Getting Away with It…

by Anne Malatt, Australia.

A dear friend sent me a link to a funny photo, which came from a facebook page with the title:

“Yes, Officer I did see the Speed Limit sign, I just didn’t see YOU!”

When I saw the title I laughed out loud and then I was stopped in my tracks.

I realised that this was how I had lived my life, thinking I was getting away with it.

What do I mean when I say this?

For me, it means that I know I am doing something that is not right, but I somehow think I have a right to do it, and that it will not have the same consequences for me that it has for other people.

The arrogance of this is stupendous.

How do I do it?

When I was younger, I used to drink like a fish, smoke like a chimney and root like a rabbit. I did not get away with it, any of it. As a consequence, I was forced to make major changes to the way I lived, in order to keep on living. I made these changes at the age of 28, long before I moved to the Byron Shire and met Serge Benhayon. Even though I cleaned up my act, I was still not self-loving in the way I lived. There was still a hardness there, especially on myself, and a drive, that came from never feeling enough, just as I was.

Now, my life is much more loving and seen from the outside, probably pure and boring, but I still do stuff.

I speed. I would like to say I used to speed, but I still do it. I love to drive a little fast, to push the boundaries a little. I drive fast in a measured way, carefully calibrated – 10-15 km over the speed limit, so that if I get caught, the consequences will not be dire. Occasionally I get a little reckless and go faster, but never more that 30 km over the speed limit – I will not risk losing my licence. I used to pride myself on being able to sense when there were police around and on knowing when to slow down, so that I got away with it.

I eat. I know there are foods I can no longer eat, foods that do not support my body and my way of being, but I still eat them. I still like the taste of them and even the thought of being able to eat them sometimes. I don’t stop eating something when it causes tiredness, bloating, dullness. I keep “enjoying” it until I feel exhaustion, get stomach cramps and diarrhoea, or my heart starts to race; until I can no longer get away with it. 

I push myself to the limit. I know when I am tired and when my body needs to rest, but I push it beyond that. I do not rest when I am tired, but when I am exhausted. I do not stop and be still until I have to.  I do not say no until I reach breaking point. And until now, I thought I was getting away with it.

I was diagnosed with lymphoma last year. It is a relatively benign, chronic cancer, but it was a shock nonetheless. I found a lump in my left leg. I had it removed (the lump, not the leg!), other tests were clear and I did not have to have any further treatment. So I thought I had gotten away with it.

A few weeks ago I felt a funny feeling in the same area. My doctor could not find anything, but I had a scan anyway and there is more disease there, and a biopsy has shown the same cancer. I have just had a bone marrow biopsy to see if it has spread throughout my body. This test is not something I would wish on anyone.

So really, did I get away with anything?

Is it possible that the way I have lived has led to this?

Is it possible that the way I have walked through life, denying the knowing of my body, refusing to listen when it spoke to me, and waiting until it was screaming before I changed my way of life, has something to do with where I am now?

It is not about blaming myself, finding fault, beating myself up.

It is about being as honest as I can with myself from now on.

It is about being willing to stop, be still and listen to my body, and to live from and with the knowing that lies within me, the wisdom of my inner-heart.

It is about understanding that we never get away with it, that everything we think, say and do carries an energetic imprint, that is either loving and heals us, or is not loving and harms us. And we live with every one of those imprints, every day.

So why not live in a way that is loving? I, for one, am ready to give it a go.

I am forever inspired by the life and work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. 

617 thoughts on “Getting Away with It…

  1. My body has let me know how I have lived in disregard for years and years thinking I got away with it but ending in severe osteoporosis. Quite a shock or better to say a stop moment to really get my act together and to listen to my body like you say Anne ‘It is about being willing to stop, be still and listen to my body, and to live from and with the knowing that lies within me, the wisdom of my inner-heart.’ I cannot say I have mastered it yet but I know I cannot get away with anything.

