Abortion – a responsibility.

by Gyl Rae, teacher, Scotland. 

Recently I had a session with a very wise Esoteric Practitioner around my need to have children. What came up in our discussion was the question: had I ever been in a relationship where we seriously talked about having kids? I hadn’t, but I had had two abortions when I was younger, that if I am honest, I carried guilt around for years, and didn’t want people to know about in case of what they thought about me.

These thoughts can come from pictures, beliefs and ideals we are fed that having an abortion is the ending of life, from the imposition of the world’s ideals and beliefs and the Church – all of which can come through both women and men, where we are told a woman does not have rights over what she can do with her own body and the choices she makes.

Just recently, 4th of February 2017 – under a new law passed in the state of Arkansas, in the USA1, “A pregnant woman’s husband will have the power to stop her from having an abortion, even in cases of spousal rape”. How far lost are we that we can pass a law that allows a man to rape a woman and stop her from aborting the child? In this one law we are saying rape, abuse, and controlling a woman and her body are okay.

This is very similar to the control of a woman’s body and the lessening of women that we have seen throughout the ages in many institutionalised religions across the world, whereby, for example, women are deemed to be dirty when they have their periods, or that they are the lesser sex. Some may say, but ‘it’s her husband, of course he has a right’, but rape is rape no matter who commits the crime. Not to mention the fact that it is the woman’s body, therefore her choice.

Would we be allowed to pass a law giving women the right to stop their partners or boyfriend having a vasectomy? I think not. We would never be allowed to control or tell a man what to do with his reproductive organs – so why are women being denied the same right to choose?

Abortion laws and debates have been going on for a long time, we all know the cases we read about across the world every day, from abortion being illegal in Northern Ireland, even in cases of rape, or incest, the only time it is legally allowed is if the woman’s life is at risk – in fact in Ireland, both North and South, abortion is criminalised in most circumstances2 – to the new USA legislation that the recent President of America has passed stopping funding from foreign aid or non government organisations from supporting women financially to have abortions.3 Not to mention three bills passed, see below, in Indiana State that would restrict a women’s access to abortion.4 And note these are not all passed by men.

 

  • Senate Bill 404, authored by Sens. Erin Houchin, Travis Holdman and Jeff Raatz, would impose restrictions on minors seeking abortions by removing, in some cases, a judge’s ability to ensure their privacy. Along with requiring parental consent, the bill would make it a criminal offence for a physician or a religious leader to counsel a minor on whether or not to have an abortion.

 

  • House Bill 1128, authored by Rep. Ronald Bacon, would require that a pregnant woman be informed orally and in writing before a chemical abortion that the procedure could be reversed or stopped.

 

  • Senate Bill 118, authored by Sens. Dennis Kruse and Liz Brown, would require a mandatory ultrasound before an abortion, and, notably, the bill would require the pregnant woman to view the foetal ultrasound imaging and listen to foetal sounds. Currently women can opt out of this procedure.

Note – The ultrasound mentioned above is transvaginal and is not medically required, thus it is subjecting women to an invasive and unnecessary procedure in an attempt to psychologically and emotionally manipulate her, or some might say, to bully her to change her decision.

Opponents to the bills say, “the bills serve no medical purpose and their sole purpose is to restrict women’s access to abortion.” “These bills are so unnecessary and don’t contribute to the safety of the procedure,” said Sue Ellen Braunlin, co-director of the Indiana Religious Coalition for Reproductive Justice. 4

Do any of the anti-abortion bills, lobbies, demonstrations, charities, companies really take into account the feeling and choice of the woman and her body – or are they solely built on ideals and beliefs from institutionalised religions, with many of them more in keeping with the Dark Ages than the 21st Century?

What if having an abortion was actually taking a deep level of responsibility?

