Quality of life or quality in life?

by HR professional in healthcare, London UK. 

In medicine, and in life, ‘quality of life’ can be used as a measure or as a way of making decisions.

Quality of life has many definitions including:

  • “The general well-being of a person or society, defined in terms of health and happiness, rather than wealth.” (1)
  • “The standard of health, comfort, and happiness experienced by an individual or group.” (2)
  • “The patient’s ability to enjoy normal life activities.” (3)
  • “The degree of satisfaction an individual has regarding a particular style of life.” (4)
  • “A patient’s general well-being, including mental status, stress level, sexual function, and self-perceived health.” (5)

In health, decisions can be made based on quality of life e.g. helping patients make decisions about treatments, decisions about a care pathway through a particular illness, disease, or surgery, and decisions about end of life care. In our lives we can also make healthy living decisions about our quality of life – e.g. exercise, countryside walks, certain foods or nutrients. We also make quality of life decisions based on where we live e.g. to live in the countryside or in a certain town or village, and about what type of work or where we work e.g. flexible hours, or somewhere that is easy to commute to.

Whilst these conversations and decisions are important, do we ever consider our quality in life?

What if our quality in life is equal to or more important than our quality of life?

What’s the difference between our quality of life and our quality in life?

As with the definitions above, quality of life would seem to relate to two things –the quality of life based on an individual’s sense of wellbeing (e.g. what gives them a sense of wellbeing and what doesn’t – does having their family close by support them, or, do they like to live in the countryside, or by the sea), and also what is important to them in daily life about the way they function e.g. if they have a health condition, a clinician may want to understand from the patient which parts of the patient’s life are impacted and what matters to them most in their life at that time. For example, a patient may be asked if they prefer a drug that is effective for their medical condition but has a side effect versus a different care regime that has no drugs or side effects but is perhaps less effective.

What then is our quality in life? Whilst we each have a physical body, we are far grander than we realise and there is much more to us than our body. We are more than physical flesh as we are first and foremost a spark of divine light. This spark of light is our true essence, from which comes our true quality.  Every one of us, no matter what walk of life, or age, or gender has an inner essence, which we can each connect to and it is living in connection with our inner essence that enables our true quality – our divine quality – to be expressed.

So how does this relate to living our quality in life or living a quality of life?

We can choose to live life in disconnection to our inner essence, which is living in disconnection to our divine quality. In living this way, we are denying our multidimensionality, living functionally in a physical body, but, living in a way that is reduced from, and in separation to, the whole of who we are.

Energetically this is a primary cause of illness and disease, as we are living away from our true self.  If we live in this way, our wellbeing and quality of life is often based on bettering our functional physical body, and bettering our life e.g. our homes, social lives, material possessions, jobs, and making the best we can of the life we have – whatever we value in life, we make the most of it.


We can choose to live life in connection to our inner essence, our divine quality, and as we move our body throughout our daily life, wherever we work or live, whatever our circumstance, our quality is with us – as we are that living quality, a quality that we then bring to all aspects of life, whether cutting up vegetables, cleaning our teeth, or serving customers as we work. Through living and breathing this quality, we are a living quality in life, and the ripple effect of this is that it emanates throughout our life – so that our quality of life is based on what has been first been lived as our quality in life.

Put simply, when we live a life disconnected to our divine quality we have a life where we are searching for quality from outside of us and we are constantly seeking to feed a feeling of emptiness, or imbalance or disharmony that we can feel – and we try and fill it up with material possessions, or great holidays, or bettering how our physical health is.

When we live a life in connection to our divine quality, we realise we are already everything, and whilst it is honouring to live and work in a way that is nourishing and confirming of our quality, we are not seeking outside of ourselves for something, as we can already feel a warmth and connection from within – we are living our quality in life – living from inside out.

I wonder how different the world would be if we were to all choose to live our quality in life? It is likely that we would not need all the entertainment and, for instance, some of the material possessions that we have nowadays. It is also possible that illness and disease would not be rising exponentially as it is now, as, in living our quality in life, we would be learning to live a life from inside out – and from this, we would take a far greater care of our physical body and how we lived our lives in every way.

