Getting Away with It…

by Anne Malatt, Australia.

A dear friend sent me a link to a funny photo, which came from a facebook page with the title:

“Yes, Officer I did see the Speed Limit sign, I just didn’t see YOU!”

When I saw the title I laughed out loud and then I was stopped in my tracks.

I realised that this was how I had lived my life, thinking I was getting away with it.

What do I mean when I say this?

For me, it means that I know I am doing something that is not right, but I somehow think I have a right to do it, and that it will not have the same consequences for me that it has for other people.

The arrogance of this is stupendous.

How do I do it?

When I was younger, I used to drink like a fish, smoke like a chimney and root like a rabbit. I did not get away with it, any of it. As a consequence, I was forced to make major changes to the way I lived, in order to keep on living. I made these changes at the age of 28, long before I moved to the Byron Shire and met Serge Benhayon. Even though I cleaned up my act, I was still not self-loving in the way I lived. There was still a hardness there, especially on myself, and a drive, that came from never feeling enough, just as I was.

Now, my life is much more loving and seen from the outside, probably pure and boring, but I still do stuff.

I speed. I would like to say I used to speed, but I still do it. I love to drive a little fast, to push the boundaries a little. I drive fast in a measured way, carefully calibrated – 10-15 km over the speed limit, so that if I get caught, the consequences will not be dire. Occasionally I get a little reckless and go faster, but never more that 30 km over the speed limit – I will not risk losing my licence. I used to pride myself on being able to sense when there were police around and on knowing when to slow down, so that I got away with it.

I eat. I know there are foods I can no longer eat, foods that do not support my body and my way of being, but I still eat them. I still like the taste of them and even the thought of being able to eat them sometimes. I don’t stop eating something when it causes tiredness, bloating, dullness. I keep “enjoying” it until I feel exhaustion, get stomach cramps and diarrhoea, or my heart starts to race; until I can no longer get away with it. 

I push myself to the limit. I know when I am tired and when my body needs to rest, but I push it beyond that. I do not rest when I am tired, but when I am exhausted. I do not stop and be still until I have to.  I do not say no until I reach breaking point. And until now, I thought I was getting away with it.

I was diagnosed with lymphoma last year. It is a relatively benign, chronic cancer, but it was a shock nonetheless. I found a lump in my left leg. I had it removed (the lump, not the leg!), other tests were clear and I did not have to have any further treatment. So I thought I had gotten away with it.

A few weeks ago I felt a funny feeling in the same area. My doctor could not find anything, but I had a scan anyway and there is more disease there, and a biopsy has shown the same cancer. I have just had a bone marrow biopsy to see if it has spread throughout my body. This test is not something I would wish on anyone.

So really, did I get away with anything?

Is it possible that the way I have lived has led to this?

Is it possible that the way I have walked through life, denying the knowing of my body, refusing to listen when it spoke to me, and waiting until it was screaming before I changed my way of life, has something to do with where I am now?

It is not about blaming myself, finding fault, beating myself up.

It is about being as honest as I can with myself from now on.

It is about being willing to stop, be still and listen to my body, and to live from and with the knowing that lies within me, the wisdom of my inner-heart.

It is about understanding that we never get away with it, that everything we think, say and do carries an energetic imprint, that is either loving and heals us, or is not loving and harms us. And we live with every one of those imprints, every day.

So why not live in a way that is loving? I, for one, am ready to give it a go.

I am forever inspired by the life and work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. 

572 thoughts on “Getting Away with It…

  1. Can we see as a blessing that our evolution involves clearing in our bodies, as illness or disease, back to a quality of being and a way of living with absolute responsibility for who we are? Therefore, getting away with things, such as through the belief that we can eat anything in moderation, is counter evolutionary. This huge false image of life that Anne has spotlighted holds us back from experiencing and embracing the divine nature within us as the true essence of life and what we are here to rediscover.

