongs to someone else that has little to no effect on me.
‘reading’ a situation through observation is the key to observe and not absorb the emotion through reaction.
Great question “Could this ill-at-ease be the tension we feel, that we label as stress in our lives?”, I feel it is, when we make choices that do not feel true and we continue with them, then they create that tension in the body, which if ignore eventually manifests into disease. We always have a choice to make different choices, what I have found is that only when I am listening to my body and bringing it back to stillness, I can feel the tension and at this point I know I can make a different choice.
Anne Malatt and Paul Moses, labelling anger as contagious is a clear and simle way to help people see how their emotions affect others. We are mostly unaware that we are dumping energetic rubbish on this planet by being emotional. If someone is angry we all feel it and it affects us. If we react to it in some way rather than just let it go through us we are affected by it, in fact we allow it to infect us. So to say that anger is ‘contagious’ is a very apt description of what happens if we are ‘touched’ by anger. Some people having an ‘infectious’ laugh so that when they laugh you just have to laugh too. So if laughter is infectious, anger could be contagious.
Anne Malatt and Paul Moses, this is a brilliant article which could change the way the world views medicine. “What if our way of dealing (or not dealing!) with the ill-at-ease we feel every day…is in fact the underlying cause of our illness and disease? This is a question that few have asked or are willing to ask. It’s easy to pin the blame on outside factors such as pollution, electromagnetic radiation, insecticides, but only a few of us are willing to look at the fact that we may be responsible for any dis-ease in the body.
So true. Emotions rule our lives and bring on tensions that are all part of the illness and disease that is endemic in our society today. In the course of my treatment for prostate cancer my consultant told my wife and I that no-one really knew what caused it – next time I see him I will show him what you have written because I know deep down inside he does know but just can’t face the enormity of what that means.
I’ve experienced something similar Michael, I asked my dad’s doctor who is a top cardiologist why people get heart disease and why arteries get blocked, his response was that they have theories but no one really knows, same answer.
This is true Michael. We become anxious when we are constantly emotional, due to the fact we know we are harming ourselves by doing so, a harming that will eventually become physical as the body attempts to rebalance itself.
I agree Michael – it would make a huge difference to start having these conversations with our doctors. As you say, they DO know, we all know.
“What if our way of dealing (or not dealing!) with the ill-at-ease we feel every day – and can never stop feeling, no matter how hard we try to numb ourselves – is in fact the underlying cause of our illness and disease?” from such a simple statement, line we have the complete answer for how to change the entire healthcare system combined the large amount of illness and disease that is lifestyle related. In one swoop we can completely transform our society. So why is this not the case yet?
What if the diseases that we label as ‘random’, ‘bad luck’, or even ‘genetic’, are in fact a result of the dis-ease we experience, every day, day after day?’ This discussion is an important one because it invites us to consider our own part in any illness and to understand that everything that happens in our lives is a reflection of choices we have made throughout all our lives.
The only thing I would add is that many, men especially, are actually not uncomfortable, but comfortable feeling angry, for it forms a level of protection so that they do not have to feel hurt. So, whilst I agree we go into a lot of behaviours in order to not feel our emotional state, we can equally use emotions to hide how we truly feel. We may not think so at the time, but ‘negative’ emotions such as anger, frustration, anxiety etc are actually a choice, and something we do have a choice over.
I concur Adam. I see men in a therapeutic setting and can see that in many circumstances they feel safe hiding behind anger. It pushes people away, gives them a sense of power, and prohibits them from feeling the hurt and sadness they are running from.
It takes a commitment to stop and ask ourselves ‘what are we doing?’ when we are being emotional. That’s what I’ve found. Not always easy, especially when I am angry or frustrated… but totally worth it because the stop helps me to look at it and then understand what actually happened or not (sometimes completely made up issues!), which can completely defuse a situation. And I very much know from how my body feels that emotions can be contagious, like someone sneezing or coughing in a small space, any one susceptible (run down or not them selves) are open to being affected. Just watch a classroom of kids be brought down by the dis-ease of judgement or comparison. Makes so much sense.
This blog opens up a whole new area of preventative medicine and it seems to me this is getting to the deeper cause of all illness and disease, the fact of how everything that goes on in our daily lives influences our bodies and our health.
Yesterday I had an experience just as you describe Anne and Paul. It was incredible to feel how hard and reactive my body became, even though on the surface everything looked ‘cool’. Reading your words this morning has been a huge support to remember my ability and responsibility to read energy.
Thank you Joseph – this is an important reminder for all.
Emotions affect us way more than the physicality of life ever will. We fall down, and we heal. We get abused emotionally, and for some we never recover for our whole life.
We get emotionally abused by someone who has been emotionally abused, and then we emotional abuse because of the hurts that we carry…. and the cycle goes on and on. If it was a choice to take it on, then it is a choice to also not take it on. I have felt in the past that by taking on other people’s emotions that I was being a good listener, ‘being there’ for someone, being a good friend by ‘understanding’ that person. I am learning that emotion is not there for me to take on.
It seems to me that whenever we choose to numb anything that we do not want to feel – and that’s hard and constant work, because as you say, we feel everything – we are instantly causing another issue in our already suffering body. With the continual ignoring of the issue we end up with layer upon layer of the results of our numbing, in whatever form that takes, meanwhile the original issue is lost in the quagmire of disregard: no wonder we have ended up with the multi-symptomatic patient that presents themselves at the doctors for “fixing”, often leaving the doctor struggling to get a glimpse of the initial issue.
A very powerful and thought provoking blog, Its about time this topic was spoken about. A great awakening for us all.
In the workplace I have witnessed the emotional virus or contagion as you call it, many times. Even from a simple email that might sound nice and polite, but is laced with frustration or anger, the person receiving can change in front of your eyes, and for the rest of the day is caught with the virus they have just taken on.
I have seen this happen with friends and family as well Heather – it just goes to show that it is very common and that basically our society is to a large extent running on this fuel.
Yes Heather, it’s very obvious and you can see the persons shoulders slump, or their whole body tighten and become tense ready for the next round. All of these signs could be used as medicine to support the person to identify what changed them and how they let the dis-ease into their bodies.
This is true, emails or texts that are not sent with love can have a huge impact on the recipient, which is why, and I am still learning it is important to feel and observe these communications and not absorb them.
Love what you have raised here, the very real possibility that we will affect one another by our emotional state….
What a powerful blog Anne and Paul. Indeed, the reason for much of our illness and dis-ease, reacting to others and taking on their emotions instead of staying steady with us – the love we each hold inside and emanate when we choose to. It makes so much sense.
It’s amazing to see how many behaviours we choose over feeling what there is to feel in an interaction or relationship. The pain of not feeling and dulling/comforting actually ends up worse than just feeling what it is there in the first place. We need to have understanding of ourselves and how we work to know there are certain reasons we choose the so called ‘comfortable’ behaviour, that ends up in far more discomfort in the end. It is not as simple as ‘snapping out of them’ but rather, supporting ourselves with love to unfold each piece of hurt that stops us from embracing a life of beauty and true joy.
Once we absorb emotions, they affect (infect?) us.
Great call Christoph! So true
Some of my first memories in life are of being in a room filled with emotions and reactions. I can remember very clearly how they felt, and they were not a part of me – just around me. I remember not understanding why they were there – it felt harsh and alien to me. But soon I was to let these emotions in, feel that there were a part of me, and if they were, then they must be my fault. And then I started to engage in them myself, until I was swallowed up in the world of emotions and reactions and I became them.
I have often pondered on this, and after learning so much from the wisdom of Serge Benhayon – ‘observe not absorb ‘- I am finally taking myself back to the place where I can be me, and not let the rest in.
I’m only just beginning to understand just how much I can feel from other people, and, when I allow it instead of numbing it, sometimes it feels like a kick in the stomach or I get suddenly very anxious. I realised recently that feeling in this way is me ‘absorbing’ and not ‘observing’ and explains why I feel so exhausted all the time.
This is an on going development for me too Carmel, staying with observing, not getting involved in ‘things’ or absorbing other people’s stuff. I have learnt this lesson the hard way, having absorbed so much ‘poison’ from other people, and yes it is exhausting, and makes us ill.
This resonates with me Jenny – allowing myself to feel that the emotions of others were to be taken on as my own, rather like a sponge absorbing more and more water until totally ‘water-logged’ and pushing through exhaustion for many years – Thank God for Serge Benhayon’s presentations which have inspired me to continue to ‘observe and not absorb’ – now my body soon lets me know if I have been absorbing others stuff through being tense, bloated or very uncomfortable.
I love everything you have said here Anne and Paul. I’ll definitely be reading more! Completely nailed how we clock other people as soon as we walk into a room. What we then do after that can have a lot of consequences. So many times I try to deny and hide and numb what I feel from others. But finding a different way to be with things has begun to be paramount for wellbeing. This highlights to me also how there is no point in lying when someone asks you what’s wrong or if you are okay. Honesty is key, as it enables others to trust what they are feeling.
I agree Emily. It is absolutely about finding another way and honesty definitely supports us to find this way. I am enjoying letting others see me in my vulnerability and fragility no matter what I am feeling – it is certainly a change from always pretending to be ‘fine’ and yes, it confirms what others are feeling too.
“there is no point in lying when someone asks you what’s wrong or if you are okay.” – this is so true Emily as because we feel everything all of the time, it follows that we can feel when someone is not being honest, and if they say that they are fine when they are not, we instantly begin to distrust our ability to feel. And then if we are the one being dishonest it also impacts on our body as the lie is felt deeply every time we say “I’m okay, I’m fine” when we are not. So hurts all around from one expression devoid of honesty!
“Honesty is key, as it enables others to trust what they are feeling.” Emily this is important as trusting our feelings helps us deal with situations without reacting. If one person is not being honest in a relationship, for example, the other person gets a double message and may believe what is said rather than trust what they feel.
I have also found this to be true Rebecca, I could find myself feeling the mood of another and not at first be acknowledging this, but then see that I should trust what I have first felt and that I know the energetic state of the other person. Our feelings are incredibly strong, the choice just comes down to how much we are willing to accept what we feel is true.
Mmm yea, accepting what we feel is true, is super powerful. It’s such a hindrance to others and children when we deny what we are feeling and tell others that we are fine (when we aren’t) they know something’s up anyway…
Very important points to ponder Anne and Paul, crucial in fact considering the current state of illness and disease – . ‘ So, can this anger be contagious? Can this force affect us physically, just as much as if it were a bacteria or a virus? And can the way we react to it, the dis-ease it creates in us, in fact be the underlying cause of illness and disease?
Is it possible that if we harden or contract in the face of anger, our connective tissue, muscles and joints may stiffen up, leading to inflammation, fibromyalgia, or arthritis?
Could our blood vessel walls harden, leading to high blood pressure and heart disease?
Yes it can, Jenny, I was a very angry child although I masked it by trying to be ‘good’. I carried that into adulthood with the occasional angry outburst but mostly hard judgement and criticism of others with the result that I now have arthritis in all my joints. Fortunately the pain has subsided somewhat since I have (a) let go of much of the anger and (b) refined my diet, and I am more flexible with regular gentle exercise, but the swollen joints and painful thumbs are still testimony to the way I have lived in the past.
Yes, the tension that we feel by not being connected to and choosing surrender in our body leads to a myriad of health conditions if we continue these patterns repetitively over many years. Yes, this ‘ill-at-ease’ is what we label and dismiss as being ‘stress’ and yet we are totally able to choose otherwise, to connect deeply to our body and to honour it in our movements. And no matter how much we try to numb this ill-at-ease feeling and the emotions that stem from it, we cannot. It will always be there until we allow ourselves to feel it and release all that we have been avoiding and trying not to feel. In my experience, this is a gentle and gradual process of letting myself feel and most importantly, supporting myself consistently to feel all the uncomfortable-ness and not resort to numbing once again.
It is so true, without awareness, we will react to the emotion or tension of another by assuming these same emotions or tensions, taking them on and making them our own. When we bring awareness to this and build a loving relationship with our body, we have the capacity to see this going on and choose instead to remain connected to and continue to surrender in our body, letting the other have their chosen experience. Interestingly, it is quite often the reverse that then occurs: the other feels the energetic pull of my love and returns to their own love much more rapidly.
Greatly appreciated how this blog poses questions and does not jump to solutions, leaving the reader to simply contemplate whether it may be true or not. Do we feel anger as soon as it comes into the room and do we brace to protect against it and how is that affecting our health long term if all emotions cause some reaction in us? I agree it is super important to revise and acknowledge this, even if we have answered it before. Perhaps the answer is old and we can take a fresh new look at it.
Thank you for this inspiring piece, Anne and Paul, asking us to deeply consider the nature in which we are choosing to live. It is so true, we feel so much more that we choose to be aware of and so are we reacting or responding with truth to that which we are feeling? We cannot deny the truth, that we can feel another’s disposition when we meet but how are we with this, with them, in that moment? How does it feel when we override what we are truly feeling? As you have written ‘We are living in a sea of emotions, all day every day, at home, at work, in relationships, in life.’ – so would it not be wise to choose to be aware of emotions, if we are reacting or responding with truth to them, as otherwise it would seem that we are living or rather existing with tension, at the mercy of the emotions of others and ourselves, as we are resisting the truth of what we are feeling.
It is a profound realisation that the emotions I am feeling may not, and many cases are not, my own but are the result of me reacting to someone else’s emotions and thereby ‘taken them on’ as my own. That is huge, for how many times and in how many ways am I making choices based upon feelings that are not my own and if I was not feeling that way I would make completely different ones? That would mean I am living a life that is not in true alignment with myself
Jonathan I can so relate to taking on other’s emotions about certain things and seeing it as my own. How destructive it can be. Freeing when we finally deal with what we are feeling and not just bury it with emotions and behaviours.
Not only that Jonathan, but how much effort do you go to to resolve what you are feeling, when it was never yours in the first place!
This is amazingly true Jonathan. I used to be much more affected by the emotions of relatives or close friends and I could make another persons problem my own, feeling a need to solve the problem instead of just supporting and not getting drawn into it myself. Nowadays this does not seem to be the case as much but I can also feel I need to be aware for it may still be happening, less obvious but more devious therefore. Thank you for the reminder.
Emotion has played big part of most of our lives. The recognition that it is harmful to our bodies to put this pressure on it , can make a world of difference to the way we relate to others and express generally. The revelation that there is not one bit of emotion in love (Serge Benhayon), says it all.
Imagine if we could physically see emotions flying around and the actual energetic damage they are causing? We would perhaps have a very different view of them and be much more careful about expressing them. And medicine would also be much more aware of the role they have to play in illness and disease. But we can feel them now using our 6th sense just as vividly as if we could see them.
Absolutely Andrew, much easier for us to choose not to see and be consciously aware over lifetimes than to live with true responsibility. Great this is coming out into the open now.
It’s kind of like mobile phone waves, we can’t see them but they are all around us. We know that because we use our phones, but for whatever reason, we seem to pretend the waves aren’t there… the same logic can be applied to emotions.
Heather this is a great image – emotions are energy and like waves that we are surrounded by. Most people are unaware of this fact and therefore easily affected by it.
It helps to realise that most people communicate their emotional state when they speak. We can miss the true meaning of what is said or relationships can go awry, if underlying and unseen emotions are not sensed. Sensing, feeling, reading between the lines is key.
I know it can be very challenging to simply observe and read the emotions in another person (or even myself!) without going into some kind of reaction or emotion myself. Not only do we feel emotions, we definitely feel the disturbance they bring to our particles, which we register as a hurt or discomfort. To go into protection, in whatever form that comes in, seems like the ‘quick fix’ solution at the time, but we are actually hurting our selves and our bodies by reacting in this way, and slinging another dose of emotional energy in the direction of the other person.
