1,141 thoughts on “Hysterectomy – a wake up call.”

1. I can relate to what you are saying Bina
   “I could not stop the internal momentum. I hated it when someone told me to just: “Allow and be still”. What on earth did that mean or even look like or feel like?”
   I had no idea what allow and be still meant, it has taken me a long time to develop a relationship with my self so that I now can actually feel my body, I was numb from the neck down. Now I’m the complete opposite I love my body, I love to take great care of it because within me is my connection to God and the universe.

2. “I really loved the drama and the stress it brought, which distracted me from just surrendering and listening to my body and feeling the truth of what was there to be felt.” I can relate, I need to really settle into surrendering more to my body at the moment to allow it to communicate what changes are needed, but the resistance in me has been great. It’s confounding at times being a human being because I can see what’s needed and understand with my common sense how to respond, yet see myself doing the opposite and adding to the problem. Getting a handle on the fact there is a wayward part of me that acts contra to my own best interest helps, but reining it in when it’s had such control over my life is quite a task at times.

3. How many women struggle with their periods and say and do nothing about it? I know a young woman who has painful periods has been to the Doctor and was so badly traumatized by the event that she will not ask to be referred to a specialist who may be able to support her. And I wonder how much pain she will suffer before she is forced by her body to go and seek some support. When we leave something so long then there are bound to be repercussions because of the delay.

4. “The biggest tip I could give any woman, any age, who knows something is not right in the woman department is to first go and get it checked out with your GP”. Great practical advice.

5. I can concur with this sharing of a life of drive, drive, drive, and being stuck in the doing.

   This life many of us often live, demonstrates that we don’t know what it is like to be a tender woman or a tender man. Until we have our stop moment, then we have the offering to review everything we do and are in life.

   In those moments we start to feel the harshness of how we have lived, even feel this in others by how they reflect back to us. What you sow, reaps.

   This experience or whatever experience it is, demonstrates that we have the opportunity to change and change you did. Anything is possible and appreciate how far you have come to, and in that, more will be offered. Inspiring sharing.

6. ‘Today I feel a real woman who does have an inner stillness, which feels amazing and keeps me grounded.’ Bina, how very far you have come. Inspirational!

7. The enormous change from ‘spinning top’ to grounded, vital, deeply loving woman today was enabled by you looking at your sleep routine.

   Is this why I have neglected my sleep? because living with an unsettled sleep routine would disturb me enough to take me further away from stillness? Lack of sleep is very disturbing, always leading me to anxiety and sugar cravings. When I have looked after my sleep, I feel settled and feel like whatever comes my way in the day will be water off a duck’s back.

   I have underestimated the importance of sleep and am only now starting to really support myself to sleep better. This blog reminds me that stillness is an essential quality that we all have, it’s almost somethng that runs us like a fuel. It reminds me of the essential importance of sleep.

   I had began to think there were some people who were just great sleepers and then there were people like me who were light sleepers and for whom it would be normal to always have unsettled sleep and wake up exhausted. But I’m reminded in this blog that just as stillness is our natural way to be, so too is sleeping deeply and undisturbed, our natural way to live.

8. What a steadily built transformation; that was clearly not an easy thing to master but something you clearly knew you deeply needed- something your body couldn’t hide from you. It is actually incredible how you have completely turned all the ways that you were living upside down so that there is no sniff of harm anymore, only nurturing.

   I can also relate to thinking that stillness was boring, and frustrating – how could we do anythig if we were living in slow motion? But stillness is a quality in which I can do a lot of things as I go about my days. And what stillness can look like to one person, can look different to another, so we don’t have to all look and do things the same way. That was another perception I had about stillness – that it would make us all act and look the same.

   These are epic experiences with your body that lead you to make changes, and now enable you to support other women to not go through the physical and emoitional pain that you went through. But to relay the experiences alone would not inspire. It is the transformation to the woman that you are today that really inspires.

   1. Interesting perspective on stillness, and considering it as ‘boring and frustrating’ and yet when we see a newborn, that’s all they are, still. We feel the disturbance of when they are upset and melt when they are sleeping.

      There’s only one stillness and to truly get there, requires more to be revealed in order to feel the next quality. Just as you have mastered it, then another form is offered – all we have to do is embrace it.

9. ‘The biggest tip I could give any woman, any age, who knows something is not right in the woman department is to first go and get it checked out with your GP and then consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue.’ Down to earth advice that no one can argue with.

10. This should be on t-shirts ‘It really does not pay to ignore the signs when things are not feeling right with your body.’ ….. and billboards! It might give us a bit of a wake up call.

    1. If the photos on cigarette packets of decomposing body parts don’t give smokers a wake up call then I wonder if slogans on billboards would get us to reconsider our relationship with our bodies. We seem almost hellbent in our determination to carry on as we are and unfortunately things are going to have to get considerably worse before we’re prepared to take an earnest look at our part in either our own health or the health of the world today.

11. “Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me.” Love this Bina our body is the best compass and barometer for our health, and all we have to do is take notice and be aware of what it is offering us, and to ignore this is to dismiss the early warning signs of ill health.

12. That wake-up-call from our body is the alarm bell that all is not well and we have to call on the emergency services to support us. It is equally an alarm bell to look at how we have been living, as in, being so ‘busy’ that we have not realised that the iron has burnt through the ironing board, or we have left a pan on the stove to burn our the pan.

13. From deeply loathing and having no time for, to feeling, loving and stopping for it every single day – what an amazing change in the relationship you have with your body. We so often place the body at the bottom of the list and keep ignoring it unless it becomes absolutely crucial and there’s no other way out but still with much reluctance – but we can choose differently.

14. The biggest tips are always given from a sustained livingness of them, from an honest balance between repose and motion. Then, we are able to share more love with others, because we are living it more in our own life.

15. ‘The biggest tip I could give any woman, any age, who knows something is not right in the woman department is to first go and get it checked out with your GP and then consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue.’ Awesome advice. I couldn’t agree more…and the sooner that visit to the GP is made the better. And if you want a woman doctor ask for one and if you don’t like the first one you see ask to see another – there is nothing more important than honouring and looking after our bodies.

    1. Reading the words ‘Women’s department’ made me smile, it’s usually a term used by men because they either find it too personal to actually name the parts of a woman’s body or that they have a limited understanding of a woman’s body and therefore lump everything into the ‘one department’.

16. This has inspired me to look at my sleep pattern as it is not very supportive at the moment, thank you.

17. I had my periods stop for 4 years and it was great in that it got me to really look at how I was living and address it with the support of my GP’s and Esoteric Healing. My relationship with my body is far greater now than it was before it stopped.

    1. This is inspiring Leigh (as is Bina’s story). To know that if we listen to our bodies and the signals it sends through symptoms and illnesses, honouring ourselves and dealing with the root cause of the issue we can come out the other end more vital and healthy than ever before. Whilst so many of us may curse the illness and want to get on with life as we did before, as offered here we can choose to see the issue as the blessing that it truly is as the sign post to a more true way of living.

18. Stopping can be really hard when you are constantly on the go and working really hard – I still find that, but I also know without doubt that having that balance of being able to stop and truly rest and take care of myself invaluable for myself and my work.

19. The greatest thing we can give ourselves is to connect to the stillness within… all else is taken care of.

20. If we saw every disease and illness as a wake-up call then we would have very different chronic disease stats by now.

    1. My goodness – yes. Simply a bump on the elbow or a stubbed toe can say a lot about what our choices have been let alone a chronic illness. If we were to take seriously the stubbed toe or bump being honest about the quality we were moving in, we wouldn’t have to have the more extreme forms of illness that are on the rise, alarmingly so.

21. Bina this was a great reminder for me of how we can use work to distract the things we really need to be paying attention to, our body is one thing we really need to pay attention to no matter how distracted we want to be, this is a fantastic example of how our body brings us to a stop so we have to stop and listen and from there we get an opportunity to make changes.

22. There’s no reason why we should keep things in and try to ‘do life alone’. Doctors, nurses, teachers, police and other professionals are there for a reason – to support our society to live vital lives, learn things, not accept abuse and so forth, and there’s no reason why we shouldn’t seek their help when it is called for.

23. So simple, so obvious and so true – we live our lives based on our realities, ignoring the truth of our bodies and wonder where illness and disease comes from…?

24. Great to read this again today and feel the power of your commitment and the love that you are unfolding. Also great to read your comment in response to Fumiyo and to feel the steadiness and self love that comes through, the quality is lovely to feel.

25. Waking up and thinking that your are a superwoman who can do anything at the expense of your body and get away with it is, I reckon, a pretty normal state of living for many many women. And what strikes me about this is how you are actually a very super woman, you are strong and powerful in your expression and much much more, but none of this needs to come at the expense of your body.

26. It is great how you share you did not know how to stop or take care of yourself as I suppose many women feel the same. And it shows how important it is for all of us to be aware that medical care alone is not it and must be complemented with self-care to see where and how this could happen in the first place. To basically show that there is another way than just keeping going.

27. “I love myself deeply and would never choose to harm my body again – ever” – this is so profound and I really hear you, as I sometimes find myself being hard on myself because I was not being loving in my attempt to love myself, and that is the toxin I give myself the most.

    1. Great Fumiyo that this bit touched you about choosing never to harm my body again – ever.
       I know from past experience that hard thoughts made my body feel hard and it was polar opposite behaviour to the gentle natural state of my being. In other words, who I truly am.

       Next – I would just like to expand on your comment a bit more, as the blog is a bit old and there is now more to say.
       My take is that we have levels of self love and it is a forever deepening process, if we choose to allow things to unfold. So with this example – my intention to never harm my body is still there but the awareness has changed. By that I mean that I am more aware of things going on like foods I eat that may be harmful to my body.
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       If a tiny thing like a knock happens and it is negligible to most, I would reflect on that and apologise to my body and take note of where it was on the body and have an internal conversation, not obsessive or anything like that but just so I can feel what happened and why, with no need to be critical or judgemental in any way.

       It would be true to say that the way I live will support me to continue knocking out even more self harm as in my world I now know – anything that is not Love is actually harm.

       1. Thankyou Bina for also reminding us about those little knocks and bumps we can so often have during our day, but equally so often ignore them as being nothing. Nothing is ever nothing as everything is everything and deserves our full attention if we are to really deepen the love and care we have for ourselves. More internal but tender conversations with myself are definitely on the agenda!

       2. ‘Hard thoughts made my body feel hard’ – I can totally relate to that, and how when we think about life in a ‘what needs to be done’ functional and driven way, our bodies become like that too – hard, functional, driven and joyless. What is starting to return the joy into my body is really basic self-care, and paying attention to how I’m actually feeling right now, not how I’d like to be feeling or think that I ‘should’ be feeling. When we get real and accept what’s actually going on and how we’re feeling right now, we have something to work with and move forward from – and there’s a simple settlement in that.

28. It is quite gorgeous (and unfortunately and sadly too rare) to hear a woman state that she deeply loves herself. Thank you.

29. ‘Loving me was not my thing’ – I can so relate to this, it wasn’t mine either, but equally I felt that there was something missing in my life, and tried every single distraction going to try to find this ‘thing’ – i.e this more to life that I knew must be out there, somewhere. What has been incredible is feeling that what I was looking for was actually with me all along: this complete sense of knowing who I am, this settlement and deep contentment that needs nothing to keep it going from the outside. I can’t say I live like this 100% of the time, but I at least now know what it feels like to live like this more than ever before, and the very simple choices I can make, like basically looking after myself, and loving myself more deeply, that are making this solid, real and practical way of being and feeling become a new level of normal.

30. Thank you for sharing the reality of how it was for you a step-by-step process of building more awareness of your body and taking care of you and that it didn’t just all change overnight, but that it’s worth building that consistency of using your body as a compass in your way of living.

31. It is so beautiful to acknowledge how our body keeps bringing us back to a stop until we finally get the message that we have to surrender to what the body needs and start living from the inside out, rather than the outside in.

32. “Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me.” Our body really does tell us what we need to know – if we choose to listen and then make the necessary changes in our lifestyle.

33. Recently I have been feeling very tired and under the weather and my body has been wanting to rest. At first I wanted to ignore these signs from my body to slow down but the feeling in my body became greater and greater till I had no choice but to rest. I was having restless sleep and getting up at midnight to do some work for a few hours before having to lie down again. Finally I surrendered and stopped pushing myself in any way and I had the best night for a long time. I realised that I was eating more than I needed too and sometimes the food I was choosing made me feel tired in and of itself. Pulling myself up and listening carefully to my body I began to get some life back and I feel now I have turned a corner so to speak but it has been a few weeks and I still feel to treat myself with the utmost care….not just now but from here on in.

34. Bina I find your blog very humbling, as women we can do a LOT and we can multitask and work incredibly hard but it can never ever be at the sacrifice of a) the love we have for ourselves and b) the quality we have inside us.

35. Action can get us very far but harms us when we overdo it. In my experience and Bina’s seems similar, when action replaces effectiveness we can (will?) get into trouble. Life is more than action.

36. This is such a rock solid epic line: “Stillness for me was a word to describe lazy people, who were boring and laid back and could not multi-task.” Because I reckon this is how most people feel, and it goes to show the incredible importance of words chosen well for each person’s situation. That words cannot simply be flung around and expected to be understood. Everyone, we all, need to be communicated with both for where we are at in our respective journeys and for what potential we each hold. Thus is the art of a true and loving correspondence.

    1. Yes, words can be great pointers to the truth and very harmfully misleading. Either is very much possible.

       1. Indeed words spoken without the living intent of our innermost are merely a reinterpretation and can be very misleading.

    2. At least Bina had an idea of what stillness was, I didn’t have a clue, not even a conscious inkling as to what stillness was. The amazing thing is that now I recognise stillness as something very, very known to us all. A quality that we have all lived and breathed before and one that stretches out endlessly within us all.

37. This is such an amazing turnaround. I can totally relate to living in absolute drive, constantly feeling the need to work and do, and to never, ever stop. What you’ve shown here is that it can be done. Absolutely, and with no question, as soon as we allow ourselves to get real and honest about the way we’re living, and how we’re being with ourselves: loving or abusive.

    1. Me too Bryony, I remember feeling such an incessant need to be doing something that I had to fight the urge not to polish my silverware whilst having a cuppa with a friend.

38. ” not thinking I am superwoman and can multi-task and force things to happen.”
    The difficulty of forcing things to happen is that it’s never truly what needs to happen.

39. Bina it is very true that there are the two types of busyness or excess motion, one is the physical one and the other is the internal mental one. Once the body gets stopped, often through illness or accident, what’s left is the momentum going on inside, the body can be physically still but on the inside it’s still racing at 100 miles an hour. The internal raciness has been the one I find hard to stop. Your words also about how you recognised you were fighting yourself to maintain the doing is interesting because this may be in some cases the cause of the excess busyness – we may be fighting simply being still with ourselves.

40. “I cannot turn back the clock, but what I can do now is live every day taking deep care of myself” – this, I need to tell myself more often. I am living the consequences of the choices I made in the past, but the choices I am making and will be making now will guarantee what I am to be living. We are that power-full.

41. Super honest blog Bina, I guess there are a lot of women around the world that join you in the fact that you couldn’t stop doing what you were doing ( which was very obviously not supporting yourself and or your body) caused by this internal momentum. Your body forced you to listen in the end and you started to allow yourself to feel and use your body as ‘a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me.’

42. Like adventurers who conquer mountains, or entrepreneurs who overcome all the odds, we like to pride ourselves on battling through, on achieving things despite all else. So as you illustrate perfectly Bina we champion what we can do today despite our body. We celebrate it ‘not holding us back’ when all along it was supporting us and attempting to let us know the truth. Imagine what we would be capable of if we just started to listen to what it has to say instead of ignoring it and pushing ahead anyway.

43. Isn’t it amazing what we call normal. You thought it was normal to be in severe pain at that time and that was normal for you. For some people it is normal to beat up their partner. For some it is normal to go for a walk every morning. Some find it normal to sing and for some it is normal to drink a bottle of wine every evening. “Normal” has lost any value meaning and has no relation as to whether something is healthy or not and yet we behave as if it does.

44. Bina I love the honesty in which you write this with, we champion our ability to multi task, to get jobs done without giving our body a second thought, when we truly know we have to look after ourselves to support what there is that needs to be done, by actually connecting to our body, we get a feeling of what supports us, and what undermines it.

45. ‘It really does not pay to ignore the signs when things are not feeling right with your body.’ Through your lived experience, Bina your words of advice really do come through with power and wisdom. Thank you for sharing. It can be all to easy to power through life and not take heed from the body with signals that it sends us. How loud do the subtle signals need to get before the body begins to shout louder and louder about the way we choose to live?

46. WOW “Focus on getting your work done”, and that’s what I did. I had a mobile phone in one hand and a blood transfusion going in the other arm.’ I feel many will be able to relate to what you have shared because many many, including myself at times, do not stop and listen to what the body is saying even though sometimes it is really loud. I love the advice you have given here ‘The biggest tip I could give any woman, any age, who knows something is not right in the woman department is to first go and get it checked out with your GP and then consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue.’ Yep absolutely go to the GP but definitely look at how we are living as this is the reason the illness or dis-ease happened in the first place. I cannot wait for the day when this is common practice for all of us.

47. Coming to a stop to reconnect to that inner stillness allows for the development of a connection that we can take back into the flow of life.

48. I used to think I was boring without all the drama and busyness of trying to do it all. Now I deeply appreciate the stillness and quality I bring which offers a reflection to others that we don’t need to get caught up in the drama and doing to be a vibrant, productive part of the world. The opposite is true – the drama drains us and leaves us depleted and lacking full capacity.

49. When we focus on getting everything done at the expense of our body how can we ever think that it will not eventually break down and become ill.

50. Yes, our motion suffers when there isn’t sufficient repose.

51. A beautiful exposé showing how long sometimes our momentum can continue until we are able to stop it.

52. This is such a pertinent blog for many women, I would say too much motion and lack of stillness is one of the main ills in women. Serge Benhayon offers so many ways in which we as women can find stillness within, and this blog demonstrates the importance of taking steps towards this truth.

53. We can be stubborn creatures, I speak from experience and love when I say that. I want to thank you though, for every time I read about women who are very active and are able to find their way back to self love, I feel like I have a chance, god knows I need a little help in that department. I can get so caught up in all the things I need to do, that sometimes I forget to love and care for myself enough.
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54. It is a shame that sometimes it takes a super loud message from our body to get us to stop and reconsider the way in which we have been living. How beautiful however that you have since chosen to rebuild a relationship with your body based on a truth you now feel and from that experience a stillness and worth you can now not deny.

55. The bodies wisdom is simply divine and has all the patience in the world, so when we may not get something first up, the body finds another way to get our attention. Love it.

    1. So true Julie, when we look at this as a true gift of love we can then see that all ills are an offering not a hindrance.

56. “…It meant that I would need to pay attention to my body, which I deeply loathed and really had no time for. I was far too busy working and trying to save the world. I was constantly on the go looking to do the next thing and getting these physical conditions was a gross inconvenience, to say the least…” The self loathing issue is such a key and common trait for women, that unconsciously influences choices, habits and behaviour pattern we may develop into – and thus eventually erode a woman’s health. For a woman to re-aquaint back to the stillness within her body, in ways that you have described in your blog, starts the process of deconstructing this self loathing and reintroduce love back to the expression of being woman. A great sharing Bina, thank you.

57. I am really interested in this part about burning your hand Bina and then how you talk about enjoying the drama and the stress as a way to avoid feeling the truth of what was there to be felt. This is amazing because how often am I, and are we, given so many stop points along the way to consider what I and what we are doing and the impact these choices are having on ourselves, on myself, on each other.

58. Bina, thank you for sharing your story, for we can all learn from this…how far do we let things go before we are actually going to put a stop to it and make some changes? This is a question for all of us to sit with and ponder deeply.

59. Gosh I can relate to what you write here…and I cried reading it today. Learning to love, honour, accept and appreciate yourself deeply is a loving work in progress for me, but really is the most important steps I can take.

60. Bina with all the amazing work that you do today and the inspiration you show people in how to deeply care for and love themselves, it’s powerful to read the process you went through in building the deep level of love you hold so true today. It shows no matter what a person’s particular issue is, anything can not only be healed but life can transform if we choose.

61. This is such an inspiring turn-around Bina. It is a part of our divine design that our bodies are in tune with the greater body of the Universe that so holds us and that when we begin to move out of rhythm to this, our body is the messenger that will alert us so that we can then take the necessary steps to bring our movements back into accordance with this Universal pulse. Therefore it is not illness that is a curse or bad luck but simply a sign that our body is doing its job in trying to re-establish order when things have gone a bit wayward.

62. I love the honesty of how you share you loathed your body and were far too busy saving the world to take care of yourself. It is completely insane isn’t it that we can imagine we are helping or even can help others when we can’t even take care of or love ourselves.

63. ha ha love the honesty where you write: that you loved the drama and stress of your injury and the troubles it brought so you could continue to avoid the almost unavoidable that was being presented to you. How many of us admit that we often invite such situations because we want to avoid the truth at all costs.

64. I am not sure we appreciate in full how the body can naturally respond when we offer it the gift of surrender and true care.

65. It’s not just what we do to our body, we literally keep ourselves from connecting to and enjoying who we are because of our behaviours. This is why the work of Serge Benhayon is so revelatory because there are these two sources of energy we draw from every day and their accompanying vehicles, the spirit and the soul. It’s so supportive to know this because behaviours can be so confounding – we know we don’t want to hurt ourselves but we often continually do despite our best efforts to change our habits and patterns. Your experiences Bina were a great example of these two energies, and the difference is felt now in how you live connected to the soul in stillness.

66. This is such an amazing and deeply honest blog Bina. I love how you lay out that you changes came with dedication and with that came a new relationship with you and your body. A great reminder that no matter what we can connect to our body if we choose.

67. Inner stillness is a medicine you can take into the way you are with yourself in every action.

68. I keep returning to this blog. Much like the story you share Bina, it seems there’s no end to the drama and complication that comes in my life when I ignore how I feel in my body. It doesn’t matter how ‘small’ or large the feeling is – whether I listen determines the quality and harmony of what comes next. It seems we will have to keep learning this lesson until a time we cherish and always honour what the body has to say.

69. Your words Bina Patel are all too familiar to me. The saddest part is in our drive to get things ‘done’ many people applaud and cheer us on for doing ‘good’ – all the while we are running a million miles away from what’s going on ‘under the hood’. This last weekend I pushed myself madly to get things complete, but only succeeded in upsetting myself, my partner and our whole house. When we have this momentum and past pattern of pushing on, we really really need to regularly stop and check where our internal compass is at. Many thanks for the powerful reminder.

    1. Thanks for your honest sharing Joseph and this drive to getting things done never works.
       I have come to realise that my to do list is a process and it is ongoing.

       There are days in the calendar where cycles are closed and more gets done and other days where my body is saying “take another deep nap, you need it”.
       I find it very hard now to override and ignore what my body is communicating so if I get this feeling of tired or need to rest and the opportunity is there I go for it. If not, I find myself thinking and wanting foods that I know are not good for my body and my quality of steadiness and stillness changes.

       Generally, allowing things to unfold whilst keeping the day to day stuff going works best for me and I can feel what’s next as I get to the end of one task.
       However, this rest stuff and going for my walk every day and drinking plenty of room temperature water, is equally important and that works too.
       To be honest it is a way of life now so it’s easy and no effort required. A far contrast from this blog if you ask me.

70. I related to your initial reactions to stillness. I used to get really annoyed if people ever told me to “relax” and used to say “you relax” because often I saw it as them reacting to my getting things done. I too have learned about Stillness from Serge Benhayon and it is NOTHING like I used to think it is and it is also not about “relaxing” or “not moving”.

    1. Stillness is spacious ~ in Stillness I have much more energy and actually get heaps more done – although that is not a goal but a by-product. Stillness totally rocks and is actually a quality of the Soul. Michael Benhayon plays the drums and moves in a quality of stillness that is incredibly cool and joyful. It is actually a faster vibration than the denseness of raciness!

    2. Thanks for your honest sharing here Nicola about getting annoyed when people told you to relax.
       The other thing I used to get that bugged me was ‘allow things to unfold’. That was like a red rag to a bull if you know what I mean.
       The thought of sitting still for a second seemed like a waste and as this blog says even when I was forced to completely stop by my body, I had this spinning that was going on and never stopped. Might sound weird but it was true. Nothing in me wanted to change but once I got the understanding WHY from the teachings and presentations of Serge Benhayon, then things made sense and I was able to take small tiny steps in the right direction and knock out the nonsense behaviour that led to all those ill choices of deeply neglecting and harming my precious body.

       The thought of calling my body ‘precious’ was not on my radar or in my language, so it’s huge how far I have really come.

       1. Bina, in my experience you and everything you share is very, very precious and super gorgeous

71. An amazing story Bina, and a wealth of information gained and wisdom applied in your life since. If we listen to our bodies, they tell everything we need to know about the choices we are making and whether they are true for us or not.

    1. I agree Jenny, the story here is amazing but the wealth of information that has been shared by way of comments, coming from my life since is pure wisdom and this expands the blog and keeps it alive if you ask me.

       I am blown away by how smart and intelligent our body truly is.
       Just a real life simple example is me wanting to eat a full dinner in the morning – very rare but true this week. Of course I get it, in an Aha moment at the end of the day, WHY I needed to eat then and at that time and what to eat specifically. My body knew way ahead of my mind what was best for that day and as it unfolded, I got it.

       I am deeply deeply grateful for this incredible precious body I have which has a deep regard and respect now that was never there before – thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon.

       1. Yes Bina, the body’s wisdom is endless, the more we listen, the more detail it communicates.

72. Bina as you say a great wake up call, when we race around without stopping, with no true connection to our body, we have no idea how our body is feeling or what choices to make to best support it either. When we stop and connect to our body we find it is full of wisdom, we just have to choose to listen.

73. Thank you Bina, it is so easy to separate what our body is telling us from how we have been living, so easy not to take responsibility for that. I am humbled by what my body shares about the way I live, it is an honesty I have found is deeply loving and worth embracing.

74. I recognise the old pattern of wanting to be super woman and ‘do’ it all. I tried for decades but to the detriment of my physical and mental well-being. I have come to know that stillness does not mean I sit down and do nothing. It can be with me as I move and go about my daily activities.

    1. If I even try to be superwoman and multi task in the doing department, then I get an instant headache so I don’t bother with that one any more.
       So what if people think that’s not the in thing when I know it gives me a good night’s sleep every night and I get far more done now than I ever did in my height of superwoman past days.

       I love what you share Debra about stillness not being a sit down and do nothing but the quality of stillness can be with you as you move in your daily activities.
       A golden truth from Serge Benhayon that needs to be lived to feel the real benefits.

75. Continuous motion is an ill way of living that runs many women. We use it to stop feeling the true beauty and stillness that resides within. What you share Bina is a great example of what many women live, but how there is a choice to live another way.

    1. I agree Kim this story is very relatable to so many women and this blog serves as a reminder that there is another way and why wait for the wake up call that I had.
       Looking back it was a very painful and difficult time in my life and at no point did I even consider that my choices got me in that and my new choices could get me out.

       All I know now is that I have a steady quality, a presence so to speak that is felt by all those I connect with and this is what is so different today to my past, where I was known to be racy and driven and unable to stop.

76. I read stories like yours Bina and I’m in humble awe of the loving choices you have made – choices that would have not been easy and that clearly show an unwavering commitment and dedication to coming back to the truth and love we all are.

    1. Thanks for the reminder Katerina.
       The choices were not easy and it is as you say my ‘unwavering commitment and dedication’ to getting myself back on the real road – thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine that I am able to do what I do today and be the real me.
       I claim that as best as I can and not try and be something I am not. In other words, there is nothing fake and phoney or driven with outer distractions now in my life. I am real, raw and uncut with the way I live life and connect with others.

       A total contrast to how this blog starts with all the nonsense that got me so ill.

77. Great point you make here Bina that stillness is more than just a physical stop. It is a way of being, a deep connection with ourselves and our true essence as human beings which can be equally present when we are doing something or when we are at rest. For me it is a certain quality of movement or living.

    1. This is the thing Andrew, that most tend to associate stillness with a physical stop. I for one was one of them before I met Serge Benhayon.
       I thought it was boring, a waste of time being still and also judged anyone, including my husband who has always had a deep quality of stillness.

       Today I value this quality beyond words and cannot imagine life without it. No wonder I say every single day THANK GOD FOR SERGE BENHAYON.

78. Society today congratulates us on achieving, working hard, keeping busy, being seen to be ‘doing’. Nowhere is stillness emphasized as being important to our everyday lives. Yet in the Universal Medicine presentations stillness and movement, repose and motion are both seen as being equally valid – and not only important but essential to our everyday health and wellbeing. Your blog illustrates this perfectly.

    1. Good point Sue and things are all about getting more, doing more and staying in this motion motion movement so stillness is not even on the radar. No wonder sleeping aids is now a multi billion dollar industry.
       We are trying to force stillness by making ourselves fall asleep but not asking why we do not have stillness in our everyday movements – something Serge Benhayon has been presenting from day dot. That stillness stuff used to bug me when he talked about it but now I get it because I have that quality which is deep inside my body and I know when it is not there as I feel quite disturbed.

       These days I have a lot of activity in my life but there is a quality that I know now and that word stillness is there and it helps to get a lot done without the drive that this blog describes.

79. I keep coming back to this blog as I have found it so useful in supporting me to move from the head to the body as the marker. Your experience Bina is like many other women and that is why this blog makes so much sense. The constant drive and constant overriding of the body is a game that I have played from birth. Writing about this is the best ever medicine we can give another. Yes the support you received through the hospital was paramount in helping you start your recovery but it was the willingness to stop and say hold on the old way is not working and there has to be another way that gets to the root of all this behaviours. The support of Universal Medicine and the various practitioners are a great source to start, but it is also the consistency and responsibility we all have to step up to in our daily living that makes the most powerful changes of all. Thank you Bina Pattel for continuing to inspire me as I too head down the same path of recovery and bring what is needed – nothing more and nothing less to each day!

80. How true stillness makes such a difference in our lives. It is only when we start to take responsibility for our lives that we can begin to connect to what stillness is. It took me a while as I was also living with a lot of motion of doing. My body gave me many signs, including heavy periods, endometriosis. Once I took responsibility and started to take time for me, with the support of Universal Medicine practitioners my life started to change.

81. Thank you for this very sincere honest sharing of listening to our body with the importance of this and connecting to and honouring our stillness within us all. Getting ourselves checked and not pushing on with life in a drive is something we take on and build into our very way of living and your sharing shows this can always be changed and that there is another way to live.

82. There is something inside of us that is pretty relentless, pushing and continually striving. So even when I hear that stillness is beneficial, my head just gets hold of this idea and it can get intellectual. So I love the practical and step by step way you describe coming back to your body Bina, retraining your physique, like a toddler. We all need to know when and where to stop – and if we let it, our body will let us know loud and clear as any parent what to do.

    1. I really understand what you are saying Joseph about the “head” which seems to have its own agenda and has an intellect that somehow is not at all honouring to the body it is attached to.
       The practical step by step stuff was a work in progress for many years and leaving notes to even remind me to stop was what I had to do to shift the ingrained way I had been choosing what seemed like forever.

       These days I cannot imagine letting things slip or go off track for very long as that stillness marker inside my body tells me loud and clear – “get back”.
       I am still blown away how different life can be simply by living the teachings of Serge Benhayon and continue listening as there is more – so much more.

83. Fantastic deeply honest blog Bina. How many of us have felt this ‘Loving me was not my thing, as it just felt uncomfortable.?’ Loving me continues to be a work in progress, a delicious deepening of stillness and an appreciation of who I am without any push, drive or doing. And without doubt as I deepen this love within me, so does the love naturally extend to everyone else.

84. Stillness is our natural rhythm within, but when we do not choose to express this, what is outside of us will direct how we live instead. Feeling the effects of our own choices, we are then given the opportunity again and as always, to come back to a deeper love for ourselves, closer to the stillness that reflects who we are naturally.

85. There is a rhythm within us and a rhythm that is outside of us. Being a woman in the world, every day it is to feel the balance between what is within and how to live that in a world which has a rhythm that is imposed upon every living human being. It comes down to how steady we are with our own rhythm and love.

86. thanks for this insightful sharing Bina, It really has brought many stop moments. The momentums that we live in, where it is drive drive drive, or achieve – sometimes even daily things like work and cooking dinner – it all has an impact. How precious to reconnect to the inner stillness.

87. Reading about how you had a drip in one arm and your work phone in the other hand has me appreciating how different you are today from the version you’ve described above.

    Nowadays you’re one of the most consistently self-loving people I know, and it really shows whenever I meet you in person. There’s a stillness and a steadiness about you that only continues to grow.

    Like ‘Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and all the amazing practitioners’ that reflect another way of living, you too are an inspiring example of how making a few simple, consistent choices to look after yourself can really impact your life for the better, as well as all the people around you, so thank you too, Bina.

88. Thank you Bina, “Even though I had physically been stopped, I could not stop the internal momentum.” I often say you don’t know what you don’t know, but there is clearly a choice somewhere to choose not to know so you don’t have to do anything about it. Taking time to feel the internal momentum is the most incredible gift I have been offered. Once you feel stillness there is much more awareness of the internal momentum and a greater commitment to finding a way to live that allows more space for stillness to be.

89. Bina, your honesty is refreshing. When we share our stories we have much to offer in the learning ourselves and from others. I am also still very much learning to be a human being and not a human doing! This stillness thing still evades me to a degree, but yet having said that, when I look back and see how far I have come from how I used to be, I must stop to appreciate the inroads to stillness that have actually been laid down. It is like we actually do know how to go about it, that it actually is our true and natural way of being, and so really it is about shedding the things that do not allow us to be in our natural state of…yes dare I say it…Stillness. Great reminder for me today, this morning to keep on working on my relationship with this deeper part of myself.

90. One cannot over estimate the advantages of going to bed early. It is best way to begin a healthy relationship with your body. From this first step we have an opportunity to feel the body and use it, as you so beautifully expressed Bina, “as a compass” to guide us on how to live in a way that takes our precious body into full consideration. Thank you for sharing your very personal story.

    1. I absolutely agree with you Kathleen about the advantages of going to bed early. Sleep is a huge subject and when I get asked the questions like what do you do to look young, stay steady and eat well, I tend to always say that sleep plays a big factor and is key. In fact without getting the sleep thing on track it throws the other stuff out.
       When our body has had the sleep it truly needs then we don’t need the foods and other stimulations. How I know this is because I have been testing out this for almost a decade. No perfection but there is really something in this going to bed early business. It is the answer for so many of our current world issues.

91. I find it interesting as a society how we can be very judgemental with those who do not work at a speed and how we champion those in raciness and how fast they work and how much they do yet in truth every moment in the doing is for self gain. I am also observing when I lose myself and go into this momentum and also I am observing when I do something at my own pace and it feels comfortable in my body the reaction it can cause in others. The key is knowing who I am first and then committing to work.

92. Even though the topic of this article doesn’t relate to men I can see how this whole thing does relate to me. The fact that when something is going on with your body we choose to ignore it until it hurts or at times knocks us down. Why do we ignore, what is ourselves in this way? I mean it’s not us and our body, they are one and so why or what causes us to ignore ourselves. As the article is saying the ‘busy’ life adds to the ignoring and so it’s important how you live or the quality you live. The quality is nothing about what you buy yourself or the location you live, it’s more about how you are, how you move in each moment. Like when you go to bed you prepare, you don’t just drive your car into the bedroom and step out and sleep. There are movements that support you to sleep and movements that will keep you up. So quality is a movement in preparation for something else and so how you move in each moment prepares you for the next moment or not, a quality of movement. As the articles is saying, “The biggest tip I could give any woman, any age, who knows something is not right in the woman department is to first go and get it checked out with your GP and then consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue.”

    1. Yes Ray this is a blog for all not just for women. we can learn so much from each other and listening to our bodies communications should be top of all our priorities.

       1. It’s great to see also women sharing advice and experiences for other people to learn from like this. We often hold a thought that it won’t happen to me or in someway we live separate to everyone else. More and more we are seeing people touched by illness and disease and yet this thought remains. As a man I would say also if there is something not right in any part of your body, go and get it checked out by a GP. More still, regardless of age go and see a medical practitioner every year as a part of a check in for your body. If there is a knock in your car or something doesn’t seem right you take it to a mechanic because you may get stranded somewhere by it breaking down or it may cost you more money. Our bodies should be treated with at least this base level of care. Keep them in a top quality state and they will support you back.

       2. It is so true Lucy that we need to make it top of our priority to listen to what our body is saying.
          Ray what you say in your comment below makes sense. I know so many men that shy away, think it is nothing and never go to the GP. In so many cases when they do end up going it has been very serious.
          I know many extended family members having heart surgery and cancer yet they avoided all the signs and put it off.
          WHY is that?
          WHY are we treating our cars better than our body?
          WHY are we at the vets the minute something is not right with the dog?
          WHY are we not seeing our precious bodies as worthy of getting an annual MOT?

          From the way I was living BSB (Before Serge Benhayon) I never thought about how I was living, the choices I was making and WHY I had all these women problems. All those I was hanging out with were the same so there was no reflection or anyone even questioning anything.
          Interesting how we have others confirm us and there is no one challenging or presenting another way so things stay the same. A kind of Acceptance.
          What I know now is THANK GOD I got rid of my shame and wrote this blog, which feels alive even after all these years. So much wisdom has been shared from my life since surgery by my ongoing commitment to write comments and keep this topic well and truly alive, so others who may come across it find something of value like you have Ray. Thank You for your contribution.

       3. Another blog in itself. We have so much choice it is painful to admit and accept we have chosen to ignore those warning signs for so long that the body actually had to break down in order for us to listen. As you say Bina we would NEVER do that to a dog, our child or the car so why ourselves?????

    2. Thanks Ray Karam for confirming that this article can relate to men because the busy motion on the go stuff is not just women. Ignoring our body is what most of us do without any thought as I did for all those years. If it had not been for Serge Benhayon I doubt there would be any real change after major surgery.

       You talk about quality and movement and these are both now very important in my daily life. I am aware more so than before that just walking from room to room has an impact on the next thing I do.

       Going for a walk every day dodging the rain in England is something that is as important as brushing teeth and both have the same quality. That for me is a vibration and something I know inside me as a marker. So if things go hairy it does not take long to find that marker that I know is a settled place inside me and get back on track. What I also know is that writing is super important in holding me steady.

       Over a year ago, I swapped wind down TV which I have to say was so boring flicking channels to writing comments or other stuff that may be valuable to others. I have never looked back since and never missed the screen. What is even more amazing is my husband who loves TV literally weaned himself off and I never opened my mouth. That is what I call a miracle and he cancelled the multi channel TV subscription.

93. That is superb advice – “consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue”, especially when it comes to our health, of course. There might be a cure or a remission but no true healing until we become honest and start taking responsibility.

    1. True medicine is in the way we live…and the choices we make. Thank you Gabriele.

    2. Thank You Gabriele – Yes this is superb advice as you say. Those words are really saying – ‘we each have a Responsibility’ and just by asking questions things at least are out in the open. Ignoring it, burying it, wishing it will go away or avoiding the inevitable is not helping us and our body cops these ill choices.

       I like what you say that we need to become honest and that I feel is the start. Without honesty we cannot go deeper and truth is just a word, not something we can live. I know for me it started with being honest even though life was ugly and uncomfortable and I hated being exposed or realised I was wrong or being fooled. These days I say ‘bring it on’ lets deal with whatever it is we need to as there is never anything that bad or worth even worrying about. This no big deal way of living has come directly from the teachings of Serge Benhayon and the more I live this way, it holds a steady and strong quality that is felt in my movements. Even my going to bed routine is super strong and unwavering in the way I choose to support me and my body, no matter what my day was like. Amazing really.

94. Acknowledging that applying the principles that Serge Benhayon has reminded humanity of has and continues to deepen in your life every day, is a light shining bright for everyone. With commitment and grace being introduced to our lives to care for, be gentle with and eventually love our bodies, we change, our bodies change and our beauty is there for everyone to enjoy.

95. I recall the days when I saw my body and its propensity to ‘let me down’ as one giant hassle, as an impediment to ‘getting things done’. My body was simply a vehicle for transporting my ever-busy mind around. As a result it was frequently breaking down with little ailments, which I promptly recovered from and then ignored. It wasn’t until I manifested a thyroid condition that I started to take my body far more seriously – and this several years into hearing enlightening presentations from Universal Medicine on the importance of honouring the body. There’s nothing like being faced with a critical or chronic health condition to make us sit up and take notice, though it’s also true that the messages delivered by even major illnesses can be denied.

    1. Ditto ditto Victoria Lister when you say “my body was simply a vehicle for transporting my ever busy mind around”. I never once even thought it was important or had any priority to take care of this precious body that I was carting and dragging around everyday. The very thought of paying attention to it daily was weird and felt like pandering and pampering.
       Great you took your body seriously after the thyroid diagnosis but most of us don’t truly make changes even after a medical scare. Yes we tend to sit up and take notice, like I did but it did not last. The old was was deeply embedded and those behaviours just popped back in the radar as soon as I could move. What was crazy was my mind was still going non stop thinking about this and that all the time – that never took a chill pill or a day off from nonsense head talk.
       It was AFTER seeing Simone Benhayon a year after surgery that I got a deeper understanding that the momentum I was living in before surgery was still there. I was not a happy bunny as that meant all my fake and phoney efforts for the past year were simply a waste of time. I got it.
       I then started slowly to commit to taking small steps everyday to stay as connected as I could to my body. This was the start and then things changed but no big fireworks or celebrations just because I started to go to bed early and actually prepare and cook food for myself. This was all new stuff to me.
       I had a long way to go but small steps did eventually build a solid and steady foundation which supports me in everyday life today.

96. So many women would relate to what you share here Bina about the fact that ‘allowing and being still’ seems so foreign. But this simply shows how far we have strayed from our most natural way of being, which is as women to bring an inner stillness and grace to all that we do – for those qualities are who we innately are. In today’s times the inner momentum you describe that keeps us so far from connecting to our stillness is so often arrested by our physical bodies which are designed to be harmonious to our natural flow – and when this is not the case, we have the disease rates we see sky-rocketing today.

97. Thanks for this Sally and it leads to a question –
    How many of us actually think that a stop moment from our body, be it an incident, accident, illness or major surgery as in this case is an ‘opportunity’. In other words a communication from our body telling us ‘enough mate, you are going down the wrong road and causing me too much harm, so I am putting a stop to it right now.’
    The truth is we don’t. To be very honest here, I never even had that thought and this way of seeing things was not on my radar until I met Serge Benhayon.
    BSB – Before Serge Benhayon I used to bang on about ‘listen to the whispers, so life does not shout at you.’ What utter twaddle when the truth of it is, I made a choice to not listen to my body and this blog confirms the mess I got into.

98. Our body is a compass, one that is extremely accurate, but of course we have to choose to use the compass.

99. Bina, thank you for sharing your experience from living in motion and non stop doing to ‘Today I feel a real woman who does have an inner stillness, which feels amazing and keeps me grounded.’ this is very beautiful to read that this is possible and how your life and health has changed as a result. I am learning that all the motion and doing does not feel true in my body and that connecting to the stillness and moving and doing from here feels true and natural and feels lovely in my body.

    1. It is great Rebecca that you can feel for yourself what is true in your body and what is not. That way you know what is needed to deepen that stillness which is within all of us equally so.
       Reading your comment, I just realised that I will not do any deals or trade with my head/mind department when it comes to my body. Recently I have upped the tiny messages like ‘go for a pee now not in 2 mins’ or ‘take that nap now instead of eating something you actually don’t want’ and it has supported me to go deeper with the surrender I have been speaking about in other comments.

       Our body really is streets ahead of what our tiny mind thinks it knows and believes. I am blown away by the intelligence it holds from knowing without checking the app what the weather is going to be, what I need to wear, what foods would support me best and what to write on my next blog or comment.
       It really is incredible to know this and live this to the best of my ability day in and day out.

       I THANK GOD every single day for Serge Benhayon.

100. This blog has been an inspiring read as I feel like you are speaking for all women. I too was the multitasking woman who could run a thousand and one tasks at any given time and never put her body first. I am now feeling the extent of the levels I went to ignore what the body was screaming out loud and clear. Building a foundation is so paramount and as you have shared Bina there is no quick fix. The six year process is a deeper level of understanding of how much surrender is required to live with a consistent level of stillness. This blog has become a regular read for me and it’s like I am looking into the mirror and being reminded of the true and loving advice from one woman to another.

     1. I know what you mean Carmel about it being tricky when you have housemates working full time and you are lounging around all day not doing much. All sorts of thoughts used to come through my head and it has taken a long time to knock them out and pay no attention to these ugly thoughts that are not in my best interests. Thoughts that support my true health and well being do not bang on at me and the marker in my body is they do not feel hard or make me tense.
        It is a moment by moment thing and I found that there needed to be a balance. Like you I could easily fill up my diary with doing doing activity but the million dollar question is – What is the Quality?
        What quality are we doing things in if the body does not get the EQUAL attention and dedication it deserves to do the job/activity?
        In other words if we regard resting and truly supporting our body as the same as something else we value, like work or a project, then bingo we are on our way.
        My take is same same in all components of life and that is where life has become more flowing and steady with stillness at the core.

     2. Great that you feel to re-visit this blog as it offers you something Natalliya.
        I made a commitment to see what unfolds by doing my best to comment on those commenting where there is something more to add to the pot, so to speak. In other words expand a bit more if needed. So far it has been working and it makes sense to not hold back anything for myself when sharing it may just support another like yourself.
        This surrender business is big if you ask me. It is for sure layers and layers of a Lack of Surrender and it is no quick fix or overnight thing. Our wayward mind has been dominant for most of us for so long that it is a new way of thinking and moving that will allow us to appreciate this precious vehicle – our body.
        Who would have guessed someone like me who totally trashed this human frame to talk about my body as precious. A clear confirmation that the teachings of Serge Benhayon are life changing and lifetimes changing if you are one like me who knows we do not just have this one life.

101. Amazing constellation happened today – I randomly picked a date – January 2015 and this blog came up – no co-incidence there because four weeks ago I had a hysterectomy like yours, Bina, with Uterus and cervix removed and ovaries left in place. I didn’t have any fibroids, but a prolapse, caused by pushing myself through life to achieve whatever I felt I needed to achieve, lifting heavy weights, because I could, and generally not being still in any way shape or form. This last four weeks has taught me to listen to my body more, to, as you say, take time to reconnect with the beautiful stillness within, and to live as a woman. ‘I cannot turn back the clock, but what I can do now is live every day taking deep care of myself and this is what I have been doing and it works. I love myself deeply and would never choose to harm my body again – ever.’ Sound advice, thank you.

     1. I agree Carmel – there is no such thing as co-incidence. I like your take on why you had a hysterectomy that your prolapse was caused by pushing yourself through life in order to achieve whatever it is you wanted. I wonder what the real statistics are on how many women globally have this type of surgery?

        We may not realise how huge this drive and push and overide issue is for women and how the body then communicates that back to us.

        Post surgery Carmel is an opportunity to learn how to move in a way that does not have the old way. In other words no more head in control telling the body what to do, over-riding what it feels or ignoring it even slightly. Slow steps is how I got to where I am today and no perfection needed.

        I tend to have a chat with myself and even a slight knock on my arm felt with the door pushed too hard, I would stop and say sorry to my body. Hold the part that felt a bit disturbed and restore harmony by asking myself what just happened, why and then move on. Not doing a post mortem by phone a friend or make the thing a drama has really helped.

        Knocking out the guilt when I choose to rest during the day and not give myself a hard time has been one of my biggest hurdles. Funny thing is I always get more done when I am truly and deeply rested.
        I call myself a ‘work in progress’ and thanks to Serge Benhayon every single day I have a great day being me and that drive push nonsense is no longer on my radar.
        I don’t care if others are working harder, faster or doing ten projects and two jobs. I know I cannot work in that way, simply because my body tells me so and I no longer feel bad about it. That in itself has made me more steady and that quality is worth living as the tension is no longer there.

        1. Thank you, Bina, I needed to read your reply as I am now eight weeks on, feeling stronger and at risk of going back into the old way. ‘Post surgery Carmel is an opportunity to learn how to move in a way that does not have the old way. In other words no more head in control telling the body what to do, over-riding what it feels or ignoring it even slightly.’ and as for resting and not feeling guilty yes, that’s a tricky one too as both my current housemates work full time. I have to remember I am 66, fragile, delicate and make sure that I tenderly honour that. I also have a heart condition (Atrial Fibrillation) that I tend to forget about until I feel suddenly tired and that’s needing more care too. I’m a great one for filling up my diary with activity – it was so lovely having it empty while I was recovering so I need to honour that too, and create more space for me. It is inspiring to know that the more you have rested, the more you can achieve, and there is absolutely no need to push to get anything done.

102. How did we think that separating from our natural quality of stillness and going into so much drive and motion was going to work out in the long term? I suppose that is the point; the mind overrides all sorts of messages the body communicates, thinking it knows best.

     1. You say “how did we think that separating from our natural quality of stillness…”
        The truth is Jenny – I did not even think that. I had no clue about separation, quality and I hated that word stillness, like I said I thought that was for boring lazy people. In fact it used to bug me when those people would relax, chill out, take a break, stop and contemplate or look up to the sky like they got some time. Me I thought what a waste, keep going, keep busy, motion motion. The monthly cycle thing was a gross inconvenience and things really did get from bad to worse but I found a way to keep going and function.

        Today it sounds way off, utter neglect and abuse for my precious body. In those days the thought of calling my body precious would be like a swear word. Seriously.
        Good news is I do not live there anymore. Thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon.
        I know different now. I live very different now and whilst I cannot erase or change my past behaviour, my way of Living now, day by day stamps out that old pattern and it has no hold over me. By that I mean I feel totally free of that ill way of living. It is not affecting me in anyway. Fact.

103. We refuse to stop and keep going despite the signals the body is sending us, thinking all the while that it is normal and even heroic; all the while we are as wound up as a tightly coiled spring and have forgotten that we are not much good to anybody when we don’t look after and care for ourselves first.

     1. Your comment made me stop Gabriele and ask WHY is it that we refuse to stop and just keep going despite all the signals that our body is communicating?
        Talking about this recently with a friend who is going through similar stuff as mentioned in this blog but without the big drama, we realised that
        1. there are no role models or shall we say very few reflecting another way to live.
        2. everyone thinks it is normal and it is accepted by the mass so we just keep going.
        So we never challenge anything, question or bother to stop as it simply is not in our radar.

        Enter Serge Benhayon and things change instantly. This man holds a super strong marker inside his body and this reflection that he constantly emanates has an effect on others. It is a quality that is lived and so this is what me and you and many others know and can feel.
        This is the game changer if you ask me.

104. Great Doug that you find this blog ‘deeply inspiring’. This tension you talk about because of living a hectic life is serious stuff and no wonder we have illness and dis-ease on the rise. You are right about it leading to our body breaking down in some way and the knock on effect of how it has an impact on those close to us, our community and our country. Our health systems are struggling and how we are choosing to live is contributing. I cannot erase my past and I know I was draining the health and welfare system before I met Serge Benhayon.
     This man has turned my life around and it would be true to say that my GP surgery has not needed to see me since 2009 – not even for a cold or sore throat. This in itself speaks volumes and confirms that the teachings of Serge Benhayon work and I am living proof of that.
     However, I would be the first to go if I had a tiny thing that felt wrong in my body. I am a great supporter of conventional medicine and as this blog said – I would get it checked out by the medics and then question WHY and what choices I was making that led to that point where something is not right and my body is communicating that to me.

105. That “loving me” thing you talk about Bryony was not for me as it felt like a liability – a Responsibility that I was not interested in to say the least. I was big into health spas, eating at fancy restaurants and making sure I kept up the high maintenance with manicures, pedicures, facials and any other beauty and hair treatments that made me think I was loving myself. But this true self loving stuff was not for me.

     After meeting Serge Benhayon, it took a few years and small steps to build a foundation that today is solid and consistent. I needed to learn how to commit to life in full and live that commitment day in and day out without any need for perfection but to see life as a learning because in truth that is exactly what it is.
     All I know is that there is no fast track but small steps everyday will build a strong foundation and I am living proof of that fact.

106. In my opinion any true healer will always consider the whole, which means accepting and embracing the best that conventional medicine can offer but also bringing a truly complementary approach to healing by offering more in terms of reflections on lifestyle and energetic choices that may have contributed to the problem in the first place. Serge Benhayon is one such true healer.

107. Awesome real story here you tell Bina and I agree that our bodies are our best compass in life and far more accurate at guiding the way to true health and wellbeing than our minds.