Never once did I consider or even given myself credit for the level of responsibility I took to have an abortion. Some may say, ‘well you should have taken more responsibility to not get pregnant in the first place’, and yes I agree, but we all make mistakes. The choice I made was not selfish, and not solely about me, but the foetus as well. Deep down in my body I absolutely knew and know the level of responsibility and integrity I want to have a child with, and the responsibility I have and want to parent them in. I was not and I am not willing, to bring a child into this world in a loveless and abusive relationship or out of pure need. I knew in my circumstance this was the correct and most loving choice to make. I took everything into account.

So the question I would ask when all things are considered, is, are many, if not all of these women who choose to have abortions actually making a very loving and responsible choice for themselves and others?

Given that it is their body, their life, and a choice they will have to live with for the rest of their life, is it not their right and choice to make it?

References

  1. http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/arkansas-abortion-law-that-will-let-rapists-sue-victims-husbands-second-trimester-a7561066.html
  2. https://www.ifpa.ie/Pregnancy-Counselling/Abortion-Irish-Law
  3. http://thehill.com/policy/healthcare/abortion/315652-trump-signs-executive-order-reinstating-global-gag-rule-on
  4. http://www.indystar.com/story/news/2017/02/05/how-indianas-abortion-laws-could-change-trumps-america/97083560/

 

Read more:

  1. Abortion – choice and responsibility
  2. Abortion in N.Ireland – breaking free from the gags of silence.

 

 

520 thoughts on “Abortion – a responsibility.

  1. In some countries it’s evident that the current laws relating to abortion, amongst many other subjects, are far from what would actually support humanity. We have a responsibility to be the voices that pull the current legislation up to truly represent and police what is true and not true, respectful or abusive.

  2. Great piece of writing, thank you. What I find interesting is the fact that all the people who write these laws that restrict or bully women seem to fully believe that they are on the right side of right, that they are acting in the most morally good way they can. And this is what is perhaps most insidious, because how can one thing be considered good or righteous or whole, when it causes obvious and maybe at times immeasurable, harm to another person?

    1. That is a great point. So often people who bully and impose are convinced they are “right”. There is no love in that kind of righteousness and it is not even right for the only true right is one that is come from and with love.

  3. I would imagine in many cases that it is a very difficult decision for women to decide to have an abortion, and the decision would not be made lightly, it is a huge responsibility for women to make, and they should be fully supported for their decision.

  4. It is crazy that our society believes it owns women and their bodies the way it does, we are still living in the dark ages when it comes to truly supporting women in what they bring to the world….

  5. I know it’s a bit off topic but….. I was recently talking with a friend who went to America and the stories she told of what she witnessed I found very shocking. She expressed how visible it was there was no government supported health care/income support system due to what she viewed on a daily basis in different states. I found this shocking as the world tends to view America as a leader of the world in setting standards/trends… This is a scary understanding at present!!!!

  6. “We would never be allowed to control or tell a man what to do with his reproductive organs – so why are women being denied the same right to choose?” Everyone should be allowed the right to choose what happens to their bodies – whether it be vasectomy, abortion, medical treatment or vaccination etc. being responsible is the important factor. Yet how responsible are we when it comes to our daily living – re our food choices, exercise, drinking and drugs etc?

  7. The relationship between a pregnancy and (ir-)responsibility is not yet well established. We tend to circumscribe it to certain matters and to exclude others from any debate on this matter. The overall effect is that we have found a way to try to get away with irresponsibility.

  8. Every man and woman should have their right to make decisions about their own body without laws or judgements passed on them. It is not what is right or wrong, but what is true for us.

  9. Gee its a messy world we live in when you consider all the contrasting and at times barbaric and nasty ideals and beliefs that drive people in their attempt to control another’s free will.

    1. Yep but we all do it to some degree, we all try and control some aspect of our lives be that our future, our kids, our work colleagues, certain outcomes etc. And just to be clear I’m not advocating that we all just give up and not care but I’m suggesting that by gripping the steering wheel of life as hard as we are and trying to mechanically steer things in a certain direction we actually interfere with the natural order and flow of life. An order and flow that when allowed to simply just be would lead us to much better outcomes than our frantic steering ever does.

