I am sick, but I am feeling beautiful

By Danna Elmalah, Student Nurse, The Netherlands.

Today I woke up feeling absolutely sick. In the past I would have felt miserable and inefficient, because I could not ‘do’ anything. I used to only feel like I was ‘worth something’ if I was doing things. The more things I was able to do, the better I felt about myself, but once I was not doing anything I felt worthless and unhappy. But this time around I do not feel that any more; I have noticed that when my body is sick it is actually telling me something… and that when my body speaks to me and I am listening, all that ‘I can do’ seems to matter less and ‘who I am’ starts to mean more. Now, being myself is way more important than what I can do.

I will tell you how it all began…

I was used to always performing, doing, acting and being busy in life. My body was always hard and dense; I had little awareness of how my body felt at that time. I moved in a way that was tight, stressed and busy, not knowing of the effects that was having on my body. I was always trying to ‘do my best’. This was quite exhausting. The moment that I became sick it was hard for me to really settle down and be still and take a real rest. I was comparable to a bouncing ball; even though this was not always visible from the outside, I always felt anxious and bumpy.

I had a drive to do things, always looking ahead of me to what ‘exciting’ thing there was to come. This thought helped me survive till the moment came. But after the event I always felt unhappy; it felt incomplete. Therefore I tried my best to do more exciting things, as I thought that this might help. But nothing really helped. I began to feel even more sad and lonely.

Then there was always a moment where I would become sick again. This terrified me even more, because this time I had no ‘excitement’ to reach out for; I was confronted with feeling my loneliness (my lack of connection and satisfaction with myself), simply just by having to be with myself. That might sound not so bad, but at that time I had troubles with feeling myself and being alone. When I was alone, I would feel the emptiness inside me and feel very uncomfortable.

When being sick, as well as the fever, heavy head, nausea, pain in my stomach or throat, I actually felt uneasy and emotional too. These mixed up feelings made being sick even more intense. At that time I did not know how to deal with being sick, I actually did not know how to be with myself. The only remedy I used at that time was sitting it out and watching TV. And then the cycle would continue.

But I have broken the cycle, and this has been the most loving choice I have ever made. I came across the work of Serge Benhayon, who is the founder of Universal Medicine. He brought me a new way of life, and many tools to be more in connection with myself. I was intrigued, as I could feel continuing this lonely cycle was hurting a lot. I decided that I was in for a change and that I would give it a go. I have chosen to listen to my body…What? I did not even really understand that phrase at first, but now it actually makes sense.

Being sick has offered me an opportunity to feel what was actually happening in my life, that I was living in drive and stress. My body actually woke me up, letting me know that something in my daily living was not right. I learned to become more honest and listen to signals that my body was sending. Such as: pain in my stomach, pain in my arms, or a heavy head. I was asked to be more aware of what I was doing with my body that actually made it feel this way.

At first I had to learn not to react to what I was feeling, I had to stay with my body and listen carefully. Every single signal I was picking up, allowed me to understand more about my body, it allowed me to look deeper into what effects my choices had on my body. I received support from Universal Medicine by all its teachings and from sessions with Esoteric Practitioners. I was being asked to look in more detail at my relationship with my body and the responsibility I have to take care of it. This touched me, because I could feel I had abandoned my body a long, long time ago. That I even forgot that I am responsible for it! To me, coming back to these feelings, all brought to me tears of joy in my eyes, as I knew I could finally change it.

So I wondered. When I became sick again, would I have a different relationship with ‘being sick’ and so with my body? And my answer is ‘Yes!’

By having a more truthful understanding and connection with my body, I felt what being sick actually means for me.

