659 thoughts on “Missing periods – it’s not normal”

1. We have all the answers within us. Going deeper and listening is a good exercise to know the why and how, restoring the imbalance we created in the first place.

2. So many things are seen as ‘normal’ … missed periods, painful periods, lumps in breasts etc … however none of it is normal! It is clearly our body saying something in how we are living is not harmonious. If we ignore it or go to professionals for help only to be told basically to ignore it as well (it’s normal) then how are we going to change the disharmony back to harmony? We are accepting disharmony.
   Esoteric Medicine has been a major part in my life in being able to understand my body more, build a loving relationship with my body and turn a path of disharmony and dis-ease around to one of harmony and well-being. Of course this is no way perfect and I am constantly learning but without Esoteric Medicine I know I would be still searching for answers and going from one thing to the next in order to truly understand my body and well-being more.

3. As women we are offered these periods for a reason, it is our natural cleansing period time. And when we go into the busyness or hardness which is not our natural make up, then something is going to give. You know in some respect, this is like not going for a poo for weeks, can you imagine the effects it would have on the body!..

   What I loved Gyl, is that you pondered on what was going on for you and your body. You sought medical but also an Esoteric practitioner to support you and, you took other steps to connect with your body even more. Now that is true health and wellbeing.

4. ‘If it was not for Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon I would have carried on living the way I was, in total disregard, and not seen this as an opportunity to take responsibility for my choices and how I live.’ Without the reflection of something different it is very hard to arise yourself out of behaviours that are so normalised. It is only when we can see another displaying an altogether different way of being can we put two and two together, or else we are simply owned by the consciousness we have aligned to as it is not possible to think our way out of it.

   1. Michelle, you made a valid point, reflection. When someone who lives in their natural essence, this reflection is an offering for us to either say yes, or no. It is that simple. When we say no, we move further away from who we truly are. When we say yes, we offer this reflection to others, that there is another way to live and be. Serge and his family simply offers this to us, nothing more, nothing less, we have the ultimate decision which way we go.

      1. We can’t underestimate how powerful that reflection is. I remember being so inspired and blown away by Michael Benhayon holding his baby on stage (via a webcast). All he was doing was standing quietly with his child in his arms, but it was the quality he was standing in and the love that I could see emanating from his heart though to his arms that truly had me. Just one simple sighting of quality like this has the power to touch someone in a way that gives them permission to reflect and to be inspired enough to want to make changes.

5. It’s very interesting when we think about how we collect and analyse data to present as so-called ‘evidence’ when we are so easily normalising phenomenon based on the numbers of cases presented – it feels like we are bending truth by constantly changing the denominator.

6. Some great reminders here Gyl of what life is like lived without stillness, and the importance of connecting to our inner quality first before we begin our day.

7. Something has definitely shifted in my relationship with the quality of stillness. Because as I read this the mention of being in the quality of stillness while going about my day makes more sense now. We can do a lot in our day but we don’t have to do it like a headless chicken or like a whirlwind of motion that leaves us exhausted. Having stillness in the physical motions of the day is energising.

8. “connect to the quality of stillness in my body first – then doing what needs to be done from there” A beautiful way to start the day.

9. It is normal because it occurs so often, it is abnormal because this is not the way the body functions. Sadly, we have taken the word normal to mean “common”. Bastardising our language so that we feel better and we don’t have to look at what is truly going on in our world.

10. It is really not supportive to only hear it is normal and not have anything added to that. Imagine if we could have more of the support in the medical system to be asking these deeper questions. We could as a doctor for instance say: ‘The absence of your periods is not something to worry about straight away as it is often harmless but let’s look at why this is the case and what your body is communicating with you. How are you living as a woman day in day out, how do you feel about yourself…’ and so on. So we can truly support each other in our healing process instead of just keeping it at ‘don’t worry it is common’.

