The Body Doesn’t Lie – Being Diagnosed with Osteoporosis

By Inmaculada Cobo Soler, Spain. 

Three years ago, I was diagnosed with very advanced osteoporosis, which led me to enquire honestly about the relationship I had with my body.

I come from a family which fundamentally values two things: a person’s capacity to accomplish great academic achievements or, in the case of not having higher education, the ability to be acclaimed by a natural intelligence and work capacity. The body was a mere instrument to this end, and it could be subjected to sleepless days and nights if needed, sustaining itself with the help of coffee like my father did or, as I used to do, living off my nervous system.

After finishing my higher education and starting work, I did what I thought was taking care of my health by doing road cycling and running half-marathons. Also in the name of health I dedicated many years of my life to learn and practise different kinds of nutrition.

The common denominator of this path has been my body being tyrannised by the demands and wishes of my mind. From the moment I decided what I wanted to do with my body, and left no room for feeling and listening to what my body actually needed, what was supposed to be “healthy” stands as an external imposition, based on ideals and beliefs, and therefore becomes unhealthy.

It is paradoxical to witness how many different ways of caring for our bodies are offered to us nowadays and at the same time we see how illnesses proliferate.

Being diagnosed with osteoporosis

My first reaction when I was diagnosed with osteoporosis was disbelief and anger. Anger at having believed that all the time that I had dedicated to apparently taking care of myself was supposed to be a guarantee to avoid illness. Then, after I calmed down and became aware of the extreme frailty of my bones, I felt very sad and vulnerable.

Up to that time I had hardly used any medication, and suddenly I was facing this new, overwhelming situation. I needed to choose between different treatments, all of which had such potential side effects that I could be left facing even more illnesses.

Whenever the doctors talked about the state my body was in, I felt like it was foreign to me. Even though it seems absurd, I felt betrayed by my body. I connected with a lot of fear, distrusting myself, and with the temptation of playing the victim, hence burdening others with my illness and my doubts.

Establishing a new relationship with my body

I chose not to be a victim. I had to assume that my body was a stranger to me, that I needed to get to know. Little by little, without pushing myself or despairing, I’m establishing a new relationship with it, and with myself, as a result. It is the clearest mirror I have to look at myself.

My bones are regaining mass bit by bit. I don’t know how well they will evolve in the future. What I do know, however, is that my relationship with osteoporosis is a living experience from which I am learning. The first thing it produced was a great dose of humility, for it placed me where I was energetically, instead of where my mind thought I was. Meeting Serge Benhayon helped me achieve this. Opening myself to his esoteric reading of every organ, tissue and to the consciousness that was in each forgotten area of my body, allowed me to embrace the fact that each illness has a deep root that transcends the merely physiological reality.

When I asked him about osteoporosis, he told me that energetically osteoporosis is related to long term deep disregard and that healing requires full regard for myself with deep self-worth, care and nurturing. These were things I could work on myself as well as taking the advice of the medical doctors to treat my condition.

It took me a long time to realise that THE BODY DOESN’T LIE, that only our mind is capable of creating a mirage, which can make it look like I’m being ever more careful with myself, whilst I may be hiding a deep lack of acceptance and cherishing of my own self.

I have learned that we cannot deceive our body, for it only responds to love. The fact is that I had only taken just enough care of it for it to be useful to me, but I had not deeply respected it. This means that I had demanded too much of it, that I had at times abandoned it.

I have learned also that wisdom is truly wisdom if it stems from the body, and that this is only possible when there is an intimate, sensitive and loving listening to it.

It has been humbling to learn that my body never lies…. and it is thanks to Serge Benhayon that I have been inspired to develop an ever-deepening and loving relationship with myself and my body so that I can hear and heed its messages.

Read more:

  1. Osteoporosis and a lifetime of dairy consumption 
  2. Learning the meaning of osteoporosis
  3. Osteoporosis – how could this happen to me? 