I recently became very sick with having the flu, my body felt really sore and unwell. I felt so uneasy. Yet, I could feel that there was something underneath that was drawing my attention. I could feel that my body stopped me, wanting my attention for how I had lived so far, and that it was tired. When feeling this, I could feel it was absolutely right, I had walked around with my body doing all those things, yet I had paid very little attention to how I was moving myself. I caught myself in moving and walking in a way that was out of rhythm, out of connection with myself. To give a bit of an idea, it would look like a marionette doing certain movements it was actually not meant to do. Literally I was breaking down my body in this way. Being able to feel this, I felt a huge responsibility and I sensed that I needed to take more care of my body. My body actually needed love – it needed to be treated with love – by ME! I was not surprised, but I actually felt empowered by this message. I now choose to be aware of my movements and how I am with myself. I make sure I take moments to stop and check in with how I am feeling, to connect with myself. I am learning to not react to choices I have made that I know are not good for me, but to be with myself and look from there how to make even more loving choices.
Today, I am sick, but actually with feeling all of this, I feel beautiful. I know that I am so much more than an illness, and that it’s my body’s way of showing me that I have more love to give to myself.

Thank you incredibly much Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, for showing that there is another way – a deep and loving way to be with oneself, and to treat the body with absolute care.

The way I am with myself now, also when I am sick, is:

  • Healing: by allowing my body to let go of anything that it has been running around with, due to choices I have made that were breaking it down instead of supportive.
  • Honest: looking honestly at why I have become sick, and what I am feeling. Example: when I feel lethargic, I could feel that this emotion was not only because of the fact that I was sick, but actually an emotion I was holding in my day-to-day living.
  • Precious: it might sound a bit out of context here, but I feel that while I am sick I am actually more sensitive and able to feel and accept that I am fragile. When I connect to myself in this fragility, I actually feel that I am precious and that my body is that too.
  • Honouring: I honour the fact that my body stopped me to look at and feel how I have been looking after myself, what has happened the last days/week or even months.
  • Appreciating: I stand still and appreciate that even though I am sick I am absolutely wonderful, even if I feel like a mess! I seem to appreciate the glimpse of purity in my eyes, this always helps me to surrender to being sick and feel my body pains.

I must say that I was walking the last days in nature, and the sentence that came to me was: ‘I am sick, but I am feeling beautiful.’ This sounded quite odd to me, but I actually felt that this was true. For the first time in my life I actually felt very sick, but at the same time I felt so deeply beautiful.

Being sick, but knowing that I am beautiful no matter what, now is the best feeling I have and can support myself with. Therefore I no longer hold on to what I did wrong or can or cannot do now. I simply accept the fact that I am responsible for how I am feeling, how my body is doing and what state I am in. This feels real and true, as I know now the way I am with myself while I am sick and when I am not; I can take care of myself to make sure that even though I might have disregarded my body, I can take care of it now. I always remind myself of the fact: That I am beautiful, also when I am sick, and that I deserve to absolutely care for myself in the most loving way.

Thank you Serge Benhayon for always supporting me, and being there in my life. I appreciate every minute that I have spent on any workshop, presentation, course or sound recording by Universal Medicine. Without the teachings and modalities of Universal Medicine, I would still be in that cycle of making myself sick over and over again and being miserable with it. Instead now I make sure I look after my body every day, and I actually enjoy it and if I get sick, I understand why and I still feel beautiful.


Read more:

  1. Is true beauty really in the eye of the beholder? 
  2. Truly, deeply beautiful 
  3. Your body tells the truth



922 thoughts on “I am sick, but I am feeling beautiful

  1. Thank you Danna, you are worth something tremendous, even in your busiest times and even when you are run off your feet, you still bring a beauty with you that is beyond compare.

  2. This is a very wise sharing Danna! To stop when our bodies are asking us to, we then prevent something more serious eventuating. There have been many times in my past when I have overridden the signs from my body and pushed through an illness to my detriment. Why is it we feel a sense of worthlessness if we are not doing something? Is it because we don’t see our worth unless we are appreciated by someone else! I too have been learning to really appreciate my body and all the wonderful ways it looks after me and does my bidding, for this I am truly grateful.

  3. Danna this is not how the majority speak when sickness and illness stop them in their tracks. We weren’t taught this when we were growing up, to look at how we had got to the state that we were in. Most, including myself in the past, say things like “I wish I could get rid of this nagging cough or scratchy throat or dam flu!”, all from a belief of something happening to us without any input from our choices. It is so empowering and a healthy choice to look at what our body is bringing to our attention.