     1. People like ‘real’ stories as they are more relatable and there is no need to fluff it up or put words in to give it more flavour.
        Next – as the blog says and you confirm our bodies are our best compass in life and if we learn to connect as many of us have now through the teachings of Serge Benhayon, we begin to live with a quality that can be marked. In other words you can feel if you are not settled and there is a niggle, disturbance or something not feeling right.
        The other thing I have found is that the body seems to just KNOW. By that I mean it knows before you go and check the weather what the day is going to be or what to eat if you listen and pay attention.
        So I ate a big dinner late morning which is not me and very weird. But I had a strong pull to follow what my body was saying. Well guess what – that day I was going to be on some major train delays and not back till 10pm so I was full up and needed nothing. Got it.
        This happens a lot in particular with what to wear because of the weather. When I check the app, it is not always accurate but my body always is and this is something that really is amazing.
        Just to be clear I do not always listen as I am human with no perfection on my radar. But when I do it really does serve me.

108. Great advice Bina: “first go and get it checked out with your GP and then consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue.” Most of the time illnesses are only medicated so we can go back and live our lives and our way of living is not much evaluated, yet as you have shared and shown in your blog, the way we are living causes our illnesses and diseases.

     1. I agree Lieke – this is great advice coming from lived experience. So we have something not feeling right in our body. It is an act of Responsibility to get ourselves to the GP and see what the physician has to say. In the meantime, we can at least consider how on earth have we been living that got us this ill issue in the first place. Blaming or making excuses or whatever it is that we do to evade, avoid or deny what is going on changes nothing. Starting to at least ask questions may just support us to get back on track and move forward in a true direction. It is a choice. Always a choice.

109. Our choices indeed always catch up with us. Isn’t it beautiful the way in which our body communicates with us even though what is being presented may seem an inconvenience. We think in our minds we know best. We make plans but it is my body that I am learning to listen to and not what is going on in my head.

     1. I doubt most of us would want to hear what you just said here Caroline – “Our choices indeed always catch up with us.” We think we are getting away from it when we behave in dis-regard and self-neglect our precious body. But for how long?
        Our body takes a hit over and over again, gives us small whispers, in other words signs and then one day we get the big shout – the wake up call, the stop. What we then do is react and look for ways to fix the problem but never truly stop and ask WHY.
        WHY did we get the wake up call?

110. This shows how very powerful we are. There is so much we can do when it comes to our health and daily well-being.

     1. Yes indeed Esther – this blog is presenting how ‘very powerfull we are’ and as you say there is so much we can do when it comes to our health and daily well being.
        The thing is WHY is it that we don’t seem to bother or sit on the fence and make no changes and then wonder why things get worse?
        WHY do most of us have the surgery and then just go back to ‘business as usual’ – in other words our old way of living that got us ill in the first place?
        We think we are intelligent but in some ways how can we be if we do not learn from our ill choices.
        I for one can honestly say I doubt there would have been any major changes if it was not for the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

        1. Yes, Bina, this is a great question and I am with you, Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon bring exactly this missing link to answer the question of why.
           We so very much learn that we are dependant on everything around us and do not learn how powerful we are and that we can choose in every moment to live by our truth or not. We do not have to fall back into our old patterns but can let them go and choose a way to live that is more loving and graceful for ourselves.

111. Stillness is not something that is particularly valued in our society, where caffeine and sugar are the predominant things we use to support our everyday. Quite a thing to ponder on, and better now than while waiting in A&E!

     1. Great point Simon – society does not value stillness and our high levels of stimulants like sugar and caffeine consumption confirm this.
        Value is a great word and worth considering here. In my case having no value for my body led to the ill I ended up with. Today life is very different because what I value has changed.

112. This is what undermined much of my understanding of resting and being still, “Stillness for me was a word to describe lazy people, who were boring and laid back and could not multi-task.” Because of that I’ve run off nervous energy to keep going and keep busy. I love your honesty Bina of how you really didn’t know what stillness was or what loving yourself meant…. I didn’t either and saw it as being up myself or selfish but that’s where getting the right support is paramount and not trying and struggling to do it yourself. Beautiful to read the changes you have made and the fullness you live now.

     1. Thank you Aimee – being honest touches us because it makes things real. We have a responsibility when we write and express something out there like this blog and this comment. Being honest has to be in there or what a waste as no one benefits.
        The quote you use is true as that is exactly what I felt but to add to that I did not like people who did have this quality of stillness like my husband. He used to bug me as he always made sure he rested and still does today and never multi tasks. What is interesting looking back is that I made sure I was around people who pushed themselves and were driven to keep going and like the spinning top, even with a stop inside I was still spinning. Ugly but true.
        The changes I have made thanks to Serge Benhayon could fill up a book or two. My job now is to keep writing and keep expressing another way to live that works.

113. Great Bina -this brings responsibility to the table and I really appreciate your honest sharing – allowing yourself to look at why you were making some of the choices you made. To me I take from this the importance of having a relationship with our bodies where we can truly care for them, where we don’t wait for things to get worse, where we live in a way that means we are willing to look at everything. And stillness is another thing i am introducing more and more in the true sense – which I can feel is very supportive for my body and can be the quality of how i do things.

     1. That word Responsibility is huge really and honesty needs to be in there always. How on earth is anything ever going to change if we don’t start with being honest about what is not working in our life.
        I like what you say HM about introducing stillness in a ‘true sense’. We all have images and ideals about what that word Stillness means but to live it in the true sense has a quality that I have realised and there is so much more. It is like layers of stillness and you can go deeper if you allow your body to surrender more. Its like we are programmed to only let go to a point and we then have a choice to go deeper or bop back up and use our mind to take over and stop us surrendering further.
        Thank God for Serge Benhayon who keeps reflecting and presenting so much more about this word Stillness.

114. Allow, be still and listen to what the body is conveying, such a powerful, wise and inspirational message Bina, thank you. I very much appreciate you sharing your experiences, your knowledge and your wisdom.

     1. Thank you Shirley Scott and it’s great that you appreciate what is being shared here. Not once did it cross my mind that writing this blog would allow the reader to feel any wisdom. I just knew I was embarrassed and felt deeply ashamed of what happened to me and was worried about being judged. Add to that, I felt the woman downstairs department stuff needs to be hush hush as that was how my religion and culture that I was raised in was saying.
        What I now realise is that my commitment to responding to comments like yours holds a quality that keeps expanding if I allow myself to just write what I feel and not think about it.
        I find this easy and at the same time purpose-full. I never feel drained and there are days where I can write around 30 comments across the websites relating to Serge Benhayon.
        WHY? – Simple really, when it comes to Truth, I never run out of anything to say.
        Serge Benhayon is Absolute Truth.

115. This is a very real and raw blog. Your sharing Bina of burning your hand but also you sharing your understanding that ‘I really loved the drama and the stress it brought, which distracted me from just surrendering and listening to my body and feeling the truth of what was there to be felt.’ asks us to consider that accidents don’t just happen and is it possible that we create them for some reason to avoid being still and connecting with our bodies? This really leaves me asking what else do we create to avoid just being still inside?

     1. Yes this is true Shevon about me creating drama to add to the stress of what was already a major wake up call. I remember the pain was so bad that I could not imagine things getting any worse. What I have not mentioned in the blog was we were about to be evicted as our landlord did not keep their mortgage payments up to date. So on top of all of this, I was having to move house and at that time I was a serial hoarder and clutterholic so everything had to be packed and taken, as Letting Go was not on my radar.
        Fast forward to today and I can claim that I live a super simple life which really is Back to Basics. We have down sized and I have never been so content in my entire life. All this Thanks to Serge Benhayon and his teachings.

116. What a turn around of your life and way of living, thank you for sharing Bina, ‘it has been a slow step-by-step process to have a real close relationship with my body, and now I finally know what stillness is’.

     1. Thank You Lorraine – Yes I most certainly know what stillness is and I know when that marker is not in my body. It leaves a disturbance and the steadiness is not as solid so it is very easy now for me to move and get back to what I know is stillness. However, over the years I have come to realise that there are deeper levels of this marker of stillness and that comes from surrendering. Not easy as the head kicks in so it has been a constant adjustment to my rhythm to allow the space to let go and keep letting go.
        All I know is life BSB (Before Serge Benhayon) is no longer on my radar and by that I mean I could never go back to living a life that is so dis-regarding to my body.

117. ‘At no point did I ever consider the seriousness of what my body was telling me.’ We find all kinds of ways to not listen to the body and our mind is good companionship in this, in telling us to go on and on with thoughts that support to continue and to not feel inside to ask the body what is going on and I mean truly going on. And without the (usual) beating up, but lovingly examine what the body is telling us and accommodate accordingly. Serge Benhayon once said; “the body is the marker of truth” and your story Bina is a clear example of this saying.

     1. I agree Annelies that our body shows us all the choices we are making, so it is the marker of Truth whether we like to admit that or not. There is no getting away with anything even if we would like to think we are.
        In my case, I was so unaware and to be honest I never once thought that how I was living had anything to do with my awful periods for almost three decades and even when things got really bad, I just accepted it as a bad luck thing.
        Thank God for Serge Benhayon who holds a super strong marker of truth in his body which is reflected to others like myself. So when he presents and teaches, you get it because he is living that Truth. I trust you get what I am saying here.

118. “It really does not pay to ignore the signs when things are not feeling right with your body. How on earth did I think I was going to get away with 35 years of ignoring my periods and expecting to be ok?” Yet so often we do ignore the signs our body gives us all along – and think we can get away with it. Even after a crisis it is common for us to return to our old ways and habits. Attending presentations by Serge Benhayon has been a wake-up call for me – and many others.

     1. Just re-reading this Sue I think how sad that it took 35 years for me to even look at the WHY question of heavy periods. Before that it was simply not in my radar. I also feel that if it was not for Serge Benhayon and his teachings, I doubt there would have been such a great solid change after.
        As you say we return to our old ways and habits even after a crisis and I think I was no different. I wanted to get life back to normal which in truth was far from normal.

119. A very relatable account of the consequences of the inner momentum to get things done and ignore our body. I have been chipping away at this pattern for a few years now so I can feel when I have forsaken my stillness and slipped into the doing, and self correct or seek help from an esoteric practitioner. I now appreciate my body and how it is always guiding me to come back to me by throwing out signals when things are not right.

120. Bina what you clearly show here in your blog is that there are consequences to ignoring the body and being in constant motion, never stopping for a moment to listen to your body. It is a great learning for us all that we can’t continually ignore and push our bodies and expect them to keep on going without them breaking down in some way.

     1. Alison you make a great point about how there are always consequences when we choose to ignore our body and being in constant motion because we never stop for a moment.
        The world seems so focussed on solutions so we can continue to function when it comes to illness and disease and no one seems to be interested in the WHY. In other words how did we get to the ill in the first place?
        Serge Benhayon is the first person I know who really does nail it and leaves no stone unturned. He has the answers for us and so much more..
        I am a living testimony of what is possible even after a hysterectomy.

        1. So true Bina, Serge Benhayon is the first person I know who has made sense of the body and why we get ill. Taking a moment to stop and reflect on what is causing our illness makes sense, and even if we don’t always know the answers immediately, I have found that if I keep looking at how I have been responsible in some way to cause the illness, I eventually get a much better understanding of the changes that I then need to make.

        2. Good point Alison – we do need to look at how we have been living and that we are responsible in some way for the cause of the illness as you say. How is anything ever going to change if we put it down to genes, bad diet and lifestyle or blame it on God or the microwave or any other thing outside of us.

           I agree Serge Benhayon was the first person that made sense of the human mind and body and gave me understanding and answers that just made sense. I have never looked back and after 11 years of clocking him, I can honestly say he knows what he is on about. He has heaps to offer this world and he is well worth studying.

121. Returning to our innate stillness can be challenging for those who have invested heavily in being in constant motion. Unlike you I was not always busy doing, I was always busy giving up and feeling anxious, which brought a constant motion to my body. Coming back to the stillness has healed a lot in how I go about my day. Nowadays there is a feeling of being grounded, steady, and more committed. It certainly is a big change from how I used to feel.

     1. Most of us would find it challenging Robyn because we are ‘heavily invested in being in constant motion’ as you say. It’s like a force that runs the show and that momentum is in everything and nothing can stop it until we get the accident, incident, illness or disease.
        What is interesting about your comment is that it is not just the busy doing doing as this blog states, but also someone like yourself who had the ‘giving up and feeling anxious’ which also left the body in a constant motion.
        It is easier to see how movement doing doing is motion but not giving up, as that seems like a still thing.
        This speaks volumes as it confirms they may seem like opposite ends of a scale but in truth both give the same result – motion that is disturbing for our body.

        1. So very true, Bina. Thank you for expanding on my comment and bringing to light the two ends of the same spectrum. It is easy to not see it as this, and get caught in the illusion of not being busy if we are not in constant busyness and a constant doing, when there is so much happening inside the body that is not being acknowledged.

        2. I agree Robyn it really is not easy to see when we are not moving fast or speaking at a fast pace to ‘think’ we are slow and steady and not in motion.
           I know of many clients who seem super quiet and look as if they are still but their anxiousness is sky high and their body inside racing. In fact this is also the case with children too and how we catch this usually is they have a bump, accident or something happens as there is no ‘control’ in how they are living. In other words they are not trying to ‘be’ anything, so it is easily exposed, whereas an adult can try and work at being cool on the outside, even if they are not on the inside. I trust you get what I am saying here.

        3. Yes Bina I couldn’t agree more as that has been the truth in many cases for women myself included. It is not until you get the BIG stop moment that you start to register the extent of how you have been living and for how long the body has been battered in the process. It is interesting how the process of change like you mentioned does not take place over night but over many years and this comes with a consistency and a huge load of responsibility to live true care.

122. Multi-tasking is being heralded as a talent and something to be proud of even though the body screams out its effects. Even on a telephone call, when we can’t even see the person we are talking to, it becomes very easy to feel if someone is distracted and multi-tasking. Quite often the conversation is very difficult to follow which leaves it open for much miscommunication.

     1. Great what you say here Vicky and very true – “multitasking is being heralded as a talent and something to be proud of”. I know exactly what you mean about someone on the other end of a phone doing something whilst talking and you can feel it.
        It happened to me recently and I told them I felt they were doing something else and that I was no longer going to continue as it felt disturbing for me. In the past I never had this awareness but of course I realise it would be a blind spot in me as I was queen of multi tasking.

     2. Yes Vicky this is so true. Often we are engaged in a conversation with another on the phone and they will answer that they are in the process of doing another task. It can cause many interruptions as the need to want to multi task can often lead to a lack of presence with the person on the other end of the phone line.

123. ‘Even 4 miscarriages made no difference to my mind, which was telling me: “Focus on getting your work done”, and that’s what I did. I had a mobile phone in one hand and a blood transfusion going in the other arm.’ It’s incredible that the mind views the body as a hindrance… when the body is our greatest asset, and when connected to, has a very dedicated purpose, rather than an agenda.

     1. Thank you Kylie Jackson for this stark reminder of how I used to live which feels like decades ago.
        My priorities thankfully have changed and my body is now number one instead of not even on my past priority list. My mind does not get its way and these days my body is such a strong compass that I feel something and have an instant knowing. At times I override, but it’s fast to communicate back to me so I don’t really get away with much.
        Living a life ignoring my body is no longer on my radar thanks to Serge Benhayon. A man who has given me so much understanding and this is why I have been able to make the changes that I have.

124. Thank you Bryony for confirming that you can relate to so much of what this blog is saying. I reckon many of us can in some way as this motion business is a killer in modern life today.
     The drama thing is so ugly but deep down I got something from it. An excuse to not take responsibility and make the changes needed so I could get on with it. Also the fact that it comes with a hidden recognition in that I could bang on about it and others would want to know the ins and outs as it was so awful. Bit like those TV soaps they call, that are just gossip, drama and more of the nonsense that really makes no difference to our evolution.
     There is a bigger picture as you say and that word surrender for me took some time and there are layers and I would be the first to say I am a ‘work in progress’. Forever committed to honouring my body and deepening my surrender which is about going more inside me and observing everything that is outside me. A totally new way of living and it certainly holds a quality that is very steady.

125. Bina, thank you for sharing your experience, I can feel how common it is for us as women to multi task and think that we have to complete so many different things, there is almost an expectation that we must be like this and resting and nurturing seem to be luxuries that we just don’t have time for, what you are sharing is how vital caring for and nurturing ourselves is and that there is a quality of stillness that we as women are missing out on, this is our natural way and yet it seems so rare for us to live like this, ‘there is another way ­– and it starts with stillness.’

     1. It is very common Rebecca as you say how women multi-task. I was in the laundrette yesterday and just hearing the conversations the women were sharing confirms this. It has become the normal because the majority do it. But in truth it is abnormal to be doing more than one thing so our mind is all over the place juggling and our body is playing catch up or in most cases totally disconnected from the task in hand. No wonder I had stress and lived with anxiety like it was really not a problem.
        What I know now, thanks to Serge Benhayon is that there is another way to live and it starts with stillness.

126. Awesome tip Bina – so simple and yet makes so much sense. “The biggest tip I could give any woman, any age, who knows something is not right in the woman department is to first go and get it checked out with your GP and then consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue.”

     1. An awesome tip indeed Tamara and we could really apply it to anything and not just the woman department stuff. We each have an instant knowing even if it is a split second thing and we tend to ignore it and hope it won’t come back to remind us. But what if we just checked it with the GP then at least we know by way of confirmation that we did feel something and it was not a waste of time.
        On some level I feel this is taking responsibility. Leaving it could have more serious consequences and further drain our health systems.

     2. Simple and great tip Tamara. The wonderful part of this blog is that it wasn’t the visit to the hospital that was the true healing but a willingness of Bina to stop and say enough with the way I am living. The harming levels were an indicator that what she, like other women think we can push through, yet our bodies show us the true and unwavering reality.

127. ‘there is another way ­– and it starts with stillness.’ The best thing I know that has me connecting to the stillness is Esoteric Yoga. This is an amazing modality, so far little known but a huge thing to discover.

128. Thank you Susan for that confirmation. I feel this is the responsibility factor that is missing for most of us where we leave things, procrastinate, ignore it, avoid it, deny it is going on or hope it will just go away. I am living proof that none of those actually work but stack up as in my case, which then led to major surgery. So I made a big mistake but by writing and sharing my personal experience I have realised that others may just take note like you have with your comment.
     Once the doctor bit is done, it is then time to stop and have an honest look at how we are living that may have possibly caused the ill in the first place. In other words, consider if our daily choices are contributing to what is going on in our body.

129. Bina what an amazing story, thank you so much for sharing this. I am sure you are not alone in a lot of what you have mentioned here. There is a lot that I can relate to myself. The tension one feels in the body when we are not allowing ourselves to just stop. I have equally lived on a treadmill that never slowed down and put others above myself, just to get stuff done. This has turned around, but only over time, with the love and support of many Universal Medicine practitioners, presentations and courses by Serge Benhayon, have I learned another way of being.

     1. Thank you Reagan. Yes it is an amazing story because of the changes thanks to the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. Many of us at some point in our life can relate to blogs like this because they are real life and there is nothing fluffing them up. It was not written to do anything other than share the ugly stuff, say it as it is, what the changes were and appreciate how I got there – Serge Benhayon and his incredible support.

130. It feels so logical to look at how we are living yet so many of us reject even the notion of this as many of us have become queens of the over ride. Women have a natural stillness within them, to fight this is to fight our very nature…as many of us are learning as our bodies give us signals like screaming sirens and red flashing lights. I know when I was young and someone suggested being still, I thought that that would be the most boring thing in the world. What I have now discovered is that being still is the most connected, wonderful feeling that gives my life the foundation for living me.

     1. I agree Amanda it is logical really to look at how we are living yet for some reason we ‘have become queens of over ride’. Not a title we want to live, as overriding who we feel and ignoring our body in any way has consequences, as this blog spells out.
        Just like you I thought being still was boring and my partner has always been steady and that used to bug me as I could not understand why he did not like multi tasking or speaking fast.

131. I found this a little bit of an uncomfortable read as I can feel it is asking me to go much deeper in terms of looking after myself and no longer disregarding my body. I too have that drive and wanting to push on and it can bring up feelings of irritation to stop this, I can feel that is because I don’t want to stop and feel what it is that my momentum has been covering up that I have been avoiding feeling.

     1. Great that you are able to leave a comment MW and say this blog was an ‘uncomfortable read’ as it is asking you to go much deeper in terms of looking after yourself. This is so true and what I can say 8 years after this surgery I no longer have a drive or push in me. There is no feelings that bug me as stop is the normal for me. I have a deep rhythm now that I honour and value that is adjusted often and no two days are the same. The foundation routine stuff is there but even that is tweaked and by that I mean reviewed and refined as needed.
        I am far from perfect but how I live today is nothing even close to how I used to live before this blog.
        ALL this thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon.

132. “Stillness for me was a word to describe lazy people,” I meet so many people who just cannot stop, even after serious illness. Our body gives us so many warning signals. When we do stop and take notice, as you did after surgery, it makes a massive difference to the quality of life. The stillness then embodied affects not only oneself, but everyone around.

     1. You are right Sue there are so many people who just cannot stop even after a serious illness.
        For the record I cold not stop after surgery. It was after the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine practitioners that things changed and I got my big fat wake up call.
        Yes indeed – it does make a huge difference to the quality of life when we learn how to truly stop, take note and reflect on the choices we have made that got us to the ill in the first place.

        1. That’s the key point, Bina, to reflect on the choices that got us ill in the first place – I have seen so many people with different illnesses go back to old patterns of behaviour and wonder why they got ill – again.

133. The internal fight between who I am and what I choose to do Bina, is exactly the momentum that I find myself being governed by. It takes a very firm No with all of myself that I have to keep coming back to, to finally start releasing this momentum in different areas of my life. Although it is not easy at times, it is more grievious to be led by what I know is clearly harming me, and it is with the consistency of holding and caring for myself, as well as deeply appreciating myself that gradually allowed me to be released from this form of control that I chose.What I deeply appreciate Bina is your acceptance and just get on with living the true way attitude without self critique or guilt, this is awesome.

     1. I like how you talk Adele about a ‘very firm No..’ which makes sense to me.
        Consistency is a key word here and this really speaks volumes. Things change albeit slowly when we are consistent in truly being present with our body. By that I mean making sure we keep our mind focused on what the body is doing to the best of our ability. If you miss something, forget something, bump into something or anything like that, then these are sure signs you were not with your body for that moment even if it was only a few seconds.
        Next – Great that you can appreciate my acceptance of me and the way I just get on with it, which is ‘living the true way attitude without self critique or guilt’.
        Gone are those nonsense days of self criticism and guilt as it got me nowhere and felt like it was attacking this body that I now perceive as precious.
        I am human and I make mistakes but so what. I never signed up to be perfect in any way shape or form so its easy just to say ‘OK learn the lesson and lets move on’.
        Final thing – that acceptance you mention has a knock on effect. I have noticed I am far more accepting of others these days than ever before. Interesting to observe and not be disturbed by what is going on outside of me.

134. Hello Bina, it was quite a shock reading your blog again today to realise how much in motion, busyness and racing mind I’ve lived in, even when resting in bed. I could really relate to your story and the negation of my own natural stillness. Why was I shocked? Because I have now, with the support of Universal Medicine and the Esoteric Yoga Stillness Program, begun living connected to my body and my stillness – it feels so natural that I have just forgotten how I used to be – simply unable to stop, especially on the inside. It’s quite a beautiful appreciation to reflect back and see where I am now. It would be great to get an update or part two to your story here….”Bina’s life in stillness”!

     1. Hello Melinda – you make a great point here about being in motion even when resting in bed. We often forget that we may think we are sleeping or resting but the body may be racy. I know so many people taking sleeping tablets and there seems to be all sorts of alternative remedies at my pharmacy for helping people get to sleep. No one questions WHY they are not able to sleep. We just want to fix the problem get the solution and keep going.
        The part two story update that you are asking about will be posted on The Truth about Bina Pattel website next year.

135. Reading your story Bina it clearly shows the cause and effect of the way we live. When we connect to our inner stillness the messages from our body are a tender nudge but when we live in disregard of our inner stillness the body has to scream and shout to be heard to get us to stop.

     1. Yes indeed Mary – this story clearly shows the cause and effect of what happens when we make a choice to ignore our body and then carry on in that same pattern until boom one day the body says No.
        We all hate pain and yet it seems the way our body has to communicate to us to get us to simply stop.
        I know if I had not experienced so much pain, I doubt I would have even considered making any changes and looking at why I got to surgery in the first place.

136. Reading this I get the most gorgeous sense of how loving our bodies are. If we are choosing to live with no awareness of our beauty and grace, the body will indeed let us know as it cannot stand to see us living without the knowledge of our divinity.

     1. I agree Rachael that our bodies will let us know but in my case it was 27 years of trashing it before I got the final Stop and NO message.
        I say our body takes the hits and allows us to override to a point and then things get ugly and we tend to want to do something. Many of us go back to our old ways, after medication, surgery or whatever it is we need to do. We do this because we feel the old way was familiar and comfortable but this means deep down there is not any real change.
        Serge Benhayon has supported me and thousands of others to get to the root of WHY it happened in the first place and to heal the issue so that our body is clear of that way of living. We then get an opportunity a sort of second go at living another way and our new choices support our body. Speaking from my own experience I know this works and having a body that actually talks to me is quite a gift considering how wayward I was in the past.

137. To not consider how we are living when an illness comes up in our body, is a very clear sign that we are living out of accord with the harmony and natural rhythm we can choose in life. Bina it was very powerful to read a your honest experience of this and how honouring Serge Benhayon was of you and of the process of healing required including conventional medicine. The advice you offer at the end of your blog shows the lesson was well learned.

     1. Thank you Simon V – I agree that when we are deeply honest it is ‘very powerful to read’ as you say.
        Yes the lesson was well learned but not an easy one to start with. Sticking to it required my commitment and focus. Dilly dallying and making excuses for this and that was not cutting it. It felt like I was not moving. Roll on today and things are by far so different and so much more sound, steady and solid.
        As I say every single day THANK GOD FOR SERGE BENHAYON.

138. Awesome blog Bina. So insightful, Thank you for sharing.

     1. Thank you Jenny for this confirmation. We often think that sharing something may not make any difference or why bother when there is already so much out there but what if there is more and each of us has our own unique way and our quality of expression is different.
        Holding back waiting for others to say it or simply not bothering confirms that things will stay the same. Just one person sharing a story like this can make a difference and who would have guessed that a blog remains ‘alive’ just by regular commenting. It is like the blog expands more through the comments.
        We could say it is evolving.

139. “Yes I had endometriosis, cysts and fibroids but that never stopped me doing anything. These were all big fat signs to tell me something was clearly not right about the way I was living.” Such major things Bina, yet as these symptoms of disharmony become more common in women, and therefore more accepted, and thus less ‘urgent’ (… and therefore become more and more common – there’s the vicious cycle), we are missing the education that teaches us our bodies are constantly feeding back to us what feels at odds/painful/disregarding and self-loving/yummy and nurturing. This blog site has become a wealth of evidence that supports others to know the truth of their bodies.

     1. I agree Rosanna – this blogsite has become a wealth of evidence and a clear testimony to the work of Serge Benhayon.
        You are right about the symptoms I describe in this blog are ‘such major things’ yet they were accepted and not urgent or a priority on my life agenda back then.
        Today my true health and well being is at the top and nothing, absolutely nothing comes before that.
        I finally realised the value of my precious body and this focus to take deep care of myself is now my new normal.

140. Bina for me I would ignore having bleeding when I would go to the toilet, I would investigate it a few times but then put up with the fact it happens. Today its very rare but it was almost daily. I can really relate to your sharing that you just powered through, didn’t stop and look at why and were living up to being “superwoman”. Its really inspiring to read your living transformation and just shows how much our body is actually supporting and talking to us, even though we can see it as a nuisance.

     1. Just read the words ‘superwoman’ in your comment MA and I realised that is exactly what my goal was and I was doing a great job at that – so I thought. Absolute no regard for my body which was pushed, driven and dragged out of bed everyday.
        Today my work output and everything else that I choose to do holds a quality that is not racy and there is no push or drive. In fact the total opposite. I put my body first always and I would even stop and question if I bumped my elbow or if I felt tension, no matter how small. The truth is I no longer over ride what I feel.

141. Trying to ignore symptoms of difficult periods from the age of 11 years goes against any response a delicate young girl would naturally have. So this must have been a learned response from family, peers and society. It is incredible that in 11 years the beauty and healing capacity of periods can be turned into something we can learn to ignore, keep quiet about, and to soldier on regardless. A lifetime of this ignoring is what results in an adult woman needing to collapse to take any notice of the their body. This has to change for so many reasons and this needs to come from the adult female role models that our girls take their cues from.

142. At a time when you are already feeling quite vulnerable, like after having a miscarriage, probably the last thing you would feel like having is an internal examination. I am not sure if doctors realise the dread most women have of this procedure, as we may not consciously know it but this is a very sacred part of our body and it has often been treated with neglect or abuse. I don’t think most doctors know how they can be so that the woman can relax and feel safe. It seems to become a very functional activity with little extra care or tenderness involved. I also find most of us just check out of our bodies and try to think of something else. So between client and practitioner there’s little hope of any connection.

     1. You are right Fiona about checking out of our body during internal examinations let alone after a miscarriage as in my case. I would say that the deep lack of connection to my body was the main factor that contributed to all these issues in the first place. Living that doing doing multi tasking life was so normal that I was in checked out mode all the time. I lived with a constant state of anxiousness and tension at the same time without any regard for my body. I had no role models or anyone who was reflecting a true way of living. Thank God I met Serge Benhayon in 2005 as that is when my life changed for the better.
        Roll on 11 years and I can honestly say I now live a quality of life that is beyond anything I could have dreamed of – truly incredible.

143. Correct Sally – this avoiding it or sitting on the fence when it comes to the women’s department stuff is making things worse. Why is it that our private stuff is not seen like other parts of the body?
     Why do we have such a hush hush thing about women’s problems?
     I grew up in a culture where you simply do not talk about it and having a hysterectomy is so common its seen as very normal routine surgery for women of a certain age. Really?
     Thank God for Serge Benhayon is all I can say right now.

144. Stillness is amazing and not what we think at all. It is a quality of the Soul, and recently I discovered that on a vibrational level it is actually much faster than raciness. In stillness space opens up and as you are energetically faster so to speak you are able to see more clearly what is going on. It is like living in another dimension and the more still I am, the more I usually get done but in a completely different quality and way and not with that doing energy!

     1. Thank You Nicola for both your comments. Great that you find this blog so relatable.
        I agree that the true quality of stillness is not just feeling the relief of less racyness. For me it is something that deepens as I make choices to develop and make this a priority in my daily life. By that I mean there are things that need to be reviewed, looked at and refined on a regular basis. This then changes the quality of the stillness. The vibration is different and it really does feel like I am living in another dimension.
        I get less caught up in nonsense and my focus is a lot more stronger which means less distractions and more getting on with the task in hand.

145. Bina both you and your blog are super gorgeous and so relatable. Even if we have not had a hysterectomy or the adventures you describe I am sure many women (and probably men too) can relate to the points you make. I first saw Serge Benhayon 12 years ago in 2004 and he observed how I was not being self-loving. It took me many years to start to understand what that meant, and only in the last few years have I truly started to understand what stillness is which is very different from just feeling the relief of less racyness. Thank God indeed for Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and all the amazing practitioners and people like you (and me) who are living and providing a true reflection for the world.

146. What a gem this is to read Bina. I am sure you speak for so many of us when you react to the whole prospect of stillness and consider it the sign of someone who is completely boring and actually just unable to multitask with the best! However, I have had to eat many a humble pie to see that my raciness is not others being boring but the fact that I am out of kilter. How did I find that out? By listening to my body just like you. This is never about the outside world telling us to do anything, this is about our bodies speaking, or sometimes screaming very loudly, and us finally taking time to listen to them. Personal responsibility is very humbling.

     1. I agree with you Lucy – this blog is a ‘gem to read’. It holds value as it is so real life and blunt to the point.
        As you say stillness is not boring but telling us we are off track. The bit I love is your last sentence –
        “Personal Responsibility is very humbling”. That in itself speaks volumes.

147. ‘Even 4 miscarriages made no difference to my mind, which was telling me: “Focus on getting your work done”’

     I can really relate to this as I live with this all of the time hence why I have fibroids.

     When you’re in that way of thinking it feels so familiar and like it’s the most normal thing in the world that I feel rattled and confused if anyone tells me any different – like ‘rest’ or ‘let go’.

     This makes me realise that the desire to ‘do’ is so ingrained, more than we realise and that it takes a major illness for us to see what we are doing to ourselves and in some cases not even that wakes us up.

     Reading this blog makes me realise that we’ve got it all upside-down, in the way that we live and our priorities.

     1. Great comment Shevon and I would agree we do have it all upside down in the way we are choosing to live and what our priorities are.
        This do do doing stuff is killing us all and not just women. Our ingrained behaviour patterns like you mention seem to fuel us to keep going and even a major organ removal does not change the momentum of doing as this blog clearly states.
        What does it take for us to say NO – enough, time for real change. I say it starts with a real dose of honesty. If we don’t get honest about what is really going on for us then there is little chance of change.

        By the way like you, I used to get rattled when still people suggested I rest deeply, surrender my body or let go. Those words used to bug me so much and make me angry. Interesting how different my life is today.

        1. Funny I too used to get very bugged when people told me to relax and that was often because they would tell me to relax because they couldn’t handle my tension, so it was said from reaction and not expressed as a truth ie they needed to relax (me too). People rarely say it these days because I am much more harmonious and if they did I would be unlikely to react. The other thing is that we are made to work and be committed to life until our last breath and that is great, nothing wrong there at all. The issue (as I know you both know) is not about what or how much we do but the energy and intention we are doing it in.

148. Bina the point you make that “it has been a slow step-by-step process to have a real close relationship with my body” stood out. Throughout schooling and beyond there was a real focus on achieving success from grades to pay levels, but the part that was missing was always the care taken of our own body, it is this that now provides the greatest stability in my life.

     1. Love what you say here David that throughout our education, the system does not provide any focus on taking care of our own body and if it did then it would provide the ‘greatest stability’ as you have found in your own life.
        WHY is it that we do not teach our children the basics of listening to their body and allowing them the permission to honour what they feel?
        WHY is success about our grades and pay levels as you say?

149. “Stillness for me was a word to describe lazy people, who were boring and laid back and could not multi-task. I was not one of them or even contemplating ever becoming a still woman.” I can absolutely relate to the frustration at being told to be still and could feel the squirming in my body because of the momentum of activity I had built up over the years. I thought the power of a woman came from the ability to be everything to all people all the time and being ultra capable at everything. I now understand the power of a woman comes first and foremost from her connection to her innate quality of stillness, a quality that once connected to is then taken in to all that she does.

     1. Great reminder Deborah and yes the Power of a woman is in her stillness. Reading those words and listening was one thing but to actually live that is another. It has taken a long time for me to realise what it is to live with the power of stillness an that I am enough.
        The stillness has a quality – a presence that does not need words. It just is.

150. I too once thought stillness was inertia and not doing anything. Recently I’ve discovered it is a quality. I can move through my day (and get a lot done) whilst being in the quality of stillness. Or I can do it in drive and raciness, always thinking about what I’ll be doing next and what else needs to be done. When I operate in stillness it is as though I am in complete harmony with the world around me, there is a flow to life that is exquisite and at the end of the day I feel the same as I did at the start and all through the day – I’m with me and that doesn’t change.

151. Thanks for sharing Bina. It seems the women of the world are caught in motion – we are fantastic multitaskers and we are able to do an incredible amount. This is a fantastic trait we have but when we do not have stillness, we are severely out of whack. When we are out of whack the world is out of whack.

     1. The thing is can we call it a fantastic trait to multi task Nikki ?
        I say no multi tasking works because it takes you away from the whole you. Consider a bit of you over there and here at the same time. You feel divided and cannot focus absolutely on the task at hand so your quality is diluted in some way. Your body is not aligned with your jumpy mind that is racing around as it cannot be present fully as it is not doing just one thing.
        I know my family and old friends think I have lost the plot as I am classed as ‘slow’ as I no longer multi task but the Truth is I get more done by being present and doing my best to focus on one thing and having the space to do that always gives me the impulse to know what is next needed. In fact I am more productive now than I have ever been in the past with my multi tasking.

152. So honest Bina, I love your down to earth approach of saying how it is, no flowery embellishments, just the facts of what happened to you when you refused to listen to your body. You have really exposed how harmful not listening to our body is, and by over-riding these warning signs, we eventually become sick. Our body can only take so much before it has to give us very clear and very strong messages and even then, through disregard and self-loathing, we can over ride these messages too. A powerful message we can all learn from.

     1. Thank You Alison for confirming you love the honest down to earth approach of how I say it as it is. The flowery embellishments you talk about takes us away from what the essence is of what needs to be said. I am so aware that people like the real stuff and get to the point is what I am always saying. We lose track of miss the point if there is fluff and language that not everyone understands.
        As a writer I do my best to write the same as I live – basic and simple.
        I agree with you that this blog is a powerfull message for us all and not just women with heavy periods.

153. Bina thank you for sharing your experience with blunt honesty. Your comment that by ‘using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me’ is true for my ongoing experience with myself, especially if I get caught up in a mental drive to push on until a task is complete at work. I will feel bodily aches and pains that are not present when I am working in harmony with my body.

     1. Thank You Anne Hart – blunt honesty works for me. I know exactly what you mean about pushing on until a task is complete at work and how ugly that feels in the body.
        For me I get a small little whisper and if I ignore it then bang I get a shout and usually I say out loud OK stop – it can wait. My body knows best and right now it is saying enough comments, time to close the computer and focus on what is needed to support work tomorrow and another early night. Goodnight.

154. Bina, your deep honesty in what you have written makes it very easy to relate to, all the busyness that we so often go into or live day by day. The love and care you have built for yourself is a shining example of how we can turn things round, break old habits and patterns and bring a completely different quality to life .. stillness. Our bodies respond to love or what is not loving on every level, as your blog clearly shows.

     1. Thank You Ruth. I reckon starting with a dose of honesty is going to set the ball rolling in the right direction if we want to get to Truth. Commitment and Consistency has to follow if we want real change.
        Yes I am a living example of what can happen when we apply Serge Benhayon teachings and live them to the best of our ability with no perfection. Our body responds to basic simple living and loves the stuff we may call boring, like early bed, eating food that supports and nourishes us or going for a walk everyday. Same same works and I realise that it is the mind that wants more stimulation, more distraction and more of anything that ignores our precious body. My job now is to focus and pay attention to what my body communicates and the rewards are beyond words.

155. By separating what we do with who we innately are, we set ourselves up for a lifetime of ill health and miss out on the opportunity to re-learn how to move in a way in which we take the stillness with us. That is, we become aware that there is a movement that allows us to bring ‘all that we are’, into all that we do.

156. Bina, I absolutely love your no nonsense approach to life and the humbleness in the awareness that you share. We live in a world overrun with excess motion and rather than balance it with the living stillness we each have access to deep within, we let it run wild until we collapse with exhaustion and/or physical illness. This shows us that if we do not find a way to stop, our bodies will find this stop for us as they belong to a universal rhythm and order and as such there is only so long they can move in a rhythm counter to this.

     1. Liane – thank you and I also love my ‘no nonsense approach to life’. It is like fresh air if you ask me.
        This exhaustion thing you talk about is huge and what I am observing more and more is what people are doing to keep going. Our local coffee shops are next door to each other opening earlier than ever and closing late. We all know caffeine is a stimulant and affects our Central Nervous system, which includes the brain. I work in a pharmacy so I know that sleeping tablets are in huge demand. None of this makes sense and until we get stopped as I did, we seem to just keep going – bit like the spinning top mentioned in this blog.
        As you say this happens if we do not find a way to stop. From my experience very few are willing to stop before the ‘national emergency’ – the 911 as I call it happens.

157. “Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me.” A simple and only true way to make lasting, loving changes in life. Our internal compass is flawless so all we have to do is to follow its direction.

     1. Thank You Lucy for the reminder here. It just made me realise that this blog is a bit out of date now but I still use the compass inside my body to guide me and what is interesting is that it is always bang on.
        Overriding it is not good and leads me into complication or a situation that I then have to get out of. The thing is I always KNOW when I ignore it and it feels like I have set my self up. This is rare more and more now as I have a deeper understanding and respect for my body and it is forever deepening.

158. Bina, I love the way you describe that essential tension between who we are and what we choose to do. This is a ‘nail on the head moment’. There is so much focus on what we do in this life that who we are is so often ignored. But many people feel that tension without necessarily knowing why it is there. When we start to reawaken our connection to who we are, then the tension becomes something we can understand and work with rather than fight and numb ourselves to. Great sharing, thank you.

     1. The doing doing is the reason I got what this blog is saying. As you say Richard it comes with a tension and that hardens our body which means our breathing changes as our blood is constricted. If we keep adding to the tension by making our focus the doing and not the natural being stuff then we end up with a body that is living in dis-harmony to all the natural laws.
        Our world rewards the doing, recognises the doing and we identify with doing this and that from a young age. No wonder we have so many problems with our health and well-being.
        Serge Benhayon is presenting another way to LIVE and BE in this world. It is simple, practical and it works. I am in deep appreciation for this way of living that supports me beyond words and inspires others.

159. Discovering stillness at any time in life is a wonderful thing. It doesn’t mean sitting for hours in the ‘lotus position’ not doing anything, but it is a connection that can be lived and brought into our everyday activity. Stillness in our motion so to speak. Such a simple awareness but something for me that has really changed my day to day life, my state of wellbeing and the quality in which I do what I do.

     1. On that note of stillness – your comment made me remember one of my ways of desperately trying to get still BSB (BEFORE SERGE BENHAYON) was going to a church or monastery in hope to quiet my mind. It was so racy and buzzy nothing would change and I would leave disillusioned and ready to look for the next dose of stillness. Today I know very clearly if I have moved away from my internal marker of stillness that I can feel inside my body. I also know how to get back super quick – thanks to Serge Benhayon of course.
        I would not trade that stillness feeling for anything in this world.

160. In my life I have experienced very few people who truly love themselves and truly honour and listen to their bodies. It is a if there is a common belief system in our world that the body is worthless, that the mind is the important part of who we are and in many cases this deep loathing of the body as Bina describes. What I have discovered in recent years thanks to Serge Benhayon is that the opposite is in fact true. The body is a very beautiful and harmonious thing, that when honoured and responded to, feels ‘delicious’ and offers us a deep level of communication the mind cannot. Learning to work with our bodies rather than in opposition is a grand lesson in this life and in my opinion, one well worth heeding.

     1. Great point you make here Richard and my question is WHY is our world holding a belief that our body is worthless and not paying great respect and attention to it is quite normal?
        We have certainly lost the plot if you ask me and this blog is a confirmation of that.
        Thank God for Serge Benhayon who is presenting another way to live that deeply honours our body and I agree with you that ‘learning to work with our bodies rather than in opposition is a grand lesson in this life’.

        1. Ignoring our bodies is man’s greatest ill and we are all suffering as a result. We’ve glorified the body and championed it through sport and the way that we exercise for example and we have put knowledge, status, academia and qualifications ahead of our bodies. What IF man’s true intelligence actually comes from our bodies and that if we are living lovingly and taking absolute care of ourselves we will know exactly what is needed in any given situation? What IF we were connected to this other type of intelligence? Could it be possible that we would have the answer to humanity’s problems right there in front of us including why women get fibroids? The author of this blog is a living example of a woman connected to that true intelligence from the deep care of her body. This way of living is open to all of us if we are willing to change. Thank you Bina.

161. I have learnt that these stop moments are just as important as all the other moments. They offer an opportunity to connect deeper and look back and appreciate all that has happened and been up until this point.

     1. I agree Jenny they are just as important as any other moment. These days I stop and pause before leaving a room or leaving the house. It gives me a moment to ‘gather’ anything left or forgotten or simply just to breathe before my next movement. It is simple, very practical and really works. Sharing this with others has confirmed it supports us to complete things before moving to the next moment whatever that may be and equips us to be present with ourselves.

162. Bina, what an amazing way to live, to know that you love yourself deeply and would never harm yourself again – I feel the absolute lived truth of that for you and it’s deeply inspiring as I learn to love myself more and come to understand that my body is my guide, and that living without honouring that guide harms me and all those around me.

     1. Yes it sure is an amazing way to live Monica but I am not perfect and there is no goal to get it right. I just do my best to make sure I do not live in anyway that will harm me. So if I bump myself I will stop and say sorry to my body and have a word – usually out loud with myself.
        The same goes if I feel someone is talking to me in a way that I know is abuse, I will call it out.
        My body is my priority and I have learnt heaps from Serge Benhayon and do not follow what he says but simply apply the teachings from the template presented and then find my own way.

163. How bizarre is it to consider it is difficult to stop and rest, and yet that is what so many women struggle with. I am learning that we have done ourselves a great disservice trying to multitask.

     1. I agree Lucy – ‘we have done ourselves a great dis-service trying to multi task’.
        I have found even having two things going my head hurts and so the thud makes me stop and press the pause button and get on with one thing. All I know is there is one of me inside me and not 4 people so therefore one thing at a time with me present inside me makes sense. The other thing is I don’t feel exhausted at the end of it and usually I know what is next to do as I come to the end of one job.

        In the past I used to gloat at the thought of being good at multi tasking but that was because I had not met Serge Benhayon and as this blog spells out clearly – I had zero respect for my body and well being.

        1. Not multitasking is such a work in progress still. I can tell I haven’t quite mastered it as I work across so many projects but need a more ordered way to do it. I can feel that I want to honour each of them in full and the only way I can do that is to have a clear desk before I start the next project – clear desk clear focus! messy desk usually means multitasking and messy focus!

164. Thank you Bina, what a sharing. This line felt way too familiar to me “Stillness for me was a word to describe lazy people, who were boring and laid back and could not multi-task. I was not one of them or even contemplating ever becoming a still woman.” I can also say now that I can at least recognise what stillness feels like in my body and its incredible value in everything I do. It allows me to be who I am.

     1. I agree that is a great line you quote Lucy from the blog and today it feels a million miles away. The truth is I did think people who have naps and take time out to rest or go to bed early were lazy and boring.
        Well I am now in that category and I see it clearly as a sign of me taking deep care of my body which then serves me well to get on with it. By that I mean do what is needed, nothing more and nothing less. It really is a great way to live like this – Thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon.

165. I was the multi tasking queen, I remember repeating the statement: If you need a task done, ask a busy mum and she will get it done. I think that it is scary the pressure that we place upon ourselves at the expense of our health.

     1. I agree Nicole it is scary when you think about it. The pressure women put on themselves at the expense of their true health and well being comes with a price tag if you know what I mean.
        Like you I was a multi tasking queen and this blog spells out the results of that very clearly as long term the body just cannot sustain that ill way of living.
        Just on a side note, when I made choices to stop this doing 3 things at once, my mother told my sister that I was not myself as I could no longer do more than one thing. She said I was focused one thing at a time and it was strange for her to see me in this way. 8 years later it works and no more has been said as my mum feels my steadiness and has commented on this many times.

166. I agree Sally that this is ‘a great blog for all women to read’.
     The thing about ‘fitting it all in’ – where did that come from and how familiar is it for most women to live their whole life like this?
     You make a great point that what you were “actually doing was running away from life”. This was also the same for me and it was because I did not want to commit to life as that would mean taking Responsibility.
     Today my life does not have any ounce of the way I used to live as described in this blog. It is a huge testament to the work and teachings of Serge Benhayon which confirms there is another way to live and it comes down to choice.

     1. This IS a great blog for all women to read, I agree. Whenever I read it or read the comments on this blog it always makes me think of the medical profession and how much doctors would also benefit from reading this real life experience from a woman who has turned her life around. Fibroids are so common that they are now accepted as normal, but they are not a natural part of a woman’s body and this blog reveals the root cause. As women, when we don’t feel enough the next step is to fill the gap with getting busy and multi-tasking but clearly this is having a great detrimental effect on our overall health and well-being.

        WHO WE ARE IS SO MUCH MORE THAN WHAT WE CAN DO.

        True healing comes from returning to who we are and our natural inner Stillness and never ever from what we can achieve.

167. The grace with which you tell this journey, says everything about the woman that you are. I deeply respect and admire you.

     1. Thank you Otto Bathurst for your appreciation which is deeply felt. I recently came to realise that the more I truly appreciate the qualities of what I bring to this world it is reflected back to me. This comment confirms this realisation. I get it.
        In the past I was very dismissive and then when another was appreciating something about me it did not hold value as I would just brush it off. Now I understand more about what this word APPRECIATION actually means and things have changed for sure. We all need to add this word into our daily living and take the time to stop and truly Appreciate absolutely anything and everything, leaving no stone unturned.

168. Boy this blog hit me to the core! It is alarming to read how many women myself including turn the on button to full throttle and wait for a waking up call as shared by Bina Pattel to stop. To not do and just feel is a huge mindset that runs our way of living to the ground. A great practical tool in using the body like a compass where we can gauge each moment and the directions to take to get back to honouring the women we are and the true quality we bring from within not driven from the outside.

     1. I like what you say here Natalliya about ‘turn the button to full throttle’. Why is it that we just keep going and rev it up even more and not once stop?
        Why do we go into driving faster and finding solutions so we can keep functioning?
        Let’s be honest here, our bodies are incredible in the way that they really take the hits for so long and then one day say ENOUGH, no more assault. Stop abusing me in this way. If our bodies could talk, what would they be telling us right now?
        I say our bodies do talk in a language that is deep and has to be felt and then we will have the words. That is my understanding and so the compass I mention is my guide and it has never ever got it wrong. I am not perfect, but what I can say is that making my life now about listening to my body ensures a quality sleep every night and this is where that stillness gets more deep and expanding. Well worth it and I cannot imagine another way of living. Thank God for Serge Benhayon is what I say every day.

169. “What was really hard was learning how to stop during every single day and take time out to rest or just take a walk with me.” I can relate to this Bina, and I’m sure there are many others who can as well. We grow up with the understanding that taking time out to rest or have a walk when there are other things to be done is actually selfish, and even ‘time wasting’ whereas it is actually the complete opposite. It took me a long time to accept that this was an ok thing to do, and that by doing this I am actually more present with myself and those I meet, so it eventually benefits everyone, not just me. As a result I am able to see and feel more clearly what is in front of me in any given moment and share that with who ever I am with.

     1. You make some great points here Sandra Vicary. Thank You.
        Why is it that we think that it is time wasting or selfish to take care of ourself? For me it was simply because that is what was said growing up and that is because my parents lived in a very dis-regarding way as they knew no different because their parents did and so it goes on.
        I find it interesting that both my elderly parents now choose to look after themselves more than before and yet I have never said anything to them but I know they observe me and have commented many times on how strong and steady I am.
        They recently had the opportunity to meet Serge Benhayon in person and said they know that his teachings are working and how much they enjoyed his one day presentation.

170. Bina, this one really jumped out at me – “I cannot turn back the clock, but what I can do now is live every day taking deep care of myself” – and this is a great take home message for us all. It is never about perfection and it is not about getting it right all the time. We all make mistakes, but in reality there are no such things as mistakes, for they are really only opportunities to learn from. The things we have done in the past that were not that great, the drive we may have been in, the disregard etc, all these do come back for us to deal with, but the most important thing is to realise that it is never too late to begin looking after ourselves and to be more tender or gentle etc. Thank you for this gorgeous reminder!

     1. Great comment Henrietta – thank you for confirming.
        So we cannot turn back the clock and so there is no point putting any of our precious time into going there with our regret and other nonsense. Instead if we just make the daily choice to keep taking deep care of ourself and making that our number one priority, the past will get erased simply by our the way we are living now consistently. When I say erased I mean that it will not keep popping up in your mind and you will not feel like the past still holds you to ransom.
        That’s what has happened 8 years on after the surgery mentioned in this blog. I no longer dwell on my past and that person with the ill way of living simply does not exist. What I choose to live now is a life of True Responsibility and that for me means a life of True Consistency.

        1. Turning the page and moving on, but leaving everything behind with understanding whilst we ‘move forwards’ whilst developing consistency and responsibility. Thank you Bina.

171. It’s so true Bina, it is definitely wise to consider that how we are living can be feeding if not be the actual cause of all our issues.

     1. Yes Suse it is ‘definitely wise to consider’ how we are living in every way and not just certain areas. This is what I have found from lived experience that no stone should be left unturned. Without any need for perfection or trying to force things, just a natural daily unfolding of what can be looked at and then addressed is required. If we never bother to stop and press that pause button then we go on that bopping along moment by moment and wonder why things don’t feel right inside us. Last week I had a disturbing feeling standing at the bus stop. I felt uncomfortable and everything felt wrong. I was not where I needed to be and just saying that felt honouring. I then sat on a wall and in that space I knew what I had to do and not do, say and not say and bingo I was back on track.
        This stopping thing is pure gold and gives us so much its hard to get your head round if you try and analyse it. Well worth practicing and living everyday as it makes a huge difference.

