Dementia – what is really going on?

By Samantha England, Health and Social Care Assessor, Norfolk, UK 

Having worked with many dementia patients in the past, and especially whilst working in a secure unit specializing with aggressive and violent dementia patients, I naturally began to look deeper into the causes of this distressing illness.

Often at the hospital where I worked we saw the same scenarios – a person who once had a respectable work and family life ending up living many of their days in a padded cell, because of the danger they presented to themselves and others.

On many occasions I was shocked to see both elderly men and ladies possess a strength that required at least four adults to restrain them, in order to keep themselves and others safe. The behaviour I have witnessed over the years has at times been shockingly aggressive and I have asked myself:

What on earth takes over these once fully functioning, aware human beings?

What possesses these people to act in such ways?

I have wondered if there is more at play here than we currently acknowledge.

Science has shown that everything is energy, and Serge Benhayon has expanded on this by saying: “Everything is energy, and therefore everything is because of energy.” Could it be that there is more than one form of energy and that these energies can act through us? And that it is our choice as to what kind of energy we will allow to run us?

So could it be possible that when we choose to not to be aware and fully present with ourselves, that we are allowing another form of energy to run us? The phrases, “What’s got into you?” and “They are not themselves,” come to mind as examples of everyday language that perhaps portray this reality of another energy running us.

As I write now statistics are not good. The Global Voice of dementia states: “As of 2013, there were an estimated 44.4 million people with dementia worldwide. This number will increase to an estimated 75.6 million in 2030, and 135.5 million in 2050. Much of the increase will be in developing countries.”

This is pretty terrifying and causes an unbelievably immense strain on our health care systems.

There is talk of this cure and that cure and every day we are told something different about the causes of dementia, from the kitchen frying pan to genetics.

Personally I feel there is more to it than this; that we need to look at how we are living every day and how this impacts our physical and mental function.

It seems to me that every unloving choice, if not dealt with, will eventually stack up against us. In fact every time we eat something our bodies do not truly want, use a stimulant, or say yes when we mean no, all these choices add up. There are literally hundreds and hundreds of ways we can numb ourselves to not feel the pain of the way we are living, a way that is not true for us, whether it is creating drama or drinking alcohol, or checking out in front of a TV or computer screen.

These behaviors in their many, many different forms all send messages to the body saying, “I do not want to be here.” In fact every time we “lose” ourselves in something or to something, we are actually saying no to life. The body registers everything that happens and repetition of any behavior along with avoidance of what is true starts to erode our cognitive function.

Could it be that our choice to be unaware of what is truly going on in our own lives and bodies builds up until it impacts our mental capacity?

Could it be that, for some of us, we have become so far removed from our real truth that we are now lost in a lie?

As my awareness of this illness grows, I know I have a responsibility for myself, my family and society to stay present and connected with myself and those around me, and to deal with my issues as and when they come up. For me this means embracing life and not giving up on myself when things feel tough and stressful, it means looking at the devices and distractions I use to cover up and numb out what is really going on, and lovingly ­– without criticism – bring honesty to the real reason for the need behind distraction.

It is also important to lovingly assess where we are at in terms of unhealthy habitual behaviour. If we are unable to live without substances such as alcohol, caffeine and sugar, are we saying that it is ok to check out of or abuse our bodies?

At this time in history as dementia gets more and more prevalent, the future for this disease looks very bleak and overwhelming. We all need to take responsibility and look at how we are living, we need to get very personal and honest and ask, “What is it that I cover up each day? What do I not want to feel? What habits and behaviors do I repeatedly use that get further ingrained and take me away from the reality of what I truly see?”

Years of not being true to oneself eventually take their toll on both the mind and body.

By staying lovingly present with ourselves and dealing with our stuff as it comes up, we are able to see life as it is, even if at first this is uncomfortable.

When we choose to override our own feelings and use methods of numbing, we are encouraging a reality that is not true.

Although the behavior of the dementia patients I have worked with over the years can be very distressing, I have a strong knowing that at their very essence they are still love and will always be that love.

No matter what they present to the outside world, their Soul remains pure and magnificent. It is only through a myriad of unloving choices and a lack of presence in the body that dementia is allowed to take its toll.

Unfortunately we live in a culture that condones lack of responsibility. If we want to see the dementia rates go down, then a whole new level of responsibility needs to be adopted, both our personal responsibility for ourselves, and our collective responsibility for society as a whole.

 

References

http://www.alz.co.uk/research/statistics

Read more:

1) Dementia – is it truly a mystery? 

2) Checking out – are we sowing the seeds of our own dementia? 

 

935 thoughts on “Dementia – what is really going on?

