Dementia – what is really going on?

By Samantha England, Health and Social Care Assessor, Norfolk, UK 

Having worked with many dementia patients in the past, and especially whilst working in a secure unit specializing with aggressive and violent dementia patients, I naturally began to look deeper into the causes of this distressing illness.

Often at the hospital where I worked we saw the same scenarios – a person who once had a respectable work and family life ending up living many of their days in a padded cell, because of the danger they presented to themselves and others.

On many occasions I was shocked to see both elderly men and ladies possess a strength that required at least four adults to restrain them, in order to keep themselves and others safe. The behaviour I have witnessed over the years has at times been shockingly aggressive and I have asked myself:

What on earth takes over these once fully functioning, aware human beings?

What possesses these people to act in such ways?

I have wondered if there is more at play here than we currently acknowledge.

Science has shown that everything is energy, and Serge Benhayon has expanded on this by saying: “Everything is energy, and therefore everything is because of energy.” Could it be that there is more than one form of energy and that these energies can act through us? And that it is our choice as to what kind of energy we will allow to run us?

So could it be possible that when we choose to not to be aware and fully present with ourselves, that we are allowing another form of energy to run us? The phrases, “What’s got into you?” and “They are not themselves,” come to mind as examples of everyday language that perhaps portray this reality of another energy running us.

As I write now statistics are not good. The Global Voice of dementia states: “As of 2013, there were an estimated 44.4 million people with dementia worldwide. This number will increase to an estimated 75.6 million in 2030, and 135.5 million in 2050. Much of the increase will be in developing countries.”

This is pretty terrifying and causes an unbelievably immense strain on our health care systems.

There is talk of this cure and that cure and every day we are told something different about the causes of dementia, from the kitchen frying pan to genetics.

Personally I feel there is more to it than this; that we need to look at how we are living every day and how this impacts our physical and mental function.

It seems to me that every unloving choice, if not dealt with, will eventually stack up against us. In fact every time we eat something our bodies do not truly want, use a stimulant, or say yes when we mean no, all these choices add up. There are literally hundreds and hundreds of ways we can numb ourselves to not feel the pain of the way we are living, a way that is not true for us, whether it is creating drama or drinking alcohol, or checking out in front of a TV or computer screen.

These behaviors in their many, many different forms all send messages to the body saying, “I do not want to be here.” In fact every time we “lose” ourselves in something or to something, we are actually saying no to life. The body registers everything that happens and repetition of any behavior along with avoidance of what is true starts to erode our cognitive function.

Could it be that our choice to be unaware of what is truly going on in our own lives and bodies builds up until it impacts our mental capacity?

Could it be that, for some of us, we have become so far removed from our real truth that we are now lost in a lie?

As my awareness of this illness grows, I know I have a responsibility for myself, my family and society to stay present and connected with myself and those around me, and to deal with my issues as and when they come up. For me this means embracing life and not giving up on myself when things feel tough and stressful, it means looking at the devices and distractions I use to cover up and numb out what is really going on, and lovingly ­– without criticism – bring honesty to the real reason for the need behind distraction.

It is also important to lovingly assess where we are at in terms of unhealthy habitual behaviour. If we are unable to live without substances such as alcohol, caffeine and sugar, are we saying that it is ok to check out of or abuse our bodies?

At this time in history as dementia gets more and more prevalent, the future for this disease looks very bleak and overwhelming. We all need to take responsibility and look at how we are living, we need to get very personal and honest and ask, “What is it that I cover up each day? What do I not want to feel? What habits and behaviors do I repeatedly use that get further ingrained and take me away from the reality of what I truly see?”

Years of not being true to oneself eventually take their toll on both the mind and body.

By staying lovingly present with ourselves and dealing with our stuff as it comes up, we are able to see life as it is, even if at first this is uncomfortable.

When we choose to override our own feelings and use methods of numbing, we are encouraging a reality that is not true.

Although the behavior of the dementia patients I have worked with over the years can be very distressing, I have a strong knowing that at their very essence they are still love and will always be that love.

No matter what they present to the outside world, their Soul remains pure and magnificent. It is only through a myriad of unloving choices and a lack of presence in the body that dementia is allowed to take its toll.

