Having ideals and beliefs – at what expense to the body?

by Cherise Holt, Nurse, Australia

When I was 20 years old, I graduated as a nurse and began to work in a Rehabilitation unit, in a major city hospital. On any shift I would be allocated to approximately 7 patients, all of whom were recovering from surgical procedures, injuries and various illnesses & diseases. They all varied in the amount of support they (and their carers) needed from me, physically, mentally and emotionally.

I worked shift work, usually days, afternoons and weekends and it was not uncommon to work 7 days without a break or have very irregular shifts. I frequently worked until 11pm at night and would then start another shift beginning at 6.30am the next morning. I used to think I had barely enough time to drive home and sleep, let alone take time to wind down properly or bring true quality to my relationship with me (or anyone else!).

I worked hard and I would tell anyone that I thoroughly enjoyed my job. I loved talking to the patients, although found it difficult with those that wanted more of my attention or more solutions from me than I felt I could give. I liked providing care for them, however found that the physical tasks I was doing for them, even the basics of daily care, was becoming tiring on my body.

At age 20, I was already feeling drained by my career; how could this be?

At age 21, I had a serious lower back injury and was unable to keep working, although I had pushed myself to try. I found myself in a young body with limited mobility; requiring rehabilitation, physiotherapy, day procedures and narcotics for the excruciating pain I was experiencing – in fact, I was looking not too dissimilar to any one of my patients.

I held the belief that I was going to get better and return to work as soon as possible, but I had a lot of fear for the physical pain or damage that I could possibly do to myself again. I discounted any thought (or suggestion) that I could find work anywhere else, because in my mind I had committed myself to returning to my workplace and simply picking up where I left off.

As the many months went on, I continued to experience great pain and felt stuck within my own choices. I had placed so much pressure on myself to get back to where I was that I was not listening to my own body and what it actually felt it could do. I began to feel more worthless in my self because I wasn’t able to work and reach my goal; hardness on me that I can see now was only serving to further inhibit my own recovery.

After two full years of not working I had a moment, a communication with myself where I questioned my held beliefs – who says you have to take your body back to that specific workplace? Are you really letting anyone (including yourself) down by moving on?

With this simple conversation, I let go of a belief that I had created and had held in my own head for a very long time, and with my renouncing of its controlling hold, I just let it go!

Within a short time I was applying for new jobs and found myself in a perfect position within a day hospital setting. The shifts supported me, as did the physical workload and my colleagues, but most importantly I began to uncover just how detrimental and stunting a held belief really can be! It’s a disease in our bodies.

When we invest in ideals and beliefs, we are seeking outside of ourselves for the right or should thing to do, and we can get caught up in pleasing others too. In this we contract ourselves away from the natural expression and personal rhythm that we can otherwise live our lives in and from. The toll that this way of holding back takes on our bodies is enormous (and my back is a true testament!).

These days I am SO grateful that my back and my physical body communicates with me the way that it does, reminding me that when I honour me and my body and don’t compromise myself for ideals, beliefs, pushing, trying, or other people, my body is left free to move in the flowing freedom and beauty that is my own rhythm. On the flip side, when I don’t honour what I feel and what is true for me, my body tells me through an ache, pain or tightness straight away, reminding me that I carry a wisdom far greater than any ideal and when I truly listen I am brought back to the truth of what I know and how to be in the way that I live.

Forever inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon & Universal Medicine, supporting me to gather the pieces of the puzzle that collectively bring true medicine and the way that I live back together again.

 

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864 thoughts on “Having ideals and beliefs – at what expense to the body?

  1. There have been articles in the press recently about how the current treatments for back pain are not effective, so this is a much needed conversation and if people are open to exploring their own ideals and beliefs, then there is the possibility for change and becoming more productive.

  2. I love how this blog exposes the physical impact of ideals and beliefs and how stuck we can get on a particular path. As soon as we open ourselves up to feeling what is true for us we are shown where to go. Learning to listen to my body is an ongoing process and after having years of lower back pain I now have much freer movement and am much more likely to respond to my body when it lets me know that I am pushing it too hard.

  3. Cherise, what you are sharing here feels really important; having ideals and beliefs can keep us stuck and stop us from moving on and from evolving.

  4. Our body tells us a great deal depending on whether we are prepared to listen to it and act in a way that supports it, or disregard what is being communicated and override it, and if we continually override our body, we will at some point come to a stop through illness or disease because we have been running our body against its natural rhythm.