  10. ‘What if having an abortion was actually taking a deep level of responsibility?’ This needs to be honoured. To have a child that you are not ready for is the ultimate in irresponsibility.

  11. I agree there is a lot of responsibility in abortion, and it should be a woman’s right ALWAYS to be able to choose what happens to her body, and to choose to live with that responsibility. I experienced a medical termination 2 years ago, which is when the medical profession do tests and find the baby is not right and the doctors I met in the NHS were actually amazing and encouraged the termination, which allowed a totally guilt free process and for me to take responsibility and to learn exactly what I needed to.

  12. And in some places in the world, homosexuality is still illegal and severely punished… We have a long way as a species, to travel, and yet everyone has the spark of the divine, just waiting to be lit.

  13. Perhaps we need to pause and draw breath to ask ourselves which is the more loving act – to not bring a child into this world that is unable to be cared for in the way they deserve OR, to bring a child into this world that will become the subject of much abuse? Because we choose to live in ignorance to the great cycle of life, and have subscribed to the lie that is ‘death’, we allow all manner of emotions to cloud a very simple decision. If the child in this case will not be born unto us, they will go back and be born unto another. It is the nature of the Universe and the part we play is in upholding the responsibility we each have for making decisions that are in the best interest of all. We are still very much divided when it comes to this understanding.

    1. “If the child in this case will not be born unto us, they will go back and be born unto another. ” This line holds the understanding as to why we have this emotional debate around abortion, in that it is a universal truth that we reincarnate and yet humanity in large part have dismissed this truth as unprovable fables, hence why we have this situation where those who believe we live and then we die, full stop, fight so hard to deny the right of the would-be parent/s to decide whether it is true for that spirit to return into their family at that time.

  14. A woman knows her body and what is needed – there is no right or wrong, good or bad, these are just convenient ideals so that people can have opinions. There is only truth, and truth is simple and perfect, whatever the outcome.

  15. Men feel threatened by the power in women and women feel threatened by the power of other women and even of their own power. There is power and glory in the stillness and grace of a woman. When we dare to connect to this and live it we bring about clearing and healing there is no doubt. Just walking down the street in this energy we are clearing and healing, whatever we touch or come into contact with we are healing, the ramifications of this are enormous.

  16. It is almost impossible to credit too that this year in NSW Australia,Parliament recently voted NO to what would have been landmark legislation to decriminalise abortion. It is astounding to think that the woman’s uterus – the sacred grail – can be in the clutches and domination of a legal system and government, who will not allow the woman to have a choice over whether she is ready to have a child or not? there is no right and wrong in abortion, it just IS. The only right and wrong is that judgmental thought paradigm that is ingrained in the human psyche and passed on from generation to generation like a contagion, then further embedded in our schooling. Through this absolute lie can come the energy which wishes to annihilate the power, stillness and beauty of woman, because of the healing effect it has upon our race.

  17. I read this blog a while ago and was shocked that this is occurring in 2017? I mean really, how can we champion women’s rights, give two big thumbs ups to ourselves for pay increases and all women football teams (which BTW is nothing to do with true equality but that is a whole another blog), how can we celebrate how far we have come whilst female genital mutilation and spousal rape is happening legally to women somewhere in the world?
    I love that you are asking these questions, below a quote from this amazing blog.
    “How far lost are we that we can pass a law that allows a man to rape a woman and stop her from aborting the child? In this one law we are saying rape, abuse, and controlling a woman and her body are okay.”
    We are lost and we are far gone but what is more disturbing is that this is not reported on and discussed as a constant until change occurs.

  18. Everyone has their own reasons to have an abortion or not, and it’s in that freedom of choice where we find and take the responsibility of our actions.

  19. I don’t feel its an easy decision for any woman and then having others give their opinion or make judgement serves no-one. It is very imposing, as you share a woman should have rights over her own body and life.

