The Body Doesn’t Lie – Being Diagnosed with Osteoporosis

By Inmaculada Cobo Soler, Spain. 

Three years ago, I was diagnosed with very advanced osteoporosis, which led me to enquire honestly about the relationship I had with my body.

I come from a family which fundamentally values two things: a person’s capacity to accomplish great academic achievements or, in the case of not having higher education, the ability to be acclaimed by a natural intelligence and work capacity. The body was a mere instrument to this end, and it could be subjected to sleepless days and nights if needed, sustaining itself with the help of coffee like my father did or, as I used to do, living off my nervous system.

After finishing my higher education and starting work, I did what I thought was taking care of my health by doing road cycling and running half-marathons. Also in the name of health I dedicated many years of my life to learn and practise different kinds of nutrition.

The common denominator of this path has been my body being tyrannised by the demands and wishes of my mind. From the moment I decided what I wanted to do with my body, and left no room for feeling and listening to what my body actually needed, what was supposed to be “healthy” stands as an external imposition, based on ideals and beliefs, and therefore becomes unhealthy.

It is paradoxical to witness how many different ways of caring for our bodies are offered to us nowadays and at the same time we see how illnesses proliferate.

Being diagnosed with osteoporosis

My first reaction when I was diagnosed with osteoporosis was disbelief and anger. Anger at having believed that all the time that I had dedicated to apparently taking care of myself was supposed to be a guarantee to avoid illness. Then, after I calmed down and became aware of the extreme frailty of my bones, I felt very sad and vulnerable.

Up to that time I had hardly used any medication, and suddenly I was facing this new, overwhelming situation. I needed to choose between different treatments, all of which had such potential side effects that I could be left facing even more illnesses.

Whenever the doctors talked about the state my body was in, I felt like it was foreign to me. Even though it seems absurd, I felt betrayed by my body. I connected with a lot of fear, distrusting myself, and with the temptation of playing the victim, hence burdening others with my illness and my doubts.

Establishing a new relationship with my body

I chose not to be a victim. I had to assume that my body was a stranger to me, that I needed to get to know. Little by little, without pushing myself or despairing, I’m establishing a new relationship with it, and with myself, as a result. It is the clearest mirror I have to look at myself.

My bones are regaining mass bit by bit. I don’t know how well they will evolve in the future. What I do know, however, is that my relationship with osteoporosis is a living experience from which I am learning. The first thing it produced was a great dose of humility, for it placed me where I was energetically, instead of where my mind thought I was. Meeting Serge Benhayon helped me achieve this. Opening myself to his esoteric reading of every organ, tissue and to the consciousness that was in each forgotten area of my body, allowed me to embrace the fact that each illness has a deep root that transcends the merely physiological reality.

When I asked him about osteoporosis, he told me that energetically osteoporosis is related to long term deep disregard and that healing requires full regard for myself with deep self-worth, care and nurturing. These were things I could work on myself as well as taking the advice of the medical doctors to treat my condition.

It took me a long time to realise that THE BODY DOESN’T LIE, that only our mind is capable of creating a mirage, which can make it look like I’m being ever more careful with myself, whilst I may be hiding a deep lack of acceptance and cherishing of my own self.

I have learned that we cannot deceive our body, for it only responds to love. The fact is that I had only taken just enough care of it for it to be useful to me, but I had not deeply respected it. This means that I had demanded too much of it, that I had at times abandoned it.

I have learned also that wisdom is truly wisdom if it stems from the body, and that this is only possible when there is an intimate, sensitive and loving listening to it.

It has been humbling to learn that my body never lies…. and it is thanks to Serge Benhayon that I have been inspired to develop an ever-deepening and loving relationship with myself and my body so that I can hear and heed its messages.

Read more:

  1. Osteoporosis and a lifetime of dairy consumption 
  2. Learning the meaning of osteoporosis
  3. Osteoporosis – how could this happen to me? 

377 thoughts on “The Body Doesn’t Lie – Being Diagnosed with Osteoporosis

  1. I am finding we can learn to connect our spines inside the body, and actually feel the energy on the inside. There is a warmth that can be felt coursing up and down the spine and it feels like a feedback message when it feels more alive and when it feels like it needs more nurturing.

  2. Deep self-care, self-worth and nurturing – what amazing things to be focussing on, thank you for the reminder for us all.

  3. “From the moment I decided what I wanted to do with my body this left no room for feeling and listening to what my body actually needed”. It really shuts the door on hearing what the body has to say, when we only listen to our mind and what we want to achieve. The mind can make us so driven and neglectful of the body, like joy riders driving recklessly in a car they will abandon.

  4. The body does not lie the problem is we often misinterpret what the body is telling us to suit what we want to hear.

  5. Being honest about how well we do or do not know our bodies, accepting, embracing and being humble about this, gives us a steady start to get to know this amazing, responsive, intelligent ‘vehicle’ we move around in and how remarkable its guidance and support can be.