516 thoughts on “The Body Doesn’t Lie – Being Diagnosed with Osteoporosis

  1. ‘I have learned that we cannot deceive our body, for it only responds to love.’ How beautiful it is that the body responds only to love and with that love we can thrive, without it, that is, deprive ourselves of it and we are shown what we have been living. Thank you for sharing this with us, this a supportive to everyone to really feel what we are doing to our bodies and with honouring we can support ourselves to thrive.

  2. ‘The common denominator of this path has been my body being tyrannised by the demands and wishes of my mind.’ How many of us has fallen for this, to favour the mind over the body, we have built a whole society around this and still we try to persist this way of living instead of seeing the detrimental affects this has on the human body, denying it is our vehicle of expression for the divine essence we come from.

  3. It seems to me that when presented the fact that “the body doesn’t lie” that most people would challenge the truth they have been presented with, for it they choose to accept it then life as they are living would need to change. Maybe this is because it would then expose the love-less choices they have been making and that they have chosen to be deaf to the calls of their body that their choices are actually harming them.

  4. What a beautiful understanding to come to from your body that is the stem of all wisdom and that only through the honouring of this and ourselves with deep self-care, love and intimacy can we truly nurture ourselves and heal our body.

  5. Thank you Inmaculada for a great sharing. You expose so much here of how we hold ourselves to ransom, how we treat our bodies, expecting them to perform and how if they do not, we consider they’ve failed, but what you speak to here is a deep relationship with the body, one not based on performance and function but one based on listening to, honouring and deeply respecting our bodies and what they say to us. For they do not lie, they offer us the truth always.

  6. The trouble with osteoporosis is that we can’t see it so unless we break a bone, we don’t know we have it. Because I had a hyperactive thyroid at one time, the endocrinologist suggested I might be prone to have osteoporosis and sent me for a DEXXA scan. He was right. I have had it checked again recently and it has got worse, so I am working with gentle exercises to help it.

  7. “which led me to enquire honestly about the relationship I had with my body….” How often do we actually do this? – take stock of our relationship with our body… It seems that we are only brought to honesty by illness or disease… be it a common cold, flu or more serious health issue. The potential of improved health, vitality or relationships is very possible if we asked this question to ourselves more regularly.

  8. It’s beautiful to read how you’ve been establishing a new quality of relationship with your body and appreciating the wisdom that is there and that we can re-tune back in with.

  9. Without the gift of the body with its innate absolute honesty we would be lost big time. It is mostly the body that keeps us on track even when we don´t know and or especially when we like to ignore that we are off track.

  10. We can get angry when we discover we are ill and often we blame the body for letting us down. I love what you write about how you explored what the illness shared, your relationship with your body and how you have been evolving and learning from it.

  11. When we realise that our body is so honest – that it doesn’t lie – it exposes that there is a part of us, a part of our psyche, that is dishonest in relationship with ourselves.

  12. “It took me a long time to realise that THE BODY DOESN’T LIE…” Yes, and I would say this is the same for most of us, as we dont want to have to admit that we have negelcted our bodies at the expense of listening to our minds. Any illness is in fact a direct result of where we havent paid due care and attention to the constant messages that our body sends us.

  13. There are so many ways in which we can override our body, so many kinds of excuses. I have found that when I have discarded one excuse, it can be easily replace with a more sophisticated one that makes me still think I can ignore how my body feels and push through even though the body never lies.

  14. ‘I have learned that we cannot deceive our body, for it only responds to love.’ This is a huge statement, very humbling and also very true. It has made me sit up today knowing that I am giving my body extra work because of what I have chosen to consume and that, in itself, is not truly loving. My body is dealing with it but at what expense to my, and by extension, others overall health and well being? I am inspired to go for a walk and reconnect to a deeper level of love.

  15. ‘The body is the marker of all truth’ I first heard this from Serge Benhayon and then I start to appreciate how much the body really does communicate to us. Every choice we make results in the quality of our body. What I love about the teachings and modalities of Universal Medicine is that you get to feel that underneath all that there is our essence and no matter what we try to do this essence is our divine state of being which is totally harmonious.