  20. Having a child is a massive responsibility and if a woman is not ready or without capacity to take that responsibility on then the harm that can be caused by having that child can be sometimes beyond belief. Having worked in child protection I am aware of families with strong religious values that stop them from having contraception let alone an abortion, as such they can have multiple children when in truth they should not have any due to the neglect and abuse that the children endure… resulting in them often being removed and placed into care. By the time they have been removed they are usually traumatized from often months or even years of abuse and playing out horrific behaviours as a result of the trauma. This culminates in a substantial burden and expense on society. All of which could have been avoided if the woman was given a true choice free of religious doctrines and beliefs in the first place.

    1. So well said Samantha and working alongside children’s social services I see this played out a lot as well. Having children is a HUGE responsibility and this is something we all truly need to understand and not take either lightly or flippantly. Someone recently shared with me they thought that parents or a parent if single should have a licence in order to be a parent and I understand why they said this and that it is in line with it is a massive responsibility.

  21. I agree Gyl women should have the right to choose if they want an abortion or not, it should be the responsibility of the woman to discern for herself, taking everything into account, how can others make any decisions that would affect another so dramatically, it just doesn’t make sense that we are going backwards rather than forwards.

  22. Having a child through sheer feelings of guilt just to appease others/society, would surely have an effect on the child and the mother’s relationship because of the array of mixed emotions that the mother would be carrying.

  23. When reading this again, it brought to the forefront all of the women who have had babies under the rules of religion. Some women have had babies after babies due to their religion – isn’t this another way to control and tell the woman it may be your body but we own it, along with putting a guilt trip on them for even thinking about having an abortion.

  24. Having an unwanted pregnancy is already a dilemma to be caught in; to exacerbate it by disempowering women to make the right choice for themselves, is unacceptable in today’s age.

  25. Gyl, thank you for being so honest and sharing this, what you write about is happening all over the world, many women feel shame and guilt after having an abortion, these emotions then fester and harm.
    It is never a decision that is taken lightly and in this day and age it is shocking that a woman’s body is still looked upon as being owned by someone else.

  26. The decision to have a child or not have a child demands exactly the same level of responsibility. The fact of having become pregnant and then making the choice has been held against women for much too long while men making such judgment never considered themselves to be responsible but free to walk away and leaving the pregnant woman alone with the physical and moral dilemma.

  27. Regardless of the circumstances of a pregnancy, all women should be lovingly supported to make whatever decision they deem is the right one for them, whether that is to abort or to continue with the pregnancy. Every being should have the right to choose, in all medical procedures, when it comes to making decisions in regard to their own body.

  28. A woman’s body belongs to her so it is her and her alone that has a right to make a decision about abortion.

  29. I keep coming back to this blog Gyl becase I feel just how powerful it is, and really love what you have shared, just how much resonsibility can be displayed and lived from deciding to have an abortion, we as women deserve the right, no matter what to decide.

  30. What if having an abortion was actually taking a deep level of responsibility? A great question to put out there Gyl. Truth is a very loving choice to make.

  31. If we consider the accountability of being a parent:, i.e. putting our hand up to:
    – physically take care of another being while they are too young to be able to do it,
    – support them to connect to, appreciate and live their true essence in a world that does not encourage that,
    – offer a role model of living that true way
    this is not something to take lightly. If we are not ready for it, we do need to gracefully admit that this is not the right time and take appropriate action. An abortion when truly chosen is an absolute moment of responsibility.

  32. Where do these beliefs even come from, I remember years ago saying to myself that if I ever got pregnant I would never have an abortion – now I question that picture. It seems there are too many things in life that we do not question and blindly follow.

  33. My feeing is that the more women suppress abortion and keep it secret if it happens to them, the more we feed the fact that women don’t deserve the right to choose what happens to them. By suppressing it – we choose to feed the abuse from the bottom up.

  34. There seems to be so much implied ownership to a woman’s body with all these laws defining what can or can’t be done… Where is the voice of Women in all these laws?

  35. Do we ever question as to whether our choices are based on ideals and beliefs we have taken on from outside of ourselves? That we are to give birth no matter what because of a belief or doctrine we have chosen to align to without first discerning as to whether it was true for us? There are always consequences when we do not listen to our body regardless of what we thought was the right thing to do.

