Constipation – it’s not sexy but we do need to let go!

By HR Professional in Healthcare, London, UK. 

As a little girl I was regularly constipated. It was painful and uncomfortable. On and off through my life I continued to have bouts of constipation, although this is very rare nowadays.

When I was constipated, I could feel the strain and tension this put on my whole body, not just my bowels and their opening (or not)! I felt sluggish, lethargic, at times restless and my skin and hair were dull.

It’s odd when you consider it – if someone asked me to store my garbage bin in my bedroom I’d shriek with horror. Or if someone asked me to have a bath in water amongst the contents of my food recycle bin I’d cringe with disgust, yet, constipation is holding onto waste material that is no longer natural for the body to hold onto. If we would not have our garbage in our bedroom, then why would we want to hold onto waste in our body longer than is natural? We can shower, bathe and be clean on the outside, but if we are holding onto waste on the inside, our health will still be affected despite the outer appearances.

Constipation is a common condition, affecting people of all ages. Simply defined it means that we are not passing stools regularly, or that we are unable to completely empty our bowel. Other symptoms can include stomach aches, cramps, feeling bloated, nauseous, sick, and a loss of appetite.1

It is difficult to put statistics onto constipation, but “it’s estimated that around one in every seven adults and up to one in every three children in the UK has constipation at any one time. The condition affects twice as many women as men and is also more common in older adults and during pregnancy”.2 The figures are probably a lot higher as it is possible that constipation is just accepted as a ‘normal’ consequence of daily living nowadays and not mentioned to doctors or medical practitioners.

There are a number of lifestyle factors that can contribute to constipation including lack of exercise and dietary fibre, dehydration, inadequate rest and sleep and ignoring or overriding the body’s natural urge to pass stools. In addition, there can be medical conditions like anxiety, depression, Parkinson’s disease and other neurological conditions as well as side effects of medications that contribute to constipation.

As well as the way we live, the way we are in the world also has a role to play here – as constipation is also the consequence of holding on to our hurts and literally not letting go of things in our life that no longer serve us.

In modern times there are many ‘remedies’ for constipation, such as diets high in fibre, laxatives, suppositories, and enemas. There are people who have lived on laxatives all their lives because of constipation – yet they are still stuck in a cycle of constipation, as the underlying issues have not been addressed.

If we are willing to address these issues, listening to our body will support us, as will becoming aware of whether there are any patterns to our constipation; are there any times of day, the week, or the year when it becomes more prevalent? Does it come on after a difficult experience or really stressful time? Does it come on when we have been too busy to take care of our basic physiological needs?

But the question still remains… why do we choose to hold onto waste longer than is natural? Why are we not ‘letting go’? More so, perhaps there is a simple question to be asked at these times: What am I holding onto? What do I not want to let go of? It may well be that whilst there are physical factors to constipation, the way we are in life, our ability to ‘let go’ literally could be a key underlying factor in many, if not all, causes of constipation and one that is worthy of deeper consideration. Clues to this may also be whether we dwell on things from the past, undealt with resentments for example, or do we hold onto material possessions that are ‘past their sell by date’ and no longer serve us – do we hold onto clutter in our daily lives? Do we bury issues or hurts so deeply, and in that hold onto them more than we consciously realise?

Constipation is possibly one of the most unsexy topics of conversation to have(!) yet, it is much needed. If we spoke with one another honestly about these so called common ailments – and found a place of honesty about whether we are holding on, or not letting go, or burying our issues, or not allowing our life to flow in some way… we may just find that it is not medication, fibre, enemas etc that we need to free us up – but, a different way of being in the world, with a new relationship with ourselves of understanding, allowing, and letting go. I know the more honest I have become, and the more I take care of myself and my daily living choices, the more I can see if I am holding onto something, not letting go, or not in the natural, true flow of life – at which point I can deepen my understanding, make changes and new choices in my life to allow things to flow again.

Constipation may not be sexy – but we do need to let go!

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700 thoughts on “Constipation – it’s not sexy but we do need to let go!

  1. When we give ourselves space to be, whatever is in the way that doesn’t work or not needed anymore, is naturally released

  2. I recall suffering constipation years ago and I ate the most healthiest diet, drank plenty of water and exercised. yet It was never enough. I even resorted to high fibre and it would make no difference. And when I ponder back to those days, I was always holding back my expression with my previous partner, always having this conversation with myself that I should have said this or should have said that and dairy exacerbated the problem too.

    Roll on years and my lifestyle has changed, I express more without perfection, my diet is more simpler and dairy is completely out and I’m no longer bunged up, not only from my nostrils but the bowel too.

    HR, there is much to ponder about in what has been shared and everyone will have a reason to hold on to something, at the same time everyone has a reason to let go too, hanging on to things is not worth it for the body.

    1. I can relate to holding back with my ex partner for a quiet life and instead of expressing what I felt having conversations in my head rather than expressing in full what I felt at the time. And constipation was a huge problem for me. Looking back I can see how I was bitter and resentful and all this was churning away inside me. This blog supports everyone to understand the underlying cause of constipation and because of that we do not have to rely on medication but honestly look at why we are holding onto to hurts which are clearly not supportive and making us sick.

