Having ideals and beliefs – at what expense to the body?

by Cherise Holt, Nurse, Australia

When I was 20 years old, I graduated as a nurse and began to work in a Rehabilitation unit, in a major city hospital. On any shift I would be allocated to approximately 7 patients, all of whom were recovering from surgical procedures, injuries and various illnesses & diseases. They all varied in the amount of support they (and their carers) needed from me, physically, mentally and emotionally.

I worked shift work, usually days, afternoons and weekends and it was not uncommon to work 7 days without a break or have very irregular shifts. I frequently worked until 11pm at night and would then start another shift beginning at 6.30am the next morning. I used to think I had barely enough time to drive home and sleep, let alone take time to wind down properly or bring true quality to my relationship with me (or anyone else!).

I worked hard and I would tell anyone that I thoroughly enjoyed my job. I loved talking to the patients, although found it difficult with those that wanted more of my attention or more solutions from me than I felt I could give. I liked providing care for them, however found that the physical tasks I was doing for them, even the basics of daily care, was becoming tiring on my body.

At age 20, I was already feeling drained by my career; how could this be?

At age 21, I had a serious lower back injury and was unable to keep working, although I had pushed myself to try. I found myself in a young body with limited mobility; requiring rehabilitation, physiotherapy, day procedures and narcotics for the excruciating pain I was experiencing – in fact, I was looking not too dissimilar to any one of my patients.

I held the belief that I was going to get better and return to work as soon as possible, but I had a lot of fear for the physical pain or damage that I could possibly do to myself again. I discounted any thought (or suggestion) that I could find work anywhere else, because in my mind I had committed myself to returning to my workplace and simply picking up where I left off.

As the many months went on, I continued to experience great pain and felt stuck within my own choices. I had placed so much pressure on myself to get back to where I was that I was not listening to my own body and what it actually felt it could do. I began to feel more worthless in my self because I wasn’t able to work and reach my goal; hardness on me that I can see now was only serving to further inhibit my own recovery.

After two full years of not working I had a moment, a communication with myself where I questioned my held beliefs – who says you have to take your body back to that specific workplace? Are you really letting anyone (including yourself) down by moving on?

With this simple conversation, I let go of a belief that I had created and had held in my own head for a very long time, and with my renouncing of its controlling hold, I just let it go!

Within a short time I was applying for new jobs and found myself in a perfect position within a day hospital setting. The shifts supported me, as did the physical workload and my colleagues, but most importantly I began to uncover just how detrimental and stunting a held belief really can be! It’s a disease in our bodies.

When we invest in ideals and beliefs, we are seeking outside of ourselves for the right or should thing to do, and we can get caught up in pleasing others too. In this we contract ourselves away from the natural expression and personal rhythm that we can otherwise live our lives in and from. The toll that this way of holding back takes on our bodies is enormous (and my back is a true testament!).

These days I am SO grateful that my back and my physical body communicates with me the way that it does, reminding me that when I honour me and my body and don’t compromise myself for ideals, beliefs, pushing, trying, or other people, my body is left free to move in the flowing freedom and beauty that is my own rhythm. On the flip side, when I don’t honour what I feel and what is true for me, my body tells me through an ache, pain or tightness straight away, reminding me that I carry a wisdom far greater than any ideal and when I truly listen I am brought back to the truth of what I know and how to be in the way that I live.

Forever inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon & Universal Medicine, supporting me to gather the pieces of the puzzle that collectively bring true medicine and the way that I live back together again.

 

Read more:

  1. Work is medicine 
  2. Self-care at work
  3. Are we building our body image, or, is our image building our body? 

835 thoughts on “Having ideals and beliefs – at what expense to the body?

  1. It is great to know you were able to realise by listening to your body that you had certain Ideals and belief that kept you trapped, until you were able to let go and find another job more kind to your body. It is strange how we often have a false loyalty to a person or position which turns out to be unnecessary !

  2. What an incredible moment to ask if you are really letting anyone down by moving on. I can see how in fact this would be a great service to everyone who knows you, to see how we can all move on when this is what is needed. I suppose the key here is to read each situation without judgement and then we are able to see what is needed and not just what we want to selectively choose to see.

  3. What I had found is that the connection to myself brought instant relationship with the world – and that from this true purpose was born. The nursing occupation offered me a way to show people the care of people and now what we need to continue and not continue to life in a way that is supporting our body – by living the care towards healing and dedication of care myself.. I have learned that what I master within myself – I easily can take out for other people , and inspire.. So the whole concept of resentment is breaking in parts – as if I live care and true dedication to take real care for my body, I can not help but inspire others to support them making loving caring choices for themselves to – is that not what nursing is about?

  4. I have also found that our minds can drop in all sorts of pictures, ideals and beliefs that can lead us on a merry dance or to make decisions that are definitely not good for our health and wellbeing. I have discovered that being very vigilant and discerning as to the energetic quality of these thoughts is very important because it has become very obvious to me that not all of these thoughts from my mind are true or in the best interests of me and everyone else.

  5. So awesome Cherise! And a timely reminder for me to consider what it is I’m holding on to, as I experience waking up with a stiff body most days and nearly always experience discomfort through my back.

  6. This story is a real eye opener. You remind me how much I try to make myself fit in with the way things are rather than Allow the support I really need. Thank you Cherise.

  7. Beliefs and ideals hurt us more than most of us realise. I am away from home at the moment and have been putting up with sleeping on a bed that really hasn’t supported me. Each night I would say to myself, ‘oh let’s see how I go tonight’ and each morning waking up with a stiff back and neck…. all because I held a belief that I shouldn’t ask for something better. Today I did ask for something better and now have a bed that will support my body and give me the sleep I deserve.

  8. Two very valid points here. First, we create our own mental prisons and suffer from living trapped in there. Second, the body is not just a pain in the neck but also a source that helps us to steer ourselves in life away from what harms us.

  9. The moment we change according to how we feel another wants us to be, or we perform to a set ideal of how we think we should be, we are gone – lost in an illusion deep through which the body will do all that it can to signal us back home to the truth we have departed from.

  10. A revelatory moment that not only supported you in your next move, but also every single person that reads this article as we are reminded that holding on to such beliefs only keeps us further cemented in a pattern that if we’re honest isn’t working for us.

  11. Shoulds ought tos and doing what is right are all sure ways to crush us, and the crazy thing is we do it to ourselves. Waking up to the toll these have on our bodies is awesome, becoming aware of every time those ideals or beliefs get to us and choosing to renounce them is one of the greatest things we can do for ourselves, and of course, the effects are felt by everyone.

  12. This is a very valuable testimonial Cherise, as many nurses are experiencing the same situation that you lived when you were 21 years old. It’s a treasure for them to know that it’s possible to work in another way, in which listening to what our body communicates is far more important than what our minds say. No more should’s but more feel and honour ourselves. This is the best example that you can offer to your patients too.

  13. Our bodies are our greatest divining instruments, through which we can always know of the quality of vibration we are choosing to align with. When we live led by the ideals and beliefs our bodies reflect the discord, the reduction and unease that this quality of vibration delivers, in contrast to living surrendered to the vibration of love, where our bodies reflect the vitality, harmony and freedom that represents our true way of being.

Leave a Comment

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s