Dementia and walking frames – not an inevitable part of ageing

By Carmel Reid, Volunteer, Northern Rivers, NSW, Australia

I read an article recently about Dementia that mentioned the stunning effect a change of diet had on one woman who totally recovered her senses and no longer had dementia. This caused me to stop and reflect on my many friends who are associated with Universal Medicine most of whom follow a healthy diet with plenty of meat, fish, and vegetables and no alcohol, caffeine, gluten, dairy or refined sugar. Interestingly none of these friends, who are in their 60s, 70s and 80s, have dementia or any signs of it and to me this is worth noting.  Of course, there is more to dementia than diet alone but it is a contributing factor and one we can all do something about.

I’ve met a lot of people with dementia recently because I’ve been volunteering in an elderly care home and I work with residents of differing abilities and varying ages – some are mentally just not there, others are physically disabled but mentally fully present and others are in between. Some move around in wheelchairs and some use walking frames and walking aids with wheels that make them bend over even more.


And then it occurred to me that, of all my Universal Medicine friends, none of them use walking aids, including many who are well into their eighties. Not even a walking stick is in sight when you enter the hall where an event is taking place. I recently attended an event with over 300 people and there were people present with cancer and other serious ailments, but every single one of them was walking independently with an upright posture and a smile. There is always disability access and facilities at Universal Medicine events should this be required, but for the most part, it is not needed.

So, what is it about Universal Medicine that leaves the elderly walking upright? Apart from living healthy physical lifestyles, many have been working on letting go of lifetimes of burdens, hurts, guilt, all the mental stuff that wears us down and makes us feel small and later, old. In addition, the walking therapies presented by Serge Benhayon help people to walk free from such burdens – to walk as themselves, from their essence with true power and grace.

Serge Benhayon, founder of Universal Medicine, is an inspiring presenter and his words are always confirming of the amazingness that we all innately are and he inspires us to connect with and live that innate love in our everyday lives. Living in this loving way, connected with the essence of who we are, keeps us young at heart and this is reflected in our faces and our bodies as we age with many experiencing a sense of self-worth not previously felt.

The companies that make profits from all these walking frames and walking aids and the pharmaceutical companies that create drugs for dementia may not want this news to get about, that changing our lifestyle to a more true and loving way of living can potentially prevent these ailments, but hey – I’m shouting it from the rooftops – we don’t need to be sick as we get older, we can take good care of our bodies and walk free.

Let’s get healthy as we age – why not?


Read more:

  1. Dementia – is it truly a mystery? 
  2. Checking out: are we sowing the seeds of our own dementia? 
  3. People with dementia – checking out. 

599 thoughts on “Dementia and walking frames – not an inevitable part of ageing

  1. It is more important than ever to put down the labels and beliefs we have adopted about old age, children, teenagers, mothers, men, grandparents, babies, accountants, builders, friends, nationalities… and live freshly and honestly as who we are before any label; meeting each other as equals with love, respect and a dedication to working out how to work together.

  2. Challenging what is and what is not an ‘inevitable part of ageing’ is much needed in a world that expects the elderly to fit into a box of how they should be, like getting you in the box that will carry you to the grave – no thanks – I’ll pass on that one. Great call to challenge this Carmel.

  3. I have found that as you age and stop and take stock of what you have acquired outside of you, it is a reflection of the junk we carry within. When start to clear what is no longer required, be it inside or outside, it directly affects both. It allows us to return once again to lighter being that resides within us all that we have weighed down from our choices.

  4. At 51, I am finding that when I make decisions, about work, home, buying things etc. I do have a connection to what things will look like as I get into my older years. And what I am really enjoying discovering is that I have no sense of slowing down, or looking for a comfy set up… my plan is to stay engaged, alert and fit for purpose to the end.

  5. There are children now being raised that know there is another way we can live that identifies with the truth. The list you have defined: burdens, hurts, guilt and all the other stuff that has worn down those before us, are markers for us to learn from.

  6. ‘In addition, the walking therapies presented by Serge Benhayon help people to walk free from such burdens’ we often don’t realise the burdens we have taken on until we let them go and feel the freedom to not have them.

    1. And, what about the closet we keep locked with the issues and skeletons we don’t wish to deal with, that we carry with us, every where we go.

  7. At 63 my walk is a lot freer than in my 40’s and I am definitely more upright and my shoulders are not so folded in, and I know this is because I have healed many hurts and burdens in my life that have worn me down to walk in a certain way. I know it is a constant reassessment observing how my body feels and how it moves but it is worth it so that my body stays strong and fit for life.