  2. Thanks Anne, you make it clear there is in fact no getting away with anything, and that is something I have understood for many years, not only observing clients and their life-time choices and eventual ailments, but also myself. We are designed to live in harmony with ourselves and each other, and anything not in line with that, is registered in the body. Eventually that has to come out… and often in ways we get ‘shocked’ about, as you say.

    1. Thanks Jenny Ellis for bringing a greater understanding on this topic as we can often bury our head in the sand and ‘think’ that the body is not registering all the harm that we continue to pile on time and time again. A bit like a pack horse that we don’t think will break. Although the ways in which it all comes out can lead to huge life lessons and so much healing in the long run.

      1. So true Natalliya, I have often marvelled at what the body seemingly ‘absorbs’, for years and years without apparent ‘consequence’. But in time it does come out again, and the severity and debility caused then is proportional to what has been lived in earlier years. A great point you make though to balance this is the opportunity offered to learn and heal a great deal in one’s life… for those who take this as the opportunity it is, their healing process is usually quite profound, far less traumatic and something they often come to the end of and feel very grateful for having experienced. They are never the same again… which means they will not just start re-creating the exact same thing again. When we understand illness and disease this way, it is very empowering.

  3. Anne, what you share is very familiar and many will relate to it. You also openly bring to view a phenomenon often difficult to comprehend: ‘why people continue to do what they know harms the body’. Scientists at one Australian university say the reason why most people ignore modifiable risk factors known to cause illness and diseases like dementia is because the long-term effect of particular behaviours is delayed. In other words, there is no immediate cause and effect (although we know there often is, if we listened to our bodies). Most people, continue to do what they’ve always done because they’re so deadened to their bodies, they no longer feel and begin to think they’ve ‘got away with it’. The Way of the Livingness offers another way, to live with conscious awareness, love and listen to our bodies and find the source of what makes us feel unwell or out of balance – continuous communication with ourselves and our bodies, and not simply waiting for the wake up call.

  4. This truly made me stop and feel how I have chosen to live and what I may have chosen to ignore as having possible consequences, therefore allowing it to remain as a behaviour in my life that although not recogniseable from the behaviour of days gone by, is still there just in a new form. What a call to responsibility.

  5. It’s true we can live a life of getting away with it because we think just this once will bring us no harm – but the thing is every ill choice adds up – just as every clear choice adds up. Life is a process of moment to moment, and if we treat each moment with the same importance as the next, perhaps we won’t even consider making an ill choice. This brings with it the power of being responsible that we are accountable for.

  6. Every time I catch myself saying to myself ‘It doesn’t matter’ I know I think I am ‘getting away with it’ but my body is tenderly and consistently letting me know that everything matters and inviting me to be ever more honouring and respectful in the way I choose to treat myself and everyone else. Everything matters.

  7. This is a big wake up call for us all to really be honest with ourselves. I know there are behaviours I still hold onto that are ‘getting away with it’ – and every time I’ll be caught out – my body will feel it and show me that my actions are not loving – and yet I’ll try again and again. But to what expense? This is a great point of reflection for me to ask myself ‘is it really worth it if I can live in a way that inspires others, rather than being sneaky and trying to play a game with ill choices.’

  8. Getting away with something creats this moment of “I can do what I want” that is the basis for our irresponsibility that has delivered our world into the mess we have today.
    It is like the stage a young child goes through when it is claiming itself. However, like the child,we need to take responsibility for our actions and grow up.
    I have understood this responsibility and thought I lived it, untill Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine came along and presented what true responsibility is. Thank you Serge.

  9. Thanks Anne for your sharing and reminder that we can try to fool ourselves, but our bodies won’t allow us to get away with not listening!

  10. The futile quest of the human spirit is to see how much not-love (recklessness, waywardness, arrogance, ignorance etc.) it can ‘get away with’ before it makes the choice, often due to lifetimes of illness and disease, to walk back into the open and loving arms of the Soul. You are a great example of such a return Anne, thankyou

  11. I have had reason to pause recently and consider how I have lived, especially in relation to lifting/straining my body. When I began to explore how I have done this, much of what I thought was ‘the thing to do at the time’ was in fact too much strain on the delicate frame I have. If only I could share this with all women, that how you use your body today will definitely show in the future. I offer a moment to stop and to consider our bodies in all that we do.