What a great blog that poses so many important questions. In my experience emotions are contagious whether that be me picking up on my wife or my kids mood or feeling the mood of a crowd of people. We can all feel emotions and it is interesting to consider that this happens faster then even our five senses.
Very true andrewmooney26 – it takes a great deal of awareness with self and others, to not react or get affected by other people’s emotions or moods.
True Eva, we have a choice to be aware of what is coming at us every moment of the day. I am learning much in that area and it is asking me to go to a whole new level of responsibility to be present during the day.
It does Eva, require a consistent presence with ourselves and others in order to not react. This is why it is paramount for me to build a solid foundation of love with my body so I can observe and not absorb the emotions which come my way.
The speed at which we change and take on emotions that aren’t ours can be like lightning, and wow what a great lesson to ponder what is really happening, and take back our own lives simply by being aware of what is going on.
Yes absolutely Heather Pope, this is one of our greatest responsibilities, to stay true to ourselves and not let the harmful energies in. To stay on top of this is easy when I am totally present with myself, for these influences can only sneak in when I let the outside world gain the upper hand, so to speak.
Awareness and presence are vital, as yes I have found I can suddenly have this emotion or even physical pain come from nowhere. By having a marker of what I truly feel like helps to make me aware when something tries to sneak in, then I can call it out as not being mine and it leaves.
This is so true Andrew, I remember walking and feeling quite low all of a sudden and I turned around and realised it was the person behind me, and that I was picking up their mood. Once I realised this the feeling went – this is just one occasion which lasted minutes, it makes me wonder about the times I do not realise or pay attention to what is happening.
We live in a sea of emotions and if that sea is constantly polluted with anger causing us constant stress something has to give under the pressure. When someone slams a door in anger and it feels like the sound goes right through you I wonder how much is the sound and how much is the anger that we feel. My body involuntarily seems to harden up if this happens.
Now this is a blog that is delivering a whole truth to a propelling situation where our health issues, ill-ness and dis-ease is getting out of control. To me it all makes complete sense what you share Anne and Paul. Emotions are every where and our coping mechanism is to protect ourselves and harden. Some can go into sympathy and take on other people’s emotions also, which is not going to be great for that person. Since I started to let go of living emotionally, even though I didn’t seem to be an emotional person, I still had levels that I would go to in it for sure. I have felt a lot more steady and clearer.
I love how you have said letting go of living emotionally. Emotions are just another thing we can use to take us away from ourselves and identify with. Just like alcohol, food or plenty of other things we can do and use to take us out – emotions are another. Once we are aware that we are not actually our emotions and see them for what they are, it is much easier to stay steady and clear Natalie – I agree.
This is so true,Melinda. We do use emotion as a marker of involvement and interest. Emotion attracts sympathy and we feed on this. It is hard to not feel sadness at the movies and talk about it later as if it was real! No wonder we are are sicker than we have ever been.
Indeed Anne, our entire society is set up to feed the emotion – sympathy game.
So true Simone and Anne, we seek the entertainment that encourages emotional reactions in order to feel we are alive, having numbed our feelings and our senses, especially clairsentience. In the vacuum where we could actually connect with the emptiness to help us back to true feeling, we feel uncomfortable and replace feeling with emotion.
Yes Anne, ‘We do use emotions as a marker of involvement and interest’. What a cunning illusion we buy into.
One thing that I have realised reading through the comments is how we currently use emotion as a from of currency to relate to the world. For example, movies and TV shows, and most music lyrics focus on emotion. It can be considered a success if whatever form of entertainment creates emotion in the viewer. TV news style programs want to elicit outrage, anger and sympathy, movie actors receive awards for the emotions they express as characters (angry, hard, and bitter for example) and we listen to “love songs” crying our eyes out! Not only do we not observe the effects of emotion on the body, we seem to celebrate them and identify with emotions as if these are who we are. It’s says a lot to me about how we are defining ourselves as human beings, and how the pervasive and accepted nature of emotions is able to currently contribute to high rates of illness and disease.
This is great Melinda. Not only are we missing the point when it comes to the harm that emotions are causing us, we are actually championing emotions as a good thing! I know I used to believe that being emotional was part of being alive and I feared being a non-emotional human which to me seemed worse than death! However I now understand that there is a difference between emotions and feelings and that kicking the habit of emotions does not lead me to become dull and boring and robotic. Far from it, there is a beautiful rich world of feelings to explore and express that are not emotional and they support, nourish and expand the physical body.
I love this Melinda. We do use emotions as currency – trading them with the needs and expectations of other’s emotions. Investing in them and also, using them as a form of identification. Yet, despite all the emotional currency being used in the world, no one is getting any richer from it. We still feel poor and keep searching for the one emotion we think that we want when we actually have a great wealth of something much grander inside us all along – love. Not emotional love, True Love http://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/word-index/unimedpedia-love.html
A great insight and exposure you offer here Melinda in how irresponsible we are in the way we live in deep illusion, far away from the truth of who we are. Emotional Love is considered normal and at this time, few are willing to associate or explore its relationship to illness and disease or make the changes required to return to Love in full.
“Not only do we not observe the effects of emotion on the body, we seem to celebrate them and identify with emotions as if these are who we are. It’s says a lot to me about how we are defining ourselves as human beings, and how the pervasive and accepted nature of emotions is able to currently contribute to high rates of illness and disease”.
So true Melinda, I notice more and more how an emotional response is the measure of success in the media, and a goal attained. We are encouraged to identify with an emotion and think it is us. True feeling that comes first and is then suppressed, becomes hidden and gradually the ability to feel and choose from that place is lost. This is a very dangerous contagion, for when so much is hidden, and others cannot feel you either for the same reason, then the truth is not expressed and lies abound. From that false foundation comes corruption, indulgence, coldness, jealousy, and a couldn’t care less mentality, all of which contribute towards a society at dis-ease within itself, and ultimately — illness.
That is an interesting point joanchristinecalder – how the media measure success. From what you have described, it makes me realise that the media is just reflecting humanity back to itself – we are all seeking “emotional responses” or reactions as they provide us with recognition and attention. The more we become aware that our emotions are not us, the less our reactions will feed each other, the media included.
‘Yet, despite all the emotional currency being used in the world, no one is getting any richer from it’. True Simone, people are rich with illness and disease and impoverished of true love, health and inner contentment. And it is designed to be this way. When people are emotional, needy, purposeless, they are numb, less likely to question, challenge or seek fundamental change. They become part and parcel of the corrupt and failing system that created the cycle of dependency they’re trapped inside.
Great point Melinda, we do champion emotions big time and we keep looking for more. Nowadays when turning on the tv it is hard to watch and feel all the turmoil, the craziness etc. Strange how we numb ourselves with other people’s emotions. It just makes no sense.
Emotions certainly cause a tremendous amount of self destructive and harmful lifestyle choices. From drug addictions and overeating, to overwork or withdrawal from life, emotions can overwhelm us and we can then create behaviours that are designed to avoid how they feel whatever the cost – even to the point of complete self destruction. It’s long overdue for the harm of emotions to be considered an essential factor in health care and prevention of illness.
Well said Melinda. When we are unwell our bodies are communicating to us that the way we are living is not serving us, that the choices we are making are not supporting us. We have then the opportunity to consider why are we making these lifestyle choices and where are these choices coming from? ‘It’s long overdue for the harm of emotions to be considered an essential factor in health care and prevention of illness.’ – well said as with this we will start to see true change in our health and well-being as we will begin to take responsibility for how we are feeling and the way we are choosing to live.
Yes Melinda I agree, and emotions can be fuelled by life-style choices for better or worse. At one time my roller-coast life mirrored inner ups and downs bolstered by daily fixes of caffeine, sugar, some alcohol, nicotine, and heavy food. When I changed the way I ate and eliminated all addictive substances from my diet, my mood and sense of well-being changed, I developed an inner steadiness which meant I reacted to others much less often.
What you present here Anne and Paul makes so much sense. Although it is not rocket science, we, as a society are still far from admitting that we make ourselves ill by the way we live and the prominent place emotions have in our lives. I am learning so much about dealing with hurt and I can testify how my body appreciates my letting go of them sooner these days, and always returning to my heart. Once you start being honest how hardening feels in your body, you have a good start in finding your way back to your natural grace and loveliness.
Katinka you’re spot on with the fact that it’s not rocket science, we all know this yet we so often choose to ignore it. That is the real shame as we search for a fix to our illness without wanting to look at our cause in it in the first place. At least not very often to the detail and with the responsibility it asks us to. Learning to deal with my hurts has been and is one of the things I’ve avoided the most in life, yet when I do, like you, my body deeply appreciates it.
Beautifully said Katinka. I agree that honesty is key in returning to and maintaining a true state of consistent well-being and vitality.
Love what you’ve said here Katinka. It’s so true, it’s not rocket science, however we do play very ignorant to the fact that we create our own messes.
Play is the right word here Emily, it is a game we are playing, one that I would think we would be tired of by now. Or we stop playing this game or our bodies will make us stop, the last option is not a pleasant one, as many are experiencing today.
The idea that we are playing a game Emily is true, but do we think we are playing or are we being played with and manipulated to remain blind to the game?
That depends on how we have configured our bodies. We are not the puppet masters in this world.. yet can choose the energy that flows through us.
Absolutely Katinka, we often stay in our hurts, identified with our stressful lives – emotions are quite addictive. But our body tells us the truth of it all, and responds amazingly when we let go of our stress.
The identification with our emotions really is a strange pattern we seem to have globally accepted as our own.
I agree Jenny and Katinka – if we are ever going to change these deeply ingrained patterns, we need to bring awareness to the fact that we actually identify with the hurts and the emotions. We make the hurts ‘who we are’.
Katinka, whenever I react to someone’s behaviour or emotions, my body feels tense and ugly. As you say ‘Once you start being honest how hardening feels in your body you have a good start in finding your way back to your natural grace and loveliness’
With self awareness, I can observe situations and people I am most likely to react to and slowly learn from this. One learning is recognising what I bring that adds or creates tension. Expectation is a big one for me. I’m most likely to be the source of contagion when an expectation I have of another is not met and when this happens the anger is likely to stem from inside me.
Yes kehinde2012, good to read that again, being honest how hardening feels in my body is very important. I realise that many don’t remember what it is like to not have hardness in their body. They need a marker first what a surrendered body feels like. We have much to offer with the amazing Universal Medicine Therapies to give people back a sense of their natural grace and tenderness.
Beautifully expressed Katinka. Being honest and acknowledging how hardening truly feels in the body is such a major first step to returning to our natural grace. It is the unlocking and opening of the door of a jail of own making.
I agree Katinka, ‘many don’t remember what it is like to not have hardness in their body’, it has become such an ingrained part of us. Being honest about how it feels in the body, is the first step. I am still learning how it feels to have a truly surrendered.
Honesty is most certainly the key to, as you say, ‘finding your way back to your natural grace and loveliness.” To realise that these qualities are naturally who we are and not the stressed out, angry, anxious being we have come to believe we are, has the potential to change and save lives; it has certainly changed, and saved, mine.
I used to find it difficult to be honest about my choices, especially the ones that were lacking responsibility and love for myself and others, but once you start being honest, admitting to yourself what you have chosen and how that truly feels, it just gets easier and its very freeing. I am now slowly letting go of the belief that I have to be perfect. The space this allows me is just so beautiful and I would love it for others to experience this too.
Beautiful Anne and Paul – I love the simplicity and realness in which you have described the fact that everything is energy and that we all feel it all the time, whether we are aware of it or not. If we all understood this profound message, it would make a huge difference in our lives, our relationships, our societies, the world.
Very true Eva, the quality of a person would become much more paramount.
It would make an enormous difference I agree Eva, it would enable us to understand so many of the un-explained things that humans do, not only in the field of medicine, but also things like the random massacres, suicide bombers, religious attacks that take place. If we were able to see how energy influences us, our daily lives would be focussed on living in a very different way.
I agree Rowena – ‘If we were able to see how energy influences us, our daily lives would be focussed on living in a very different way’.
If we could see energy clearly it would be the most horrific, hideous scene imaginable from just seeing anger, jealousy and competition as it is unleashed from individuals – collectively this builds out of all proportion to become massacres and wars. Individualism at its worst.
We would all want to be far more responsible for our thoughts and deeds to bring the picture back to something far more harmonious to feel and see – restoration of Brotherhood as a natural way of living.
Rowena and Stephanie that is a huge concept to imagine, but I feel to a certain degree we do see and feel it all disputes the fact we are acting like we are oblivious to it all ….. It’s like we have been ‘slipped a Mickey’ and our awareness has been dimmed.
That is true Eva – I just ponder on how our media then would look like . . .
Absolutely Eva, if we really understood everything is energy, ‘and that we all feel it all the time, whether we are aware of it or not. If we all understood this profound message, it would make a huge difference in our lives, our relationships, our societies, the world,’ maybe it is time to for everyone to know this is a truth. It would certainly bring a lot of answers to things that seem mysterious.
“if we do start to feel that the behaviours we are using to numb ourselves are hurting us, and try to stop them, all the uncomfortable feelings that we have been trying not to feel are there waiting for us. No wonder we have trouble giving things up and letting things go!” This is the answer to the reason for any addiction, be it drugs, alcohol or food. By stopping the abusive behaviour we have to experience the painful feelings we have been trying to avoid, and have to face and deal with issues that are uncomfortable or challenging. Yes no wonder we have trouble giving things up!
What a clear and simple presentation of why it is not a good idea to shut down our feelings – thank you Anne and Paul.
Anger is very contagious. So is love, it is not quite as obvious but it has a huge effect on people.
The world of energies being refreshingly sprayed into the air by your words, love it.
“A sea of emotions” I can feel the turmoil in this, I have now experienced many times what it feels like to not get emotional about things, and while sometimes not being emotional stirs others to anger and accusations that I am detached, I feel in my body how true it is to not be stirred up by events but to stay still in my body and observe and give love from a place of stillness and a lack of emotional involvement. I now know that to be truly deeply caring has no emotion, whereas if I am emotional I am just enjoining and confirming that the turmoil is ok and normal when in fact it is very harming to our bodies homeostasis
That’s great Stephen. We do know the emotion is turbulent because we seek things like meditation to give us a break from it. For me the Gentle Breath Meditation offers me a reconnection to my stillness. After I’m there I often look at all the worries and emotion I was experiencing and they seem so baseless. How did I get hooked into them in the first place? They don’t make sense, yet the stillness and love I feel does. I look forward to the time when I have dealt with all my hurts and reactions and can be in stillness all of the time.
Anne, stress factors are empirically research and well known to contribute to many major diseases. However, what has not been dealt with effectively in light of all the evidence is introducing a way of living that reduces stress and increases our capacity to deal with it. Serge Benhayon says “The way we live is the best medicine” and it has proven true for me and thousands of others. There is a body of qualitative research conducted for over 16 years by the students of Serge Benhayon’s presentations of the Ageless Wisdom and the ‘Way of the Livingness’ that indicate without doubt that he is on to something that could benefit all of humanity in their pandemic diseases plight with regard to how to live in a way that support true health on every level. I would love to see this embraced by the medical profession and shared with their patients so that the way we all live will be less of an emotional roller coaster and more harmonious instead.
Thank you Anne and Paul for a great article, linking emotions with the word contagion. As we feel the energy It can be difficult at times to not react to the emotion of anger by hardening or numbing our bodies as a way of protection. I have avoided anger most of my life, realising now it was my own anger that I was not wanting to feel.
That’s a great point Jill and I also have avoided situations which I find confronting due to my reactions to them. This is well worth further reflection in my life.
This understanding is ENORMOUS to consider the full impacts of. Anxiety is now a widespread problem affecting nearly every single one of us. Not to mention the massive exhaustion and lack of joy and vitality throughout life in so many. The results are evident and it is high time we start to view this as a widespread epidemic not just because ‘humanity is getting too busy’
This is a great article and the links are well worth reading too – energetic responsibility includes being aware of what we allow into our bodies, whether it be certain foods or the energy coming at us from other people.