  3. Yes, it is unsexy but it is a very direct conversation from our body and the experience you share shows that it is a physical and a ‘way of life’ conversation at the same time.

    1. I agree Lucy, it is a direct conversation from the body, it is one that can start from an early age. I’ve come across babies becoming constipated and formula milk was blamed, and yet I wonder what else was going on for those babies….

  4. This is just one great example of how a physical symptom in the body directly reflects how we are living energetically in our day to day lives.

  5. I’ve experienced holding back love as part of being constipated before, as soon as I began expressing love again my bowels immediately began to work. I suppose whatever we are holding back can be different for everyone, and this can create a physical holding back in the body as well. It’s good to also check diet, hydration, and get medical support, but also consider emotional issues for a more holistic approach. If the body is in a lot of tension we can’t really expect it to work normally.

  6. It is not clever to hold onto something or someone for their behaviour or actions although I’m sure we have all done this at some time in our lives. We have to realise and accept that it is ourselves that gets affected as well as another – this is something that we do not want to see for there are consequences to holding on and one of the consequences is no doubt constipation.

  7. This made me reflect on what waste actually is in how we are living. That it is indeed when we don’t let things go and hold onto ideals, beliefs, convictions, pictures and so on that we are actually poisoning or at least burdening our bodies.

  8. Letting go of control… Here is a subject that for so many cannot even be looked at… Let alone truly embodied… And the effects of this of course can be seen all around us.

  9. When we have a clear out of possessions and/or emotions we are holding onto a natural flow of movement is reflected in our physical body.

    1. There is so much more released from our body when we are willing to let go of the emotional outplays and the contractions and tension that we often think are normal but are putting an extreme amount of pressure on our delicate and precious body.

  10. This might not be the sexiest conversation we would ever have, but as you say so wisely Jane, it is one that we all need to have at some stage, along with many others about the true cause of many of our accepted ailments. Those who suffer from constipation usually head straight for a ‘potion’ of some sort to get themselves going again but rarely stop and ask the question why; and the why as you have shown so clearly is the first question we ought to be asking ourselves.

    1. I remember having constipation as a young adult and resolved it by taking laxatives but now have scar tissue in my bowels as a result. Because it is internal we don’t consider it as an issue, we pop a pill and get a result, yet everything has a consequence and, in retrospect, there were so many things I could have changed about my way of living before heading for the laxatives.

  11. “Why do we choose to hold onto waste longer than is natural? Why are we not ‘letting go’?” – I like how you pause these questions, Jane, and you clearly imply that constipation is a choice, or rather a consequence of a choice. I’ve never considered it as such, but it so is.

  12. Do we bury hurts and energies to the point of forgetting them? Definitely. Because everything is energy so even the stuff in the basement/attic, cupboard that gets forgotten about. How we treat our environment gives away how we treat within.

  13. I have not found it easy to let go most of my life and now and then I would have constipation. It is only recently that I have been able to let go more and I found that in that it was important to feel that it does not need to be perfect before I can let go of situations that happened and let my life continuously flow in a lovely way.

  14. Constipation can be what seems an never ending cycle until we start to be honest with ourselves as to what we are not letting go of.

  15. I wonder how many of us reading this blog are affected by this at the moment, how many of us still experience constipation quite regularly and have we truly stopped to feel into it and see how it impacting us throughout the day. It is such a hidden topic, and perhaps the “shame” felt around it is because on a deeper level we know what it’s showing us, and that is why we are not open for discussions.

  16. When I was pregnant for the first time I was very constipated. But I was also embarrassed to ask for support so I suffered through. I held on to what I felt. Now – in my next pregnancy – I am supported in a very different way, speaking to a naturopath who I have been open with, and who has suggested supplements to support my body. So my body is so much stronger this time around, and I am feeling the huge difference in how and what I am eating. And as a result, I am not constipated. So even just holding back getting support can bring on constipation in the body.

  17. In my nursing role I see a lot of constipation. Its often medication related, but what you say about ‘letting go’ Jane very much rings true. Something that I have observed is that there is a reluctance to acknowledge that life is changing. ‘Hanging on’ to the way life was, when it can’t be that way any more. Trying to ‘control life’ as much as possible. This of course adds to other physical symptoms too; pain (which can be anywhere in the body) fatigue and nausea and vomiting. There is also a fear of letting go for some. It reveals many layers of resistance and stubbornness.

    1. So true Jennifer, we think it is something physical but whenever I get constipation now, this is the conversation I have with myself. There is so much we can learn from taking a pause, not immediately going for a solution and considering what message our body can be sending.

  18. I get it maybe once or twice a year and in the last few years have been taking notice of how at the time it feels like other areas of my life are stuck or just cruising along without changing, or I am being super stubborn about something and not dropping my stance on the matter. But address one area it’s like taking a stick out of a dam, more break loose and everything flows again.

  19. Yes – gorgeous, constipation is not sexy, but we need to let go and move on! and sometimes it needs a deeper reflection of what is going on and a discussion with someone about it. So lets get it starting !

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