    1. If we do not have true understanding though how can anything different be given? Esoteric Medicine has lifted the veil away so I now truly understand, energy, illness, dis-ease and true well-being … no second guessing, no just taking what someone else says as being fact. It brings a deeper awareness and understanding that we are currently lacking. This is an element that we should all know, not just doctors or health care professionals.

       1. Beautifully said and great point Vicky, this is something we all know and not something that can be owned by the medical profession. We have just got so used to ignoring what we are feeling in our bodies that we have to re-connect with this ‘common sense’ and inner-knowing inside ourselves.

11. I wonder whether doctors are eventually going to start saying ‘It’s normal to develop dementia when you get older’ ‘It’s normal to have cancer’ etc. It’s a terrible habit of society to normalize things just because many people have it. Having said that, I know for myself how I seek comfort in knowing what I am experiencing is common. Our body does what it needs to do in response to how we have been living, it is totally personal to every single one of us even though there is a factor of Universal order within it.

12. The override we can go into so not to look at the truth of what is going on and the choices we make has become a very common way of living and accepting this as our normal. Thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine we are given another perspective, one that requires honesty and support to look at the root issues and to heal them. Here I have personally experienced and witnessed many lives change because of this and how deeply powerful this really is.

13. When we run our body in anxiousness it is basically working overtime and doesn’t have the resources to see to all that the body requires, when we simply bring our body to stillness the body gets to operate in its own natural rhythm leaving us more vital and a body more able to cope with its day to day needs.

14. Missing periods is clearly not normal, but because so many women are presenting the same condition to the physicians, they are saying it’s no big deal.

15. Actually it is what life for women is about returning our bodies into universal vehicles that can reflect sacredness.

16. “Being aware of the quality in which I move, is it delicate, tender and gentle or is it hard and harsh?” This one is a cracker to be aware of. So simple to tune into as well and quite obvious. Close a drawer or a car door in a hard/harsh way and then close it in the quality of tenderness. And then feel the result in your body. It’s like chalk and cheese if you are open to feeling it.

17. My periods also stopped and today have come back again. I don’t take it for granted and know that how I live affects these cycles – or my body in the cycle. Reading this reminded me that just because the period is back doesn’t mean I am out of the woods so to speak. There is deeper levels of care and love to go.

18. ‘I didn’t realise just how disconnected from my body, my ovaries and being a woman I was.’ I have learnt how important it is to honour ourselves as women, and to respect the sacredness we hold as women too.

19. Is it often (though presumably not always) a sign of stress or chronic stress if periods stop?

    1. It can be and constantly multitasking or thinking about one’s to-do list, pushing and driving is very stress-full! The body really gets disturbed when we are thinking something and doing something completely different.

20. Although I am very familiar with how the teachings of Serge Benhayon have described the difference between stillness and motion and how it plays out in our daily lives, there was something that really clicked on a deeper level after reading your blog here, Gyl. Suddenly, I could feel in a very deep way how I have bought into the belief or ideal that I could evolve to become more soulful in my life via my involvement in various projects or activities that were of service to others and humanity at large to help them live in a more loving and harmonious way. Although at face value that may seem like a great thing, to me it now feels like it has nothing to do with a movement towards my soul, but something to merely ‘check the box’ and feel good about. In other words, there was no aspect of allowing myself to just be and connect with that inner stillness that needs no action to confirm itself. As Gyl stated so beautifully above – “In stillness there is no doing, only being, and in this there is no way you can deny you are divine and deeply connected to God.”

21. Connection between stillness and health to me is just as vital as Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine. Both go hand in hand and support the other to work in full.

22. Yes.. learning from young about the importance of maintaining an awareness of what’s going on in the body would have an enormous effect on our overall rates of illness and disease. Even though it might take a while to let go of some of those ingrained behaviours, becoming aware of what and how we’re feeling and the impact of those behaviours on our body is the first step towards letting go of them.