It feels so confirming and expansive to read your words Anne and Paul. The sense and truth of what you say is like a breath of fresh air in a world that is in so much denial. We know deep down what it going on in our body and yet we choose to numb out what we are feeling – until eventually there comes a stop moment where we can no longer avoid the truth of what we feel all the time.
Yes Susan and wouldn’t it be great if we as an intelligent species are to choose this stop moment ourselves? Rather than our body’s needing to create a stop moment because we’ve abused ‘it’ so much. I would love people to allow themselves and say stop to themselves before illness and / or disease appears. In which cases a lot of the time the illness or disease gets the blame rather than honouring the stop moment and feel what it is truly offering us.
Stop moments are great for reestablishing our deep connection with ourselves and eventually, as we have more and more of them, they will join up, like dots, so that we are consciously connected all of the time.
Beautiful Carmel. I fully relate to this. Rebuilding the connection by those stop moments is very precious to me. At first it brought me gentleness, where as now I easily return to stillness and feel how delicate, tender, sweet, etc. I am. How beautiful is it to return and owning our own bodies once again.
I find that the amount of, and the quality of, sleep I have affects me greatly. I can find myself much more nervous and/or anxious when I do not allow myself a good quality sleep. I am more vulnberable to outside influences and the possibility of ‘picking up’ something whether that be another’s anger or a virus.
Ha – just realized that by trying to protect myself from the emotions from others I get ‘infected’ as well. I may become hard and distanced, or arrogant, or sympathetic – but anyway, I become emotional too. If I react.
I’ve become very aware of the impact sugar has on my body recently. It makes me angry. If I eat sugar, the next day I notice myself become angry, I wonder why and then realise that the day before I ate sugar. I know now that I cannot eat sugar because if I do it will hurt myself and others around me. I am feeling how irresponsible it is for me to eat sugar and wondering why we so often encourage each other to be irresponsible in ways that clearly hurt another: ‘oh go on eat another cake’ or ‘have a drink’. It feels so wrong that when we are going out to have a so called ‘good time’ we are encouraging and celebrating the fact that we are abusing ourselves and each other. For me, I know that I cannot eat sugar and that I have a responsibility not to eat it, because I now know how much it will impact another and I have an equal responsibility not to encourage another to indulge.
I’m super sensitive so I can clock an angry person in the room very easily. My reactions are to go into my shell and take flight, or think of ways to take flight. I get a strong sense of fear like anger is my kryptonite and I feel really uncomfortable with the disharmony in the room. After reading this blog, I now have some courage for the next time I am in this situation to stay and feel and not flee, to explore this fear further as I don’t want disease in my body.
Is anger contagious? This question really got me to think how much we are impacted by another person’s anger, which allowed me to reflect just how much I impact another if I get angry and that I have a responsibility not to get angry, as it is harming those around me. When we consider this it is no wonder that our rates of illness and disease are so high and the NHS in the UK is at financial breaking point, because most of us live with this dis-ease on a daily basis. We all accept that a relationship to with physical violence is not OK, although some still choose to live in them, though rarely would we agree that a relationship with anger and arguments amounts to the same. They are both abusive, only one is more visible than the other.
With this understanding and perspective it is no wonder we find it hard to move on from unhealthy habits. Every time we stop we feel much more acutely all that we have accumulated. So rather than facing up to this and working our way back through, we keep moving, distracting and numbing… all of which accumulates more…
Mad but understandable. However, if we do stop and get honest about all that follows us in our past choices we then have the inspiring and real opportunity to make some changes. This is the healing nature of responsibility.
Anything that is not natural to our body is an illness or disease. Absorbing or protecting ourselves from another’s emotion is an illness or disease.
The world can turn us into a pressure cooker by holding back on things around us we feel and absorb and not release. This is how riots begin in the world. Is this not the same thing we do to ourselves? We are allowing riots to take place with in our bodies and this continuing dis-ease is burning down our house.
Wonderful Anne and Paul – even if this question is challenging I love it: “It may be challenging to think of emotions as being contagious as any virus, but what if they are?” I love it because I can feel that it is true. Whenever I was completely lost in an emotion in the past I was getting ill (headache, sinusitis, bronchitis). Since I am more aware how awful emotions can be – my body is less reacting and that was and still is a little miracle for me.
It is clear that when tension and disharmony resides within me, it affects vital function such as immunity. For example, I have experienced in a tense state, a coldness invading the kidney region of my back and a feeling of light headedness and achy-ness as if ‘coming down’ with something. It is also becoming clearer how bringing more attention back to my body and honouring what it needs clears tension and brings more of a feeling of harmony and rhythm within my daily life.
I too get these symptoms and it most definitely feels like I am ‘coming down’ with a cold. Being gentle and reconnecting back to me dissipates any potential illness. Thank you for this awareness Simon, I will have more of a knowing next time it happens and this will give me the opportunity to go deeper to the root cause.
The title of this blog really caught my attention and it describes very well the nature of emotions and responses to these when felt from others. It can be so easy to get into a chain reaction from emotional behaviour affecting a number of people or going backward and forward between two people. I have observed that some people even seem to seek this type of interaction with other people.
I agree Michael. We do seek out these interactions – the feeding off drama or emotions – in the misunderstanding that sympathy and/or immersion = being there for/with someone. What is really going on though is that we are joining in and adding to the soup or fog that keeps us distant from true relationship and working together to move on from our ‘issues’.
Well said Michael and Matilda. We can involve ourselves in others issues and dramas, further adding to the illusion that this is who we are. I have given a lot of attention to emotion in my life, not realising it’s an energy passing through me, instead of connecting to myself and my stillness. Your comments have also highlighted to me that when emotion is present and it becomes the currency of relationships, then there is no true connection.
‘When someone walks into a room, we know how they are feeling’. Yes we certainly do if we are open and aware – connected to our body. However, when we allow ourselves to shut down or tune out – disconnect from our body – we often miss picking up these very important signals, can get slammed in the process and then are left wondering what the hell happened! In truth, it’s a no-brainer – we just need to keep our light on.
Awesome blog, Anne Malatt and Paul Moses. I do not know how it is with the English language, but in German and Serbian language we have a lot of old sayings that exactly confirm what you point out – how emotions (as e.g. anger, sadness etc.) affect the whole body or certain parts of it. Literally translated: “What you say, hits me in the mid of my heart.” Or “I was so anxious that my knees collapsed.” Or “This situation makes my gallbladder come up.” Quite wise our ancestors…
Very very well questioned and explained. To me this makes sense. Not because it sounds that comfortable, but actually it sounds real and when looked at, without reacting to the responsibility, I feel it makes perfect sense – more then the ‘random’ , ‘by accident’ or ‘overcoming’ type of way. Although this feels true I can feel a bit in me that kind of struggles with accepting that in fact how we become is how we have created and chosen ourselves. This might sound a bit harsh. But this is probably only the sounding of it, as we have made our lives hard by living in contraction the first place. Living from a lesser form of self and so in contraction is already a disease on its own. As I have experienced in my own body the ill-ness and absolute dis-ease, and still do at times, when I hold back my own self and pretend that I am ‘less’ type of behavior. Actually this has made me more sick than any thing else. Thank you Anne Malatt and Paul Moses.
When you put it like that, Dr. Anne Malatt and Paul Moses.
It really just makes common sense. Of course that is how we are affected.
Absolutely Simon, could it be that common sense is too easy for some to see because it looks too simple!
What I initially felt supported with from reading this article is the responsibility to not react to the emotions which are playing out around me. I can so clearly see how understanding what is going on for someone else leads to their emotional playouts which has very little to do with me – so why would I want to react? It is simply because it brings up some past hurts and issues for me – if I can continue to heal these, then not only will I arrest the dis-ease in my own body, but offer an opportunity to not perpetuate and fuel the emotion in the other – if their anger has such an effect on me, then my understanding and love can have an equal and opposite effect on them.
This article brings such life changing awareness to individuals, should they choose to take on what is being presented. Extend the understandings to how communities, groups, cultures, states, and countries interact with each other and we start to get a deeper understanding of what is the root cause of disharmony and wars in our world.
From one person’s choices to the impact on the whole. This is responsibility. Our every moment an opportunity and gift to serve the whole that we are all part of.
So much power is held in every thought and action, power to heal and power to harm, be it ourselves or another. This blog presents the deep responsibility we hold to live in a loving way, for while we are not, we can’t help but harm. Once again be it ourselves or another.
A beautiful expose on revealing that our reactions and emotions is what causes illness and disease.
Thanks Anne and Paul for sharing what we all know to be true, that we feel so much that is unsaid. Like the example you provided, we all know when someone is angry, we can feel it before they speak. Same with when someone is joyfull, it lights up a room. We often respond or react to this with hardening, in the face of anger, or opening up with joy. If we are constantly surrounded by either emotion it makes sense that this would have an effect on our physical and mental health. Same as the air we breathe and the water we drink has an effect on our health.
absolutely right Lee Poole. There has been so much unsaid and not spoken about – real matters, things that really matter and concern us – yet we seem to not consciously think about them as such or able to express them at that moment (due lack of expression, holding back ourselves). This blogs shows us that we can cross that barrier of ‘that we are not able to speak’ or that ‘ we are not able to say that’ – like it is done in this blog. Reading that what has been unsaid or not spoken about is a freedom in my heart once I acknowledge that it is indeed true. Go Go lets breaks those boxes and get real:) Let’s speak about everything. Whatever concerns us, whatever we feel, lets have an open environment and lets build our level of truth and expression in the world. That is a subject worth spending time on.
Great questions, Anne and Paul:
“What if the diseases that we label as ‘random’, ‘bad luck’, or even ‘genetic’, are in fact a result of the dis-ease we experience, every day, day after day?”
Recently I got into a conversation about this topic with a first year medical student. And although he found it difficult, because there was no ‘scientific’ proof, he and I both agreed how much sense this makes.
Fantastic blog Anne and Paul. If I am honest about how my body reacts to anger, there is no denying the tension I go into. I have seen many people hold onto this anger, which in turn holds onto the tension. When they tell a story from 30 years ago, they are able to re-live that reaction and that tension and there is no denying the tension that is carried in the body. It is not a one off event either – the tension gets compounded by more and more events. By age 60, after so long of building on this tension, no wonder the joints have difficulty moving.
Yes, Nikki, it is this compounding effect of the same reactions that damages the body over time, and could so easily be avoided if we were to stop and look at what we go into and why.
It is a hard hitting fact that there are much more contagious diseases than we are aware of. If we really allowed this wisdom in, more of us would be searching for ways to stay immune. Universal Medicine does present such a way of living. For me, working as a therapist, The Way of The Livingness has saved my health.
‘…there are much more contagious diseases than we are aware of’ great point Felix, our perspective of disease and illness combine with our own chosen limitations on our awareness mean we do not realise the reality of the situations and consequences resulting from our choices.
“When someone walks into a room, we know how they are feeling.” This is so true. Words are not needed – we stil communicate all the time – through our touch, through our eyes, through our breath, every little movement is expressing something, that is really amazing.
Yes Alexander, we can feel it immediately and so can children. Young children and babies are an incredible barometer if someone does not ‘feel’ right or if someone comes near them who lives with stress, anger or an energy that does not feel good. They cry and it is obvious the baby or toddler does not want to be held by or near this person. I have seen how babies respond to Serge Benhayon and they kind of melt in his arms. One baby he had never met before surrendered with her head against his heart in a completely natural way that you would only expect in the arms of the baby’s mother or father. When you observe this it is categorically clear that the lies that have been written about Serge Benhayon are not true and that there has never been even a shred of sexual wrongdoing whatsoever.
“Is it possible that if we harden or contract in the face of anger, our connective tissue, muscles and joints may stiffen up, leading to inflammation, fibromyalgia, or arthritis?” I got cross over the weekend and it took a dedicated conscious allowing and letting go for over an hour to feel gentle in my body again. Up until then there was a hardening in my chest and down my arms and a tightness in my jaw that is still to be fully released. If I were to live like this day to day there really is no telling what my body would be reflecting to me in its pain and illness. Not only did I notice the hardening, but also an increase in nervous tension that meant I couldn’t fully rest leading to exhaustion. If I had left it any longer to be responsible with my body, I would have been in self doubt and self judgment too, causing further hardening and nervous tension.
Anne and Paul, I love what you are sharing here and I love the understanding you bring to why we want to keep numbing ourselves without any judgment. “We are living in a sea of emotions, all day every day, at home, at work, in relationships, in life. Try as we may to numb ourselves, we can never stop feeling, and if we do start to feel that the behaviours we are using to numb ourselves are hurting us, and try to stop them, all the uncomfortable feelings that we have been trying not to feel are there waiting for us. No wonder we have trouble giving things up and letting things go!” Understanding that our reactions are causing us illness however does give us food for thought and to question if there is a different way.
I really appreciate the understanding in this article. It offers the space to consider the impact of running with the emotional or reactive wave in life without criticism or judgement. In fact the opposite, real understanding that can stop the run and support us to take responsibility.
Anne and Paul you present such an incredibly clear understanding of illness and disease. From what you have shared it seems apparent that all illness and disease basically stems from the same thing and that is not living life as it was intended to be lived. Emotions are not natural to our human bodies (although many would argue that they are) and so illness and disease is simply the culmination of emotions, exacerbated by the things that we do in an attempt to not feel the emotions that are all around us.
This is a really interesting perspective – it seems perfectly possible and even very probable from this article that illness and disease comes from our dis-ease, reactions and emotions in every day life.
I agree Jessica, it does seem perfectly possible. I for one feel incredible dis-ease being around another who is angry, and try as I may some of this dis-ease felt stays in my body. It’s a continual work in progress to observe some one’s anger and not be affected by what is coming at you. It like a sneeze as Rachel Mascord used for an example. You may wipe the sneeze off with your hand after someone sneezed on you, but the germ still remains.
Thats a great point Kim, ‘the germ still remains’. So we need to live in a way that we do not let others’ ‘germs’ affect us. We can try to protect ourselves as much as we want by hardening up, adding layers etc.. but we all know that does not work. Having a full open and loving heart is the best protection I have found. Whilst it may not seem easy at times to stay open and loving it is, as far as I have found, the only way to stay ‘germ free’. Why? Because it means you are in a constant state of awareness and understanding what is going on, so can respond to it rather than react to it, which means getting caught up in it.
You are spot on James, the image I just received was how magnets stick together. If we are full of magnets they find each other and stick on. If ours bodies are clear of magnets then they have nothing to stick too and they pass straight through.
That a very interesting image Kim, I see it as the magnets then acting as layers stopping both ourselves and others from then seeing the love that we naturally are. And because the magnets can combine together often the ‘protective’ barrier they create can seem so hard and real we think that is us, even though it is void of love.
That’s a good analogy – the thing is though that because emotions are so normalised I think they don’t even get to the stage of wiping their nose – I know I don’t often (not in the literal sense!) but because I’ve accepted that people will be emotional, as will I, then I just absorb all of this energy without a second thought.
Such a great sharing Anne and Paul thank you. I really sat up to attention when realising the enormity of how much we can impress another with the sheer fact of our body language, our mood sets the trend for another to feel and in most cases (I feel) absorb especially If not living in our fullness to realise what is truly going on. Then for this heavy energy to gather momentum into another person’s livingness. Much like a ‘dis-ease’ carrying virus. In answer to your question – Yes I do feel that anger can very much be contagious. As much to the flip side of this to feel Joy, lightness, and expansion in another can equally be the inspirational antidote. If we so choose.
Joy and lightness in our own bodies is the divine antidote and prevention to absorbing emotions. If we are already full of the love and light we are, there simply isn’t room to bring in and store the rubbish that emotions want to dump in us. The best part is we get to choose every time and moment.
