Care and Cure – same same, but different!

by Anne Malatt, Ophthalmologist, Australia

What is the difference between care and cure?

Both words originally came from the same word – isn’t that curious?

The Latin noun ‘cura’, meaning ‘care’, became the verb ‘curare’, meaning ‘take care of’ and then the Old French ‘curer’, meaning ‘cure’.

The original sense of the word was ‘care, concern, responsibility’, particularly in a spiritual sense, but in late Middle English the meanings ‘medical care’ and ‘successful medical treatment’ arose, and hence ‘remedy’.

Interestingly, curare is also a type of poison, as are many medical treatments, when not used according to directions (and sometimes even when they are!).

Modern medicines are powerful, and sometimes a helpful treatment can become a harmful poison, especially if the dose is too high. Paracetamol is a great painkiller, but it can also kill liver cells, if taken in excess. Chemotherapy drugs are designed to kill cancer cells, but they can kill healthy cells as well, hence their side effects.

So how has the meaning of the words ‘care’ and ‘cure’ changed, and why?

In ancient times, medicine offered true care. We knew that connection with people mattered, that what we ate affected us, and that there was a true and simple way to live. Illness and disease were seen as a reflection of the way we were living, and an opportunity to make true change.

As we became more scientific, and developed herbs, pills and potions, and skills and techniques – like anaesthetics and surgery – we became taken with the idea that we could fix ailments, cut lumps out, have power over life and death, and generally play God. With this seems to have come the notion that we could fix illness and disease, and then go back to the same way of living that made us ill in the first place.

And herein lies the irresponsibility.

Now, we see illness and disease as a nuisance, an inconvenience, to be fixed, gotten rid of, cured, so we can get back to doing what we were doing before. And more and more we have come to place the responsibility for this onto our doctors and healers, and less and less onto ourselves and our way of life.

Our physicians have also become more irresponsible, choosing to focus on the cure, the quick fix, rather than taking care of the way they live, and then reflecting that living way to us, inspiring us to learn to live it to.

So, what do we mean when we say we care?

And what happens to us when we try to care?

Most of us say that we care about our friends, family, jobs, cars, possessions, and ourselves. But we have come to associate ‘care’ with trying, being careful, being cautious even. This is not true care. We ‘care’ too much to hurt people’s feelings, to be honest with them, to tell them the truth. And we ‘care’ about ourselves too much to say it as it is, to deal with people’s reactions, to not be liked, to get it ‘wrong’, to say and do what is needed, rather than what people want to hear.

What happens to our bodies when we are ‘careful’ in a way that is not true? We tend to tense up, contract, and hold our muscles hard. We tend to go into our heads, worrying about what we should do, what we should say, how we should be. And while we are busy in our heads, we are not at ease in our bodies.

What happens when we are not at ease? Our muscles are tense, our movements are not fluid and flowing, our minds are elsewhere, and in this state, accidents, incidents and injuries are more likely to happen.

So is it possible that true care is not what we think it is?

Could true care be developing a relationship with our bodies?

Could true care be as simple as feeling yourself in your body – from the top of your head to the tips of your fingers and the ends of your toes, and being aware of your whole body as you move, in everything that you do?

Could true care be a willingness to feel what is there to be felt, and to honour our feelings, to be aware of what is truly going on within and around us?

Could true care be a commitment to making our every move – our every thought, word and action – loving and caring, for ourselves and for others?

And what do we mean by ‘cure’?

The word ‘cure’ has come to mean:

  • To relieve of the symptoms of a disease or condition
  • To eliminate a disease or condition with medical treatment
  • To solve a problem

But ‘cure’ can also apply to meat and skins, whereby we render them ‘fixed’ in such a way that we preserve them, so they do not rot, and can be used for longer. They may last longer, but this process takes the life out of them. We can apply this to the trajectory of our lives.

We live life in cycles. These can be short and sweet (or not) or long but drawn out and flat, or long and round, rich and full, depending on the quality we bring to them, the quality of our living way.

Looking to fix and cure may prolong our lives, but it does not necessarily enhance the quality of them. But bringing that quality brings a depth and richness to life, no matter how long and short it is, and even if we are confronted with illness and disease.

Do we want a life of richness, of quality, irrespective of the length of it, or do we want to prolong life at all costs?

That is the dilemma we are faced with in modern medicine today – we have the ability to ‘cure’ all sorts of ills, but with what quality are people living, and what is the level of care with which we are delivering these services?

To care or to cure – can we reunite the two and deliver true health care once again?