172. A confirming message that our bodies will always tell us when we are making unhealthy choices.

     1. I agree Joe that this is a confirming message but look at how many years it took and what an assault on the body. To live with this high level of disregard and neglect makes me wonder today how on earth did I manage to keep going for that long?
        What is really interesting is that if I had not met Serge Benhayon I would be a typical post surgery patient which is ‘lets get back to business as usual’. In fact this was my goal initially but slowly slowly with the support of Simone Benhayon I was able to make some real changes that now support me in the solid foundation I have. To live in this way is no longer on the radar and I cannot imagine hurting or harming myself in this way again. The End.

173. How can we save the world when we haven’t saved ourselves first.

174. This is an amazing story Bina and not uncommon, as women the push and drive to keep going can often feel normal than stillness, as there is so much demanding this of us from a young age. Learning to say no and choosing something else far more loving for ourselves. breaking the illusion that this is selfish and reconnecting and living from the natural stillness and accepting this as a new and ever deepening normal.

     1. You are so right Nicole that most women do think it is normal with the push and drive and I was one of them. Stillness is not even on the radar and from lived experience what I know today is that it takes time. Each day step by step more true self caring choices to honour and support the body in full and making this a priority. Our relationship with ourself has to be number one or how on earth are we ever going to relate to another in Truth.
        Yes I agree Nicole there is such an illusion about us being selfish if we choose to take care of ourselves. We have moved so far away from our natural way of being and living that blogs like this are now needed to at least present another way.

175. Dear Bina,
     What you share above, is how many women live, me included. I can remember taking time out, so I thought, to rest, but even in that rest there was a constant niggling guilt around not still working, as there were always things to do. Like you, the choice to begin to stop was difficult and it took a concerted effort to implement into my life to begin with. Now though the stillness that I feel is the greatest gift that I have ever received, and it is simply me, the me that has always been present. It just needed me to stop long enough to again be felt.

     1. Thank You Leigh Strack for sharing here. The thing is once we know what the stillness is there is more. For me now there is a deepening in the relationship with my body so I am paying more attention to the moon cycles but also feeling where my body is at on a daily basis. A great example is the time I walk now has been changed and this ‘review’ supports me now but again may need changing. This constant connection allows for more of that stillness and with it comes a deeper surrender. These used to be just words that others would say and I had no idea. It is the first time ever that I have started to truly know what it is to surrender more and feel more settlement inside me. It is like layers of tension lifting and as I go deeper, I then have a new marker. It is work in progress and a gentle reminder to Appreciate how far I have come from what this blog is presenting. Its huge to say the least.

176. Thank you Anna for your comment.
     I agree with you about how ‘we often champion being able to multi-task’ and I for one loved the recognition it brought and made me stand out and at what cost. After my surgery, it took a while but I started to slow down and I received a huge compliment from my mother. She said that I was a bit slow now so not much good as I could not multi-task anymore. Of course she saw this as failure and I felt is was great news.
     Multi-task guarantees you are using your mind to be in more than one place and this means your body cannot be present and with you in the job that is to be done. So this scattered movement affects us and you may feel energised (as I did) but it’s false and in time your body cops it. It’s living on nervous energy and very draining to say the least. My head instantly hurts now even at the thought of multi-tasking, but the Truth is I am far far more productive and get heaps done without the need to race around and multi-task. The quality of me being with me is what makes things easy and not exhausting and the bonus is I don’t get exhausted.

     1. This has been me – priding myself on the ability to multi-task, outdo and beat time in a constant game that as you say Bina, keeps you in nervous energy, far from being present and scattered. Completely drained and without energy to literally do anything without stimulation, an electric shock to the nervous system to get it started. With true support I am starting to get a sense of life without being in this constant drive and fast lane, this is the beginning, so true is this pull to let go of drive and exhaustion I am letting go of so much that keeps me in this loop. I have started to close down one business and will sell another, my body has been insanely dragged along by a mind that has cared naught about it, to satisfy ideals and beliefs that are imposed upon us by the world. My responsibility is to nominate all that I have subscribed to and as I do, it’s like space starts to emerge and I can take a break, move with me and still complete. Lots more to let go of, but what a joy it is to start to be able to say no to the craziness. Thank you for sharing this blog Bina and thank you for continuing to support all of us reading by commenting so clearly on what has supported you to come back to a body of stillness that is grounded and amazing.

177. Thank you Bina for sharing so openly and honestly, your story will support many women to address any warning signs they are putting off. As women we often champion being able to multi-task and getting things done, but this comes at a huge expense to the body. Recently I have been aware of the overdrive I go into when I am under pressure to complete something, it’s like I say to my body I need to disconnect now so I can work you hard and then when I am done I re-connect again and then I will be still. Living like this has paid a toll on my body and it clearly doesn’t work, and the path back to stillness is even harder. I am enjoying learning to stay connected with me no matter what I am doing, much to my surprise I can still complete what needs to be done without multi-tasking and running around in the busyness.

178. Bina I thank you for sharing your honest journey to becoming who you are today, a woman who knows stillness through listening to her body and not ignoring it. Such an inspiration to so many of us women who tend to override our body’s voice in favour of doing, not wanting to let someone down and trying to be all things to all people which is impossible!

     1. Thank you Roslyn Mahony for appreciating this honest real life story, sharing private stuff which once upon a time was a close guarded secret. Talking about the female department was not something I wanted the world to know about on a website but funny how things change. I feel safe talking about this and hence this blog was born. I have made a point to commit to commenting as and when I feel to and I know this holds value. Who knows, with the amount of requests so far received by email, we may take this blog and the comments and offer it to the world in the form of a book or website as there is much here that women and men could benefit from. It really is about moving away from the constant motion and learning how to be still and developing that stillness at the core of our being. Takes time but what these comments have offered are many many practical tips to get going and get on with it.

179. I loved reading this blog again, Bina Pattel.

     I know that you live your life every day as a True Woman, who works very hard AND has an absolute Love for herself that does not accept even an ounce of abuse. You are a deeply inspiring role model who shows the world what is possible in healing and how completely one can turn their lives around.

     1. Thank You Julie Goodhart for confirming it is possible to completely turn your life around as I have done.

        Just for the record, in case someone is reading this and thinks I am some superwoman halo head – I am not and far from it.
        I am a woman who, to the best of my ability does not accept any form of abuse. I am no where near perfect or ever want to be. However, I know what is not abuse now, so it is easier for me to discern and then call out what is abuse. I have a way of living that does not know how to hold back and that is with anyone.

        On another note – you mention Julie that I work ‘very hard’ and that is true but again for the record, working hard does not mean I have a body that is hard. In fact that was the old way and it would simply not work if I was driven or working hard to seek acceptance or recognition. Yes I work incredibly hard and I call that productive work. No more engaging in nonsense distractions, phone calls to talk about this and that which serves no one and no more late nights or eating late.

        All these simple little choices keep me on track and I feel I have a Responsibility to focus and get on with what I know is now possible. The most important thing in all of this is to take deep deep care of me and that means regular stop breaks and waking up late when I know there is a long day ahead of me, like yesterday. I call that a late shift.

180. Serge Benhayon has always presented a way of life that is very simple. And from what you’ve shared you are walking proof of this way of simple living. I ask myself now, what do I feel is the reason for choosing to avoid simplicity? What is there to feel in simplicity?

     1. I agree Leigh that Serge Benhayon has presented simple living from day one and Yes indeed I am ‘walking proof of this way..’.
        In answer to your questions, I feel it is simple – pun intended.
        To avoid simplicity – we use our head, call it your mind to complicate things and our body wants things simple and it needs no head stuff. If we feel simplicity it means we have to let go of mental constructs – all those pictures we have about this and that and life and how we want others to be and how we want our work and relationships. All that stuff they call ideals and beliefs.
        We also get to feel that it is easy and not complicated to live in our body and be real in our expression in every way. Above all Simple Living means we get to evolve, which is re-turn back to who we truly are.
        Anyway that is my take on your questions and trust they make some sense.

181. I love the point you have made here Vicky. Ignoring and dismissing our bodies is also a dismissal of others, whereas honouring ourselves lovingly translates into being more caring and honouring of others. Now this really spells out the responsibility we need to take with our self for the sake of the whole. We are not separate units. How we are with ourselves is how we are with others.

182. I loved reading your blog Bina, what a great turnaround in your life, coming from a continuous action woman, to one who has learnt to stop and feel the depth of stillness that innately resides in her woman’s body.

     1. Thanks Jill. The thing is anyone watching me would actually say that I am a ‘continuous action woman’ because I am busy and have many things going on BUT, the Truth is the quality has changed. By that I mean I know and can feel the core of me inside is more strong and steady and this is what allows me to do what I do but not get exhausted. Of course this is a direct result of learning how to live in a rhythm that supports my body first and foremost and then pay attention to this daily, by reviewing and refining and by that I mean looking at what works for me and what is now something I need to let go of.
        Resting more at certain times in the month and being aware of when my body as a woman is asking for this, is a fine tuning and forever learning. The rewards are beyond words and it allows me to do much more than I could ever dream of or expect.
        I know most days I do 2 days of productive work, but not being exhausted and drained means my body is not going to get sick like it did when I was action woman in total disregard, which is what this blog is about.
        The proof is the fact that I have not been to my GP in 8 years and when I did go a few weeks ago, he told me I had perfect blood pressure, did not look my age and was a role model for patients. He then asked if I would consider giving talks at the surgery.

183. Dear World
     This blog was posted exactly a year ago and the general theme throughout is about another way to live and we do not have to wait for a wake up call from our body to make changes. So what has happened in the past year and what more could there be to offer by way of a comment.

     Well the blog is stating that living in a woman’s body and racing around and doing doing and rarely stopping has a price tag and over the years the price is high in terms of what it is doing to the body. In this case 27 years of ignoring heavy painfull periods led to a tumour, major surgery and a lot of time off work and even then very little change in truth.
     Real change and true results came after applying the teachings of Serge Benhayon where he talks about taking time out to stop and rest and make that a part of daily life.
     Well that was 2008 and now it is 2016 so what more is there to say?

     Plenty more if you ask me. Each day there is an opportunity to build a deeper relationship with my body and I have the choice. Always a choice. Some days I think I can get away with something and the next day I get a big fat message from my body saying ‘I did not like that so please consider me next time you make an ugly choice’. It could be something like talking too long on the phone when I knew there were other things I needed to attend to and in that moment I felt a push in my body to get things complete. Minor maybe but nevertheless my body is saying No as it has a marker of what it wants and it sure knows what it does not want.
     I reckon it was always telling me what it wanted but I was so numb and unaware that I was not connected to my body so had no idea what it was asking and how to communicate and relate to what was needed. I was just too busy out there trying to save the world if you know what I mean.

     In the past year, I can honestly say that the quality of my stillness has got stronger and I feel things more than I did before. I know that this quality has allowed me to observe life and what is going on and not get so reactive and taken out by things. Yes I may react but it is very easy to come back to me and I have the tools to do this. I feel steady and strong inside and my life is reflecting this. There is a solid foundation of deep care and self love that supports me to live and deal with whatever life brings. There is now, a greater value of myself and deep appreciation of who I am as a woman and that I am enough. I accept myself more and this has allowed me to accept others and where they are at with their choices. Incredible way to live and what a long way from the wake up call – thanks to Serge Benhayon.

     1. This is awesome to read Bina. Thank you for sharing so openly and reminding us that there IS great value in being in a woman’s body. A body that is worth loving, adoring and taking care of, something I am in the process of accepting.

        1. I like the word you use here Shevon – VALUE
           Yes indeed there is great value in being in a woman’s body and it deserves the utmost attention to detail, focus, dedication and commitment to self care in every way. I do not mean this to sound like pamper parlour stuff. This is more about the daily choices and to know that there is an internal clock, a compass, a guide and an intelligence which our body is constantly communicating to us in every moment. The thing is it is up to us to listen, take note and go with it or against it. The body will show you the choices you make and there is no getting away from that.
           I am now learning that with the deeper Responsibility I now have things are changing whereby there is almost a strong resistance if I try and do something that my body clearly does not want. Example – time to stop work and take a break and I override just for a few minutes. Gosh I feel it like a bullet and my chest goes hard or I notice my breathing changes.
           I reckon this was always there but in the past, I had zero awareness with my body and that means no real relationship with my body and that was the downfall.

     2. Brilliant Bina. It’s remarkable how we wage a war against ourselves and the very things we long for most. The honesty you bring in this blog is beautiful, and an inspiration to keep on developing a deeper relationship with stillness and my body, rather than what my mind thinks it would like life to be.

        1. Thanks Joseph Barker for confirming the honesty in this blog. To think I never wanted to share this hush hush private down below women’s department stuff with the world. How shameful and embarrassing I used to think it was and yet today I know it is of benefit to tell others what happened so that it may be of support.
           I agree that it is for us to keep developing a ‘deeper relationship with stillness’ and it comes with more Responsibility if you ask me. What I mean in a practical sense is that I cannot go and pretend something did not happen or bother me when it did. If I need to address something, say something or take action then by not doing that, I will go away from stillness. To deepen and develop more stillness, say in that case, it would mean to stop and reflect on what happened, what made me react or feel the way I did and allow myself the time and space to see what comes up so I know what it was that disturbed by stillness. Without really and truly giving my self those moments of stop and rest there is no way I am going to get to feel the truth of what is going on.

184. Awesome Bina and you give practical tangible tips on how to go about returning to stillness on a day to day basis! Thank you

     1. Thank you for confirming daysinbombay about the ‘practical tangible tips’ which of course are lived day in and day out and so it becomes very easy to write and share. In fact there is so much more that it will be a free online book coming out soon so the world can all benefit. Our world is busy busy and everyone is in so much doing doing motion motion and this quality of stillness is way off the radar if you know what I mean.
        Practical things that can be done are super important and our world gives this kind of stuff very little value. It is time to bring things Back to Basics and Simple Living, as this is what is needed if we are ever going to get any true stillness in our body.

185. Great Michael that you feel this blog ‘really brings home the importance of checking in with how our bodies are feeling throughout day’. What seems to happen with a busy life and busy work environment is we get into a pattern of not making that choice to actually stop and feel what is going on inside us. Even though we all know deep down that when we stop, take a break, have a nap, simply rest or just do nothing things change. We get to feel in an instant how tired we are, how stressed we are or how buzzy and racy our body feels. But if we just keep going in the doing department then there is little chance of stopping and I mean truly stopping until the big fat wake up call like I had.
     My job is to keep writing and keep sharing the value of taking moments of stop and pause so others do not have to go down the racy road I was on.
     What this blog and all the comments is confirming is that it is never too late to make changes that truly support our body and the benefits are huge.

186. This really brings home the importance of checking in with how we and our bodies are feeling throughout the day – for me in an increasingly busy and stressful working environment this is a great reminder to take a proper break and have a moment to just be with me.

187. Great you mention this Gill about ‘so many women have to undergo this type of surgery’. When my mum had it done 35 years ago, she stayed in hospital for 2 weeks and even today it is classed as ‘major surgery’ but you are in and out a lot quicker because of this very reason – there are so many more women needing the same operation. Also they have laser surgery and this means the cutting of the flesh is not needed and so the healing recovery time is less. BUT what I am learning is that unless we actually make lifestyle changes then the motion and pattern of doing doing and never truly stopping means we use the laser time saved to get going again and not make that true stop and rest that our bodies need. It is like we see there are no stitches and no big long scars so it somehow gives us the go ahead to keep on doing what we did that led us to this surgery in the first place. I trust you get what I am saying here.

     The next point you say Gill about how great it was that I saw the bigger picture of the message that my body was showing me and how much I have learnt from it is true BUT it came from Serge Benhayon. It never came from me and had I not met this man and listened to him, I know I would not be where I am at today and writing in this way. By making the choice to apply in my daily life the teachings he was presenting and then making the choice to commit and see a Universal Medicine practitioner twice a month was when true change started.

188. Thanks to the fact that our bodies are connected to nature they are able to stop us in our ill ways of living, the ill ways that causes all kinds off illness and diseases and do stop us in our business. Acting on these strong signals is another aspect we as human beings have to understand. Your blog Bina, does support tremendously in this in the way you described how we can look to illness and diseases as being the result of living in a certain way and that besides the cure we get in the hospital there is another quest for us to undertake and that is to question ourselves what made us to develop these illnesses and diseases in the body in the first place. To my experience our bodies are extremely willing in supporting us on this quest and will provide us with the answers if we are open to listen to it. Building a loving connection with our bodies is the way to go and if we are able to let go of the mind driven lives we all tend too have and instead are able to let our bodies to be the guide in our lives, we are on our way back to live a life that is in coherence with our body and with that with nature.

     1. Great Nico that you find this blog does ‘support tremendously’ in bringing an understanding about how we can look at illness and dis-ease in our body in another way and that we do need to question our lifestyle choices. This is where Serge Benhayon is really leading the way as he is way ahead of what we are trying to fathom out, work out and understand.
        I am a living science and by that I mean I am constantly moving and changing and therefore I can be studied. I am Absolute Living proof that the teachings and work of Serge Benhayon is not only working but is life changing. This then affects others as I am now able to inspire and support so many more people not by preaching, teaching or imposing any beliefs but by simply sharing what I have been through and what I live now that is possible for anyone. It all comes down to making Responsibility the key word when we make choices.

189. This blog is a VERY important blog for all women to read. We are not what we do, but it’s who we are and the connection to our inner-stillness that’s important. The medical profession actually do not know why women get fibroids. This blog and Bina Pattel hold the answer.

190. “It really does not pay to ignore the signs when things are not feeling right with your body.” This line stood out for me today while reading this blog once again. A blog I come back to again and again because the quality it comes with is worth coming back to. Coming back to the body repeatedly is something I need to develop but with a marker it makes the return much easier. The more we stop and clock and accept a marker the strong the marker builds, the easier it is to come back. Thank you Bina.

191. What stands out for me is what extent we can fool ourselves into believing we are doing ok when we clearly are not, with aches and pains daily to catching colds and flus, the illnesses and diseases people live with who have resigned themselves to the fact that their life cannot get any better. But what you are saying here Bina is that life doesn’t have to be that way and no matter what health issue you have there is always a different relationship to be had with that illness, depending on how you look at it, and how you are with your body regarding your choices and taking responsibility for all of those choices which have led to this point.

     1. Love it Julie what you say here about how we think ‘we can fool ourselves into believing we are doing ok when we clearly are not..’
        The truth is who are we fooling and where is it getting us really?
        Yes I am here saying that life can be different and I am living proof thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon.
        You mention that word “responsibility’ and this is the crunch. Many people including myself in the past would just not want to go there and take responsibility for the ugly choices they made that led them to that point of illness. It means we have made mistakes but the great grand news is we can now take TRUE Responsibility and make choices that no longer hurt and harm us or others and then things are going to change. Fact. A ‘no brainer’ as they say.

192. I love the candid way you write Bina – its like I am right there. Your situation was dramatic, but it reminds me that for nurses and those working in hospitals they see so many whose body has broken down in this way. While they can offer the latest medical care and support, how different would our world be if we all stopped and embraced the simple truths and step-by-step process as you did? What you present here is massive.

     1. indeed Joseph, it is massive in its way that in general there is not the tendency to stop when there is a wake-up call from our body. Yes there is a stop as our bodies tell us to do so, to stop the actual activities we were involved in, but do we really stop and question ourselves what the root cause of the condition our body shows to us and act on the outcome of these? To my understanding and my own experience is that this is rarely done and as you say, the process that Bina shows us in this blog is massive compared to how the majority are responding to physical conditions of the body in general.

        1. I agree Nico that the process shown in this blog ‘is massive compared to how the majority are responding to physical conditions of the body in general’. Just for the record I only got to the ‘root cause’ because of Serge Benhayon who continually talks about this and so what happens is you get the ill behaviour out once and for all and this frees you up and you really do move on.
           I simply cannot imagine ignoring my body now. Even a bump or a slight knock and I am instantly aware that something is going on and the great thing is I KNOW how to get myself back to me inside. This way of living does inspire others as it holds a quality so when it is shared others do feel something even if they may not be aware of it.
           What I do not do is walk around like a robot or try and be ‘still’ in my movements or exaggerate that I am being still when I am not. I just simply plug in every day and go about my business using my inner compass which navigates me. If I choose (always a choice) to deviate then something happens and then I have to get back or face more knocks.

        2. Indeed Bina, our body is a great navigator and it is very clear in pointing its direction once we have accepted its guidance. Straying away from it by our own choice will be directly noted and we will be informed accordingly and again it will be our own choice to return to the guided tracks or not. But being aware of the intelligence of our bodies, we know we have to suffer the consequences of that deviation, as our bodies always have suffered when we where not aware yet of the grandness of our body’s intelligence.

     2. Great you like the ‘candid way’ in which I write Joseph and yes I loved drama so my story had to be dramatic, but at the same time I had an enormous amount of shame, embarrasment and deep sadness, as it was the final confirmation that there would be no children for me in this lifetime. It took a few years after surgery to really and truly deal with these deep buried feelings but I got through them with the support of some amazing Universal Medicine practitioners and Serge Benhayon.
        I agree with you that what I have presented here ‘is massive’ and let’s face it a ‘game changer’. Lifestyle changes is now a must for our world if we are to see any true change.
        I will continue to write and share what I know has supported me and turned my life around. To keep it all to myself and have a better life is simply not an option.

193. This is a truly “must read” blog Bina. I know there are still things I put before myself and my wind down time at night and foods I eat that don’t support my body at times. I have felt extremely tired in recent weeks and know this means a blood test is due with possible low B12 needing a boost and extra rest. Thank you for your great sharing Bina.

     1. Thank you Roslyn for confirming ‘this is a truly “must read” blog’.
        I would say it is because it is real life and down to earth with no fluffy language but sharing it as it is with a bit of humour but nevertheless the seriousness about this is there for all to read and digest. Bottom line is – there is a direct correlation between being busy and on the go and never stopping and having period problems. This means that not connecting to our stillness and developing this is going to affect our female department stuff. Having spoken to countless women and young girls now, it has left me in no doubt that this constant overriding and living in a way that is dis-regarding and neglectful will have an effect on our monthly menstrual cycle and there is no getting away from it.
        You say that you do not put yourself first and your food choices and wind down times are not always supporting your body – could it be possible that this is why you have ‘felt extremely tired in recent weeks’? Possible ?
        It really is amazing how our body will give us the signs and show us if we are choosing to ignore it or dis-regard and neglect what it needs. However, if you truly pay attention then things do change and I am living proof of that.

194. Wow Bina – your experiences with keeping yourself busy and away from stillness closely mirror my own. I learned from a young age that being busy meant being seen as useful, productive, valuable, efficient and the list could go on and on. Nowhere did anyone talk about the value of being still and about taking a central lead from our bodies. It is requiring a lot of dedication and commitment to learn how to actually connect to stillness and self love but each step feels so totally right and confirms to me that this is the way we are meant to live.

     1. Yes Helen, busyness has also been seen as the way to distract ourselves from anything we don’t like or that we want to feel; I’ve definitely done this myself, especially with work( throwing myself in when things in life get tough. What I see by doing that is that it’s a way to prove my worth as a woman in the world, where I can say see ‘I can do x,y and z, I’m good at that’, but when I consistently take care of myself and am kinder to myself in my thoughts and actions, I can’t push ahead so much with work as I clock what I’m doing and it feels so uncomfortable in my body that I have to stop. That’s when I am able to feel and understand, what it is I don’t want to feel. Taking care of ourselves really does mean we are more able to deal with life’s challenges.

     2. This is such a great point you make here Helen Giles about “nowhere did anyone talk about the value of being still..”
        What I have come to realise is how could they. My mother was the queen of keeping busy and doing doing was inbuilt and it is of no surprise she had a hysterectomy. Of course we could all say it is genes, inherited etc., but could it be possible that it is not in my DNA but actually me choosing to align to how she was living and trying to be the same as she was my role model of what a woman should be and should do? Possible?
        Where does it all stop and when do we learn to value stillness?

        Enter Serge Benhayon who LIVES the quality of stillness like no other and is here to teach us the tools we need to re-connect back to this innate quality that lives inside in All of us.

        You are right it does take a lot of commitment and dedication to learn how to connect to stillness, but well worth it if you ask me. What is interesting is that things tend to swing over and now it is the total opposite. If things get busy or I am over doing it even a little bit, I get to feel it louder and stronger than ever in my body and I have to stop. This overriding button in my head is no longer in charge and this really is something worth sharing with others. It is possible to completely turn your life around and live with a quality of stillness that is inspiring to say the least.

195. Bina what you have written here brings a whole new level of responsibility; having gone through what you did but to then see it as a gift and not a punishment, is looking at illness and disease from a whole new perspective. This level of responsibility could ultimately take the pressure off of our over stressed health care system; how refreshing would it be for the over worked doctors and nurses to have many Bina’s looking at their own health in this way.

     1. What you say here Julie Matson is very very valuable. Yes indeed what this blog says does ‘bring a whole new level of Responsibility and then to not see the whole thing as a punishment is looking at illness and dis-ease in the body from a whole new perspective’.
        I also agree with you that this level of responsibility would support our over stressed healthcare systems and yes it would be like fresh air if “over worked doctors and nurses to have many Bina’s looking at their own health in this way”.
        Yes I made the true choices but it came AFTER meeting Serge Benhayon and applying what he was presenting and then living that to the best of my ability.
        What I am saying is I did not just one day make self caring choices and take that stop and rest. I had to learn and this is all thanks to the amazing man called Serge Benhayon who really does know what he is talking about.

196. Hear hear Bina! I definitely recommend getting any health issue checked out by a doctor while also looking at how you are living.

     1. It is so worth getting anything checked out by the doctor and why not? Why wait or think it’s ok when we know deep inside it is not. But as you say and I say and Serge Benhayon says – it is well worth looking at how you are living that got you to that point. This is key if we are ever going to make changes so we do not repeat old patterns that are harming our body.
        Had I not looked at the way I was living I doubt I would be alive today as my ingrained patterns of self neglect and disregard were off the scale and it would have led to more issues in my body.
        All I can say is Thank God for Serge Benhayon who not only has brought miracles to my life but many many others that I know including my partner. A man who knows what he is talking about.

197. I woke up in superwoman-mode today so thank you for the reminder to feel and to connect to me first.

     1. Great sharing and one many woman could relate to Sarah. Waking up in ‘superwoman-mode’ as you say means we are not with our body and then the day starts off with that dis-connection and you know where that is going to lead..
        Each choice in each moment will have an effect on the next choice. So for me now, I cannot ever rush out of bed or even have thoughts about my day ahead. My checking in is done by placing one hand gently on the middle of my body and then when I think about an email or something I need to “do’ that day, I feel a bit jumpy inside and so I just choose not to move and let that thought go. I then re-connect back to my body and start breathing me again and then make the move out of bed. Next is the stop and pause before fluffy dressing gown on and stand up. Then pause again to feel my feet firmly on the super snugly slippers then a deeper connection before actually moving towards the bathroom.
        These small steps are part of my rituals in the morning and so the quality of my day is guaranteed by those simple choices.

        1. The most amazing thing about this blog is not only the story of you deepening your relationship with your body Bina, but that you continue to share all that you have used to support that deepening in the comments. The tools have all been provided by Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon and you use them to the max.

198. You make a very great point here Vicky, about pushing the body to one side. I have on occasions noticed that I have felt something my body is saying to me and because I am too busy or whatever I am doing is given higher priority I think to myself ‘I’ll deal with my body later’, knowing that I have just hurt myself and will have to deal with the consequences. It all happens within a spilt second.

199. the internal fight between who I was and what I chose to do – This is a huge belief and one that can pop up so easily.

200. Thank you for sharing the story about your hysterectomy and other health issues; it is a great example of how much we dig our heels in and fight the physical symptoms as though they were our very worst enemy rather than the wake-up calls and messages they truly are.

     1. The thing is Gabriele, I never saw it as a wake up call. It took another 7 years to see that and then write about it.
        I recall being very frustrated because the pain was getting worse and the doctors were asking me to just up the dose of painkillers and of course it was making no difference. My refusal to simply stop and feel what I was feeling was just not going to happen as I was as you say digging my heels and fighting the physical symptoms as if they were the enemy.
        What is interesting is that today even a tiny scratch and I stop and ask how, why, what and when and even some more..then I actually talk and apologise to my body and then have a word with myself like “Bina, that happened because you checked out”.

201. This is beautifully and aptly described Bina, “the internal fight between who I was and what I chose to do. I was fighting a natural inner stillness, that is who I am as a woman, and over-riding it with motion.” I’ve also discovered that I’ve had many ways to put myself into motion – and it doesn’t necessarily mean the typical multi tasking or taking on too much. I realised stimulating foods, heightened conversations, dramas, TV, or the odd dose of stress would also cause me to become racy – on the inside, in a constant attempt to avoid that natural stillness that we have naturally within us. I’ve found Esoteric Yoga to be a huge support in rediscovering what stillness can feel like in my body giving me a new marker to know myself by.

202. Thank you Bina for this inspiringly honest account of your life. It is truly spectacular the truth our bodies continually support us to listen to.

203. Very inspiring Bina. It is really incredible, how long we often override the signs of the body, until we start to realize, that something in our life is not right. That the way we live doesn’t support our body, the opposite it harms the body. And your life is a testimony, how loving choices and care for the body can change everything.

     1. You are right Alexander – ‘it is really incredible how long we override the signs of the body, until we realise that something in our life is not right’. In my case 27 years and this lack of awareness and unwillingness to even stop and ask why was just not on my radar. It is this reason that today I have a greater understanding of others as I was the same until I met Serge Benhayon, who presents the value and importance of our body and how it can support us if we make choices that do not harm us.
        I agree with you that my ‘life is a testimony, how loving choices and care for the body can change everything’ and I am living proof that it is never to late to make that stop and start to question how we are actually choosing to live. It does require a good dose of honesty to get going but its well worth it.

204. What I understand from re-reading this blog this time around is that it is never the wrong or ‘inconvenient’ time to stop and listen to what my body is saying. And that going into motion will never heal the excessive motion, only making it worse. Only by listening to what the body has to say can true healing occur. Thank You Bina.

205. Dear Bina, As you say, everything starts with choosing the stillness that we innately have as women. In my experience choosing to be still has been the fundamental foundation to being able to feel that I am actually a lovely, deeply caring woman and that and that alone has been the feeling that has supported me to again love myself deeply. And like your body, mine too has responded to this choice. I love the tenderness and grace that I now live with, each day I feel another level of this and just today I could feel at times such a silkiness in my movements. To live each day in this way in the things that I do is the stuff of true miracles. The greatest miracle being that it is available to everyone of us, once we choose our own deep true stillness that lies within.

206. Allow and be still; what a simple yet powerful message Bina.
     “Today I feel a real woman who does have an inner stillness, which feels amazing and keeps me grounded”
     What an amazing sentence to read, how beautiful to know and feel your inner stillness.
     Thank you for your truly inspirational blog.

     1. Thank You Shirl and to claim ‘I feel a real woman who does have inner stillness…’ took me a long time. Just that word woman felt wrong and I could never say it and I knew I was no longer a girl but woman felt odd. The claim came once I started to live as a woman and could feel that I was born a woman and that there was nothing wrong with me and I could be a woman and start to develop the qualities.
        A real woman is powerfull and not the fembot, superwoman like I was but the power comes from the inner stillness which is something very different. It has a quality that is felt by your presence and I know this comes through in the way in which I now conduct myself and express myself in any situation.
        If you knew my past, this life I now have feels like something only a dream or movie would have as its so opposite to my old way of living.

207. The massive pressure and force we need to live with to be superwomen in this day and age is quite overwhelming. This pressure definitely erodes our sense of self worth while simultaneously impacting on the health and well being of our body and being as yours and so many other women’s bodies have and are illustrating. Awesome blog Bina.

     1. I agree with you Suse – this is an ‘Awesome blog’ as you say simply because it is the Truth. I recall being embarrassed about the whole thing for many years and then having nothing to do with the internet it was a big deal to actually get this published out there in the big wide world.
        I now refer women I know and clients to this blog and whilst they may choose not to comment, I do get told they found it helpful.
        I do understand how many women find it difficult to put their name on something like this subject as there is still something awkward or uncomfortable when talking about womens stuff in that downstairs department called the ‘uterus’.
        In the culture and religion I grew up in it is a very very hush hush subject and never spoken about openly.

208. This is a brilliant blog for all women to read. It clearly shows how magnificent the body is at trying to give us warning signs about the way that we are living and the consequences of both listening to it and not listening to it.

     1. I totally agree Elizabeth, it is vital that we start listening to our bodies and the warning signs it constantly graces us with.

     2. Thank you Elizabeth for confirming that “this is a brilliant blog for all women to read”.
        The blog gives a true real life story that others can relate to.
        Having a true story holds weight and personally I have always been interested in true stories as they hold meaning. You know someone has walked those steps and are now on the other side and you could just be going through the same thing and there could be answers that could save you suffering any further.
        I feel we each have a duty to share stuff like this which is useful and can most certainly help other women.
        I have lost count how many women I have come across who just accept painful or heavy periods and do nothing about it.

209. Thank you for Bina. I love that you shared how it is natural for us as women to live from a stillness within. So many of us have used a busy momentum to get through life yet know it is not working for we get stressed and exhausted and often ill. Your story offers a different way of being with ourselves, a stop from that momentum

     1. Thank You Jane – yes my story does offer a ‘different way of being with ourselves’ and it all comes down to choice.
        I often wondered why we are wired in such a way that we just keep going even though we KNOW somewhere deep inside us we are harming ourself.
        Thank God for Serge Benhayon who clearly has the answers and what is profound is that he is pro-medicine.
        If I was on my hippy trippy spiritual stuff I would be dead now as I needed the medical treatment but my strong beliefs would have stopped me so in some way the timing was good as I did make the choice to listen to this man who suggested I go ahead and have surgery and not suffer anymore.
        It was a sad time as it was the end of no children and deep inside there was a need to want kids but all for the wrong reasons.
        Today – I can see the bigger picture and have absolutely no regrets or feel less of a woman because I have no children. In fact I know what I am living and doing is the truth for me now.

210. Bina it was great to come back to your blog and read it again. I wonder how many other women out there would be like you, desperate to get back on the phone not wasting a minute ignoring and pushing their body like a machine. Even machines break down when we don’t service and look after them. I love your honesty and humour along with the seriousness with how far you had let your body go. There is this built in mechanism in us that says we have to keep going, we musn’t stop and we look for more things to pile on to our already burdened lives and then wonder why we get sick. Your blog is a must read for all the women out there that are on the treadmill of doing, knowing that there is a way to change, slow down, feel the body and re-connect to the stillness that is our true way of being, before illness or sickness do it for us.

     1. I could not agree with you more Alison –
        “Your blog is a must read for all the women out there that are on the treadmill of doing,..”
        This doing business is a killer for any woman and like you say there is something inside us that says we have to keep going. You cannot simply just stop and even with something major like I had I just could not stop. It was when I burnt my hand after surgery, I had the physical stop and that was only because the pain killers were knocking me out. But the mental head stuff was still buzzing on and that took another year and I had to literally force myself to stop and take a break. I had to learn how to do that and it took commitment and effort to get back to my natural state. What I realise is how hard it was to be natural and how easy it was to ignore my body, drive it and push it to the ground.

211. It is interesting how the body is often separated into parts, like that ‘department’, or ‘down there,’ ‘down below’ in reference to a woman’s uterus, ovaries, cervix and vagina. It is significant especially as this is where stillness resides, and it is that stillness which has such an amazing presence throughout our whole physical body and is felt by others around us…when connected to it cannot ever be contained.

     1. This is interesting Paula that stillness resides in the downstairs department and not often do we hear the words cervix or vagina spoken about. Is it any wonder so many women suffer as I did in the past with period problems but do not have any guidance or a blog like this presenting another way.
        It is one thing taking on board what the medics say but if we could add real life lived experience then surely it holds some true support and maybe even bring in another dimension to consider.

212. What is truly interesting is that after a life time of ignoring the signs our bodies are giving us, and living in disregard, it takes a relatively short time for the body to regain health once we choose to take responsibility for ourselves. The body responds incredibly well when we make simple changes to our lifestyles, eating habits, sleeping patterns and begin to truly care for, and love ourselves, and the most beautiful byproduct of these changes is not just the returning health, but a deep joy of life and a stillness within.

     1. And when we do make those changes the beauty, vitality and warmth that one feels from the person who has made those changes is very very evident. They are such a pleasure to be around and you just feel at ease.

     2. Good point Rosemary and I agree. In my case 27 years of ignoring my body and then around 5 years to ‘regain health’ as you say is a relatively short time.
        I also agree with you that our body does respond incredibly well when we make simple lifestyle changes.
        The media are now talking more and more about lifestyle changes could help us in many ways to reduce illness and dis-ease in the body.
        If the world started to listen to what Serge Benhayon is saying we could certainly change the statistics which let’s be honest are shocking and we call ourselves an ‘advanced species’.

213. You give a brilliant snapshot Bina “fighting a natural inner stillness, that is who I am as a woman, and over-riding it with motion.” I know that ‘getting jobs done’ in the way you describe, juggling tasks, multitasking even, are all ways to keep that fast momentum going and a sure fire way to make certain that we don’t stop to even consider our natural quality within us – that is far more potent and effective than any of that (addictive) motion.

     1. It’s interesting how there is a commonly accepted perception and myth that women are multi-taskers and often we can try and live up to that image by showing that we can do loads of things at once, but at what expense? Certainly what I can feel now, since having esoteric healing sessions and attending Universal Medicine events, is that whenever I try to do lots of things at once, there is an internal agitation and raciness that occurs that can spin me out of control where I just keep moving. It has a similar feel to overeating where you just keep going until you feel sick (or exhausted in this case). Our bodies do have a natural inner rhythmn and it yearns to move naturally in accordance with that inner rhythm and flow, as when we do we are left feeling sooo beautiful. A beauty that is not focused on how we look, but is all about how we feel.

        1. Correct Shevon, our bodies do have a natural inner rhythm and it took Serge Benhayon and his teachings to show me how to connect to my body and apply very simple and practical ways to live that would support me to develop a way of living inside my body so I have a marker. This marker is like a point I know I can get to if I go off track or lose my way.
           What is interesting is that you can deepen this marker and I have done this simply by giving myself permission and allowing myself to go deeper when I sleep or have a nap. I might wake up and feel like it was a thought that actually woke me up and if I make a choice to let go and not move and allow myself the time and space, I drop off again and it’s deeper and then this becomes my new marker.
           I hope this is making sense.

214. Yes how true we must consider how we are living, as part of the healing process, without this we cannot get to the root cause of the illness in the body. Great that you have come thought it all and are now seeing a clearer healthier way of being.

215. The tip that you offer here Bina is actually the answer to the health care crisis we are facing today. Conventional medicine has an important role to play in health care but so too does the patient taking responsibility for the way that they are living and then getting support to do something about it.

     1. I agree Elizabeth that this is “the answer to the health care crisis we are facing today”.
        What I feel stops us is that word Responsibility.
        How many people actually want to admit, let alone accept that their lifestyle choices are the cause of their illness and dis-ease in their body?
        How many people are still choosing to eat or drink or do things that they know are harming their bodies?
        I actually know people who are drinking alcohol and smoking after a heart attack and being diagnosed with cancer.
        I know people who are playing sports when their injuries have not healed and are just not interested in stopping and feeling what their body is actually feeling.
        It then is obvious why so many are now experiencing multiple symptoms and not just one thing.
        It would be amazing if from first school we were taught that our bodies are really precious and what sugar and other harmful substances do to it. It would put the sugar industry out of business and that would be a good thing if you ask me.

216. You’re an inspiration Bina. Living proof that the way we live is either our greatest form of medicine or the underlying cause of all illness and disease.

217. It is so beautiful to read that after years of overriding and ignoring the signs your body was giving you, that you have come to a place of realising the importance of listening to it and honouring what it is showing you… and from this have allowed it to guide you back to the stillness that supports you so powerfully today.

     1. You are right Samantha the stillness I now have does support me “so powerfully today”. I now have a strong marker inside me that even a slight bit off I can feel it. There is no way I can get away with anything. A classic example is I fancied a bit of popcorn and they only do it with salt. Well no surprise, my tongue was literally stripped and burning. No stillness there so I learn fast.
        The biggest thing I have learned this year is when I react to an email that I can feel is disturbing, the best thing to do is MOVE and not sit in it and try and do something like reply. Worst tip ever is to send an email in reaction. I have done that and it does not work.
        Best tip is to go away and deal with it. In others words nominate how it made you feel and ask yourself why this happened. When you can feel the stillness which maybe another day that is the time to reply. Make nothing a big deal because it really isn’t.

        1. I love this comment Bina and can relate as it is something I have been becoming more aware of. When we do things in reaction (therefore no stillness) it sends us spinning and then it is much easier to react to the next thing and the next thing. When we have that connection to stillness our perspective and ability to deal with things definitely changes and I find that I am able to move on from things much more quickly.

218. Wow Bina, the diagnosis of your fibroid tumour and subsequent hysterectomy coupled with the burn on your hand were definitely wake up calls for you and caused a huge impact in your everyday life. What is interesting is that despite the physical stopper it caused in your life I love how your shared ‘The truth was – I just could not stop. I was like a spinning top where you wind it up and let go and it keeps spinning. Even though I had physically been stopped, I could not stop the internal momentum’. This to me just shows how we are more that just a physical body and we feel so much more than what we actually see.

     1. and it also shows, through Bina’s honesty, how deeply ingrained the need to keep doing things is and how it takes over; as even when we are physically stopped – the internal momentum of busyness can still be experienced.

     2. This is big what you are saying Suse and also Shevon about the physical stop is not it, as the doing thing is so ingrained you just can’t stop. It gives us an understanding why people have major surgery and go back to doing exactly what they did before and with no stop, pause and reflection on why it happened in the first place, the true ill has not changed. Removing a body part, as in my case changes nothing other than the physical symptoms. Real true change comes when you apply the teachings of Serge Benhayon as I clearly have done, and then you see and feel the results and what’s grand is that they can be lived by anyone and it is possible if we make the choices.

219. The body is impacted by everything that we do and your blog Bina shows how this is the case. The body simply does not lie, if we abuse it, it let’s us know. We can tend to take a superficial view as to why things go wrong in the body but we need to come to a more responsible view of the underlying causes of disease and illness.

     1. What a great reminder here Elizabeth Dolan – our body ‘simply does not lie’. The thing that gets me is how it really does take the abuse for so long before it breaks down. I have seen cancer and many other dis-eases take hold of the body after years and years of assaulting it as in my case. Almost 3 decades of heavy painfull monthly periods did not stop me once. Today it seems so crazy to me as I live in such a way that even a tiny scratch now I would sit and question as to how it happened and why. Incredible really if you read this blog and how I used to live.

        1. It does make me wonder if in our history we were more caring about our bodies as they didn’t have the medical advances they have today and it would have been easier to die from a common illness. Whereas today they can do open heart surgery and take out tumours, all sorts of complex procedures. So why have we become so reckless with out bodies and how bad does it have to get?

        2. Yes Bina what you have expressed here how you were with your body in the past and how you are today is a remarkable change! One well worth celebrating and writing a book about! Very inspiring to read.

220. Giving up the drive to get things done and allowing time and space to feel how I am living has been a slow process for me too, but it is the only way to true health. Thank you for writing this blog Bina.

     1. Thank you Tim Robinson for your comment and I agree that whilst it is a slow process to give up the drive, it is ‘the only way to true health’ and well being.
        I have found after 8 years that not pushing myself and going into that drive but instead putting the focus on developing going deeper within me so to speak, things change and move in a way that really is beautifull. A classic example is I take a nap and not worry about getting the next assignment finished. So no push or drive to get it done. No surprise after the nap I get the assignment done in record time, effortless but other work too, just because I made a choice to stop, honour what my body needed and feel the value of this and take action. Win win or is it called a no brainer?

221. There is another way and stillness is the key. Interesting that the complete opposite is what we are led to believe we need to be in order to be a successful woman. Your living example Bina exposes the absolute lie we have been drip fed since we were little girls.

222. It felt so healing to read your blog this morning Bina and to reconnect with my stillness. I do still find I get caught up in the business of life, but now I am more willing to feel this and accept that the only way to change is to come back to me and my bedtime routine – and to honour that.

     1. Susan, this is exactly the reminder I’ve had today. We underestimate how much deep rest at night supports us to heal and let go of the day. There are optimum times to go to bed, where we will receive the deepest sleep and how we prepare for bed with our bedtime routine, contributes to this. I am certainly feeling that the more anxious and busy and worried I am during the day (therefore no Stillness), even though I sleep what I would call well, I wake up feeling grouchy!

        1. Yes Shevon I agree that ‘We underestimate how much deep rest at night supports us to heal and let go of the day’. It is only recently that I have been able to appreciate the impact this has on the whole of my life – it feels as though I am always playing ‘catch up’ with my sleep and not truly allowing my body to heal from all the busyness in my life. It feels this starts with building moments of stillness into the day as I go along and this helps support my sleep pattern. It’s still a work in progress – but work that I am enjoying as my body responds and enjoys.

        2. Susan, sleep is vital and our bedtime routine supports our deep sleep to allow our bodies to heal and be ready for the next day. If I have not had a deep sleep, I can feel my body tired the next morning; when my sleep has been deep and rest full, it automatically wakes up full of energy.

     2. I agree Susan, Bina’s blog is deeply inspiring and if we just choose to make some simple choices to change the way we prepare for sleep, our bodies can deeply rest and be rejuvenated for the next day. I now love to very lovingly go to bed early and often wonder how I used to I cope with all those late nights out!

        1. I know Sandra! After a certain time my body tells me clearly that it’s had enough and that it’s time to go to bed. Consistently I see this occurring at the same time each night! It really does amaze me.

        2. I had to laugh when I read this comment of yours Sandra. Late nights out was probably my middle name or we could say ‘night owl’.
           I often wonder how I coped but the truth is my body copped it all and that exhaustion took ages to deal with and it was not about sleeping in for days and nights. It was about developing a sleep rhythm to the point now where it would be very rare for me not to fall asleep. I have so many practical tips to share and most of it really is common sense stuff like not using things that stimulate us before bedtime, like computer, mobile phones, foods with sugar etc., you get what I mean.

     3. I have been very inspired by Bina’s commitment to her bedtime routine so that she goes to bed with stillness to support her to sleep in stillness. I notice that she doesn’t say what her routines are, leaving her readers to discover what is true for them. I definitely need to pay more attention to my wind down period at night, as I notice I often feel tired when I wake up, even though I have had plenty of sleep. Again it all comes down to quality.

        1. This is such a great and valid point Josephine. It is as simple as that – the quality in which we sleep is determined by the quality with which we live our day. they go hand in hand!

        2. It was lovely to read your comment this morning, Josephine and to remind myself yet again of my commitment to building more stillness in my day so that I come to my bedtime routine with more honouring and love.

        3. Thank You for your comment Josephine and in response I confirm that I have not shared the actual bedtime routines here but I have written about this all as I cannot keep what I live just for me. I know from the early days when I met Serge Benhayon he always talked about living what is presented and then sharing with others ONLY what you live. My commitment is strong and unwavering now so it is easy for me to put this into a way that could help others. So I wrote a book that will be rolled out in 2016 called Back to Basics so humanity has practical simple living ways to support them.
           What I know and realise now is that the body likes routine just like a baby does and yet as adults most of us never bother and instead use our mind to keep us distracted and entertained as we think routine repeated stuff is boring.
           Well having done Back to Basics way of Simple Living for around 8 years, I am not bored and what it has truly given me is a rock solid foundation that allows me to deal with whatever life brings and I am not all over the place or racing around anymore.

        4. I love the point that you make here Josephine as it’s not just about the amount of sleep that we get, but how we go to bed and the QUALITY of our sleep that’s equally as important.

     4. Yes Susan if we are honest most of us ‘get caught up in the business of life’ as you say. The great thing is we do know what works as we have tried it out and one of the most important things is sleep and understanding what it is to have QUALITY sleep.
        There is a blog about the Science of Early to Bed and it really is a must read for the world, as this is what Serge Benhayon has been teaching from day one to anyone who is open and willing to listen.
        10 years of going to bed early and learning how preparing for bed holds value and makes a huge difference, and confirms to me that this is number one if I am to deepen the stillness I have been talking about.

        1. Hi Bina, I would love to purchase a copy of your book ‘ Back to Basics way of Simple Living’ when it comes out as I love the solid support that building strong and ever deepening foundations allow. Reading your blog and your comments has reminded me of the importance of going back to simple basics.

223. Thank you Bina for sharing this article. I too always felt I had to be ‘doing’ something to justify my existence and perceived being still as inertia and idleness. Serge Benhayon has presented the philosophy of an inner stillness during our everyday living and I am finding that connecting to my inner stillness I am much more aware and understanding of the messages that my body is offering me.

     1. I know what you mean Mary Adler about this stillness as being ‘idleness’. Growing up I was recognised and commended for not being still and ‘always on the go’. I recall my parents saying to me how great I was that when the others stopped to watch TV or play, I would go and clean hairbrushes or shoes just to DO something and not waste a second doing nothing. Is it any surprise I ended up ignoring my body to the point where I nearly died? The ingrained behaviour of doing was valued and so it was very very hard for me to let it go and realise that it was killing me and is not my natural state of being.
        Even today I am very aware of this ‘doing’ aspect in my life and learning to not over do anything and keep checking in with my body, who for the record is now loud and clear when it tells me ‘stop, rest or NO this is not needed.’

224. Thank you Bina, I appreciate your honesty. It is a wakeup call to check out Anything that is not right in our lives; to get supported by our GP, but to also look at how we are living that is creating these undesired results. A very important note. That things will ‘not just go away’ – but are there for us to investigate, learn from and deal with. I love this “It starts with stillness” – for only then will we have the depth of space, honesty and love to ask “what is really going on?”.

     1. I agree Arianne that going to the GP is super important but what is EQUALLY important is to take RESPONSIBILITY and dig a bit deeper and ask ourself “how are we living” as this will give us an indication as to why we got this illness in the first place. As you say we need to get honest about what is really going on. No point lying as nothing will change.
        What I know from lived experience is that anything, absolutely anything that takes me away from that marker of stillness I have in my body is one step in the wrong direction. Keep moving away from the stillness with my daily repetitive ill choices to dis-regard and neglect my body was what led to the tumour and then surgery. But with the motion unchanged, I was not making any progress and this is when I learned that I had to apply the teachings of Serge Benhayon and LIVE them and not just tick the boxes.

225. What your blog reminds me Bina is that there are no short cuts. There may be relief from a condition, but if the underlying cause isn’t addressed, then one can be quite sure there will be another message down the track to make us stop and take notice. And yes, making moments when you are still in your body is a terrific way to be able to hear if your body is saying something.

     1. Suzanne this is so true. I have fibroids and will require surgery soon. What it has shown me is that I have made many changes in my life that were true, but I had yet to really claim and cherish how beautiful I am as a woman and just being me. The reality of needing the surgery is calling me to look at myself and life in a much more loving way.

     2. Exactly Suzanne, we have to walk each step, and as we do we get a greater understanding of what is needed for us and our bodies, and learn how they support us to live and we can support it to truly support us. And we get to unravel those behaviours and habits which don’t truly support us, and change them as we go. We get to connect more deeply to us and the body we’re in!

        1. Again as you say Monica ‘we have to walk each step’ and that means live this and this is how we get to develop a deeper relationship with our body and let’s face it we got this body until our last breath.
           When you think about it – it makes no sense to:

           Shove food down it that it does not need or want
           Drive it and push it
           Ignore the exhaustion
           Use the mind to check out on social media
           Deprive it of sleep
           Give it copious amounts of alcohol or sugary drinks
           Prep it up with a coffee every morning to kick start the day
           ALL the above guarantees you never get the stillness that this blog is talking about.
           Those steps Monica and Suzanne are talking about are reversing the no sense stuff by re-imprinting with more self-caring choices that actually truly support the body.

        2. Love how real and practical you make it Bina and it’s stark when you present it like that, why would we treat ourselves and our bodies like something we can discard and replace, rather than the precious thing it is! It really is crazy when you stop to consider it truly.

        3. Reading your list Bina reminds me of how disrespectful we can be with our bodies and how willing we are to use it like a garbage bin. What astounds me is how easy it is and no matter how many campaigns there are to get fit and healthy, very few people take notice or change their lifestyle until a serious health condition comes up.

