The Evil of Hope

by Fiona Lotherington, Registered Nurse and Complementary Health Practitioner, Northern NSW. 

You may think that the word evil is extreme when describing the effect of hope. Yet I define evil as anything that holds back our growth and development and anything which perpetuates the separation from the truth of who we are or which delays the healing needed to return to our essence. Defined in this way, evil and hope are perfect bedfellows.

I was recently listening to a friend talk about his experience with his partner who had died many years ago from breast cancer. As he shared the details of the events around her illness and eventual death, the word ‘hope’ came up several times. Each time I heard this word, I experienced a growing sense of dis-ease, as I became aware of what a detrimental role hope had played in her illness and death.

For a moment this surprised me, as hope is normally considered to be a virtue. Like a warm coat in winter, it is used to comfort ourselves or other people when we are ‘down on our luck’. It is common to hear people say, “I hope you get better soon” or “don’t give up hope” and consider this a kindness. We give generously to charities dedicated to researching medical conditions, in the hope that a cure will be discovered.

When I looked at the definition of hope, it spoke of having an expectation or desire for something to happen or wishing for a positive outcome. Reading these words confirmed for me the evil of hope and how it could wreak such havoc in our lives.

In the case of my friend and his partner, the hope they clung to prevented them from accepting the diagnosis or the reality of the rapidly growing breast cancer.  The searching and hoping kept them focused in the future, believing they would eventually find a cure. But in reality, this chase was a distraction from dealing with the severity and urgency of the situation. Like a magician’s trick, hope distracted them, drawing their attention away from what was really taking place before their eyes.

Hope allows us to stay stuck in a loop, repeating patterns and cementing beliefs that do not heal the root cause of our illness. In hoping that ‘something’ will change, we avoid taking responsibility for these patterns we are stuck in. Instead we place our hopes outside of us and wait for the elusive cure, the great healer or the latest treatment. This outward focus means that we never look inside to see what this illness means for us or the part we have played in it. We miss the opportunity to heal the root cause that this illness is presenting.

In the end, hope leaves us surprised and completely unprepared when the reality of dying inevitably hits home.  All the denial, all the hope is revealed for what it is; illusion and delay. Suddenly with only days left, my friend and his partner were met with everything they had avoided facing. Hope had prevented them from using the precious time leading up to her death to heal and prepare for her passing.

As a nurse and friend, I have seen that there is so much to be healed and gained through the palliative care process, not only for the person who is dying but everyone around them.  Surrendering to and taking responsibility for the process, supports the looking at, dealing with and healing of old patterns, deepening of relationships and completing anything left outstanding from this life.  In this way, we are released from these impediments and left free to move on.

What better way to prepare for our next life?

Read more:

  1. What is Evil? 
  2. The way we are living is killing us.
  3. What if reincarnation is true? 

 

 

878 thoughts on “The Evil of Hope

  1. This is one of my all-time favourite blogs because it so well describes the illusion I was under when I first met Serge Benhayon. What I did not understand at that time was how truly ‘evil’ were many ways of being and behaving that looked ‘so good’ – including hope. I did not fully grasp that anything not coming from truthful love was in fact magnifying untruth and lovelessness in the world. Now it is very obvious, but not when I was still in its thrall. So I love the way you open this blog Fiona with this explanatory paragraph: ‘You may think that the word evil is extreme when describing the effect of hope. Yet I define evil as anything that holds back our growth and development and anything which perpetuates the separation from the truth of who we are or which delays the healing needed to return to our essence. Defined in this way, evil and hope are perfect bedfellows.’

    1. And for me hope is also quite sinister in the way that it masquerades itself as something so good. Hey but then again ‘good’ is also cut from exactly the same cloth as hope, as is being charitable, national pride, being kind, being nice, having a comfortable life, self sacrifice…….there’s a whole swathe of things set up purely with the intention of drawing us deeper into the illusion of life and away from its truth.

  2. ‘ Wow Fiona you have really uncovered what hope truly is and the evil in it, It is a way to avoid what is there in reality to not feel what we need to heal, to not open up we separate from each other.It leaves us without feeling the power we have if we are with ourselves in the moment.

  3. “‘You may think that the word evil is extreme when describing the effect of hope…”This is a perfect word to describe ‘hope’, and the fact that this description may seem to be extreme to some, only exposes the fact how dumbed-down we have become to the true meaning, the quality and acceptance of a lesser intrepretation of words.