23. If I find something that is not ‘normal’ about my body, it is hard not to go ‘What is wrong with me?’ Calling anomaly a normal feels like a feeble attempt at cushioning this self-critique. I find esoteric medicine to be a truly great support in this process of looking at and accepting what is really happening, as its core lies the truth that we are love already and self-judgment has no space.

24. We often ignore what happens with our body, yet there is always a message for us if we are willing to be honest with ourselves and feel into how we are living and if there is something that needs to change.

25. Agreed. For most woman such advice would have been heeded, leaving them with possibly even greater health issues the longer such an imbalance in the body was left unaddressed.

26. What is shared here is gold for women in our world, to have such a clear understanding that how we live directly affects how our body functions is a wisdom to be explored, in many areas of health, let us not ignore what is here divinely offered.

27. “Every cell in my body knows truth ­­– this is not normal.” I was talking to a friend recently who shared something similar. Health professionals had been telling her that what she had was normal, but it was not feeling normal for her. It is important to honour that and explore avenues to find the truth for you.

28. It does work! I have experienced for myself that the more I’m willing to really take care of myself and address the ill patterns and behaviours I have, the smoother my periods have been. From chronic pain to having a period that doesn’t require any drugs has been a miracle. It’s not painless every time, but slowly I’m noticing a shift and I’m working on building on that. The crippling pain hasn’t been missed.

29. ” but what I do know is, it is both Esoteric Medicine and Western Medicine that have supported me to take responsibility and address the moment-to-moment choices that I have made and make in life ”
    A true choice for healing thank you, for sharing Gyl.

30. And yet it’s never too late to start making different choices, to start paying attention to the body and listening to its innate wisdom, and start dealing with our ‘stuff’ – our unresolved issues that get in the way of the body’s normal and natural harmonious flow.

31. Missing periods is not normal, drinking alcohol regularly is not normal for the body, needing caffeine and sugar during the day – the same. We do a lot of things that are perfectly normal but they don’t seem to be harmonious at all.

32. It is a great one to ponder on that thinking, over thinking, planning, fighting awareness and anxiety are motion, and all are at the expense of our body, exhausting it and not allowing it to rest and settle with the natural stillness within.

    1. This is just what i needed to read right now: that thinking and overthinking and analysing are all mental activities that cut us off from what we can feel and know within our bodies. These things have their place and we need them, but not at the expense of our bodies’ innate wisdom and communication.

33. The problem of calling ‘normal’ or ‘natural’ something that is neither normal nor natural is not only that we are misdiagnosed, but also that we miss the point our body is trying to make and to communicate to us about our livingness.

34. This is amazing, what I love about this is you covered and explored every angle of your life, your home, your body and left no stone unturned. What we can learn through our bodies and illnesses are invaluable lessons, as you pinpoint, an illness is a brilliant “opportunity to take responsibility for my choices and how I live”.

    1. Yes, this approach bears big dividends, especially when we refine it more and more.

35. By uniting Esoteric Medicine with Conventional Medicine, we are able to address and understand the root cause of our illness or disease while having the necessary physical support to help us heal our body.

36. In recent months, I am just starting to realise how delicate and precious the human body is and that there are so many times where we tend to ignore or normalise the levels of abuse that we regularly feed it without stopping to feel how this accumulation plays out

37. When feeling that something is ‘not normal’ or ‘off’ from my experience conventional medicine can only take this if it is a physical pain or possibly look down the mental health avenues. But the Universal Medicine modalities supports that ‘off’ feeling from the basis of our sensitivity to energy which is equally as important to address as physical pain.

    1. Yes, the science of what causes illness and diseases may be in its infancy. Lots of individual details seem to be known but do we have a comprehensive theory on what causes ailments?

38. I love how the esoteric healing modalities support us to return to who we truly are. Sometimes the body takes a while for the healing to reach its physicality. We so need both Western medicine and Universal Medicine on order to really heal.

39. We know what it feels like when we feel harmonious and at ease, yet often we accept this feeling of constant dis-ease, low-grade anxiety and constant motion as ‘normal’. It may be normal if that’s what we’re used to experiencing, but that state is far from our body’s natural way of being.