        4. There’s a deep knowing and arrogance in us that ‘thinks’ we can get away with it and it’s only when we’re stopped with serious health conditions that we actually consider changing. It takes dedication and commitment to observe how things impact on our bodies and to honour what we feel, and it takes time to overcome our very old ingrained patterns where we have as you say treated it like a garbage bin, but with time that does change (step by step) and as we feel more clearly how our bodies are and notice the impacts and get more honest with ourselves we can change this – it’s a journey for well worth making, and for those committed to making it, it’s about continuing to live and refine and change as our bodies indicate. We have another arrogance we need to also watch, one that thinks we’re better because we’re doing x or y (more healthy, more fit etc.) and another isn’t, it’s about staying connected to and feeling our own bodies and ensuring we’re taking all the steps necessary to support it, and understanding that others will in their time make these steps too.

     3. This is a great way to look at it Suzanne when it comes to the body ” there are no short cuts.” And from my own experience when I do I will fall in the muddy puddle!

     4. This is a great comment Suzanne “there are no short cuts” when it comes to what our bodies are telling us. As much as we would like to ignore any physical symptoms and hope they will go away, or get a qucik fix to make something better, the only true path to our own healing is to listen closely to what we are feeling in our bodies, and to address the underlying issues that caused the symptoms in the first place.

        Bina’s blog is a great and inspiring example of this, and her consistency and commitment to herself and all that she does is a testament to the amazing woman that she is today. Thank you Bina Pattel for your clarity and willingness to share your experience.

        1. Thank you Sandra Vicary for expressing your truth here. Again this thing Suzanne talks about is super important. There really are ‘no short cuts’ and this is what most of our world want today. Quick fix, quick solution so we can go back to doing what we used to do and not really stop and question why it happened or what our part was in this. The need to just function and keep going is what seems to be the norm today and just look at the cost to our society in terms of health and social care. It is getting worse and it is blogs like this that may one day be read and taken note of. In fact this website holds many many answers to anyone who is open and ready to another way.

     5. Love it Suzanne and correct ‘No short cuts’.
        There is no pill, potion, book or cd that you can buy and get on the fast track. This is what I really and deeply love about the teachings of Serge Benhayon and that is you need to LIVE it day in and day out and then that stillness stuff starts to make a difference. Once you got that going there is always more to deepen, expand and develop. We should say ‘no short cuts and no laser road, no holidays or self medication’ and by that I mean take a break and go back to indulging or self neglect as it will not work.
        Consistency is the key and once you have this locked into your foundation even if something happens you will feel equipped to deal with it as nothing is a big deal.

     6. It is the same for me Suzanne. What the blog also reminds me of how much we can recover even from really bad situations.

226. We can make life really simple when we use our body as a compass to guide us how to live. Bina, thank you for sharing your story, your commitment to yourself today is an inspiration for all.

     1. I agree Katinka that my commitment to myself today ‘is an inspiration for all’ and it just confirms that anything is possible if we make the choice to commit. It is our choices that bring about change and if we make life really simple and use our body as a compass to guide us in life we really can’t go wrong.
        Things go belly up when we get into our head and allow all sorts of thoughts to dictate what we know and can feel is not the Truth.

227. Reading your blog has been a great ‘wake up call’ for me – thank you BIna. I love the way you express so openly and honestly – and it is this that allows us to be more open and honest with ourselves and not dodge the issues. Stillness, I am learning is such a beautiful way to be, and when we connect to moments of stillness we have so much more to offer the world.

228. Bina, thank you for sharing your story in this blog, and all the follow-up comments. I just love how you make it so simple, clear and real.

229. Thank you Bina for sharing your story. The way you described how you connected with your body was simply put and it felt achievable. You have inspired me to continue with my connection.

     1. Great that you have been inspired by reading this blog Lindell and that the simple language has made you feel it is achievable.
        Once we build that connection it becomes the normal and so I spend very little time thinking about connecting as my body is so loud when I am off or out – in other words dis-connected that I just move and say out loud what I feel. This helps me to get back on track and soon as my breathing is back I feel settled again inside my body. What still surprises me is how on earth did I live like I describe in this blog. It feels so awful and such a long way off from how I live today.

230. “It really does not pay to ignore the signs when things are not feeling right with your body.” No, it does not. As important as that is to learn how to read what the body is communicating.

     1. Why is it that we don’t want to learn how to read what the body is communicating?
        What is stopping us?
        Is it possible that if we starting to ‘learn’ as you say here emfeldman that it would mean us having to take Responsibility? In other words our health then is in our own hands so to speak?

231. Bina what a difference you needing to stop and connect to the stillness made to your life. I sometimes still get caught up in the doing and not being and it is affecting me more now than it used to because I am aware that I need to stop and smell the roses! I have a habit of still putting others before myself, time to stop.

     1. Well it’s almost a year Roslyn so I trust you have knocked out that habit of putting others before yourself as we both know it does not work. Done it and been there and it’s ugly.
        I came to realise some time ago that looking after me in every way first is the priority every single day. It is only then that I can choose to support another or inspire them just by my living way.
        They may just sound like words but I know that the quality with which I choose to live and deeply take care of myself really and truly does have an affect on others. It’s like I know what is needed and what to say or do and there is a clarity in this.

232. I am inspired by the changes you have made, Bina. What I have to remind myself when I have strayed into overwhelm, is that I don’t have to try to find stillness, I am stillness (underneath all the rushing and tension) – I just have to choose to reconnect to it.

     1. Thanks Carmin Hall – I am also inspired deeply by the changes I have made and continue to do so as I feel its an ongoing process of reviewing and refining but no perfection ever. Just staying real and if things go belly up then hey ho, lesson to learn, no beating up, have a good old firm talk with myself and back on track. Rare these days but nevertheless I accept I am human and no need to give myself a hard time.
        The bit you mention here about stillness is there already is very true and you are right we just need to connect.

233. Without stillness I feel lost, I bounce from one action to another in a desperate attempt not to feel the truth and I get nowhere with my health nor in life, nothing changes. I’m also grateful to “… Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and all the amazing practitioners who, with the way they live their lives, are able to reflect that there is another way ­– and it starts with stillness”.

234. “Loving me was not my thing” really stands out for me, as I had always treated myself as ‘the thing’, I had no respect for the body or myself. It’s a brutal lifestyle to live, while at the same time we just accept it, until someone comes along and shows us another way.

     1. I agree Jamie that ‘not my thing’ is huge and I reckon it applies to so many people. Had it not been for Serge Benhayon showing me another way, I dread to think where my life would be today. Morbidly obese pops to mind and living on sugar and racing around million miles an hour.
        The great thing here is I know I am a role model in this world for so many now and it comes from the lifestyle changes I have made as a direct result of applying the teachings of Serge Benhayon. What I also know is that it comes with a greater level of Responsibility and that is something I value and embrace. In fact I feel honoured to be able to live in this way and support others by inspiring them.

235. This is such an important blog. To date there is no ‘known’ cause of fibroids with the medical profession having no idea what causes them to shrink or grow. What this blog raises the question of is “Is our lifestyle the cause and the perpetual motion we are in?” I have read much on the subject of fibroids and this question is not raised anywhere else, with potential causes being an increase in hormones, but could our constant busy-ness be the cause of the increase in hormone levels? Great blog and great questions to ponder.

     1. An important blog indeed and it sure will not lose its sell by date if I have anything to do with it. More people need to be aware of this simple lifestyle stuff so they don’t have to go through what I did and be a burden on our overstretched health systems. I feel raising awareness should be a priority in our world as we seem to rely too heavily on the medics and as you state here they may not have all the answers. The fact they don’t know what causes fibroids or why they grow or shrink says a lot really.
        So why not be open to another way especially if it is coming from someone who has been through it all?

236. Bina, I love this line about having a mobile phone in one hand a blood transfusion going in the other arm. You are so spot on that we do just accept these events as normal in our lives and are rarely given the opportunity as women to stop and use the time to address perhaps some unsupportive behaviours in our lives and to make the necessary changes for our complete well being – not just enough to keep going.

     1. This is the crazy thing Shami that we accept having a mobile phone in one hand and a blood transfusion in the other as Normal. That is why the nurses said nothing and let me do whatever I wanted. Imagine the body if it could talk saying to me “give me a break I need to get this blood flowing as all your organs are getting affected and you just don’t seem to care”. As I said in the blog here, it was like a spinning top that kept spinning even though physically I had stopped. Inside I was racing 100 miles an hour and it was this momentum that was the problem.
        Thank God it is nothing like that now hence the increased vitality levels and total care and regard for what I know is a precious body.

237. Bina, oh dear, I can very much relate to a lot of the words you use. Multi tasking has been big for me and I recently questioned this. This was a huge wake up call in itself. Thankfully I naturally found my way to Universal Medicine a few years ago and all that has changed. I feel amazing and join you in appreciation of the teachings offered.

238. When I finally had a stop with illness from the way I’d been living, the momentum of the way I’d been running kept coming behind me like a tidal wave continually pushing me to stay that way. From attending presentations by Serge Benhayon and with the help of esoteric practitioners I was able to understand what was happening and from there I was able to acknowledge the feeling of intensity of that wave wanting to bowl me over whilst at the same time keep persevering with coming back to stillness and over time that wave has subsided and is barely a ripple.

     1. Great description Deb. Our past momentums can be such a driving force in our body that slowly as we allow ourselves to experience stillness we wonder why we would want to run with the momentum. I enjoyed your sharing.

     2. Thanks for the analogy and the reminder Deborah. I know the intensity of the old patterns coming as a tidal wave and I know the perseverance needed to reduce it. I also know the gift of stillness when the tidal wave diminishes thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon and my experiences with the esoteric practitioners.

239. Hi Bina, I’ve read this before but it was really just a story happening to another person. This time around I can feel the shocking disregard I live in, continually ignoring my body and continuing on with the same harmful patterns and choices all the while fooling myself “I’m ok” when my body is literally screaming with symptoms. Your story has awakened so much awareness in me. I deeply appreciate your sharing and I will be back to re-study myself through your story.

     1. This is the great thing about Bina sharing her story in that we all can learn lessons from it if we choose, or just see it as something happening to someone ‘over there’. Thank you for your honesty Melinda, as it’s this type of honesty with ourselves that can lead us to make necessary changes. Without honesty we can’t see how we may be harming ourselves.

240. I love how you tell it like it is Bina. Being male I don’t have a relationship to menstrual cycles, but I do have one with stillness. I find that being in stillness is the only antidote to the tension that is sometimes overwhelming.

     1. Thank you Jinya and a great reminder that this blog and the many comments I have made is in relation to Stillness and so it EQUALLY applies to men and women.
        Imagine if our children were educated at a young age to know what Stillness actually is for the body and how it can balance our life in every way so that we live with vitality and not be depleted which can lead to illness and dis-ease.

241. Thanks, Bina, this is a great article that reminds us all not to ignore those little signs and symptoms that are our body’s indications that how we are living needs to change.

     1. Yes thank you Bina. You offer so much to ponder. The two main points for me today are that the body is our compass and by listening to it attentively and questioning our reactions to life we can can know stillness.

242. It now seems a natural part of the livingness to check with and listen to the wisdom of the body when making choices about self care. It hasn’t always been that way for me. My intelligence always came from the mind and that was limited (by society’s standards), never did I consider that the body figured in the equation, I was just born with good health and that came from the long living gene pool I was born into. I never knew joy, harmony or stillness, but hey, I am doing pretty well. I sold out and I paid with over 50 precious years where I could have been truly loving me. I now know differently and value every precious moment where I love and nurture ‘me’. This is the foundation on which I step out into the world in loving connection and presence with others. I feel truly blessed and will forever appreciate the presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and practitioners.

243. What I am really getting a sense of as I return to this blog and the comments is that this is a process that takes time and no amount of frustration or emotion for waking up racy or falling back into ingrained patterns will help alleviate what needs to be healed. Having ignored the body for so long and so rigidly set in my mind is going to take time to remove, but if Universal Medicine has taught me anything it’s that it is not something that can be given to you by another but our own choices to be consistent. Thank you Bina for this blog and the golden nuggets within your replies and comments.

     1. I agree Leigh, we have spent a long time putting the body into disregard so true healing can never be a quick fix solution. As Bina has shown, its all about making consistent self-loving choices to not put her body into disregard. From there, we are more able to deal with any issue that arises.

     2. So true Leigh, healing takes consistent loving choices over time and it is greatly hindered by any form of judgement or beating ourselves up for not ‘getting there’ quick enough, for the detours we take.

244. Bina, this is such an inspiring post – thank you for sharing. A powerful example of how our bodies are always reflecting to us where we are at and what is needed, if we choose to listen. Your transformation is just amazing and a testament of how western medicine and esoteric medicine are a powerful union to bring about true healing. I love this line – ‘Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me.’ – thank you for reflecting that there is another way.

245. Thank You Judy and just for clarity to the reader – Yes the illness did stop me physically but nothing changed other than I had major surgery. My mind was still in the racy pacy motion mode and my ‘to do lists’ were getting as big as my frustration with all this being told to “rest”. It took OVER ONE YEAR after surgery, having burnt my hand severely and receiving true support from a Universal Medicine practitioner that I finally made a choice to slow down and start to listen to my body. I had to learn, really learn to look after me and make that a commitment.
     To be honest, it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do as ignoring myself, my feelings and my body was so ingrained, it was my ‘normal’.
     The transformation was another four years later, once the consistency was lived inside my body and nothing else outside of me was important enough anymore.

246. The greatest gift your body could have given to you at that time it gave, an illness which stopped you in your tracks and allowed you to embrace the transformation you have made. Accepting that the way we live does actually affect our body is perhaps the first step to changing. Thanks for writing your blog and sharing the journey you have made.

247. Bina I love that you have not given any time to focusing on regret, guilt, sadness or remorse, instead you are so appreciative of the woman you are now and of the choices you have made to be that gorgeous inspiring woman. Listening to Serge Benhayon and to your body are truly life-changing choices.

     1. Just for the record Bernadette, I did have major feelings of regret and guilt, but it was more about not being ‘adequate’ to have a baby and not about me trashing my body. It never crossed my mind ever that how I was living was the reason I had 4 miscarriages and a tumour that nearly killed me.
        A top tip I got from a wise man Serge Benhayon about my past living was to make choices today that do truly support my body. This helped me to not do a ‘post mortem’ of my past behaviour and bang on about it. Instead I made choices to Commit to Life in full and be Consistent, without the need for perfection. Just being the real me to the best of my ability and making sure I mind my own business, stay open to others and get on with it. That is my recipe for life today and it sure works.

        1. You make a great point here Bina, about not doing a post mortem and falling into the trap of being a perfectionist, as it’s so easy to be looking at our past choices from the point of view of getting everything wrong and then not focussing on the ‘choices to Commit to Life in full and be Consistent’.
           Also, I would like to add that your extra comments and the commitment to your blog has shown us, as a living example of how you commit to your life in full – very inspiring and much appreciated.

     2. I totally agree Bernadette that it is so inspiring that Bina has chosen to be positive and focus on her appreciation of how far she has come and also that she has shared her journey with us all so freely.

248. For most of my life I was similar to you Bina, motion, stress, worry and couldn’t get my head around what stillness was – but not now. I have steadily changed how I view life which has been the best gift I could ever give myself and my family and friends. Your story is very inspiring to women who have not yet realised there is another way, it’s up to us to lead the way.

249. There is so much wisdom in your blog Bina and all of the comments as well. It’s such a shame that we have to go through life ignoring all the tell tale signs our bodies are telling us before it gets to crisis point. I suppose with the amount of distractions, the pace of life and numbing devices out there, it’s a wonder any get to the realisation that there is another way.
     I’ve said it before and it won’t be the last time I say it Thank God for Serge and Universal Medicine.

     1. Thanks Kevin – the wisdom coming from my lived experience holds value. This is something I have never appreciated let alone acknowledged about myself until recently.
        I made a commitment to comment and ADD value to this blog by sharing how I live and keeping things super simple and practical which is my style.
        It is three months today since this blog came out and the pure gold comments I have added could be a mini book for women all over the world who would benefit from knowing there is another way.
        To go through what I did was awful and unnecessary and like you I have to say ‘THANK GOD FOR SERGE BENHAYON AND UNIVERSAL MEDICINE’.
        This blog and all its comments has supported me to share even more and I realise that we can inspire each other in a real way that has lasting effects. Thank you to everyone who has contributed. It is together, in unity and in equalness that we make a difference.

250. Thank you, Bina, an inspiring blog on the importance of reconnecting with that deep inner stillness we all have.

251. Thank you for your honesty Bina, which truly allows other people to relate. And loving the presentation that stillness is the antidote to the motion and momentum.

     1. Thanks Arianne for confirming that my honesty does allow other people to relate to what is being said. I write as I speak and there is no fluff and nothing fancy. I am not trying to win an audience, impress anyone or need anything – just sharing what I feel may support or inspire someone who is looking for another way to live.
        You mention that stillness is the antidote to the motion and of course I never knew this until I met Serge Benhayon.
        What comes to me now is imagine if kids were taught that they need the stillness to BALANCE the motion and that the quality of the motion will be different if the stillness is there first.
        A great practical example I can give as an adult living today is when I take a nap because I feel tired and know my body is asking for this rest, I wake up with an internal stillness and steadiness that allows me to move differently. So moving is the motion but the quality is very very different to how it would have been if I just pushed on and ignored my body and not taken the nap. I hope this makes sense.

252. I love your honesty Bina and this commitment to deeply looking after yourself ‘what I can do now is live every day taking deep care of myself and this is what I have been doing and it works.’ Detailing practically how that looks is so supportive for others – thank you for sharing.

     1. Thank you Helen for confirming. My intention by adding comments was simply to offer some of the practical simple support that I know has worked for me and could possibly inspire others. What I have come to realise is that things change and it is important to adjust to our own personal rhythm. By that I mean we each have different jobs, work, family, commitments and challenges. Whilst going to bed early always works, we need to stay real and do what works for our own body. Example – my working hours are different to my husbands and the type of work we do is totally different. He does shift work so he is not able to go to bed early. However on his days off, he is in bed super early. How he develops stillness in his body is not necessarily the same way I do.
        The best tip is to connect to our own body and the bespoke, custom made answers are there. Exact precision and exactly what is needed in that moment. Nothing more and nothing less. Our body is an incredible intelligence that deserves our undivided attention as it keeps you on track and never fails to give you clear signs. Our job is to keep finding ways to develop that connection to the point where it really is the compass to guide you in absolutely EVERYTHING is your life.

        1. ‘Our job is to keep finding ways to develop that connection to the point where it really is the compass to guide you in absolutely EVERYTHING is your life.’ Absolutely Bina the compass of connection is an amazing tool to support us in our lives.

253. Thank you Bina for a great blog and equally so, great comments and discussion from everyone. The commitment to yourself comes across very strongly and is inspiring to read how you went from driving your body to developing stillness.

     1. I like what you say Julie – “developing stillness” as that is exactly what it is. I am still developing and its an ongoing process so I can knock out more and more of the motion and outer stuff that disturbs my inner stillness. I am a work in progress but from where I was, I have come a long way and now it is easy to get back to me and that connection I have inside me that is worth more than absolutely anything that this world could give me.
        The more I question even the slightest disturbance in my body, then things shift but if I choose to ignore it, then it gets fatter and bigger then boom, I have to deal with it as it just feels yuk inside me. Then I get my understanding hat on and sit with it or go for a walk and it really does clear. Nothing seems to hang around and fester inside me for too long as I find holding on to stuff a bit boring now.

254. Bina, that was amazing to read how far you have come. I can relate to the busyness and feeling the need to keep going. It’s a great way to distract ourselves from the stillness we are.

255. Thank you Bina I enjoyed reading your blog. I too have learned it is not selfish to take care of me. Loving my body is now part of my everyday.

256. What a powerful statement for us all to listen to our bodies and to “consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue”.

     1. Wise words Jonathan, how different our world might be if we were all to; ‘consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue’.

     2. Great reminder – Thank You Jonathan.
        The truth is very rarely does anyone bother to listen to their bodies or consider how they are living that could possibly be causing the issue. We tend to listen for a short while if we get the wake up call, medical scare or accident. But as in my case, I found it a gross inconvenience and all I wanted was to return to “business as usual” so I could keep going on with my ill behaviour. Thank God my body had another agenda and I was literally forced to stop.
        Our world is geared to keep us going and it is full of distractions. We have subscribed to so many ideals and beliefs that we don’t even know what it is like to suspend it all and start again at ground zero and work things out for ourself by asking our body.
        Even google hasn’t got us the self guide manual on this !
        What is lacking is a true connection with our body and then to develop this and deepen our relationship with our body. It requires true commitment and a responsibility that many do not want and this is why we are seeing illness and dis-ease in the body escalating and as a result, the medical systems are really struggling.

257. Like yourself, when you were young Bina, many woman now consider it normal to have very painful and heavy periods. We are the role models for these women, showing them that NO this is not normal, this is an indication that we are not living true to ourselves as women. We have been blessed through attending Universal Medicine to know the truth of the matter – we now need to get this out far and wide so other women can also benefit.

     1. Mary-Louise I totally relate with what you say and yes I am completely blessed to have attended Universal Medicine course and presentations to understand that any slight pain, heaviness and swollen breast are not normal… To me this makes absolute sense and to get this out there as you say is super important.

     2. I totally agree with you Mary-Louise that we have been blessed through attending Universal Medicine to know the Truth and it is our responsibility to get this out there – far and wide as you say, so other women can also benefit.
        No woman needs to suffer if they could have an understanding that the way they are choosing to live is the reason. This blog and all the comments is confirming that.

258. It’s incredible how much we will fight something that is innately there within us and the lengths we will go to not connect and feel the stillness and breathe ourselves back to who we truly are … Amazing!

259. I am so with you Bina, getting to have a close relationship with my body has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. Stillness has built in my body when I have listened to it and cared for its every need, not allowing my mind to race and do do do. This is not weak or selfish, in fact it builds an inner strength that can be touched by nothing, my capacity to work has increased ten fold because I am looking after myself so well.

     1. Thanks Kate and I agree that it is not selfish to listen to your body and care for its every need.
        In the past I did think it was selfish and grew up with my role models taking care of everyone and everything but not themselves. I followed that same way of living and it got me to this blog. It took me years to actually tell my mother or anyone that “I didn’t pick up the phone as I was having a nap”. I felt lazy and indulging if I allowed myself the luxury of a daytime nap. Today I see it as the most deepest loving thing I can do for my body on the days where this is possible. It has allowed my body to trust me more and this has definitely deepened the quality of my stillness. I noticed recently that I was able to surrender deeper and those ugly voices in my head were no longer there, clock watching, judging or criticising. I Appreciate how my level of stillness is more than it was last year and I know that quality is something I want to continue developing and make it my priority. This means I need to keep reviewing and refining and making adjustments to support my body with where it is at right now and be aware it is changing by the day.

260. Great blog Bina. I too have been through all the hysterectomy business but for me it was such a relief to have long heavy painful periods stop and I appreciated all my gynaecologist did for me at the time, bringing great relief to very uncomfortable monthly periods. However this was over 25 years ago and unfortunately I did not have your realisations then, but it is all ongoing now. Your humour about it all is wonder-full and long may it last!

261. “Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me.” – I’ve found this too, it’s simple but has had an enormous effect on my wellbeing.

     1. Using the body as a compass is so deeply supportive.

262. NO TURNING BACK – great words Mary Louise and if more of us chose to Commit to Truth which is not hard really, we can inspire others that there is another way to live.
     I have found recently more and more that nothing on the outside can give me that quality of ‘stillness’ feeling that is deep inside me.
     Recently on one of my many ‘experiments’ I made a choice to increase my focus and make effort not to get distracted which is very easy. It was my birthday and no big deal as it really was ‘just another day’. I stayed focused on the work that I know needed to be done, continued my studying and of course had the opportunity to have a nap.
     I gave myself permission to sleep as long as I wanted as there were no appointments and nothing to do that was urgent or more important than my rest. Yes, I had a super top sleep but I noticed that BEFORE I went to sleep there was a stillness in the room and I acknowledged it and in that moment Celebrated me. It was like saying great you made this quality and what more do you need. The answer was I needed nothing.
     I was deeply content and I am learning to Acknowledge, Appreciate and Accept how far I have come. It really is a miracle if you knew the extent of my past trash lifestyle.
     There is NO TURNING BACK.

     1. Bina, I keep getting more and more from your blog and comments. That was beautiful to feel a moment of confirmation and Appreciation with yourself. Something I’m just stepping into now, and can feel the power in it. Recognising that God is already within, and appreciating the times when I’ve allowed God to shine.

     2. Thank you Bina, you are spot on – there is no turning back. The quality felt in our body is constant inspiration to keep making choices that honour, deepen and celebrate who we truly are. Nothing compares to this.

263. I was so far away from the stillness that a woman naturally is, that I gave up on ever finding it. Life presented me with two things, to guide me back. First I met Serge Benhayon and secondly I got breast cancer. Serge, was a great support, which helped me get honest and own what I had been choosing, which provided me so much healing. The breast cancer gave me the time to ‘stop’, slow down (like you Bina, I was always on the go) and spend time with myself in the way of making many new self loving and self nurturing choices which helped me to reconnect to my body, and in doing so reconnecting to the divine stillness, beauty and grace that resides in me and in all women.

264. Thank you Bina for sharing how far you have come with using your body as a compass to guide you in your life. I can really relate to ‘the internal fight between who I was and what I chose to do. I was fighting a natural inner stillness, that is who I am as a woman, and over-riding it with motion.’ Thank you also for your comment above about how the quality of our rest is determined by how honest we are during the day, the examples you give are really helpful and there are several I can relate to and if I am being honest allow to disrupt the quality of my sleep on a regular basis. The beauty is that now I know that I have a choice about how I live my life which I was blind to before attending Universal Medicine presentations.

265. I wrote this blog and I have had a ding dong moment so here is the laser version.
     Call it aha, revelation or realisation – This blog and all the comments have a common theme – it is all about the motion and stillness.
     We all need ways that we can develop and deepen our stillness as the motion is always around everyday and stops us holding our stillness. So we find ways to work on our stillness but what if we try our best with the practical ways to support our stillness but our day has some of the following:

     we feel to say something but we hold back
     we try and be nice when it sucks to be like that
     we jump on someones bandwagon as we want to ‘fit in’
     we pretend everything is ok when it is not
     we act fake and phoney with our partners, family, work colleagues
     we do things to be recognised
     we secretly do social media and get to bed late
     we react when we get an ugly email but don’t stop and feel why
     we love texting even though it has no meaning or purpose
     we feel overwhelmed by all the things we “have to do” that day
     we eat the wrong foods that we know does not support our body
     we overdo the TV business and feel whacked out next day
     we walk around with a shield over our heart as if we are protecting ourself
     we have no real winding down time as its all too much
     no proper cooking going on everyday so propping ourself up
     rushing around and clock watching – adding unnecessary stress
     winding ourself up and definitely putting our body in dis-harmony
     doing things on auto-pilot – aka ‘checked out charlie mode’
     forget to check in with our body during the day with moments of stop

     Could it be possible that because of the above we get NO REAL TRUE REST when we close our eyes at night. So the quality of our sleep is not what it could have been, had we said what we needed to or didn’t do the being nice thing that day. You get what I mean – you get the picture?
     So we go to sleep with a tension, a subtle disturbance and this ensures we do not fully surrender our body to truly rest and rejuvenate. So in truth our Stillness cannot be deepened as this buzzy feeling of the way you live during your daytime affects your sleep quality which takes you into the next day.

     Bit long for a comment but I trust it makes sense.
     I am sharing this as this is what I have realised. Anything I do not deal with during the day or anything I am dis-honest about, comes to bed. Dealing with it during my day time and choosing to be deeply honest, helps me to surrender my body when I close my eyes and this supports the quality of my sleep.

     1. WOW! Thank you for the very practical tips as I’m sure they will benefit so many readers. It can often be difficult to see where we are going wrong – so to speak, or why it can feel like we are going round in circles but the more we create moments of stop the more real opportunities we get to reassess and see where we are making the same mistakes. The great thing about creating regular stops in our day is that we are less likely to have life bring us a major stop as in the form of a serious health diagnosis or an accident. In this way we start to take responsibility.

     2. Brilliant list Bina, it makes so much sense that with holding all these in our body we don’t get the true rest our bodies need which then keeps us away from our stillness. There are definitely ones there for me to work on, thank you.

        1. I too agree with Ruth and others- brilliant, informative and inspiring blog Bina. Love the practical list- things to ponder upon.
           What you went through was such a wake up call for you- but what’s so awesome is how you now can help and inspire others to live more lovingly and supportive of the body’s natural rhythm.

        2. It’s incredible, I agree Ruth. Holding all those things in will have an impact on our body as they are not meant to be kept in. What I’m becoming aware through my own life experiences and the support received from Universal Medicine, is that our bodies are there to be naturally vital, naturally rejuvenating and naturally alive. When we hold things in, are dishonest or try to be nice it stops the natural exuberance and vitality we could otherwise have.

        3. Thanks Loretta for confirming that this blog is ‘informative and inspiring”
           My awfull ugly and super painfull experience has been truly healed and now I can support others to simply GET ON WITH IT which is a phrase I use all the time.
           This blog and all the comments I have added means there is a chance someone, somewhere may read this and either be inspired to take action or pass it on to someone they know who would benefit.
           By saying nothing and not sharing leaves the world where it is and guarantee no change. I am not saying this is the answer. What I am saying is that by making lifestyle changes we do not have to go through something like this in our life and what a gift it is to know this.
           Until I met Serge Benhayon I had no idea what our body was really all about and why I had spent my entire life trashing it.

        4. I agree with you Ruth that this is a brilliant list and ‘it makes so much sense’ as the truth is our bodies do hold all of this stuff and so it keeps us away from the quality of stillness. On that note and another year later, I have come to realise that there is more in this stillness department. It is like there are layers and you get to go deeper inside you and things feel more steady and still. How I have done this on a practical day to day level is just making sure I stay close to what my body is feeling and checking in regular about anything and everything that disturbs me. Add to this, I find a way to stop, take time out and walk, have a nap or both. No big deal if it doesn’t go to plan as I know most days I can get to bed early.
           It all comes down to choice and taking Responsibility. What I mean by that is I know if I make responsible choices like take the stop break then the quality of my stillness will deepen. My marker or check point if you call it that is the internal steadiness I feel when life is in front of me – be it a text, email, a work situation or even meeting a stranger on the bus. I can tell when something feels true and when it is not.

     3. It makes complete sense and it is Awesome and So Supportive…most of us would have felt that ‘buzzy’ feeling when we actually decided to get into bed and wanted to go to sleep, but we lie there, suddenly realising that we have a busy mind and a restless body, and when we have actually managed to get some sleep, it is no surprise that we wake up feeling exhausted. I actually used to get stressed about going to bed and used to avoid it because I did not like feeling agitated when I was trying to get to sleep…I know, so I got even more tired…There had been no preparation to have true rest and be still. I know I have done this many times in my life and preparing to sleep is relatively new to me. Even though I am still learning to how to prepare and support myself throughout my day, I can say that considering it and initiating some simple tools for rest in my day has supported me so much. I am feeling so much more still and able to deal with the world. Wonderful comment and blog Bina, I could feel the stillness build through reading it, valuable experiences to share.

        1. Gosh Samantha – I know that feeling you are talking about where you got that ‘buzzy’ feeling and we just cannot fall asleep. That feels like lifetimes ago for me even though it wasn’t.
           It is very very rare now for me to have any buzz stuff going on, as my winding down practical and simple rituals are super strong and it truly does support my body.
           Example, I sit in my chair in front of a small mirror and cleanse my face. The chair has a soft baby blanket with small hearts and my butt gets to rest on it every day, twice a day. In the evening, just the very act of sitting in that same chair I seem to drop, literally deeper inside me and NO WAY do I engage in tv, social media, reading magazines or any other distractions.
           I call this winding down time “nil by mouth” – no nonsense going in or out and it’s not negotiable. After 7 years of consistency it does not matter if I am not at home and have no chair or soft blanket, it still works. Just my fingertips on my face with the cleanser does it and I get the same drop in my body.

     4. Yes Bina, what a great aha moment and so glad you shared it. You have pointed out the importance in every choice we make and how they effect the next moment, day, year, lives.This has helped start my day with more awareness. Thank you.

        1. Correct Kim Weston – every single choice we make does affect our next moment and there is no getting away from that.
           So if I choose to eat that food that I know is not really what my body wants because it is going to send it racy then I got the consequences as my body cops that choice and I have to LIVE with that.
           If I choose to talk to someone just for the sake of it or because I want to be nice then again my body will feel the lack of integrity and the tension inside me I have to LIVE with.
           If I hold back from speaking my Truth in any moment then that hardness is instantly felt on my chest and I have to LIVE with that.
           Just for the record we are not on earth to be perfect. We are on earth to evolve and it is like school we are learning.
           I make mistakes but the priority for me has been to develop and deepen this stillness stuff, as there really is no other way if you want to be equipped with life and what it brings.

        2. Same with me Bina, I have a strong commitment to deepen my stillness and love within, not only to be equipped for life but, to bring the immense joy back into it.

     5. What strikes me Bina is that your list of anti-stillness determinants describes most people’s way of life. No wonder so many people around the world are suffering from exhaustion.

        1. Jeanette what you say is so true and makes so much sense. Before Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I had not even heard of Stillness or even considered it myself, let alone come across tools that support us to tune in and develop Stillness within our bodies. The agitation and raciness most live with is accepted as the norm and we just keep inventing ways to override this.

     6. I so recognise not being able to surrender my body at night. Although I almost always sleep, the quality varies substantially with how I lived my day, or days, and how I have allowed myself to be honest about what has been going on. Thank you Bina.

        1. This is so true Katinka that our QUALITY of sleep comes from how we have lived the day or days before and it is time we all got honest. Going to bed early consistently is great and super supportive but there is more.
           This surrender business is the allowing to deepen and connect even more to the stillness of our being that is inside us which has the same pulse as nature if you can get your head around that one. Yes imagine being that still and living from that stillness. Well I know Serge Benhayon does and you can feel it when he writes or speaks.
           A practical tip that I feel to share which I have been LIVING for the past year is to take a nap during the day when I can. Even 10 minutes with my eye pillow on before I leave the house makes a difference and also during my break. Taking a longer nap is where I really can feel the surrender and I always wake up with a new head and body. Nothing phases me or disturbs me and my job is to be more aware of what and when things change. In other words does the food I eat change me inside or is it that email or conversation I just had. This is where I am at and what I am learning to deepen the quality of my stillness.
           If this nap stuff is not possible then going for a walk in daylight seems to do the job. I generally have a chat to myself if needed and say ‘early bed tonight, you are tired’ and my instruction is followed most times. If not, my body cops it and I do not get the quality sleep that I am used to.

     7. Geez Bina, this is an incredibly practical list for everyone, and one I certainly can relate to. So accurate that I was feeling “Get out of my head Bina!” while reading it. However, I too have begun to deal with issues during the day as they arise and not hold back sharing how I feel. I always feel lighter and more expanded when I do this, and when I don’t, I usually have disturbing dreams that affect my sleep later that night.

        1. Interesting Michael Goodhart you talk about disturbing dreams when you have not dealt with your issues during the day as they arise. This confirms to me what I too have experienced and what Serge Benhayon has been teaching from day dot. How we live during the day is the quality of our sleep that night and there is no getting away from that.
           Now imagine days and days and years and years of not dealing with things during your daytime and it goes to bed with you and stacks up and you get a big fat backlog. Well if you want some help on this one, just re-read this blog and you will get what I am saying here.
           It really does pay to address what happens in our day to the best of our ability or seek help from practitioners like those aligned to Universal Medicine, who are clear of the issues you may have.
           What is the point of going to see someone like a therapist or specialist to deal with your anger or exhaustion issues when the practitioner themselves have the same issues. Hello.

     8. Brilliant Bina, this sentence in particular stood out for me. ‘Anything I do not deal with during the day or anything I am dis-honest about, comes to bed.’

        1. This way Rosemary we are not fooling ourself or anyone else. Let’s get real, you choose to not deal with something then it follows you and for some reason it gets bigger if you ignore it and then boom it’s in bed with you.
           Yes even something you are dis-honest about or that little white lie that we call that was not needed but you said it anyway comes to bed with you and affects the QUALITY of your sleep.
           What I have found talking to my clients is the holding back stuff. It’s huge when we make a choice to hold back and not say what we felt. It is such a deep ingrained behaviour for many and it really harms us and of course the end result is it does affect our sleep quality.

266. Bina, this is the second time i have read your blog and I just love it. What you share is so relatable for many of us as it is very rare to have true role models in our society that reflect back to us the quality of stillness we hold as women. We are surrounded by women living according to the ideals, beliefs and pictures of what they ‘think’ they need to be rather than surrendering to our natural stillness and knowing that we are already enough! You are a living testimony of a woman who has re-connected back to her essence and living this in your day to day life. Very inspiring.

     1. This is so true Marcia, Bina Pattel is a living inspiration. A great opportunity for all of us to see what can happen when we go into achieve, achieve mode, but also that we can ALWAYS make changes to stop this by learning to re-connect with Stillness.

     2. Dear Marcia
        Thank you for this inspiring comment and how important it is for us all to knock out the ideals and beliefs we have.
        This has been a experiment and a ‘work in progress’ for me and I find I am catching myself all the time about things I subscribe to because I heard it, read it or someone does it and I think that is how I need to be. Ugly but true.
        I am currently at ground zero and questioning absolutely everything I do and why. Example: Why do I want to dress in a certain way based on who is going to be there? What a load of twaddle and on that note, I recently attended a presentation with around 100 women. I was going to wear a dress and my body was saying (as if it really was talking to me) “No way, it’s freezing, you are only doing it to show off and we need to study on the train and be comfortable – we got work to do”.
        I dressed the way my body would love that day and I looked and felt smoking hot and it was not a dress. I really get it and how putting any focus on the outside of me comes from some form of ideal, belief or picture of what I think. It’s all from the head and my head never gets it right. My body always gets it right and that is what I plan to keep following. My body is my compass and my job is to keep trusting it more every day.

        1. Brilliant comment and sharing Bina. How many times do we put ourselves into uncomfortable clothing or situations just to fit in. I remember how I used to squash my feet into smaller size shoes so that they looked cute. They may have looked cute but I was seriously damaging my feet! Your sharing is like a breath of fresh air in that doing what we feel serves us best in looking after our body is the answer.

        2. Bina, I truly love what you are sharing here about questioning everything you are doing and why. I am so inspired by that because it feels like the only way we can really get underneath all those things that we have taken on and have become our so called truth when in fact they are not true for us at all. I have been looking at my ideals and beliefs for some time now but your comment has inspired me to take it to a whole new level. Thank you.

        3. Thank you Bina for being such an inspiration not only in the way you have turned your life around but also in your ongoing commitment to looking at everything in your life. I love the idea of seeing my body as my compass because it can guide me so well if I only let it.

        4. Brilliant Bina, I love your candid comments. The more that we live our own truth, the more we inspire others to do the same.

        5. Yet another necklace of pearls of wisdom from you Bina. Love what you say about any focus outside of ourselves comes from something we’ve taken on in our heads. Absolutely get that my body is it. Thank you.

        6. Bina, I love and am inspired by the way you are willing to always go deeper with your understanding and level of self-care, even though you seem to already be living it every day. I have found that I can stay on a kind of ‘cruise control’ series if I am not as willing to be honest with myself and with why my head has over-rode what my body is telling me. The way you keep things simple and always stay open to learning more from your body is the way to go and inspires me to do the same.

        7. The thing is Elizabeth Dolan – if we do not start to question everything then we are not going to get anywhere really.
           A recent classic small example but nevertheless it had BIG consequences was sending a text that I did not need to. It led to an ugly response which of course does not get left because I am here to deal with it and cut the nonsense. If I don’t then that will make my body racy, the tension will be felt in my body and guarantee a crap night’s sleep with no Quality. Yes action taken and all clear but it does not stop there.
           WHY did I do it in the first place was the million dollar question?
           I felt into it and recall a split second where I had a feeling which said ‘don’t bother sending this’. In that instance I can definitely remember overriding my initial feeling and this is how it works.
           If I do not question things and go deeper with my questioning, then there is never going to be any evolution.

267. This blog and all the comments clearly demonstrate that there is another way. We don’t need to pack our bags and go in search of the magic pill, distant land, guru, Shamen or even change jobs. We all have the capacity to self care right now, not tomorrow, next week or the 1st of Janurary. Take the next step in love, and then take another one, it will feedback a quality that warms you from the inside out.

     1. I agree Matthew. Change does not need to be an extreme external thing, but rather a choice that we say yes too. Yes to more love, yes to seeing what’s really going on, and yes to listening to our bodies first.

     2. Yes, well said Matthew. Looking outside of ourselves to ‘fix’ our issues is never going to work in the long term. We are the ones who can ‘fix’ ourselves and now is the perfect time to start. All it takes is that first step of responsibility.

     3. I agree Matthew. Self care ignites the fire of the love and joy that warms us from the inside out.

     4. Correct Matthew Brown – this blog and the comments posted thus far confirm that there is another way.
        Living from the ‘inside out’ as you speak about is the way and it takes time but small steps daily is what is needed.
        These steps build a loving foundation and once you got that – Bingo things start to move in the true way and you are no longer living with that daily tension that comes from looking on the outside to validate you, confirm you or make you feel this or that.
        You become the master of your own ship and your body is your compass. Trust me you will never go wrong and so what if you deviate – your strong foundation lived daily will bring you back on track faster than you think. Well worth living in this way as the rewards are beyond words and you get to share like this with joy.

     5. I like what you have written here Matthew and it can be that simple, even though we have a tendency to complicate things.

268. Thank you Bina, it’s great to be reminded of how important the stillness is. I can be motion motion motion all day every day for only so long, until I get a big stop that makes me be still, and if I could bring more of a balance of motion and stillness throughout my day to day life, then I could definitely be more consistent and not have to have the big stop.

269. Bina, your blog truly is a wake-up call; so honest, so outspoken. It is about Self Responsibility every single day. Thank you…..

     1. This is so important what you say here Marjo about “Self Responsibility every single day”.
        In my world that means it all comes down to choice.
        Each choice comes with a quality and that quality will have a direct effect on the next choice.
        Now in comes “stuff” – things like someone pressing your buttons or something goes wrong. How you react and respond will be based on the quality of your choices up to that point.
        Example – yesterday having a top day and then an ugly phone call. Yes it was disturbing but I was able to sit down and say what I was feeling and why. I then looked at what I could learn from this person’s behaviour. The End.
        I was no longer disturbed in my body and the event felt like it was last year. Talking about it or even thinking about it had no effect, as I was back into my quality which I know has a level of Stillness. If I cannot feel that Stillness then I have my tools to get back, which could be go for a walk and nominate what is actually bugging me. It always works, as long as I am deeply honest.

270. Bina this should be posted on the bulletin boards in doctor’s surgeries. Thank you for your loving truthful humour and common sense!

     1. Thanks Josephine – that’s me, mrs common sense and if we add humour to the flavour then it keeps things light but we get the point across. I see no benefit in making things a drama or having a need to get attention. It is what it is, just say it as it is and others find that refreshing. Bore the pants off them and they may never read another thing you write.
        I have made writing a part of my life now so the world will have plenty to read from me in the years to come – all with the common sense and truthfull humour as you say.

        1. I love this Bina, straightforward, no nonsense common sense approach to life and looking after oursleves, with a big serving of humour mixed in. We can spend so much time skirting around things rather than just saying what needs to be said, and as you say, many, if not most people find this very refreshing. We can then choose to listen and learn, or not, but at least the opportunity has been offered which it may not have been otherwise. Inspiring indeed. Thankyou.

271. I agree Donna a big fat Wake up Call for me and writing this blog is a HUGE WAKE UP CALL for the world. On that note a few words here —
     Dear World
     Just incase you are reading this whilst multi tasking, stressed out, burnt out, exhausted beyond words, eating foods to numb you, doing your social media business or in a pickle about your relationships – just Stop. STOP, take a deep breath and rewind. What is going on and why?
     It is only when we Stop, really stop and ask questions that things have a chance to change. If not, join the club – something will happen and you may get sick.
     The medical system does not want us to join the sick club as they cannot cope and we are bankrupting them with our ill choices. They want us to put our Self Responsibility hat on and take action by making small steps to support our body every day.
     Have a go as the benefits are well worth it.
     over and out
     from a woman who really did not know how to Stop but sure does now 🙂

     1. This is great fun to read and gets the point across very simply. I agree with Josephine, this would be great posted on the billboards in Drs surgeries. It would be great on hospital billboards too and how about reading that as you open your morning newspaper? That would definitely make us STOP.

     2. WOW Bina, you speak from your own experience that the lack of responsibility for ourselves can create a wake up call in the form of accident, illness or disease. I know you, and I can vouch for the fact that you certainly DO know how to stop, with a capital ‘S’, and have supported many in doing the same, including me. You live your words and are an inspiration. I have ‘had a go’ and am beginning to truly feel the benefits, all it takes is the simple choice to take responsibility and stop making excuses and expecting someone outside of ourselves to bale us out of this mess.

        1. Thank you for your confirmation Sandra Henden and YES I do most ‘certainly know how to Stop’ and if I choose not to then Bang, something happens and it’s a matter of minutes before I get to feel the consequences of ignoring the first feeling to stop.
           Now there is just no getting away from it.
           What I find is that the head does try and get in the way and they are deep old ingrained behaviour patterns like ‘you can’t take a nap, you haven’t done much yet’. Crazy thought but nevertheless true.
           I am amazed at how our body knows exactly what we need and if we respond to it then we have nothing to fear – ever.

     3. The stop for some women is almost impossible because of the speed with which they are travelling, and for them, slowing down and just acknowledging to themselves that they need to stop is a great start. Years ago when I was traveling at 200 mph, this was perpetuated by the types of foods and drinks I was using to keep me going e.g. caffeine, sugar and alcohol. Once I stopped coffee, I literally fell in a heap…the coffee was a false fuel keeping me going when I really needed to STOP.

        1. It’s amazing the number of bullets our bodies can take in the form of false fuel like caffeine and certain foods to keep us going at high speed. When we are going super fast sometimes we don’t notice it but when we start to develop and feel stillness within, it becomes easier to note when we have started to speed up internally as that stillness is lost. Having the esoteric healing modalities available from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is a Godsend as they all support us to feel what being still on the inside is like.

        2. The thing is here Sandra that the majority of women do not know how to stop whilst travelling fast, as they don’t know where the brakes are and by that I mean they are unaware like I was of HOW to stop.
           If it was not for the teachings of Serge Benhayon, which was not overnight I might add, I doubt I would be here writing in this way and sharing such a miracle story.
           Many people in society today do not know that coffee, sugar, alcohol and even just worrying about things is racing the body inside. This type of common sense stuff needs to be out there in every doctor’s surgery and leaflets instead of candy and chocolates at the supermarket check out lines.
           The media need to get real and deliver this type of message if we are to ever get the illness and dis-ease rates down.

        3. Yes I agree Bina, I only had 2 speeds – super fast or exhausted and would cycle through these periodically. And it wasn’t until I started doing the gentle breath meditation, esoteric yoga and the healing modalities offered through Universal Medicine that I’ve been able to go at a different pace and stop the cycle of fast and racy followed by a crash.

     4. Just love your blog and your letter to the world – so honest, absolutely wonderful and full of such incredible life changing wisdom. I too have learned the importance of stopping, but only after I was stopped many, many times, often painfully so; and following the stop there’s got to be self responsibility, self love and endless self appreciation. Now these, I have found, are the essential ingredients to truly changing your life; no more surviving, and just getting through each day, but learning to live every moment of every day to its fullest.

        1. Thanks Ingrid and I love writing “Dear World” letters even though I have no clue who may read it and even if no-one ever does, who cares I done my bit and the imprint is there and that cannot be erased, ignored or negated.
           My job is to write and keep writing what I know and Live is the Truth. Nothing more and nothing less.
           You mention how you were in effect forced to stop many times and it was painfull.
           Why is it that we do not learn to stop?
           Why do we need to continually be reminded by our body to stop?
           What drives us to not stop and pay attention to our body?
           Why is this internal racing car going so fast?
           I reckon from a young age we start to lose our inner most self and begin taking steps on the racy road to fit in and keep up with others. If we don’t then it will probably lead to drugs and alcohol, checking out and numbing out with whatever we need to not engage and commit to life.
           It is time we started to pay attention to our body as it is with us until our last breath.

        2. Ingrid what you have written here is key and jumped out at me this morning ‘following the stop there’s got to be self responsibility, self love and endless self appreciation’. This has also been my experience and the warning signs of ill heath were there and all along I was believing I was living a healthy lifestyle but my body was telling me otherwise, but I wasn’t listening to it carefully enough. Listening to my body is an ongoing process and one that I have stubbornly been resisting for many years, but I am finally getting the wisdom and feeling the benefits of getting to understand the messages the body can give. The messages are a precious gift my mind would have me believe otherwise.

     5. Very well put Bina, it doesn’t get any plainer than that and I can totally relate to what you have written due to my own choices which have led to ill health over many years, only to find that it need not have been that way.

272. Thanks Bina for your sharing. What a big wake up call you have had to look at how you had been living as a woman. Well done for going there and making new self loving choices. I can totally relate to what you have written, in the past never taking a moment to stop and really feel what is going on in my body living being driven by my mind. Thankfully I have learnt a different way of being through the teaching of Universal Medicine which I am deeply grateful for.

273. For me too Bina it is a moment to moment commitment to connect to my sacredness and express from this…no less…knowing innately this is who we are and we just have not been choosing this in the past….like you Bina no turning back. I deeply appreciate your commitment to truth and your blog.

     1. NO TURNING BACK – huge statement Mary Louise that both you and I are making here. Our deep commitment has a Responsibility and True Responsibility is living a life of true consistency. For me that is about making my health and well being first and foremost before anything. It sometimes doesn’t go that way and my body instantly hardens, so I then have a choice to commit again and make me numero uno and we have lift off. Its simple and keeping things light helps me to not take life so seriously as I used to in the past.
        Turning Back is not even an option in my life – I call it “not negotiable”. The beauty is I am content with my life to the point where “it is what it is, I am exactly where I am at because of my choices and I take full responsibility for every single choice I make, even the ugly ones”. That quote keeps me grounded and on track.

274. When we experience stillness in a Universal Medicine session, it is quite incredible and revealing. It shows us what is possible if we introduce and live with self love and that this wonderful ‘living stillness’ is real, because it is already within ourselves and we all have this potential. If we are able to reduce, refine and wrestle the whirlwind momentum of motion that suffocates the feeling of stillness, which you have done so beautifully Bina, we allow stillness to be felt everyday. Walking, shopping, cooking or working with the hum of stillness is well worth the effort and the key to this is self love, one step at a time. No more hiding the truth of who we are.

275. Thanks Bina for such an awesome article, and it’s true Karoline that we use distraction to not have to feel what we are doing to ourselves. Like you Bina I was racing around every moment with not a clue about stillness or presence, for me it was trying desperately not to feel the lovelessness in the world or to not feel that I might be unlovable… so safest to keep spinning – crazy – and the consequences of this kind of existence, the health issues and toll on my body followed a similar pattern to your experience.

276. You are so right Karoline that as women we generally stay distracted and not stop to look at our lives and how we could be actually hurting ourselves.
     My insight has come AFTER I came across the work of Serge Benhayon and gone through all the pain and discarding in my body to be where I am at today.
     I feel there is no goal or destination as the Stillness comes in layers or levels. The more stillness you feel, there is the next level you can go to once the layer is lifted.
     I feel it is about surrendering more and more and by that I mean letting go, suspending ALL your beliefs, judgements, ideals your way of thinking. It takes time and daily commitment to practice surrendering. I have a long way to go but boy oh boy, I am on my way and there is no turning back.
     I cannot imagine living an ounce of my old trashy life.

277. Very powerful sharing…..our bodies hold so much wisdom and clearly show us when something is not right in how we are living….as women we often ignore this in pursuit of the way we set up our lives so that we stay distracted and not stop to look at our lives and how we could actually be hurting ourselves. You provide insight in how we can change this and how powerful the stillness within supports us with a quality of life that is more loving and brings our sense of worth.

     STILLNESS IS WITHIN EVERY WOMAN AND OUR BODIES SUPPORT US TO BE HELD BY THIS STILLNESS, IF WE SO CHOOSE IT.

278. They really are incredible our bodies – they are pretty amazing at telling us loud and clear how we are living and the impact that it has on our bodies. How you have embraced this Bina and supported yourself to see that there was another way is fantastic. Great sharing, thank you.