  4. Thank you Fiona… The opening the awareness of the word evil, bringing into discussion that this is in fact anything that holds us back… Gosh this really does open up the floodgates doesn’t it.

  5. In terms of the way the world habitually sees it, your opening statement would seem quite a challenge, Fiona: ‘You may think that the word evil is extreme when describing the effect of hope. Yet I define evil as anything that holds back our growth and development and anything which perpetuates the separation from the truth of who we are or which delays the healing needed to return to our essence.’ Yet how true that statement is. Evil is not just those dark and back acts such as, murder, torture etc. but are those ‘good’ things at the opposite end of the spectrum that shine with a false, deluding light – things such as ‘hope’ which you have shown beyond a doubt contributes to the world of illusion.

  6. Knowing that we can only make different choices from the present moment and forward, better to be inspired by a different way of living than having faith in something external to us.

  7. What an unpopular thing it is to say that “hope” is not our greatest ally, but sometimes the truth is not popular for it offers a great responsibility that we ultimately all have, which is the responsibility of our way of living.

  8. Evil is a challenging word to use in reference to hope, but anything that stops us from feeling what is happening in our bodies, or creates a picture / desire for what is happening right now is a distraction. A distraction from Truth and therefore from God… and hence the word evil.

  9. ‘In the end, hope leaves us surprised and completely unprepared when the reality of dying inevitably hits home. ‘ – Well shared. Hope feels laced with pictures and expectations. But if we can start to open up the conversation, talk about death and passing over, then it starts to support everyone involved. Death becomes something we go into fully aware of and knowing how to support friends and family.

  10. The evil of hope is that it keeps us in a perpetual state of desire and thereby robs us of true settlement in the body.

  11. ‘When I looked at the definition of hope, it spoke of having an expectation or desire for something to happen or wishing for a positive outcome.’ It is true that of course at some level we as human beings like things to turn out well (or not, if one is into drama) but when a magnifying glass is held to that notion it is clear to see, as you have pointed out Fiona, that such thinking is all part of a sculpting of thought which closes off the avenues of true openness and responsivity to what is on offer i.e. the desire behind hope is for safety rather than the magic of life itself.

  12. When I visited a friend in hospital not that long ago I was observing those around and how everyone was with there loved ones hoping things will turn out ok and that will be well. Part of the process of truly healing is to really be honest and take responsibility for what we have chosen that has got us to that point. This can be too much for some people and not want to look at it, others give it ago.

  13. I can understand why we sometimes use hope instead of feeling the truth which might be not so nice or easy to swallow yet, just like have a bit of sweet cake is nicer than to feel things we don’t want to feel, in the end the truth will come to the surface. Then we often wish we would have been real or not have the cake as in the example. What is great to do in these examples is feel why we chose it, what it gives us and if this is really supporting for the long run from this I found it is easier to take a step back and make another choice without it just being a ‘cake is not good for me’ thought from the mind but coming from a real understanding that the comfort that cake gives is actually nothing compared to joy and love in my body when I make supportive choices for my body.

  14. Looking back on my own life, I can see how much emphasis I put on hope in so many situations. I can clearly see how this was just wasted time and energy and was just a way of delaying the inevitable.

    1. Well said Sandra! I lived in hope for many years in a marriage which was never going to change – too fearful to exit because I could see no alternative, and needed the ‘safety’ of that at the time. I was uncommitted to life and just wanted to fly under the radar and get through – even though this life looked very successful. But what a waste of time and delay.

  15. Engaging in hope is almost like burying one’s head on the sand. It is a blind distraction away from our responsibility in life – and faith is often used in exactly the same idealistic way. Truth simply IS and we can all have access to it.

  16. Beautiful sharing of your experience that is invaluable in the face of the many ill beliefs we are surrounded by in life.

  17. Hope is like putting a ‘do not disturb’ sign on your life and asking responsibility and evolution to come back when you’re free. It postpones you facing the facts and dealing with what you need to see. Hope is a phantom the world could well do without. Thank you Fiona for sharing the truth.

  18. It may be a stretch given the obvious evil we see in society but it is clear to be true from the authority and clarity of this blog.