    1. I agree this is definitely not the normal approach to illness, it’s super refreshing to read that there is perhaps a different way we could approach our own personal health and healing.

    2. The willingness to be responsibility and trace back what caused the irritation and the initial signs that we were not feeling very well are often so clearly offered to us through the body. The difference being the willingness to go back and trace its roots so that we are working with the concerns from a root level where we know that true healing has the potential to burn.

  4. Yes it is possible to feel beautiful when we are sick because illness brings about a correction or a clearing of something that is stopping us from fully feeling ourselves.

  5. Being sick is always somewhat of a wake up call to me, it’s the body’s way of calling us back when we get too wayward and I’m always thankful for the correction.

  6. “I feel that while I am sick I am actually more sensitive and able to feel and accept that I am fragile. When I connect to myself in this fragility, I actually feel that I am precious and that my body is that too.” I have experienced this too Danna. Part of the healing is to support me to reconnect to this preciousness that I haven’t been able to or choosing to connect to without a nudge from my body.

  7. This has been very timely to read as I have recently been unwell. I could feel how much I wanted to check out, watch movies, kind of numb out whilst recovering, but reading your blog was very inspiring to really stay with myself and deeply surrender and honour that process of being unwell, not to check out.

  8. Feeling very sick myself today I can totally relate to feeling beautiful as well, a few years ago I would only have been faced with that emptiness and the reactions to being ill but these days what is much stronger is that feeling of beauty that is underneath the illness.

  9. I agree with what you share Danna about the fragility that emerges at those moments and how beautiful it is not hiding or overriding, but simply feeling and allowing the healing that comes to us.

  10. I can so relate to you blog Danna. I used to get headaches and let them get me down. Now I get very few headaches and no migraines at all which I am so grateful for. Yesterday I had had very little sleep, drove for an hour in the dark and I carried some heavy bags and I got a headache. I nominated how it had come about and realised that my lack of sleep could well have been due to an unresolved issue and resolved to look after myself. When there was an opportunity I took a rest on my friend’s sofa and then drank lots of water and continued to enjoy the party that I was at. I left with no headache. This would have been unheard of a few years ago but because of the overall and consistent way in which I have been looking after myself (on a daily basis) and caring for myself and the way that I am choosing to deepen the quality in which I do this, my approach to having a headache and the intensity of the headaches I get, has changed hugely. and I can get to feel beautiful even with a headache.

    1. It’s beautiful isn’t it Elaine when we can respond to our inner being and body with greater love and care as a result of a symptom like a headache.

  11. It’s a great question – do we listen to our bodies and what they are telling us, or do we want to just carry on living the way we always have… 9 times out of 10 that way is not necessarily our way, and our body will tell us every time – but we ignore it and just carry on. Crazy…..

  12. I can so relate to needing to ‘do’ things rather than just being me in order to feel I’d achieved. My diary would list the things I had done during my day. As I get older I realise I can no longer do the things I did during my thirties and am placing more attention to the quality with which I do the things I can do and how I am in my everyday life at home; learning to pay more attention to being rather than doing, knowing this not only affects me but everyone.

  13. These days I rarely get sick, but when I do, I know there is something I need to pay better attention to. Staying with me and my body and even enjoying the ‘stop’ my body gives me, allows a speedier healing and a new emphasis on listening to and honouring what my body tells me, as it is giving us feedback all the time.

  14. Many people are uncomfortable being on sick and on their own if they used to being busy and distracted. It can feel like, ‘what do I do now?’ If you haven’t rediscovered your body and how steady this place feels, you can feel quite adrift at these times. For re-connection I would recommend Esoteric Yoga, which has brought me back to my body and away from the emptiness of living in my head.

    1. It can also be really uncomfortable feeling how vulnerable and fragile the body is, we rely on a sense of toughness to cope with hiding how sensitive we actually are (and on many levels) Toughness is so highly valued but it doesn’t work very well for the body, being real in our vulnerability allows us to listen more closely to the body, to respect its symptoms and signals, and offer ourselves greater care.