279. The first word that comes to mind reading your article Bina, is ‘whirlwind’… that is, that the life that you had lived feels like a kind of crazy, perpetual motion, a spin that one had no idea how to come out of, and was lived unconscious to there being another way.
     Thank-you for sharing so openly the challenging times you have been through with your health, and also, the deep honesty with which you acknowledge that your body brought you to a stop, at last.
     This is such a powerful testimony, one of thousands no doubt, to the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, that you have been inspired and able to discover the stillness within. It takes time to develop this as one’s natural and foundational ‘way’ – that the whirlwind no longer dominates, and I truly honour the commitment and dedication you have described, that have brought you to where you now stand. It, and you, feel absolutely beautiful, having developed this way in your life, and found the ‘real woman’ that was always there waiting.

     1. Interesting point you make Victoria about having no idea how to come out of the crazy whirlwind spin and totally unconscious to there being another way to live.
        This is the problem we have in society – very few are aware that there is another way but like you say it does take time to develop and make that other way, which is the natural foundational way. The dominant crazy motion is no longer there for me now but my job is to continue making daily choices that I know will keep me still and steady. The other way makes no sense and keeps me on the ugly road, so why on earth would I want to subscribe to that. For me the Stillness I can feel inside me is worth more than anything this world offers.

        1. It is ABSOLUTELY priceless, I agree absolutely Bina!
           Knowing the Stillness within, and deepening in our relationship with it via the way we live and our willingness to remain in touch with who we are (where the Stillness is naturally felt) is most definitely ‘the way’ forward for us all.
           The modality of Esoteric Yoga has supported me enormously in this, allowing the foundation that you speak of to be known, and nurturing it in my daily life.
           Without it, I would be running on nervous energy as I used to do, and as we’ve said is so common… living completely unaware that there was another way, at all.
           The blessings brought through by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine in modalities such as this, and the teachings of the Ancient Wisdom, are too innumerable and priceless to ever mention. Thank-you for sharing your story and opening up such conversations that everyone deserves to hear. I look forward to many more.

280. Thank you Bina. You are an inspiration. The way you have turned your life around is nothing short of amazing and we can all learn from this. It used to be so easy to put other things in front of my stillness, but I’m finding that my body speaks so loudly now and anything less doesn’t work. I love what you said about there being a fight between the woman that you innately are and the momentum of every day life. Reminds me that we always have the choice.

     1. Such a simple and great point you make Rachel.
        “we always have the choice”.
        Putting stillness first means things have to change and if you keep adjusting it means that the stillness gets deeper.
        My stillness last month is different to today simply because I have chosen to change a few things in my day to day living.
        example – getting up super early and going on the computer is not something I feel to now do. Instead, I focus on priorities like my washing, getting things cleaned and in order in my home, cooking and sorting out stuff for work. Computer is after and what I have noticed is the quality of my stillness has gone deeper.
        I feel more steady by making this small adjustment.

281. ‘there is another way ­– and it starts with stillness.’, beautiful.

282. There is so so much in this blog and the comments to learn from and that I can relate to. Just because there is no physical pain doesn’t mean that everything is fine and dandy. I may not have a life-threatening illness or disease (yet if I continue to ignore my current health concerns) but beating myself up for not taking the front foot of my own health and stopping frequently, rather than forcing myself to tick off my many boxes and tasks, has thus far only led to more issues.
     I may not have made self-loving choices in the past, but if I focus on the fact that I am capable of making them now (and not dip into the self bashing of I always have been able to) that is a start.

283. How is it we so often ignore those messages the body gives us until it makes us stop? This blog shows what a difference we can make to our own well being when we choose to.

284. The need to do and put work first is very common with women and men. Even though I have the awareness of this, I often have little thoughts of “Oh that’s enough looking after yourself” or “I’ll just do this” but inevitably my body always tells me afterwards by how I’m left feeling, whether it was a self-loving choice or not.

285. Thank you Bina, There are so many people in the world who just cannot stop, as the saying goes “for the life of them” which is actually the truth. Because if they stop they have to feel and that is the very last thing that they want to do. And as you say, even when people are physically stopped, the mental momentum keeps going.
     This again highlights the importance, the crucial importance of what Universal Medicine is presenting. Self-care of the body, mind, and the the reconnection to the heart.

     1. You are so right cjames that so many people in the world just cannot stop. Our world is supporting this with the increased distractions and it seems to be escalating and what I know is missing is this balance that this blog and all the comments have highlighted – Stillness.
        We could learn a lot from the animal kingdom. You never see them staying up late doing nonsense and ill treating their bodies the next day. Animals live in a rhythm and are respectful to their environment. We the intelligent of all species seem to think we own the planet, do what we like under the “free will’ banner and trash our bodies. We dread getting ill or having an accident but at the same time we Know we will get the medical system to take care of that. In all of this we take no part in responsibility.
        I was the same until I came across the work of Serge Benhayon and learned what Self-Responsibility actually means.
        Today my life is super simple and I no longer buzz around. Multi tasking of any kind would give me an instant headache.
        I love my life beyond words and would not swap it for anyone else’s. I stay open to learning and growing as I see this as earth school. There are plenty of things I would like to change but I know that my choices of the past have led me to this point. I can’t change the past but I can live today in a way that is taking full Responsibility for ALL my choices, even the ugly ones. This means my tomorrow is guaranteed to be what I want because of the choices I made today like having a nap, going for a walk or going to bed early.
        With a teacher like Serge Benhayon you get on track and then become a teacher yourself which is exactly what I now do and inspire many people around the world. It comes down to the balance – getting that stillness which supports the core of your being. There is no better feeling out there when you got this inside you.

286. Amazing Bina. Knowing a bit more about your background it’s always inspiring to hear how you have turned your life around through simply listening to your body and taking loving care of it. You’re a buzz of energy now, the non motion kind!

287. Finding stillness within is the most amazing thing to have connected to in the body. I love your sharing. Yes, when we are living in a certain momentum of motion and don’t even know or have heard what stillness is it feels so foreign. Yet, by making simple slow changes in a self-loving manner, stopping to listen to our body & live life from what our body is loud and clear telling us, it all seems to change and we change and connect to and become who we truly always were, that amazing precious loving being learning to honour us.

     1. Thanks Pinky for your valuable comment. It made me realise
        1. You cannot buy Stillness
        2. You cannot read about Stillness
        3. You cannot think about Stillness
        4. There are no short cuts to Stillness
        For each of us Stillness is a quality that is already inside of us.
        Slowly slowly as you say Pinky, if we start to make changes in a self-loving way, we get to experience this quality.
        Once you feel it and begin to live in a way that supports this Stillness to develop and grow, others will be inspired.
        I cannot imagine anything more that I would need in my life as the quality of Stillness I have inside me is the steady compass that directs my life. It is ahead of what my tiny mind thinks it knows and wants me to do. The being becomes first and the doing becomes second. I don’t always get it right but I do know how to come back to that Stillness and keep choosing to deepen the quality, which then allows me to ‘do’ even more in my life but without the drive I talk about in this blog.

288. Everything has an impact on our state of being. Every step, breath, thought, food and emotion have a collective result that determines the quality in which we live. Thanks to our body as the register of this, we can steer ourselves up and out of almost anything… if we listen to and feel the signals. Your blog is a wake up call to the world Bina and your commitment to supporting the comments is really beautiful.

     1. Thank You Matthew Brown. I have chosen to commit and support the comments simply because the blog was a year old before it came out. That was me hiding and thinking what on earth am I doing and how could this be of benefit to anyone. How wrong I was. Supporting the comments is me today and I have shifted gear in the stillness department, so that means I can share more and it may help someone reading to take the next step.
        So here you go, laser version — I have been on an “experiment” this whole week. It started with a deep spring clean of the office and I mean deep deep. 4 trips to the toilet and suddenly my body felt lighter and stronger and I was literally told what to cook and eat. The portion was less than half my normal size. Continued clearing out paperwork and got through heaps at supersonic speed. No desire to eat and no cravings. Next day same and its now day 6. I have eaten very little and given my digestive system a holiday for sure. I feel stronger and more steady and my work output is telling me there is a new level of stillness because more is getting done in less time. It is like there is more space in my day and that space is also felt in my body. Have to say a bit stunned with the food business and still (pun intended) not having any cravings or need to eat a lot. Of course I know this could change but to feel so steady just by not eating a lot is an incredible feeling.

289. I can sense that this sense of ‘motion’ and complete ignorance of our bodies is something we pick up from society before we apply it as our own way of being. It is not loving, our bodies are reminding us of that fact.

290. I loved reading this again Bina, as it is so real. What really comes across is how busy and driven you were – to not take time to stop no matter what and the image of you with a phone in one hand and a drip in the other, says it all. To go from one extreme to the other and to now have stillness as your guide and not excessive motion, shows us all what is possible by listening to our bodies and not our busy minds.

     1. Thanks Julie Matson for confirming that this blog is real.
        It sure is and your comment reminds me of the inconvenience I felt when the doctors said I should rest because of the mobile phone in one hand and blood transfusion in the other.
        Not even major surgery stopped me. On morphine with a big fat drip I was out of my bed few hours after surgery and off down the corridor thinking that was great. I was in total dis-regard to what my body wanted or what it was trying to tell me.
        I have had to learn and at times force myself to stop and then it’s got easier. Nowadays I realise there is more to refine and retune within myself so I am consistently adjusting my way of living to deepen that stillness which is getting stronger.

291. This is such a powerful story Bina. To have come from the pace and momentum you were in, to turn this on it’s head and connect to your stillness again, and again is truly inspiring. Thank you.

292. So true Bina. When stillness seems to be this distant land and we are buzzing around in our own world of business, anxiousness or nervousness, it can feel so far away or even unobtainable. Just hearing and knowing that many others have walked this path is reassuring that the effort is worthwhile and you are worth every ounce of stillness that is waiting.

     1. That’s what’s great about this blog and the comments as we have a real person in Bina and real people in the comments sharing that they have got to feel still inside their bodies and what a difference it has made in their lives and to their health and well-being. Having real people share their stories and how they did it is inspiration for everyone. There is this ripple effect in life that once one person has broken the mould about something it paves the way and makes it easier for all others to follow suit.

293. Wow Bina, you have been through a lot but like you say “I cannot turn back the clock, but what I can do now is live every day taking deep care of myself and this is what I have been doing and it works.”
     In my experience it’s never too late to look after your body, even after years of abuse my body holds no grudge against me and responds gratefully to every bit of care and attention I practice.

     1. What a great point you make Bernard and Jane confirming it – “even after years of abuse, my body holds no grudge against me”.
        I am amazed of how my body is content with the simple needs it has and all it is asking me is to take deep care so it can support me every single day to live life and do whatever is needed without abusing it.
        Living in that regret and guilt mode changed nothing. Saying “I cannot turn back the clock, but what I can do now is live every day taking deep care of myself..” is the re-imprinting of all the loveless choices, mistakes and utter abuse I put myself through.
        I have become older and wiser and thank God I went ahead and published this blog. I spent a year holding it back as I felt ashamed to discuss openly about such a private and personal subject.

294. Thank you Bina. To stop, truly stop and connect to that inner well that brings me true sustenance and inspiration is something that I am deepening and evolving every day.

295. Thank you Bina Pattel — what I felt from You, and this Blog; I imagine you are performing the same on a different level from that Stillness within and achieving just as much, if not more, with a body functioning on all bodily systems working together in harmony with your organs bursting at the seams blowing steam with no trouble at all – a Power-House getting stronger by the day. An inspiration and quite a profound turn-around. Superman is a shadow in your wake. Fly Bina Fly!

     1. You make me laugh mr Rik with your Superman comment!
        The point you make about Stillness is important and true. When we can feel that Stillness within, our body is in harmony and so things flow. Example – I had two choices yesterday before I had to leave the house.
        1. Leave extra early as you cannot rely on the bus timetables.
        2. Have a short nap and trust that the stillness I get to will put me in the ‘flow zone’ and the bus will be on time and the main thing is no tension in my body.
        Is it any surprise that all those I met said I looked well and very steady. Strange comments maybe, but true. I felt what they said and it was confirming back to me that I made the right choice.
        By the way the nap was 10 mins. Hello.

296. Bina, what an amazing blog, and what an incredible journey you have been on to connect with your inner stillness. I can so relate to how it takes a physical stop to actually be able to stop the momentum or drive we are in. I was more or less the opposite of you, I was holding back in life and not walking forward with all of me (always hiding parts of me), and it took a hip replacement to make me stop and fully understand what that meant. The recovery process brought an enormous understanding and a humbleness towards my own body and I am forever learning what is my true expression. It is true what Serge Benhayon teaches, the illness and/or disease is actually medicine and part of the healing. It makes you STOP.

     1. I hated it when someone told me to just: “Allow and be still”. What on earth did that mean or even look like or feel like?
        THANK YOU EVA RYGG – you told me that in 2008 and I just had no clue what you were on about.
        Thank you for sharing about your hip replacement. Being so open and honest really helps others to be inspired and this blog site does that very well. Real people speaking the truth and not holding back so others may benefit is music to my ears to say the least.
        My incredible journey back to my stillness will be ongoing and deepening as long as I continue to use my body as a compass to guide me and if I wobble, go off track or allow nonsense to take over in my head, I have the ability to get back to the stillness as it is a strong marker in my body. I realise today that I needed the surgery and this journey – ugly as it has been at times, to knock out my arrogant way of living and introduce some humbleness which is work in progress for me.
        I love my life and am learning to Accept all of my choices and where I am at today. I feel deeply content with me and have no wish or desire to have another persons life.

        1. Yes, it did sound familiar – and I have to say at that moment I also had not enough clue about how to support you to connect to your stillness, just that that’s what your body presented at the time, and that it was not for me to withhold.

        2. This is beautiful to read your comments threads, Bina and Eva. To feel your connection and love for each other and for the HONESTY you both to share of how your illness made you stop and give you the ability to see what needed to be seen. I can also appreciate that sometimes that stop moment can come also from life events not just from illness. The prospect of redundancy has provided a well and true stop moment for me to consider just how I have been holding myself back. It has provided a good shake up, horrible though it is, but sometimes that’s just what we need to see the truth.

        3. The strength in your words is so palpable. I keep reading “I love my life and am learning to Accept all of my choices and where I am at today. I feel deeply content with me and have no wish or desire to have another persons life.” How many people can say that! and then to read the conversation from you and Eva, two women who have chosen to love themselves and seen their illnesses as blessing as a younger women brings me to tears – as it shows all of us what’s possible and that we are never to give up on ourselves.

        4. I remember you said a similar thing to me Bina as Eva said to you about stillness. I didn’t have a clue what you were talking about. I am starting to understand now.

297. Thank you Bina, you are an inspiration for me as I develop my own stillness within my busyness.

298. Bina this is a great account of getting back to your self. Thank you for sharing such a challenge. Like Christoph above – men too have plenty to learn by listening to what their body tells them. Always ‘pushing through’ is such a recipe for separating further from our selves.

     1. That recipe you talk about Andrew is so true about “pushing through”. It’s a very ingrained behaviour and not so easy to knock out of your system, if you get what I mean. Men definitely have this going big time.
        On a practical note – I actually talk to myself and say ‘No, stop pushing, you are tired and you need to stop’.
        Yesterday classic example. Got up super early and focused on me and what I could do to support my busy week ahead. Did washing, cooking and some cleaning. This new way of living, putting me first before the computer, my work and my husband gave me a tank full of stillness to add to my day. It was going to hold me and it did. I got heaps done and worked through 16 hours and no cravings. The key was to let my body guide me and my job was to totally surrender and trust it. I knew what to eat and when to and have to say I was amazed at how little I needed and yet how light but strong I felt.
        When my body asked for a nap, I knew I needed to honour that and I did and it gave me another solid 8 hours of work.
        No pushing. No struggle and so what if there is more to do as it did not all get done. It will in its right time if it is needed. If not, let go and focus on what is needed – that’s what I say to myself.

        1. “This new way of living, putting me first before the computer, my work, my husband gave me a tank full of stillness to add to my day.” Love it Bina. I still struggle at times with putting me before the computer when I allow myself to feel pressured by what I know is waiting in my inbox and what I have committed to – in busy times which most times are now. I find I feel much fuller and stiller if I do what I need to for myself first, but learning to really trust my body and surrender to it’s needs/messages and timings is still a work in process. I was operating under a strong compulsion to get things done before I could rest or relax, most of my life; now I have to be very alert to that convincing voice that wants to pull me away from myself in the illusion that something else is more important. When I come from this compulsion then of course I notice cravings during my day, a sure sign that something is out of balance and that I am missing out on myself. But again something I am learning not to override with a handful of nuts so I can keep going. Having a sense of humour about all this whilst still allowing the awareness of what is happening is paramount.

        2. It’s so easy to know something but to break a pattern takes work and commitment. This putting myself first I have conflict in maintaining when the work starts pouring in or I’m asked to do something. Immediately there’s a tussle of thoughts like “They’ll think I’m lazy if I say no … They won’t like me or … It’ll cause a problem if I say No”. This is the time I can falter and push through, with a little voice saying it’s OK, but now I can see that it’s not. Reading your comment is a reminder to keep going in the direction of what’s working for us, rather than abandoning it to fit in, as ultimately we are abandoning ourselves.

299. Thank you so much for sharing – it reflects to me to remember they importance of taking time out from my busy life to connect to me and feel my body and to listen to what’s going on and not ignore the warning signs.

     1. Reading your comment Kylie – I feel to say that our world is so geared up to keep us busy busy that we need ways of taking time out and making it a daily choice. If we keep repeating the new choice to stop, truly stop then eventually it becomes easier. It has taken me a long time to literally force myself to stop especially in the middle of the day when I am on a roll and think I can keep going and flowing. Taking a stop, deepens the quality of whatever it is I need to do after. My body really Appreciates the stop moment. Here is my proof and confirmation.
        My job is to keep developing that, with no perfection or agenda for why I choose to stop and as I repeat this daily, it is now locked into my foundation. It is part of how I choose to live every day and it supports me beyond words.

300. It is quite amazing how many warning signs women get. Men who behave identically might just suddenly drop dead without a warning!

301. hi Bina … really enjoyed reading this blog. I have found that feeling and knowing that inner stillness means that there is a clear choice to be made, rather than continuing with the busyness and jobs of the day. These moments of stillness become precious and therefore I learn that I am precious too – it is so worth building on as your blog shows.

     1. What is worth building on Susan is the daily practical stuff that is simple and supports you – like going to bed early and taking stops during the day, no matter how busy you are.
        The more you build on these, the stillness starts to grow and with that you get true confidence. It is the stillness that gives us confidence and it takes time to develop that and I have found that there are deeper levels of stillness so there is always more.
        A wise woman once said to me “Small steps build a stronger foundation” and it reminds me of a house. If the foundation is strong then nothing is going to knock it out. If I build the foundation slowly with small steps, then it is going to be strong and steady.
        Imagine living with a foundation of true stillness and how this would support our body, our life and inspire others.

302. The counter for the pain and suffering of illness and disease is self love, it is so simple yet elusive. How much do we accumulate each day if we are not choosing the walk and breath self love. We need to make it as natural as breathing and fill ourselves up with the abundance of love that exists rather than being influenced to look the other way and be distracted by life. Thank you for your blog Bina, a great reminder that self love does not stop but only deepens.

     1. What a great point Matthew. Self Love does not stop – there is no end goal, it just develops and deepens. There is always more. Example – going to bed early is self love and that worked to a point but there was more. How I prepare myself to go to bed was the next step and then there is more. What I choose to do as part of my bedtime rituals develops and there are minor tweaks and all this is because I am changing and my needs are different to the initial ‘self love’ of just going to bed early. It is a constant refining and reviewing of what is needed in that moment and to follow it through. This to me is self responsibility and it develops our awareness. So at first I was not aware that warming my bed clothes up on a heater would be so supporting but now I do. I cannot imagine not doing that for myself so it now becomes my normal.

        1. So true BIna, Self Love is a constant refinement and it is about being willing to paying attention to the details in our lives. Our own bodies will tell us what’s the next call, if we are willing to listen.

303. I did what I could and that was enough. To really be able to live that is immensely freeing, without an ounce of imposition from the outside, telling me that I should be doing something more or different. I feel part of the secret is being willing to bring all of me to what I do, and that is what makes it enough – something I am still learning.

     1. This is such an important point you have mentioned Josephine
        “I did what I could and that was enough”
        This has taken time and now the voice that used to tell me constantly in my head that I need to do more and not rest is no longer in control. If I get thoughts like that I actually say “get out”. I know it is not me and the real true loving and caring me would never have such hard ugly thoughts.
        With every choice its like a bank account. You can invest in the true stuff or the ugly stuff. My body bank account investment is now greater in the true self love stuff so its stronger and when the ugly stuff pops in to disrupt the flow with an ugly thought it is much easier to catch it and say get out. How? because it disturbs my body and I can feel the dis-harmony inside me so it doesn’t take long to get back to the real me.
        If I keep making choices to invest in the true stuff my body bank account gets stronger and I feel enough because I am full up. It outweighs the nonsense so it no longer controls you. I hope that makes sense.

        1. Absolutely Bina, I love reading you say that the voice constantly telling you to do more and not rest has lost control. I had never thought of it in the way you have described it, as the real loving caring you (or me) would never have such hard and ugly thoughts. It felt like a soul message when I read those words. Thank you.

     2. Excellent point you make Shevon when you say “The benefit of lived experiences and wisdom is that it can be shared with others”. Most of us and including me until now, do not value or even appreciate how lived experience holds power, and sharing with deep honesty can support and inspire others to perhaps make different choices. Each of us is a living science and we do not require double blind testing, as in my case – to know that the way I was living contributed to what happened to my body.
        The real story is that it really is never too late to make changes and stop the ill behaviour that led to the illness or dis-ease in the body in the first place.
        It took many years of trashing my body to get a tumour, and having surgery cleared the physical symptoms but that was not the full answer. It was applying what Serge Benhayon had presented as a ‘template’ about Stillness and then finding my own way that worked for me to start living with that Stillness.
        In my world, everything has to be simple and practical or you will not get my attention. So I developed ways that really and truly have made a difference to me and my life. I started to share this with clients and run Simple Living foundation courses. I do not feel I can sit around and make my life better and have so much lived practical experience to hold onto it. Sharing the wisdom is what is needed and what I do best. The ‘back to basics’ book is well underway now so watch this space!

304. “Stillness for me was a word to describe lazy people”. I had to laugh Bina as that it exactly how I used to see it too. Now I have come to understand that stillness is about changing the raciness that is going on inside which then creates space to allow us to deal with anything and everything that is going on in our life.

     1. Thank you Elizabeth for your take on Stillness which I agree allows the space for us to deal with whatever life brings us.
        That space for me means, first there is less tension in the body and our particles are not squashed up. This means our thinking is clearer and we are not being pulled out or checked out. Things come to us rather than we make it happen or push and drive ourself for results. The goal, agenda and trying seems to not be in our radar anymore.
        More gets done and there is a natural flow as we complete something. The space is there for the next thing and we don’t spend time working it out or thinking about it. Stillness means we are not multi tasking, trying to please, pander or get recognised and identified for anything we do, so there is an ease and grace that stays with us and carries us to the next thing.
        There is a sense of closure when we finish something and because the stillness was with you and that means ALL of you was with you, nothing is missing and you feel enough. You are then not looking or seeking for anything more and you don’t have the tension in your body, so you just move on. If things go belly up, you get to feel fast that something was not right and you learn. So what and no big deal. My days of giving myself a hard time are well and truly over. Instead I put the focus onto Appreciating me and what I bring to this world just by Being me.
        Thank God I met that man Serge Benhayon as he gave me the tools to get this wisdom that was inside me which I now share openly with anyone.

        1. The strength in your words and the wisdom that pours through here Bina are phenomenal. I used to think I could only be still by lying down and whilst a nap is sometimes needed, the stillness you speak of by stopping the doing and how life flows, is something I am getting a taste of. Reading your comments are very encouraging of how life can flow even more, if we keep choosing who we are – that Stillness. The benefit of lived experiences and wisdom is that it can be shared with others and this is definitely something we are all receiving from your experience.

305. Hi Bina – this blog has inspired me as this is still a big issue for me. I love the way you write so frankly about everything you have learned with no self-criticism. This is a blog every woman and man should read.

     1. Thank you Rebecca and it’s great that you can feel I am not doing the ‘self-criticism’ bit but sharing with light humour the ugly story of what happens if we keep going in the doing doing busy department. If it is a big issue for you my top tip is create moments of stop during your day no matter how ‘busy’ you are. Yesterday’s example – I was back from the supermarket and felt a slight pull to eat something sweet. I chose not to, but the voice in my head kept saying “you can’t have a nap you have only been up for 7 hours”. Utter nonsense and I knew it.
        I had a half hour nap because I could, as I was working from home and felt heaps better and steady and strong. I knew much would get done and it did. Above all I finished my day feeling content even though there were tons of emails and paperwork not dealt with. It did not wind me up or even bother me. I did what I could and that was enough.
        Another day if I was out at work I would take a walk and that has the same benefits as a nap.

        1. Hello Bina, like Rebecca stillness is still a struggle for me. Your simple examples, taking a nap or a gentle walk, to stop the business of the head, are things I can easily do to take me to the place of stillness. Thank you.

306. Bina it is apparent from reading your article and the hundreds of other articles that tell similar stories that when we are not being the properties of love (stillness, harmony, love. joy) then our bodies become imbalanced and that then culminates in illness and disease. That illness and disease has the potential to bring us back to the properties of love. How divine.

307. “It really does not pay to ignore the signs when things are not feeling right with your body. ” this line really stood out for me, particularly because I am learning more and more just how damaging it is to not listen to the body, not just for the health of the body but it impacts on everything! How I feel physically, how I then perceive myself mentally, emotionally and base my worth on these feelings and thoughts. That ‘me’ is then presented to others which then feeds back to me what I dish out – what goes around comes around as the saying goes. It all starts with the body!

     1. This is so true leighmatson – it all starts with the body but it impacts on absolutely everything.

        1. I feel this is a very important point you have made here, Leigh and as Eva has also picked up on. How ignoring the body goes much further than we might think and impacts on everything. The quality of our thoughts, what we think, which impacts on our choices and overall affects our quality and what we can bring to whatever we engage with. We don’t get away with anything even though we may think we do.

308. Thank you Bina. I too used to busy myself, filling my days with countless ‘tasks’, needing to achieve things to feel recognised as I certainly had self worth issues. I am still a work in progress, however I have learnt to accept that I am already everything I need to be, now I just need to work on bringing that, everywhere, all the time.

     1. I too Alison, am a work in progress on this learning to ‘bank on’ my natural essence of stillness as a woman and not rely on ‘doing and achieving’ to deliver self-worth.

309. In reading this the sad state of affairs is that so many women just think that painful periods are how it is going to be, so is having a miscarriage and having a mobile phone glued to your hand. Thanks to this blog Bina we get to see that there is another way to be as women in this world. Thank you.

     1. I agree Sally that it is a sad state that many women think painful periods is how it is going to be and so is having a miscarriage.
        What I now realise is that we as women have at some point Accepted this. Why is it that we just Accept?
        Accepting what we innately can feel and know is not the truth, poisons our body. By this I mean we drip feed the neglect with our daily loveless choices, into our body and eventually it breaks down and says “enough, stop and if you don’t, I will make you stop”.
        We all hate it when there is a natural disaster and yet we never seem to be concerned with the natural disaster we live with every day by the choices we make on behalf of our body.
        I was a tsunami, cyclone and hurricane all in one with this story.
        Thank God it is now sunshine days, just because I no longer accept abuse to my body.

310. Sometimes we need stopping by our bodies when we are running them ‘out of control’, pushing them to hard. When we ignore the smaller signs they show us, they have to turn up the volume so we are forced to stop and listen. I know only too well, as it has been my experience past and present. Thank you Bina for sharing your honest account of your experience of this.

     1. I so agree with you Thomas and the other thing is I have had to learn to develop an understanding about others and where they are at because of their choices. You cannot make anyone change unless they really want to.
        What I have found is that remaining consistent, for example at work with my colleagues and being steady and not moody and emotional has paid off. I don’t go up and down and I don’t need a sugar fix to get me through the day and they see it and clock it. They ask now why I go out for a walk in my break and I say that its the same as having a nap because I am connecting to my body and just walking with no agenda.
        I no longer try and fit in shopping, post office or an errand to the bank. The walk is for me, with me and I value this time and it always makes me feel energised. Simple yet profound.

        1. Lovely to hear that a walk is a walk is a walk with you and no sneaky doing something like going to the postoffice on the way. I love my walks now and my body does too as it falls into it’s own rhythm grateful for no agenda. Very supportive for all concerned!

        2. I can certainly relate to this one Bina, going for a walk just for me has a completely different feel to it than if I were going the long way to work or walking to the shops instead of driving.

     2. I can certainly relate to this experience Thomas, my own body gave me some growing signs that I needed to stop the way of living I was in, for me it was only when the signals became stronger, more obvious and more serious that I took on board the message. But it feels great to know that the body is always giving us messages and we can perhaps avoid the more serious health issues if we pay attention to the smaller signals we feel.

311. “Today I feel a real woman who does have an inner stillness, which feels amazing”. This is truly amazing Bina after the life you were living before. What an absolute turnaround and how inspirational to all women.

312. All these years we can spend trying so hard to do life and ‘get ahead’ and yet it never really occurs to us (until we get sick that is) to ask what is the price on the body for all this rushing around.

     1. You are so right Dean about the years we spend “trying so hard to do life and get ahead” and at what cost to our body.
        I find it really astonishing how our body just keeps going whilst the override button in our head makes our next choice and then suddenly all those signs we have been ignoring hit us and stop us and we call that accident, illness or getting sick with something.
        I can’t believe we think it is ‘normal’ to catch a cold and get the flu. It used to be that way of thinking for me but now I have more balance which is because of the stillness, I don’t seem to get a cold or the flu or a headache, so this stuff Serge Benhayon is presenting confirms to me it really does work. I am the proof.

        1. The body just keeps on going. to a point of course. It is very forgiving of our at times terrible choices. But eventually it shows the wear tear of what we’ve done to it – no-one can escape that.

313. How much can we abuse our bodies and expect them to keep going? Bina, you describe the body saying ‘no more’ very clearly. I love the description of mobile phone in one hand and transfusion in the other. It’s wonderful to know that there’s a stillness inside just waiting to be felt, that knows how to live, what to eat, how to walk, about sleep and how “to come back to me”.

314. “Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me.” Nothing complicated, and just the basics you describe like your food, exercise and sleep as a guide to your way back home to yourself. Thanks Bina for the steps to living simply!

     1. Thank you Simon for the reminder of “Simple Living”. We have lost the plot with all the complicated stuff and learning to live as simple as possible which I call “back to basics” really works.
        Its easy and sustainable and above all our body loves it. An example is tidying up consistently and that has equal value as does going for a walk everyday. Both support me to live simple.
        Living simple means you have space and you don’t have to fill it up with doing more. Instead you can enjoy moments of stillness and develop that quality which for me is ongoing.
        Simple Living has allowed me a life that does not lead to a stressed out day and racy body. What it has done is locked into my foundation practical ways to live which keep me grounded and repeating them makes my foundation more and more solid. No matter what the day throws at me, I know I am equipped to deal with it and I always have my foundation of simple living to come back to at the end of the day.

315. Oh…the spinning top, multitasking, superwoman lifestyle: so familiar for so many women and, as you discovered for yourself, Bina, so deeply damaging to our body since it is a completely false representation of who we are. Your story is an inspiration for all who may have indulged in the same lifestyle and shows there is a simple way out of the manic quagmire.

     1. Thanks Coleen – that manic way of living as you say is so deeply damaging to our body. I cannot imagine harming my body now and living like the old me seems so reckless and irresponsible yet I had no one around me who even knew what true self care was.

        I have dedicated my spare time to writing more and sharing more of the practical ways we can self care as this is much needed in our world today. Our illness and disease rates which are bankrupting our medical systems has to change and there is much evidence now pointing towards lifestyle changes. I agree we can take our own health into our own hands, so to speak and get on with it. There is another way and Serge Benhayon has certainly been the lead on this for me and thousands of others. A wise man who knows what he is talking about and above all he walks the walk and talks the talk giving each of us the potential to be the same.

316. Self care is so simple when we allow it. I have resisted self care as it didn’t really seem productive and when I looked around me in my family there is no self care and they appear to be doing fine. However when I really stopped to see the pain they live in each and everyday and the pain that I felt everyday it became clear to me that this is not right. My self care has allowed me to actually feel my body and when I back off my body soon tells me that it would like some loving care again please. Such an amazing instrument the body.

     1. It’s true learning to listen to the body is key, very simple but means we have to stop and pay attention.

     2. Such great points you make here Jane.
        On that note of basic hydration, I had my excuses and so did all the people I was hanging out with. No point drinking water, you would need to visit the toilet more often and that is a gross inconvenience in my ‘busy’ day.
        How utterly absurd that sounds to me today but with little understanding and zero awareness there was no way of making changes.
        In fact, drinking more water throughout the day, starting with hot water when I get up has really supported my body. There are times when it is not food I need, it is simply hydration.
        If we put self care at the top of our priority list every single day, then we have a guarantee that whatever comes to us during our day, we are equipped to deal with it. The more we practise this, the more detail we can add to support us even further and in time, we develop a knowing that no matter what, you are able to face your day regardless of the challenges.
        Classic example, work changes and I need to stay late. No problemo, because without thinking, I recall feeling what to take to work and guess what – I packed a hot dinner for lunch which I know will allow me to keep going all day and a bit more if needed. Had I been on ‘auto-pilot’ when making my lunch, it would not have sustained me all day.
        That to me is the magic of life and well worth living in this way, everyday and without the need for perfection. You get it wrong, learn. You get it wrong again – Hello, time to sit down and have a chat with me and get to the Why – why is this repeating?

     3. So true Bina and Jane, it is so easy to drop basic self-care choices off the list as the morning gets ‘busy’ and yet it is the one thing that will most support you with whatever you will encounter during the day. To omit this is to sabotage one’s whole day, and can leave me feeling overwhelmed and unable to cope, and life is no longer any fun! When I do take the time to look after myself, my work, relationships, quality of being and life in general improve out of sight. So simple, but committing to self-care repays in ways that I would never have dreamed of.

317. I really appreciated your story Bina and can relate to a lot of what you have said having also been someone who has spent much of this lifetime (and many before, no doubt!) believing that self worth was measured by ‘doing’. As you say, it is a huge learning curve to let go of those ideals and beliefs and the mind fights hard to resist. Through the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I am making steady progress and my body is definitely grateful that the message is getting through!

     1. Glad you mention Self Worth Helen and you are right as so many of us think it is measured by the ‘doing’.
        Self Worth was always trying to get something and it was never enough no matter what I achieved. It came from a deep feeling of lack inside me and not feeling enough. I used to call it a ‘bottomless pit’. Nothing was ever going to fill it up and boy oh boy I have tried everything under the sun and I was still left with this deep aching hole called Lack of Self Worth.
        I sealed the big fat hole when I learnt from Serge Benhayon what the true meaning of Self Worth is and how to live from the knowing that I am enough without doing anything. The need to want something out there to complete me has finally gone.

        1. Wow Bina what you share here is very encouraging. I am just turning the corner with this ‘doing’ and pattern of trying to prove myself. You sharing where you are now is very encouraging – that the need to have something out there to complete us can go.

        2. I agree Bina, for me self worth was all about what I could do for others. Whether it was through sports, work or just being ‘nice’, it was all in the ‘doing’. It took a long time but like you, I now understand that nothing I ‘do’ will ever be enough and that true self worth only comes from me ‘being’ me.

        3. “The need to want something out there to complete me has finally gone.” Amazingly powerful statement Bina.

        4. This is very inspiring Bina, that you have come from having a deep aching hole of lack of self worth to now where it has completely gone and that we have the choice to change this.

318. Getting self care to ‘stick’ after a lifetime of care-less-ness isn’t a walk in the park. But it can start with one. Just taking the time to walk with me without a phone, laptop or any other distraction. From there, as Bina describes, food and sleep are the next things to look into – and amazingly it all happens in a natural way. Foods that are not serving me any longer just end up being left on the shelf. No attraction.

     1. You are right Alan – getting self-care to stick after a lifetime of utter and total care-less-ness as in my case is not a walk in the park. It took time and a commitment that required me to consistently make choices every day to stop and press the pause button. It was very hard for me to do nothing and just BE with myself and allow whatever feeling it was to come up.
        What I have now is a body that is steady on the inside and even people who just meet me for the first time have commented on how still I am and so there is my confirmation that this works.

     2. I love your first line Alan. Self-care sounds like it may be a big deal but it really is as simple as taking your first walk. From there it can lead to many a path of self-loving choices that will truly support our bodies.

        1. Tim, Alan great point. Your analogy of walking without being “hooked up” to technology is certainly a first start and one that is a big disease worldwide. I’ll find myself needing to check what the latest email is and with that can get caught up instead of taking a self loving step. So start with the simplest of things and soon I find it opens up with many more loving steps.

     3. It really can be that simple Alan. Like you, I really feel the difference when I look at practical changes in my life, where I know I can be more aware of what’s going on. So even by how I sit at my desk or how I choose to be around other people makes a big difference – and lets me be much more aware of what my body is trying to tell me.

     4. Very true Alan. When Serge first presented the ideas of self-love and self-care I was at a loss,..What on earth was he talking about ! At the time I just did not understand the concept, it was so far from my everyday experience – but deep down somehow I knew there was an intentional avoidance in case it might actually be asking me to stop. After a lifetime of constant spinning and restlessness, it has required a consistent commitment to halt the out-of-control momentum, like trying to stop the titanic before it hits the iceberg, but the benefits have been amazing and so worth it.

319. Thanks Bina. Many will be able to relate to what you have shared. It’s so easy to ignore the signs of our bodies until something serious progresses. Self care seems simple enough but it also takes commitment to ourselves to develop these new patterns and ways of being. That is great advice re getting a check up too.

320. Thank you for sharing Bina, what a transformation you have made.
     A lot of people live with so much busy-ness they do not know another way.
     Your honesty about your attitude with your body and lifestyle summed up here “At that time I did not know how to take care of myself, and I did not have a drop of self-love. Loving me was not my thing, as it just felt uncomfortable. It meant that I would need to pay attention to my body, which I deeply loathed and really had no time for. I was far too busy working and trying to save the world.”
     When somebody tells you to “Allow and be still”. Of course you don’t know what on earth did that mean or even look like or feel like? Thanks to Universal Medicine for presenting practical ways to bring self love, stillness and self-healing to a restless body.

     1. Thank you Bernard. Great to have you joining in the conversation. This restless body I find is a lack of being at ease with oneself, which Bina’s blog beautifully shares. Coming to a place of feeling still within I never knew before Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and boy am I glad that I now know what being still feels like in my body. It is the greatest feeling in the world as one feels very present, aware and engaged with life with no need to rush or try. There is a very strong confidence when we live with stillness. This blog is very inspiring.

        1. You make a great point here Shevon that there is a strong confidence when we live with stillness. But as Bernard says that so many people live with so much “busy-ness” that they do not know another way.
           What I have found with developing stillness over the many years is that if I do not register the marker of what I know and can feel is an inner stillness, then chances are I will lose it and things get racy again.
           Clocking it, making a note of how still I actually am feeling when I truly stop and connect with my body, allows me to set a new marker and then allows my body to surrender more and more. It sure takes some practice, but the rewards are long lasting and well worth it.

        2. Yes, not knowing or losing Stillness is a marker, and as Bina says maybe it is time to StoP.
           Choosing to StoP is a self-loving choice, and more awareness to succeed. What is after is the same choice again, and the opportunity to feel You and what is going on around You. It does not end — only when YOU choose to now be comfortable with what’s around and not to commit to choose more. Nature is a great reflection for this.
           Is your choice for more Stillness and Surrendering; or is it being caught up with what is going on and spinning out of control around You and your potential Stillness? Your CHOICE!

        3. I so agree with you Shevon and Bina also makes an awesome point when you do not confirm that stillness when you are choosing it, otherwise it becomes harder for you connect to that stillness. Then the busy-ness of life has its way with you again. Being reminded of this is awesome and one that I am going to put even further into practice. It is something that needs constant love like watering a flower!

        4. The points Shevon, Bina Rik and Natalie make about registering the marker of stillness are great advice. I sometimes forget, and take it for granted, which doesn’t serve to deepen the stillness, or the confidence it brings. Thank you all for the reminder

321. Your turn around is a HUGE good news story and should have strong media attention
     Your ability to change your life so dramatically because you started to listen to your body is such a strong marker for how each of us should and can change our ills and the dis-ease within all our bodies.
     The power of what it is to bring ourselves back to an innate stillness changed and saved your life.. the power of this is incredible and I hope this blog inspires many people who are in serious pain worldwide to know that there is a possibility of changing their whole life by starting to return to who they truly are stopping to honour their body and acutely listening to the many different signs and messages their body tells them.

     1. I love how you talk Robyn about stillness being a true attribute that benefits all.
        I was at a public talk on health today and was touched deeply by someone sitting next to me who commented on how steady she felt I was and when I spoke to the whole group she said I made a lot of sense and she wanted me to say more. I did not need to say too many words because the stillness does not require us to speak non-stop overloading everyone (like I used to). I recently learnt that fast talking actually increases your blood pressure. I never imagined talking less and choosing not to speak and having quiet time does support my body in so many ways.

     2. You are right Natasha – this is a HUGE good news story and let’s hope it does get the ‘strong media attention’ as you say.
        So my blog tells the story of the other way – living a trashy life and not stopping with the doing doing busyness which was the normal for me. The tumour did the physical stop and then my job was to commit to going another way, and this was easy if I really stopped, but hard if I pretended to stop and was doing it to get a result so I could just get on with my old life of doing. I found all this Stillness business a bit too much and had very little patience with myself after surgery.
        It took daily choices every single day to do something for me that I knew was very loving and supporting. I found it easy to do that for my husband or others but not me. How crazy is that?
        The guilt of having a rest was so painful and the shame of ever telling anyone I was having a nap was like I was doing something criminal. It has taken me years to feel ok about this and now I don’t care if my mother, my boss at work or a new client was calling – I would have no problem saying I was resting.
        Why? Because I no longer judge myself and I have found others rarely judge me and if they do, it really and truly does not bother me. The only thing that bothers me is if I am harming myself or another in any way.

322. Great blog, Bina. I too can relate to being in excessive motion most of my life and my body sending me messages (sometimes very loudly) through different physical ailments and symptoms. I use to be proud of how well I could multi-task and thought of this as one of my greatest attributes. Little did I know at the time how much of a strain this was putting on my body. I know this now, and have made a multitude of changes in my life so I can accept more stillness into my days and nights. Today I realise the stillness is one of my greatest attributes, as it is a true attribute and benefits all. It has been a joy to feel that I have dropped the internal fight and resistance (most of the time) to allowing more stillness to be present in everything I do and instead to accept more deeply the very healing quality stillness brings into my body and into my life.

323. I attended an Esoteric Women’s Health event recently as Sandra Dallimore commented on above, where it was shared that hysterectomies are actually more common than breast cancer. I can’t believe I had not heard this until now. How crazy to consider this is like a silent epidemic affecting so many women in the world. I question why we are not hearing about this every day.

     Thank-God for you Bina, for sharing your miraculous turn around and everything in between, as intense as it has been. You are an absolute inspiration as you have made the seemingly impossible absolutely possible, through your commitment and willingness to be loving in every-way. Amazing. Beyond amazing, you are offering a voice for every woman in the world who has ever pushed their body. And yes, I am sensing this is everyone of us. No wonder the health statistics are on the rise. You are the living proof Bina that our quality of living and every choice affects our health and well-being.

     You have not just written a blog about having a hysterectomy Bina, you have written a living document for the world to understand how to live a truly sustainable vital loving life. Through sharing your experience you have actually offered profound keys that will change the science of our bodies in every way if we so choose. You are a walking case study, and I appreciate every word you share Bina and everyone that is commenting, as the world/women needs to hear our voices on this one.

324. The wisdom shared in this blog comes from the depth of honesty and willingness to be still and listen to the body. Simply amazing!

325. I agree Anne – the coming back to your stillness is not a destination. It is for me a constant choice to let go more and surrender slowly slowly. I sometimes catch myself having a nap or resting and hearing a loud noise that in the past would have made me jump but now it is a sound that is loud but not disturbing inside my body.
     It takes time and a deep devotion to self love and looking at and reviewing everything that is harmful. Example – in the past I would just cross the road and post a letter. Now I wrap up for my two minute journey so there is no change in the temperate to my body. I am not willing to expose it to the cold harsh weather without taking deep care and honouring what I know feels deeply self loving.
     Small thing but BIG to my body and well-being and it comes down to choice.

326. “Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me.” It has taken me quite a while to allow myself to feel my body and be guided by it, as I had so numbed myself I thought that I couldn’t feel. A great blog Bina, thankyou for sharing. I now listen to what my body is saying and (on the whole) respond accordingly. No perfection required.

327. “Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me”.
     Thank you Bina for sharing your story. I can relate to it in so many ways. For me coming back into my stillness is a journey rather than a destination. Compared to how I lived 8 yrs ago I am so much more with me now but I know I could go deeper in my connection to me. I struggle a bit at times with this and at times can feel my spirit resisting a deeper connection even though I can feel in my body that this is the way to go. I feel so supported by Serge and other Unimed students on this journey.

328. How you have been able to change and make loving choices Bina is so inspiring. Thank you for the gentle reminder to keep listening to our bodies.

329. Wow from a spinning top to as Kevin says a wise woman, awesome and loving transformation.

330. Thank you so much for sharing your experience Bina. This blog feels very grounding to me. It helps me to see how the choices I make impact my body. I know that living in drive is not sustainable but I have resisted changing this pattern. Your blog shows me the consequences of this resistance and inspires me to choose another way.

     1. Great point you make Leonne about resisting changing this pattern. How do we as women keep going until we are forced to stop? Even major surgery and doped up with medication did not stop the internal drive that was controlling my every thought. I recall the frustration of having to keep moving clients around because I simply was too ill to see them. I felt a failure and this just added to the self loathing that was always around. Having discovered the tools (BIG Thanks to Serge Benhayon), I now know how to re-connect to my body and because this is consistent, it is a new pattern which is sustainable and requires no force. It is the total opposite to the constant drive I was living and the bonus is – more gets done in less time and the doing comes with a quality which comes from my body. That quality is how I choose to live everyday by taking deep care of myself first and not placing anything that is outside of me as more important.

331. Awesome blog Bina, it has been a severely rocky road for you, but it’s great to see you come out the other side and now be the wise woman that you are.

     1. A rocky road indeed Kev and what a great privilege to share with others the wisdom from my life experience book, so others get the choice to not walk the same ugly rocky road. It’s not worth it and it is never too late to make changes. This blog as I have come to realise now is for both men and women.
        Our world needs true life stories that can help others. Thank you to Serge Benhayon and all those who have made blog sites like this possible as a platform to bring real change – worldwide.

332. I love the analogy of living as a compass – very fitting for us to start listening to the smallest of things our bodies say. I know I used a lot of things (busyness, food, exercise, sleep) to keep me from allowing what my my body was saying. I thought my head knew best and my body was just something that got me around.
     How wrong was I! It has a very loud voice if I want to hear it .

333. I laugh too now Victoria when I think about what the word stillness was to describe lazy laid back people and I sure was not going to be one of them.
     Our society champions the multi task wonder woman – who can do anything, look the part and be there for everyone – 24/7 of course. No wonder comparison with other women is so normal because we constantly compare ourselves as more or less than another woman. Ugly but true.
     What I realise now is that I am enough before I even get up in the morning and nothing I do is going to change that. So I may as well look after my body and stay connected and that way I get heaps done and what gets left, can wait because going to bed without tension everyday supports me to deepen my stillness.
     Another top tip is always, Always say what you feel. Do not hold back as that puts tension in your body as it was there to express. So say it and so what if you get it wrong – at least you get to learn. Not saying it just hurts your body, crap nights sleep with no quality and keep doing it and you have a pattern of holding back which becomes your foundation.
     As Serge Benhayon once said – “Anything you repeat, becomes your foundation.”

334. Super powerful Bina. And I love your advice at the end…the way we are living is everything and needs to be a significant part of our healing. It just makes total sense that this would be the case.

335. What a heartfelt, honesty and supportive blog this is, I really appreciate the way that you expressed your experience. The way that you communicate learning to understanding and listen to your body and what it is sharing is precious and completely relatable.

336. Thank you Bina for your sharing…I didn’t realise until it was discussed in a women’s group presentation recently that hysterectomies are a bigger health concern for women than breast cancer – that made me stop because we don’t hear about it in the news or health campaigns.

     1. Well BIG thank you Sandra Dallimore for sharing this point. How on earth have we got to this, where hysterectomies are a bigger health concern for women than breast cancer?
        Take a look at my own family and we have 3 out of 4 women with a hysterectomy. So if we take that as a microcosm then you can see the big picture – the macrocosm.
        There is no doubt in my mind that there is a correlation between the busy busy doing, multi-tasking woman on the go and having no quality of stillness present in the body. In my opinion, it is why we have issues in the female department downstairs.
        The sums, equations, are out. There is not an EQUAL BALANCE of stillness and motion in the body and so our body is out of its natural state and then we get the signs like heavy painful periods.
        I find that amongst women, it is not something you tend to speak about and it is best avoided. There were no women’s group presentations that I knew of that would discuss this serious subject, so I just accepted it and bopped along in life, putting up with the symptoms getting worse and worse.
        What is alarming is I had not wanted to write or talk about my experience, as I thought is was too private and no one would be interested. How very wrong I was.
        I have come to realise, people love real life true stories and if you write from your own lived experience, it holds power and authority, simply because you are speaking your Truth. Nothing more and nothing less.
        This blog and its comments confirm to me that we can make a difference by sharing and not holding back. It has inspired me beyond words, just as Serge Benhayon has.
        Amazing is a cheap word for him – but it will have to do.

        1. Exactly Bina. My mum had a hysterectomy at 49 (28 years ago) and literally returned to her ‘normal’ life post-surgery. There was no support for her back then – you had your surgery, rested for a week and then back into it. It isn’t talked about at all. If someone has breast cancer in a workplace, you will no doubt hear about it at some stage, but I don’t ever hear anyone sharing or talking about having had or going to have a hysterectomy. I find that astounding as there is then no understanding, awareness or support of this for the woman who has had the hysterectomy – it’s almost treated like a dental visit…it is just something you go off and do, and don’t share with anyone and then just return to how life was before the surgery. This is great to start talking about and raising awareness of a condition affecting a massive number of women these days.

337. Love your article Bina. I laughed when I read you used to think the word stillness described lazy laid back people that were not efficient. I think a lot of us can relate to having misunderstood this word, it is quite the opposite. I have come to know stillness as a connection to a quality within me that is my essence…and never boring. If I am able to stay with the quality of stillness I find I am actually more productive in what I ‘do’ and do not get drained. Your blog is so inspiring a lovely reminder to check in with the body often, to take moments for ourselves, and to appreciate it is a step-by-step process and we can start anew in any moment. I will do that right now, thank you.

338. Bina, what you share is so powerful. It’s amazing to feel how caught up in the busyness of life we can become that we forget to take the time to stop, feel and be still in our own bodies. I can relate to the motion you speak of, trying to tick the boxes of life but not truly feeling the joy of it. I particularly like what you shared that “Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me.”

     1. Thank you Jade. That compass which is my body never seems to get it wrong and allowing it to guide me as often as I can really helps. What is incredible is it really is advanced. Example – I felt to eat a full dinner one afternoon before I went out to a meeting. Strange I thought and why? I questioned it over and over again but the pull to eat the dinner and get ready to leave was so strong I just did it.
        I got home very late that night due to severe train delays. I was totally full up and had no need or desire to stop and find something to eat. I was prepared in advance.
        This sort of thing happens a lot and I have come to realise that my body KNOWS well before I do about anything, if I just allow myself to be guided. What a compass and it costs nothing. It is inbuilt, custom made and totally bespoke – just for me.

339. Bina, I love the honesty and openness of your blog, I can relate to the busy-ness and doing, sitting with stillness has always been something I have struggled with, never able to sit still or always wanting to be doing. I realised reading this sentence ‘What was really hard was learning how to stop during every single day and take time out to rest or just take a walk with me’, that I need to take far more ‘time out’ in my day to stop and feel, even if it is just for a moment to give me time to re-connect, thank you.

340. I love how you spell out this very widespread misnomer Shevon; the one where ‘if we look or seem functional we think we are OK’…when “…a simple check and analysis of our bodies lets us know in truth what is really going on.” You say when we talk about it & bring more understanding to this issue we are “…breaking down the belief that to do means that we are good.”

     I love this as I have found that until I get consciously honest that something is not right inside, I resist making the changes I need to make to keep me healthy.

341. Bina I love this blog, I love the frankness and the truth of how it was and is. ” It really does not pay to ignore the signs when things are not feeling right with your body. ” There is no room to manoeuvre or try to deny what you have written and shared.