  12. It’s so true, every choice we make has a consequence, and it shows up either in the short or long term. We fool ourselves that this thing we are doing “doesn’t matter”, but it does. Not only do our choices affect us but they affect the whole as well. Everything we do matters. As you say Anne, realising this offers us a stop moment, and we can change our choices to be motivated by love instead of recklessness.

  13. Yes, do we really get away with anything? Or do we simply choose not to see the consequences brewing or the immediate ones we might not even associate with a certain behaviour?

  14. It sounds so simple when you put it like this Anne, and I guess it is. Now to put in action the love that you are speaking of and treat myself and my body to a more honest and more responsible way of being. I suddenly got a feeling of the harmony we could engender if we all did just this.

  15. You put your finger on it for me Anne when you said we never get away with anything. We are kidding ourselves when we think we can and this is aided by the fact that the result may not be immediate. Like with dementia, we think we are getting away with all the checking out and not being present, then 30 years later boom – dementia, where did that come from? Why me?

  16. Thank you for showing there are consequences to all our choices, and we pay the price if we are not living a loving life.

  17. Great reminder that every choice, every thought and action is either healing or harming. We can delude ourselves that we’re getting away with things and doing whatever we like – but the results of how we live come back to us at some stage and are shown to us in our bodies, who don’t hide the truth.

  18. There is an arrogance that wants to push the boundaries or stretch beyond its limits until the body is harmed and/or breaks down….What about the flip side? I ask this question to myself as well – how far can we go with self-love?

  19. There are many days when I have noticed I will put off today what I can do tomorrow and often these choices are about the way I live and bringing in more loving choices. Sometimes not choosing to be more loving can be about meeting a need that we hold onto to be ‘included’ and ‘approved’ of. We are not getting away with what we put off, we are just denying ourselves an opportunity to live the most amazing life and supporting ourselves in bringing more love into a very messy world that needs it.

  20. Great sharing Anne, there are always consequences to whatever we do, and we never get away with anything, exactly how it should be otherwise we would never learn.

  21. Thank you Anne, I can relate deeply to this. I went to a point where I was no longer able to get away with my behaviour and shifted my entire focus of life. The change has been incredibly inspiring.

  22. I see how I push beyond the limits that my body is comfortable with and can relate to what you have shared about certain foods and doing that extra job when I know I clearly need to stop. I really appreciate what you have shared Anne because it shows in very simple terms how we never really get away with anything.

  23. It’s great to expose the illusion of getting away with it, for everything catches up with us eventually…this life or the next!

  24. There are so many things we think we get away with, I wonder how long a daily list would be! For me over-eating is a very common one, we think when we overeat we’re just a bit uncomfortable but that discomfort is actually our stomach being stretched. We negate, or overlook the facts of what we choose, especially when the discomfort or the tiredness passes, but how much damage do we do to our body in those moments where we think we get away with disregarding its signals, and by virtue of that our health.

  25. When we think we are ‘getting away with it’ we are in fact choosing to keep ourselves away from feeling the beauty and Divinity that we truly are.

  26. Recently when asked what really irked me, I found myself including “people who get away with it”. Reading this blog today I realise where I am still wanting to get away with it. The things may seem so much less significant to what I was referring to in answer to what irks me, but really it’s all the same. Thank you for aiding me in seeing more clearly what I am doing and can change for myself so as not to belong under this category.

  27. The body is an amazing thing with an incredible ability to recover from whatever we throw at it or into it, and this helps us with the illusion that we are getting away with it, but there is no getting away with it, any harm we do ourselves reduces us and eventually turns into something serious we have to deal with.

  28. Anne your words “Getting away with it” is ringing in my ears, as I sit and feel into what I believe I get away with, like eating something I know isn’t right for me now, although it was a few weeks ago, because somehow there is this arrogance within that makes me think I will deal with it later, when the reality is I need to deal with it now, before my body tells me very clearly that it will no longer accept the foods I eat.