In the words of modern day philosopher Serge Benhayon: (6)

“Body function and body harmony –

It is for all of us to learn this major difference.”


Surely this is a conversation worth having?

What if quality in life is the way to ensure a true quality of life?




  1. https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/quality-of-life
  2. Oxford Dictionaries Accessed 29th August 2017
  3. http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=11815 Accessed 29th August 2017
  4. Miller-Keane Encyclopedia and Dictionary of Medicine, Nursing, and Allied Health, Seventh Edition. 2003 by Saunders, an imprint of Elsevier, Inc.
  5. http://medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/quality+of+life accessed 29th August 2017
  6. Serge Benhayon, Esoteric Teachings & Revelations: A New Study for Mankind, Unimed Publishing 2011



650 thoughts on “Quality of life or quality in life?

  1. I love this invitation to look deeper into what we actually mean when we talk about quality. Most of my life I have considered quality to be something that is measured according to externally defined parameters, yet more I am observing that quality is actually something felt, and far too often something that ticks all the boxes is not what it seems when I let myself feel deeper and honour my ability to tell the difference.

    1. good point Golnaz, quality is often measured by wealth and social status. The quality that is spoken of here is one that comes from an inner sense of joy, wellbeing, vitality, love and harmony.

  2. Our bodies are very good at function but we often feel that the harmony is what is truly missing. When we choose to marry the two we have the vitality that the body is naturally able to offer.

  3. When we make each moment about a certain quality then we end up living a life that is full of quality. The quality of life then reflects the quality in each moment of life.

  4. Quality in life or quality of life might seemingly be very similar, but when you break them down they are like the difference between chalk and cheese or the land and ocean.

  5. This makes total sense. If we take care of the quality that we move in then every moment in our body can be lovely. We can take good care of our ‘quality in life’.

  6. This blog is also one to consider in aged care and how far we will take treatment of the terminally ill. Sometimes the last period in life is so consumed by medical treatment that all quality is lost.

    1. That is a very good point Carolien! Quality is what remains when you die and reincarnate. We should much more take focus on how we accompany someone who is passing over, as this period is crucial. And to add: How much do we actually try to get elder, sick people out of our sight, so that we don´t need to see and care about, what consequences our living causes. If we don´t support each other and feel the responsibility in all ways, no matter what age, pulling each other up, we will stay in the loop for disregard and unloving choices.

  7. I love coming back to this blog as to me it is the ‘to be or not to be’ question. Will we “be” and live life from quality or will we ‘not be’ and be propelled forth by our hurts, desires and needs leaving us with little more than survival.

  8. The approach to living life ‘from the inside out’ as Jane has suggested here really turns things on their head when it comes to all those ‘self-help’ books out their on the market (many of which I had investigated) because they all seem to promote a ‘betterment’ of people’s lives and come from a focus of ‘how to get this or that in one’s life, rather than simply coming from the knowing that we are all much more than a physical body, so how can anything in the physical reality alone ever truly bring us contentment or harmony in our bodies?

  9. When I think about “quality of life” what comes to me is how to better my life- material possessions, holidays, a bigger home, new car etc. However, “quality in life” asks me to search and connect within- listen to my body, become more honest and responsible in my choices.

  10. We are being fooled or better we are fooling ourselves that life only gets better when we have a better house, better car, better living circumstances, better access to family and friends and so on, even though when being honest none of this truly matters when we don’t feel good in ourselves.

  11. I totally believed in the past that the body was only there to function, missing out on its delicacy and ability to feel what is really happening in life.

  12. It is very interesting to observe someone who lives with ‘quality in life’, and someone who lives a ‘quality of life’. SImply by their movements it is possible to feel the difference, as living with quality in life there is no imposition on anyone or anything around them, whereas the opposite is true when living a quality of life, even though it may not be in that persons conscious awareness.