  16. ‘I have learned that we cannot deceive our body, for it only responds to love. The fact is that I had only taken just enough care of it for it to be useful to me, but I had not deeply respected it. This means that I had demanded too much of it, that I had at times abandoned it.’ – I really get what you are sharing here and even though I have mades some profound choices in looking after myself and body we can never settle for that to be done. That you have made the choice and you are completed. We a live, living organism full of particles and cells all responding, so it is super important that we don’t settle for a way of being or choices when the next moment is offering a whole other level of depth we can go to.

  17. The body never lies, but we can become artful at ignoring, dismissing or excusing the signs and symptoms it flags up. We then feign surprise or self-pity when we get sick. This is not a mark of intelligence.

  18. “My bones are regaining mass bit by bit. I don’t know how well they will evolve in the future. What I do know, however, is that my relationship with osteoporosis is a living experience from which I am learning.” Very inspiring to know that you are learning from your experience and that there is an openness within you which allows you to accept your health as it is and supports you to keep deepening your understanding of your condition.

  19. It is quite amazing how many diets and ways of caring for ourselves that are out there today that are supposed to keep us fit and healthy and that sound good to the mind but don’t mention anything about listening to the body where the real truth of what we individually need will be revealed with the help of a bit of the old self-love.

  20. It’s interesting how we can become far more honest when we have an illness, like saying ‘no’, or not putting up with things like we may have in the past and raise our standards of living, If we started off with this honest approach in life, and to let our standards of honesty slip, makes me wonder what our general state of health would look like?

  21. Our bodies are designed to guide us to live the truth of who we are, hence why it only reflects to us the truth at all times of the impact of the choices we are making. Listen and we come to know what it is to truly heal and live with greater connection to who we are.

  22. “My first reaction when I was diagnosed with osteoporosis was disbelief and anger. Anger at having believed that all the time that I had dedicated to apparently taking care of myself was supposed to be a guarantee to avoid illness.”

    We are sold a lie and then when that lie is exposed, the true extent of the rot we have swallowed is revealed. This is never a pleasant moment, but it is a truly awakening one.

  23. No matter what the situation, the body doesn’t lie. Every hangover tells us not to drink alcohol. Lung disease tells us not to smoke. Super sore muscles tell us not to over exercise.

  24. As much as we may try to ignore our bodies when something changes, it actually takes more energy to ignore it than to address it and take steps to deal with why the change or problem has happened. Any health problem will more than likely eventually turn into something more complex if not addressed at a physical, mental and energetic level.

  25. “I had to assume that my body was a stranger to me, that I needed to get to know…” this is a great place to start in reestablishing and developing a relationship with ourselves without utilising the ‘autopilot’ behaviours, patterns, ideals or beliefs. .

  26. I love your turn of phrase such as “my body being tyrannised by the demands and wishes of my mind”, the word tyrannised without any drama just a simple fact exposes so beautifully how and why we run ourselves ragged.

  27. If we look after ourselves and still fall sick with an illness or a cold it is definitely easier to identify why at this time we aren’t well. A few weeks ago I got an intense cold which started off as headaches, blocked sinuses and a sense of confusion, and for me I wasn’t necessarily neglecting my body but was getting very stressed by exams, hence how the tension started.

  28. It’s amazing what our bodies tell us. Even though we may have turned our lives around and are living in a true and loving way our bodies still need to clear the residue of the past and will do so through health conditions or illness. It keeps us humble and invites us to take a good look at the choices we have made.

  29. Inmaculada, thank you for sharing your experience. It is so true that our body doesn’t lie and your honesty in sharing your relationship with your body prior to your diagnosis is very common in our society, where we care for it just enough to allow us to do what we want to do instead of deeply caring for it with absolute appreciation and love. ‘…healing requires full regard for myself with deep self-worth, care and nurturing.’ Our body is amazing at healing when we support it 100% and your blog inspires us to support our body in a deeply loving way.

  30. It’s so crazy that we live in a body that we become a stranger to. Most of us treat our bodies with disdain and neglect compared to how we treat our mind. Yet the two are not separate and harm to the body means harm to the mind and quality of our thoughts, which leads to harmful behaviours.