  15. Being sick is like having the writing on the wall, we cannot ignore that something is amiss and we know what that is. If we are not aware of it straight away, with a little contemplation or just tracing back what our movements have been, with whom and why etc., a little self exploration, we can find the root cause and with this understanding, we may truly heal this illness.

  16. “I used to only feel like I was ‘worth something’ if I was doing things.” I can relate to thinking the same way Danna, and I would ignore what my body was communicating to me by going into my head convincing myself that achieving something was the way to feel better about myself but really this was taking me further away from connecting to myself and building a deeper relationship with my body.

  17. Danna your joy to now appreciate yourself, your body and even sickness was beautiful to read – thankyou! This is a great line about illness and body symptoms “that it’s my body’s way of showing me that I have more love to give to myself.” How true and how simple – no wonder there is so much joy expressed in your blog!

  18. I am really interested how you describe using excitement about things coming up to help you get through the present moment. This highlights how much we are avoiding being in the moment and our dissatisfaction with what is, or more truthfully disconnection from what is.

  19. I too used to be in the cycle of regularly being sick and absolutely hating it, just wanting to get better and get back to my life. To come to a place where, if I am sick, that I know that my body has a message or two for me is such a different feeling. There is no beating myself up as to why I got sick, no ‘poor me’, but an appreciation that my amazing body is communicating to me so clearly. These days I choose to stop, listen and take note of the lesson that is being offered; it is so worth it.

  20. I can relate to what you have said Danna having observed someone being close getting sick, and in the beginning there was only the desire to stop and not feel this situation, so without thinking twice pills would be taken to “solve” the symptoms. But recently I observed a change and this time, while being sick the first response was not to stop feeling the symptoms, rather time was allowed to feel, so initially in this space more emotions surfaced. Medication was still taken, but it was not to shut out from feeling. It took a few more days to heal the sickness, but the awareness gained is much more. Our bodies do know how to heal if we allow it to guide us, and the understanding we gain from being aware of this relationship we have with ourselves as well as the support from conventional medicine is deeply precious.

  21. I think that being sick and not feeling guilty or yuck but in fact feeling beautiful is a huge step for a woman. I know that I still get very caught up in the doing side of things and when I am asked to stop is when I get exposed. Great blog, thanks for sharing!

  22. Any shift in perception from believing that life was about what you can do to being about who you are can only bring movements in life that are founded in truth. We all have lost ourselves in presenting our skills and ticking the many boxes that life can present but it is not until we connect to and express all we are, do we bring true purpose to our movements, whatever we do… and enjoy the beauty of them and ourselves in every moment.

    1. Very true Samantha. This ill-seeded alignment to getting recognition for what we do and achieve, eats at us, rotting our self-confidence in the true sense of what this is, away. We become owned by the addiction that we’ve succumbed to, to be told we are good, clever, attractive etc etc etc, and so more and more we go to the doing, to get the tick box, to get the approval. While all along what we are really doing is creating more and more of a separation from the essence and truth within ourselves. It is a vicious game that keeps us trapped into a far lesser existence than what we are meant for.

  23. I love this. We can get hooked into feeling sick and then feel miserable. Or we can let the body do it’s thing and stay with ourselves.

  24. Great offering of how we can be with illness, an invitation to go deeper, and to bring more love our bodies, and to understand that no matter what we are beautiful.

  25. The key word here that I feel in this blog when we combine the words feeling sick but feeling beautiful is surrendering to the body and allowing what is needed next to do its work.

  26. I can feel your beauty ooze out of this blog and that is very beautiful to feel. It is super important to deeply cherish and care for ourselves when we are sick and not shut down before the TV or computer until we get better life starts again. We matter all the time and not just when we are feeling super.

  27. So true Danna, we can have a very sick body but the Being we are, is untouched by this. If we can stay connected to this essence of ourselves, then despite our ill-health, the sense of being ‘well’ at that same time is in complete contrast.