342. I love this blog, Bina. I can so relate to this: “The truth was – I just could not stop. I was like a spinning top where you wind it up and let go and it keeps spinning. Even though I had physically been stopped, I could not stop the internal momentum.”
     Thank God for Serge Benhayon, who has offered us another way to be – a way that starts with stillness.

343. Thank you for such honesty and sharing your journey and the true love from stillness and not from the constant doing in driven motion to prove ourselves. So true for us all. A Real Inspiration.

344. Great blog Bina. Thank you so much for sharing your story as this is what we really have to talk about in our todays conversations. The world is becoming more and more crazy with all the doing and distraction. Hardly anybody is listening to his/ her body – with really bad consequences for health and wellbeing. You only have to look at the statistics of illness and disease to see that this is not working. We really have to turn the trend. I was on the same downward path: being super busy, very proud of my ‘multi-tasking’ abilities, loved the stress because it made me feel important and like you shared it “distracted me from just surrendering and listening to my body and feeling the truth of what was there to be felt.” Thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I could stop this ill pattern by acknowledging my deep lack of self-worth and introducing more loving choices into my daily life. It´s still work in progress and it´s still not so easy for me to take a stop during every single day but it´s absolutely worth working on that!

345. If we choose to listen, what an incredible gift our bodies are showing us every day, and no matter how much we have ignored our body’s messages, it is never to late to stop and feel what we have chosen in the past and to then change – to making loving choices that will help the body to heal. How you have been able to do this is truly inspiring Bina.

     1. That is the point Deidre – thanks for the reminder.
        IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO CHANGE. I thought I was well past my sell by date with the age thing and no uterus. In fact I had given up on life and there was nothing worth changing for.
        How wrong I was and thank God I met Serge Benhayon.
        Today, I look and feel younger than ever. I have a light in my eyes that is constant and I don’t hide or want to hide no matter what or who is in front of me.
        I never imagined it was possible to change and it is never too late. It has nothing to do with how old you are.

        1. Spot on Bina. ‘IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO CHANGE’ – I have seen many people change their lives simply by making consistently loving choices, even those, like yourself, whose backgrounds are of extremely ill health.

        2. I completely agree Bina, it is never to late to change, or to make different choices.

346. Amazing how we can do that – I know I have fallen into the trap of ‘getting a kick’ out of doing a lot on many an occasion (and sometimes still do). It feels like a mind-driven addictive state, in which the body is just used to ‘get us there’ rather than worked with in harmony.

347. What a read, feeling the way in which you chose to live and then feeling how this has changed was very inspiring. The simplicity of listening to our bodies is just too simple at times that we override and ignore it. Thankfully Serge Benhayon encourages us to look after it and care for it within the mainstream medical model. He talks about the importance of this and it is interesting that so many of us, myself included, can put off even simple things like a yearly check up.

     1. Thanks Sally and I agree Serge Benhayon does encourage us to look after our body and take deep care of it and he makes a point about getting the medical check up and not just ignoring whatever comes up.
        I recall him saying to me a few years ago “Love yourself to the bone” and at the time I thought – gosh surely there can’t be more but there was and still is. (pun intended).
        There is always more and it is not a goal or a destination to get to – just an unfolding every day, learning and evolving. It’s like you move on and your awareness grows and you get to feel more and the stillness deepens.
        I cannot imagine a better way to live my life and the joy I have every day is expanding to say the least. I feel like I don’t need to go anywhere or do anything other than be the real me and things really do literally come to me.

348. I love your take Matthew about not listening to the signals and flashing lights of our body is like a boat without a rudder. Where on earth is it going to end up?
     You say Self Love is the rudder and what I have learnt over the years, thanks to the life and work of Serge Benhayon is that Self Love is a constant and continuing development and for me it was a tick box list for many years.
     Today, I am not interested in getting things done on a ‘self love to do list’. That would not help me evolve, develop and deepen the quality of my stillness.
     Instead, I use that compass inside me that Knows what is needed and each day is different. For example, whilst I know most days what time I will be winding down for bed, each day is different. I do not freak out if I am not in bed by 9 o’clock. What I do Not do is compromise on the quality of my winding down and I know this then supports the quality of my sleep. There are certain rituals that I have locked into my foundation for winding down but I adjust them with the help of that inner compass. A late night does not necessarily mean a bad night’s sleep. How I put myself to bed and the stillness I can feel in my body, is the stillness I have in my sleep and the next day.
     Get it wrong – hey ho.
     Next day, I make sure I put effort into paying more attention during my daytime and then in my wind down. No big deal. No more beating myself up. I am human, not perfect and that is totally ok with me.

     1. I love the way you have shared this Bina and how accepting you are if you get it ‘wrong’. No big deal! That would stop any self-criticism and self-loathing.

        1. Great point of confirmation Shevon. We all get things ‘wrong’ and it is how we choose to see it, feel it and deal with it that matters.
           The cycle of self-criticism and self-loathing is deeply harming to your body and to others plus it keeps you stuck.
           It all comes down to choice and if we keep making self-loving, self-caring choices then our way of thinking does eventually begin to change and we stand a chance of knocking out that self-criticism and the miracle is our world then reflects that back to us. I have found less and less criticism coming towards me since I stopped the critic inside me. Even if people choose to criticise me, I do not feel knocked out, devastated or want to give up and hide. My job is to develop understanding about others and stay steady in what I know is the Truth and whatever it is that keeps me grounded.

349. Thanks Jeannette. You are pure Gold with this comment about “the way we live underpins our health in every way”. So Simple.
     In the UK there is more news now on the fact that lifestyle has a lot to do with cancer and other illnesses. A national newspaper talking about over the counter pharmacy drugs are mainly needed because of lifestyle.
     It is incredible how many people are not looking at the way they live, but what they can take to fix a problem and have a solution. In Truth Nothing changes and this is the real harm that our health systems are facing.

350. Our body is constantly talking to us, giving us feedback about how we are living, sometimes we listen, sometimes we don’t. Eventually, if we don’t listen, our body will shout loud and clear that something is not right. Thank you for sharing your experience of your body shouting Bina – it is a reminder to me to always listen before the shouting starts.

351. I notice more and more each day (not yet every moment, it is progressing ) when I am grounded and connecting to my inner stillness, when I allow it , it feels amazing. A great tip Bina, to continually reflect on how we are living, could it be causing an issue in our body ?

352. The way we live underpins our health in every way – it’s a no brainer really. I wonder if this simplicity of this concept eludes acceptance by the majority, or is it simply self-responsibility we are resisting when we look to doctors, medicine, operations and all manner of other things outside ourselves to ‘fix’ us so we can return to living the very same way that led to our ills in the first place. Bina, thank you very much for sharing such brave, honest and inspiring story.

     1. Gold, jeannettegold! Yes we do park our self-responsibility (and our worn out, dragged-around-the-track bodies) at the doctor’s door. The trick is to do both – take responsibility for our own health and work with the medical profession as and when required.

     2. Beautifully put Jeannette, you have summed it up very well, the fact that the way we live has an effect on our health would appear to be quite a simple step, and yet the way we are brought up and the ‘normal’ tells us that living irresponsibly has very few consequences that a doctor can’t fix.

        1. Yes Rebecca, I remember a time when I was younger honestly feeling that when a new illness was discovered that it would be OK because science would soon come up with a cure. The reliance we have put on the medical profession is huge and it is one we can ill afford to continue to rely on.

        2. I agree Fiona, science and its discoveries are amazing but first and foremost should be a responsibility for our own health and those of everyone around us.

353. Bina I am drawn back to this blog again and again, there is such richness in your story, it is so real. I just love reading how you turned it around and feeling the power, authenticity and simplicity of your livingness. So many gems like ‘allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me’. Love reading the comments too.

     1. Thank you Jane and Josephine for confirming the realness of this blog. It was written over a year ago and then with my self doubt and other nonsense in the way, there was a delay. Not good but true.
        However, the good news is I am so much more open about sharing how I live today and this is reflected in my regular comments which have some ‘golden nuggets’ which are simple and practical to support us daily in developing and building our stillness, which is so needed today in our busy busy world of doing and distraction.

354. Thank you so much Bina, it has brought tears to my eyes, reading your blog and feeling the big change you have made, to love yourself and take care for yourself, also because I lived the same pattern of being identified with doing to avoid stillness in my life and how deeply abusing this behavior is against being a woman. You inspire me to go deeper, exploring the loving and caring way of living with myself.

     1. Thanks very much Stefanie – what you say makes so much sense about being identified with the doing to Avoid stillness.
        This is so true, I was avoiding stillness which is natural and innate inside me as a woman and no wonder I had all those problems downstairs in the woman department.
        My behaviour was deeply abusing and I cannot imagine living like that ever again. Thank God I came across the life and work of Serge Benhayon who introduced me to the word Stillness.
        I cannot erase the past and no point dwelling on it which I don’t. What I can do now is live the real me to the best of my ability and share what I know does work and that way there is a chance some people will listen and take on board what has been said, simply because they are inspired by the changes I have made which can be felt as they are not just empty words.

355. Awesome blog Bina,
     Finding that stillness inside can be hard after we have ignored it for so long. Unfortunately it often takes an illness to make us stop and listen to our body and start to question the way we have been living. It’s great the way you followed your doctor’s advice while also making supportive changes in your lifestyle; true healing.

     1. Yes Gretel, many of us lived driven lives for so long that we had no concept of what stillness was let alone how to connect to it in our body. Fortunately many of us are blessed with an illness, which in reality is a healing if we see it as an event that is signalling that the way we are living is not true and we decide to make changes. Without that blessing many of us would still be moving even further away from stillness – our innate natural state. Of course when one is truly listening to their body, they can make more loving choices before a big correction is called for and hence avoid the illness or big stop!.

356. Thank you for sharing Bina. Your blog really brought home what happens when we push ourselves so far that the body has to give us a stop. Love the way you describe the body being a compass to guide you how to live and how this has supported you in finding you again.

     1. Thank you Alison and our body being a compass is so true as we can use it as our guide and it is never wrong. All we need to do is be willing to connect to the compass (our body) and then be open to allow it to guide us. It doesn’t talk back in words but it has feelings which can be interpreted only by us. Our compass is unique and holds all the memory of all the choices we have made and it helps us to stay on track and not lose our way.
        If more of us used our compass to guide us in life, I reckon there would be less accidents, illness and dis-eases which all assault our body. That compass is well worth treasuring and respecting and it is this that will inspire others to connect and be guided by their own compass – their body.

357. Thank you Bina for telling your story and how you learnt to understand that the way you live your life impacts on your body. It’s amazing what we think we can get away with – when in truth we are not getting away with anything. The body has to suffer each of our ill choices. As women we have allowed ourselves to get totally lost in the doing, taking us away from just being the stillness we innately are.

     1. So true Esther! And the getting away with it part – how often do we play that game with ourselves? “I’ll stop just as soon as I finish this or do that…” is a harmful justification many of us can probably (and sadly) relate to. The problem is, that game will invariably lead to a forced stop of the kind Bina has described so well here.

     2. Very true Esther and the appropriate word here is ‘think’. Our bodies are the marker of all that we have lived. As much as we like to ‘think’ we are getting away with it, everything we do, say or think is permanently stored in our body and will always, eventually show us those choices.

358. Dear Bina,
     I loved reading what you have written here, it is written with such simple truth that it is super refreshing. To feel the beauty of your stillness in your writing is a truly inspiring thing to feel.

     1. Thanks Leigh – I get told a lot that I am like “fresh air”.
        About 6 years ago, I attended a Serge Benhayon one day workshop and he said something that really turned my life around. ‘Just be the real you’ and for me that meant permission to be me and so what if I wasn’t liked or did not fit it. I started to feel more comfortable in my own skin if you know what I mean. I then felt expanded when I spoke with my real voice which for the record – I don’t change and don’t care if you were the pope, my mother, the queen or a prisoner. I am the same same and I am known for never changing how I am because someone in front of me maybe a big wig in society or got more accolade, titles or whatever. To me we are all equals and all the same so why change my tone for anyone. It works and above all it leaves me without tension in my body. Of course I am very aware not to harm myself or others with how I speak or send an email or write a blog or comment. All this is super important to me and I have enough integrity now to make that my normal way now.
        I am human and I make mistakes but these days beating myself up is very rare. Having a word with myself and getting back on track is what keeps me steady.

359. Thank you Bina for sharing your amazing journey from constant motion and total disregard of your body to the loving stillness of the woman that you truly are.

360. Well, I can sure relate to the relentless drive that you described in your past Bina. It’s actually really difficult for me to imagine you having that type of endless motion as now I know you as a true role model of stillness and self-care. It’s amazing to know and see how you and all of us can choose to turn things around in our lives once we truly commit to listening to our body. I can see more clearly after reading your blog how it comes down to every little detail in how we move, speak, sleep, and eat to really take care of ourselves in order to feel that super vitality that you spoke about having now. When I have just kind of ‘gone through the motions’ and thought of other things I needed to do when I was eating, exercising, etc. , I always end up still feeling exhausted as there is still too much motion inside of me. But you have been inspirational Bina in showing me how to truly connect with myself throughout the day.

     1. I agree Michael, it’s the commitment in the detail that makes all the difference. For me, I have always found doing the big things far easier than the detail, but Bina has inspired me to look at the detail which automatically makes the big stuff flow a lot smoother.

361. I love your honesty in sharing this Bina. Our bodies are such a gift – showing us the reality of each of our choices.
     It is a miracle that you have learned to not only listen to your body; but to love it – deeply.

     1. I agree Kylie, a miracle and very inspiring article sharing practical ways to connect to the stillness within. I always wanted another body as mine was always ill and in pain. Serge Benhayon helped me to understand that my body was giving me messages and now I am listening to them and my health and my way of living, by being loving with myself and listening to my body, have and are changing very much.

     2. Thank you Kylie for saying it is a miracle that I learned to not only listen to my body but to love it deeply. Another miracle is that I actually wrote the blog and shared something I would never dream of even speaking about especially on the internet. The downstairs department and me used to be a very personal private matter and yet reading the comments so far, it would have been utter madness not to share. I know for a fact many people have benefited from my story and I can feel I made the right decision by not holding back. A miracle indeed.

        1. Congratulations Bina, and I’m so glad you shared. This is exactly what we need to be talking about if we are serious about our wellbeing and reversing current health statistics.

        2. I agree Victoria. These are the conversations we need to be having (and never stop having). Let’s face it, we have a global health crisis in our midst, whether we care to admit it or not. What a blessing to have those like Bina share their story for the benefit of all.

        3. It is a testament to how when we are willing to love ourselves deeply anything is possible, today a blog tomorrow ….. I look forward to staying tuned Bina!

     3. A miracle indeed Kylie. I just cried with your comment.
        Why? because I just acknowledge how far I have come with my new choices to support me. You are so right that I not only listen to my body but I have learned to love it – deeply. How hard, neglectfull and abusing it is to not love your body and expect it to keep on going and function and when it doesn’t you somehow hate it even more as in my case.
        We treat others better than we treat our own body and had I not come across the work of Serge Benhayon, I doubt very much I would actually be alive today.
        Incredible when I think about how many lives I have touched because of my commitment to sorting myself out and choosing not to give up which has led to me now helping others in the world to ‘not give up’. The answer is consistency.
        Living a life of true responsibility is a life of true consistency.
        It is deeply inspiring for another to feel someone who is consistent because they begin to trust and this is how you know that what you do and the quality of your being has an affect on others. A truly magical way to live and not give up on life.

362. An illness, an accident or an incidence has often been the catalyst to change the situation when I have been in an obsessive achievement drive. After the initial shock, and unsuccessful attempt to return to the same momentum I have ended up slowly accepting the space I am offered to be still, to take of and return to myself and an opportunity to go forward with this quality. Each of these catalysts, which are loud stop moments, have been a gift. This article shows we can give our self a greater gift – to observe and honour what we feel and choosing to return to stillness and preciousness as soon as we notice we have strayed from it.

     1. Me too Golnaz. When I have strayed too far outside of myself and gone into hardness and or drivenness to get things done I tend to feel it, as a pain, in my breasts or ovaries… these days, it’s the first sign that I am out of sync with myself.

        1. This is my experience too Victoria. I am continually amazed at how loudly our bodies speak. In the past I would have kept ignoring looking ‘over there’ for the answer when my body is screaming for me to take notice that the answer is right under my nose.

        2. Yes me too. I have had a few stop moments with my health when I was living in a way that was so far away from the stillness I now know. And it wasn’t just the drivenness of work, it was a lack of stillness and overriding my feelings in relationships that led me to live on an emotional roller coaster for years – in and out of relationships. It was exhausting and played havoc with my health until my body said a very loud ‘STOP’ and stop I did.

363. “Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me.” Such a great sharing, Bina, thankyou. Learning to listen to my body has proved an amazing way for me to reconnect with the stillness that is innately within, when I stop covering it over with busy-ness and complication.

364. This blog is so inspiring Bina thank you for sharing how amazingly you have changed your life showing the way for everyone if we choose to by connecting to who we truly are. From superwomen in motion to superwoman in stillness and her innate natural fragility you show it is possible and how it can be done. Beautiful.

     1. I agree. It’s so important to read about a real-life situation with a real-life woman and how completely it (and she) was turned around. From our medicos to the man in the street, this kind of learning needs to underpin our approach to understanding health and wellbeing.

365. I can refer to the pain, not only on a physical level, but the pain that we have come so far disconnected from our natural inner stillness and sacredness.

     1. Yes Claudia and Bina – and isn’t it funny that it is the pain we are created in the first place by disconnecting from our natural being and then avoiding this pain by going into “doing”…we really tricking ourselves. Thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal medicine to bring light into this confusion and for presenting truth again.

366. I love feeling how this experience has helped you deeply by bringing you back to the amazing woman you truly are. Despite all the upheaval, that is pretty amazing!

     1. You are right Joshua, this experience has helped me deeply and when I read “despite all the upheaval” I just realised how bad things had got and the drama I created. Imagine having major surgery and getting told your landlord is about to be evicted and you got ten days to move and its quite ok if we cannot get our act together – the bailiffs would let you apply to the courts for a mutual date in the future to remove your contents. Really? Hello?
        We moved and then I burnt my hand so badly that I had to keep it in water until 8 painkillers in one go would knock me out. The other arm was in a sling as my husband collapsed and I went to save his head from hitting a concrete floor.
        You got the picture – unpacked boxes, financially on the floor and no support as we moved up north, so no friends or rellies.
        That was the exact point of surrender – I looked up from my bed and said “OK I surrender”. My immediate thought was how on earth would I get to the toilet. I had two fingers working so forget everything on that ‘to do list’ – it was not going to happen. The motion had no where to go, it was being forced to stop.
        Today, I find it impossible to not honour my body. Stopping, taking a rest, a walk, a nap or going to bed super early because I felt to, is the new normal for me. There is absolutely nothing – no work, no deadline, no crisis out there that would be more important than me looking after me. My body and my well-being is my priority and it is locked into my foundation, so no matter what life challenges me with, I have the ability to get back to the real me with ease.

367. What an incredible transformation.

368. A beautiful sharing Bina, it was amazing to hear how you went from trying to be Super Woman to really listening and caring for your body to become a true super still woman! A lesson we can all aspire to and know that it is not all the multi tasking and getting things done that make us amazing, but by simply just being and looking after ourselves.

     1. I really love the way you have expressed this Melissa, that it is not all of the multi-tasking and getting things done that makes us amazing! What I’ve seen in myself is that the getting things done has always been something I have excelled at and have been well known for, but it has come from a mental drive and a push. I can literally watch my posture change when I go into ‘Right let’s get this done’ mode, with my head and shoulders leading and leaning forward like a sprinter. It is only through the work of Universal Medicine and my connection with Universal Medicine Practitioners and Serge Benhayon that over the years as I have become more aware of my body, I have become more aware of the damaging behaviours (like this one) that contribute to my symptoms of painful periods, headaches and exhaustion.

        1. Celebrating women who can multi task has only every been to their detriment – the stress and pushing involved! I love the analogy too – from super woman to a true super still woman – ahh now I can breathe in the space and time created!

        2. The quality in how we do what we do is the all important thing. I find checking in on how I am doing something really brings me back to myself if I’m caught in drive. How am I tapping that keyboard for example. It’s a winner every time.

     2. When you talk about superwoman and multi-tasking Melissa what comes to me is how society rewards you and by that I mean you get recognised for how much and what you can do. I played this game and the price I paid was huge.
        For me, I had no self worth and the doing doing super woman who could excel at so many things was so exhausting but I had absolutely no awareness that this way of living was actually abusing my body. Imagine thinking 35 years of painful heavy periods was acceptable. I have to say that is insane.
        Today, I have zero exhaustion in my body and I keep my life super simple and very practical. One of the most important things I do now is wake up and not move in bed. I lie still and have a chat with my body and check in how I am feeling.

        1. That is insane Bina, “35 years of thinking that painful heavy periods was acceptable”. I too lived with that and the most common response including my own was that it was “just bad luck”! 9 years of choosing to stop and treat myself and my body with respect and tenderness has proven beyond doubt that luck has absolutely nothing to do with it. Our health has everything to do with how we live each day. How honouring is that to wake up every morning and lie still, in order to connect with your body and have a conversation with it, instead of hurling or dragging one self out of bed to start the day. The way you live today should be studied by all our health industries, as you are living evidence that how we live each day can either heal or harm us. Thank you for sharing all your experience and enabling others to know there is another way to live this life.

        2. I do the wake up and chat to my body most mornings too Bina. It’s my early morning love in.

        3. Thank you Bina … to wake up , lie still and have a chat with your body in how you are feeling, what a great way to start the day. Very Inspiring .

        4. The multi-tasking is exhausting and you need your head to keep up with it all. I see how exhausted people are at work trying to do many things at once, but it’s a false economy because they then feel exhausted and cannot sustain working in this way and so the roller coaster of productivity and exhaustion (and with it inefficiency) goes on and on, which also leads to the need for foods and drinks to pep them up, such as coffee or sugar.

     3. The funny thing about what you say Melissa is that so often I find the ‘doing’ so much easier because it has been my way for so long, the concept of simplicity and stillness have seemed so alien that I have frequently reverted to the comfort of busy in the distraction it brings but when we commit to living in stillness the flow from life is so simple it seems crazy that I would ever not choose it.

        1. This makes so much sense Fiona and is crazy at the same time – no? In developing stillness there is such a sweetness within that the more we live and are in touch with stillness the more painful and uncomfortable going for the distractions become. As we develop an understanding of how our bodies feel when we move and speak with stillness any activity not done in this way, I find is immediately felt in my body as pain, tightness or tension.

     4. It seems to me that it is not so much the multi-tasking or the quantity of things that we do, but the important thing is the spaces we allow between them. That allows us to keep feeling what is going on, and looking after ourselves.

369. WoW thank you for sharing Bina. And totally agree with the changes one experiences when truly connecting with ourselves are amazingly beautiful.

370. Thanks for sharing your Journey Bina , not wanting to slow down or feel stillness is a huge one for all of us to learn . But as we know the body never lies, the mind is the tricky one driving us onwards. Looking back on my own driven life, thankfully past tense, it was only when my body broke down or I a had an accident did I stop to listen.

     1. Agree Greg amd Bina. When we resist stopping and slowing down we are ignoring the chance to connect with the wisdom of our bodies. There is so much to be gained if we just give ourselves the space to do this,
        Thanks for the reminder Bina

        1. Great point you make here Felicity. If we resist stopping and slowing down we ignore the chance to connect to our body and feel with wisdom. That wisdom on a practical level saves you time and you go into the “flow zone” as I call it. Things work out, you know what to do as priority and what not to do, you eat to support your day and don’t feel the need to starve or overeat.
           ALL this and more just because you chose to stop and connect and then listen to the body which has tons of wisdom and knows exactly what will help you stay in the flow zone. When we live in this way, we can deal with anything that life brings.

     2. I was exactly the same Greg, only stopping when my body forced me to stop. Even though I knew better, it’s still quite incredible that I was still capable of ignoring and overriding the messages my body was giving me. Like you, thankfully that was in the past and, as I really don’t like the after effects of not listening to my body, I am more inclined to do so now.

371. Thank you Bina for this blog. I can relate to this. I had painful period as well and when I had a month which was with period sufferings I take it as a reminder for me that I had gone too far away from my stillness and my preciousness to be this miracle woman.

372. Not listening to the signals and flashing lights of our body, no matter how quiet they may be, is like sailing a boat without a rudder. We will end up is all sorts of trouble, in places unknown and swept up by outside forces. Self love is the rudder that gives us the choice to steer ourselves to toward stillness.

373. Thank you Bina for a great blog. I would have loved to have had the knowledge that young women Universal Medicine Students especially, have today concerning painful periods and needing to slow down take time out and listen to our bodies. Appreciating our menstrual time of the month and having the truth that instead of a nuisance that it is a time of clearing and regenerating our bodies.

     1. Great point you make Roslyn. There is very little education in the female department stuff out there for youngsters. I started my period at the age of 11 and it was the most hush hush “don’t tell your father” stuff. My culture does not accept women as equal and I reckon that didn’t help me. Women were seen as a sub-class and having a period is really not a good thing. It means you cannot go to the temple and pray as you are classed as ‘dirty’.
        Is it any wonder that hysterectomies in the Indian culture is so normal and that absolutely no attention is given as to why so many are going through this and the ages seem to get younger.
        What I have also seen amongst my female relatives is the exhaustion from the ‘doing doing’ and it just doesn’t stop. If you had a rest you would need to be seriously ill or it just wouldn’t happen. What’s worse is that they just Accept this as everyone around is the same.
        I plan to give some presentations to the youth of today in the Indian community. In the long term society will benefit as it would support our medical systems. A blog is not enough, I know there is more I can do to get this message out there.

374. Most of us in our lives have been brought up to get things done and have lived this out by not listening to our bodies and pushing ourselves, but thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine we have been shown another way of stillness and connection.
     This is a very real and honest account of what can happen to us in different ways, what our bodies are telling us, and shows how we can make loving choices and this really does make a difference and it is never too late to change. Thank you Bina so much for this beautiful sharing.

375. Thank you Bina for your open and honest sharing. I remember a time when I would stop and the feeling of all the motion would still be racing in my body. I thought for a while this was a normal way to be, as I saw so many doing the same, but it felt so awful in my body. The Gentle Breath Meditation, presented by Serge Benhayon was a total revelation for me and allowed a space for me to stop, feel the momentum of the motion and then make choices to change this way of being. Awesome.

376. There must be so many women who can relate to this, Bina. Thank you very much for writing so honestly. From “spinning” to “grounded”, what a change, way to go!

377. I couldn’t agree more Shevon, we set up our future experiences by the choices we make now! But what I’ve also experienced recently with ‘hot flushes’ is how they are also responsive to the choices we are making right now. Starting to express more openly, appreciating and letting myself feel appreciated made a huge difference overnight. I’ve also noticed that it’s not just the occasions when I might feel hot that balanced out, but that overall my body feels more naturally balanced the more I acknowledge my richness as a woman.

     1. Beautiful comment Rosanna and what a joy, to “acknowledge my richness as a woman”. The more I come to appreciate my richness as a woman, the more my body responds and feels well. It has taken some deep healing to accept myself as such, with the constant and un-wavering support of Universal Medicine practitioners and Serge Benhayon, but it has worked miracles. Listening to our bodies is very important as they tell us every step of the way the impact of our choices, long term and immediate and we have great power to change those choices if we choose.

        1. Just reading these two comments it reminds me that the wisdom of our bodies is in our hands EVERY DAY when we decide to listen and act on what we feel. it’s like magic!! and yet we can spend our whole lives abusing and trashing it! It’s bizarre. It’s like having a whole house of gold and then throwing it away.

378. I have just been reading a comment on Bina Pattel’s HOT HOT Flushes – Who Gets Them and Why? blog http://womeninlivingness.com/?s=hot+hot+flushes&submit=Search and joining up the dots.

     In this blog Bina shares how she has lived and this being the reason for the intensity of the hot flushes. What I am understanding by reading both blogs is that the way we live is not just for today but has a ripple effect for the rest of our lives. By working and pushing our bodies hard and never stopping, our body has to clear all of this out somehow and hot flushes is one way. Thank God for the wisdom and teachings from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. A few years ago I had not even acknowledged myself as a woman, but the more open I am to understanding how my body works, through what I notice and how it feels, beyond the anatomy and physiology I am amazed at the vastness and richness of a woman’s body. Our bodies tell us so much when we choose to listen.

     1. Thank you Shevon for sharing and like you I Thank God for the wisdom and teachings from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
        Next – for anyone reading this if you don’t fancy clicking the “hot hot flushes” blog, the highlights are surgery and lifestyle changes do not get rid of 35 years of ignoring your periods. I am currently going into my 5th year of Hot Hot flushes as I have chosen not to take HRT to suppress the symptoms.
        I know that my current way of living is NOT adding to the daily hot flushes but what my body is doing is adjusting from the huge un-natural way of my past living. Imagine how ugly my life was that 5 years later I am still ‘adjusting”. The big blessing is that I no longer react to them or create a drama, so it’s a no big deal, but nevertheless a gentle reminder of how I used to live.

379. Thank you Bina for your very honest and insight-full article – I really valued reading it.

380. The pressure to just get things done is enormous and the momentum we develop in living this way can take a while to turn around; as a friend said: “it is like trying to brake a mac truck on ice”. I am continuing to turn this around in my own life and I thank you for your very honest and inspiring story Bina.

     1. Yes Tim, this pressure to get things done is enormous and it is related to what I call the ‘tick tock clock’. We keep looking at the time, trying to cram in more and more things and the list never stops. At one point I had ‘to do lists’ for the kitchen, office and every room in my house – and that’s not my shopping list and personal list. Just writing them was exhausting and the lists never stopped. No wonder the quality in my monthly period reflected this un-natural way of living.
        Today I have found that when I take a nap during the day or just stop at work and go for a walk, things just come to me and it’s like I know what is priority because my body reminded me. It did not come from a ‘to do list’ and I get far more done, as the task fits into my rhythm and there is no tension in my body.
        Yes I live in the real world and I have a list for shopping which supports me to plan ahead what is needed. I also have a list in my office which is used as a prompt but nothing more. Nothing is a big deal anymore and I really don’t care if things don’t get done, as long as I am looking after my body to the best of my ability every day, to continue building my stillness.

        1. Bina, this comment is so beautiful for me to read – it exposes my own momentum of list after list after list which only succeeds in me feeling like I am getting nowhere! I have lists on my fridge, in my office, written in my diary and in my phone – all of which create a tension in my body and do not inspire me at all. My son is always saying ‘go with the flow mum’, and I have had the occasional experience you share here whereby “things just come to me and it’s like I know what is priority because my body reminded me”.
           This has inspired me to let go of the lists, to take a ‘page from your book’, to go with the flow, and to simply connect to what is there to be done in each moment..Thank you.

        2. Bina, it makes me expand to read that you really don’t care if things don’t get done as long as you are looking after your body to continue building your stillness. It makes me realise that although I do look after my body and love stillness, I still have some attachment to what gets done.

381. “I cannot turn back the clock, but what I can do now is live every day taking deep care of myself and this is what I have been doing and it works.”

     This to me says it all – well done on a straightforward and really honest blog. So many women I know should read this with an open heart and mind.

382. We often don’t stop to consider how we feel and push our bodies to the limits. We ignore messages (symptoms) from the body and think if we carry on it will somehow just get better. As you share this is not the case and it won’t just get better until we allow ourselves to be honest about what caused it in the first place and make changes.

383. Isn’t it curious how it is so easy for us to live a life that is all about pushing ourselves to the limit but when it comes to living in a way that is about connecting with and caring for ourselves this seems like an almost impossible task. I’m a tradesman and in recent times have had to learn a different way of working because my body was not coping and I was becoming physically drained. I have since come to understand that each day must be treated as equal no matter what I may be doing as this sets the rhythm of a way of being for the rest of my life.

     1. Very true Mick, we seem to excel in pushing ourselves and stopping to care and nurture ourselves instead can be such a challenge. Establishing a constant rhythm to each day is extremely supportive. I now find that I will down tools because it’s time to stop work now, whereas in the past I would have pushed on to get something finished and completely over-ridden how my body was feeling. I am learning to not make anything more important than the messages my body sends me and consequently I have turned around many health issues. How we live each and every day is extremely important.

384. “Stillness for me was a word to describe lazy people, who were boring and laid back and could not multi-task” is such a great expose Bina of the judgment many people have of someone who is actually taking time out to stop, connect and feel their body and what it is telling them; who is actually nurturing and honouring themselves. To observe someone who knows their stillness, and lives from this place of self-love, can be confronting as it only exposes the lack of love in our own lives.

     1. Oh Jane, I so agree. I too used to think stopping and taking moment to connect to stillness was boring. I was entranced by the new city life I had come into, the enormity of it, the buzz-ness, the ‘bigger and better’. And even in the quiet moments I cherished, sitting under shady trees, I would be wanting to write poetry!
        I still carry the effects of my busy busy, never still life in my body but am beginning to feel how utterly exquisite it is to surrender to stillness. It is the opposite of boring, as you say, and allows a richness never found in the racy life.

     2. Yes I agree Paula that many would find it confronting if someone is living from a place of self-love and offering a stillness that they may lack in their own life. In my case I was blessed and met people like Serge Benhayon with what I call super stillness which is unwavering and it actually inspired me but it took many years as I was not willing to give up my busy lifestyle.
        On a deeper note, I realise that it stems from my childhood, where being on the go was rewarded. Being able to multi-task was like a gold medal in our Indian community and never stopping to rest was definitely a superwoman trophy most of us yearned to have one day. What I find really interesting is how many of my female relatives have had a hysterectomy and it’s not talked about much, as it is most definitely seen as something ‘normal’. Astonishing really and in my family we have 3 out of 4 of us who have had this surgery.

385. I love the way you’ve told your story Bina – though quite an extreme case – it is so relatable in how we can simply listen to our bodies more and stop trying to do and prove. I too am a multi-tasker. Always on a mission to prove – and it has been a very slow process to come out of but as I stop and feel what’s going on – it’s amazing how much our bodies can say. And worth a listen!

     1. Good point you make here hvmorden about being a multi-tasker who is always on a mission to prove.
        Prove what and at what cost? That proving never ever stopped and it just got worse because it needed to be fed more and more. Just writing that feels exhausting, so imagine living that day in and day out. No wonder our society has the modern plague we could call “exhaustion”. No wonder we need caffeine, alcohol, sugar and social media distractions to keep going.
        What I realise now is that mission to prove came from a lack of connection with myself and my body. The “not feeling enough syndrome” I call it. Things change fast when you get to know and feel you are enough and that is the start point I have each day when I wake up. So the world gets the real me which is enough and no more mission or drive.

        1. The reliance on sugar and caffeine etc., is just a solution to fix a problem of exhaustion that we’re not supposed to live with in the first place. It’s pretty crazy to see how many ‘solutions’ are out there for ‘busy people’ – but yet so few of them actually ask us to stop and say: “Hey, something does not feel right”. WOW!

386. I love the different choices that you present in this blog Bina. Like how we can wait until our bodies force us to stop, or we can listen each day to everything that our bodies have to say.

387. Thanks Bina. The choice to change your life around is inspiring.

388. “…having no pain did not mean the tumour was harmless’. In this line I’ve just realised how we often wait for there to be pain before we do something about it but even then, we often don’t listen to the alarm bells our bodies sound and we blast on regardless. If we instead choose to stop, feel and listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us, as you have learned, Bina, we can actually PREVENT or at the very least, minimize the harm we do to ourselves when we choose to override the truth we already know.

     1. I love your words Liane about the alarm bells our bodies sound and we “blast” on regardless.
        I recall contacting Serge Benhayon because all pain had finally stopped and I was back to my busy busy lifestyle and really wanted to avoid surgery. At the time I was not aware that I was not willing to feel the ocean of sadness from having 4 miscarriages and never to be a mother again if I went ahead with surgery.
        Had it not been for Serge Benhayon’s pro-medicine advice, I doubt I would be alive today as my choices were taking me to my grave faster than I would have liked to admit at the time.

389. “Even though I had physically been stopped, I could not stop the internal momentum” – it’s amazing how much we drive ourselves which then creates this momentum – no wonder many people are very tired at the end of the day/week/month/year, with all of this energy going into driving through anything

     1. This is true Jessica and I have experienced this also, and it certainly takes focus to change the momentum. Something well worth focusing on.

390. Thanks for this sharing BIna, the power of those signals our body sends is amazing as can be the power of the mind in trying to override/ignore them.

391. Wow Bina. You are a true medical miracle – how you went from living a life in constant motion to one of stillness is amazing. This is evidence that our everyday choices really can change the state of our health. Thank you.

     1. Thanks Susie – a true medical miracle indeed.
        What I feel to say is that this blog was written over a year ago and part of the delay was I felt embarrassed to share something that is seen as a very personal part of my body and there was also a lot of shame because of how I had lived in the past that got me to the point where I needed major surgery. To go public on the internet about this was not what I wanted, but today having read the amazing comments, my story was well worth sharing and I have no shame or embarrassment, simply because I know and can feel this blog can help others to at least consider Stopping and asking the Why question.

392. Wow, Bina what a turn around, you are amazing, thank you deeply for sharing your story, an important one to share and get out there.

393. It ‘s a common illness isn’t it, an epidemic in fact – everyone being on the go and not stopping to consider how this affects their health and well-being. The busy-ness of life seems to take precedent over our health and well-being, with drastic consequences. This blog was a good reminder to me that there is another way to consider and treat myself and my body.

     1. Very true, it is a huge epidemic, we seem to thrive on the drama of it, it makes us ‘someone’ if we are busy, as Bina demonstrates in her self declared quest to ‘save the world’ at all costs, even her health. Yes there is another way to live, another way to treat ourselves and strangely enough, another way to save the world. If we begin to address our own health issues by taking care of ourselves, we not only save precious resources we can actually achieve more, in a balanced and joyful way. When we truly take care of ourselves we have much to offer and share, including that beautiful energy that radiates out of a woman who is in touch with her inner stillness.

     2. I love the way you have expressed this. It is an epidemic that everyone is on the go and not stopping to consider how this affects our health and well-being. The busy-ness of life does seem to take over!

     3. Yes I would agree that it is an epidemic when we think being on the go and living a busy busy life is ok without considering the effects on our general health and well being.
        Even hospitals and GP surgeries have a busy-ness in my experience and I know in the UK recently many NHS trusts have declared that they cannot cope with the high volume of cases.
        Is it not time that we as the individuals started to take responsibility for how we are choosing to live and this could possibly make a difference to our health systems long term?
        I know because of what I have learnt and applied to my life, from the teachings of Serge Benhayon, that I am not a burden on our health system since 2008. This confirms to me that there is another way to live.

394. Hi Bina,
     Yes this word multitasking was for me the magic word in my life. I was so proud on being able to do so many things at once, not caring for my body at all. The recognition I got being superwoman was like a drug and prevented me from stopping and feeling what really was going on in my body and my life.

     1. Absolutely, superwoman was to be worshiped! I found it a perfect choice (for many years) that made me feel worthwhile whilst also allowing me to not feel the emotions and lack, that were really running through me.

     2. Yes, ‘busyness’ is another drug of choice to add to the list – used to numb, distract and take us away from what we know we feel in the body but continue choosing NOT to feel by continuing with the drug use.
        Sometimes a gentle tap on the shoulder is not enough to wake us up, it can take a sledge hammer. Ooch!
        Amazing how we can still turn it all around by choosing self care and experience how a life in motion with stillness within is so so very different from the distracted, multi-tasking busyness you were in Bina.

        1. That’s interesting that for you Rosanna the word, “superwoman” was to be worshipped. For me I didn’t even try to be superwoman as it felt like an impossibility; I knew I couldn’t do it all, but equally when I saw others getting on with it, I would compare and think something was wrong with me! Although it occurred to me that all this multitasking didn’t feel true, I didn’t stop to own this realisation and let myself feel that it was the world that was out of whack and I was fine. I just assumed that because I didn’t fit into the mould it was me that was wrong. The missing ingredients for me were self care and self nurture and self love. With these developing qualities I can now say I feel completely rebalanced in a world that wobbles!

395. Truly, an eye opening article Bina, thank you for your honesty in sharing, although I know that you wouldn’t have it any other way! It shows me that once we start to listen to our bodies and choosing love, we can change our lives forever. It does appear to be a miracle, and indeed it is, how you have changed your life around. The reality for me now, is that love IS our natural way of being, it is our true way as presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. The beautiful thing is that you have claimed your power and in your amazingness you choose to support others.

     1. Yes, well said Sandra. Once we start to listen to our bodies and choose love, the changes can be miraculous. The biggest miracle then is that we can then start to inspire others to do the same.

396. I have read this blog three times now and all I can say is WOW Bina. I know you have always walked in Truth and have inspired many, including myself. I too have been working on my Stillness. Not easy, as it is a work in progress for me. I was the same – my drive and constant doing resulted in being diagnosed with endometriosis in 2012. I now look at my choices daily and bring Love into what I do to the best of my ability. Like you I can’t turn the clock back, but I can live a life without the need to exhaust myself with trying to keep up with an already hurt and exhausted world. This blog will inspire many many others!

397. Thank you Bina, what a transformation- from full forward to knowing stillness. It’s inspiring to hear how change is possible, no matter how ingrained we think we are in our ways – letting your body finally lead the way makes so much sense – it’s that guiding voice that is always there, if we stop and listen.

     1. I love what you say Gemmarubina ‘that guiding voice that is always there’. I made it my mission to make sure I ignored that voice and look where it got me.
        This blog was a laser version and the long version would have gone into more detail especially about the fact that 11 weeks of non-stop bleeding was so bad that I could not walk one step physically and yet in my head I was still going, making plans and never stopping. As you say, change is possible when I finally let my body lead the way but it took a long time and a ton of pain to realise that.

398. “I really loved the drama and the stress it brought, which distracted me from just surrendering and listening to my body and feeling the truth of what was there to be felt.” There’s something very lovely in that surrendering, which allows us the space and time to feel what is going on. And by not surrendering to what is there to be felt, we are in effect using every trick in the book to avoid giving ourselves that grace.

399. It is amazing how clearly our body gives us messages like fireworks or flashing lights and yet we still override and ignore them. How often do we, even when we get a stop moment like an operation, still override and go back to living exactly how we were before the op – until our body brings us a signal we cannot ignore. Thanks for the blog Bina showing us how life can be truly lived.

     1. This is huge what you are saying here Judy. We get the stop moment like an operation and then override and go back to living exactly how we were before the op until our body brings us a signal we cannot ignore.
        I know loads of people who do this and I was the same. Had I not burnt my hand so badly after surgery, I doubt I would have even considered stopping. Could this be another reason why illness and disease rates are escalating because we are not truly stopping and addressing the root cause of why we had surgery, which was our body way of telling us to stop and take note?
        Something worth exploring and pondering on…maybe.

400. Thank you Bina, these words should be shared with women all over the world.

401. To listen to my body and consider it to have a wisdom and intelligence about life (as you have done) is by far the most important thing that I have done in my life. The more I listen, the more that I learn from my body’s wisdom and the more I understand the vocabulary of my body (I am approaching fluent). All of this makes me an infinitely more wise person than when I pushed through my body’s counsel- in fact my body has common sense in bucket loads!!

     1. I love this comment, Rebecca. As you say, what is more important in life than learning the language of your body, so that you can feel everything that is there to be felt in life?

402. Great sharing Bina. It really does highlight how our body never gives up showing us the truth and helping us come back to who we truly are.

     1. So true Cindy that our body never gives up showing us the Truth. How programmed are we that we do not even register, as Vanessa mentioned in an earlier comment, when we are harming our body with lifestyle choices.
        I have come to realise that our body has its own intelligence and it gives us many many chances to address the harm. It may start off as in my case a teenager with heavy periods but with no role models or a general understanding that what our bodies say to us is a message, we remain lost and then ACCEPT it.
        Speaking to others who were having the same problem meant that it was normal, even though deep down I did know it was far from normal but it suited me to do nothing about it.

403. Absolutely Rosanna, ‘The pushing and the productivity is so valued by society that it has been accepted and even encouraged as a good way to be. But it is in fact the total opposite to the connection with our bodies and discovering the quality of stillness. In effect, by keeping that myth of busyness going we are keeping everyone away from true health and vitality.’ I can so relate this, it has been really huge in my life, and even now I have to consciously make sure that energy does not come in and take over.

404. Reading your blog, Bina, makes my jaw drop. It proves to what extreme the mind can override and ignore the body. Your words: “It really does not pay to ignore the signs when things are not feeling right with your body” are wise and worth reading over and over again. And it starts with stillness, – thank you for reminding me of our natural way of being as a woman.

405. Our lives can be swept up in the drive to make and have more, especially in the workplace, and this is at the expense of our body. This is crazy, why should we suffer to increase the profit of a business, this is not true service. The integrity of a business is only as strong as the integrity of each and every staff member. If we deeply care for ourselves first as you said Bina, we support everything else that we do.

     1. Your expression of this topic is divine, Matthew! I agree with every word.

     2. “The integrity of a business is only as strong as the integrity of each and every staff member.” So true Matthew. This can so easily be forgotten or overlooked within a business. It’s the people that matter, and the integrity of the people, and the way that they are treated also. If a work team is made up of people with strong integrity it is only natural that the business will flourish. A point worth remembering when we are tempted to put profit before people and our own well-being.

     3. This is huge Matthew what you say here – ‘Our lives can be swept up in the drive to make and have more’.
        We are currently living in a world where the make more, have more just does not seem to have a stop button. It is crazy because our precious body cops all our choices and eventually things go wrong and we call that illness and disease. Imagine if we were taught our very first lesson at nursery school that our body is precious and to listen to our body is the most important thing in life and if we stay connected to our body, we will never go off track. Then imagine how these kids would grow up and how they would eventually become our adult generation serving humanity. Imagine the integrity of a business where every single staff member has deep self care as their start point.
        When we deeply love and care for ourself, it becomes almost impossible to harm another as the thoughts are just not there.

406. “I love myself deeply and would never choose to harm my body again – ever.” It is so touching to read this, Bina, as I can really feel that you mean it. Very inspiring words.

     1. Those words stood out for me too Janet, it seems so in contrast to what most people live everyday we are so used to harming our bodies with the drive, fast food, coffee etc that most of us don’t even register it as harm, I certainly didn’t – though the ever expanding waist line did register it! It is very inspiring to read this blog on how you turned your life around.

        1. I agree, very inspiring as they are so absolute. What an amazing thing to hear a woman say “I love myself deeply and would never choose to harm my body again – ever.” That is a wonderful walking miracle! Especially as you say Vanessa, that the harm we cause ourselves is more often than not even registered as harm.

        2. I agree with you both Vanessa and Rosanna that we don’t even register harm to our body like drinking coffee. What I feel is missing is the understanding. This is why I have made profound changes in my life.
           Serge Benhayon gives you an understanding and you have a choice. He does not ever tell you what to do.
           Why I took what he said on board was simply because this man talks the talk, walks the walk and certainly gives me the potential that I can be the same. He speaks simple, common sense stuff and I find myself nodding as I agree and like you Vanessa, I no longer have the ever expanding waistline.
           It is a huge claim to say “I love myself deeply and would never choose to harm my body again – ever”. I live that to the best of my ability and with that comes a greater responsibility with my daily choices.
           Gosh I am not perfect but I keep refining and reviewing what I am doing and not doing, so I learn from my mistakes and not repeat them.

     2. Thanks Janet and yes I do mean it and with that comes a responsibility. I know if I choose to go to bed late or eat food that will make me racy then that affects my body and then those around me and my clients and the list goes on.
        Choosing not to harm my body again – ever is a choice. I am in no way perfect and I don’t have a goal other than to do my best everyday to not harm my body, so others get to feel that there is another way to live.

        1. Love the simplicity of ‘do my best everyday to not harm my body’, goes so much deeper than the words. Thanks for the inspiration, Bina.

        2. Absolutely wonderful and so simple. Awesome marker for the responsibility every one of us carries inside and the beauty of living it.

        3. I agree Josephine, as well as Bina’s article her comments each are inspiring too.

407. Just reading this blog alone, moves me into being still. That is the grace and power of one person living with stillness – it benefits us all. Thank you Bina.

408. I love how you have said that we cannot turn back the clock and change how we were in the past – but what we can do is keep refining and deepening the care we bring to ourselves today and every moment henceforth (with no perfection here asked, just a willingness to be there for ourselves and truly care for ourselves)….

     1. You are so right here Henrietta that what we cannot turn back the clock but we can change right now by our willingness to truly care for ourselves. Each day is different and each day requires a review and refining so for me yesterday’s stillness had a quality but I have discovered that there is more. I have a choice to go even deeper by surrendering more, for example when I have a nap. Usually the knock at the door or some loud noise would disturb me but these days I can feel the stillness strong and steady in the centre of my body taking note of the noise but not disturbing me. I feel by this daily reviewing process, I have a choice to adjust and so what if I get it wrong, there is always another day, so no more being hard on myself.

        1. I really enjoyed your blog Bina and this comment about each day being different and requiring a review and a refining is absolutely on the money. Staying closely connected to our bodies and feeling what needs to be changed on a daily basis is a never-ending unfoldment requiring, as you say, a deepening surrender and willingness to truly love ourselves and not subtly get stuck being habitual with ourselves and any of our activities. Thank you.

409. A very Inspiring article Bina thank you for sharing your life with such an honesty. The drive to doing is a seed in us all of not being enough and the amazing joy we have inside in connection in stillness brings the magic to the world to be lived. Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine are definitely bringing this to our lives by our livingness to reconnect to.Beautiful.

410. Wow, thank you Bina for sharing your story. This is very relatable for all women and the extremes we go to to avoid being with ourselves in our stillness. It is inspiring to feel how far you have come in listening to your body and taking the deep care and love that you are so worthy of.

     1. Thank you Marcia – a great point you make about the ‘extremes’ we go to, to avoid being with our stillness. I like many woman had this guilt thing going on and looking after my body and caring for myself felt a bit selfish and indulgent. Not feeling worthy of creating space for me in my busy busy life eventually had a price tag on my health and it was very high.
        Today I view my life in the complete opposite way to how I used to live. Number one is me and I remain priority and the rest takes care of itself. Listening to my body more closely than ever before pays big dividends – consistently.

411. Thanks Bina,
     You are an inspiration in the way you have turned your life around from one of motion to one of stillness first.
     The arrogance of the human spirit is amazing. How many of us spend years of suffering, exhaustion, depression and pain, and it’s only when our bodies finally stop us, lying flat on your back in an operating theatre will do that, that we finally admit that just maybe, we need to change the way we have been living.

     1. Yes so true Rob, I would only stop because my body would bring me to my knees in pain quite literally, migraines were good at that. Like you say, laying flat out on an operating table is quiet effective, but I still know many people who have not even listened to that. The way Bina has turned her life around is a miracle and the amazing thing is miracles such as these are available to us all if we so choose to stop, listen and respond to our bodies just as Bina has done.

412. Hello, Bina. As your friend I recall how difficult the events you describe in your blog were at the time. I can testify to how bleak, difficult and painful those months were for you. Having said that, it is incredibly inspiring to recall how you turned everything around by learning to deeply love yourself, moment by moment, choice by choice. Further, through your consistency and commitment to love and truth, and by living the love and stillness you have developed in your body, you have become a beacon of inspiration to many, including myself. I would not have been drawn to learn about the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine were it not for your example of what living the work actually means.

     1. This is a testament indeed, Raja, to the power of living truly.

     2. I agree Raja, Bina is a beacon of inspiration and inspires me greatly. She is a true example of living the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

413. How awesome Bina that you felt to share your unfolding story. I found so much in your presentation that I could relate to, and found your expression very inspiring.
     Thank you for sharing.

414. We see from reading this blog that with commitment to making simple changes in the way we live we can heal our bodies. ‘I love myself deeply’ – beautiful.

415. Hi Bina, reading your blog caused me to reflect on my own uterus pain, which I have had on and off to varying degrees since 2008. Although not life threatening in any way, it has been suggested to me by a specialist that a hysterectomy would solve the problem. I felt that this was not true for me, as I knew that the way I have lived has been the problem. I felt that changing the way I lived would solve the problem. I have made some great changes, but the pain still comes and goes. This has made me feel I have failed myself and haven’t changed enough. I have been resistant to going ahead with the hysterectomy, but this has not been wise. Through the great support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I have come to realise that the medical profession has so much to offer us in support of our health. I’ve come to realise my Livingness, working in collaboration with them, can facilitate true healing. Thank you.