  2. I reckon that this is one of the pure gold statements in life: that you are wiling to give it a go. Whatever it is, to just be willing to get up and have a go is huge in its importance in relation for how life is today, with complacency at perhaps its most all time high.

  3. We do have this obsession with speed as if going faster would make it harder, if not impossible, to be caught up with the consequences. The fact that everything has consequences is a law and our reaction only confirms our inclination towards recklessness. We’ve resisted and fought it and we are still not getting away with anything. We seem to forget that the same law still applies when what we choose is healing and love.

  4. I love the ‘matter-of-factness’ of this statement – ‘we live with every one of those imprints, every day.’ – as it is directly asking us if we willing to be honest about what we are choosing, why and are we willing to feel how our choices, behaviours and quality of our movements are affecting us and the all the relationships we share, as such what we are contributing to the world. As you have shared so wisely, we never get away with anything, and there is a saying that says, ‘life always catches up with you’, highlighting the truth, as our body will always show us, that the quality of life we choose to live is always with us, all of us. And that is the quality of love or all that is not of love.

  5. I find there is a big difference in driving at the exact limit where you won’t get a speeding fine or below that. Driving at the limit, even with cruise control, is quite stressful while the other allows a lot more repose to the fore.

  6. Gradually I have found the more gentle and caring I am with myself, the more willing I am to stop and be still and listen to the body. This has enabled me to deepen my relationship with my body so that I am far less likely to want to choose to disregard myself and my body than I did before as I build my self-worth. As you say Anne, we never get away with it, our choices catch up with us in the long run as we revisit and clear the imprints we have made in contra to the love we know we are in our heart.

  7. I can recognise two on your list: I eat and I stay up later than my body wants to. I put things off till the last minute and then at 9 o’clock when I want to go to bed, I have to spend at least half an hour doing a daily task that could have been done much earlier. As for eating – it is a compulsion – I eat a meal then want to eat something else, as if the meal wasn’t satisfying enough, and then i keep on grazing through till the next meal, so my stomach is dealing with a constant assault of food, never being allowed to rest until I go to sleep. I know it’s not good, but I haven’t yet found the key to stop. Self love is the key and movements I know are what I can work on.

  8. The things I thought I have got away with..a total lie to myself, as my body always tells me, eventually – although more and more immediately. The more I build a connection to my body, the less dishonest I can be: it feels like everything is felt and known much faster, but actually, in truth, I feel just more aware of the impact of my choices: my body has always been aware, but it’s me that’s chosen not to listen to this awareness.

    1. Yes, and the increased stress levels are a good example of not getting away with it. Getting a kick out of doing something is still a stress response.

  9. It is interesting how we push our body over our natural limit and convince ourselves that we can eat foods that we react to with the thought that we will get away with it. Of course we never do, as there are consequences to all our choices but I have found the more present and steady I am in my connection and rhythm with myself and my body the more I am able to make caring rather than careless choices.

  10. I love your honesty Anne, we so often push the boundaries and arrogantly we are to think that we will get away with it, it is not until we are brought to a stop in some way that we reflect back and realise that we cannot carry on like this.

  11. “It is about understanding that we never get away with it, that everything we think, say and do carries an energetic imprint, that is either loving and heals us, or is not loving and harms us. And we live with every one of those imprints, every day.” So true yet even knowing this I still try to ‘get away with it’. Time for a big stop and a re-imprinting, without being hard on myself.

  12. How often do we think we have got away with it and think we are being clever when in fact we are being super arrogant and reckless. I know when I have tried to get away with it and been pulled up in the past, I wanted to blame everyone and everything other than myself because I was not willing to take responsibility for my own actions.

  13. Thank you Anne, a great moment to stop and remember that all of our choices we carry with us, and show up in some form or other in the body – and a good thing that they do, or else we would probably carry on making the same erroneous choices that we know don’t work for us. We take good health for granted when we’re in it, but we don’t need to wait for illness and disease to start listening to our bodies and taking their fragility and sensitivity seriously – the time to listen is now.