It is the case that we feel everything even if we don’t want to and that we affect everyone around us with our emotions, such as anger, frustration, misery or depression and by reacting and holding on to those emotions that others have so freely expressed, it then makes sense that we will inevitably become ill. I have often wondered how come one person in an office of say six people would always feel ill or have more sick days off than the others – now I am wondering is it how they do or do not deal with the emotions flying about the office.
Great point Julie. We don’t like feeling the emotions and reactions of others. It is never nice to be around. Even excitement and happiness can feel imposing. We have become so ingrained to react ourselves to that that we also go into an emotion and hence the ill behaviour spreads its evil tentacles further throughout
What I love about the word “contagion” in the title is the fact that emotions are catching – as much as any virus from an unprotected sneeze or cough in our face.
Interestingly anger does not always spread to cause more anger. One person may become sad, another depressed or withdrawn. Some people get cheerful and happy to counteract it. Whatever the reaction the result is a sea of emotion. None of it reflects who we are.
In essence we are sneezing all over each other all of the time when we let our emotions run out of control. A horrible thought!
Great point Rachel. All emotions, be it anger, sadness, elatedness, happiness etc. are all from one and the same energy that runs counter to the true love that we are. By reacting to them, we allow ourselves to become infected by that which moves in opposition to our essence. While this may well sound like crazy speak to some, in time it will be known that we live in a great pool of energy and that which another breathes out, is that which we will breathe in, if first we do not discern the true quality of that breath as being equal to what lives at our deepest core. All that IS, is love, and all that IS NOT is set up to resist our expression of this. It is interesting how we have become a perfectly sanitised society terrified of germs we can’t see while all the while we breath in and thus out, the greatest poison of all – that which is not the love that we are, entirely visible to the naked eye and felt in every pore of our being. Breathing in what is not of our true breath is the first point of contact for dis-ease in our body.
This is an article that has got me squirming. I sit on the fence of not wanting to admit and take responsibility for my choices (the path to where I am at) and breaking through to a moment lived right now that says ‘absolutely… I am willing to learn, and am kicking pride into touch with humbleness’. Lighting up and working through that which I have accrued is DEFINITELY inspiring as opposed to accumulating more detritus.
A beautiful introduction to the dis-ease we all experience in our lives and how our bodies feel everything regardless of our attempts to not feel knowingly ourselves.
True Penelope, I especially like the emphasis on ‘dis-ease’ as it is a life without ease.
Yes Penelope, it has made me more aware of how much I block out on a daily basis what I don’t want to feel. It is so automatic and fast that if I am not fully present with myself in that moment I do not catch myself doing it.
We label disease as ‘bad luck’ and ‘random’ because we do not want to take responsibility for that which we have chosen that has led us away from true love and vitality to this point of illness and dis-ease. Deep down we know that it is our unwillingness to express the love that we are, that has made us so sick, we are just loathe to admit it because our pride gets in the way. Humbleness and the willingness to admit the error of our loveless ways are the keys in restoring love and vitality into every cell of our body and pore of our being.
That is a really huge point Liane Mandalis, and I would say for many – a very bitter pill to swallow. We have become very comfortable as a society blaming medicine, doctors, genes, science, technology, food, microwaves.. so on and so forth for all of our woes.
Are we prepared to take a look at what is actually going on and see what is really going on?
That’s true Liane, it is a kind of arrogance to hold on treating something (like our body) very bad and when it breaks – to blame other things or circumstances for it, instead of being honest with it.
Sonja I came to a point recently when I had to take an honest look at emotions. Whilst I take great care not to put junk food, sugar, alcohol or poor quality food ingredients in my body, because of how terrible they make me feel, I had to admit I was still absolutely smashing my body with emotions and reactions. I may as well have been dumping a kilo of sugar down my throat – the effects are just as devastating. I can fool myself that I’m ticking the boxes of taking care of my health by looking at physical things, yet I’m continually debilitating and devitalising my body with emotion.
Melinda, this is a very important point. For me it is the same. Emotions (let it be anger, sadness, rage and also excitement) have even more effect on my body than food. The reason is that once these emotions run through my body – I automatically grab food which is not supporting me. It is food I eat then which makes me numb and stops me feeling what I have let through.
Yes it is such a commonly held belief in the world that illness and disease is bad luck and random. The word responsibility appears to be invisible. Love your shared wisdom “Humbleness and the willingness to admit the error of our loveless ways are the keys in restoring love and vitality into every cell of our body and pore of our being.”
So true: “Deep down we know that it is our unwillingness to express the love that we are, that has made us so sick, we are just loathe to admit it because our pride gets in the way.” And this makes life in fact so simple we just can’t accept it.
Yes Liane, isn’t it convenient that we describe dis-ease as random or bad luck because we can then continue to live in comfort without taking any responsibility for our choices. I agree we find it excruciating to admit that we have not lived the love that we are for so long, but when we do make the choice to live that love, the difference we feel in our bodies is incredible.
So well said Liane and so very true. In choosing to deny to live and express the absolute love we are, we instead have chosen to exist in all that is not of love and so all that is less than love. Our bodies are not designed to live less than who we truly are. The tension of being in this lesser way, of having emotions pass through us rather that the light of our love, the light of our Soul, is what makes us feel so sick and unwell as we are existing as a paler version of our true selves. I agree that ‘Humbleness and the willingness to admit the error of our loveless ways are the keys in restoring love and vitality into every cell of our body and pore of our being.’
Thankyou Anne and Paul, what you have presented makes complete sense to me. Love is our only true form of medicine. Without it we are a breeding ground for dis-ease, left at the whim of every passing emotion that may enter us and wreak havoc in a body designed to embody and express the love that we are. We can’t stop others being emotional, nor should we avoid them, but we can stop ourselves following suit by way of reacting emotionally instead of lovingly. Disease is simply the ‘lack of ease’ felt when we abandon love. Therefore it follows that we need only be love in the face of what is not love, in order to withstand such an ‘attack’.
Beautifully simple, Liane. What keeps us from remaining with the simplicity of returning to love as who we innately are? That we will feel hurt at some point in our lives is part of being alive on this planet, either our own or another’s. Could it be that instead of simply feeling the hurt and recognising that it is not who we truly are, and thus returning to our love, we instead go into a kind of panic to try and avoid the pain from happening again? In doing so we choose to hide our glory and brilliance in an attempt to protect it, but far from protection we instead compound the hurt, contract from life, and start down the road of ‘lack of ease’.
All very true Naren. We separate from love and in that hurt we run from the very thing that alleviates the pain – the saviour light that is our love. By running from it, we also run headlong into more pain and more grief. Despite this, we are a humanity on the run, in ceaseless motion lest we stop and feel the love we truly are and all that we have lived that has not been of this great love.
It is one thing to imagine a single person in this state of constant motion, desperately trying to hide their hurts from the world, but to take that to its reality and the fact that we are talking about the vast, vast majority of people: the 7 billion of us, and we are all doing the same thing – keep moving to avoid feeling – we can start to grasp the scale of the issue at hand. It starts to bring an understanding of why we are still grappling with the same issues that we have had for thousands of years. All to avoid the unavoidable fact that we have an immense and beautiful love within us that is worthy of showing to the world.
So beautifully, powerfully simple, and that can be one of the reasons that we use to stop ourselves from being Love…We don’t want to feel the hurt of our separation, but also believe that it can’t possibly be that simple.
Yes, Jenny, it is an easy excuse to hide in complexity and not admit to ourselves that our hurts are in fact simple to heal by just making different choices.
Liane there is always such richness to the way that you express the truth and your loyalty to expressing the truth is deeply felt.
We cannot change others but we are in charge of how we react in the face of other’s emotions. As Anne and Paul describe, when faced with anger in another, it can be so easy to go into tension as a way to protect ourselves. But we do not protect ourselves at all, in fact we harm ourselves by doing so. I have been on a personal training program for my reactions to others emotions. By default I react and go into tension which I then have to live with. If I leave the other person’s emotions with them, it does exactly that – their emotion stays with them and I stay with me.
I like the idea of a personal training program in dealing with others emotions, it’s something that I also have to be aware of.
‘ If I leave the other person’s emotions with them, it does exactly that – their emotion stays with them and I stay with me’. This is really cool Nikki, something I am yet to work on. Your personal training program sounds intriguing, I would love to know more about it.
The “training program” started with the awareness of how my body was in reaction and I began to really feel in my body what reaction does. It feels so horrible and I then carry it around. This was possible as I worked on feeling more love in my body and expressing that so then I had a marker for what love felt like in my body. Tension was then easier to feel. From here I could see and feel more clearly my reactions which allows me to make choices. The reaction used to be by default but as I am more in my body and feel what that does, I stop or catch myself more often and look at what I am choosing. Reaction is a choice.
I totally understand choosing reaction as the default. The reaction cuts any connection to the body in a split second and the moment is lost. But as I begin to catch and stop the default before it goes into the reaction I can begin to explore what it is I am trying to protect. From here I can begin to heal the hurt that I am protecting. ‘Reaction is a choice’ – most definitely.
If we do not choose love we simply choose dis-ease, for there is no other place we can dwell.
I love what you have written here – “Disease is simply the ‘lack of ease’ felt when we abandon love. Therefore it follows that we need only be love in the face of what is not love, in order to withstand such an ‘attack’.” Thank you for these words of wisdom – a great addition to the clarity of what Anne and Paul have presented here – asking some great questions about how emotions affect our bodies.
Liane I feel like you hit the nail on the head here. We can’t stop other people being emotional – we can only choose how we respond. Do we react and harden, taking on the anger? Or do we feel the emotion for what it is without reacting and offer a reflection of love? I know that when I react to another’s emotion it feels terrible, there is no ease. It is possible that in my reaction is the beginnings of dis-ease.
“Therefore it follows that we need only be love in the face of what is not love, in order to withstand such an ‘attack’.” Thank you Liane this is a golden gem, you are golden.
“So how can these emotions that we feel, that we consider a normal part of everyday life, be the underlying cause of illness and disease?” An intriguing question you have posed here, Anne and Paul, you have certainly made quite a case for the possibility of it being a true underlying cause of illness and disease, it makes good sense to me to feel it to be very possible. We know that stress is very damaging on the body, and it feels awful to us to be anywhere near someone who is expressing much anger. If that anger is addressed to us particularly, it can be extremely stressful. So if we don’t have a way to not be affected by this, it feels very possible to me that it could lead to illness and/or disease. I look forward to reading Part 2 of your blog.
I agree Beverley. Anne and Paul present a very interesting case for consideration. I feel like none of this can be “proven” at this stage but it is very exciting. This feels like one of the big new frontiers. Sometimes it feels like all the big scientific discoveries have already been made but I feel that there is so much more to learn still. I can imagine talking to my grandchildren in 50 years time saying “we never realised how important emotions were and our responsibility in the world”.
At the moment human beings are able to recognise stress as having an effect on the body, however we aren’t as yet taking it into the necessary detail of emotions and what the “stress” is actually about. It would be great for how all the emotions affect the body to be common knowledge, as for example anger is explained here in this blog. I feel then this would create a deeper sense of responsibility for our wellbeing and greater awareness of how our choices impact ourselves and others day to day.
Dear Anne and Paul, this is a very supportive article. It is simply vulnerable to feel every day living in our present day world of all the things that are not natural, we have sold out to emotional attachment and disconnection and all the poisons that come with it. I have been reacting most of my life to this tension felt, and thus playing a part in perpetuating the longevity of what is not true, and holding back what is natural to return. This conflict within is in conflict with the outside world and it is debilitating. In reacting, I have contracted the dis-ease of emotions and have irresponsibly spread it myself.
When in acceptance that our world is far from being natural and allowing myself to feel how vulnerable this is, accepting that this is where we are at and taking the responsibility to express how unnatural this all is, without giving it any power, is a new lifestyle choice I am now making. As a human being, we have a responsibility to care for ourselves, and to continously deepen this care whenever the slightest tension is felt, and I am exploring how my body and health would change with more protection being taken off.
I agree Adele, we have a responsibility to care for ourselves as human beings. The extent of this responsibility has been shown by Anne and Paul as even our emotions affect others. This shows that we have a responsibility for the emotional impact we have on others and also to not react to another’s emotions, as this is harming to us.
This is such an important realisation, that our emotions do not stay confined to just ourselves and are felt by others who are around us, who then have their own feelings about the way we are behaving. It is important to understand that this not only with illness and disease but with good health and living well being as well.
As is stated in this blog we never stop feeling, it is a constant part of our lives. As children we pick up from our parents and read what is going on with them on a feeling level first before we know what is being said or start to read facial expressions, and this is the case both negatively and positively. A child growing up with angry adults learns that anger is the way to get through life. A child raised joyfully likewise will learn that joy is a part of life that brings an unfolding and possibility to what is lived.
Yes, Naren, I agree, “a child growing up with angry adults learns that anger is the way to get through life”. Or another effect on an extremely sensitive child could be that they withdraw completely into their shell to try to hide from the anger being expressed, something that may stay with them for their whole lives, so that they are not living open enjoyable lives, they may be enveloped in a constantly fearful state. Either way, it is not very pleasant and will likely affect them for the whole of their lives unless they seek help in healing these effects.
Very true, Beverly. The ways of coping with what we experience as children, but know within are not representative of who we are, are more often than not harmful to us and others. We all have some kind of hurt that we will experience in our lives, in this world that is a given. But to be able to show a child that there is a way of working with those hurts to heal them, and that the pain we feel is not who we are, for we are so much more, that is vitally important to our children and our future.
I agree wholeheartedly Naren and Beverley in what you’ve shared. Children can reaction either way to being raised in an angry environment, and may oscillate between having angry outbursts themselves and retreating away from it. At the end of the day, it’s all the same, one is external and the other more internal but neither way allows the child to feel at ease with themselves.
Great points you raise here Naren. As children we tend to look to adults as role models of how to be in life; it is terribly confusing to a child who often can understand what true joy is, to then see adults so miserable, frustrated and angry. As you say, often what happens is they move away from these feelings and questionings and enjoin what they have been role-modelled.
Yes, from my own experience I went into “I’ll fix you” mode, because I did not like the feeling of someone being sad or upset (which are the precursors to anger), and I in the end developed my own anger towards life as I took on that sadness and did not deal with my own. Rediscovering that there is true joy within me, that that is the truth of all of us and just how that joy when expressed makes such a difference to all those around me, was one of the biggest life-changers I have ever had.
Awesome Naren. A lightbulb moment for me here. We distract ourself with controlling the other person’s reactions in order to avoid dealing with our own and the undealt issues it is bringing up for us. Love it! Thank you. 🙂
Yes, Gina! Thank you for taking that even deeper!
So true Naren. Further evidence of the effect that emotions have on our lives. We don’t live in an emotional vacuum, everything we do, including our emotions, affects all others.
Yes, Lee. Growing up around an angry parent or even as an adult living with an angry person can have an effect on much more than we think. As a child we steel ourselves, numbing the hurt that this brings, and then can think that we have dealt with it as we continue to do things to bury that deep inside.
Growing up around anger negativity and bitterness had a huge effect on my outlook on life and general health and well-being. I became pretty much the same as my parents having these emotions modelled as coping strategies I numbed myself and buried my hurts deep inside. The effect of this on the health of myself and my sibling was huge even as children.
What you present here Naren in your last two sentences is so true it is very difficult to know there is something else unless presented somewhere throughout life with different ways of being.
My feeling is that there is a predisposition in families behaviourally which makes one question the premise that genetics is only about physical symptoms or diseases running in a family.
I strongly feel and can back this up from my own experience being now possibly the only one in my family without any forms of arthritis though I was developing it nicely, and the pain that went with it, in my younger years. I know unequivocally that the changes I have made not only life style wise but looking at and clearing the anger and frustration I felt towards myself, have led to such freedom.