Unfortunately we live in a culture that condones lack of responsibility. If we want to see the dementia rates go down, then a whole new level of responsibility needs to be adopted, both our personal responsibility for ourselves, and our collective responsibility for society as a whole.



Read more:

1) Dementia – is it truly a mystery? 

2) Checking out – are we sowing the seeds of our own dementia? 


900 thoughts on “Dementia – what is really going on?

  1. What you have expressed here Samantha is profound and powerful; a new level of responsibility, on all levels, is certainly required;
    “Unfortunately we live in a culture that condones lack of responsibility. If we want to see the dementia rates go down, then a whole new level of responsibility needs to be adopted, both our personal responsibility for ourselves, and our collective responsibility for society as a whole.”

  2. “What possesses these people to act in such ways?” When we check-out we leave an empty space and as there is no such thing as a vacuum, there is always energy, that space can be filled, or possessed, with a harmful energy.

  3. It’s great to see people writing and giving us another perspective on an illness like this. As is highlighted the increases or even the levels now are surely a warning for us. I guess it comes down to the old thing of if it’s not hitting us directly, right between the eyes at times then we don’t open up to what’s going on. We live our lives looking after ourselves which you think would be great but it’s how we go about this. It’s about the quality and how we isolate ourselves which then allows us to all see each other as being seperate. It these type of numbers are being shown then it will effect us all, it’s just you won’t see it until it’s too late. More of these blogs please to wake us all up and show us where we need to support. We are all in need of a shake up, no matter where you stand.

    1. Indeed Ray, this other view on illness and disease needs to be presented to the world more frequently, however shocking it may be. Maybe we all need the truth right in our face before we are willing to accept that something is is really wrong in the societies we live in.

  4. An amazingly insightful sharing on the truths about dementia from your honest experiences and awarenesses. “It is only through a myriad of unloving choices and a lack of presence in the body that dementia is allowed to take its toll.” This is very empowering as it shows it is our loving choices and presence that is the prevention and cure all in one.

  5. It is truly sad to see people to completely retract from their bodies by choice and leave it to be played with by other energies. If we do not allow ourselves to truly see what is happening on an energetic level we will never find the ‘cure’ as it can only be prevented by another way of living, a way of living in which we commit to life in full and simply deal with whatever is being presented to us, how ugly or beautiful this may be, in our return to the way of being we innately all know so well and are from.

  6. When I was caring for my mom when she was diagnosed with dementia it seemed to me that she had a selective memory for things. It was like she only remembered what she wanted to remember.

    This was many years ago, and my mom has since passed, but with my own work with Universal Medicine, and the idea that everything that happens to us is because of choices, it makes sense to me that my mom was choosing what she wanted to remember.

    Is dementia something that the person has chosen? If this is true it brings up a level of self-responsibility that is scary.

    I feel that taking true responsibility for our own lives is the first step in making a real difference in this world.

  7. That’s it Samantha…. every unloving choice stacks up over the years, building to one disease or another. We can take responsibility and clear that ourselves, or else the body is going to reach its limit and will feed that back in one way or another (through its choice of disease).

  8. Facing a parent with Dementia is a frightening task in many ways. I agree that the onus needs to be for each of us to be responsible for wanting to escape life, to avoid things we don’t want to feel, and to “deal with our stuff” as you say. The challenge for many is that there is no known way to deal with their stuff. And this is where The Way of the Livingness and Serge Benhayon come in.

  9. The predicted rates of dementia in future decades are a serious world health concern. Looking around society, it is not just the elderly with dementia who are physically there but not actually present in their bodies. Checking out in front of the computer, TV, video games, or on our mobiles has become an everyday occurrence from young ages. One only has to look in their eyes after they have had sometime in front of the screen, and the eyes reveal a person who is not fully there. This is of great concern for our future health.

    1. Well said Fiona and it is a fact that as well as rates of dementia rising exponentially, it is hitting more and more younger people reflecting the trend in all of society to check out of life and not be present in their own lives preferring to become lost in a screen of some sort instead.

  10. Thank you Samantha for this informative blog on Dementia. I would agree that the fact that we ignore what our body is telling us would have a major influence on the fact that we could get dementia. Also not being connected to our bodies at all times and losing ourselves in books, TV and general zoning out would all have a great influence. By all supporting each other in this by reminding ourselves of the need to be fully conscious with ourselves at all times may be the answer, as you say.