  5. Ideals and beliefs are unrecognisable until we have a reflection from another of what it is to live without the imposition of these. Serge Benhayon offers such a reflection and the magnificence and gloriousness we have live in harmony with – it is already within, awaiting re-claiming as we expose and heal the ideals and beliefs.
    “When we invest in ideals and beliefs, we are seeking outside of ourselves for the right or should thing to do, and we can get caught up in pleasing others too”.

  6. “When we invest in ideals and beliefs, we are seeking outside of ourselves for the right or should thing to do, and we can get caught up in pleasing others too.” This leads to being on a treadmill and building such resentment in our bodies that we end up incredibly sick.

  7. This is such a great reminder. Thank you, Cherise. So true – when I get caught in what I should do, trying to do the right thing etc. my body is left behind and I keep wondering what that should and might look like and whether I have got it right or not, and I am never good enough. But really, the only thing I am in charge of is to take the best care of this body as much as I can so that the quality I live in is guaranteed.

  8. Wow love Cherise that you dropped that ideal – amazing how we can carry a belief around with us for so long, and wow the freshness we can feel when we finally let them drop. Ideals and beliefs are so heavy they weigh us down and can take us way of track – always better to be open to what life has to offer that way we don’t miss out on the magic.

  9. There is a belief in nursing (and outside of nursing) that unless you are working (slogging it out) on a ward in a hospital, working shift work, then you’re not really nursing. Whilst we know that nurses work in all sorts of environments, the picture of nursing in the ward is a very strong one. This belief or consciousness is a seemingly difficult one to step away from, but its not really for nursing is about people its not about working on a ward in a hospital. So really we can nurse anywhere.

  10. Truth requires no belief for it is a quality that is known right in the very core of our being. Acquiring beliefs is very damaging for our health and well-being as they block the pathway of the truth that lives deep within us being able to express out. Taking on a belief in this sense is akin to taking poison, as your experience so clearly demonstrates Cherise.

  11. Last weeks I realised I have been ignoring the wisdom of my body and tried to hold on on certain beliefs I had about my job and me personal, reading your blog I learned a lot and it inspires me to make different choices and to start to truly honour my body.

  12. So much to learn reading these blogs and comments, I am really appreciating that today. An offering from God for us all to connect to, learn from, reflect with, and evolve with. Today I connected to how I want to please others and the dis-harmony that creates in my own body.

  13. Cherise, this is so true, thank you for writing this, I find it deeply supportive; ‘When we invest in ideals and beliefs, we are seeking outside of ourselves for the right or should thing to do, and we can get caught up in pleasing others too.’ Having started a new job recently I can feel how if I try and do the ‘right’ thing, prove myself and do not value myself and my natural expression, then I get really tired, I am learning to trust and to be myself and this feels great when I work this way – much less tiring.

  14. What I am finding more and more is that the quality of how we work, move and live outside our workplaces is just as important as when we are at work.

    1. Very true. There is no ‘off’ switch to our expression. We are continually expressing no matter where we are and what we are doing. So if we find ourselves ‘switching off’ when the job is done, we may well need to question the quality of what we express from this point.

  15. I have found that when we let go of ideals and beliefs life can take us in a completely different direction, and if we had stuck to the ideals and beliefs we would have missed out on so much.

  16. The harm that ideals and beliefs can have is remarkable for we do end up contracting away from ourselves and our true expression to move towards something that is not of our truth and only serves to guide us away from it. Our bodies show us extraordinary wisdom and communicates this to us unwaveringly… it is only when we renounce the false pictures and listen to our bodies that we will end up moving to exactly where we should be, and in a way that is true, free of any contraction or compromise.

  17. Our bodies do speak loudly if we are willing to listen and as Serge Benhayon has mentioned many times, the body is the marker of all truth. I have RSI in my arm but I am in a very physical industry. I am at the point that I am having to get very creative with how I am at work. I find it challenging and I am also working through my own strong held beliefs that I should be able to do everything.

    1. We realise very quickly the power of words when we learn to nominate and renounce. Even the nominating offers a recognition to the body of an awareness. The renouncing may take a little longer as the brain chooses what it perceives it needs to survive and what it doesn’t. The body is super smart though – well worth listening to first and foremost!

  18. What sort of career can leave you feeling completely drained at age 20? A very unloving one. The way that staff are treated in our health services is completely uncaring of their health and wellbeing which makes no sense. Surely an organisation that is there to care for people’s health should care deeply about the health and wellbeing of its staff?

  19. “When we invest in ideals and beliefs, we are seeking outside of ourselves for the right or should thing to do, and we can get caught up in pleasing others too.” Having been brought up ‘to do the right thing’ I never questioned whether it was the true thing. Ideals and beliefs do not serve us. As you mention, listening to our body, not the mind, is the way forward.