  14. It’s like we navigate life trying to get away with as much as possible, we cut corners and we don’t account for how truly precious life is – until our body shows us in no uncertain terms that we actually did not get away with anything, and every single choice, movement and action we’ve done has had a physical impact – thank goodness for the honesty of our bodies.

  15. I know I can fall into this trap as well Anne, feeling as if I am getting way with something when in truth my body has felt the impact of my choices even if I am too numb to notice. When we begin to move in a way that is more supportive and loving for the body we will no longer have any space for any harming or abusive behaviours.

  16. We try to convince ourselves we are getting away with things but deep down if we are really honest about how our body is feeling we know we have only delayed facing up to whatever it is that we are not wanting to deal with and inevitably experience the consequences of that. Learning to be more loving and caring with our body helps us to listen to the wisdom of our body far more and to change our choices so that they are far more supportive and in harmony with our body’s true rhythm.

  17. And the truth is, humanity pretty much lives in this way, and until the cycle of life both in death is understood, and recognised for the inherent truth that it is, the arrogance will continue.

  18. What are we getting away from and with what? Could it be we are getting away from the truth of who we are and we are, in that moment, with our spirit that thinks it can do what it likes ignoring the laws of karma and akasha, that is, what goes round comes round and even our thoughts are accountable?

  19. I feel it’s a pervasive idea across society that we get away with things, possibly also because we are disconnected from our bodies so we don’t feel it’s immediate communication about our choices. It’s a really good sharing Anne as the absoluteness of what’s true for us and for our health and wellbeing doesn’t go away, so we are fooling ourselves if we think we are getting away with it.

  20. What I love about the body is that it is a marker of truth for us. No matter how abusive we are to it and stubborn in our ways, it is forever pulling us back to who we truly are.

  21. I today felt a level of this thinking I am getting away with it in my study so how funny reading this today. It is true even though we might get away with the thing at the moment, like I might just pass my study because I did enough, but I won’t have dealt with why I am not giving it my all and wanting to get away with that. So this will come back at some other area in my life as it can’t be ever just in my study, it is affecting the all.

  22. I can so relate to this ‘getting away with it’ thing. I do know what would support and nurture me, but there are times when I allow myself to be pulled towards being ‘naughty’ and do the opposite. And this makes me wonder why I would hold back on love unless things get diabolically messy. Like, what am I waiting for?

  23. Don’t you feel that when we think we’re getting away with it, we are also crying out for our body to stop us? There’s a huge irresponsibility in that but it also exposes how desperate we are – we know we’re on a speeding train heading for the edge of a cliff but either can’t see or don’t want to see that it is within our power to stop it.

  24. Anne I love coming back to this and rereading it, because it is a great reminder of how arrogant we can be when it comes to speeding, as if we know better, and that we can get away with it until we are caught, and then we are indignant about that too, and as you say this is a great reflection on our lives. Maybe it is time for us to not push the boundaries and be more loving in the way we live and if for any reason we get sick or ill, accept it gracefully for all that it is there to teach us.

  25. Thank you for the reminder Anne that any sense or message I get from my body, regardless of how ‘small’ I may choose to label it as, if ignored comes with a consequence. I will never get away with ignoring my body.

  26. A great call Anne, for in truth we can fool ourselves for a while (or pretend we do) but we know deep within that what we think we’re getting away with we’re not, and that eventually our amazing bodies will catch us up.

  27. I wonder how quickly the way that the majority of humanity live would change if we were all taught at a very early age that if we push our body too hard, too fast and too recklessly that we will “not get away with it” forever’…that for every choice there is a consequence and those consequences are ours and ours alone; there is no one to blame, not even ourselves. And part of the lesson needs to be that, yes, our body is amazing and can work hard, but it is not ‘unbreakable’ and if we do ‘break’ it in any way the healing that is then needed is our responsibility.

  28. When we truly understand that “everything we think, say and do carries an energetic imprint, that is either loving and heals us, or is not loving and harms us” it changes our whole perception and awareness of life and the responsibility we all have to support ourselves and others to live more lovingly. Our choices either support our true health and well-being or lead us into a life of disregard and dis-ease.