  19. “As a nurse and friend, I have seen that there is so much to be healed and gained through the palliative care process, not only for the person who is dying but everyone around them. Surrendering to and taking responsibility for the process, supports the looking at, dealing with and healing of old patterns, deepening of relationships and completing anything left outstanding from this life.” What a valuable time this is. A time to be deeply treasured, as there is so much opportunity for healing past hurts, leaving a clear energetic pathway for the next life.

  20. We can even go into hoping that people will like us or that we will be accepted. Hope really does leave us dangling with a gaping hole. If we drop the attachment to being liked or accepted this frees us up to simply get on with our own life, in our own way, being true to ourselves. In this way we can get our strength back and return to our own power.

  21. ‘All the denial, all the hope is revealed for what it is; illusion and delay.’ Yes hope is part of the warp and weft of the veil of illusion and when the reality of the consequences of how we have been living hits, hope is revealed in all its evil.

  22. Great point Fiona: “In hoping that ‘something’ will change, we avoid taking responsibility for these patterns we are stuck in.” Yes, and we are entirely giving away our power to some nebulous force out there that is going to come and make everything better (by ‘good luck’??). We are our own saviours and this is powered through us taking responsibility (as you say), being open, and getting to the root cause of the ill situation.

  23. Certainly as a fellow healthcare worker it has also been my experience to see the enormous freedom that acceptance of one’s situation – no matter how grave – can bring, rather than be in the delay, distraction and battles of trying to change things that simply have gone too far. Then, as you say, the focus can be applied to what is now important with that new awareness.

  24. Wow this really is a very well written article, such an easy read, straight to the point and loaded with real life experience and the truth of the matter – that hope is a poison and one so many of us have drank far too readily.

  25. Yes ‘hope’ certainly belongs to the world of our own creation and not to God’s. It belongs to the world of ‘comfort’ and ‘kind’ wishes for people to get better when the most spectacular and amazing clearing may be occurring which will bring a ‘clean slate’ for the person to begin living and moving in the Field of God again. This is not to say that we don’t do everything within our capability to support and love that person through the difficulty – whatever that may be.

  26. The law of karma is based on huge Love and so what comes to us in our life in terms of health and all else is there to support us in every way – and that can be to clear us physically of the momentums and ways in which we have been living our lives so that we can start afresh and learn to live from our essential spark. By not facing this squarely and instead entering the never-never realm of hope we deny what is on offer.

  27. “When I looked at the definition of hope, it spoke of having an expectation or desire for something to happen or wishing for a positive outcome.” for me when I had ‘hope’ as part of my life it meant that I was not willing to take the various steps that I knew, to make different choices but instead I would continue doing the same but hoping things would change. Very dangerous when I look back on it!

    1. So true DN. I too spent much of my life hoping that something would change to ‘suit me’, rather than making different choices for myself that would then initiate changes to support me and everyone else. When life is lived from this perspective, it is literally amazing what can open up for us, and very quickly reveals and exposes the true ‘evil of hope’.

      1. Yes Sandra and DN, hope can be an arguing with or denial of reality that is enormously draining of energy and a total distraction from being present with the choices of the moment. This reminds me of younger days playing a card game where I learned how stagnant it felt to wait for a certain card to come up on the table rather than get on with my deck, turning the cards over two at a time and getting on with playing my hand and all the other opportunities that can then come my way. Hope can paralyse us from moving forward and living the truth that is unfolding.

  28. This is one of the most important blogs written Fiona. Hope forms such a pillar of the good illusion which is one of the main obstacles to humanity ever leaving its reduced plane of ‘existence’ and evolving with The Livingness – a way of life based on Love not hope.

  29. There is little hope in us changing our future circumstances unless we address our ill choices that were not made in a quality of love.

  30. Throughout my life I have never seen anyone truly helped by giving them hope. All it does is assist them to deny what they in fact know and feel.

  31. ‘Hope’ is a part of what has been revealed to humanity as the destructive, deceiving ‘ good illusion’. Many years ago when I first came up north, I remember in a healing session Serge Benhayon asking me what I experienced when playing a particular piece of music on the piano and I said I could feel in the music the rumblings of war and then sections when it was lifted by hope. He pointed out to me the illusory nature of hope and this was particularly clear to me . . . and I asked ‘Is that like people thinking that you can have paradise on earth?’ and he confirmed that.

