Having ideals and beliefs – at what expense to the body?

by Cherise Holt, Nurse, Australia

When I was 20 years old, I graduated as a nurse and began to work in a Rehabilitation unit, in a major city hospital. On any shift I would be allocated to approximately 7 patients, all of whom were recovering from surgical procedures, injuries and various illnesses & diseases. They all varied in the amount of support they (and their carers) needed from me, physically, mentally and emotionally.

I worked shift work, usually days, afternoons and weekends and it was not uncommon to work 7 days without a break or have very irregular shifts. I frequently worked until 11pm at night and would then start another shift beginning at 6.30am the next morning. I used to think I had barely enough time to drive home and sleep, let alone take time to wind down properly or bring true quality to my relationship with me (or anyone else!).

I worked hard and I would tell anyone that I thoroughly enjoyed my job. I loved talking to the patients, although found it difficult with those that wanted more of my attention or more solutions from me than I felt I could give. I liked providing care for them, however found that the physical tasks I was doing for them, even the basics of daily care, was becoming tiring on my body.

At age 20, I was already feeling drained by my career; how could this be?

At age 21, I had a serious lower back injury and was unable to keep working, although I had pushed myself to try. I found myself in a young body with limited mobility; requiring rehabilitation, physiotherapy, day procedures and narcotics for the excruciating pain I was experiencing – in fact, I was looking not too dissimilar to any one of my patients.

I held the belief that I was going to get better and return to work as soon as possible, but I had a lot of fear for the physical pain or damage that I could possibly do to myself again. I discounted any thought (or suggestion) that I could find work anywhere else, because in my mind I had committed myself to returning to my workplace and simply picking up where I left off.

As the many months went on, I continued to experience great pain and felt stuck within my own choices. I had placed so much pressure on myself to get back to where I was that I was not listening to my own body and what it actually felt it could do. I began to feel more worthless in my self because I wasn’t able to work and reach my goal; hardness on me that I can see now was only serving to further inhibit my own recovery.

After two full years of not working I had a moment, a communication with myself where I questioned my held beliefs – who says you have to take your body back to that specific workplace? Are you really letting anyone (including yourself) down by moving on?

With this simple conversation, I let go of a belief that I had created and had held in my own head for a very long time, and with my renouncing of its controlling hold, I just let it go!

Within a short time I was applying for new jobs and found myself in a perfect position within a day hospital setting. The shifts supported me, as did the physical workload and my colleagues, but most importantly I began to uncover just how detrimental and stunting a held belief really can be! It’s a disease in our bodies.

When we invest in ideals and beliefs, we are seeking outside of ourselves for the right or should thing to do, and we can get caught up in pleasing others too. In this we contract ourselves away from the natural expression and personal rhythm that we can otherwise live our lives in and from. The toll that this way of holding back takes on our bodies is enormous (and my back is a true testament!).

These days I am SO grateful that my back and my physical body communicates with me the way that it does, reminding me that when I honour me and my body and don’t compromise myself for ideals, beliefs, pushing, trying, or other people, my body is left free to move in the flowing freedom and beauty that is my own rhythm. On the flip side, when I don’t honour what I feel and what is true for me, my body tells me through an ache, pain or tightness straight away, reminding me that I carry a wisdom far greater than any ideal and when I truly listen I am brought back to the truth of what I know and how to be in the way that I live.

Forever inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon & Universal Medicine, supporting me to gather the pieces of the puzzle that collectively bring true medicine and the way that I live back together again.


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891 thoughts on “Having ideals and beliefs – at what expense to the body?

  1. Remaining resistant to hearing the messages of our body, clearly delays the recovery of our health.
    Nevertheless, whatever we choose, there is always so much love embracing us until the revealing moment of our surrender.. respectfully awaiting for it to happen.

  2. It continues to amaze how we insist after having an illness or disease that we want to be able to resume life where it was left off before the issue arose; without understanding that this may not be what our body is calling for.
    I knew someone who had a cancer diagnosis and after the operations and even during the follow up treatments continued to work and behave as before and not listen to what their body was needing as support for the monumental experience they were going through. So it is with great interest Cherise to read that you understood with hind sight that placing pressure on yourself to get back to ‘normal’ as soon as possible does inhibit your recovery; this makes sense to me that it would.

  3. Cherise, I loved your sharing as I work in the health care system too and the work is often demanding on our bodies. And once upon a time I was one of the statistics on the verge of leaving the profession and in fact I hated my job. But at the end of the day, we have a choice, to be part of the statistics or go to work and offer our services to the professional or be the casualty of the profession.

    We need to take care of ourselves more and more and it begins with us first. When we take care of ourselves first, then everything else around us will take care of itself.

  4. Our beliefs are what cripple us. When we are invested in it, it’s impossible to see the obvious that we could easily relate to otherwise.

    1. OMG Fumiyo, our beliefs not only ‘cripple us’, they hold us prisoners in the illusion, it separates us from everyone. With so many beliefs around us such as religion, culture, food, etc, it’s no wonder there are so many divisions between us.

      It’s time to wake up to how we are living.

      1. Gosh I so agree with you both Fumiyo and Shushila from my own personal experience I know that the ideals and beliefs I held and still hold keep me in a prison of my own making. When I find a held belief or ideal and work on letting it go, my whole body feels so much lighter.

  5. It’s a really good example of how a belief or way of thinking can get in the way of honouring what’s truly needed, and the complexity our beliefs and ideals can bring into life, instead of the simplicity of responding to what’s needed.

  6. When we get caught up in our own beliefs we are like little hamsters on the wheel going round and round and doing nothing but getting dizzy and pretending everything is ok.

  7. When we hold onto an ideal or belief we can force ourselves to live in a way that is not true for us as we are governed by the belief and not what is being asked of us. This way of being happened to me recently where I placed getting work and money before the relationship with self and where I am at. I had become ‘hooked’ into the belief that I was holding in my body and it took a diagnoses from the doctor to stop the momentum, take stock and let go of the belief. I am no longer attached to the belief and boy do I feel different – light, connected to myself and expanded.

  8. “I began to uncover just how detrimental and stunting a held belief really can be! It’s a disease in our bodies” and when we let go of a belief we can feel a freedom in our body as one more knot is untied.

  9. Such an obvious communication from your body, yet even when we get a message as clear as this, that the way we are working or living is not working for us and is having a detrimental effect on our body, we can still be stubbornly holding on to our ideas about how we ‘should be’ or what we ‘should be doing’. Amazing to read how quickly you recovered and bounced back to normal life after you’d dropped the pressure you were putting on yourself and allowed yourself to let go, accepting your situation and yourself.

  10. I agree Cherise, the toll on our body is enormous when we hold back and contract our expression to live lesser than our true self. With commitment to being more loving and nurturing in how we express and move every day, we are able to let go of the false beliefs and ideals that hold us in a false way of being and honour the truth we feel our body that supports us to accept and claim ourselves for who we are.

  11. Our bodies are extraordinary in the way that they communicate to us the bigger picture of what is going on. By bringing our awareness to this we are able to see beyond the physical and understand what lies at the root of our pain or discomfort, and we then have the opportunity and if we so choose, the grace to deal with it.

  12. I had roughly a 2 year experience of what ideals and beliefs can do to my health when I hold onto them and not listen to my body. I kept asking my body throughout about leaving, and when it said yes I still held in against my bodies wishes. The results were not pretty physically, mentally and emotionally but once I finally called it all off it felt like every cell sighed with relief.

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