  29. The overriding of what is needed in each moment is a stubborn trait so many are familiar with. Knowing that you need to attend to something, move in a particular way, speak up at a given moment. All opportunities that are there to support us and often we sabotage them to feel less staying in our comfort.

    1. Yes staying in our comfort we kid ourselves that everything is fine when all along we know we are being a shrinking violet and so much less than our potential. We may be aware of the irresponsibility we are in and yet still let ourselves sink further into the mud until something or someone jolts us out of it or sometimes we might even get honest enough and self loving enough to turn the tide and commit to life rather than getting away with it (non life)

  30. You really hit the nail on the head – if we think we can get away with it we’ll do it. I’m beginning to see more and more that the moments when I do not apply the same dedication and commitment and care to as other times in my life have massive consequences, and I would agree that we don’t truly get away with anything.

  31. Oh, I can feel the arrogance, dance away in its own tantalising moves – because getting away with it is so so ingrained. For me these days it might be more fine-tuned and not as obvious, as I don’t consume alcohol or drugs, I’m caring with what I eat and a whole lot more. But the notion that I can get away with something is always lurking, and it’s a brilliant thing to see, because the more I let myself see it, the more I can call it out in myself and take more responsibility.
    And with that responsibility, I feel more and more expansion.. more and more joy and more and more love. And that, is something my wiley little spirit that wants to get up to mischief and arrogantly dance its way along, cannot get away with.

  32. It’s a great way of looking at life and how we live. There is no getting away with anything, no cutting of corners that is not registered, no behind closed doors, and no “no-one saw me”. Every action we take is a basis for the next, every thought, every step.

  33. Very true, how ever much we think or even feel like we are getting away with it, we do have to deal with it at some point. It is basically only delay to postpone it when we feel that something in our diet for example has to change, we can still eat it but what we are often not aware of is what is going on energetically and deep inside our body. Until it surfaces of course. Thank you Anne for your sharing.

  34. Such a great blog to read again and to be reminded that we are never getting away with anything even thou we feel we are or at least hoped we were. Taking time to stop and reassess how we are living, how loving we are being and honouring of ourselves is super important. What I have found over the time is the more I do this the more I realised that it can go to deeper levels of attention and it is the consistency that is super important as well, without it being a chore but having loads of fun with it.

  35. I am big on getting away with things. I am still doing all the things on the list you mention in this blog, it’s like it makes me feel as if I can keep secrets, like if I speed and don’t get caught, somehow it’s something I am proud of but would not tell others about. Or I eat ice-cream by myself, that then it doesn’t affect anyone but me. All of this is untrue because it’s been a couple of days since I sat down and ate coconut caramel ice cream and my nose is blocked and I have a headache and then I am less engaged and I miss things at work and I am not as fun with my kids and so forth and so on. So the innocent ice cream becomes an irresponsible choice. When I really consider why I am sneaky, I am trying to hide things from myself because I know the truth and I know in my hearts of hearts, there is no real “getting away with” anything.

  36. This is a conversation that needs to be held regularly. I want to say ‘with the younger generation’ but in reality, with everyone. Some where in our lives many still live with this mind set. How damaging is it really? And even more so, how much does it give us an escape to the responsibility we each hold.

  37. It is almost the norm that most wait until our body is screaming at us before we will actually listen, but in truth, and in honour of it we should respond to even a whisper. There is enormous wisdom we are denying when we choose to remain unaware and a way of being that is deeply loving and worth giving a go.

  38. Cautious speeding, check. Eating against my grain, check, Any number of ways I harm myself, check. Yes, my spirit – the part of me that knows I’ll be back in physical form the next lifetime and the next and the next – loves to think I too can get away with it all. Your story Anne is a brilliant reminder to get my own act together even more. Pushing ‘our luck’ until something really dire happens is a difficult way to wake up to the truth of what we’ve been doing to ourselves.

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