What a great case in point, Jeanette, showing how a condition that is usually thought of as being chronic and unstoppable like arthritis can be turned around when we know the underlying cause and address it. You show that not only do emotions like anger have a direct impact on our body but that removing that source of emotional irritant can allow the body to do what it does so well, that is heal itself.
When put so clearly it’s so obvious that illness and disease are caused by the emotions and reactions we put our bodies through. It’s my feeling even the most scientific of minds would find what is presented in this blog would resonate. It simply makes absolute sense.
Well said Lucy. When we pause and stop to consider what emotions could possibly be doing to the physiology of our bodies, it does become a no-brainer. To then take this awareness one step further and start to feel how our bodies change and tense during the day is the beginnings of understanding what is the greatest medicine in the world for ourselves.
I agree ginadunlop to take this awareness one step further. For me I have found by taking responsibility to choose to deeply connect with and feel my body, being present with myself gives me an awareness of just how often I am not present and absorb other people’s emotions. I can feel my body’s reaction to what I am allowing to affect me. I am working on constantly checking in with myself – I can feel and release any tension I have in my body, preventing exhaustion and dis-ease in the body.
Truly amazing Margaret, the responsibility you are taking and the dedication to your wellbeing – there is so much for you to appreciate here.
Very true ginadunlop thank you for the reminder to appreciate what I have here. I absolutely appreciate it, but feel to express my appreciation out loud for the world to hear. Universal Medicine’s presentations of the Ageless Wisdom have given me so much to appreciate and share.
Yes, and first reaction I had when reading this article was: Of course! Just because it feels so familiar when explained, just unnoticed, simply because I was a little dishonest about the reflection of my own choices (getting sick, or feeling unwell). It all comes down to being and taking responsibility for our own life and the choices we make in them. It has no power or is not giving us any true health if the power of our choices is not considered. Even in the smallest ways – we make sense – we choose – and we either choose love or not.
I agree Lucy it does make complete sense. We all know how when someone walks into a room who is glowing and enjoying themselves how infectious it is, in a good way, but often do not want to admit what happens in reverse. It is amazing how people inadvertently try to drag you into their stuff and misery so they somehow get to feel better about themselves. I know I have played this game many times before.
It does make absolute sense Lucy, and if we are honest with ourselves we all would admit that it feels far from great being angry with another or feeling anger from another. That from this the tension that we feel in our bodies is not favorable and does not represent or support a state of well-being. With this how can we deny that we need to understand the huge effect emotions have on our health and well-being.
Yes, it is quite exposing when we try to give up all the substances that we have used to numb ourselves to not feel. I was remembering how hard it was for me at times, when I tried to give up smoking and truth of the matter was I just didn’t want to feel so I would resort back to smoking until with the support of Universal Medicine I decided that I just could not continue living my life trying to numb all my issues. There was a very uncomfortable stage where I had to feel everything and at times I just wanted to run away and not deal with it or feel it but then I was able to look at my issues and deal with them, feel them, process them and move on from them. Now they don’t own me and now I don’t need to be numb not to feel them! What a difference.
Great article Anne and Paul. When we look at our body at the cellular level and understand that our cells are forever exchanging with the cells of everything and everyone around us, it makes perfect sense that emotions are going have a de-stabilising effect on the harmony of our cells . . . whether they are our emotions or those of another. So we really can say emotions are contagious, as how many of us have been in the presence of someone who is sad and quite depressed and walked away feeling depressed ourselves, even though we left the house that morning feeling positively fabulous.
The only thing that can counter picking up and running with these emotions is a developed steadiness that will not conform or enjoin, but instead inspires or stop the energy in its tracks from entering.
awh I love this blog! I was just talking about this topic yesterday.
How we can choose how we respond in any situation and how I used to respond in a certain way and that would always be in reaction, protection = hardening = which just hurts me even more in the long run.
Changing old patterns of behaviour is not always easy, especially if we have been doing the same thing time after time but if you are still getting same result and your body is showing it to you, then it really is worth becoming more and more aware of it all.
You have so simply explained how emotions, and our own emotional reactions to them, have a major effect on our well-being – the root cause of illness and disease. It seems we have a choice here.
“We are living in a sea of emotions, all day every day, at home, at work, in relationships, in life.” This is true and it is our responsibility to not take any of these on by living with awareness of our bodies and observe and not absorb that which is poisonous to our bodies, thanks Anne and Paul for sharing a great article.
I’ve had first hand experience that confirms what you are saying Anne and Paul. I was living what would be considered a very clean lifestyle when I developed an illness that stopped me in my tracks many years ago. During my ‘stop’ and recovery time, I realised it was because of how my life was one big emotional rollercoaster, and had been for many, many years until my body said a very loud STOP.
Great question for starters Anna and Paul, “What if our way of dealing (or not dealing!) with the ill-at-ease we feel every day – and can never stop feeling, no matter how hard we try to numb ourselves – is in fact the underlying cause of our illness and disease?” Such a significant link made within it: the source-feeling of ill-at-ease, multiplying like a virus until it becomes full blown illness or disease.
I love the simplicity in which you unpack life and make it a whole again.
Thank you Anne and Paul for bringing to our awareness that there is much more to life than we want to see. With our focus on our five senses we deny us the bigger picture in all its grand simplicity.
I have to agree that the energy I come into contact with and how I react to that energy has a direct effect on my body. Just simply hearing someone shout in anger, makes me tense up and go into a state of wanting to flee, and that’s just one example. I can recall so many situations where how someone is behaving makes me feel very uncomfortable. How can that not have a direct effect on my body that is experiencing that feeling? Over time if you are living your life in constant contact with that kind of negative energy, and reacting by tensing up in an attempt to protect yourself, it makes sense to me that it is going to make you ill.
We even have expressions that clearly shows us we (collectively) understand the effects emotions have on our bodies – ‘anger coursing through my veins’, ‘green with envy’ (green being bile) etc.. When did we abandon our innate wisdom for scientific proof? Universal Medicine is the missing link between what we know from science and medicine about illness and disease and vast expanse of medical mysteries which we spend billions of pounds of research into trying to figure out.
We can congratulate ourselves when we do not react in anger if someone expresses anger towards us and thus consider we have dealt with the situation well. Yet there is a whole other conversation in our bodies going on at the same time. Do we really stop to feel the impact on our bodies in these moments or do we harden, protect and numb ourselves?
”What if the diseases that we label as ‘random’, ‘bad luck’, or even ‘genetic’, are in fact a result of the dis-ease we experience, every day, day after day?’ This is a wonderful question to ask. I know from experience how difficult it is to work with someone who was almost permanently uptight and angry. When I no longer had to work with that person, it made a huge difference to how I felt going to work every day – I was more at ease, actually became better at my job and felt a massive increase in my overall well-being.
This is a brilliant blog. As a society we like to turn a blind eye to the effects our emotions have on us. This is because we imagine that it is our emotions that add spice to our lives. What a great thing to consider that it is our emotions and our reactions to life that is in fact making us sick. Thank you for opening up this discussion.
Yes I agree Elizabeth and what if the ‘spice’ we are missing is actually love and not any form of emotion at all..?
I love what you present here Anne and Paul and the huge questions you raise about illness and dis-ease. No coincidence that dis-ease as in how we feel can possibly lead to disease. As we are slowly confirming, things like stress is a medical condition, brought on by emotions and us not fully looking at why we have allowed our bodies to react.
There is so much that can impact our bodies from the outside, we can be like a sponge – absorbing other people’s stuff and taking it on – surely this has an effect on our health. Surely there is a difference in the person who observes and not absorbs. Well I know there is and I have seen it in my own family – and this is a huge topic to start to bring to our attention and really be honest about what is going on.
This makes complete sense to me, the fact that I know I would often harden up when I feel someone is angry – I still do to different degrees today. In fact take the way other people are when I see them, I notice times when my whole body and those of others in the room change because of that one person. On the flip side this shows me my responsibility on how I affect every person whenever I walk – not just those that see me but everyone. Contagion a topic for much reflection.
To stop and even acknowledge that we are using behaviours to not feel is huge, and not something that many are willing to be aware of, as I know I certainly wasn’t at one stage of my life.
“Try as we may to numb ourselves, we can never stop feeling, and if we do start to feel that the behaviours we are using to numb ourselves are hurting us, and try to stop them, all the uncomfortable feelings that we have been trying not to feel are there waiting for us.”
What is interesting is that letting ourselves feel what we don’t want to feel is so liberating that it actually sets us free rather than bound and imprisoned to a behaviour to try to not feel. There is more honesty and room to be ourselves.
Agree Marcia, to feel every second and be aware of us feeling everything is our basic responsibility.
Absolutely brilliant article, ~ and to me it makes so much sense that emotions are indeed contagious. But only when we choose them to be. I remember when I was a little girl, how I would copy my mother’s emotions, whether she was happy, sad, depressed, angry etc, I would be the same. It takes a big chunk of awareness to stay true in ourselves in a sea of negative energy, but awareness is all it takes, and that is a huge ~ and loving ~ choice.
What a superb, clear and simple way of explaining how emotions affect our health and well-being. This is an article that I will keep coming back to embody in myself what you have shared here.
Reacting to people’s emotions, by going into another emotion ourself, is another way that we perpetuate this vicious cycle. I know when I do this it is usually because I have taken something personally or it has triggered a past hurt in me. But what I have been getting much better at recently is not reacting or taking on what the other person in going through. I just keep a steady love that observes as oppose to absorbs, holding the other person in non-judgemental equalness. And the beautiful thing that I have witnessed while doing this is that the emotion can often dissipate as the person feels the reflection of love from me and brings themselves back to their own essence. It’s pretty amazing really and beautiful to see.
This is a great blog giving us a simple understanding of how we start out with an emotion or feeling that we are not comfortable with, and how that trails down to having physical symptoms in the body, or a dis-ease, by the ways in which we try to numb out the bad feeling. Because in actual fact, as everything is energy, and everything is because of energy, as stated by Serge Benhayon, then all symptoms in the body first come from the feeling, or energy, and how we deal with, or not deal with it.
‘What if our way of dealing (or not dealing!) with the ill-at-ease we feel every day – and can never stop feeling, no matter how hard we try to numb ourselves – is in fact the underlying cause of our illness and disease?’ Thank you for so clearly setting out how affected we can be by emotions such as anger and the impact on our bodies if we choose to absorb them and not deal with the results. Anger is certainly contagious and as someone who spent years expressing anger and frustration (verbally and in giving people the silent treatment) I could feel then how it was polluting my life and everyone I came into contact with but used it as a barrier to keep myself separate and avoid intimacy. Unpicking this and starting to acknowledge what I am feeling to myself and others has sometimes been challenging but I am feeling so much more at ease in my body and my health and wellbeing have dramatically improved.
Brilliant article! If we could all grasp what is presented here life would be so very different. We would understand that life is about energy which in turn means that emotions carry an energy and have a very real and physical effect on us and those around us. Acknowledging this would bring much more responsibility in how we choose to live and engage with those around us. Incredibly obvious and yet we are just not educated to know or understand this very vital fact in our up-bringing.
This is excellent Anne and Paul. Emotions can certainly be felt when someone walks in a room. At work today I was standing in the dining room and just watching people walk past, and not needing to do anything. I enjoyed that I got a different perspective, I got to see how people truly walk around and what is going on because I was not caught in my own busyness. I saw anger in the way people are walking, and people holding their bodies hard almost like it is hard to walk forward, I was truly astonished. Anger in the body is simply chosen so we don’t have to feel what is going on, it is protection. With feeling comes awareness and I saw oh so much when I was aware today!
Anne, it makes perfect sense to me that when we contract (when we feel anger, as an example), that our entire body contracts, the muscles, the connective tissue etc. How can it not respond to that reactive force? It’s as clear as day.
Obesity levels are through the roof around the world so the diseases associated with obesity are also escalating. While there are pharmaceutical and even surgical interventions to reduce the capacity to eat, the medical system and obese patients are struggling to manage and treat obesity. There is no doubt more publicity and education is needed about junk food, sugar and processed foods, yet generally we know what to eat and what not to eat, so it really is a question of dietary compliance and dealing with the emotions that drive over eating – within this article lies a big clue, if not the answer, to our obesity epidemic.
We maybe reaching the end of what medical intervention can do for the illnesses which have their root in our insistence on burying that which hurts. Which are essentially all of them. I agree, there is a massive clue in this article which will go a long way in addressing what has become a crisis of our health system.
This is great, we feel everything so it can’t be that anything doesn’t affect us in any way. Thank you for writing this, showing that what is thought to be a mystery, but when you look at it from an perspective of energies and feeling them all, it is easy to say that all diseases have a root in this fact.
Absolutely all diseases have a root, and if we start taking responsibility we can make different choices to help our own self healing. As everything is energy, we change the energy we choose then the body will feel the change.
We can feel their anger when they walk in the room – we can feel their anger before they enter the room. We can feel their anger when they still have to walk for a while before they come to the room – this is more obvious when they are very angry.
We can feel their anger, if we choose to do so, when they are angry with us even if they are not in the same room, house, town.
Absolutely Christoph. We know what is going on simply by feeling. At work I know that when I leave a room people talk about me.
With this understanding how amazing would it be to walk with this awareness, and truly shine knowing the difference we make when we come from our inner-hearts.
Absolutely Christoph, we can feel everything even if the person is not in the same room, this is easy to dismiss unless we have a strong foundation and connection with our bodies and honour what we feel.
The word that comes to me is resonance. In the past, when I had someone crying with me, getting angry with me (and the other way around too) – I would feel closer to that person. Sympathy made me feel comfortable. I used to think indulging in emotion with another was love and compassion. Other people’s emotion resonated with my own unresolved hurt and gave me an excuse not to deal with it. It makes sense that when two people who think their hurts are themselves meet and resonate at that level – it confirms the poison, and not who they truly are in essence – so it will spread like disease. So, it is a responsibility of those who know themselves in their essence not ever to hold back, and keep reflecting their true light because it is equally possible for us all to resonate at that level too.
Great description of what happens when we react to what is coming towards us and how the hardening affects our physical and mental health. It makes so-called ‘normal’ life sound like a battlefield – and that it is for so many, I am quite sure.
Exactly Gabriele, and it can seem like we only have 2 options with this battlefield – we have to harden up to get thru the onslaught of life, or give up and retreat…Neither option allowing us to see that there is a way to approach life so that we are not at the mercy of it, our reactions, and the reactions of those around us. It is as simple as learning to feel, and to deal to the best of our ability, in each and every moment.
Yes it is quite an art to observe and feel all that is going on in life and not take it on, or absorb it and get affected. Staying open to feeling can be our best ‘protection’ as we can not deal with what we are unwilling to see.
Beautifully put Victoria! “Staying open to feeling can be our best ‘protection’ as we can not deal with what we are unwilling to see.”
Brilliant article Anne – thank you so much! I love the way you share in such a clear, relatable way the way we can choose to react to what we feel and the impact these reactions have on the body.
This article is super-important too in terms of what it presents first up about the fact that we feel first and foremost and indeed all the time. It’s interesting how we’re not confirmed in this fact as we grow up – almost as if society doesn’t want us to know let alone hone our capacity to feel and sense. Yet the ability to do so is innate, and there to support us to live life in harmony with our body and not purely with our mind leading the show.
Anger is an emotion we all can relate to as one that is both more obviously felt and seen and that we can have a noticeable response to, but what about other states such as sadness or depression? Being around these must have a similar impact on us, though perhaps more subtly so, meaning we might not notice their effect on our bodies. Then there are the more often thought of as positive emotions, like excitement, which too must impact us. I feel excitement as something to avoid, as an over-stimulation in the body. Interesting to ponder all the possibilities that arise here.