  6. As your title demonstrates, the body doesn’t lie. It’s surprising then that so many of us get shocked by diagnoses that we feel don’t make sense to us. We haven’t been taught to deeply honour or value what our body can show us. We push on, in disregard, cos ‘that’s what everyone does.’ We can even be mocked for not drinking or refusing certain sweet treats – if we go against the general trend. Currently the mass obesity epidemic demonstrates just how far we have turned away from listening to our amazing bodies.

  7. The body is very honest and it loves to communicate, every move is a communication; it’s up to us to surrender and understand.

  8. This article really does offer a moment to ponder on the reality that in the world “many different ways of caring for our bodies are offered to us nowadays and at the same time we see how illnesses proliferate.” In fact, the ill-health of the world is sky-rocketing. We may have more medical advancements than ever before but are getting sicker and sicker. So, is it time to begin to accept the fact that “the body doesn’t lie” but the mind, which so much importance is placed on, does – all the time? I know which one I choose to listen to these days – it’s the one which doesn’t lie.

  9. Learning with my body is an on-going process which I deeply appreciate. I am receiving more messages with this appreciation and every one of my choices impact upon my next choice. It is a very precious learning. In it I can feel a deepening preciousness with myself no matter what happens.

  10. The body does not lie, so there is no getting away from the fact of the energetic diagnosis. But this empowers us Inmaculada to make the changes, and start to care for ourselves like never before. The body says yes, yes, yes please.

  11. Our body really is so honest – once we recognise its responsiveness, it becomes harder and harder to ignore, over ride or dismiss its responses to what we put into it and how we do or don’t look after it.

  12. When many of us receive a diagnosis that all is not well within our body, we often look for something outside of our selves to blame for the cause. But in her inspiring blog, Inmaculada shares with us how we are the creators, and therefore are responsible for all the ills which arise within us.

  13. I love the idea of loving ourselves to the bone, it reveals how our self care and self love is an ever refining or deepening process.

  14. “I have learned that we cannot deceive our body, for it only responds to love. The fact is that I had only taken just enough care of it for it to be useful to me, but I had not deeply respected it. This means that I had demanded too much of it, that I had at times abandoned it.”
    What a great realisation and a big wake up call for all us who read this blog.
    Our bodies are to be deeply respected, cared for and loved, anything less can not be acceptable.

  15. When we can develop a marker in our bodies for what harmony and stillness feel like we then have a reference point for our choices. For example, I overate yesterday. As a consequence, my sleep was disturbed and when I checked in with my body this morning it was harder to feel a connection with it. This is forcing me to look at the choices I made yesterday and to consider if the payoff of the indulgence was worth it!

  16. Indeed the body does not lie, it is straight forward, doesn’t beat around the bush, patient, always in communication and very accurate in what it is telling us. And so we think we must do whatever we can to drown out its voice by the way we live, for if we were to clearly hear it, we would not be able to deny our responsibility.

  17. The body does not lie but it does respond to Love. We can shower ourselves with Love Inmaculada: loving movements, loving thoughts, loving ourselves 24/7. The body really does love it.

  18. I think it’s great to review and re-evaluate the values that we hold and whether they really feel true to us or if there is more for us to consider and perhaps embrace…

  19. That my ‘body doesn’t lie’ was an understanding I didn’t come to until I was 55 and with a body that had suffered much from years of disregard through a myriad of un-loving choices. And it was Serge Benhayon who began to present about the wisdom and the preciousness of our bodies that woke me up to the reality that I could not go on treating it as I had in the past and keep on expecting to keep on going the way it always had done. That presentation was the biggest and the best stop moment ever, one that definitely changed my life and my relationship with this amazing body of mine.

    1. What Serge Benhayon has shared with us about the preciousness and intelligence of our bodies has inspired me to turn around what has been a very dismissive and abusive relationship with my body to one of building respect and reverence.

  20. The silver lining of receiving a diagnosis, is that it can initiate the establishment of a deeper relationship we can have with our body. This adjustment sets a new beginning and foundation of self care and self-love towards our body, ourselves and ultimately the relationship we have with others and life.

  21. What a wonderful foundation it would be in life to understand the communication of our bodies right from our childhood. I have observed recently that in general, we don’t seem to pay attention to our bodies until they start to ‘shout loudly’, often with physical pain or discomfort that we cannot ignore. But what if we listened to the earlier message, like a little bloating, a mild headache, discomfort etc? Might responding to these earlier messages actually mean we don’t need the ‘louder shouts’?