  28. When we feel sick it’s a sign that we need to seriously look at the choices that we have been making, because it is normally our body’s way of asking us to stop and change the way we have been living, a beautiful moment, if we listen.

    1. Sally thats so true, it’s strange to consider something when we are sick as beautiful but the truth is there is beauty in everything especially the message and fact our body is speaking to us and allowing us the space to rest, reflect and perhaps not repeat the same thing again.

  29. I agree Danna, choosing to listen to my body makes so much sense, the more I listen and feel what my body is communicating the more I can support and care for myself and my body responds so that I feel more myself.

  30. It sounds like you have found such an honesty in your sickness, and the purpose of what it is communicating to the body. This is so far from how we normally deal with such situations. In honouring ourselves whilst sick, and bringing understanding to it, we disarm sympathy or grief from others.

  31. What you are sharing with us is in fact a beautiful way of experiencing illness, it allows the gift that is being communicated by the body to be received in whole. I do not get sick very often, if I do it is very short lived, I gather that this is the case as I am now willing to look at the ill as soon as it presents.

  32. ‘Being sick has offered me an opportunity to feel what was actually happening in my life, that I was living in drive and stress.’ awesome – if this realisation was accessed by everyone who is ill or live in disease then we would begin asking for true answers to what we can all feel and is clearly affecting humanity.

  33. There is a beautiful humbleness that is present when we are honest about why we are sick. This supports us to appreciate our body for the immense love and support it offers us constantly, which opens more space within us to allow the healing being offered.

  34. Being sick or unwell is an awesome opportunity that is offered to us to reflect on how we feel and what has contributed to or been the reason for the sickness. There is true beauty in this and the way our body, Soul and universe bring truth for us so that we may learn and let go of what does not belong.

  35. I’ve been reappraising my approach to being ill this last week and chose to notice the symptoms but not be owned by them, allow myself full fragility and let my body lead the way. In the moments when I felt I could squeeze in an odd chore, the chore itself remained stubbornly complicated until I realised that I wasn’t fully surrendering to the healing that was needed. We live, we learn. Illness isn’t an excuse to dissolve into a heap or a gift of ‘extra time’ to catch up. It’s a healing – and when I honour this, I am able to expand and rejoin life recharged and ready for whatever’s next.

  36. When we are unwell we need not indulge and feel sorry for ourselves. We can still be responsible and heal the causation whilst having fun and continuing our service.

  37. Our periods of illness are small moments of grace by which we allow ourselves to feel all that has come to stand in the way of us and the expression of our exquisite beauty.

  38. I love your 5 keys to feeling sick, such as being ‘Honest’ and ‘Precious’. Sickness doesn’t have to be a fight, but can instead be an amazing opportunity to surrender to what the body is showing us, evaluate how we have been choosing to live and make new foundations for the way forward.

  39. Knowing when we get sick is a reminder that we need to be more loving and caring with ourselves, is so true Dannah, but how often do we do this? I know I take more care of myself when I am ill, but the art is to be loving and caring everyday so that I don’t get sick.

    1. So true Chris. More often than not we see pain as being a huge inconvenience and want to get rid of it as quickly as possible, rather than understanding that it is just another way of the body reflecting back to us how we have been living. Indeed, its a great opportunity to change something about our lives.

  40. A period of illness is an opportunity to take stock of where we are at and learn from the choices that were made to bring us our experiences, to deepen our relationship with ourselves and to be more loving and tender with the way we hold and move our body.

  41. ” When I was alone, I would feel the emptiness inside me and feel very uncomfortable. ” its so beautiful how our body lets us know, the truth of whats really going on , no matter what. Thank you for sharing Danna.

  42. In our world today it does sound a bit crazy – but I can very much relate to feeling gorgeous when feeling sick. The last few times I haven’t been well I’ve not fought it, I’ve stopped and listened – and in that listening I’ve gone much much deeper with myself. It was so clear that a deep healing process was taking place – which I could allow or block depending on my attitude. If we allow it there is so much grace even when there is physical discomfort. And we realise how precious and fragile our beautiful bodies are – and how amazingly intelligent they are too.

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