  29. Beautiful Anne, we ‘get away with’ nothing in actual fact, the body wears it all, and what goes in (that is disharmonious to our natural stillness and purity), must come back out again. That is what all illness and disease is… and when this is known and accepted, we will see that taking responsibility for our own health and healing is the only possible way.

  30. The list of things we think we can get away with, continues to grow as we numb ourselves out with more distractions that we use to avoid the wisdom the body constantly imparts to us – Until it comes to a point that the body stops us in the form of illness or disease, which finally, grabs our attention to the fact we have to choose to live a different way or continue to struggle and suffer.

  31. Arrogance has this strange quality to it. The more arrogant we are, the less we are aware of it in ourselves. I used to be hugely arrogant but would have happily sworn under oath that I didn’t have an arrogant bone in my body!

  32. It is interesting how we use our mind to convince ourselves that we can get away with certain choices we make yet our body finds a way to communicate with us that what we are choosing is disregarding and not supportive, we just ignore the signs until our body makes us really stop and look at what we are choosing so that we have the opportunity to make different and more loving choices that align to the harmony our body knows itself to be.

    1. Yes this is true. we can absolutely trust our body to communicate with us what is true for us and what is not. And it keeps on doing this however much we ignore it . In truth our body is our best friend.

  33. It is interesting the notion of ‘pushing the boundaries’ a little bit. Really? What boundaries are we really pushing when we feel we are doing so? If there is this notion of getting away with it behind our actions, it means that we are not really pushing any true boundary.

  34. That fact that we sense that we are doing something that is not right highlights that we do actually know, and we simply ignore it. We all have an inner-truth that is forever present, for the purpose solely to guide us and our movements through life. The choice is ours to listen or to ignore it, but regardless of what we choose we can never escape from what precipitates thereafter from the choice made. As the fact is, our bodies are the marker of truth and always will reflect the choices we make and are making. To embrace a loving relationship with our bodies is truly a beautiful and empowering thing, as we realise the awareness available to us to know if the choices we are making are supporting us to live in honour of the love we are and deserve to live.

  35. Thank you for the reminder Anne, as I can see there are many ways I too think I am ‘getting away with it’, but that is such an illusion. We get away with NOTHING.

  36. The truth of the matter is that we never ever get away with anything – it might just take a long time, possible lifetimes, to catch up with us. As they say, ‘what goes around, comes around’.

  37. I feel I could have written this blog I so live that arrogance you share. It just goes to prove to me that we have an aspect to ourselves that is so unloving, if we choose to let it run. It’s not about controlling that bit, rather about making loving choices rather than otherwise. We are never ‘getting away with it’

  38. Every step I have made has led me to where I am today in this very moment. In the past I would avoid moments, times of pause and stop to register where I was and how my body felt. I stop and pause after reading this and I feel so much more settled than ever before, yet I can feel the drifting off thoughts are still avoiding a deeper awareness of this moment and it makes me wonder – what am I getting away with? Because all these distractions and rushing around eventually grind to a halt, either by our choice or the body calling out via illness and disease. If this level of settlement feels amazing then how much more is there to be aware of in stop moments?

  39. Ouch the arrogance of feeling we ‘got away’ with something is so massive but I have had a wake up call recently due to an infected cyst on my breast which now needs to be cut out. I know that this is because I have been holding back my expression but the fact is that this is a recurrent issue from a few years ago. The last time I went and got it checked out by the GP and thought I had addressed it but although it significantly reduced in size it never completely went away. My arrogance allowed me to think I had ‘got away’ with it until it came back and literally erupted bringing me face to face with the reality of how I have been living.

  40. Feeling the lack of transparency that is reflected every time we feel we have ‘got away’ with something. Accepting the reality that every single action has a consequence is huge and something that I can still avoid when choosing to, for example, allow myself to get distracted and go to bed late. Thank you for exposing the unloving choices that lead to this behaviour.

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