40. Thank you for sharing your willingness to look at your missing periods and take all the necessary steps to put a supportive programme of self-care in place and what is even more inspiring is that despite your periods returning you are still committed to deepening this process further.

41. It is amazing how each step that confirms an ill choice can lead us so far away from our innate self that our body can halt functions that would otherwise be part of our natural rhythm should we be living in it. The body is a remarkable marker in exposing our disregard and it is a blessing that through listening to it and honouring its messages, that we can bring ourselves back to what is true.

42. Our periods are a great reflection of our everyday livingness, and missing a period often means we are not being present with ourselves on a regular basis, that we are always living ahead of ourselves or our body is being run through anxiousness and nervous energy, when we stop and connect to our stillness we drop back into our natural rhythm again.

43. This will be an inspiration to many women that suffer from not having their periods for a prolonged time. I can imagine it would be a very difficult to not have your cycle, I cannot say I have experienced it myself but obviously it is the body giving us a needed message if this is occurring. I am very inspired nevertheless to have a look at how I run my day, for we are all different and although I have regular periods my body may end up presenting a different illness or dis-ease as a way of arresting my multitasking and inability to stop.

44. It is interesting how we use the word normal. We are reaching a point where it is normal to be obese, normal to drink alcohol, it will not be long until it is normal to have dementia as we age and even cancer…. so on this measure it might well (or rather unwell) be normal to not have a regular period – but none of these things are healthy and all are messages from our body as you have described.

45. We find so many ways to avoid responsibility yet our body is always there showing us our choices and our pathway to return to the divine order and harmony we are naturally from.

46. Wow there is everything in this blog that shows us how to live in harmony with ourselves or not. Living in harmony with ourselves is the first step in living in harmony with everything and everyone else….great thank you Gyl.

47. My period is a big thing – and since I stopped breast feeding, I really appreciate having it back. But it was only when I didn’t get my period that I was able to see what it would be like without it – it felt very strange. So this shows there is a much deeper level of appreciating we can do for the cycle of my body.

48. The word that comes to mind when the word Stillness is mentioned is quality. Too much motion makes life too functional and focussed about what we do. Stillness is the crucial balance that brings the importance of quality back into the equation and not just any quality, energetic quality, that is the quality of the being who is involved in the action.

49. When my periods first stopped I had no clue about the Stillness within me, my sweetness or delicateness. I didn’t listen to my body very much unless it shouted. After four years my relationship has deepened and yet still no period, so what’s going on? I could stamp my feet and demand my reward (the period returning) but somehow I know that ain’t the way. Period or not, the absence of such has made space for me to explore the qualities that are within me that are greater than physicality and I feel it’s in the allowing of these qualities to flow in life is what will be most supportive. Time will tell I suppose and I feel the same Gyl, in that both Conventional and Esoteric Medicine need to both be included, as such, reading this again makes me wonder if there’s anything further on a physical level I can support myself with, Thank you.

50. ‘ I’m re-learning to deeply take care of myself and my body, to nurture myself, to speak and live my truth, deepen my awareness and honour my feelings again.’ I love the word re-learning in this context as it is something we innately do know as it is natural for us to truly care and nurture and be ourselves.

51. When we stop and reconnect and embody the stillness deep within us all we can feel the messages our body is sharing with us.

52. Our body doesn’t lie; it is always reflecting our choices back to us.

53. This is a beautiful example of true healthcare, the combination of orthodox medicine and complementary medicine combined with personal responsibility.

54. We need to be able to discern what is ‘normal’ for us and not follow blindly what others say, however expert in their field, they appear to be. As we pay more attention and become more aware it becomes easier to read what is actually going on but doubts can creep in and thoughts play on our mind. Becoming still, from the inside allows for a return to equanimity and allows access to all that we are.