 

Read more:

  1. Self-care myths
  2. Sacred esoteric healing – true health care

 

 

 

 

678 thoughts on “Care and Cure – same same, but different!

  1. “And we ‘care’ about ourselves too much to say it as it is, to deal with people’s reactions, to not be liked, to get it ‘wrong’, to say and do what is needed, rather than what people want to hear.” What a great way to see how we have altered ‘care’ to make it into something that is not a true or supportive way of being for ourselves or others. It seems that when we misinterpret care it involves a lack of equality, either we ‘care’ too much for others and not ourselves, or vice versa. True care would be a quality that inclusively holds all equally.

  2. This blog reminds me the importance of the meaning of words, everything that we put in them and the influence we have as individuals and society in that meaning . We do have the responsibility and potential of keeping the true meaning of words or changing with our way of living a deviated meaning. This is huge and something really worth to consider.

  3. Any doctor, researcher, specialist or indeed any one of us is always being impulsed by the energetic source that we are aligned to and therefore only ever able to produce something from the very specific array of offerings that are also produced by that same energetic source. It is not possible for any of us to come up with something that comes purely from truth if we are aligned to the pranic consciousness. Sure something can contain an element of truth but it won’t be the whole truth and it is only the whole truth that can ever deliver the real answers to anything.

  4. ‘Could true care be developing a relationship with our bodies’ Yes! and from experience the more I listen to and develop a true relationship with my body the more caring I become towards both myself and others, the ripple affect is how all my relationships have deepened and feel pretty amazing and this is just the beginning ✨

  5. ‘Do we want a life of richness, of quality, irrespective of the length of it, or do we want to prolong life at all costs?”
    It seems to me that society has already chosen Anne, from everything I have seen to date we want to prolong life at all costs. We do not seem to want a rich and fulfilling life we seem to have settled for the process of ticking boxes to get by in life which is very much to our detriment.

  6. ‘In ancient times, medicine offered true care.’ There are no surprises that we are happier when we live in a truly caring and loving family or society. So too it makes sense that when true care is offered in a medical setting, the road to healing is expedited.

  7. Anne, not so long ago I was pondering on the word care and its true meaning. Caring is something I have grown up around in the health care profession as doing, fixing, sympathising etc. not allowing a person to go through the cycle of their life. And in that process, I was burnt out and disgruntled in my own profession.

    For me true care is allowing a person to be, even if it means they fall and they have to pick themselves up again, my role is to be there to support them wherever I can, without intervening or going in to the doing. At the end of the day, they have the choice in how they heal too, without any impositions and all the resources will be there for them to do this healing – that is true care.

  8. ‘Now, we see illness and disease as a nuisance, an inconvenience, to be fixed, gotten rid of, cured, so we can get back to doing what we were doing before.’ Given the prevalence of illness and disease right now and its rather stratospheric increase, it appears that we will not be able to look upon it with such arrogance in the near future. We will be shown exponentially that if we try and fight it as we have been doing, that it isn’t working. At some point we will be forced into seeing the truth; to respect that illness and disease come from our choices that take us deeper away from our natural essence.

    1. I agree with you Michelle819 that at some point in the not too distant future we will all be forced to accept and deal with the waywardness of our choices. I feel we have no one to blame but ourselves for the gross negligence we have shown towards ourselves and the planet. We have created such an imbalance that the correction has to happen. It could be a series of events a major catastrophe an epidemic of some kind but we know somewhere within us that it is just a case of when.

  9. Reblogged this on and commented:
    We have the ability to ‘cure’ all sorts of ills, but with what quality are people living, and what is the level of care with which we are delivering these services?

    1. Leigh, it is that simple, to actually take the time to listen to the body. Our body is like taking our cars to the garage and asking them to fix it and later you continue to drive it like a lunatic with no care or attention. Nurture it, then it will last for a long time and serve us well – our bodies are the same.

    2. I agree and it can be the most simplest of things like it’s cold so I will put another layer of clothing on. Those small steps of self love are actually mountains when made consistently.

  10. ‘Could true care be developing a relationship with our bodies?’ Yes absolutely this makes sense to me. And from experience it is so much easier to learn and to start to truly care for ourselves when this is reflected to you by another who deeply and consistently lives this way for themselves.

  11. We can’t really care about something/someone when we don’t recognise and appreciate how deserving they are of our love.

    1. I disagree, I don’t think the onus is on another to ‘deserve our love’ or for us to recognise that they are indeed deserving of our love. Love is who we are and we’re either in the activity of love or we’re not, it’s not dependent on any outside factors, it’s dependent only on our relationship with ourself and nothing else.