  1. Dishonesty and checking out has gone through the roof, we are not developing deeply loving and supportive lives where the truth is of paramount importance – and as the statistics show – the consequences are massive. If there is any possibility that diseases like dementia are not random but developed by our choices over many years, then it makes sense to start considering exactly and precisely what we are choosing now and look at where this might be leading in the future.

  2. This is something everyone should be asking Samantha – what is truly going on, when we see illness and disease rapidly increasing and the high demand on our healthcare services. If a deeper level of honesty was truly sought we would be taking far more responsibility for ourselves so that we would live in a way that was far more loving and caring with ourselves and with each other that we would not seek to escape and check out from life but truly engage with it.

  3. There is a stupendous key here, a link that you have made between how one lives everyday and the fact that energy is the producer of what happens in our days. And so, the question naturally is, what energy is running your body each day that you make your day of livingness?

  4. The statistics you share about the increase in dementia are very scary Samantha, and show that a considerable part of the population will not be able to care for themselves as they age, and this in turn will put increased pressure on the health and care services. I volunteer in a hospital and quite often dementia patients are in there for 4 or 5 months before a suitable place is found for them. This not only takes up a lot of the resources of the hospital, but there is an ongoing cost in caring for dementia patients. I feel there will come a point in time when the NHS will no longer have the funds to support all the illnesses and diesases and maybe at that point we will stop and begin to take responsibility for our own health and well being.

  5. The statistics for the predicted rise in dementia is very shocking. This blog is very clear on the health issues we are eventually faced with – everytime we check out or numb out from our choices to not feel we are laying the foundations for dementia later in life
    “We all need to take responsibility and look at how we are living, we need to get very personal and honest and ask, “What is it that I cover up each day? What do I not want to feel? What habits and behaviors do I repeatedly use that get further ingrained and take me away from the reality of what I truly see?”

  6. If dementia is increasing as it is alarm bells should be ringing, and we have to start asking ourselves the question why, and as we look more deeply we come to the conclusion that dementia is a result of us checking out of life, then we need to all take more responsibility and look at how we need to change the way we live in order to live a life that is both fulfilling and full of vitality.

  7. It truly does pay to listen to our body and face what it is we are to face, no matter how difficult we may find it to be. Listening to our body, responding to what we feel is true is taking responsibility – it supports our health and wellbeing and also that of others if they so choose.

  8. Some great questions here Samantha, but I doubt many of us hardly ever think to ask ourselves let alone get to a deep honesty. It does make sense though that if we chose to check out from life or find ways to escape there will be consequences for our health.

  9. Dementia is definitely on the increase and many are astounded that it appears to come on so quickly, yet it takes years of checking out for dementia to develop, and as such we have ample opportunity to make sure we don’t check out and lose touch of what is really going on in our lives, it’s easy to swap an hour’s TV for a walk in nature being observant of all that surrounds us, taking time to talk to people and truly listen, they are small things that help us stay in touch with ourselves.

  10. “we need to look at how we are living every day and how this impacts our physical and mental function.” We all know the truth that how we live has an effect on our overall health and wellbeing.

  11. What you describe here clearly indicates that dementia is not the problem, but is a symptom, one of the consequences of us being absent from our own lives – and looking at this disease inevitably asks us to look at the way we have been living and accepting as so-called life.

  12. This sentence: “What possesses these people to act in such ways? carries the answer in that if we check out then we create the space for something else to check in. We can see that quite clearly when people get drunk and we say what has gotten into them? it is the same as you describe when we give up and withdraw.

  13. Although they cannot be seen, we live in permanent contact with forces that come at us wishing to affect our movements. So, what we call us is not necessarily us. What we call reality is not necessarily true. But we may not be able to acknowledge this because our movements are not ours. Could it be that dementia is simply a dis-ease that occurs to people that are aware of the fact that they are moving in a way that is not true and live with an incredible amount of tension until they give up on themselves as a way to relieve it and once that happens they realized that there no possible settlement anymore where they have chosen to go?

  14. More and more I am aware of others actually saying, my memory is really bad, or I think I’m getting Alzheimer’s, so it’s like we have the language around our checking out but are really just treating it like a joke, or an excuse to check out of life.

  15. It is true that the body registers everything, and this blog is so important because it outlines the possibility that when we go against what is loving to the body, then we are saying yes to disease.

  16. The fact that the dementia figures keep rising is telling in itself, plus the continuing demand for more gadgets to check out with. I read that they were using virtual reality headsets with the elderly with dementia to stimulate the brain but to me, that seems as though they are using the same thing (checking out) to try to cure the patients.

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