Great point Victoria regarding the excitement. Any emotion, even the ones, which we considered as “positive” in the past, are actually not good for the body. The body doesn’t like to be stimulated, it loves its order, its stillness and harmony.
Unpleasant emotions seem to be rife in people’s lives, uncontrollably so, and the way in which people are choosing to cope with this through numbing and distraction has become an art form… Few rarely seeking true healing, and as such, it is not uncommon to see people trigger each other with their undealt with emotions that leave us swimming in a sea of unpleasantness we all can’t but suffer in.
Absolutely agree with you Samantha. I have been on both ends of this emotional disaster. Today I am far more aware of my self and my behaviour and very conscious about what I bring with me into other people’s spaces. Dealing with our emotions is such an important and worthwhile tool for everyone involved.
This is so true Samantha, people venting their emotions has become an accepted epidemic. Which it would seem can only contribute to an unhealthy state of being for the giver and the receiver. There is no surprise people want to numb themselves from feeling this day in and day out.
I remember what it was like to constantly be triggered by the emotions of people around me, and although there was a big part of it that I didn’t enjoy, mainly because of how it effected me physically as well, I know there was another part of me that would get off on the drama of these emotional situations, enjoying these big ups and downs which somehow filled up a lack of love I had for myself. To put it bluntly, I was a classic drama queen. Thankfully no more though 🙂
Awesome blog Anne and Paul, when you look at life in this way you can see how truly interconnected we all are and how each moment, feeling, reaction and choice we make affects the all. When you begin to develop this awareness, what comes to light is the great responsibility we all have to honour what we feel and to know that how we choose to live, we impact not only ourselves but everyone around us.
Great point Jade. How we are impacts others. And if our emotions are contagious, we therefore have a responsibility not to infect others with our dis-ease.
Wow Anne and Paul this is an awesome blog. Emotions are definitely contagious, I have experienced this myself and also see people close to me and around me become affected by it. The description of how we feel when someone walks into the room feel feeling angry, I have reacted in a very similar way. I can feel everything and I am highly sensitive to everything just like everyone else. So, this highlights how we feel, how we express and what impact this has on people around us is something to consider. How I choose to express how I feel is a responsibility that I am learning to take. Is it causing harm or healing to people?
This is a good observation chanly88. I think we are all very sensitive, and people who state that they are not have just developed coping mechanisms to mask what we all can’t help but feel.
Wow Anne and Paul, what a great blog! I do feel – and have been able to confirm through my own five senses and experiences – the truth of what you are presenting here. Emotions are contagious, and damaging.
Contagious and damaging definitely so, if we take on other’s emotions or do not honour our own feelings.
Yes Victoria, and our reactions to these emotions are just as contagious and damaging.
Thank you Anne, Paul and Victoria, I agree, emotions are usually a force that is taken on such as anger but can also be related to false enthusiasm, which is laced excitement and having fun that is usually at someone’s expense!
Anne, there is much in what you share here, and it’s funny how we don’t want to see or consider our emotions and those of others which impact on us daily. And what I feel reading your piece is it’s not even just our own emotions, it’s the reactions we go into to not feel others, how we change, how we take on that anger we meet through our reactions to it, and how that impacts immediately in the hardness we go into and after in our bodies. There is much here for all of us to consider and I feel part of the reason we ignore this is responsibility – we have a choice in how we react to others and yet we often do protect, go hard, rather than just feel and observe. The question this raises is what are we protecting? And what exactly are we ignoring when we react to another? Could it be that we know we impact each other and that every one of us can feel everything but that we do not want to live or acknowledge both the power and responsibility of that?
It struck me when you described ignoring what we feel as a reaction, I had always thought it was necessary to endure difficult situations and the way to do that was to harden and block out what I was feeling. Highlighting this as a reaction allows me the choice to feel but not absorb what is happening and remove myself or speak up.
I love what you are saying here Monica about how we often go into protection as a default when faced with an emotion like anger, and that this is a choice we make, which is essentially part of us ignoring the responsibility we have in being part of creating this destructive pattern.
True Monica. Our reactions and what we subsequently take on in terms of absorbing the emotions of others, just complicates everything, and before we know it, we are arguing about something very far away from the original feeling that came up in the first place. It all gets left undealt with and then we have to deal with the aftermath of the reaction.
Anne this is true sience and so revolutionary. Can’t wait for the sequel.
Anne and Paul, in my experience so far I can definitely say ill health was a result of the emotional behaviours that were a constant. Anger was one that was present and it was felt in our the home. The result for me was a hardening to not feel the energy we were living with and I am sure it contributed to a hysterectomy and I am in no doubt of the correlation
Thank you Anne and Paul, great subject to explore as nothing really happens randomly, there is always a cause and effect. How important is it we develop a connected and steady relationship with ourselves and our bodies so we can observe and not take on these sea of emotions, both our own and others.
“What if our way of dealing (or not dealing!) with the ill-at-ease we feel every day – and can never stop feeling, no matter how hard we try to numb ourselves – is in fact the underlying cause of our illness and disease?” This exploration can be a very empowering one.
Great point Victoria, if we do consider that nothing happens randomly and there is always a cause for every effect, then all parts of life are up to observe and learn from.
I love what you’ve brought here Jenny and Victoria, if we don’t try to compartmentalise life and instead accept the interconnectedness of all things, it brings both a huge level of responsibility, but also true empowerment – everything is an opportunity to observe and learn.
I agree Victoria, but I must admit I was very reluctant to explore emotions I had kept buried for decades. It’s like an old childhood fear I used to have about opening an old wardrobe that you’ve kept shut for years because you think a monster lives in there who will devour you if you let it out. Now that I have opened the door, there is no monster, and I too am embracing the feelings I was once afraid to acknowledge. I haven’t been destroyed, I have been empowered.
That is a great point Debra, when we do turn and face our own demons so to speak and are prepared to be fully present with whatever may be disturbing us, it exposes how little power these thoughts and emotions have. They actually don’t exist unless we keep feeding them.
It’s life changing Victoria, to see life this way … the smallest of symptoms is there to let us know there is a dis-ease within our body and we have the power to change it just by feeling what is going on there.
Very well expressed Victoria – nothing happens randomly. We can’t blame anybody what happens in our life, it is always our responsibility, to feel the truth what is really going on in our bodies and around us.
Thank you Anne and Paul! I was just reading in a well renowned textbook yesterday about how the aetiology of most autoimmune and connective tissue disorders is ‘unknown’. I’m sure there have been developments in activation of particular antibodies and cell-signalling pathways since it was published, but how these get turned on and why – i.e. the root cause, remains to be fully addressed. I love what you have presented here about us feeling everything, and we know that what we feel creates responses and reactions in our physical body. In time, as we open up to the possibilities that our emotions are truly harming us, and the many ways they are, we will start to be able to treat diseases fully – roots and all.
Thank you Amelia, this shows how much science has yet to catch up to understanding what is truly going on in our body. To perhaps be open to how emotions can cause illness and disease in our body.
That time is certainly coming – when we take responsibility not only for the seen but also for the unseen factors that affect us and impact our health minute by minute and day after day.
Thank you Amelia for bringing this honesty regarding medical knowledge to the fore. We burden medical science and research for all the answers to our woes, yet do not look and consider how we may have contributed to what has manifested.
Great point Amelia, as it unravels the misperception of what medicine is and that there are unknown disorders. Medicine became an area of expertise that had to be studied and people “unlearned” to know their bodies and to live “life being medicine” knowing that our daily choices impact on our health and wellbeing. The result today is that we have irresponsible people relying on a medical system to fix all the unknown disorders.
When we go back to the truth that we all know and just don’t want to be responsible it won’t take long and the medical world will not have to deal with unknown disorders anymore.
Amelia, you are exactly stressing the need for a union of Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine – the two make a whole that will redefine and confirm the parts in their true meaning and purpose.
What you share here Anne and Paul is indeed the truth of what happens. “Most of us tend to tense up, contract, and go hard ourselves, in an effort to protect ourselves from what we can feel is coming at us.” It is a truth because I have experienced this, it is what has played out in my life…reacting to anger, contracting and hardening, and in so doing creating layer upon layer of protection. And after 50yrs of this my body now says enough with signs and symptoms presenting themselves more loudly and clearly than ever before – no longer can they be ignored or a quick fix made! It is time for honesty and true healing.
I am completely with you here Paula. We react and build layers of hardness in our bodies in response to anger and other emotional situations we react to. And we are not educated to consider there is anything harmful in that, there is no health warning on the packet so to speak! And years later the body starts showing the result of the build up. Current science and medicine might still consider these are just due to bad luck, age or genes, but understanding of the energetic nature of man provides a greater opportunity to appreciate our role and responsibility in what our bodies show us.
I certainly relate to this Anne and Paul. The choice to harden and not feel is a choice I made a millions times without even realising that I made this choice. For a long time I wasn’t even aware that I have a choice to be open and feel or to close and harden. I know with my head for a long time that this is how it is, but only for a few months now I am truly experiencing how different it is to feel myself while feeling emotions around me. There’s still lots of times that I choose to numb myself, but I also miss the enormous sweetness and tenderness of myself more and more so I’d rather be with me than numb myself anymore. And in that, I also feel how beautiful EVERYONE is. This is completely different to the way I used to live. Wow, how beautiful would the world be if we would allow ourselves to unfold all together to this ocean of beauty? Available right inside… for everyone.
I can relate to this too Floris, by being aware of how we react we can then begin to choose differently, to stay open, connected with ourselves and not absorb other people’s emotions.
This is so empowering. I have had a direct experience of this recently. To observe and not absorb felt incredibly empowering.
That is a great and important point you make here chanly88, “by being aware of how we react we can then begin to choose differently”. What I got from this is a space to observe myself how I react first. Rather then not wanting myself to react in the first place, let alone how I react. This is a fight with myself in itself. Where as what you’re introducing here is more allowance to just observe first, take notice and change from there. As this is more spacious and non-judgmental, I assume the effects / results will be far more beneficial.
“Can this force affect us physically, just as much as if it were a bacteria or a virus?” I wholeheartedly would say yes Anne. I am still learning not to be affected by other people’s anger. There are many times when I have reacted to someone else’s anger and become angry and frustrated within myself, and then wondered why I feel grumpy when 10 minutes ago I was feeling fine.
I agree Alison and have experienced the same. And working in a nursery of a school I see often how the children are affected by each others emotions.
I completely agree with this sentence as well Alison. Just recently I felt very tired and achey for a few days because of my own emotional reaction to someone else’s emotion. We can so easily let ourselves get bowled over when we absorb instead of observe.
Thank you Anne, Paul and Alison, absolutely, other peoples emotional outplays can have an affect on us!
This kind of reactions is very revealing of the fact that we relate more to the outer than our inner to define who we are.
To strengthen the relationship with ourselves, our innermost then seems to be the best boost for our immune system we can choose, emotionally and physiologically.
Agree Alex, the Health and Food Industry makes us believe that we have to pep ourselves up from the outside, as if our body was some random vehicle we just have to maintain and toughen up, but it is actually the relationship with ourselves that makes us strong in our sensitivity and awareness and with this in our natural way of being.
Great point Alison, emotions are our biggest trap and when we allow them to disturb our stillness or our ‘feeling fine’ we are allowing abuse of ourselves. I heard a song recently and one of the lyrics is… ‘we have no right to take emotions on’! (Heavens’ Joy). I love this reminder of where emotions belong – outside not inside of me!
Great point Bernadette, I like your “rights based perspective”! What is actually our right as divine beings and how much did we distort the perception of our rights here on earth by simply ignoring the fact that we are divine beings and that our first right of all is to be divine and that divinity can only be lived in responsibility. By turning our back to our divinity we lost our basic “human right”.
What you raise here Rachel goes to the very core of the truth of who we are and for so many of us it would be the most ridiculous suggestion that ‘By turning our back to our divinity we lost our basic ‘human right”. Until we accept the truth of love as our origin and nature, we cannot as humanity truly resolve any of the ills of this world!
This is brilliant Anne and Paul. You make the link between emotions and physical illness super clear. What a shame modern medicine does not educate our doctors with this information. It is no wonder that when people make lifestyle choices specific to dealing with emotions that the rates of illness and disease have been shown to decrease significantly.
That’s amazing Laura! I’m not the least bit surprised!
Yes that totally makes sense. It is a shame doctors aren’t educated with this as it’s so simple.
Great blog Anne and Paul…love the analogy of our emotions being the same as any other contagion. The behaviour is the same – insidious and affecting many, and yet both come back to the responsibility we all have for our bodies, our health and vitality.
If we do indeed take responsibility for own bodies and health, it also makes sense that we do not take on other’s emotions and look at our own reactions to life.
Totally agree Paula – it’s a great way of looking at emotions and the huge impact they have on our health and well being. Thank you Paul and Anne for an awesome article!
Me too Paula, I like the analogy as well. It shows how much harm emotions can cause and how important it is not to overwrite the emotions in our body.
What you suggest here makes a lot of sense, we can all feel the dis-ease emotions cause in our bodies, and the discomfort of another person’s emotional reactions which can easily result in our own emotional reaction, so yes it naturally follows that dis-ease is contagious.
Life is truly contagious as we are vessels of energy, so the viral or bacteria form is only the physical dimension or manifestation of the contagiousness of how we live.
In a world of energy emotions are the biggest viral infection we can have and the harm is so hidden that we don’t even relate our slowly developing illnesses to it.
When you put it like that Rachel it’s so obvious, that emotions are just as and more actually contagious than any virus. Yet we spend our time ignoring that, and it’s only when it get physical that we look at things and even then we only look at the physical manifestation, we do not consider those emotions which feed it. It strikes me we are so missing a trick here in not looking at both and understanding their impact on us and our beingness, the quality of how we are and live.
This is also an invitation for us to consider that not only are emotions just as contagious as any virus, they can actually be much more harmful and long-lasting than any virus!
Absolutely Monica and Angela, we live with a reduced view on our physical body and ignore the grandness of it and of who we truly are. When we get ill we make the body the centre of the illness and tap in the dark to find the reasons for our un-well state, instead of understanding that our body simply expresses what we have been living and that the answer lies in how we are living with this amazing vessel of divine expression. There is nothing wrong with the body, we are just not living in it with the love and care it requires.
I agree with you, Monica, “we are so missing a trick here in not looking at both and understanding their impact on us and our beingness, the quality of how we are and live. Yes, absolutely, we need to look at the emotions that are feeding it, when physical symptoms manifest themselves, not just the physical symptoms. Otherwise we do not get the whole story to be able to understand and help heal ourselves or others if we are a practitioner.
It is really amazing how long we sometimes ignore things and only when the body is shouting, we are willing to look at our unresolved issues and emotions.
Brilliant Rachelandras, it is so clear what you’ve shared here, in the world of energy we can affect each other in ways that can be either healing or harming.
This is holding humanity and the healthcare industry back above anything else. Doctors, researchers and patients alike are not open to the possibility that our every choice affects the health of our body and the genesis of a disease that may shape years of our lives and even end in out eventual death can lie in our emotional habits and responses to life.
Many moons ago I used to think it was emotions that made me feel alive and a part of life. Now I realise they actually numb us from a truer experience of life. Feeling every experience is now so much more powerful and life giving.
Very true Kate, if we opened up to that possibility and took the responsibility that we have ‘that our every choice affects the health of our body’, illness and disease would not be so out of control as it is today. We are not victims of our genes nor of the environment, if we are victims at all we are victims of our own creation.
It is katemaroney1 – it’s a vital missing piece in our healthcare where illness is still looked at as being genetic or random bad luck. It highlights just how much we as a species have to learn about the world that is not seen with the physical eye, but felt by everyone of us.
katemaroney1 what you have shared here is a big pill to swallow for the health care industry. For each person to fully realise that the choices they are making are directly effecting their health is difficult to feel as there is no longer room to blame family, genetics and of course the environment.