  8. I totally agree- let the joy of ageing be commonplace, instead of the doom and gloom that society portrays and sadly what is the norm in most of the nursing homes today.

  9. Someone said to me recently that with my diet, I would live forever. I replied that this was not my objective, but it makes such sense to simply stay as healthy as possible as we age, whatever age we are.

  10. I met the most beautiful elderly gentleman in the supermarket two days ago. He was immaculately dressed, sparkly, engaging and full of vitality… a real point of inspiration in terms of how to age.

  11. The list of conditions that are being helped by diet and the way we are living is growing. There are already many ailments of the body that are because of our choices and lifestyles, And, an essential part of the treatment is to choose to stop doing what is causing it: smoking, drinking and what we put in our body. What if we felt what the body tells us and we listen, the first or second time when we do something that doesn’t support our body? Would we have an overburdened medical service?

  12. Could it be the list you have offered that the lifestyle we have chosen has other beneficial side effects? The general wellness from listening to our body is a great place to catch things early.

  13. From what I know and can see of the people attending Universal Medicine workshops is that they seem more healthy and more full of joy. Elders in this community are not scared of getting old, they look after themselves and each other. Super beautiful to see.

  14. The more examples of people aging gracefully and beautifully there are, the easier it will be to emulate them.

  15. Caring for ourselves in a loving way and having true purpose in our lives, brings a joy beyond measure and makes waking up every morning a delight to be alive.

  16. It is so important to wave a flag for growing older feeling well and engaged. Just taking the one example of every interaction being a relationship with someone and that magic can happen in moments of eye contact and connection, reminds me of the fact that our contributions never cease no matter our age.

  17. At 65, I am working physically for up to 14 hours a day and then on my computer for a further 2 to 3 hours per day with 1 hour for my evening meal; that leaves me 6 hours to sleep!
    Wonder when it is time to spend more time writing, as that has become something that I have learnt, the Loving reality of expression as in the written word. The Maintenance and Tiling I do are also things that I have a Loving relationship with, as with all the work I do. So maybe the older generation can get more physical and take on those jobs that the younger ones feel are too menial?

  18. As often happens, a quote from Serge Benhayon makes me go ‘duh’. When we are “Living in this loving way, connected with the essence of who we are, keeps us young at heart and this is reflected in our faces and our bodies as we age with many experiencing a sense of self-worth not previously felt.” It is quite obvious that when we live from a connection to the body, we are much more likely to stay full of vivaciousness and vitality.

  19. The myths of ageing are being changed amazingly by the true livingness offered to us to reclaim who we are and our quality, honesty and beingness that changes everything and brings a joy and vitality to ageing not currently considered as normal or possible.

  20. How different our approach to aging would be if we had no pictures or expectations of ‘what it looks like’ but instead took everyday as it comes, living in the moment and embracing every change as an opportunity to learn and deepen our understanding of ourselves, life, the universe and our place in it.

  21. Old age does not have to be all doom and gloom. Just yesterday I spent a couple of hours catching up with volunteers in my local community and the majority of them were elderly. It makes me wonder how people fare into old age when they are actively involved in the community as opposed to being at home on their own or only interacting with their immediate family. It shows me that we are not designed to be on our own and that we actually do better when we interact with others.

    1. I agree, Julie, my aged grandmother in her late eighties used to help the ‘elderly’ couple down the road who were in their 60s. My feeling is that Retirement needn’t mean giving up on any kind of activity – even if there is no paid employment, there are always volunteering opportunities.

  22. A lot of people I’ve met at Universal Medicine are definitely getting healthier as they age. I am one of these people and I am only in my early forties. I feel younger, more vital, have more energy than I can ever remember since applying the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom. It is truly remarkable to feel this for myself and also see how vibrant the elders are in this amazing community.

  23. Ageing and good health are not mutually exclusive if we take care of ourselves, i.e. are honest about what serves and does not serve us and what we can eat, drink or not eat and drink. When we are willing to be honest and take responsibility, anything is possible.

    1. This might be another myth: the older you get, the more crippled and worn out you become. Honest and true care on a daily basis might just as well lead to a vital body and a clear mind.

  24. Having worked on the physical body as a therapist for many years, it feels very obvious now that there is something else going on that affects our physical posture. We know how the body is all connected and how our thoughts affect us, so it makes sense to understand that if we are feeling low or negative about things we feel we can’t sort out, the body deteriorates too. It is not surprising then that the body needs support to keep going with this cumulative effect.