  32. After reading this article, what came to me was the following question: When people are hoping for something to change, say with their diagnosis of a terminal illness as described in this blog, just what or who are they waiting on to make this change. Obviously this brings to light people’s faith in a higher power supporting and healing them in a miraculous way. But what if that higher power or God is using that illness or disease as a clearing of energy that does not belong to the body and an opportunity for that person to look deeper into the choices they have made that lead to the accumulation of that energy to the point that it eventually manifested in a terminal illness? If viewed in this way, the disease is actually a blessing, not a curse.

  33. What a brilliant article Fiona: ‘Like a magician’s trick, hope distracted them, drawing their attention away from what was really taking place before their eyes’. Hope is exactly a magician trick of distraction! And from the start we are all programmed to see hope as a ‘good thing’ but as you have so astutely pointed out, hope is exactly the opposite of true good, even though it appears ‘good’. Our whole race has been traced by the ‘good’ which is not true good, but just an appearance of it – a conjuring trick.

  34. When my mother died many years ago, hope was everything for me. It seemingly helped me to cope with the very sudden situation. And I agree, everyone would say, what a positive way to go with the dramatic circumstances. But it wasn´t – instead it was a perfect way to not feel. To not allow vulnerability, to hide behind a movement that sells me “good” feelings but no true feelings.

  35. We can become lost when we have an expectation of how life should be, so it follows that hoping for something is part of that expectation or picture we hold.

  36. ‘We miss the opportunity to heal the root cause that this illness is presenting.’ And in doing this we give up to ‘hope’ in a particular favourable outcome from the illness or situation. We do this resigned to the fact that it will be determined by the situation itself and that it came about by a set of circumstances beyond our control, however the opposite is true. We create the circumstances and the resulting outcome and therefore can also change this path we are on and learn from it all through our choices. Hope = zero responsibility.

  37. It’s great to look more closely at these words faith hope and charity and feel into what they are really conveying.

  38. This is a great subject to bring up as the other day I heard some news that a guy I knew from my school days had been diagnosed with cancer and my immediate reaction was oh I hope it’s not terminal or I hope he can beat it and then this blog sprung to mind, which definitely got me thinking about it in a different way.

  39. Hope keeps us hanging on to an illusion rather than facing facts where we can make informed decisions about how we would like to pass over, and we get the opportunity to look at the choices that led us there.

  40. It’s great to look more closely at these words we use .. faith hope and charity and feel into what they are really conveying

  41. When times are tough, hope comes in like a saviour promise, shining its light and offering salvation. There is hope and so there is a glimmer of chance that everything just might be alright. And I can see how this is an illusion, how hope serves to distract us away from seeing what is really going on, away from feeling what is really there to be felt, because with a saviour light that comes from an outer source, we are forever enchanted by it and beholden to it. But when there is a turning in to our own light, the sacred esoteric light within, then there is no need for hope, because all is as it should be, and tough times are understood to be part of the re-balancing and healing processes of life. We can embrace our inner-light and re-ignite our wisdom, therefore giving way for a more profound understanding of difficult situations.

  42. A comical way of looking at the word hope could be to break it down to single letters like, H= hold, O=on, P=please, E=everyone as this is basically what we do when we spread the use of the word hope in religious groups and so on, keeping us all held in its unnatural and unloving grip.

  43. This really highlight the harm in offering people ‘hope’ in any given situation which delay them in coming to the truth and taking responsibility for the situation they find themselves in.

  44. Hope is like holding onto a tightrope where you can lose your grip at any moment. This creates anxiety in the body and this is not supportive in any way, shape or form.

    1. Hope is a total disempowerment. And great comment: it does not come from a body that is at ease, it feeds constant anxiety, as you don´t know if the end result you are wishing will come true or not. Instead of going with everything that is there to see and accept and trusting being equipped to deal with anytime.

  45. As you say hope is so often a fantasy, allowing us to dodge looking at how we are truly living and what is really going on. How are we going to live or die in the truth of ourselves if we live like this?

  46. I grew up believing that hope was good, in fact it’s touted as being as good as good gets. So we humans spend all our money and hope to win lotto, get really sick and hope we get better, mess up the house and hope someone else cleans it, buy lots of plastic garbage and hope someone fixes pollution, refuse to love ourselves and hope somebody else will … sounds like a recipe for disaster.

    1. This just confirms that everything about hope is related to an ideal or expectation that something outside of us will sort out/cure/fix whatever it is that is an issue or problem in our lives. Whereas if we live by what we know is true all the time, we dont need to look anywhere apart from inside ourselves, as therein lies all the answers we need.

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