True, we might not be aware of or even resisting the possibility of energy, i.e. our choices of energy that then runs our bodies being the cause for anything. Nevertheless, we unconsciously know with precision how it all works and have mastered making choices that serve the exact purpose we pursue, hence we need to question the purpose or intention behind our choices to get to the root cause of all our dilemmas.
You are right, Kate, this is really holding humanity back in not being open to the possibility “that our every choice affects the health of our body and the genesis of a disease that may shape years of our lives”. And it especially holds the healthcare industry back in being able to help humanity, as they are not addressing this possibility that needs to be investigated. They need to start looking at this possibility/probability and begin to ask more questions of patients about how they are living their lives, not just in the physical sense, but also in the emotional sense.
Very much agree Kate, great point raised here about our emotional habits and responses to life. As Irena shares we are caught by the belief that emotions are making us alive. How crazy is that to live under a consciousness that makes us strive for something that is actually deeply harming us. Esther we are definitely the victims and perpetrators of our own creation.
We are not open to this way of thinking because those in parliament, universities, professional roles and all of us would have to start taking responsibility for the way we are living. Is it not time that we had honest conversations about the truth when we can see clearly from this article how much sense it makes that our emotions are a major contributor to disease.
Rachel you have shared it very clearly and simply, our bodies are a vessel of energy. It is our responsibility of what energy we allow to pass through our body as we always have a choice, therefore we are responsible for the viral and the bacteria form that pass through the body.
This makes it very clear that we not get an infection just like this but that we have brought already a dis-ease into our body which then ‘makes room’ for the bacteria or virus to come in. So there is always a before that we can tend to.
Spot on rachelandras! The clarity of your expression here holds an authority that knows the truth of who we are –
‘vessels of energy’ that feel everything and are sensitive and vulnerable to ill energy that we choose when we do not choose truth or love.
I was just considering how many films have been made about viral epidemics and the efforts made to stop the spread of the disease and wondering whether films are made about emotions being contagious when actually every drama is just that- someone being in an emotional state, meeting someone else and passing on that emotional state and the drama then unfolds (even within the viewer).
The same is seen everyday in life. Yet though it’s right before us, acknowledging emotion as the ‘biggest viral infection we can have’ doesn’t happen for the majority, so illness and disease seemingly come from no-where.
Yes we are super good at looking at the deadly virus that comes from the outer space to kill us all and be in fear of it, instead of looking at our self-created viruses in form of the emotional way of living and how we are constantly affected by it. It is not the mass killing virus that we have to “combat” it is the normalized way of living that is the silent killer of evolution.
Great sharing Rebecca. This makes so clear how we are constantly affected by emotions and we all absolutely know. We say things like “you put me into a bad mood” or “you bring me down”, etc. and it’s all the sea of emotions we swim in and are not aware of. To learn to feel every second of our day and be aware of the fact that everything is energy is crucial and the main way of approaching life.
I can really feel the truth in what you are saying. The pace of life we live at has increased our tensions, our frustrations, our anger, our helplessness and this results in all the emotional reactions that we have. It feels to me that these emotions play a huge part in the increase in diseases and poor health statistics in our society. We may be more technologically advanced but are we paying the price in our health.
Thanks for taking the lid off this issue to look at what’s really going on. Responsibility can be a difficult word to swallow, especially in relation to our relationship with our own illness and disease. Your line, ‘if we do start to feel that the behaviours we are using to numb ourselves are hurting us, and try to stop them, all the uncomfortable feelings that we have been trying not to feel are there waiting for us’ steals the show for me, confirming the lengths of behavioural complexity we can go to, to avoid feeling truth and feeling hurt. Is it perhaps that we prefer comfort to truth?
When the normal we have chosen to be is in fact not, a great commitment is called to make a different choice based on observing what is true behind each and every feeling.
I pondered on this in the last days as well, Elizabeth. I realized that I like to react when I feel other people suffering so it could be that already not being loving with oneself is contagious and can cause reaction in others. This blog of Anne and Paul is so confirming of what is happening to the body through using emotions.
Great expose of how we can carry so much tension in the body and not let ourselves be fully aware of it nor how to handle it. Stress does come from this tension – and stress is a normal part of our lives, but how we deal with the stress is the key factor and how much tension we carry and the intensity of the tension is what determines our quality of life and whether over time we develop an illness or a condition. So how much do we react to what we see and then become tense and stressed? OR how do we talk about and express and release the tension that has built up in our body? Or how much do we observe what we see and not take it on board and hence lessen the tension and stress in our body? Wise things to ponder on – thank you Anne and Paul.
What you share is so very true and real from my experience. Taking on other people’s moods like a human sponge and then turning this on myself was something that has been so well practised in my life that I’m still unraveling the tenacious tentacles of this insidious contamination. Being aware and willing goes a very long way to supporting staying with me. The other undeniable support is to be able to have open and non-threatening conversations when these situations come up. To be able to chat simply without reaction to what has gone on lays a foundation for the next opportunity to recognize and feel first, as you say. Feeling it and knowing what I’m feeling isn’t me, allows me to then choose to stay open with myself and others and there is no need for protection.
An excellent article Anne and Paul.
We all feel everything all of the time, we can either react or respond to what we feel, the choice is ours. However we need to know that we have a choice. You are offering this, thank you so much.
The way you describe what we feel every day is so powerful Anne and Paul. When you consider all the emotions that are going on in the office, on the roads,you can see that we react just like we do when there is unpleasant weather, hardening and hunching up. It is beautiful to know we can easily warm ourselves up by choosing to observe the emotion gale, with love.
‘What if our way of dealing (or not dealing!) with the ill-at-ease we feel every day – and can never stop feeling, no matter how hard we try to numb ourselves – is in fact the underlying cause of our illness and disease?’ Anne Malatt and Paul Moses, sooner or later this is a question we need to ask and answer everywhere in the world. Currently governments are looking for solutions to manage the increasing cost of health care, we hear this is due to an ‘ageing population’ and increased rates of ‘obesity’, without admitting that on the whole illness and disease levels are increasing and we are simply getting sicker.
I love this blog, it reads like a detective, wanting to know more, triggering my curiosity and challenging my way of thinking.
Something interesting that I have noticed over the years of working in hospitals is that we get runs of conditions. So we may have a few people at the same time admitted with back pain or cellulitis. At the moment every second person is coming in dehydrated, especially the elderly. Perhaps if we were more consciously aware of the emotions at play, we may see a commonality their too.
Brilliant blog. Science is prepared to say that stress contributes to ill health, it looks at the physiology of stress and anecdotally we talk about emotions that cause stress can lead to illness, but it wavers between bad luck and genetics and these are often the scapegoats we go to when we get sick. This blog takes a bold step and needed step and questions how we are living, just how emotional and tense are we and what toll does this daily dose of emotion do to our health?
This is such an important topic Anne and Paul for as you say “we are swimming in a sea of emotion”. Recent research too is indicating that emotions are the cause of our illness and disease. But yet the general community and the medical community are reluctant to see this, which makes me wonder why? Is it that when we begin to unpack this we begin to see our own level of responsibility in the emotions that we choose to become embroiled in. We do eventually begin to see it, but how long will it take is the question.
You raise some excellent questions, Anne and Paul, such as ‘What if the diseases that we label as ‘random’, ‘bad luck’, or even ‘genetic’, are in fact a result of the dis-ease we experience, every day, day after day?’. With a growing number of patients in hospitals and people with illness and disease, I think it is super important that we start pondering on these questions, and how we are individually living. Many people still believe that the ‘pills and potions’ you can find at Pharmacy counters will keep disease at arms length, however if we choose to live in consistent disregard we will experience (as MANY people are already experiencing) illnesses that can only truly be healed through a change of lifestyle and a greater level of self-love.
Spot on Susie, in fact the World Health Organisation has declared that a large percentage of the world’s illness and disease is preventable though lifestyle choices! So what kind of pressures are we putting on our medical and health care systems when we expect them to come up with cures and solutions to something we are not willing to look at and change? It is time we all took greater responsibility for our health and wellbeing, and there are simple ways we can start doing this. As Anne and Paul have shared so brilliantly in this article, we can begin by exploring the tensions that we all carry, which when bottled up can be the beginnings of illness and disease.
Absolutely Henrietta. I’ve recently been reading a book about what life is like for an NHS Accident & Emergency doctor here in the UK, and it’s crazy the amount of stress they are put under due to the huge and growing numbers of patients walking through the door. I used to think that A&E was the place where people only with serious injuries and immediately life threatening illnesses went, however many of their patients are those who have hurt themselves while drunk, or are suffering due to unhealthy lifestyle choices.
Wow – Susie this is tremendously significant! Having worked at the A & E of our local large hospital I have been witness to the fact that Friday and Saturday nights are the busiest nights due to alcohol and drug indulgence – we were always overworked and understaffed due to an increase in cases of overdosing, alcohol poisoning and of course all the related motor vehicle accidents. What are we doing to ourselves as a society when this has become our norm?
Yep, beautifully said Susie. So it just brings it back to responsibility. We are responsible for our health but currently not so hot on seeing this way!
What a great blog. There is much to comment on but right now I’m enjoying reading it again. Collaboration at its best.
Thank you for introducing the possibility that the everyday emotions that we accept – could be the root cause of illness and dis-ease. I feel this is something for us as a society to definitely ponder on …
Yes Shevon, and if this is true then the well-being of our entire society is being affected on a grand scale.
Quite a reductionism of our wisdom that is exposed here. How did we let us be trapped into believing that illness and disease is random or but luck? Dis-ease is the disharmony of how we live and it is created on a daily basis. To accept our responsibility in this is seen as a bitter pill for many but it is actually the opposite as it is finally accepting that life is about evolving and not sticking to being human.
is a dis-ease state contagious, I would say it is. But just like when your immune system is low you are more likely to get the common cold, the same can be said with getting reactive to someone else when you aren’t present with your emotional well-being.
Absolutely Luke. On a day when I more tired or irritable, I am invariably more reactive to someone else.
This is an excellent point Luke!
Emotions are the most insidious viruses, mainstream medicine is just a bit lagging in this understanding and looking mainly for external factors in search of the origins of illness and disease. But could it be that the true factor they are looking for is energy, the quality we choose to live in?
I am very much looking forward to reading part 2 because part 1 is amazing! I can feel that emotions are absolutely contagious and I had an experience of this at my local shopping centre earlier today. In this case emotional music was poured through the store I was in. It was sneaky because the music was making me feel quite confident and elated at the time, but when I got home I felt like I had been hit by a truck. We are pouring this contagion into our homes, public spaces and workplaces, it is little wonder people are in such ill health.
Great article Anne and Paul . I know that I had buried a heap of anger in me since I was little and it was only in the last ten years that I have learnt to feel it and let it go. I certainly feel lighter since releasing it. Once it had gone I could feel how the anger had been protecting all the sadness that was also buried in the body, when I felt that and let it go I felt even lighter. From my experience emotions weigh down the body and made me very sluggish and depressed now I have heaps of energy.
‘Can this force affect us physically, just as much as if it were a bacteria or a virus?’ Absolutely. As Kevin has shared how many years will it be till the whole world knows, understands and accepts this. That how we live and move affects our bodies our health and others too. I have been on the end of anger many times when I was younger and I could actually feel the energy targeted at me shatter the energy within my body. It affected my whole body and was very harming not only emotionally but energetically and physically too.
Dear Anne and Paul,
Thank you for writting this article. What you present here is so true, our bodies are affected by emotions, whether that be from another, or our own, doesn’t matter. For all affect us. So it is a very real reality that a body held hard, defensive and ready to protect will begin to feel the affects of doing this, we are literally exhausting ourselves, not by what we do, but by working hard to protect ourselves from life.
Anne & Paul you have raised some interesting questions that have opened the way for deeper insight into how disease is really as much (if not more) about being ill-at-ease than bugs. Contagion is a great word because one person can infect a whole office, family, etc either negatively or positively. If someone comes with anger then the whole dynamic changes. I can recall being affected by someone dumping their anger on me when I was working in a client service position, and how that affected the very next phone call I had, because I was shaken and all primed to react. Thankfully I have now learned how to not take on someone else’s emotions (most of the time), thanks to the skills presented at Universal Medicine events.
Thanks Anne and Paul, I feel that someone else’s emotions or way of being are only contagious for me if I have a need or expectation or an investment in them being a certain way. If I need them to like me or love me then I will get affected by the way they are. As I am letting go of wanting something from people I’m finding that the way they are doesn’t make me change like it did (and still does times).
That’s a great point Gretel…what is our investments or needs in another? It makes sense that when we are invested, we are more likely to take that which is not ours, to meet our need and relieve them of what they are needing to learn (note to self there!).
Oh that is deep Jennifer and completely true.
Makes so much sense Gretel, that when I need someone to like me or love me then I will get affected by the way they are… the penny has dropped especially with a family member in whom I had a need or investment in them seeing me/liking me etc.
Thank you Anne and Paul, a great presentation of how we are influencing each other all of the time in a sea of emotions. Thank God for Universal Medicine, who are constantly expanding our energetic awareness of what is really going on.
My life has been like going from black and white to full colour since I came to Universal Medicine.
It does not take a leap of faith to know that what has been expressed here is true. Observing little children – they are instant in their response to any behaviour or situation that shows loud, quick, anxious or anger movements, their reaction to this is immediate. Little ones have not developed the refined skills of managing reactions that adults have and their behaviour changes, goes quiet, gets racy or silly, sometime loud. It makes sense that the result will be dis-ease of some type. Great Blog Anne and Paul, I look forward to going on to read Pt’s 1, 2 & 3
Superb questions to raise Anne and Paul, thank you. I have no doubt that emotions are as contagious as viruses, because I know how easily someone else’s mood can affect me and affect a whole group of people. Is this not how a riot starts? Becoming a student of the Ageless Wisdom has given me a little distance from emotions, both my own and that of another, so I am not always so easily contaminated. The more I learn how to observe and not absorb what is around me, the more my natural immunity strengthens. We have so much to learn about how emotions affect our health, they are just as virulent as any bug, bacteria or virus.
Anne you ask some great questions and a lot for us to ponder on. One thing for sure we all feel and therefore our five sense can feel the anger straight away, how we react and we absorb are the questions. Like you say, could it be like a bacteria or virus spreading in our body as emotions later to cause illness and disease, such as high blood pressure, heart conditions. Definitely a lot to ponder on.
This is awesome Anne and Paul, you’ve taken us on a journey from the original reaction to both how that affects others and can amplify around us, and also the effect that can have in the body. In particular, the effect it has on the body, while it may seem comparatively small… its then the repetition over 10, 30 or 60 years that does the kind of damage that we cannot recover from. The consequences of our reactions are laid bare here….
I agree Simon…”the consequences of our reactions are laid bare here” When our bodies have had to live with that repetition for however many years, there cannot but be a consequence – an impact on the body itself…and yet so often people are surprised when they ‘suddenly’ get ill, and then blame their body for failing them – when in truth we have failed our bodies, by not listening to what they are constantly telling us or honouring what we feel.
This is a fact that most people are not aware of, and are quite happy not to know. For as you say, we numb ourselves to it even if we are aware of it. And un-numbing ourselves simply uncovers all the hurt and the pain that we then have to deal with. Not an easy road – but a road that leads to true healing all the same.
There are some great points made in this blog Anne, it really brings it home to me how much dis-harmony from ourselves and others we are subjected to during the course of a day – it is no wonder people can’t wait to get home and veg out with the tv, food and alcohol so as to get relief from what they have felt all day.
Julie that’s another angle in looking at the reasons we want to get home, close the door and veg out as you say. I totally relate to that now and can definitely feel I wanted to get away from the energies I was feeling around me all day and get back to an environment that wasn’t so contagious.