  13. Like a pauper who suddenly wins the lottery, it seems it’s hard for us to accept quality when we have only known emptiness for so long. Overcome the change and awkward transition and there’s a bank of joy to be enjoyed.

  14. I’m not sure many people have stopped to consider that living in a way that is not in harmony with our bodies is a direct cause of illness and disease. How many times do we override our bodies and go for what we think we should do? All of this adds up – and thus the quality we have is diminished by our own choices.

    1. Great point HM – as most people know there is a ’cause and effect’ in that if I over eat, I don’t feel too good, yet, why then is it that we still over eat the next time and the time after that?

  15. I love the way you make quality about an inner quality of being within and not just the appearances around us. When we make it within we are truly more enriched and full-filled.

  16. Yes Jane when we seek outside of ourselves we dis-connect to the pure and all encompassing beings that we are. We are in effect saying we are not enough. To return and bring our focus within and the quality of this connection with the understanding that we are everything and much more than we will ever need to be.

  17. Life changes immeasurably when we come to know that we are a “divine spark of light” and that “This spark of light is our true essence, from which comes our true quality.” To know this to be true and to always hold this, allows us to remain connected to our essence, all of who we are. And living in this connection is what naturally brings the quality that supports us in life.

  18. When I teach people how to walk again after injuries, which is part of my job, I have for many years suggested quality not quantity in this process such that the walking becomes the therapy – now I am discovering even more about true quality of movement that relates to all our lives.

  19. Such an important distinction made here. If we choose to bring the true quality of our being to life, it makes a huge difference to our experiences. Even the mundane ‘comes alive’, because we are bringing our aliveness to all that we do. What a great thing to realise.

  20. My quality in life changes the instant I make a choice to move gently, speak lovingly, choose to listen to my body, or simply accept life as it is. I start to glow. It is worth every ounce of awareness and every ounce of commitment to feel the change of energy in my body and my life.

  21. When we are young we think our bodies are going to last forever so we don’t take into account that how well we care for ourselves today will reflect in our overall quality of life . . .. right throughout our life. As a woman over 60 who did not always take great care of myself I know that it is also never too late to start.

  22. Jane I love this and have been exploring this since being introduced to Serge Benhayon 14yrs ago and with out a shadow of a doubt the quality in the way we live has an immediate effect on how we feel and connect in life. When I am not connected to my essence within, my Soul I can feel how much of a disturbance this really is and remind myself to come back. The level of tension and stress immediately settles and is released.

  23. Observing the latter parts of life for many of our elderly, perhaps in a care home, perhaps bedridden, perhaps not knowing who they are, the question has to be asked, is being alive at any cost really worth it?

  24. Our quality in life can either be in drive and nervous tension or in presence with the moment. The first creates more tension and ill ease in the body and mind and the latter allows us to respond more to life rather than react.

  25. What is the point in having a life that looks amazing but that doesn’t have the depth of commitment, care, quality, integrity and high standards that we deserve to live every single day. Commitment, quality and having high standards should be part of our every-day health care. For example we know if we don’t give our day our full commitment we don’t feel complete at the end of the day and we can’t settle and that massively affects the way we sleep. It shows us that we can’t separate the quality we choose to live our life in and our health – it’s actually impossible.

  26. Do a simple task, then do it again and you will find it’s possible to go deeper with the quality. A small thing can be done in a million ways – so if we find our life is lacking quality then it’s clear what needs to change – go deeper with the moves that we make.

  27. It is awesome you are sharing this Jane, not many people in our society are aware of what you are exposing. It is important to understand how we choose to Iive as in our quality in life can affect our quality of life. To me this is so clear but it hasn’t always been clear for me until recent years. It is thanks to blogs like yours, and thanks to the teachings and presentations by Serge Benhayon that I started to truly understand life, who we are and how incredible amazing we all are.

  28. I have no doubt that the world we live in would be a very different place if we chose to live a ‘quality in life’ as the way we live would be paramount rather than what we do to have a ‘quality of life’.