  11. Some great questions to deeply consider here Samantha. It makes sense that with our body registering every choice we make that either confirms or goes against the truth of how we are truly meant to live, our body starts to check out from us giving up on life.

  12. This is a great question to ask, “what is really going on?” when this is the statistics, “”As of 2013, there were an estimated 44.4 million people with dementia worldwide. This number will increase to an estimated 75.6 million in 2030, and 135.5 million in 2050. Much of the increase will be in developing countries.”” This is happening in our developed world as well. We need to look further forward and I would expect that number to rise even more if we don’t take more care in what these illnesses mean. This is a possibility and to be honest it makes more sense then anything else I’ve seen We need to keep giving these type of illnesses airtime, not looking for a cure to something that has already happened but bring it back to prevention.

  13. Brilliant article Samantha. You hint at the possibility that dementia is related to possession of the physical body by another spirit and I feel that this is something that we should be more open to considering. Could it be that by not being present in our own bodies and giving up on life we create an opening for an energy to walk in and take advantage of the vacancy we have thus created? This might explain lucid moments. We often don’t even recognise our loved one except for brief “lucid” moments when they come back. I have heard that many psychologists and psychiatrists privately believe that possession is underlying dementia as well as many other mental illnesses but they are perhaps unable to say so publicly for fear of ridicule from their peers.

  14. Dementia is a sign of how much we register with our bodies and of how much that which we feel dishonours us. It is also a deep reaction to it. Such reaction of virtual rejection of that which we feel is the source of our issues (the outside world) makes us not wanting to be here. So, withdraw and start living off our own world and with our own phantoms.

  15. “What is it that I cover up each day? What do I not want to feel? What habits and behaviors do I repeatedly use that get further ingrained and take me away from the reality of what I truly see?” Great questions Samantha and ones that can really help us see what we are doing to ourselves. The choice is always there to change things and to come back to the present moment and stay with what is happening in the present moment. Becoming centred in ourselves and steady in the present changes everything. Last night I was hurriedly writing out an invoice when a friend remarked that it was difficult to read and he was struggling to make sense of it. I stopped and allowed myself to deepen my connection to myself, becoming centred and started again. He said the writing was different. I repeated the deepening of my centredness and stillness and wrote for a third time. This time there was a very marked difference and I could feel what a different quality I had left on the page. How could I have gone so far from my stillness? I realised I was doubting the exchanges I had made. I had just sold some old furniture and bits and pieces to someone and in writing out the invoice because I was doubting my previous actions I was no longer fully with myself and it was showing up in my writing. I did not want to feel this doubting energy that felt undermining but by ignoring it my natural movements had changed and my handwriting had become a scrawl, hardly respectful of myself or anyone else. I could see how often I allowed this kind of carelessness. I am very thankful to my friend for pointing this out to me and for supporting me in my growing awareness that can keep me on a path of harmonious activity including harmonious written exchanges.

  16. Great questions Samantha and ones that we really need to address if we are to halt the alarming rise in dementia cases around the world. Responsibility starts with ourselves and being willing to look at the ways we distract ourselves from being fully present with our lives. Only when we are willing to look at the ways we have found to check out will we have a chance to arrest patterns of behaviour that are self-destructive and can eventually lead to dementia.

  17. ‘Unfortunately we live in a culture that condones lack of responsibility.’ Absolutely and whilst we need to have a safety net for those who are unable to care for themselves our welfare system seems to have promoted a expectation of entitlement which allows people to abdicate responsibility for how they are choosing to live. We cannot expect our health systems to continue rescuing us from the consequences of our self-destructive choices whether it be from abusing our bodies with alcohol/drugs or the increasing prevalence of diabetes because of dietary choices. This can change and it starts with us taking personal responsibility for all our choices, no perfection needed just a willingness to be open to seeing what is really there to see and not being deflected when others question our choices.

  18. I do love how we are asking the questions about what is going on, when we are such an educated advanced race, yet we have dementia clouding our elderly senior years, at a time when they most need and deserve to be at peace within themselves. It smacks of something being very wrong in how they have lived up until that point…..we must keep asking what is behind this screamingly sad state of affairs- 44.4 million cases of dementia worldwide is no accident. We cant be blind and keep assuming it’s inevitable or even worse- normal.