  25. Sometimes I feel very sad when I look at older people who are having difficulty walking upright, but I have to accept that the way they are is the result of their choices, and that with different choices the outcome would have been very different.

  26. The joy vibrancy and playfulness of ageing is something very real and seen now in the world, thanks to the reflection and offerings of Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and The Livingness, that is offering true health and understanding of the way we live with a vitality and way of being that breaks all the ideals, beliefs and constrictions to being who we really are.

  27. At every age and any age we have a choice of embracing life with grace or not. And as we age there is a gradual acceptance of those things we can do and those we cannot do.

    1. As a society, we tend to fight the aging process, so to meet people who embrace aging with love and grace is a breath of fresh air and a true inspiration.

  28. A great plan for life: be alert to and aware of the corruption in so many of our institutions and corporations and then choose to embrace life in full whatever our age. Thank you, Carmel.

  29. I am one of the Universal Medicine students in her elder years, who is these days ‘walking upright’. But it wasn’t that long ago that I struggled to walk easily at times due to chronic sciatica and I was also in the habit of stooping over when I walked. Thanks to the wonderful modality of Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy and my commitment to healing my life, the sciatica, which had been a pain in my life more 40+ years, has finally healed and the Walking Therapies also presented by Serge Benhayon have played a big part in me stooping no more – well most of the time. I certainly don’t see a walking frame or dementia playing a part in the latter years of my life.

    1. Wow that’s great to hear, Ingrid, I never had sciatica but I have arthritis and I used to wake up with awful pains deep in my hips. I’ve lost heaps of weight since going gluten and dairy free and my healthy lifestyle and regular Esoteric Therapy sessions make the arthritis no longer painful.

    2. What an amazing inspiration you are Ingrid -being elderly but not living like the norm. I visited a nursing home yesterday to see that nearly all the residents walked around in walkers, stooped over. I hadn’t thought about their posture affecting their thoughts, movements etc.. but it makes sense that the more upright we are the clearer the connection to our divinity, and this will then be magnified through our movements.

    3. Amazing Ingrid, you are an inspiration and what you’ve shared is absolutely incredible. I can sense there is not any hint of fear around ageing but a deep beauty and gracefulness in your embrace.

      1. I have found that fighting the ageing process, one that is totally natural, is an absolute waste of of precious energy as I am fighting the inevitable, and that’s exhausting and futile. So by accepting that ageing is part of the cycle of my life, it is now my choice to embrace it and to ensure that it is a time where I care for myself deeply, very lovingly and as gracefully as possible.

      1. So very true Matilda. It has taken me a while to realise that allowing myself to be inspired by another opens the doorway to the most amazing feeling in my body. It is so uplifting and expansive, whereas, going into jealousy and comparison only serves to take me down into a very uncomfortable, lonely hole, where the only outcome is to miss out on the ‘amazing opportunities’ that are on offer.

  30. I love to watch people but often observe when we walk, it can be like.. in a hurry with head down, shoulders in, jaw clamped, like we are embedding our thoughts and issues into our walk. Or as the walking therapies teach, we can walk with a connection to our feet and feel the body move freely, I know which one my body prefers.

    1. I find that when I walk and connect with my body, I feel taller, my body automatically straightens and I feel amazing. It goes to show that when we are ‘checked out’ how our posture reflects that and we slouch.

      1. I too find Carmel that walking in presence allows all the kinks and contractions to straighten out.

      2. So true Carmel … how present and aware we are of our bodies, and how we truly feel about ourselves, is all exposed in our posture and in how we walk.

  31. Breaking what we’ve accepted are the ‘norms’ of ageing – this is super inspiring, showing that it doesn’t have to be something to be feared and dreaded, but something to embrace. An opportunity to further deepen our relationships with our bodies, ourselves and others, and commit to greater levels of love and care all round.

  32. Talking of dementia – the key thing we have forgotten is the huge power our choices have. Life need not look like it does ~ there is no unmovable obstacle we can’t move past.

    1. So very true Joseph, we need to stop and look at our what choices have been instead of just giving up and accepting well that’s how it is. We have the power to make great changes from within.

    2. You’re right – before the physiologocal and physical changes there is a choice to withdraw from what is deemed as too much, too hard and too troublesome. Dementia starts much earlier than its more obvious symptoms and it happens on an energetic level before it becomes a diagnosis.

  33. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a road map to life, one that a child could look at and see vibrancy and playfulness throughout? Is it any wonder that so many young people want to disappear in to the virtual reality screens if they are being presented with a path in to elder years that is not vibrant or fun.

    1. I agree, Shami, and that is why it is so important for us elders to be out and about in the local community, not shut up in homes, so that we can offer role models for the younger generations.