  22. Inmaculada, you have exposed the beliefs we all have around pushing ourselves through a lifetime of extreme physical exercise and focus on nutrition as building strong bones – a strong body. There is a wisdom offered that is with us all the time, whispering in our ear and communicating the choices we can make that will support a healthy life and this voice comes straight from the body. Living our ‘Fullness’ consist of so much more than academic achievements, the push involved in over exercising, running marathons, cycling and when we allow ourselves to be guided by the body it is so simple..

  23. ‘I have learned also that wisdom is truly wisdom if it stems from the body, and that this is only possible when there is an intimate, sensitive and loving listening to it.’ And this requires a loving relationship with my precious body letting go the disregard I have chosen too to live. Sometimes I catch myself in a moment where I want to push through for a good cause. For me it is about making another choice in those moments, to honour my body and to not go in this old pattern of neglecting my body.

  24. Serge Benhayon says, “the body never lies” and it is borne out by your account of osteoporosis and the insights you have gained. I wonder how hard an impact running was on your body, pounding the pavement and thinking it was good for you?

  25. We went very wrong when we started to put education and ‘intelligence’ before our true health and wellbeing. I love that Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine are turning the tide with this and making it about whole body intelligence once again.

  26. The deep levels of disregards we all carry with different elements of our lives show sooner or later and what you have shared here is the way in which we can learn from these opportunities and make more loving choices or choose to ignore and be left with more challenging life changes.

  27. At times it may be difficult to accept that our ‘body does not lie’, though with the honestly and embracing of this truth there is immense healing that can take place on many levels of our expression.

  28. “I have learned also that wisdom is truly wisdom if it stems from the body, and that this is only possible when there is an intimate, sensitive and loving listening to it” A beautiful sharing that is so inspiring to feel and know the relationship to loving ourselves our wisdom and the health of our body offering us the opportunity to take the power in our own hands by our honouring our living way.

  29. When we can start to change our old “beating ourselves up’ patterns and begin to love ourselves more and drop the judgements we have, it is the greatest thing energetically we can do to overcome the osteoporosis. Love ourselves literally to the bone!

  30. ‘I have learned also that wisdom is truly wisdom if it stems from the body, and that this is only possible when there is an intimate, sensitive and loving listening to it.’ And if I don’t listen, my body doesn’t stop communicating and this is what I am coming to understand to be true love, support, commitment and unwavering patience.

  31. “I have learned also that wisdom is truly wisdom if it stems from the body, and that this is only possible when there is an intimate, sensitive and loving listening to it.” . . . this makes perfect sense for if we do not have that intimate, sensitive and loving listening we miss the wisdom and can easily override the crucial messages the body is sending us. And this is all detrimental to our health, inner harmony and wellbeing.

  32. We have arrived at a point where there is almost an arrogance in the way we treat our body to the detriment of our connection to our soul. I recall also feeling that sense of being ‘betrayed by my body’ when the only betrayal was my complete disregard.

  33. A real sharing of the way we are taught to look after our bodies that is not true and can be seen as harsh when compared to lovingly listening to all it is telling us.The honesty from illness and disease and the true caring for ourselves, cherishing and nurturing all we are, makes all the difference to our lives that is never too late to start.

  34. Valuing our body and listening to its communication is often something we don’t do. We can be arrogant and think we know better, can push through and even expect the body to keep up with ridiculous demands and bad fuel. Then when an illness comes along to correct what has been done we can get resentful. Or we can do what Inmaculada has done and embrace what is on offer.

  35. What we think is good for ourselves without listening and feeling into what our bodies are continuously speaking loud and clear to us is a trap many of us have fallen for. As the title says “The Body Doesn’t Lie” and yet we so often dismiss it and override what we feel because it doesn’t fit the picture of the ideals and beliefs that we have conformed to. The intelligence of the body is a wonderful barometer of how we need to care for ourselves of what supports us and what is harming to us and all we have to do is truly listen to it and take heed.

  36. It is very empowering not to be victims of our ailments rather see them as a call to deepen our relationship with the body– with love, care and respect for every magical part.

    1. Victoria indeed it totally changes how we are with ourselves now and in the future. When we are sick and not sick. The part we play and the fact that we have been not living very loving for a long time.

  37. The humility in your writing is deeply beautiful Inmaculada. Dropping the arrogance of the intellect can be challenging when we have let it rule the roost for many many lifetimes. Huge respect and appreciation for going for it.

  38. “….my body being tyrannised by the demands and wishes of my mind.” A perfect description of what so many of us don’t want to hear. For in hearing it we realise that it is up to us to take responsibility for everything in our lives, very much including our bodies.

  39. It is interesting how we can feel betrayed by our bodies when in reality it is us who have often over riden or neglected what the body needs to be cherished and honoured.

  40. “When I asked him about osteoporosis, he told me that energetically osteoporosis is related to long term deep disregard and that healing requires full regard for myself with deep self-worth, care and nurturing” – what an absolute blessing to have this energetic read Inmaculada.

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