  19. Great blog Samantha and some fundamental questions, when we allow ourself to be distracted from life and check out, there has to be some form of consequence and our health is compromised simply by our lack of loving choices.

  20. Whenever I choose to continually avoid taking responsibility for my choices, or something is rising to the surface that I avoid feeling, my mental state becomes very unstable. Whenever I am connected to my feelings is when I feel clarity, steady and loving in my thoughts. Our relationship with how we care for our bodies is so interlinked with a healthy mind!

  21. I have just started to work with people with dementia in a nursing home and the clarity and authority in your writing inspires me once more to not focus on their behaviour but to feel their essence underneath; ‘No matter what they present to the outside world, their Soul remains pure and magnificent. It is only through a myriad of unloving choices and a lack of presence in the body that dementia is allowed to take its toll.

    1. The challenge of the disease called dementia is to realise that by the time it has taken hold on someone years and years of life choices have culminated in this illness. So now, the person that they are, is covered by the illness and all that goes with it, whether that be memory loss, or violence. Nevertheless the person that they are is not the illness, and the path for their family, friends and carers now is to not see them as the disease, for underneath the illness they still are who they are, but at the same time support them very practically to manage and live their remaining years with the behaviour of that illness in everyday life.

  22. The energetic causes of illness and disease are often very simple, if only we wanted to truly see. For instance with dementia, it makes sense if we ‘check out’ and are not with ourselves this results in a disease where we are not there and other energies can come in. Looking at how we are living and dealing with our hurts or issues with the world and being in it is not something that is always easy to do but it is simple and then the answers to many diseases are there, if we only want to take this responsibility.

  23. I like how this article brings us to reponsibility. Self responsibility lived in full is living with a responsibility that is aware that how you live affects all. Let us not by pass this fact and begin now to assess our lives, how we live them and what they are truly bringing to humanity.

  24. There is no getting a way from the fact that by the time we are old every pattern and ingrained behaviour is registered clearly for all to see and reflects back via our bodies. So it makes sense that if we have had a life of checking out and not being fully committed to life and give up on ourselves and the life we have, then dementia could be on the cards for us, no different than any illness in old age.

  25. Understanding the effect of energies in our body and their impact on our health and wellbeing or our conditions and ill-being will bring an understanding of life we lack today and will help us to explain the explainable.

  26. We all have to be honest and accept that there has to be more to illness and disease than meets the eye. That it is far more than just chance, genetics and a few identified lifestyle factors that leads to our diagnoses and accept that every dynamic, every experience, every single detail that we do and feel accumulates and in turn, affects the quality of our health and wellbeing.

  27. When we are distracted from life and continually checking out, our bodies, and in the case of dementia our minds, inevitably suffer the consequences. Dementia is not something that happens overnight. Is it possible therefore that after years of checking out and numbing ourselves to the truth of what is going on around us, and in the world, and with little willingness to play our part in life to the full, that dementia is just the culmination of the seeds we have been sowing all along?

  28. What you have presented in this blog Samantha tells a sad and painful story about dementia and the human condition, however you have also expressed what is possible to find purpose love and connection to our true selves. A beautiful and insightful blog to read, thank you.

  29. Coming back to your blog again Samantha I am reminded that we are responsible for our choices and we live the sum of our choices.

  30. You are not at a moment T1 a perfect functioning human being totally in life and suddenly at T2 a person suffering dementia. T1 has to be a mere image and not a true account of what is really going on. Although if you suffer from dementia, you lose the capacity to answer questions regarding what happened to you, it is clear that they have made choices that landed them there. Although this may sound (falsely so) as a condemnation, in truth is empowering to those that may be undergoing that path to know that their choices make a difference.

  31. Great to start the conversation on what is really going on with the huge increase rates in Dementia, the more we discuss this topic and bring more awareness to it, humanity as a whole can start taking responsibility for the changes that we so desperately need to make, as things can only get worse if we do not.

  32. Every choice matters and it sums to all our lived choices. The way we age, it’s not a random thing, but something we build moment by moment. Knowing and taking responsibility for this, offers to us the opportunity of rectifying the choices that clearly would take us to a disconnected old age.

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