     1. This is a great sharing Kate and I appreciate you being so open.
        The truth is we cannot put a band aid on a bullet wound so to speak. Having a solution to fix the problem will never work and I am a case study here.
        What was clear to me soon after my hysterectomy was the monthly pain in my uterus was still there. How on earth could that be – I had the whole thing taken out to stop all this nonsense and inconvenience. It was after a whole year of ‘ticking boxes’ doing what I thought was needed to be a woman in stillness, that I got a real wake up call.
        I went to see Simone Benhayon who gave me an understanding about why things had not really changed. I realised I was still ‘on the go’ and these so called ‘blobby days’ where I done nothing but sleep and indulge in comfort food and TV was not really the answer. Stillness was needed and this had to come from my choices during each day to first and foremost take care of me and my body. Small steps and if I mess up, I press the ‘take 2’ button and have another go. That way I know I have not failed, just learning.

        1. Thanks for the reply Bina, that is amazing that you still had the pain after the hysterectomy, something for me to ponder on and consider deeply.

416. Thank you, Bina, for a great and honest sharing. It is lovely to read your journey from spinning top to stillness! It is interesting to talk to young women today, who are manipulating their periods with the pill, to save them from the inconvenience of having to stop and be still, or even slow down, or just feel where they are at once a month, at least. It is worth pondering on what this is doing inside them, and how it is all going to play out. It is lovely to be able to see and feel our monthly periods as a grace, and an opportunity to stop and feel how we have been living, thanks to the inspiration of Natalie Benhayon.

     1. Very good point Anne, I too have noticed that young women seem to use the Pill not as a contraceptive but as medication for their periods. It is a bit alarming as the Pill was not intended for that and as you say, who knows what the long term effects might be. I used to suffer from extremely debilitating periods, but have been able to transform them into a ‘monthly grace’ because of my engagement with Universal Medicine and Natalie Benhayon and changing the way I live each day. Bina’s message is a very important one for all women, especially the younger generation – if there is something wrong in the female department, then seek medical help and ask yourself ‘how am I living as a woman?’. It is a very powerful question.

        1. This is a very powerful question indeed Rowena. These days I literally have to remind myself that I am a woman in a woman’s body and actually take time to feel how I feel in my body. This in itself is a huge step as I have been accustomed to escaping into my mind. To feel my body, sometimes I’ll just sit still taking a few minutes to breath gently through my nose at my desk or before I eat, or feeling how my body feels as I walk and even just asking myself how I feel in my body when I wake – as the tendency is to wake and want to rush out of bed with my first thought. I am finding that It takes a lot of focus, determination and commitment to change these patterns of behaviour that can be very ingrained.

     2. Thank you for this amazing comment Anne saying ‘manipulating their periods with the pill, to save them from the inconvenience of having to stop and be still’. Yes that word inconvenience. Today many see their ailments and symptoms as an inconvenience.
        Anyway, the pill was suggested to me many times by the doctors. They said it could be a solution to ending my heavy periods. So I did take it when I was younger for about 10 years and the only thing I can remember was the weight gain and more regular periods but the pain was always there. How many of us actually want to see our monthly period as a time of grace to ponder on how we have been living in that month leading up to it.
        It takes a big shift in our self love department to want to choose another way that supports us long term. I thank God I met Serge Benhayon who gave me an understanding about how every single choice is felt by our body. With that understanding always with me, I know the responsibility of the choices I make can either support me or harm me.

417. Thank you Bina, to feel and use the body as a compass is so true. As Serge Benhayon says “the body is our only marker of truth”.

418. Thank you Bina for what you have shared here. It is very powerful and the depth to which our inner stillness can be healing is profound. We just need to allow ourselves to connect to it. You have described this beautifully.

     For me, my body was showing me signs of excess motion since I was very young. From splitting my head open when I was about 2, to breaking my wrist when I was 19, and the extensive list of operations and illnesses I have experienced in the years in between and since. My body was calling me back to the inner stillness, but until I started studying with Universal Medicine I was not aware that this was the message being given. I have slowly allowed myself to re-connect to this amazing resource within, and my life and my health has blossomed. At 39 I feel so much more vital and alive than I have in a long time, and as I continue to go deeper into the stillness, I am continually inspired to make changes to support myself to stay with this connection I have been building.

     1. You are a living inspiration, Robyn Jones. You went through some ugly stuff and look at you today at 39. Your photo confirms your vitality and you would have to be blind Freddy not to notice you!
        I know you, me and many many others have turned our lives around – thanks to the life and work of Serge Benhayon, a man who sure knows what he is talking about.

419. Inspiring article Bina, thank you for sharing.
     What I love is how we as individuals come to a place of knowing within ourselves and then share that understanding. Whoever then reads/hears that gets an opportunity to see that there is another way of living.
     We always have a choice. We can choose to live in the constant motion, numbing our senses and bodies with constant ‘doing,’ caffeine, alcohol, drugs, food, etc., or we can choose the simple and practical steps as presented by Serge Benhayon and allow our lives to be full of the love we seek.

420. The pushing and the productivity is so valued by society that it has been accepted and even encouraged as a good way to be. But it is in fact the total opposite to the connection with our bodies and discovering the quality of stillness. In effect, by keeping that myth of busyness going we are keeping everyone away from true health and vitality.

     1. This busyness is a myth that could well and truly serve humanity if it were to be laid to rest. There is a stark difference between being with your body in all that you do and the multi tasking we have become accustomed to. The true productivity levels between the two are huge with one serving the individual as well as the whole.

        1. Jenny, so true it is so easy to get caught up in the multi tasking which we are so use to and lose ourselves. When we bring it back to being with our body in everything we do, we are not only just serving the self but humanity as a whole, we are more productive and it is felt by all.

        2. This is so true James. I have experienced too that when there is rushing and trying to get things done, it always gets complicated, whereas when I dedicate time to whatever I am doing and focus on one thing at a time, it is a breeze. I do feel the struggle between accepting the latter as a normal way to be rather than the former. Currently I notice that there is a feeling of guilt when I choose to take time and focus, but at the same time the quality of the work that is produced is stupendous as every detail is covered.

        3. I agree with James too,’when I give myself time and space’ it all flows beautifully. Sometimes the rush aspect of busyness can be catching and it takes a conscious effort to say ‘no’. I can’t multi task anyway, it just doesn’t work for me anymore.

        4. I love what you say about the productivity levels and what comes to me is that multi-tasking is exhausting. You cannot focus, bring attention and detail to what you are doing if your mind is elsewhere thinking, plotting, planning, stressing on something else out there. Where is the body while you are trying to juggle and do two or even three things “on the go”?
           The word QUALITY is what is missing. I now realise that the superwoman I was had zero quality and I was clock watching all the time. Things had to be done and time controlled me. I carried more and more stress and of course my monthly painful heavy periods was confirming this. The ‘ignore’ button just stopped working even though I pressed it umpteen times in one day.
           Today, I have true productivity levels that are consistent and it comes from me saying ‘this is the space you got’ and then I do what is needed. Not ‘you have 2 hours and you got x, y z and more to fit it’. I hope this makes sense.

     2. Absolutely, it is crazyness really. Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon present there is another more harmonious way to live, it is not floaty, flaky or dreamy but tangible, sensible and practical. It is crazy that after so many years of livng like we have NOTHING has got better. It has got worse! So it makes sense to really look at this, have a bit of an ah ha moment and change the WAY we live instead.

        1. I agree with everything you have said here Vicky, absolutely nothing has got better, it has gotten worse. Livingness is the way.

     3. I agree Rosanna and Jane – we are constantly being asked and told to keep pushing ourselves and our bodies to get things done without stopping to consider the quality of energy we are doing things in let alone what effect it is having on our bodies. Something I have noticed is when I try to do too much or push myself usually it takes longer and does not work out or there are problems, whereas when I give myself the time and space I usually get it done fairly quickly and there are no problems afterwards!

     4. Well said Rosanna, it is a crazy myth of keeping busy, it is the way to keep us away from finding our truth, our love and our stillness within, ultimately impacting our health and vitality.

     5. Well said Rosanna, Jane and James, the relentless pushing and trying is so detrimental to our bodies and does not serve anyone. And as you rightly say, James, the job does not get done any faster; in fact in my own experience it takes longer, due to the complications that arise from all the pushing and stress.

     6. This is really well said Rosanna and see what you say as a way and means for people to be recognised for what they do rather than being honoured for who they are.

     7. Yes, to push and strive is championed by society. You are a hero if you can force your body to keep going even when near collapse. Athletes in pain and exhaustion are driven over the line by the recognition they receive to not give up or give in. We have to make the distinction clear though. There is a difference between not giving up in life and allowing your body to rest and recuperate. Allowing my body the repose it needs actually supports me to live a fuller, more complete life. It supports me in my commitment to life. There is no giving up here or being weak, just an honouring of where I am at so that I can be more of who I am. What is happening when we are striving and pushing? How does this demonstrate a commitment to life and to all in it? Surely it just exposes the narrowness of intention – a striving for some kind of recognition outside of oneself at the expense of one’s health?

421. Thank you Bina for your honest sharing ! It is a very good reminder to not let the push and raciness win — but to stop and reconnect with ourselves, and with our stillness and to live from there. Since I learned about stillness in the Universal Medicine courses with Serge Benhayon, I listen much more to my body.

     1. I agree Andrea that we cannot let the push and raciness win. It all comes down to choice and then we need to commit every single day making small steps towards the other side. What I have learnt is that there is always more to deepen and develop stillness so there is no ‘holiday’ or ‘destination’ where you think you can take a break or think you have arrived.
        Stillness is a quality and over the years I realised that there is a depth to this quality and holding it in a world that is polar opposite is not easy always. What is easy is to make time to support my stillness – example
        On one of my recent ‘experiments’ I just felt like getting up super early, wrapping up snuggy in my fluffy slippers and dressing gown and sitting in my pukka chair just breathing. No agenda, no asking God to deliver anything. Have to say it surprised me how different the quality of my day was. I feel this experiment was a direct request from my body as it needed to adjust its rhythm to allow for even more stillness. I plan to continue with this experiment as my body feels more equipped to deal with the day ahead and I have broken a pattern of getting up and going into doing mode first thing.

422. Thank you BIna, for a very down to earth blog, one of which many will relate to I am sure. I can especially relate to the doing and the pushing and in my case putting everybody first before myself and seeing my own body as an inconvenience, especially when things started to go wrong in the health department. These days I can say that I am more aware and learning all of the time new things regarding my body and the way I am with it – the good and the bad.

423. Awesome blog Bina, it’s amazing what we will put up with to be able to continue with life at its break neck speed

424. Thank you for sharing your amazing story Bina – I wonder why we as humanity have en masse disconnected from our bodies so much and stopped paying attention to what they are telling us? It has been an 8 year journey for me reconnecting and paying attention to my body and everyday there is something new.

425. wow Bina what a journey.

426. Hi Bina, Thank you for sharing your story. It reminds me that we have such amazing support from Serge Benhayon that I feel held in love. With Serge’s deep understanding coupled with the value of conventional medicine we can embrace our own healing.

427. The history of your early life has a great similarity to my own….I ‘put up’ with heavy periods and fibroids all of my reproductive life. It was such a relief to go through menopause.
     That was before I became aware that my body was telling me that I was not nurturing myself.
     Nowadays through the presentations by Serge Benhayon, and the Esoteric Womens Group I am practising listening to my body and being more self-loving.

     1. On that note of fibroids Janice, I had 9 fibroids plus cysts and endometriosis at one point and yet I had no clue that how I was living each month had led to this.
        With no awareness and not really wanting to change, I carried on.
        I probably would have had a chance if presentations by Serge Benhayon and the Esoteric Women’s Group were around. I have learnt so much from these simple teachings of Serge Benhayon, that I live a quality today where I inspire others that there is another way to live.

428. My goodness, that was a serious ‘stop’ sign Bina! I can’t say that I have such serious signs in my body …. but your article inspires me to deepen the connection I have made and more deeply consider the signs my body does give me, as I can relate to what you have written … thank you for such an honest sharing of your experience.

429. Hi Bina, yes I agree with you about the Doctors and all the examinations – they do feel intrusive, but are so necessary and part of self-care.I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis 11 years ago. I saw so many Doctors, I tried all kinds of medication, but they just didn’t help me. I met Serge Benhayon 6 years ago and he introduced me to a new way of living with my body and explained how important it was that I find a Doctor. He helped me with that too. I am now living a beautiful life and listening to my body more each day. I stay in touch with my Doctor and that feels loving, and right for me. I stay in touch with Serge Benhayon too, knowing that he will be there for me with total care.

     1. It is very inspiring to read that not only has your life improved by listening to your body, but that you returned to orthodox medicine with the support of Serge Benhayon and now enjoy the support, wisdom and advice from both camps. Match made in Heaven!

     2. What a powerful combination you have pointed to here Sherry – the partnership of the GP and specialists’ know-how, and the support, wisdom, care, understanding of Serge and Universal Medicine. This feels like a very sensible and caring way to go about healing.

     3. Excellent comment Sherry, that you listened to Serge Benhayon who does explain that it is very important to get anything checked out with the doctor and follow the medical route first, but also look at why this may have possibly happened to you.
        Working with the medical system and using the sound teachings of Serge Benhayon is, without any doubt for me, the real way to heal and bring about change.

430. Thank you Bina, I learnt lots from your blog. Yes, I can relate to the invasive internal examinations, miscarriages, ignoring pain, the drama and stress, busyness, fibroids and not liking my body. When I reached menopause I celebrated saying, I’m free of all women’s problems, so I could further ignore my my body, that’s when arthritis kicks in. Slowly with the assistance of Universal Medicine I’m learning to listen, respect and be present in stillness with my beautiful faithful body.

     1. This is big what you say here Kathy. Celebrating menopause because you are free of women’s problems is a mindset many women subscribe to and I would have been no different, had I not come across the teachings of Serge Benhayon.
        Why is it that we just want our body to function and keep going but without putting any effort, love, care, attention or detail into it? No wonder we hear people saying we treat our cars and our pets better than we treat our own bodies. How true is that?
        If my body was a car and I treated it with the wrong fuel and drove it to the ground it would stop working. The End.
        next —
        Treating my body in the same way took 35 years before it gave me the big fat Stop sign which was my “Wake up call”.
        If my body was a car today, it would be true to say that it works in harmony taking everything and everyone into consideration. Attention to all the detail, including maintenance is consistent. There is No heavy hard pushing, speeding or driving. Doors are always opened and closed gently and with the utmost regard and care at all times. It is always clean and tidy, which brings an order and flow everyday. This means minimum level of fuel needed for optimum results.

431. Thank you Bina, your sharing is not only healing for all women but something I am sure everybody could relate to in some way.

432. It was so interesting to hear about your story. Crazy the extent we go to to not listen to what we are being told by our bodies until it speaks so loud that we HAVE to listen.

433. Hello Bina, thank you for sharing a very honest and frank assessment of what happened for you. I love the detail you use of where you were at and the support offered by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. It shows how they are working with our medical system and then adding to it. So treat the physical and address the energetic part as well as you have so beautifully described.

     It is great to have you ‘still’ Bina.

434. I can really relate to the battle with in oneself with the doing and the inner stillness. Thank you for sharing your story so honestly and the reminder of the value of living with ones inner stillness and the enormous support and joy that comes from this. Remembering to stop and take the time to honour this in ones day is pure gold.

435. Thanks so much Bina. So much of your story reasonates with me and mine. Why does the notion of taking loving care of our bodies seem so remote when we live in them every single moment? Universal Medicine teachings have greatly helped me to bridge that great divide and I am now enjoying my periods for the first time ever, choosing to see them as a natural part of my cycle, not an annoying interuption to my life that was dictated by my non-loving choices.

436. Bina thank you for sharing such an honest account of your journey to self love and stillness. I can relate to some of what you describe. I had a hysterectomy myself at the age of 39 after years of heavy periods caused by overgrown fibroids. I too lived life at a hectic pace, had a demanding corporate role and was unable to stop. I worked late each night until just before the operation. A close friend reminded me I needed to prepare practically for my hospital stay and took me shopping to buy things I needed for hospital and home confinement. I was so focussed on work, It hadn’t accurred to me to do so. Two months after the operation I went back to work before my body was fully healed, not wanting to seem weak and had to take an extended break months later. Through attending workshops by Serge Benhayon I’ve learned about stillness, self love and how to care for my body. It’s transformed the way I live my life.
     .

     1. I have come to realise after reading many comments on this blog that you and me Kehinde are saying something that is worth taking note of. There is a direct correlation between fibroids, heavy periods and living a hectic, busy, demanding racy lifestyle. The simple answer is we are not using the stop button everyday and connecting to the stillness that we all have deep within us. This means that by sharing this, it could be possible that other young women could learn something by understanding that looking at how you live each month may be reflected to you by your body when you have your period. Any pain or abnormal signs like heavy bleeding could be an indication of how you are choosing to live. Even having no periods is a sign something is wrong, as it is natural to have a monthly period.

437. Thank you Bina, for sharing your story. The body keeps talking to us until we get the message and listen. Your choice to listen has led to the amazing life you are choosing right now. Beautiful.

438. It’s as though we give up on our bodies, settle for ‘better than it was’, but our bodies don’t give up on us. They just keep giving us messages asking us to feel how we are living.

439. Hi Bina,
     These words, “At no point did I ever consider the seriousness of what my body was telling me” have stopped me short. Perhaps if I hadn’t started listening to my body, I too may have ended up with something more serious.
     Up until I heard Serge Benhayon present about the body ‘being the marker of truth’ and that in effect being connected to our body, we can know so much more about ourselves, I had never heard or been taught this before. I don’t think I ever thought much about my body except that it got a period each month which was extremely painful, or it had too much weight in certain areas or I could use it in any way I chose to get me from A to B. I suppose I thought about it in either a very functional way or a very critical way. I don’t think I had any sort of loving relationship with it. But what Serge said of course made sense as I thought… “this body comes everywhere with me… maybe it can show me something… maybe its not out there I should be looking for the answers, it’s inside this body”. So like you Bina, I too started to take more notice. Today I too have experienced the stillness you are talking about. It has replaced the constant buzzy raciness I could feel in my stomach every day, with more of a steadiness, a knowing of me, like I’m re-introducing myself back to me. At times I lose it but I know I only have to bring myself back to how I am with my body, how I move with it, how gentle I am with it, how caring and nurturing I am with it, what food I eat etc, and I am back. This has also given me a fuller feeling of me as if before I was just a empty shell walking around looking for myself.

     1. That constant buzzy raciness you mention Elizabeth stayed with me even after surgery and on strong medication. My mind was like its own engine spinning away and my body was flat on the floor, lifeless and exhausted beyond words. Yet this feeling in my stomach was there every day that was disturbing me and it took some real deep commitment every single day to make sure I took time out to just stop. Eventually that racy buzzy mind started to slow down.
        Today I know the difference – so if things are even slightly off, I know and then I have two choices. Override and keep going or stop and feel. The latter always works and thank God for Serge Benhayon who has presented the simple ways that I can come back to me quick, and it’s easy and natural for me now to live this way.

440. Bina, what an honest and powerful blog. I too had fibroids and surgeries for them, both before and after coming to study with Universal Medicine and can really relate to all you shared. How beautiful it is now to understand the message my body was telling me through these fibroids – to stop and become still and connect and feel the truth and beauty of myself as a woman deeply – rather than what I previously saw, namely the fibroids as horrible things that I just wanted to ‘get rid of’ so I could get on with living my life as I had been. I continue to have regular check ups with my doctor, and to continually deepen my relationship to stillness.

441. As women we have been far removed from feeling and connecting to who we truly are. Like many women I had to become quite unwell to realise my total lack of self care and disconnection to my body. It is only through inner stillness that we can reconnect and know our true selves, and this is where the true healing begins.

442. Bina I could feel every ounce of love and true support you now have for yourself. Thank you.

443. I have noticed that as we become older and move into peri-menopause and menopause that the call for stillness becomes stronger and stronger and that to ignore this we must be ‘pushing ourselves into the motion’. AND even if we do not increase our motion we are by the shear fact the body is calling for more stillness, increasing that tension. The tension between where the body is pulling us towards a harmonious state and where we continue in our usual busyful way. Could this be the reason why so many women of a certain (older) age develop women related cancers? As you describe it Bina: “the internal fight between who I was and what I chose to do. I was fighting a natural inner stillness, that is who I am as a woman, and over-riding it with motion.”

     1. So true what you say Rosanna, I have found in my elder years, that to connect to my stillness it was necessary to let go of my busyness.

444. “There is another way to live and it starts with stillness”. How many of us mistake stillness for being lazy, not doing anything, skiving etc. It’s no accident that we have reinterpreted the word to keep ourselves wrapped up in the doing and being busy as this is a game that we play so we don’t have to feel or listen to our bodies. Our body speaks loud and clear but if we don’t pay attention it has to shout louder and louder until it stops us in the form of an illness or accident that forces us to take stock.
     Thanks to your connection with Universal Medicine you were able to support yourself to turn your life around.
     The lesson here is we don’t have to wait until a near death experience before we change, we can instead choose to make a difference in our life right now by taking time to develop the quality of stillness by committing to really loving who we are.

445. I love the openness and honesty that comes across in your blog Bina. I relate to trying to be a super woman. I used to feel proud of myself and be a bit boastful about all the things I could do. Like the quote from Michael Douglas in the film Wall Street when he says ‘lunch is for wimps’ I felt that being still and taking care of yourself was for wishy washy people. I was far to busy to take time for myself.
     I too have learned that there is a different way. Taking care of my body has become a priority and how I feel is now far more important than what I do. Thanks for this great blog Bina.

446. The deep care that you now show yourself is deeply inspiring Bina. I’m still on the way to choosing to love myself in every way, and your blog is an amazing example of what is possible when we choose to do this.

447. When I read your blog Bina, I think of all the women and girls I know and don’t know, who have trouble with their menstrual cycle and think its normal because the medical system tell us its normal. Many of us suffer incredible unbearable pain, and its seen as normal. It is not. I once suffered with my cycle, it doesn’t have to be that way, all I did was begin to truly look after myself, as you did Bina. Our cycle is a blessing. Thank you for sharing.

448. Bina you write with such realness and strength, your story is amazing and testament to the love and deep care you hold for not just yourself but also others too, and in this offer great inspiration. I love your biggest tip “….get it checked out with your GP and then consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue”. Sound.

     1. Absolutely Zofia; “….get it checked out with your GP and then consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue” is an excellent tip, and by finding the root of the illness, on a both medical and practical level, we are able to make different choices and avoid being in the same position again!

        1. Zofia and Susie – thank you both for confirming the importance of getting it checked out with your GP if something feels wrong BUT consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue.
           The latter is equally as important as this is what could give us a clue as to why we got sick in the first place. Had I not come across the teachings of Serge Benhayon, I know my pattern was fix it and move on. I would not even consider that how I was living needed to change.
           How wrong I was and how crucial it is to really look at our lifestyle choices that could be contributing to what is actually going on in our body.

449. A true life inspiration. From drive and disregard to stillness, vitality and responsibility. These are the stories that should be in magazines and journals all over the world. Your story illustrates the power of honesty and self responsibility in our life and how this impacts our health.

450. Bina, thank you for writing with such honesty. Your story will touch a chord in countless woman for how many of us have created drama and tension in our lives to distract us “from just surrendering and listening to our body and feeling the truth of what was there to be felt’? Like you I also had a hysterectomy, which included removing my ovaries, at 50. Unlike you, it took another serious illness some years later for me to honestly look at how I was living. Before I met Serge Benahyon I did not even know that to look for! I wholeheartedly endorse your advice that if a woman feels that something is not right get it checked out with their GP and then consider how they are living that is possibly causing the issue. I would also add to do this in conjunction with an esoteric practitioner who will provide support so that there is nowhere to go other than letting the truth unfold.

     1. Thanks Anne for your comment about how you had the hysterectomy but then had another serious illness after. I can honestly say that without the understanding and support from Serge Benhayon, I would have got another illness because the way I was living would simply not have changed. The fact I was re-scheduling my clients on a mobile phone whilst I had a blood transfusion going on says it all. My intention was to not stop but keep going and my mind fed me all the reasons why I needed to keep going. It was exhausting me and in fact killing me as my body could not cope. I recall the pain being so unbearable that even 8 painkillers in one go did not help. How bad do things have to get before we stick our hands up and surrender?
        It’s hard and it takes time because the ingrained behaviour is familiar and the most dominant behaviour, even though it is really harming us.
        The surgery was 2008 and it is only now that I am starting to Appreciate my commitment to healing myself and what a gift to be able to share this on a blog site that cares about people and their well-being. I realise that Appreciation is needed and is a big piece for us to evolve – in other words move on.

451. To have had Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine Practitioners there to support my process of healing along with medical intervention has been essential. What is offered through Universal Medicine is in fact complementary to the fantastic work of our medically trained practitioners. It really is important to seek medical advice if something does not feel right in your body and equally so it is important to have the support to understand more deeply the message the body is delivering. You cannot have one without the other if you truly want to heal from the illness or disease.

452. Wow Bina what a great blog! Thank you for sharing your story with us and amazing to read the transformation you made.

453. ‘Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me.’ I love this line Bina. It explains so simply the way back to ourselves on a practical level.

454. Thank you Bina, For the great blog you wrote. It’s great that you show how we should recognize the signs our body is giving and care and take time for it if needed

455. Wow Bina, that was a blog with a huge amount of honesty! As you described so well, this is the way most women in the so called developed countries choose to live, because they think they have to so they will be accepted. We have moved away from what it means to be a true woman at the speed of a million miles an hour and now we have to pay the price for it. The price is the sky rocketing numbers of women’s diseases and as we now heard even heart disease the previous domain of our male partners. We have been so focussed and insisting that constantly pushing ourselves to the maximum is the only existence we are prepared to accept. We want to match the constant motion men are in and possibly even outdo them. I remember this inner drive in myself being relentless. I never realised that it was fed by the emptiness I felt within myself in an effort to fill myself up. I had absolutely no connection to myself and my body was just a tool to get to what and where I wanted to be. I never stopped or even considered that this might be totally detrimental to the female body and completely against its natural design. It took years of study with Universal Medicine for me to let go of these thought forms and accept that that there is a lot more to discover within myself. Slowly I realised that I was not only a person but a WOMAN and everything that could possibly entail. In this process I discovered a world of riches I did not anticipate. I developed deep self love for myself and my body, discovered that moving and living in gentleness and honouring my female body is simply delicious. That my body is meant to be full of love and radiate it so others can receive it as a reflection for their own potential. That living from stillness and sacredness is my natural expression as a woman. And totally unexpected and never thought possible, I now work more than ever before in my life, am more productive without pushing and am rolling smoothly from one thing to the other all day feeling amazing and so beautiful within myself.
     My life is more joyful, loving and fulfilling than I could have ever imagined. Thank you from the depth of my heart to Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon for your amazing inspiration.

     1. Karin, I felt the same emptiness and the ruse of keeping busy and driven to numb it. By connecting to the simple stillness inside was all that I was missing and it has changed everything!

     2. Thank you, Karin, for speaking on behalf of all of us about the journey of discovery that there is more to being a woman than we allowed ourselves to feel, thanks to the loving support of the Universal Medicine practitioners. What you have shared is really inspiring.

        1. So true Janet – ditto from me.

456. What an epic blog Bina! A very moving story, (which I wasn’t sure I’d finish as I’m not very good with hospitals and blood and nearly didn’t get past the title!), but I stayed with it and I’m really glad I did. There’s a lovely warm feeling that comes with the outcome of the story, with your total conversion from frenetic dynamo to all stillness and tranquility, and the arrival of self-love.

     1. “frenetic dynamo” a great description Jonathan, one which can apply to many of us if we don’t stop and take a moment to connect to ourselves – the arrival of self-love as you say. Serge Benhayon presents the importance of this vital connection.

     2. Thanks Jonathan and glad you kept reading. It comes from real lived experience. No fluff, no holding back – just say it as it is. Fresh air I call it.

457. Your blog is deeply inspiring for me, Bina. I have a lot of “ouch” feelings when I recognise what I have done and what I still do to some extent, in my own life, and have been pondering much of late about why it is that I cannot feel the stillness inside me all the time. When I do choose it, everything changes, when I don’t I am back in the same old inner motion. Thanks for the call to return to the woman I am.

458. Our bodies never lie and always reveal the Truth of how we are living. I can relate to telling my body to shut up time and time again until my body spoke loudest with the final say. It is deeply inspiring to feel the love you have developed for yourself Bina and the deep honouring and acceptance of your preciousness and stillness.

     1. I love how you say it Deborah “telling my body to shut up time and time again” – gosh it feels so cruel for me today to even have that thought. Amazing how we are so neglectful and disregarding of what I can now say is nothing short of precious. Our body is simply precious and I keep getting we need to get our kids understanding this as it will support them in life and make a huge difference to our medical systems worldwide.
        On my usual practical and funny note – I banged my hand and it was very slight (so I thought) but a big bruise appeared. I sat with it and placed my palm over the area and said “sorry” to my body. I find it very hard now to not take deep care of my body but as I am human and have no need for perfection, these things will happen. I just found my response funny as I was so serious when I was apologising to my body and working out how on earth it happened in the first place. Guess it was a ‘checked out charlie’ moment where I was not present but head engaged elsewhere.

459. Great blog Bina, thank you for sharing your personal story. It is quite an epidemic in the world isn’t it, where us woman take on things and gradually lose our innate connection to the stillness and replace it with being super efficient, super organised, 24/7 mum, behaving more male than female. What I have noticed when I see the word ‘woman’ I actually see two words… ‘Womb’ and ‘Man’. The womb… A point of difference between a male and a female. I have thought about this, and what I wonder is… how the womb, not only is the organ where a baby is held in protection/stillness to develop before they are born into the world, (and that the womb is there not only for women to have babies because it’s a woman choice to have a baby or not) but it’s there offering a woman the opportunity to connect to the stillness naturally within her. I’m sure you inspire woman everywhere by living the stillness within you!

     1. Johanne, what a beautiful appreciation of the word woman – Womb Man. It’s true, women have this special organ that provides a safe haven of stillness and nurturing for a baby, (and personally I wonder at the miracle of it all) that distinguishes us from men. And yes, whether we elect to have babies or not, this organ within us resonates this quality all the time. I too have definitely over-ridden this quality to my great detriment and learning to come back to and honour it has been immensely healing. Bina’s example offers every woman the opportunity to re-connect to and honour this awesome quality within and to re-claim our real power.

        1. Rowena, as I read your beautiful comment I had a strong flash and deepening about the connection between our uterus and the way we are living. I could suddenly feel how disease is formed in that area. Being aware of our whole body (intentionally including the uterus), and the richness of being this brings to our approach to life, is monumental. This is what I am currently practising – to not ignore the body and but to live in my body with an awareness of my uterus and the amazing warmth and power that is there. There are spaces in the day where I am forgetting to feel it, but when I come back it is like a heater has been switched on, or a fire has been ignited. Why would I want to go away from this?
           Thank you for your comment, as it has reminded me to keep staying with this presence. Beautiful!

460. You told your story with such gutsy honesty, humour and grace. Thank you. It is an important story to tell Bina because I am thinking that there are many women (and men) who could identify with your story. I know for sure I can…..I drove my body pretty hard thinking also it was weak to be slow, to only do one thing etc…. – I prided myself on being the strong capable woman and inside my body was also saying STOP!

     Over the past few years I have started to listen to it more and more and starting to go from self-loathing to self-love. Some days are definitely better than others as I learn to stop overriding the ‘compass’ (as you so gorgeously described) and start tuning in. But on the days/weeks that I may override, I remember what it felt like to do that for months/years and that is enough to make me stop and remember to do something loving for myself.

     1. Thank You Sarah for making some great points here about driving the body hard and thinking it is weak to be slow. I recently had a ‘ding dong’ moment which for me is a revelation.
        I realised that the busy doing doing multi task super woman was to show the world I was strong and had the ability to keep going and that way I would be recognised. I needed that recognition more than anything.
        Underneath that was a deep feeling of not being enough. No matter what I do, how much I do, it was never enough. That never enough was my self loathing, because what I have learnt – thanks to Serge Benhayon – is that I am enough and today that is my start point. What I do is the bonus. All I need to do is be the real me and that is enough.

461. Thank you Bina for your amazing blog. I particularly enjoyed your emphasis on how stillness was the turning point for you and how finding that stillness has allowed you to connect back to being.

462. Wow, what a story. Afterwards it must seem really mad to live such a stressful life, what for? How wonderful is your life now, with the love and stillness that you have as the true woman.

463. Thank you for sharing your amazing story, so openly and honestly Bina. It is a timely reminder of the importance of listening to and applying the wisdom of our bodies.

464. Wow Bina, the depth of openness shared here is indeed, a healing. Exquisite to read such a refreshingly, truly honest exposition, raising significant aspects. This standout sentence …’I really loved the drama and the stress it brought, which distracted me from just surrendering and listening to my body.and feeling the truth of what was there to be felt… brings much to light, thank you

     1. Have to say Jacky I did not like to admit to the world that I loved the drama and the stress. It sounds so awful but it was the Truth.
        My ugly choices got me in that state and now my new wise choices, thanks to the wisdom presented by Serge Benhayon has got me where I am today and it really is amazing to live this way.

465. Beautiful Bina, I can really relate to a lot of what you have written here in terms of drive and getting things done, ‘What was really hard was learning how to stop during every single day and take time out to rest or just take a walk with me.’ I find it hard to take moments to stop and rest or walk as there seems to be so much to do, so it’s great to have a reminder of how important these moments are.

466. Thank you for this blog Bina. I appreciate your honesty and clarity of expression that you’ve presented here. As women we certainly have been far removed from feeling and connecting with who we truly are…Its a blessing and healing that more women are now choosing to return to true connection with themselves and their bodies. As we know this can truly inspire others to do the same when ready…

     1. Absolutly Rachel as women we have been far removed from living who we truly are and is it is truly beautiful to feel this is now changing as many are starting to choose to connect with ourselves and our bodies . Inspirational ,Thank you Bina for your honest sharing.

467. ‘Stillness for me was a word to describe lazy people, who were boring and laid back and could not multi-task. I was not one of them or even contemplating ever becoming a still woman. Yet I felt a tension in my body and that was felt as physical pain – the internal fight between who I was and what I chose to do. I was fighting a natural inner stillness, that is who I am as a woman, and over-riding it with motion. I was racing around doing three jobs and lots of commuting, adding to the non-stop doing, and nothing could stop me.’

     Thank you so much for writing this, because even though I have already had my body shout and scream and stop me in my tracks, I feel as if in some ways I have fallen straight back into this old pattern. I can feel the tension, yet I still override what I know and go into the motion and busyness to avoid feeling the stillness and how awesome it is to be a woman in my stillness.

     1. To stop and be still and arrest that internal fight is huge, but is necessary for all of us. We all know that we need to rest but may only give ourselves permission through holidays or at weekends. Being in stillness is a way to rest internally and does not mean we have to be lying down! Fibroids are so common and yet the cause is unknown. Bina writing this blog is groundbreaking in that the cause is simply a lack of stillness in a woman’s body.

        1. This is a great point you make here Shevon. I too used to think ‘stillness’ was about sitting down and doing nothing. I have come to realise its an internal state of being that can be held even when I’m very busy.

        2. You are right Shevon – fibroids are so common and the cause is unknown. So could it be possible that Serge Benhayon does know what he is talking about and this is the missing link? The conventional medicine world definitely have a huge part to play but what Serge Benhayon is giving us is another angle, which gave me the root of why it happened in the first place. I know women who have developed stillness in their body and no longer have painful periods or other issues related in the downstairs female department.

     2. I know what you are saying Rosie about our body falling straight back into this old pattern. The doing doing is the dominant force and it takes time and practice which I call Commitment. Once we choose to commit to stopping every day not with any agenda but just to Be with our body fully and re-connect back, things start to change. I had to learn and to start with I needed an alarm clock and big notes on the stairs, dining table, on the wall – all to remind me to take a nap or go for a walk. This was my practical way of not letting that dominant force take over and run my body.

        1. Bina I love your blog and also your advice – you call it – commitment. My feeling is that this is something what we sometimes miss a deeper decision for ourself.

        2. Bina, I love the practicality of the steps you took to develop commitment. Sometimes we can just expect that things will just happen, but really the basic steps of reminders and notes to self are what sets the foundation and the movement in the right direction.

        3. Wow what you share here is amazing Bina as you recognise that these are not changes that we can necessarily change over night to see instant results with, it takes commitment. Your example is a great way of showing us the lengths we may need to go to to remind ourselves to stop.

     3. This is a great sharing Rosie and the temptation to go into too much motion when doing jobs is one to work on when you have a strong momentum, I can very much relate here and continue to develop my own stillness which naturally inspires others.

     4. Rosie, I can relate to what you share as it is so easy to fall back into an old pattern and momentum of busyness. It really is about bringinng that commitment to self and working on the stillness to make it part of the normal daily rhythm.

     5. I can really relate with what you have shared.The past few weeks I have been constantly doing but not nuturing myself. I have had a pain in my body but kept overriding this .. until yesterday when I had to stop and be honest in how I have been living and what my body was sharing with me. That I wasn’t looking after myself. There is no point in ‘doing’ anything if we are not looking after ourselves. It is possible to look after ourselves and from there complete everything that needs doing.

        This article shows the consequences of what happens if we don’t care, listen to and nurture ourselves; and that there is another way to be … It is just a choice.

        1. Thank you for your honest sharing vickylcooke – there is no point in doing anything if we are not looking after ourselves I agree. That looking after ourselves can simply be finding ways to stay connected with that internal stillness.

        2. Great what you say here Vicky – “there is no point in the doing if we are not looking after ourselves”. Taking looking after ourself a bit deeper, I use the
           word ‘Quality’ in my ‘doing’.
           What quality am I cleaning the sink in every evening?
           What quality am I putting myself to bed in?
           What quality has gone into my cooking which will support me to do my job?
           To start with it was all about getting through the lists and ‘ticking boxes’.
           Standing every day cleaning a sink was really boring, so I changed it by cleaning my sink in Appreciation for how that sink supports me. I focused and paid attention so my mind was on the job and not elsewhere. I love the feeling it brings and the next morning smelling the stillness, so that to me is the quality. Quality develops that stillness, so it is in everything including the kitchen sink. I hope this makes sense.

468. There was definitely a time when I did not think of my body as me and lived a completely arrogant life as far as self care went. It also took me a while to understand that caring for myself first was good for everyone. In some ways there is still a pull to override my feelings when I get too involved with busy things. Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon have shown us so much by example and inspiration. Thank you Bina and thank you Universal Medicine.

     1. Very true Amanda, the tendency to put self last is very easy to slip into when life gets busy. The examples shown us by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine certainly offer us solid ways to ensure we self love as we go, putting ourselves on the list of ‘To Do’s’ as well. Bina is a beautiful living example of the amazing changes we can make when we when we truly choose to stop, feel and connect.

     2. “I did not think of my body as me”
        What a great point you make Amanda and this is exactly why we get sick. We think our body is not part of us and that detachment stops us feeling what is really going on.
        The pull to override our feeling continues until the pull to make self loving, self caring choices becomes stronger.
        Where I am at today, it is actually very hard to continue overriding as my body is so loud and clear that I just cannot ignore it and neither do I want to.
        You can’t do this overnight or expect changes. It is a choice in every moment that makes the body number one and nothing, absolutely nothing can be more important than that. You can never go wrong if you use your body as a compass to direct you, guide you and confirm to you what is true and what is not.

469. Wow, Bina, your commitment to complete honesty and self-responsibility here is really felt. I too can relate to that feeling of overriding the body and what it is saying as it is an ‘inconvenience’ to listen to that niggle or tiredness telling me to slow down, and just simply be. I too have found the support from Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon in connecting to my body, feeling what my body is telling me and then committing to actually listening to it, invaluable. Thank you, as I am sure this is something many women can relate to.

470. It never ever ceases to amaze me how we put ourselves through so much pushing and drive to meet ideals and belief set up by a society that has no regard for the heart or soul.

471. I love the ‘looking after every body else’ in your comment MaryLouise I never realized what a beautiful word everybody is. It is about our own body first before we look after every other body. I agree Bina connecting to our inner stillness is life changing. The Gentle Breath Meditation from Serge Benhayon was the first meditation that brought me back to this connection.

472. Remarkably inspiring how you started far into ill health and not caring for your body, yet now you experience stillness, feel amazing, love yourself deeply and would never choose to harm your body again. This shows that it is never too late, all it takes to choose to stop the old way and begin to live a more loving one. And you have provided some great tips for a start.

473. Bina thank you for sharing so openly and lightheartedly. I used to be the same, I kept going never stopping even though my body was always giving me clear and strong signs that all was not right. The way I reacted to those signs was seeing my body as the enemy that needed to be conquered or defeated in order to keep going. Whenever my body stopped me I would be highly frustrated that ‘it’ would not let me do what I wanted to.
     These days, after learning to connect with my body and listen to and respond lovingly to the signals my body is giving I understand that my body is actually my ally, always working towards harmony and wellbeing. It is my personal coach that will let me know immediately when i’m off track. What a different relationship that is!

     1. Love your words about your body being your personal coach. What a beautiful tender relationship to how we relate it.

474. Thank you for your honest sharing here Bina, I can relate to your story. I too was so caught up in ‘doing’ that when I was presented with the notion of ‘being’ it took me ages to fully grasp this concept. It is something I’m slowly beginning to develop yet with each unfoldment I feel more myself than ever before, thanks to the teachings of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon.

475. Dear Bina, having met you just a little while ago, it’s hard to believe that you have been living the way you describe here. What a powerful and healthy woman you are now and so so deeply loving. For me you are a star from Heaven. You just inspired me to adjust my day and take a walk regularly. As simple as it sounds, that’s the step-by-step process. And you live it! Yeah!

     1. Great that you are inspired to adjust your day Felix and take a walk regularly.
        I have learnt from Serge Benhayon that ‘anything you repeat becomes your foundation’ – so walking with no agenda every single day supports my body. I also seem to feel lighter and clearer after a walk. So walking like going to bed early every day is repeated and therefore it is my foundation. Lock it in when something supports your foundation and it will support that stillness we all need in our crazy busy spinning world.

476. Wow – such a push that is revealed to us all as women – I can relate to the push and the treadmill, and thank goodness I can also relate to re-assessing and adjusting my life too increment my increment and making little changes to actually support me (diet and sleep to name a few). I too have massively ‘slowed down’ the treadmill effect, yet ironically get so much more done than I ever used to. The push or drive that I know that I can fall for is such a damaging thing for me and whenever that happens I can feel the unnatural tension and drain in me. I feel blessed to know that I now have choice – I don’t have to succumb to this drive, but rather I can be and do things in a completely different way, a way far more natural and respectful of my body. I know I am not perfect with this, but I do know that I have made massive changes to how I am and this already feels amazing…and knowing I can make even more of these changes is awesome.

477. I agree Golnaz, Binna’s blog is the perfect example of how important it is to listen to our bodies and to not override what we are feeling. As women we are often so busy looking after every body else or making sure we accomplish the list of things that we think we need to get done right now that we do not give ourselves the time to listen, feel what it is we need to support ourselves and then follow through with a self loving action. Loved your blog Bina, so inspiring and humorous.
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478. This blog is so open and honest and powerful in what you share Bina. This is true for so many women. You have really highlighted the importance of listening to our bodies as women and looking at the way we are living. Thanks.

479. Thank you Bina for revealing how ‘soldiering on’ is a clear display of love-less-ness and that if we do not listen to the subtle body messages it will turn into a very ‘loud’ distress signal. Prevention is better than the cure and developing love for the self is a good place to start.

480. Bina thank you for your blog, I saw myself in there over riding and disregard, loathing my body and then slowly through self love my world has changed and will continue to change into greater and greater expressions of love. This path I now am on amazing thanks to Universal Medicine – bringing back the self love.

481. What a beautiful honest inspiring sharing thank you Bina.The honouring of yourself as a women and the strength and beauty you are shines out with this stillness from within with your dedication to yourself and life.

     1. And thank you too Tricia for sharing your joy – it was really felt.

482. Thank you for your honest and very inspiring blog Bina. I loved the line “Allowing myself to feel & using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me come back to me”. This is very powerful and something I’ve been working on lately by listening more to my body.Its the consistency of doing this every day that really makes the difference.

     1. Thanks Sue and our body is a powerfull compass. That compass never gets it wrong and my head, that likes to take charge at times, does harm me and this is a forever learning thing for me.
        My body is loud and clear and when I can’t be bothered to listen to it something happens. Before you know it, I bump my elbow or drop something and then I say out loud “OK, get back”. Talking to myself and instructing myself to get back on track and calling out by way of nominating anything I felt but did not express really helps me. It’s like I give myself permission to play back what happened and deal with it and it’s gone. I don’t walk around with it or feel heavy, as it’s no longer there.

483. Hi Bina, as your husband I can vouch for your constant ‘doing’ and motion in the past just as I can now vouch for your dedication in loving and caring for yourself. Over the years you have made some awesome changes and have built an amazing quality of stillness in your body. Your commitment in not only supporting, nurturing and loving yourself, but others too, has greatly inspired myself and many more people.

     1. Beautiful heartfelt words Tim, from a beautiful man.

484. Thank you Bina. The fact that your body was shouting loudly and clearly for years and despite the initial resistance to that, in turning your life around you have shown what is possible when we are open to making changes and to truly paying attention to the messages our bodies give us. It is inspiring to feel and and know how different your life is now – that stillness is the foundation from which you live from and is possible for everyone to live from also.

485. I love the way you share your journey so openly and honestly Bina an inspiration to us all

486. Our bodies speak to us so loudly it is amazing how we do not choose to hear what it has to say, and that we wait until irregular periods become endometriosis, cysts and fibroids before we stop and listen. I too have choosen to ignore these signs in the past and feel on occasions I still do. Your blog is a welcome reminder to stay connected to my body at all times. Thank you Bina

487. Wow Bina this is so simple and so deeply true. I love the realness with which you write it is so relatable and such a healing to read.

488. I really enjoyed reading your blog Bina. I loved your analogy of the spinning top, I can so relate to your words. Living with that internal momentum and not being able to stop is such a draining and exhausting way to live each day. Unfortunately though, the effect of this way of living accumulates in our body. How can it not? What can be challenging to accept however, is the fact that healing our body and being of how we have lived in the past does not happen overnight. Where we are standing today is an accumulation of how we have lived all our yesterdays. So as much as we would love for that accumulation to be shifted and cleared immediately, it has to first unwind and unfold as we live each day in every choice that we make. But that commitment is worth it, simply because we are worth it.

489. What a wonderful teaching you have presented for us all here Bina. As you say the energy of stillness is within us all naturally yet how many of us actually allow ourselves to feel it and be with it. What I had to learn and am still learning is that even though I may not be running around doing a million things at once any more, if I am not present with what I am doing right here and now then I am still in the energy of motion.

     1. I agree, Elizabeth. We can kid ourselves by thinking that we are being gentle with ourselves, but on the inside we are still zooming round a racetrack! I have found that there are different stages of letting go of the nervous tension and motion, so that we can connect to the stillness that has been inside all along.

        1. So true Janet. Great comment! There are many stages in letting go of nervous tension and motion so that we can connect to our inner stillness. What once felt like a pretty good place, at a later point can feel quite tense compared to the new marker of stillness depth. As I write I can feel this beautiful sense of our brotherhood as we all unite in the pool of moving stillness

     2. So true Elizabeth. We can be thinking about yesterday or planning tomorrow and stopping ourselves from being in the present moment. This, as you point, out is still motion. The motion is going on in our heads if not our body.

     3. Good point Elizabeth and one that I can definitely relate to. It’s a lot less than it used to be but there are still occasions when I leave myself for the fantasy world and from there it’s quite easy to get back into the motion of ‘doing’, but in saying that, I notice a lot quicker when I have checked out and am in motion now, so it is much easier to come back to myself.

     4. Thank you Elizabeth – comment has inspired me, that this blog and all the comments have a thread that weaves it all and the word is Stillness. There is no fast track to stillness or some technique you can master. It is a way of living that requires dedication, commitment and devotion to deeply love and take care of yourself so that you do not abuse your body in anyway.
        It takes time and practice and it just happens. Our bodies are waiting for us to plug in and connect to it as it can and will help us in each moment of our lives, no matter what.
        Just to make it clear for any reader – what my take is that to not abuse the body, is to say NO to anything that feels harmful. It can be something small like I did yesterday – asking someone not to squeeze hard when shaking my hand. They got it and we done a “take 2” and they loved the fact I shared that.
        What’s funny is the old me would not even have noticed that as I was so checked out and dis-connected from my body.

490. I relate to every word you have said Bina. Your blog is especially poignant for me as my body is sending me the same very clear message, although the physical manifestation is slightly different. The “Stop” looks different for everyone, and will have its own unique condition or malady depending on the way we have treated ourselves. However the reason that we need the stop boils down to the same thing – we fight, resist and deny who we truly are. That constant struggle is something our bodies will only tolerate for so long before they say “no more”.
     We can ignore it and carry on, business as usual. Or as you have so beautifully portrayed, we can heed the lesson, and re-acquaint ourselves with the stillness inside.

491. Your life is an amazing story Bina.

492. Thankyou Bina , Wow what a great transformation you have made for yourself .

493. Very inspiring Bina. Thanks for sharing so honest and to the point. It is indeed a step by step process to go from the doing energy to the stillness. Work in progress here.

494. Thank you for your honesty and for sharing this inspiring story. It is great to read that change is truly possible and that we can stop the momentum of being too busy and enjoy coming back to the true stillness of who we really are.

495. So true Jane – our body is pure gold and our best friend.
     It takes a lot to write about something so personal on the internet but I know my story can and will inspire others including men.
     My top tip for anyone who maybe reading this is – take note of any small sign your body gives you, that you know and can feel is not right. Take action, get yourself to the GP.
     Then if you genuinely want to get an understanding about what it could be or why, check out Universal Medicine as that man Serge Benhayon is the real deal and has plenty of answers for us ALL.

496. Thank you Bina, what a deeply healing and powerful article. The turn around you made is profound and so inspiring. I relate to using all sorts of ways to keep going and not listen to my body. Loving and taking care of myself, inspired by Serge Benhayon, is bringing me to my stillness and with this long term health problems are resolving.

497. Very inspiring article and a great reminder of the importance of finding moments in the day to stop- be still and listen to our body; otherwise if we continue to be in motion- trying to be “superwomen’ we will eventually be forced to stop. – I can relate to this and I’m sure so can many others.
     I recall my father calling my mother lazy if he saw her sitting down to rest. I now can see where I learnt to be in constant motion from.

498. Bina, I really enjoyed your honesty and openness here. It felt as if we were sitting on the couch together with a cup of tea, discussing life as old friends. I felt your warmth and a deep love and understanding that has come from your experience. I could really relate to the ‘internal’ motion you spoke of. I know that feeling all to well. It comes loud inside me like a racing pulse and I know this is when I need to stop, connect, find my breath and begin again. It is wonderful how our bodies communicate to us, and even more so when we choose to listen.

499. Beautiful blog Bina. How often do we ignore the obvious signs from our bodies that are right in front of our noses? I can relate to getting caught up in the doing life and identifying myself with what I do rather than staying in touch with who I truly am. That tension is always there as you say and it pays to be aware of it.

     1. Thanks Andrew – you reminded me that this blog applies to men equally. I thought women were masters in the doing doing keeping busy but men are the same and you just confirmed it.
        We all need a balance inside our body and what seems to be missing is the stillness. There is nothing that I know of where kids are taught from a young age, simple and practical tools to develop this innate stillness. How much money would that save our health systems in the future- Hello is this a wake up call for the world?

500. A great sharing Bina. Thank you. Its so easy to ignore what our body is saying and override the impulse to stop believing that what we do is so much more important than how we feel. By not stopping you have shared just how serious our health can be damaged, but by reconnecting to our innate stillness how this brings healing.

501. I love your honesty about being resistant to the stillness, and that you thought this was boring! I’m sure this is the case for a great deal of women. It’s amazing what can happen when we actually surrender to our natural stillness. Your story is incredibly inspiring, thank you.

502. Thank you Bina. I can really relate to this blog. Sometimes I can find myself just spinning out with all the work and jobs and doing that needs to be done. And in this time it feels like who I am has been completely brushed away, as insignificant and unimportant. And then I am always amazed at how just with a few simple practises, like taking care with my bed time routine, or stopping to take a rest in the day, even if it is just for 10 minutes really can make all the difference in bringing me back to who I truly am.
     You are so spot on about coming back to stillness.

503. ‘The biggest tip I could give any woman, any age, who knows something is not right in the woman department is to first go and get it checked out with your GP and then consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue.’
     Great advice, and can soo easily be broadened to all of humanity re any part of our bodies that does not feel harmonious.

504. “Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live really helped me to come back to me.” This rings so true for me too, Bina. There is such depth in these seemingly simple words. Thank you for sharing; the gentle tenderness in which you did so is amazing to feel.