  29. A beautiful sharing and topic of conversation that would bring the reality of life and our true living quality as our way of living and simply being the love and beauty we are with the appreciation and joy this brings to our lives and everyone truly.

  30. Improvements to our quality of life happen quite naturally and by themselves, when we focus on the quality we are in and bring to each moment in life.

  31. “Quality of life or quality in life?” An interesting invitation to look at the difference between the two. Quality of life speaks of the life we have set up for ourselves, whereas quality in life suggests a deeper experience where we can focus on how we are living life. The two are very different.

  32. Quality of life is important to us. We know when we are simply existing as opposed to living our life in full. The problem is that we have made quality of life about what we can do, rather than the quality of our being. If we make this the central point first, as I have seen people with serious illnesses do, then we can still have amazing quality of life.

  33. Whatever life throws at us we can choose to remain steady instead of jumping into reaction. If we make the event more important than our quality we can lose ourselves. If we focus on our quality in any given situation we are more able to handle life.

    1. ‘If we make the event more important than our quality we can lose ourselves’ I have been in that situation so many times, putting something or someone before the honouring of myself and the quality that I have chosen to live in. It always ends in disaster….that is lack of true love and complications.

  34. There is a HUGE conversation to be had about the different between good function, and true quality. It’s a conversation every individual on the planet needs to have with themselves, and it would be nice to think that was supported by our education or health system, but they tend to stop at function. I honestly believe the conversation will happen, whether we choose that voluntarily, or it is forced on us by a health crisis or on society by a health system crisis.

  35. We have elevated function to be the marker of health when it leaves us well short of the grace of living a known quality in life, every moment and in everything we do.

  36. Watching the quality of life deteriorate for the elderly is demoralising beyond words. Finishing your life not knowing who you are, and living in a bed watching TV for hours a day. Could this be a fate worse than death?
    What is happening in our world if this is the way many elderly people end up.

    1. I have been volunteering in an elder care home and the staff are so pushed for time that although they care very well for residents’ personal needs, there is not always time to care for their individual psychological or social needs. A large TV, DVDs and familiar songs and music are all used when they are short staffed and the residents could just sit there, which is not great, so volunteers are always welcome as they can interact with individuals or entertain the whole group with singing, reading or some other activity. It is very different from the community type of care where elders are with their families and surrounded by family life.

  37. “I wonder how different the world would be if we were to all choose to live our quality in life?” A lot more still I would think.

  38. It is really not difficult but is a very profound decision to choose, to live a quality in life, bringing that quality from the inside out to everything we do. It feels very different from being on the receiving end of life.

  39. Quality in life anyday of the week, what a staggering change for our overall society when we embrace the quality in life that we can all have.

  40. To restore a quality in life is to re-connect to the stillness, sacredness and grace within that then is lived from the inside out in our movement and expression.

  41. I am changing over my life style to be in the quality of life rather than the quantity of life. And I have noticed how everything is becoming simpler as I move through my day. And I feel very stable within myself which feels solid and grounded and opposed to being in a rush not completing tasks, and feeling that at times everything is too much and I need a break.

  42. The ‘quality of life’ seems to suggest or encourage a belief about the comforts and material aspects of life… what life can offer us… whereas ‘quality in life’ invites me to consider my responsibility, purpose and how I can serve and support a bigger picture than my own nest.

    1. Matilda, I think you’ve nailed it with what you share, the fact is when we have a quality in life it’s not about the instant feeling of how comfortable and better am I, but rather something much bigger and much more real.

  43. It’s actually the greatest gift that we have the power to choose the quality we live and move in. It means we do not have to accept what life throws at us and react to it. We can observe and then choose how we want to move. In this way we do not take stuff on, and have complete command of how we feel. It is a powerful tool for life.

  44. “….in living our quality in life, we would be learning to live a life from inside out ….” Very true, rather than living from what the world is offering us from the outside and taking that in.

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