  34. It’s great to know as a young person that there is a way of ageing with at the very least integrity, if not great wisdom and of profound standing in the world.

  35. It makes such sense to work through our issues out throughout our whole lifetime rather than leaving it to feel how we have lived near the end of life, and not liking it. So many elderly people have regrets and end up heavy laden with them which is bound to affect them mentally and physically.

    1. Many older people were never given the opportunities us younger ones have, with counsellors and psychologists aplenty to support us. In years gone by women just had to get on with it, putting up with abuse, being self-sacrificing and with no idea that life could be any different. The men had to fight in wars for their country, they had to work hard to support a growing family and their wife, carrying the burden of financial responsibility.No wonder so many of our older persons end up bent and depressed.

  36. We see getting old and dying as an end which has us often give up and fear death and become careless, but when we understand that it is just an end of a cycle but not the end of us, we can feel and see that quality is what counts in life, always, in our every movement and breath, as that is what shapes the world we live in.

    1. Imagine how different death would feel if it was approached as you have shared Esther just the end of a cycle not the end of us. Death in this cycle is the beginning of our birth into the next cycle.

  37. Carmel what you have shared here is huge. I have met many elderly people in my work as a nurse and many of them have said to me “don’t get old”. I have heard younger people say things like “when I am old and need to go into a nursing home” or “when we have dementia” I can certainly understand that what we think ageing is governed by what we predominately see, but does this make is true? This is why what you share is amazing because its showing us that there is no inevitability in the ageing process, except dying of course. We can age well and live well as we age, which I know will also affect our own dying process. Lots for us to consider.

    1. I can remember being afraid of the actual process of dying, of being ill, in pain etc. I am learning now that even the process of dying can be full of grace and, thanks to medical and palliative care, it does not need to be painful.

  38. Brilliant article Carmel, thank you. I have worked in many care homes in my life and have been saddened by the quality of their life due to the ill health that many elderly people live with. You and other students of Universal Medicine are showing us that this does not have to be the norm, in fact the norm can be ageing with vitality, love and grace. Love it!

    1. Yes I find it sad too, when I see how incapacitated some older people are, when I know that it didn’t have to be that way. In the future it won’t be as more and more people take greater care of their bodies, making different choices as to how they will live their lives.

    1. Elders especially have the responsibility to be role models for the younger generations, so that they can look forward to ageing, not approach it with fear. Whatever age we are life can be healthy and fun, it is all down to the choices we make.

  39. What I have observed over a few years is that people in their last three years of life often become more and more switched off mentally, more and more dependent emotionally and less and less able physically. We don’t know when our last three years of life is until we get there, and this is a huge generalisation, but could it be that people generally not at ease with their ageing process, not sure what the end of life holds for them, not sure where they are going, and may be quite scared and lonely in this process. Universal Medicine friends do not fit this criteria at all, so this could maybe part explain the differences seen and felt Carmel.

    1. When you look at all the advertising for older women it is all about ‘fighting’ the ageing process, very little is celebrating the beauty within. I agree, Gill, we need to celebrate the ageing process for it is as much a part of our life experience as being a teenager.

  40. Wow what different approaches there are to ageing in the world but the true health vitality joy and wisdom from within is something we can all live with the amazing reflections and vibrancy offered to us from Universal Medicine and the real livingness from within .

  41. In conversation with an elderly lady the other day, she talked about ageing and how awful it was for her, and how there was no fun in it. She said that this was the case for everyone that she knew. It was the lack of fun that really got to me in what she shared, because I could see what a bright and playful woman she is.

    1. Sadly our society does not truly celebrate ageing and many drift into loneliness. May daughter made me laugh when I said I was going to a Celebration day – she asked if I was going to play bridge. There is an image associated with aged gatherings: bowls, bridge and cups of tea.

    2. A few weeks ago, I spoke to a gentleman who was over 100 years in age. He learnt to play the saxophone at 85 and got his pilot’s license at 95. His age had meant that he couldn’t fly any longer, but it was his outlook of life that meant he was still making the most of every moment. We as a society also need to value older people in this way and support them to not feel de-valued from the point of retirement on.

    1. Haha! Love this Vanessa. I know many people in their late fifties, sixties and seventies, including myself, who are looking younger, are more vibrant and have more energy than they did 10 years ago. This has to be inspring for our younger generations to inspire them to see that ageing doesn’t have to be something to dread.

    2. Absolutely Vanessa, bring on the joy and the vitality no matter what the numbers are, even though the body may age naturally.

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