  31. At school we learn the basics of how to read, abc. But to me what I’m wondering is shouldn’t we truly be shown the way to read and understand what our body reflects? If we did we’d surely realise we’re never ever without a friend.

  32. I have for so long considered myself to be strong and have pushed my body to the limit, and have ignored warnings my body has given me, osteoporosis being one of them, because I initially started doing exercise to develop bone strength but gradually my commitment declined. I can’t feel the osteoporosis, I don’t have any broken bones, but recently I had another scan and it has worsened over the last four years. We cannot afford to ignore our greatest buddy and support system, our body. I hurt my back recently and that gave me a scare, I have found myself feeling very vulnerable. Appreciating how delicate our bodies are will help us to stop abusing them.

    1. It’s interesting that even when we know we need to take more care, we still find reasons and ways not to. Many times! We are masters at sabotaging our own bodies and our connection to them, because we know how powerful we are when we’re listening and aligned to their truth, and don’t want the resononsility of that.

  33. You are correct Inmaculada, it is very humbling to learn that the body does not lie. There is no escape from seeing and knowing the truth of what it tells us about how we have been living.

    1. It is extraordinary how we can not only override all the wisdom of our bodies but also fail to grasp that the body can only ever express truth, never can it lie. How did we miss such an obvious before Serge Benhayon pointed it out? Could it be wilful blindness on our part?

  34. “From the moment I decided what I wanted to do with my body, and left no room for feeling and listening to what my body actually needed, what was supposed to be “healthy” stands as an external imposition, based on ideals and beliefs, and therefore becomes unhealthy.”
    Our bodies are blessed with the most miraculous physiological systems that are constantly responding and communicating with us, if we choose to live in a way that is dominated by our heads, we will override the vital pointers that constantly look to sustain our homeostasis and support our health & wellbeing.

  35. Osteoporosis is actually very common for many of us as we age. But we have to be careful not to be frightened and scared into taking supplements or medications as taking anything out of fear will not support us in a true way. By all means it is important to take medications and supplements as they are needed, but to do this in a way that is embraced and fully supporting oneself is what is paramount so that we maximise what is on offer to support our healing.

  36. Yes well said, Inmaculada, if our bodies are used as an instrument to perform or live up to an ideal, the long term effects will be devastating. Thank goodness for the body’s ability to clear and heal through the process of illness and disease.

  37. What does it mean to take care of my health and who decides what is true for me? We run, workout in the gym, row, cycle, play sport, eat five fruit and vegetables every day but does this mean we are healthy and what happens when we have listened and abided by this way of being to find we end up having osteoporosis or some other disease or illness. Could listening to what is claimed or researched outside of us actually be damaging and harmful to our body and health? At the end of the day surely the most reliable and honest resource is our connection to the body which knows exactly what is needed to support the body and take care of our health and wellbeing.

  38. I too have severe osteoporosis and used to see my body as a work horse and had little regard for what I did to it unless I became ill or was not able to do the physical work I wanted to do, either because of pain or injury. We are doing our body a huge dis-service and creating all sorts of issues and illnesses if we don’t look after and lovingly care for our body.

    1. This is so common Alison, that many people see their body like a work horse, and when it is sore or aching we tend to ignore it and push our body to work even though it may be screaming with pain. We are simply not taught to listen to our body from a young age and as we grow up we see that it is normal to use and abuse our body because we see this reflection throughout our society. But thanks to Serge Benhayon’s incredible teachings and presentations, more and more people around the world are learning to deeply honour and listen to our body and starting to build a loving relationship with ourselves and our body. This is rare in our current society but one day I feel this will be the norm where we cherish, love and fully understand the power of listening to our body.

      1. I agree ChanLy it is rare to look after and respect the body it was certainly something that was never taught or reflected to me growing up, quite the opposite in fact. It will take a while to change the abuse we put our body through, not just treating it as a work horse but through alcohol, drug and sport to name but a few. With sport we are able to push the body to extremes, and it is accepted as the norm and revered by many, but there will come a time as you say when we will start to recognise that true power is in honouring and listening to the body.