      1. I agree with you Alexis from my own experience of looking outside of me, wanting love from other people as I was refusing to love myself. By working on my emotional hurts in such a way I was able to heal myself with the support of the Universal Medicine practitioners. In the healing I learnt to reconnect to my essence this enabled me return to the love that I naturally am and realise that we all have this ability within us. Loving and taking great care of myself led to me loving others. Not in an emotional sense but a genuine care and regard for other people which is not something I had felt before because I was too busy being needy.

  12. “Looking to fix and cure may prolong our lives, but it does not necessarily enhance the quality of them. But bringing that quality brings a depth and richness to life, no matter how long and short it is, and even if we are confronted with illness and disease.” – what are we after, the true quality of love and care in our lives, or for the symptom picture to be erased but be left just as empty?

  13. I have always understood a cure to be a means to take away the symptoms, but that this does not heal the underlying condition. Hence we need to be careful when we say things like wanting to find the cure for cancer.

  14. I had a finger that was becoming quite deformed through arthritis and I began to dislike the way it looked, thinking it ugly. One day in a jewellers, a woman was buying a beautiful ring and when she had left I said to the jeweller that I would like one the same. As we spoke I realised that I could afford it and what’s more I could wear it on this finger, I could begin to care for and love this finger, honour it despite its misshapen appearance. Several years later my finger has no sign of arthritis or disfigurement; it is like I have loved it back to health.

  15. I have seen and felt the quality of lives lived in that ‘cured’ state. However having emotions, needs and attachments to others can blind us from the state one is left in. Not caring for ourselves can lead us to being emotional and needing life to be a certain way. Bringing care to ourselves doesn’t just support us but those around us as well.

  16. “Now, we see illness and disease as a nuisance, an inconvenience, to be fixed, gotten rid of, cured, so we can get back to doing what we were doing before.” It is no wonder that we see recurrence of a disease when we return to the previous lifestyle – as that contributed to its manifestation in the first place. As a society we are getting sicker, despite all the advances in medicine. We need to take back responsibility for our own health. How many are willing to do that? Universal Medicine students lead the way in this regard.

  17. It’s been so great to read this today, it’s really highlighted beliefs I hold about caring for others which are harmful to myself, and that care itself is first and foremost a quality that begins with how I am with myself before it can be offered to others.

    1. True caring is a ‘transferral’, as is true loving, true nurturing and true honouring. What we do is we transfer these qualities from ourselves to others, so if it’s not within us in the first place then all we’re transferring is an empty package.

  18. We have accepted as the ‘norm’ living from outside our selves instead of living from within, hence we have lost that deep connection with ourselves and with our innermost. Thus the seeking of solutions and quick fixes to alleviate ourselves. It’s clearly not working with such increase of illness and dis-ease. As you have shared Anne, we need to connect with our bodies and reconnect to our inner knowing to truly care for ourselves and others.

  19. “Could true care be a commitment to making our every move – our every thought, word and action – loving and caring, for ourselves and for others?” – great definition of what true care is.

  20. It is not caring to give children, or ourselves, sugar laden sweets to eat but to care and love them and ourselves enough to learn that this is harmful to the body.

  21. Curing meat takes the life out of them; this makes so much sense—wanting to protect or preserve something to a state of non-decay or preservation ( what we want as a selfish reason) has already suffocated it—including people, this has been seen so much in parent and children relationship.,

  22. Such a great blog Anne, to be posed this questions what is the difference and to truly ponder on what each one offers us. Life for most and it certainly was for me before I meet Serge Benhayon was all about the cure to pick us up and sort us out but we avoid the part where it is actually the self-care and self-responsibility that is truly required for a vital and health body.

  23. Care can bring about a great cure – we can care for ourselves ever so deeply that whatever ill is there on our chest, can be dissolved – this is the true cure.

  24. If we truly cared about our family, friends, and work colleagues, would we not be more honest and supportive and tell them the truth no matter how hard it may be to say or to watch them take it in, because that is true care, we have diluted the meaning of it to make it more comfortable for ourselves.

  25. I find it interesting as long before I became a student of Universal Medicine I knew I could not be inspired by a reflection that was not living love hence my commitment and dedication to learning, developing and living The Way of the Livingness and what I know is truth as presented and lived by Serge Benhayon.

  26. Very interesting how ‘cure’ and ‘care’ come from the same word and somehow ended up with two different things. How we fragment words to suit the level of responsibility we are prepared to take is just amazing. How simple everything must have been in the beginning.

  27. “Could true care be as simple as feeling yourself in your body?” So simple – and so true. When I began to care for my body more deeply – and with love – my world changed.

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