55. Taking responsibility for our manifestations of symptoms is all important in today’s world. We can see the outplay of recklessness and irresponsiblity in the rise of obesity worldwide, for example. . Your blog shows us how we can refine our way of living – beautiful. Using the Esoteric Healing modalities is a great way to do this, combined with a doctor’s support. Thankyou Gyl.

56. ‘It’s about learning to deeply embody and connect to the quality of stillness in my body first – then doing what needs to be done from there – rather than from raciness, stress, drive, nervous energy or anxiety.’ This is exactly what I am learning to embody and to clock when I choose to leave my stillness behind and choose the other non supportive qualities, these are the ones that truly hurt my body. Life is all about living in the quality that we innately are, your dedication to come back to who you truly are is inspiring to read and a testimonial for taking good care of yourself, knowing you are responsible for the condition your body is in.

57. Gyl, This is a beautiful way to be, ‘It’s about learning to deeply embody and connect to the quality of stillness in my body first – then doing what needs to be done from there – rather than from raciness, stress, drive, nervous energy or anxiety.’ I have experienced the difference between moving from this stillness and moving with stress and rush and they feel so different, moving from stillness first I find that everything flows, I feel energised and my body feels great and I have beautiful connections with people. Moving in a rush and with drive; the beautiful connection with people is not there and my body aches. I have started walking to work, making sure I am present in my body and not rushing so that when I go into work, this is the quality I start working in.

58. A woman who gets her periods isn’t necessarily in rhythm with her natural cycles nor may they have any relationship with stillness. This goes to show us that our body can work at a functional level, suppressing and burying issues deeper into the body.

59. Our bodies can not but reflect back to us our choices, for they share the particles which are subject to the of Divine laws of the Universe.

60. How many of us have just ignored the fact that our period has been late or missing for a month and thought nothing of it, this is a must read blog for women of all ages. To become aware of the fact that how we live is reflected in our body, and having late or missed periods is not something that we should gloss over, but deeply feel into the cause of its late arrival and how we have been living that has resulted in this.

61. When we normalize what is effectively a disharmony in our body, be it absent periods, a sore back, a stiff shoulder, we are also normalizing a society that is also very much out of harmonious kilter. Each shrug and dismissal goes a long way and the ramifications ripple beyond so much more than we would -dismissively- care to consider.

62. So important to listen to the body’s messages of disharmony and bringing that back to how we are living, they go hand in hand and supported with medical support we can truly heal. Understanding the energetic truth of why we are experiencing something means we can care and love ourselves with a deep understanding.

63. Great to be bringing the responsibility of our health and how we care for ourselves back into our own court Gyl. It can only start from there… and then everything else follows.

64. As I read your blog this morning Gyl I was deeply inspired by what you have expressed here, thank you;
    “In stillness there is no doing, only being, and in this there is no way you can deny you are divine and deeply connected to God. There is a natural rhythm, life flows, there’s no need to try, push or rush. Stillness is as natural to us as breathing; it never leaves us”.

65. Not to worry about something does not make it normal, if we can truly let go of worrying, it is to come back to a state of knowing that our bodies are forever backing us up. All the signs and symptoms it is showing us is what our choices have been.

66. ‘Both Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon have always been and are an incredible support in my life by reflecting how to deeply honour, nurture and take care of myself and my body.’ Absolutely Gyl. Serge and Natalie are the most amazing role models for everything in life – they present the whole package, they walk their talk.

67. So many times I have consulted medical professionals about a health issue only to be told there is no problem, it’s normal and like you Gyl,there was no way I could accept that, for as you say, “every cell in my body knows truth”. There were times that I felt so dis-empowered and almost began to think that I was imagining the things that were going on, but the more I began to understand the wisdom of my body the more power I reclaimed; after all I am the authority when it comes to my body and to care for it in a deeply loving way is my number one job!