  20. That is beautiful Cherise, very strength-full and courageous to seek beyond the physical illness and look at our wholeness – bring a multidimensional understanding to it: why do we have this, how did we come to it? etc. etc. and all the questions that might arise from there..

  21. This may seem like a simple realisation but it is a trap that most of us fall for, sometimes for a lifetime. Our ideas about what we should be able to do or what we need to do can put unrealistic pressure on ourselves. I love the way the perfect job fell into place as soon as the ideal was let go of.

  22. Working in a job or finding ourselves in situations where people can take advantage of what we can bring and offer is something to certainly be aware of, otherwise it can have adverse consequences on the body. I can see how this can play out in my life, so lovingly saying ‘No’ when I know to say ‘No’ is incredibly supportive to my wellbeing and those around me.

  23. Our bodies are our greatest divining instruments, through which we can always know of the quality of vibration we are choosing to align with. When we live led by the ideals and beliefs our bodies reflect the discord, the reduction and unease that this quality of vibration delivers, in contrast to living surrendered to the vibration of love, where our bodies reflect the vitality, harmony and freedom that represents our true way of being.

  24. This is a very valuable testimonial Cherise, as many nurses are experiencing the same situation that you lived when you were 21 years old. It’s a treasure for them to know that it’s possible to work in another way, in which listening to what our body communicates is far more important than what our minds say. No more should’s but more feel and honour ourselves. This is the best example that you can offer to your patients too.

  25. Shoulds ought tos and doing what is right are all sure ways to crush us, and the crazy thing is we do it to ourselves. Waking up to the toll these have on our bodies is awesome, becoming aware of every time those ideals or beliefs get to us and choosing to renounce them is one of the greatest things we can do for ourselves, and of course, the effects are felt by everyone.

  26. A revelatory moment that not only supported you in your next move, but also every single person that reads this article as we are reminded that holding on to such beliefs only keeps us further cemented in a pattern that if we’re honest isn’t working for us.

  27. The moment we change according to how we feel another wants us to be, or we perform to a set ideal of how we think we should be, we are gone – lost in an illusion deep through which the body will do all that it can to signal us back home to the truth we have departed from.

  28. Two very valid points here. First, we create our own mental prisons and suffer from living trapped in there. Second, the body is not just a pain in the neck but also a source that helps us to steer ourselves in life away from what harms us.

  29. Beliefs and ideals hurt us more than most of us realise. I am away from home at the moment and have been putting up with sleeping on a bed that really hasn’t supported me. Each night I would say to myself, ‘oh let’s see how I go tonight’ and each morning waking up with a stiff back and neck…. all because I held a belief that I shouldn’t ask for something better. Today I did ask for something better and now have a bed that will support my body and give me the sleep I deserve.

  30. This story is a real eye opener. You remind me how much I try to make myself fit in with the way things are rather than Allow the support I really need. Thank you Cherise.

  31. So awesome Cherise! And a timely reminder for me to consider what it is I’m holding on to, as I experience waking up with a stiff body most days and nearly always experience discomfort through my back.

    1. I can relate Elodie to waking up with a stiff and sore body and I just kept on going until lately my GP said to me ‘ You have to listen to your body… it was if I heard my own words talking to others and at the same time I was using a double standard holding on to a belief I should be able to do what I was doing.

  32. I have also found that our minds can drop in all sorts of pictures, ideals and beliefs that can lead us on a merry dance or to make decisions that are definitely not good for our health and wellbeing. I have discovered that being very vigilant and discerning as to the energetic quality of these thoughts is very important because it has become very obvious to me that not all of these thoughts from my mind are true or in the best interests of me and everyone else.

  33. What I had found is that the connection to myself brought instant relationship with the world – and that from this true purpose was born. The nursing occupation offered me a way to show people the care of people and now what we need to continue and not continue to life in a way that is supporting our body – by living the care towards healing and dedication of care myself.. I have learned that what I master within myself – I easily can take out for other people , and inspire.. So the whole concept of resentment is breaking in parts – as if I live care and true dedication to take real care for my body, I can not help but inspire others to support them making loving caring choices for themselves to – is that not what nursing is about?

  34. What an incredible moment to ask if you are really letting anyone down by moving on. I can see how in fact this would be a great service to everyone who knows you, to see how we can all move on when this is what is needed. I suppose the key here is to read each situation without judgement and then we are able to see what is needed and not just what we want to selectively choose to see.

  35. It is great to know you were able to realise by listening to your body that you had certain Ideals and belief that kept you trapped, until you were able to let go and find another job more kind to your body. It is strange how we often have a false loyalty to a person or position which turns out to be unnecessary !

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