  36. Thank you Gyl. This is a very insightful article… Brief, to the point, on such an issue that has caused so much conflict. Your insight upon personal responsibility is profound, and really this is where this must stay… Is a reflection of personal responsibility and personal choice… No one else’s.

  37. Why would a woman choose abortion? Is it just a case of deflection of another issue like self harm or harming another is? If that was the case, the woman would need love, understanding and tender care as a support to find her truth again. Or could it be that the choice is made with an awareness and understanding of responsibility and honouring of what being a parent involves? Either way, the bigotry of marginalising and condemning a member of our community is not the answer, a conversation with genuine love, care and openness offers expansion and evolution.

  38. When we bind ourselves up with ideals and beliefs and doing the so called, right thing, we are really operating under a man made system that seeks to control and manipulate the masses into guilt and shame. Where is the love, truth or evolution in all of that?

  39. I really support all that you have shared here Gyl, that abortion is and can be all about responsibility, not about letting go of a life, but making choices for all involved.

    1. We also have to ask ourselves the very basic question of if a woman feels strongly that for whatever reason at all she does not want to have a child how would it be for both her and the child to force her to have one?

  40. We all have the right to choose how we live and what happens to our body – it is part and parcel of our responsibility.

  41. Abortion comes loaded with so many beliefs and societal norms that it would be easy to go into guilt and regret. The church and our politicians would do well to reduce the weight of this process that most women go through by promoting freedom of choice for women and their bodies, rather than the draconian beliefs and legislation they create.

  42. I found it very shocking to hear how backward and controlling some governmental and religious laws are around abortion, still existing today; a cycle returning from the Dark Ages.
    All woman should have a right over their body whether to have an abortion or not.

  43. There is still a strong consciousness in our world that tells us that women do not have a right to their own bodies nor their own innate expression. In some cultures it is blatantly obvious and in some it all seems very civil. But none the less it is still present everywhere and before we can have sensible discussion on how to approach these kinds of subjects we need to call out and arrest the energy that is aimed at keeping the sacredness of women suppressed.

  44. The problem with the viewpoints of anti abortionists is that they do not understand life in full nor do they understand the science of reincarnation. If all emphasis is placed on the 1 life then of course people will think they need to fight for it. We are born again and again and again, we choose who we are born with and all of our cycles come with a purpose. Nothing is coincidental so if there is truth in a mother having an abortion so too is their truth for the spirit that will then not incarnate in that exact moment.

    1. This reminds me of the period in my life when I was anti- medication of any form. I thought ‘natural’ and ‘honouring’ meant rejecting the support that our medical system could provide. I am so grateful for the support Serge Benhayon’s teachings offered in opening up my perspective and see a much fuller picture. I can see the same with the anti-abortionist view you describe. When we hang on to a blinkered view of life we get stuck in some crazy limited ideas about the world.

  45. I find it staggering reading those cases you share, I suppose it is to be expected at a time when women around the globe are starting to reconnect to their sacredness there has to be an equal and opposite force, nothing else really explains why our legislation around the world would be going backwards.

  46. Hear Hear Gyl, “What if having an abortion was actually taking a deep level of responsibility?” I so agree, what if having an abortion can be a deeply responsible choice. I know that it isn’t at times for women, but it can be and fundamentally ALL women no matter what the choice, deserve to make that choice for themselves.

    1. If we allowed ourselves to remember that there is no such thing as death, then this would change the whole debate on abortion. In fact if we allowed ourselves to remember that we are energetic beings who incarnate for many hundreds of lifetimes then this one fact would not only change our perspective on abortion but on the whole of life.

  47. This casts a light on a subject that is not commonly talked about, and when it does come up emotions run high and people do think clearly, only from the emotional upset and turmoil. It’s been very cool to read this balanced account Gyl, exploring some of the complex issues from the perspective of love first.

  48. America has the CDC, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention collect data on abortions only from states that wish to provide information? In the home of the free, it seems to depend on what state you live when it come to abortions!

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