  39. Great sharing Inmaculada, it is very true that the body does not lie, and the more we are able to connect and listen to our body the more we naturally know what supports it, and it is never too late to start changing our choices.

    1. Indeed Sally when we change focus from the head to the entirety of our bodies, we are met with a dialogue that has our health and wellbeing at its core purpose, a pure friendship like no other.

  40. ‘I did what I thought was taking care of my health by doing road cycling and running half-marathons. Also in the name of health I dedicated many years of my life to learn and practise different kinds of nutrition. The common denominator of this path has been my body being tyrannised by the demands and wishes of my mind.’ Thank you for sharing this Inmaculado. An outstanding and important example/study of how we are led astray by our mind and we stop listening to our body.

  41. Thank God for our body and its communications with us – without this we would be truly lost heading down paths with no means of correction or return. Hence no matter what illness or disease, it is a blessing for us all, for it offers us a moment to stop and change direction and return to truth again.

    1. Yes, “thank God for our body and its communication with us…” and other people too, as every-body we have an interaction with, be it conversation, a simple walking past, has a way of communicating something too – a reflection, a noticing, a feeling, that also can inspire, give insight & awareness into our own state of health.

  42. Diagnosis of any illness can be a shock on one hand and yet a deep knowing on the other hand – deep down we know what is happening yet a part of us chooses to turn a blind eye to this. And so the shock really is the shock of realizing how much we have fooled ourselves. I too have experienced this (not with osteoporosis) but with other health issues – and know it can take a while to digest.

    1. Very true Henrietta, and especially with lifestyle related illnesses the ‘shock’ isn’t necessarily that our choices have precipitated into an illness, but actually the fact that we thought we were invincible and fooled ourselves into thinking we could ‘get away with’ disregarding choices for so long.

  43. What a gift we have with us every moment of every breath, the body doesn’t lie. Learning to listen to the truth can be challenging but it is the only way to evolve out of our age old patterns of disregarding towards expressing more and more our innate and divine nature.

  44. “The first thing it produced was a great dose of humility, for it placed me where I was energetically, instead of where my mind thought I was.” This is beautiful, Inmaculada, as it illustrates the power of coming home to the truth of what our bodies are reflecting to us. We need not veer away from the body as our greatest and most honest friend.

    1. This part you’ve highlighted Janet, is so honest and it shows how we can trick ourselves in thinking we are healthy and well but our body can be telling us something completely different. When our body presents the truth, and we are not willing to hear it, we can feel a sense of sadness and anger, and may even feel our body is letting us down when we have an illness or disease. But when we understand our body doesn’t lie, and we start to listen to it, it is indeed our most honest friend. It is always calling us back to being more loving, caring and nurturing no matter what it is communicating to us.

  45. Awesome sharing Inmaculada – this shows that our health is in our hands, and our choices, but perhaps the choices are not that supportive when they come as dictates from our society or our heads that say “this is what makes you healthy”…for true well being and vitality are in relation to our relationship with our body and our capacity to connect with what it truly needs, to deeply care for it and cherish it as the vehicle that we use 24/7.

  46. When we have been following all the ‘rules’ with exercise and eating and then find out that we still have a condition such as osteoporosis, we can certainly feel very fooled! This can be a difficult time in accepting that what we thought was supporting us is perhaps not as it seems. There is so much more to the illnesses and conditions that we develop, and the more our understanding of ourselves and the condition grows then the more we are offered an opportunity for true healing.

  47. This is so true – “wisdom is truly wisdom if it stems from the body, and that this is only possible when there is an intimate, sensitive and loving listening to it.” The more we open up to being deeply sensitive and aware of our body’s subtle messages, the greater our wisdom and knowing of the truth in everyday life.

  48. “Whenever the doctors talked about the state my body was in, I felt like it was foreign to me” – This is actually very relatable, as there are times when we bash our body or neglect it so far that it no longer feels like our own but instead the exhausted result of the behaviours we’d allowed to come through.

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