I would definitely say that how we deal with emotions impacts on our health. Because when I contract I feel small and hard, feeling small and hard leads to negative thoughts and an identification with being bad. This carries on to making choices not in my best interest or to support my body as there is nothing in me saying I am worth caring for myself. These negative lifestyle choices then affect my body as a form of illness and disease. So then what if looking at our relationship with emotions was questioned as a form of medicine? More and more now I can sense that when I get emotional thats when the alarm bells go off inside my body, I can keep the emotions going or I can stop and bring myself to the real me underneath the emotions, a me that is far more steady and rational and more willing to not accept the hardening as a way of pushing through life. While not perfect this method has supported me far greater than the reactions ever have.
Learning to observe and not absorb life has been a key quote I have continually tried to live by and this has supported me in not getting caught up in the emotions that are often felt out in the world. It allows me the space to let go of how I would like things to be around me and the pictures of how I’d like the world to look like. It has also allowed me to understand that if I choose to absorb life and the feelings I can’t not feel around me, then my body feels drained and I lose the connection with the true me.
This quote has been key for me too Tracy that I first heard Serge Benhayon talk of as he shared that life is all about energy. Coming from a place of feeling energy first has opened up a whole new way of looking at the world so I don’t get caught up in the emotions I feel around me so much anymore. Before if someone walked into a room angry or sad, without realising what I was feeling I would take on that and go hard into a reaction to protect myself from what I felt or try to make them feel better which often left me drained and disconnected. Now I can more and more feel it for what it is and choose to come back into my body and in doing so offer the space for that person to come back to themselves. Having this understanding of life has been transformative for me and I live in absolute appreciation of the teachings that brings this to us all.
You ask some great questions here Anne,and I wonder how many years it will be till the whole world knows and accepts the answers.
“When someone walks into a room, we know how they are feeling.” What we tend to forget is that they also know how we are feeling. If we react with tension or sympathy to another’s emotions we add to the emotion. If we observe the emotion but stay with ourselves and open for another to feel our steadiness, this does not add to the emotion but allows space for the emotions to be felt and let go of. When someone walks into a room with love, we know how they are feeling and can meet them with love.
Great observation Mary, are we amplifying or condoning their reaction, or providing / holding a different vibration that provides them with an alternative and the opportunity to come back to themselves?
Mary I love what you have said about another knowing how we are feeling too. We are no island…ever.
Beautifully said Mary Adler, we have a responsibility to observe, read and not react, allowing the stillness and love to be the reflection.
Well said Mary and in giving someone the reflection of our steadiness they have a choice and the space to come to their own solution. In the past I have often tried to fix things for people and then wondered why they seemed resentful?!
Well said Mary, what becomes clear is that we are either harming or healing with our choices, reacting to others is harming, observing (not absorbing) is healing and creates the space for the other as you say to ‘let go’.
Our emotions can and do easily take us out. What I mean is that in the past when I have felt attacked, I would take is so personally and feel so small and feel a victim, I no longer was able to discern what was true and what was not true and would react instead of respond. My reactions took me away from my truth, and my innate stillness and wisdom. This only made matters worse. These days I have learned to stay in my vulnerability and observe, not absorb, and as such I can respond from the observation with clarity.
I am learning that it is with understanding of another that I can start to put down some of my own reactions. Understanding that we are all hurt, and any outplay of that is not the true divinity that I also knows exists in each and every one of us. Its baby steps but it radically alters how I observe and interact with others.
Understanding that we are all hurt, and any outplay of that is not the true divinity that I also knows exists in each and every one of us. A timely reminder Simon, thank -you, as sometimes, it can be challenging when it comes to family members and their behaviour – and on this moment I can feel the deep hurts they carry.
This is a great practice that you have developed jacqmcfadden, to observe and not absorb is gold, as it makes such a difference to the body, to just allow the ill energy to be there outside of me but not within me and it certainly takes practice to achieve that.
Something that I have noticed too is that if I am in reaction, I will automatically look outside of myself for someone or something to blame. Then afterwards I just feel awful. Learning to really observe has been an absolute blessing.
I agree Jennifer a blessing indeed and I noted I too went straight to blaming another rather than looking at my part in a situation or what I was feeling. Feeling blame coming my way though feels horrible, as if I’ve done something wrong or I’m less than the beauty I am, so why would I ever want to inflict that on another?
Lately I have been observing myself and how I feel when I walk to and from work. Sometimes I find myself feeling anger and having unloving thoughts out of nowhere – they feel nothing like what I have come to know as ‘me’, then I choose to come back to connect with my breath and I am back being myself; but I remember having these feelings and thoughts many times since I was little and identifying and being owned by them completely – I became a very angry hardened person with very little love to share with the world; then I went through a long period of numbing myself. So, there’s a big improvement there thankfully in how to deal with what I feel out in the world, and to stay with my self consistently and constantly is an on-going learning for me, so that I wouldn’t get affected by or sympathise with whatever goes on around me, and really just simply observe.
‘Can this anger be contagious?’ – a great question. If something is contagious, I want to know how it affects me, as well as how I can stay away, or protect myself from it. How do I catch it? Where does it come from? How can I immunise myself? If I get it, is it possible to heal? If so, how? How can I make sure not to give it to someone else? This is a great way to look at emotions. Thank you, Anne.
Brilliant insight Fumiyo. Absolutely, by looking at emotions as a contagion of course we become more curious regarding prevention.
It is Fumiyo, this blog invites us all to explore in our lives, to feel in our bodies the real impact emotional energy has on our bodies. For me if even for a second I take my awareness away from my body, immediately I no longer feel still and strong, and my head starts to wonder away from where I am and I can feel parts of my body react to this. Our bodies are our own responsibility regulators, honestly exploring what we carry in them and surrendering continually to what ever that is, but no longer using it as the way of being that we have done previously. Instead feeling it and choosing to be present and still and gently negotiate our way through each moment will eventually find us being aware that our emotions are losing their grip on our bodies.
These are great questions Fumiyo – and ones that we should be educated with. Imagine if instead of Cinderella we had story books all about this… preparing our children for life so that they do not have to get impacted and absorb a world that is not currently taking responsibility for their contagiousness.
This is brilliant. I love the details you have given on the physiological level, and it really makes sense that when we react to emotion by enjoining or protecting ourselves against it, those changes do take place in our body. We know the heat, we know the hardness that arise within our body. And of course all the things we get up to in an attempt to numb our feelings – that’s basically killing our potentials as a living organism. Very much looking forward to the part 2.
“We can feel it with our whole being, and we then confirm it with our five senses.” I love this sentence as it says so much and it is so very true, we first feel then confirm with our five senses. In this world we have made it a common standard to negate or completely deny our sixth sense, that we feel everything, and have limited ourselves by only relying on our other five senses. When we embrace our sense of feeling energy a whole new world opens up to us, a world that makes sense and brings clarity, understanding and love, where we normally would end up with confusion, frustration and anger or worse.
So true Esther, admitting that we can feel energy all of the time and therefore know a lot of what is going on around us without needing to talk about it, changes everything and as you say, “…a whole new world opens up to us, a world that makes sense…”.
It is in fact the first time in my entire life that the world makes sense and that there are finally answers to the many questions I carried since childhood.
Agreed Esther and Judith, acknowledging our sixth sense has been for me too the missing link and reason the questions I had from young had been left as unanswered after shutting it down.
Yes Esther and Judith it was once I stopped denying my sixth sense that I stopped searching and many questions I had throughout life started to be answered and I felt less tense as I had understanding.
Agreed Esther, the 6th sense is completely negated and even made fun of yet it is everywhere and as much as we want to deny it we all know we feel. How many sentences start with “I feel…” and what about “I don’t know why but I feel that….” or “I don’t know how I knew but I just did” and all the stories of individuals knowing something was wrong with their loved ones even from across the world, mother instincts and etc. If I turned this into a movie script I would say it was a like a huge multi national company that invests millions in making their employees believe that they don’t feel because in doing so they get to belittle and negate another’s feelings and hence make them controllable. Give that we negate what we feel, are we all being controlled?
Yes, I feel it most definitely is possible that the way we choose to react to anger or other stressful emotions has a lot to do with the dis-ease we feel and if we absorb the emotion, especially if it isn’t our own, how that can affect us by presenting itself as some form of illness in our bodies, be it an instant headache, or overcome with tiredness, to something far more serious that may even take many years to show up. Looking forward to reading part 2.
So true Deidre, the more I connect with and feel my body, emotions and reactions start to feel like I have drunk a poison, there is usually tension in my arms and jaw, my lymphatics become sluggish, my mind becomes foggy and the chemicals that are released create havoc all over the place. I completely give up on my stillness and my ability to observe and let things be.
I do fully appreciate what you say here Anne, that the emotions that people are in are as contagious as we know viruses and bacteria to be. While living with all these emotions is a well known part of human life but is not yet considered that much in the medical world as being a cause of our illnesses and diseases. For me it feels that we actually all know this to be true, but as you say, when we acknowledge that his is how it is, than we have to face “all the uncomfortable feelings that we have been trying not to feel” which are there waiting for us. And that is the hurdle we all have to take in order to be able to fully accept the fact that we all in truth already know.
Being confronted by someone who is angry is definitely a very uncomfortable experience which brings up a whole lot of responses in our bodies, depending on our past history and relationship with anger. And if this person is trying to hide the anger and seems on the surface to be “fine”, the body’s responses are even stronger as we try to figure out what we are actually feeling from them. I have never looked at anger as being “contagious” like a virus or a disease, but feeling now the responses in my body when I am in this situation, I can see that it is more than possible; that the anger is attacking the various part of my body in the same way. Wow – much to ponder on here Anne and Paul. Thank you.
I agree Ingrid. What Anne and Paul have presented here is very significant. I had never thought of anger as being ‘contagious’ as in likening it to a virus or disease either, but also see this now as being absolutely possible. The anger (or any emotion for that matter) will settle somewhere in the body and over time will develop into a disharmony, so preventing a natural rhythm and flow. It makes complete sense that this will eventually manifest itself in some way that does not support the body and become an illness or disease.
Absolutely Anne, emotions are like worms under our skin. No wonder as you say we want to ignore or block them out. But this actually just lets them burrow deeper in. When we feel what is really happening in life with clarity, these emotions stay outside of us and have no power to pollute what lies within.
An apt analogy Joseph, worms that may be considered seemingly insignificant or easy to dismiss, when in fact left un attended inside the body leaves cause for much discomfort as there is no denying their crawly nature, whist outside of us is a different story altogether 🙂
Thank you for your article putting forth, for our consideration, the link between emotional carriage and illness & disease. Yes, I ‘feel’ that these things are connected. It may still be sometime before science is able to ‘prove’ whether they are…or not. In the meantime, I am conducting my own personal experiment.
I agree Gayle. There is no need for science to catch up because we are compiling our own evidence base detailing how we feel when we absorb emotions rather than learning to observe what we are feelings and taking a look at what is going on. The physical illness is just the outer layer.
‘What if the diseases that we label as ‘random’, ‘bad luck’, or even ‘genetic’, are in fact a result of the dis-ease we experience, every day, day after day?’-
Yes, I have found that my undealt with childhood issues, especially emotions not allowed to be expressed as a child had been buried deeper and deeper into my body. These has lead to me feeling constant anxiousness, low self worth , self loathing, and low self confidence, as an adult. Once married when I thought all my issues were gone, intimacy issues were apparent, and even after having a child I had breastfeeding issues- cracked, bleeding nipples and mastitis.
So it’s interesting to ponder upon the thought that emotions could possibly be like a virus, leading to dis-ease in our body.
Agreed Loretta – Anne and Paul make such an amazing point regarding how emotions spread like a virus. I have never quite looked at it this way. Imagine if we had quarantine for all those spreading anger, not that I am recommending it but a sobering thought for all those that take no responsibility for dealing with their anger.
Love it Laura B, this would certainly bring a lot of awareness to the world. My response is we can do this on a personal level. Call it as it is, if not to yourself but out in the open with another, if you are confident in that moment it needs to be said. The point is, if it is not expressed with love or in the sheer honesty you have felt it, you might have a back lash if the person has been running with this for a long time and been allowed to get away with it. That’s why it is important to discover your power in this situation by your awareness, being honest, dealing with it if it upsets you, and accepting of yourself and another – this is saying no to this behaviour.
How powerful to read the physiological impact of living and dealing with anger. I have worked in environments where there are lots of people openly expressing anger and frustration. You see staff start to brace themselves as people would walk in the door and then dive for the lolly jar (yes we had one) once certain meetings were over. Whilst I resisted the temptation for the sugar I still had the desire or the want to jump into the lolly jar which matches with the physiological response you described so it still had an impact on me. A an opportunity to further explore how I am in these situations.
Nicole I can relate to your experience, because although I don’t do a lot of the ‘old’ behaviours such as the lolly jar anymore there are days when I return from work a bit ‘worse for wear’ because I have been affected by some situation. What I love about recognising this pattern is that I have the opportunity to change it.
Yes it’s great to acknowledge that fact Hartanne60, when we recognise these patterns in ourselves we can begin to see that we do indeed have an opportunity to change them. This is where are true responsibility to life begins, honouring what we feel and knowing we can always choose how we respond.
I agree Nicole, I too have found anger a difficult emotion to not react to. My reaction is to be quiet and harden myself against what I feel. Wanting to say something, but terrified of having that anger directed towards me. This is something that I am finding now that I don’t react this way any more. I find that I am more still and able to respond if needed in some situations, there are others where I still react and what Anne and Paul have shared here is very supportive.
Agreed, anger is a doozy, topped only by wrath, which I’ve felt as well. And my response too has been to withdraw, for the most part, or sometimes react more visibly. Terrified is a good way to describe it. Knowing what you’re going to get but not knowing quite how or when is traumatising. A definite dis-ease is felt – which means the body has altered in some way which would indicate over time disease as we ordinarily conceive of it is possible.
I’ve noticed that the more still I become, the less I react to anger around me. Once upon a time, I would harden and brace myself if I even sniffed anger and if it came, my body would be so stiff and hard. I still find it upsetting to hear someone yelling at another person and that is because I can feel the sadness and hurt they are in; the anger is just an outlet for it.
Nicole, I experience a lot of people with anger wherever I go. I was raised with anger in my face. It was frightening compared to how delicate I felt. Being a man, I have experienced many times another man in so much anger it’s like they could kill you, having no respect or dignity for your life at all.
When I’m connected I can pick this up before any interaction physically may occur. If I make it about my tender movement, this can support me diffusing this energy in me first, and can resonate out if my quality is assured by my movement. It is important to not shut down and stay connected to your inner-harmony.
I love what you have shared here Rik the importance of not shutting down and staying connected even in the face of anger, connecting more deeply to those around us and developing an understanding of where it comes from.
Thank you Anne and Paul, as far as I’m concerned this is spot on, so there is not use for a facial mask to keep away the ‘bugs’ because the ‘bugs’ enter from us taking on other people’ emotions, simple when we look at in this way. We just need to keep observing life and not absorbing what is not really true life or love.
Agreed Susan, Serge Benhayon over 12 years ago gave us all the key to life “observe and don’t absorb” this should be the first mandate that educators and medicos are given. Imagine if we only worked on that one point how truly intelligent we all would be.
I agree Susan, the best medicine to keep the “bugs” away is my connection and observation of how things play out in life without absorbing any of it that is not true or loving in any way.
I agree too Susan, observing and not absorbing is one of the most power-full things I have learnt through Universal Medicine. I am so open to people and they are my life, but if I absorb another’s emotion I’m loading myself with something that has nothing to do with my choices however, it is my choice whether I observe and have understanding people have free will to choose how they are and, my free will is how I choose to stay with me. This is love. It starts with the love you have for yourself.