505. This is great Bina, Us Women and our bodies are so very delicate and in need of nurturing and care and this is one area we tend to override so others or to do the right thing. However nothing is more powerful then honouring our bodies and how they truly wish to operate.

     1. Recognising that we need to nurture ourselves is a major step, rather than driving ourselves based on what we think we ought to be in society, at the expense of our delicate bodies.

506. Wow Bina I love hearing how you returned to stillness and back to the beautiful inspiring lady that your are today. Your article ended on such an important tip for all women “any woman, any age, who knows something is not right in the woman department is to first go and get it checked out with your GP and then consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue.”

507. Great blog Bina. It shows the consciences of driving ourselves and ignoring what our body is telling us that often has a dire impact on us. Your blog is a great read about how we can come out the other side of self caused illness from chooses by how we live and care for ourselves.

508. What an inspiring blog Bina. I can relate to how it can be so hard to stop and take a moment of stillness with yourself. My body was giving me signs too, I did not have my period for over a year and only recently I realised how I was not seeing this as something abnormal, I was ignoring it and just accepted it as the way it was without looking at what my body really was telling me. After realising all that I started to feel what was going on for me and that was that I was not embracing myself in full as the beautiful woman I am, and I did that by not really stopping and feeling my stillness and beauty.. With taking little moments with myself, connecting with how beautiful and womanly I was lots started to change. Also with the support of the Our Cycles app. Not long after that I got my period again, no coincidence!

     1. Wow thank you for this Lieke. A beautiful sharing. I felt a lot of what you said resonates with me. My period has not stopped but your words have allowed me to feel how I don’t allow myself to connect to and embrace the beautiful woman I am. Thank you for this.

509. Thank you Bina you are one of the truly amazing people who I know and admire. All Universal Medicine presentations bring us to a greater stillness, so like you the place in my heart that is my inner-most was touched by Serge Benhayon which started me bringing more stillness to my life.
     Walking with self is such a new found joy, that brings a stillness to the rest of my day.

510. How awesome that you turned your life around. Very honest and inspiring sharing.

511. Great post Bina. Thank you for your openness. This is a good wake up call to everyone. I would not be surprised if everyone at some time in their life felt their body trying to tell them something only to be ignored. I know I have. If I ignore it long enough it will go away. The body has an amazing way of letting us know when something is not right, but it’s up to us to listen and acknowledge the signs.

512. Bina, I was feeling exhausted after the first few paragraphs. The constant motion and the perception of seeing your body’s conditions as a “gross inconvenience” was only ever heading in one direction. It is incredible to feel that you now understand the balance stillness brings. It is amazing how, with some very simple shifts, of making time for you and adjusting your sleep patterns, life began to turn around for you. As I have also experienced, listening to Serge Benhayon certainly pays off.

513. Bina, thank you. What you share is so profound for women who can’t stop. Our body does speak loudly and it is hard to believe that we could create an ill in our own bodies when we are in the middle of this ‘raciness’ but taking an experience of stopping helps you realise how tough and hard you have to make your body to ‘do’ all of that raciness. It is such a profound lesson. I am right there with you!

514. Wow Bina – such an inspiring sharing – so powerful especially from knowing you from years ago and how driven and hard you were on yourself to be transformed in yourself and your health from total self-loathing to deep self loving. You are living truth and evidence that there is another way to live that supports and honours the deep love and stillness in us all. That it’s just the simple little steps of more self care and self love that helps us return to our natural vitality, well-being and love of life.

515. You can’t turn back the clock but sharing your story with the many women who also live as you did is a real gift. I loved that you named how we really don’t know how to be still and how crazy this might sound when we are living the doing life. Articles like this support us to be aware that our body is trying to tell us something and that starting to question how we are living is a great first step. It really shows that no matter how busy we have made our lives, we can always come back to our natural stillness.

     1. Thank You Fiona, I never realised that writing my story would be a gift but having read all the comments so far, I am blown away that sharing what really did happen can inspire others.
        It is like I am flagging a sign on the road saying ‘No this is not the way, try this way as it works’. How do I know? – because I have been on that ugly doing doing motion road, going in the wrong direction and leading to harm. There is another road called ‘Natural Stillness’ and the practical, simple tools are the bridge that will get you on track and keep you there.

516. Bina, you are speaking here for us all. Thank you. Even if one doesn’t have any physical symptoms yet appearing, in the uterus, we have largely been living this life of doing doing doing and ignoring our precious body, dragging it along behind us as a kind
     of nuisance.
     Once you begin to experience the stillness within and the warmth and true power that this brings it is clear that the old way of carrying on is true madness, and is what has led us as a gender to give away our true power and so lead the world astray.
     Thank you for this honest blog – a great reminder for me to keep connecting and present today.

     1. It sounds awful but it is so true what you say Lyndy about dragging our body along behind us as a kind of nuisance.
        Yes the old way is true madness now that I am on the other side but whilst I was deeply in the doing doing with no one around me showing me or saying there is another way to live, I was blind and lost. Things only started to change once a friend suggested I attend a Serge Benhayon presentation.

517. A great piece of writing Bina. Profound, honest and practical in that it reminds us all not to override our bodies and what they are telling us.

518. Wow amazing Bina. Thank you for sharing your story. A true testament that looking after our body and treating it with the love and deep care it deserves can completely transform our health. These are simple loving choices made daily as you have described- connecting to how our body feels, going to bed early, connecting to stillness , these may seem small and inconsequential but they are hugely powerful tools that truly transform our health and daily living.

519. An inspiring blog which I feel many will be able to relate to with the constant doing and busyness. Also how often do we have symptoms and ignore them hoping they will just go away? “Yes I had endometriosis, cysts and fibroids but that never stopped me doing anything. These were all big fat signs to tell me something was clearly not right about the way I was living. At that time I did not know how to take care of myself, and I did not have a drop of self-love.” Serge Benhayon has been a very important and inspiring teacher in my life as well as many others, showing there is a different and more loving way to live, and exposing how have been living does not truly support us or our bodies.

520. Thank you for sharing with all of us how important it is to listen to our body and to be in stillness. I can relate to what you’ve written from my own experience of trying to do too much and not allowing time to reflect, to be in stillness and self care. Your blog is inspirational and a great reminder to stay connected to our body all of the time and to listen to the messages it is constantly communicating to us.

521. What a profound and powerful example of the importance of listening to the messages from our body, paying attention to what is revealed and taking care of ourself deeply. Inspiring to read about the changes you have made in your life through your dedication.

522. The beauty, honesty and clarity here expressed, Bina, is phenomenal – thank you. Even when you write about how you did not take care of your body previously, I can feel the love that you are now, because of the way you have chosen to live.

     1. I doubt I could ever have written about this awful time in my life had I not made the choice to deeply love myself – thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon.
        What would I have to say other than be a victim and a statistic. What this blog offers is real life experience which is saying –
        YES we ignore our body and this could happen BUT if we make changes, we can get to the root of WHY and then truly HEAL and LIVE in a way that no longer harms us.
        There is a big fat chance now that I will not be heading for the operating theatre, simply because my choices are no longer loveless. It’s been over 6 years and I have not even needed to go to the GP apart from routine checks. That really is incredible if you knew my past medical history.

523. What a beautifully honest sharing. It is all about choices – choosing to be ‘super-women’ or choosing to be still, choosing to live in disregard & ignore out bodies, or choosing to adjust our sleep and cook nourishing meals for ourselves. Your blog is an inspiration to us all because of the choices you have made to honour you and the stillness that is within.

524. The changes you have made Bina are amazing and super inspiring. I love how simple and practical you keep things.

525. I love your blog Bina, you honestly expose those extremes you laid bare almost as if you were a soldier suffering for woman kind in order to make your way in the world. I can so relate to this in my life even though my body would hurt if I would push through, mind you I always felt that there was something not right in the way I moved and also how my physical body moved that I would constantly be bruised and knocked some days more than others.
     It was only through Serge and the Universal Medicine team did I get to reflect on the true wisdom I knew deep down in my body was true.
     I only had to live it! and only through the stillness to feel me!
     I am sure many women and men can relate to your experience. And thank you so much for sharing how you have turned your life around …you are an inspiration

526. How many wake-up calls come our way in a lifetime, bigger and smaller?
     They keep coming bigger and bigger as a way to stop what you describe as an out-of-control momentum.

     Your advice comes from a depth of wisdom from your own experience – to not delay on both accounts, seeing the doctor and getting check out when you know you need to do this as well as seriously stopping and assessing from every angle the way you are living. What amazing advice.

     Thank you, a very inspirational read.

527. It is interesting the way the body reacts when what we are living is not right for it. Thank you Bina for showing another way to live which is more harmonious and loving for the body.

528. The way you deliver your experience is diamond. Practical, no nonsense.

     I deeply appreciate it.

529. Thank you, Bina. You are a living miracle. I hope women everywhere have access to this story – of how you were forced to stop and face the harm you were doing to your body by refusing to be in your natural stillness, and then completely turned things around to become the super loving woman you are today.

530. Bina I really enjoyed this blog. I got a clear sense of the motion and constant activity that you spoke of, and totally relate to that, but also could sense from your blog the profound difference between that way of living, and the simplicity and stillness that you now know, and also wrote about. Your words, ‘I was fighting a natural inner stillness, that is who I am as a woman, and over-riding it with motion’ really struck home, and made so much sense. Gosh, I know that fight, and your blog has helped me see that at times I have been struggling or fighting for the stillness, when in fact if I stop the fight and struggle, it is naturally there.

     1. Thanks for this great point you make here Catherine about fighting the natural inner stillness. It was the fight in me that caused the pain. Never feeling enough came from my own lack of connection with my body and I spent my life in a ‘fight’ doing more and more and spinning around going nowhere. Stopping and resting was not something that I thought would work but it does and it is now a part of my daily simple living. Taking moments of stop during my day allows me to come back to me and feel if I have motion in my body. It gives me a sense of balance and steadiness to do what is needed but feeling enough at the same time.

531. I’m sure so many women can relate to this, I certainly can. It is quite amazing how different your life becomes when you start to listen to and look after your body.

532. Wow Bina thank you for your honesty. I love that you have accepted you cannot turn back the clock and now make every day about caring deeply for your body. I have found when I deeply care for my body there is so much wisdom there. This wisdom that comes from my connection and willingness to listen to my body is amazing and better than any self help book I have ever read.

533. I can relate to that feeling of not being able to stop – bouncing from one thing to the next, always having something to do. Serge Benhayon, the work of Universal Medicine and The Way of The Livingness have also inspired me to discover a way to stop myself. At first it was just learning to physically stop, to be able to sit still with myself for a period of time and not need to be doing something. Then it was to be able to be still in that moment and not be thinking about what I should be doing or could be doing, or feeling guilty that I’m not doing everything that needs to be done. This all took time, and more recently I’ve been working on completely stopping still very deeply on the inside, because I realised that I can stop my body, and my mind so that it looks or seems like I’m doing nothing and I’m being still, but there can still be a moderate ‘buzz’ going on on the inside, almost like a small anxiety or a tension. Every day to the best of my ability I take time to sit with this tension, and I’ve come to realise that it’s actually the next level of stillness, a deeper level that I’m already going to or in. It’s not the next level of stillness that is the tension, it’s the need to change the way I’m living to meet this next level of stillness that is the tension. So now I’m beginning to develop a relationship with the tension, to bring it back to going deeper into stillness within myself.

     1. Wow, Danielle I love the way you write that “It’s not the next level of stillness that is the tension, it’s the need to change the way I’m living to meet this next level of stillness that is the tension.” I remember Serge presenting this in a workshop several years ago and the impression it made on me. I have felt this tension and know I will do so again. Now that you have reminded me of what that tension is I feel that I will move more graciously into my next level of stillness when the time comes. So simple and yet so profound.

534. I love how you say that all that happened in you body were signs for you to consider how you are living. How often do we ignore our bodies and get on with life. Thank you for the reminder of always checking in and allowing us to feel the stillness that is within.

535. I love your words Bina: “Allowing myself to feel and using my body as a compass to guide me how to live.” Our bodies are always giving us feedback, sometimes in advance of an action we are contemplating. Sometimes I feel anxious when I just think about some choice or other. We really all could save ourselves a lot of confusion and ills if we connected to our stillness and let our bodies guide us. Great blog thanks for sharing.

536. Absolutely gorgeous Bina — this blog is full of simplicity and wisdom and it is so beautiful to feel the claiming in you of the woman you truly are, a woman in her stillness, letting go of the ‘superwoman’ ideal that has its hold on so many women. Thank you for your honesty and sharing so openly.

537. Thank you for a great blog and for highlighting what a difference a good sleep routine makes. This is something that is easy to overlook but I know for myself how I wake up when i have this in place and how I wake up when I don’t. Like you I so appreciate “feeling me, not thinking i am superwoman and can multi-task and force things to happen.”

538. Thank you for this honest expose Bina that I also ran with for many years, hell bent on doing without taking into account what my body was telling me. Always looking for solutions so I could keep doing more. I wonder why we as a society have allowed ignoring our symptoms to become so common place? Knowing what I know now about the true intelligence of our body it just seems preposterous. How refreshing it is to look at the root cause, painful sometimes but far more responsible and healing.

539. oaaah So clear And to the point 👍thank You Bina xxx

540. It’s amazing how so many of us believe that it’s a good thing to be busy and a desirable skill to be endlessly multi-tasking. Your experiences blow these ideals out of the water Bina and hold great authority and inspiration, as you have been the super-doing woman and are now a gloriously super-being woman.

541. To know Bina now, as I do, and to read this story of how she used to live and regard herself is…hard to put words to…! I am wordless at first.

     Bina is a reflection of utter consistency in self care and love and a powerhouse of vitality lived from a great source of stillness and love. Bina, now, is in true service with a deep sense of purpose and has the Love in her body to carry it out in FULL.

     Seeing how much Bina had to let go, learn to trust, love & accept herself to move from that place where she “… did not have a drop of self-love” to where she is now, inspiring hundreds of people to deeply self care and heal themselves, from the living of her own Love is exactly the definition of a miracle; The miracle of “digging deep” to make a new choice from the heart, with only the gentle reflection of a man, in this case Serge, standing in and holding her in his own true light, to ignite this awaiting choice into action.

     Now I know I have no right to look at anyone who is in a very hard place and go into worry and doubt in their ability to choose their way back home and I know that learning to self love is the first step for me and for us all.

542. What a great honest sharing. I love:
     ‘Today I feel a real woman who does have an inner stillness, which feels amazing.’
     Bravo – and we all benefit!

543. This is a great article Bina, and goes to show how far we go to not feel what is going on. I too have often overridden many signs my body has shown. Even the simplest knock on the elbow as passing through a door, or a momentary touch of the boiling kettle….all are signs for us to enjoy, stop and take notice of. There is a stillness and presence open to us all, all of the time, these are just gentle reminders of what we are missing out on.

     1. I love the gentle reminders where our body warns us to take care of it. The odd bump, trip, ache are all small signs pointing to a need for stillness that we can choose. Bina’s article was inspiring. The body’s capacity for healing, when we really listen to it, is amazing.

544. Thankyou for sharing

545. Bina, I appreciated your willingness to be so honest about the way you treated your body and resisted ever stopping! I definitely can relate, as it was my own health issues that brought me to the stop I needed. I too am super grateful to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, as I can’t imagine where my body would have been at without learning to care for and love myself.

546. What really stands out to me from this blog is how it cannot be a coincidence that the choices you have made are reflected in your health. I can really relate to perceiving and relating to the bodies complaints via illness and disease as the cause of my problems when actually that is not the case. My body is not to blame because when I make choices that respond in kind to how the body feels I feel lighter and if I choose to go against what my body feels that choice brings to the body feelings of stress and dis-ease.

547. What an amazing turn around you must have made Bina. It is so easy to neglect self nurture and expect our bodies to just keep carrying us through life without breaking down in some area. Learning to love myself is an ongoing process but I am seeing changes as I do self nurture.

548. What a wonderful story you share Bina…it really is amazing how much self-abuse our body can put up with for so long, but as your story so clearly illustrates we don’t get away with anything…all of our choices inevitably show up in the body.

     There is a real blessing and healing on offer when we can learn and grow from illness & disease and this you have certainly done. The so called inconvenient forced stop, allowing you the opportunity to unfold and return to the true you…what joy!

     1. You are so right Marika – the truth is we do not get away with anything. Our body feels every single choice we make and you cannot change that fact. We then get signs and then more signs. The self abuse is an assault on our precious body but with little help out there showing you another way, you just accept it and bop along in life as I did ignoring it for 35 years and then when I got a tumour I was surprised. What is interesting is that even being forced to stop didn’t really work and it was after surgery when I burnt my hand and I literally could not move as the pain was unbearable that I did finally stop. Incredible that life sends you whispers and you don’t listen then it has to shout.

        1. Love this also – “life sends you whispers and if you don’t listen then it has to shout.” So true, and now my intention is to listen more deeply. However I can still override my body…… , but am improving my response. I used to think that my body didn’t really speak to me, but I was so numb that I didn’t actually feel its subtle messages, until I too got a tumour. Such an inspiring blog, thankyou Bina.

549. This is an inspiring article, by expressing and taking responsibility for how you have treated your body in the past and being willing to make self loving choices that will support your body from now on. By being willing to accept the advice from the Medical profession and the support from Universal Medicine practitioners, you too, Bina, are reflecting that there is another way of living.

550. Bina, it always amazes me how much emotional and physical pain we make ourself endure before we realise that the way we have been living is not harmonious. This is a powerful example you are sharing here with us, thank you.

     1. So true Maryline, we are experts at driving ourselves through the most tormented of situations rather than stopping and questioning the struggle and pain. Bina has shone a light on the craziness that we subscribe to and has also shown us that when we do decide to stop, truly stop, feel and listen then our bodies have a wealth of wisdom just sitting there to be tapped into. Stillness before action is clearly a very powerful way to live life and Bina has shared this with a great deal of honesty and humility. Bina is a powerful example of living, grounded stillness.

551. Thank you Bina for sharing the simple truths that have made such an impact on your health and well being – very inspiring!

552. Bina, what a super honest inspiring blog. I haven’t experienced the same extent of health issues that you did, but without question, can relate to the ‘always doing, keeping busy etc’. For me, the big thing was my digestion, feeling bloated, gassy, and putting on weight etc. which at the time I just considered ‘normal’ for me (and to be honest, compared to the rest of the population, I considered I was pretty healthy..). It was only when I too was introduced to the teachings of Universal Medicine and started to actually connect back to my body, did I realise I was totally exhausted and living in a state of constant nervous tension! As I slowly began to introduce more self-care into my life, and began to feel how certain foods actually felt in my body, how and when I slept, how I was in my relationships etc., things slowly began to change and without any conscious effort, my health and wellbeing began to improve. Now I’ve realised when I actually listen to my body, boy does it speak – loud and clear, and these days I’m a lot more willing to listen before it gets so loud that it’s shouting!!

553. I can totally relate to what you have shared here Bina, although my experiences have not been so extreme, allowing myself space to just stop and look after myself is an ongoing development. Thank you for making the space to write this.

     1. The space you talk about Abby is so important. The doing doing life is related to the time clock and creating space comes from the body clock.
        The space and stillness I can now feel in my body has allowed me to do more and I have never worked so much as I currently do and the thing is I am not exhausted or in drive and pushing myself and my body. In fact I cannot do the old way anymore. I get an instant sign, which is loud and clear if I am going off track like I will bump my elbow or drop something. That means stop, breathe, go for a walk and get back to your body Bina and start again. No more beating myself up for the mistakes, just move on..

        1. Bina, I love the deep simplicity you express with when you say that “The doing doing life is related to the time clock and creating space comes from the body clock.” Pure gold. And so very relevant to understanding the difference between living from the head/mind and living in rhythm with the body.

554. Bina, I LOVE your blog.
     I really get a sense of how you used to over-ride your body, ignoring how it felt, striving on regardless – as you say, ‘Saving the World’ – when your world was falling apart around you.
     How wonderful that you have taken the time to listen to your body and truly care for yourself so that we too can learn from your very real story and be inspired.
     Bina Patel – living stillness in action!

555. An amazing story that confirms how being loving and still with one’s body can bring so much joy to one’s life.

556. Bina, you have tackled some very serious women’s health issues here, and by sharing your personal experiences you have managed to shine a light on how this drive women get into is contributing to, if not causing, the many health issues we face today. You have truly turned your life around and re-discovered how looking after yourself far surpasses being so the called ‘super woman’ in life. A truly inspiring story for women.

557. Wow Bina, thank you for a wonderful article. It could not have come at a better time for me, as I am going through some health issues. One of several golden nuggets that stood out for me was ‘I really loved the drama and the stress it brought, which distracted me from just surrendering and listening to my body and feeling the truth of what was there to be felt.’ I can still feel the old momentum asking me to do things in my bid to seek solutions rather than simply stopping and connecting to my body and feeling. It is great to expose that even when our bodies stop us and ask us to feel, it is our choice to choose that and begin to truly heal or override it and continue in the momentum we were in.

558. Your message Bina is relevant for so many women. In conversations with other women I am often surprised by how many women have problems with their period every single month and simply believe this is something to put up with and don’t consult their GP. There is no doubt for me that how I live, such as my sleep patterns and what I eat throughout the month, influences if I have premenstrual bloating, tiredness or breast tenderness.

     1. You are so right Deanne that how we live during the month does influence our periods.
        I am also surprised at almost every woman I speak to who thinks painful heavy periods EVERY month, is just normal and do nothing about it. These are the signs that something is not right and it is up to us to ask why instead of ending up like I did.

559. Thank you Bina – your story has a profound message, not only for women, but indeed for men as well. You have also shown us the importance of not procrastinating or holding back on our own self care until the time when our bodies break down.

560. Bina, as I read your blog I recognised much of what you speak of in me, that constant need to be on the go, and leaving myself last. I too have been slowly shedding this, as I learn to be more still with me and appreciate and truly care for me – your practical tips are great, it really is those small things that matter, taking that 5 minutes to check in with ourselves daily, going for that walk. Thank you for lovingly sharing your experience, it’s a reminder that no matter where we’ve been we can stop, feel and listen to our bodies.

561. Such an amazing sharing here Bina – thank you. When you said “what was missing was the stillness” this rang a familiar tune to my own journey. The constant running around (in the doing mode) looking after everybody else causes such a busyness in the body and it takes a major physical/mental challenge to bring our attention back to ourselves, back to self love first and gentle steps towards our own healing. As you say “take a walk with me” a self loving prescription.

562. Thank you Bina for this beautifully honest article. So often I hear from people how they have ignored the signs their bodies are telling them, that things aren’t right. It’s like we have developed an expectation that things might go away if I ignore something for long enough. No matter what this is we know that it is not true. I love how this has now turned around for you, especially as you say…”I love myself deeply and would never choose to harm my body again – ever”

563. I love your open, simple and honest sharing, Bina. Isn’t it amazing how many signals our body can give us, how many flags it can wave without us wanting to notice, to stop and feel what is really going on? I found my body not working the way I wanted it and felt so annoyed and frustrated over it. I wanted to keep going and doing what I always did (or more). It took me some time to consider, accept and take responsibility that my way of living and the choices I made had something to do with how my body was. A great start to make self-loving choices and care for myself.

     1. Thank you Bina and here Monika too in stating “Isn’t it amazing how many signals our body can give us, how many flags it can wave without us wanting to notice, to stop and feel what is really going on?”
        “It really does not pay to ignore the signs when things are not feeling right with your body. How on earth did I think I was going to get away with 35 years of”…
        I can so relate to this – piling on more and more pressure and stress – living in fight or flight – until my adrenal glands totally gave out and for a while I could not lift my head off a pillow without fainting and had to take strong steroids just to get from bed to toilet! I FINALLY started listening to what my body had been telling me – and shouting alot at me for years, decades! Imagine if we didn’t wait for similar huge wake up calls and instead actually started to tune in and listen to all the seemingly subtle, but actually very clear communication and take ever deepening loving care with our dear bodies.

        1. The thing is Kate we do think we are getting away with it and in my case, even after 35 years of painful heavy periods every single month. That really is a long time and how on earth was I surprised when I ended up with a tumour that needed major surgery – Hello.
           Our body really does take the hits and the daily abuse. Then one day we get a sign and then more signs and then eventually the big fat “wake up call”. With modern medicine it is easy to ‘get fixed’ and deal with the symptoms. If no true change is made to look at and address why you got the illness or disease in the first place, it could mean you are going to have another wake up call at some point in the future.
           My second wake up call was a bit too quick – burning my hand badly whilst recovering from surgery. Why? because I was already in the doing doing mode pattern again and not really resting or making choices to take care of my body and develop stillness. I did not want to stop and take stock and be honest about how irresponsible I was choosing to live by ignoring my body.

564. Thank you for sharing the revelation that relates back to ancient teaching “If you don’t see the truth, truth will make you see it”. This wisdom is a constant reminder for us to be with our body first and then move. Stillness in rightly felt in this article.

565. It’s amazing what women can put up with, the amount of stress they can cope with and the amount of ‘things to do’ they can manage which is generally celebrated as a great skill to have. They also often seem to be able to cope with a lot of pain, I used to have periods so painful they would make me pass out and vomit, but I don’t remember thinking: Do I need to see my doctor about this? Your blog is a great reminder of how important it is to pay attention to the signs our bodies give us and to take responsibility by going the GP to get help and advice if needed. Giving myself a moment to stop and ask: What is going on? has a been a great start for me to get to know what stillness feels like, and although I still struggle with giving myself this every day, it has allowed me to feel a real beauty, grace and power in me, which is well worth honouring.

     1. This is so true Laura – how much are we willing to put up with? It seems at times like there is no limits to this – instead of there being no limits to how loving we can actually be.

        1. What a beautiful comment Shannon. To read ‘ … instead of there being no limits to how loving we can actually be …’ I felt my whole body open up and relax with the realisation that there is a vastness of love we can connect to, if we stop putting a cap on ourselves with all of the doing. I will certainly take this into my day.

        2. Beautifully said Shannon. Imagine if we allowed no limit to how loving we can actually become – what a difference that would make! I’m in – and my body is definitely thanking me as I learn from it – developing more and more loving ways as I go.

566. Thanks for sharing your amazing story Bina. So beautiful to hear a woman who was in constant motion, connect and live the precious stillness she is. To live in stillness and pass this on to others, is a blessing for all. For a man to feel stillness in a woman is gorgeous, and a reflection and opportunity to connect to and feel it in himself, a gift from heaven.

     1. Beautifully said Paul.

567. I honour your open sharing here Bina.
     So many women will have similar truths to tell of their ” wake up call “.
     I gave myself burn-out, then HAD to stop and re-evaluate my life.
     We who have “woken up” have the opportunity to wake humanity, to say:
     “It starts with stillness”.

     1. I like that wendyvera188 ‘we who have woken up’. I agree, there is a great opportunity here to wake humanity, but more so I feel there is an even greater responsibility for us to do that. Thanks to the presentations of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, we have been inspired to know that there is another way to live our lives, a way of ‘stillness’. Now that’s worth sharing.

        1. This site is dedicated to inspire others that there is most definitely another way to live, and Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine are leading the way and giving us all a “wake up call” which is long overdue and much needed right now.
           The truth is I doubt I would be alive today had I not come across the teachings of Serge Benhayon. Why? because I lacked the awareness and understanding of what was needed to change the ill patterns of living I had, that led to the tumour.

568. Loving ourselves can often feel like it is selfish and so difficult to action. Yet in eating well, paying attention to when we are tired and taking moments to stop, loving ourselves is actually very practical and not selfish at all, quite the opposite. It is great to read of your transformation Bina and I am sure there are many people who have found themselves in the same situation who will benefit from hearing your story. Your body was obviously speaking very loudly as our bodies do, being willing to listen and not override a pain or discomfort is a great way to stop the ill momentum which gives us a dis-ease.

569. Amazing blog Bina. Thank you for sharing your story.

570. This is an amazing blog and every word that you write is so true and is something I am coming to accept and unwind in myself also. At age 31 I was diagnosed with two 1-2 cm fibroids. At age 36 it is now 3. In my mind with the first diagnosis, I knew that something was wrong but as they were ‘small’ and doctors said: “This is nothing to worry about” – that suited me fine. Now five years later there is another one and serious period pains. I have also lived my life from my head and what I can do-do-do, but more and more my body is calling me to stop, take care and go at a different pace – to come back to that still place inside. I know that if I had not been introduced to Universal Medicine over the last five years, I would be in even worse shape with even more medical problems. The support that I have received from Universal Medicine to understand my body thus far is worth millions to me and with that I have healed from a long absence of periods to having regular periods. I now appreciate the support I receive from the medical profession and always find that when I am doing my part to address how I am living, (without saying anything) the medics I encounter go out of their way to provide the best service they possibly can. This pattern of do-do-do can be a hard one to break, but through a commitment to honouring and understanding our bodies every day, it is possible to break the cycle.

     1. Re-reading your comment Shevon, I would agree that the pattern of ‘do-do-do’ is hard to break and it requires a real solid commitment to saying No to the doing and making choices every day that no longer support that doing business.
        Our world is geared towards the doing thing and it supports us with the fast foods, fast this and that and keep on moving, no stopping. I see it everywhere in everyday.
        A classic example is two trains on each platform and the man on the speaker says the opposite train is going to leave ONE MINUTE before. The huge rush and pushing is crazy to just watch. I just choose to sit there on an empty train with just 60 seconds to wait and thats a small thing in my day that guarantees I do not go with the others on the ‘spinning’ trip which is just more motion in my body for no reason. In the past I was just following blindly where the mass was going without checking and feeling what would support my body.

571. Thank you Bina for sharing your story with so much honesty and insight.
     I certainly know this feeling of pushing on and keep going in the attempt to ignore what my body is telling and all the other signs around me.
     I know this strategy of avoiding the feeling of stillness inside. And even after so many years of support by Universal Medicine in this regard which has really made me aware of what is happening, that drive is still there as an underlying current, seemingly not effecting me too much but not allowing me to go truly deep within myself.
     You remind me how important it is to make the constant choice to stop the momentum until it ceases to exist.

572. Taking time for me has also been one of my great lessons this life!
     In getting to know me, really know me – not as the mother, the daughter, the sister, the worker, the friend & neighbour, but simply me the woman – was the key to freedom from the need to prove myself with what I do and thus from the need for validation.
     Through this freedom I get to feel what nurturing stillness truly is – it is the essence of me.

     1. Taking time out – thanks Helen for this comment.
        I felt a lot of guilt and would avoid at all costs telling anyone including my husband if I had a nap during the day.
        I really know how far I have come because I can actually tell my parents now that I did not pick up the phone as I was resting. That is something I could never ever do as I felt so judged.
        What is utterly amazing is both my elderly parents now choose to have a nap everyday and go for a walk. I did not open my big mouth but it seems they got it just by me living it everyday – consistently. That word Consistent really is important in my life. It is best friends with Commitment. Now thats what I call TRUE RESPONSIBILITY.

     2. Taking time out is something I’m working on at the moment too Helen 🙂

        1. Isn’t it crazy that we feel ‘judged’ for doing something for ourselves (that would never begrudge in another and maybe even applaud) – and often where there is no judgement aimed at us apart from the punishment we inflict upon ourselves …

573. Bina many people, myself included, can relate to the always doing and being busy. I recall when younger driving myself past the clear signs my body was telling me to stop. Checking emails whilst on a drip sounds familiar. Thank you for sharing and the importance of looking at the way we are doing things and what’s really going on.

574. Bina, I too had difficult periods; pain, heavy bleeding and emotional imbalance. I hated the way I would feel three weeks out of every four and felt trapped as a woman. It was the biggest relief when my periods stopped very early. I know now that the constant motion I was in and the lack of care and awareness of my body and myself as a woman were big contributing factors. Deep gratitude to Serge Benhayon and the Universal Medicine Team for helping me to come to this realisation and take steps to honour and embrace myself now more truly as a woman from the inside.

     1. I agree Barbara about the biggest relief when my periods stopped. Of course I had the drama story, so my grand finale was 11 weeks non stop bleeding which nearly killed me.
        A week after surgery, I no longer needed the giant size sanitary pads and that was weird. No more big fat knickers forever and life without a period, I thought I had won the lottery.
        It took me years to realise that I still get signs each month during my full moon cycle even though I do not have periods and I have had my uterus removed. Incredible really but it’s true.
        If I have a busy month where I have not adjusted my rhythm by paying attention to my body closely, then during the full moon cycle at the start, I will feel tender breasts or the odd period pain.
        How incredible is our body and what intelligence it has eh?

575. Bina fantastic blog – I totally agree that it pays to take notice of the symptoms our bodies provide us with. The change in the relationship I have with my body, from one of total ignorance and inconvenience to one of deepening care and respect has been revolutionary. I also can relate hugely to what you say about stillness and the challenge of stopping to actually find out what’s going on – also very much worth it.

576. Dear Bina, than you for your very honest post; showing the world that there can be another way. How being “strong” in the common sense can be so destructive.

577. Thank you for your honesty Bina, it is amazing how much our body speaks to us and tells us something is not right and we ignore it so that we can carry on abusing it. I could relate to always being busy, and being in perpetual motion and thinking that stopping or resting was just being lazy. I had no idea what being a woman was and had never heard of the word ‘stillness’ before I came to Universal Medicine. Your blog has clearly exposed what happens to us when we keep driving ourselves without stopping to listen to what our body has to say.

578. Awesome Bina! Great honest blog that is a real testament to yourself on how far you have come.

579. Superb article Bina and one I can truly relate to. Your advice is spot on, “The biggest tip I could give any woman, any age, who knows something is not right in the woman department is to first go and get it checked out with your GP and then consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue.” I too have suffered years of pain with every period and have been able to address and truly heal this by changing the way I live, loving myself and finding stillness within me too. It is very clear in your article just how driven you were and what the real impact of that drive had on your body and all fed by a real self loathing. The change in your approach to yourself is very tangible and demonstrates the power of connecting to our inner stillness, “which feels amazing and keeps me grounded.” Thank you for such a candid and enlightening post.

580. ” I hated it when someone told me to just: “Allow and be still”. What on earth did that mean or even look like or feel like?” I so resonate with this Bina. My life too has transformed since attending Universal Medicine presentations. Through making simple choices, my health and vitality have increased so much. And I now listen to my body’s messages to me, rather than just ‘getting on with the job’. “…..there is another way ­– and it starts with stillness.”

581. Your journey to loving yourself through stillness is a testimony of the truly life-enhancing benefits of having a deeper connection with our bodies and adopting a way of living that starts with self-care at the core of everything we do.

582. What an amazing article. too I can so relate to this. I too was diagnosed with endometriosis 2 years ago. It was not until I had surgery I started to realise how actually driven I was. I was the same – I thought stillness was for lazy people. Fast forward to the present day and I work on my stillness every day. It has not been easy and I have not mastered it in full, but I know I
     am on the right path. I too cannot turn back to the clock, but I know now at the age of 44 I can take care of my body without abusing it.
     Thank you for an inspiring article that the medical world would do well to read and take note.

583. Thank you Bina for sharing your amazing testament of the consequences of ‘doing’ rather than ‘being’. You are an incredible inspiration.

584. Bina you are such an inspiration – thank you for sharing your way, from constant externally driven motion to returning to inner stillness, through beginning to finally listen to your body (speaking very loudly!) and make different choices for yourself. Today, you are indeed a walking testimony of these choices – vibrant and open hearted for the world to enjoy.

585. Wow… inspirational blog. I love the line that you would never choose to harm your body again.. that is so massive after all the years of neglect. I relate, and am inspired

586. Wow, “there is another way and it starts with stillness”, that is gold, Bina. And what a turnaround it has been, thank you for sharing this amazing story of healing and truth.

587. Thank you Bina for your deeply inspiring honest and awesome blog. It made me realize how often we just continue continue continue and we just take our body for granted. Your story shows that we can not, ever, ignore our body because at some point, it just tells us to stop and there is no other choice than to stop. It seems more and more that so many people need this kind of full stop, because we think our body is just this ‘thing’ and we can do whatever we want with it. Why wait for the body to tell us to stop and not make this choice ourselves, like you do now?

     1. Correct Mariette – our body one day will stop and show us our choices as we cannot keep “continue continue continue” as you say.
        Why do we find it so easy to override our feelings and ignore and pretend nothing is wrong?
        Imagine bleeding for 11 weeks non stop and even with a blood transfusion in hospital, I was on a mobile phone.
        What mind does that? What was driving me?
        How crazy that even something as serious as that did not and could not stop me continuing on the ill road.
        If I was a nurse in hospital, I would be finding ways to STOP patients using mobiles during their stay. It is a convenient way to keep going internally as it distracts you and stops you feeling.
        If someone told me the benefits of looking after yourself as this blog does and ALL the comments I have chosen to make, I reckon there would have been enough inspiration for me to make changes. In my time, I never had anything like this or any role models who were truly living another way.
        ANYONE reading, take note – this blog site is dedicated to presenting there is another way. There is enough inspiration for a lifetime – thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

588. Thank you Bina for sharing this. It has been a revelation to me that every ‘problem’ I have with my body that I thought was something happening TO me is, in fact, a healing, with my body telling me how I have not been living in a way that truly cares and honours me. If I choose to ignore what my body is showing me then it finds another way to give me a louder message. It never gives up on me.

589. Thank Bina for an honest account of your life and health before a serious illness and after showing that is possible to make changes despite the severity of the condition the body presents. The part that stood out was “How on earth did I think I was going to get away with 35 years of ignoring my periods and expecting to be ok?” Looking back over the health issues I have had and then being diagnosed with Breast Cancer, in hindsight when I looked back it was not surprising given all the signs I had been given along the way, so why did I think ‘I can get way with it?’ I have found so many times with myself and I hear from others ‘how did that happen?’ or ‘where did you catch that from?’ Rather than ‘how have I been living and what choices have I been making to not care and be loving towards myself?’ This is where Serge Benhayon is a great support, as this is the question that is asked, and others. Even though at times they are uncomfortable and feel a challenge, it is this that supports the turnaround in health and well being, as responsibility has to be taken to allow for another way. Developing a relationship with my body and getting anything checked by the GP has been equally as important as considering my part in the health issues that have occurred. This blog is inspiring to pay attention to everything our body shows us – Thank you.

590. How you step by step started to stop the doing and lovingly care for yourself is so inspiring and feels beautiful. I love your honesty and can relate to this – “I hated it when someone told me to just: “Allow and be still”. What on earth did that mean or even look like or feel like?”… It felt so foreign to me as well, when I was in the constant doing and hype of being busy, I could never imagine ever living life another way without anxiousness and raciness… and my body was also showing me the constant motion, painful aching breasts and stabbing pains in my ovaries. Like you, slowly with very practical support and teachings from Universal Medicine, I used simple techniques to help me to start seeing myself, not from my doing or how much I could get done, but from feeling how absolutely precious I was without doing anything. Thank you Bina

     1. Thanks Aimee, you just reminded me that it was an amazing still woman who said to me “Allow and Be Still” and I knew she was the real deal giving me a top tip, but the reality was I had no clue how to DO that. I was still in the doing mode with absolutely no awareness of how on earth I was going to do this ‘allow and be still’ business.
        Surrender was another word that was suggested and this made me rage. I was raging because surrender sounded like I had to give ‘time’ to myself and that body of mine was really getting on my nerves as 8 painkillers in one go was not getting rid of the pain.
        Today I feel surrender as ‘Let go, Let God’ – get out of the way and drop deeper in your body Bina. There is nothing to do.

591. Hi Bina, I really like your honesty and openness of sharing how you have previously lived and not really taken care of yourself or your body. Being in the constant momentum of doing. I too can relate to this. Thank goodness for Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine practioners for showing us another way. How beautiful it is to feel the inner stillness as a woman and be an example to other woman just by being you. You are truly amazing.

592. That’s real responsibility: checking what’s going on in my body with me and a Western medicine doctor and checking what is going on in my living with me and a Universal Medicine practitioner. The healing always starts with me. And it’s on to me to take the best help I can get to heal: the Union of Western – and Universal – Medicine.

593. Thank you for sharing Bina. I can definitely relate with having lived my life being busy, always doing, always on the go. I too have learnt, and am still learning that being still feels beautiful and I am allowed to be still, in fact it is the only way I choose to be now, and to listen to and honour what my body is telling me.

594. This is a great example of the successful marriage of Esoteric and Conventional Medicine as supported by Serge Benhayon.

595. This as an awesome sharing about your turnaround Bina, and how you needed to be stopped by your body first. How intelligent the body is and how deeply healing, when you start to listen to its truth.

     1. A great point Kerstin – the body has its own intelligence and I first heard this from Serge Benhayon.
        Yes it all makes sense today but back then when I was racing around and could not see another way. There was nothing out there telling me, showing me or even presenting another way. I just ACCEPTED it and this is where the real harm is in our world. We just Accept what is going on in our body like heavy and painful periods and if we do not stop and question it and ask why, we just keep going until we eventually get the Big Stop like I did.

596. Deadly honest account, thank you.
     This is a clear view that will support a lot of people who experience similar factors in their lives of being ‘busy, on the go and super women’.
     To say hey … STOP… What are you really running with? And how is this affecting me and should, could and would I be able to change?

597. In the development of this article, Bina, you have said it all. From the racy beginnings with so much disregard and so much packed in, you have shared the wake up calls and invitations to surrender and then laid down the stillness. Thank you.

598. As much as you describe a situation many women are familiar with it is also a great reflection for men as well. The phenomena of being identified by what we do instead of feeling our bodies and who we truly are seems to be the normal lifestyle. Without a reflection or even a dramatic stop either by our body or by a living example such as yours most of us will not wake up and realize the harm we do to ourselves. Honesty to feel and admit what is really going on often is a bitter pill to swallow but then so liberating. You inspired me to deepen my awareness and stillness today and today and today.

     1. I agree Alex that this applies to men too as we all have this thing about being identified by what we do and not who we are. It is like ‘just being me is not enough’ and that doing is somehow going to fill that ‘not enough’ and of course it does not and never will.
        I like what you say that without a dramatic stop by our body, most people will not wake up and realise the harm we do by the doing doing way of life.
        ‘Stillness’ is a huge word and it requires my commitment and consistency to live as connected as I can to my body and honestly addressing anything that disturbs me in my day to day living. That way I know that the quality I go to sleep in is deepening that stillness and not taking me away from it.

599. Thank you Bina for sharing so honestly your journey towards embracing stillness as the foundation of your beingness. You describe so simply how we are living in this constant rush of doing the next thing, ignoring our bodies messages and calling it normal. I too learned to connect to my inner stillness and by surrendering into my body I feel like truly living with me and not of me anymore.

600. Thank you Bina, another great story that tells us so clearly that our body communicates with us and that we have to start listening to it. If we are going to take care four our body it will show us the way to live, a way that is so natural to our bodies. I am also learning this and when I deeply care for my body I can feel the joy and stillness that it caries within. In the past I could have never imagined that life could be that amazing as it feels to me now.

     1. Spot on: our bodies do indeed communicate with us and it’s important for us to listen and honour exactly how we are feeling.

601. Great that you started listening to your body, Bina, after those years of its signs to you. And now – now that you are working WITH your body and not in opposition to/against it, and now that stillness is part of your daily lived way – what a powerhouse you are, and what truly amazing work you are able to do! Keep inspiring the world, Bina.

602. A great article Bina and one that applies equally to men as there is as much stillness within men as there is within women. So often we ignore the little signs and rumbles that our body expresses and disregard it as being ‘normal’ or ‘just the way I am’ and do nothing about it. Thank you Bina for a lovely open expression and your journey to developing and deepening stillness in your life as a busy woman.

     1. So true Matthew that this applies to men equally.
        Being busy has a huge price tag on our body and our world seems to support busy busy doing doing more and more.
        I now know – thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon that there is another way to live where Stillness is first and the doing is second. Yes I am a busy woman and I do my best not to compromise the stillness that keeps me grounded and steady.
        What I have noticed is how much I get done which in the past would have been overwhelming but now is really easy and simple.

603. I just love the way you express with simplicity and honesty, Bina. As I read “ I felt a tension in my body and that was felt as physical pain – the internal fight between who I was and what I chose to do. I was fighting a natural inner stillness, that is who I am as a woman, and over-riding it with motion. “ – I felt my body responding and this gave me a beautiful stop moment. Thank you.

604. Thank you Bina for your blog. I also had a hysterectomy at a young age and it was such a relief to no longer suffer the pain of long heavy periods. I was actually delighted to be no longer inconvenienced by periods. I could work harder and longer hours. 20 years later I ‘discovered’ Serge Benhayon and UniMed and I realised, in a moment of stillness, that in reality, I deeply mourned the loss of my uterus and no longer felt like a woman. It has taken some time to feel that I am gorgeous just as I am and to feel more of a woman now than I ever felt myself to be.

     1. Thank you Janne for sharing your story. Like you, after surgery I was relieved to no longer be inconvenienced by those heavy periods but today I have such a deeper understanding of the period cycle and what it actually means.
        I mourned for a long time that I had failed as a woman, as I could not hold a child full term having had 4 mis-carriages. But with the support of Esoteric Healing Practitioners from Universal Medicine I came to accept what had happened. This has been one of my biggest life lessons and today I have absolutely no regrets whatsoever and I know writing about such an intimate subject online could help others to at least stop and think how they are living and if they are contributing to an illness in their body.

605. Thank you Bina! Even though I have never had to deal with these gynae problems, the same applies for me with dealing with anxiousness as it appears in any situation. I have learnt recently that anxiety is a lack of confirmation (perhaps in our early life) of our preciousness, feeling our equality. When connected with this, it allows us to reach the stillness within that supports us to be fully present and to develop our relationship with ourselves. Whilst we may not always need to visit the GP, when we observe a shift away from our wellbeing, we can stop and take stock. Your reflections offer an enormous support to all women.

606. Thanks Bina for your post. I can relate very well to the ‘pushing through’ and ‘doing’, and completely ignoring what my body is telling me. It was not until I had developed a huge fibroid and benign tumours in my ovaries did I even glimpse that how I had been living had not served me. Even after having a hysterectomy I still got caught up in my old patterns of pushing through, but now I have got so depleted that finally I am now really willing to start supporting myself and healing these old patterns.

607. Thanks for being so honest about your experience and illustrating how common the busy lifestyle is for women

608. “What was really hard was learning how to stop during every single day and take time out to rest or just take a walk with me.”

     How crazy is it that simply being us could feel so hard? Yet this was my experience too Bina. It feels like there’s something in me that expects life to be simple and easy. Perhaps because deep inside I know that it is? But when we have a humungous addiction to being busy as I did, it’s a day at a time recovery. What you have shared reminds me that every healing starts with a simple loving choice that we bring consistently, no matter how sticky this may at first seem. All we need to do is be prepared to honestly face what is not true. I loved reading how your body brought you back to a self-loving way, to stillness and to you.

     1. It really is crazy Joseph that many of us have a ‘humungous addiction to being busy’ as you say.
        For me to say it was really hard to learn how to stop just confirms how our world is set up to support the busy doing life. In fact it is the accepted norm and taking time out to rest is not Accepted as normal and yet it is the most natural thing to do.

     2. Wow Joseph I’ve never considered people to be ‘addicted to busyness’ but thinking about it I myself can relate! A total avoidance of stillness I say!

609. Bina thanks this is an amazing story… it is never a good feeling when you realise your body has been giving many obvious signs that something is amiss, before the bigger wake-up call arrives!
     We are not taught anywhere to listen to these smaller things, or even necessarily to pay attention in the way you’ve outlined once the truck hits. There is so much responsibility for where you ended up apparent in what you’ve shared, and to me that underpins the game-changing nature of what your story illustrates.

     1. This is huge what you are saying Jenny.
        We really are not taught anywhere to listen to our body and reading what you are saying made me think – imagine first nursery school, all children have to learn to feel whatever they feel in their body and then communicate it and others in the class listen. What a deep and profound way to teach our youth to honour what they feel and long term, society would benefit as the health systems would not be burdened with cases like mine which are on the rise.

        1. So true Bina. If we were all brought up to listen to and honour our bodies, how much less illness and disease would there be? The NHS in the UK is groaning under the strain, trying to cope with our self-inflicted diseases on account of our life-style choices. Making simple changes, as you have done, is very inspiring to read about and put into practice.

610. Thank you Bina for sharing your journey back to Stillness. A very inspirational blog.

611. This is such beautiful honesty, Bina, and deeply healing for all women who read it, as I am sure many of us can relate to the things you have expressed. I remember experiencing pain, bloating, cramping and being moody many times when I had my period. It wasn’t until later that I began to notice a connection between the pain and how much sugar I had eaten the month before, i.e. if I ate a lot of sugar I got more cramps that month. Also, I never felt like exercising when I had my period, and yet I overrode that all the time, either because I had to (e.g. I was made to participate in a PE class at school, or I was teaching an exercise class), or I ‘forced’ myself to exercise because it was ‘good for me’. How disconnected to our bodies we can be!

     And yet how simple it can be, as you describe, Bina -simply stopping long enough to be able to feel -really feel – the stillness deep inside us (innately so).

612. Thank you Bina for sharing your journey back to Stillness. I was the same as you thinking I had to do so many things for everyone else completely avoiding myself. This does not serve anyone. A woman in her Stillness radiates her loving connection; this can be felt by all around her.

613. To ignore our body and the many messages it sends is as Einstein’s definition on insanity states – “doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” What you have shared Bina is the force that runs deep with many of us in the world, men and women included, that says we have to do in order to justify and claim a place in the world. This, at the expense of the body, does not serve – anyone. What would happen to our medical services if we all started to look, as you did, at why we keep pushing and forcing ourselves to do – even when pain is the narrative that runs with our every day – surely we would see a decline in their need if we all stopped and listened more regularly to what is being said.

     1. I agree Lee that Einstein had a great definition for the word ‘insanity’. Why is it that we continue to do the same thing over and over again expecting a different result? It’s crazy when you just stop and think about it.
        I love what you say Lee about the force that runs deep with many of us in the world – men and women that we have to DO something to claim our place in the world. Serge Benhayon presented real medicine – how I could BE in this world by first knowing I am enough. I now know that anything I do is a bonus and it does not define who I am.

        1. This blog really asks us to look at the fact that there is much more to us than what we DO, which is what you have uncovered Bina. It’s a shame that we tend to only act and come to this realisation when something major happens, when all along we are getting clear signs – nudging us.

614. Thank you Bina, I was really moved when I got to this part:

     “I love myself deeply and would never choose to harm my body again – ever.
     Today I feel a real woman who does have an inner stillness, which feels amazing and keeps me grounded.”
     I could really feel the absolute fact and beauty of that, what an enormous turn around you have made of your life. Like you I always thought the pain and accompanying symptoms were just something you put up with, it never occurred to me that I could change that by listening to my body and from there make more loving and caring choices with it. It is remarkable how we can be dragged around by our mind without an ounce of consideration for the amazing work the body does underneath. A body which does its best to honour all that is asked, most often without being honoured back. As the saying goes, “if you don’t listen to the whispers, you might have to hear the screams”. The body is talking to us all the time. Like you, I am learning to listen.

     I agree absolutely with your next sentence;

     “The biggest tip I could give any woman, any age, who knows something is not right in the woman department is to first go and get it checked out with your GP and then consider how you are living that is possibly causing the issue.”

     1. To add to your comment Jeanette, never choosing to harm my body again – ever, is a huge claim. For me getting a hug where I can feel the person tapping hard on my back – I tell them and ask them to not do that. That takes the ‘harming my body’ to another level. It is one thing not doing it to myself but I also will not accept another doing it to me. Most of my family laugh at me as I have no hesitation in reminding them if the hugging feels like a hard tap on my back.

        1. that is a big one, and yes it does happen, so noticeable when being so much more loving with oneself. You have inspired me to actually speak up about that myself when it happens as I realise I have often let it go.

615. Hi Bina
     I love the simplicity with which you share how you found a way forward from the loud calling your body had to make.
     I love the way you turned your life around and now are an inspiration to so many, including me.

616. Bina your story is inspiring as the notion of the body being an inconvenience is so common. I used to feel the same way and also suffered the consequences to my health. I see so many women colleagues doing the same thing … for me this behaviour has changed dramatically since attending the workshops held by Universal Medicine, seeing the practitioners when needed, and applying what has been learned.

     1. You are right Anne about how common it is that the body is an inconvenience. What is interesting is we never stop and ask the question – why we think our body is an inconvenience? The body suffers all our ill choices and even then it takes some form of accident, illness, injury or an event (maybe someone else’s story) to actually stop and look at how we treat our body.
        I have heard the saying ‘we treat our pets better than we treat our own body’. I feel there is some truth in that quote.

617. Wow Bina, a beautiful unfolding to the woman you are today.
     I chose to ignore my bodies way of telling me it could no longer keep going the way I was, it was the stops that I had which allowed me to now live the way I do, Listening to and honouring me and my body.

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