68. ‘Normal’ is such a worrying marker to use for what is healthy or acceptable for us. We are not in good shape as a species, so to compare to the next person dilutes the potential we have to be vital and healthy. I know for myself my periods are not random and are a great reflection of how I am treating myself. The menstrual cycle is a natural rhythm, just like day and night and the moon cycle. We would be concerned and want to know why if these suddenly became irregular. So too should we investigate what’s going on if there is an abnormality with our periods.

69. Our current medical system is not set up in a way that entirely supports us in our return to health and well being. GP appointments are often allotted very short time frames which does not make it easy to honour the person nor the practitioner fully by allowing enough time to explore in depth what is actually going on. Under these circumstances and such as in your case Gyl, they can say things like ‘it is normal’ to miss a period and ‘not to worry about it’ – in essence neglecting client care and not doing their profession justice.

    However, we know that if we ignore certain signs and symptoms, such as missing periods, then things can certainly mount up to a medical emergency within a certain amount of time. Hence it is important to heed the signs and symptoms of the body no matter how small or big and no matter how much a person might tell you that there is nothing to be concerned about. This is not to say we should be paranoid or read into every symptom as being a serious life threatening disease – but it is about taking the body’s communication seriously, and allowing for us to respond accordingly to support our body in all it is here to be and do.

    1. Great point Doug about the ‘normal’ – when did we allow something abnormal to become normal…- this happens when every one has the same abnormal and we look around and become complacent about what the body is communicating to us.

70. As I discovered when I went on a medical course this weekend, many diagnostic tests are based on a ‘normal curve’, a range of what is considered normal and what is not which is usually some kind of statistical population average but this is not always as accurate as it is sometimes held up to be and by nature can make errors. People need to be educated about this so that when they see their doctors or medical professionals they do not give their power away to the medical profession or the tests but actually take responsibility to feel for themselves whether they feel something is normal or not, based on their own connection with their own bodies and their own observations. Of course we will always need medical professionals diagnosis and test results to complete the picture but I still feel we generally lack the full understanding as to what we are actually getting when we go for these investigations.

71. With this word ‘normal’ we have learnt to ignore, blackout and disregard whole parts of life. But as you show Gyl it’s not truly normal at all and our body will religiously show us the real consequences to our choices. It seems absurd that we as adults would need to learn how to move, how to live like abc but that is how it is for so many of us I agree.

72. It seems odd that the medical profession are slow to consider the not-so-radical concept that there may be factors in how women are living that are precipitating or aggravating these conditions – rather than seeing period pain, endometriosis as ‘normal’ and to be put up with because so many millions of women suffer from them. Self-awareness is a woman’s greatest tool for understanding her cycle, and in that an appreciation of what her body can truly communicate given the opportunity.

73. As much as we sometimes don’t want to know that our cycle is out of sync and telling us something, deep down we do really know that it is a reflection of not wanting to connect deeply with the Woman within. My whole life I have seen my body as function along with my period, then once attended Esoteric Women’s Health I started to feel and understand my body on a whole other level which in truth I knew was there all along.

74. I’ve had bouts of not having periods that are healthy, robust and full. I haven’t actually missed them completely, but when they are not flowing as you know they should, or experiencing really painful period pain, sore and tender breasts, you just know something isn’t right. It has been through changing how I live and view myself that changed my periods. We as women are very blessed to have this marker each month to show us how we are choosing to live.

75. A reality check here for all women to connect deeply to who we really are and live in the amazingness and natural divinity of our bodies in our love and sacredness. Anything less is not honouring and not normal in the true sense. Thank you Gyl for this great reflection and the empowerment you offer by showing us our choices do make all the difference along side medicine supporting us as needed.

76. And is it possible to miss a period to ovulation, even if you physically had it – it in a way passes you by and you don’t take any time to connect or reflect on what’s going on – pain is dealt with by pain killers, and using a tampon can make life almost normal, like it’s not happening – but it is. What if part of the problems we face around women’s health is our tendency to cover it up and carry on regardless.

77. Stillness is a quality to be embodied not living on a couch doing nothing. Lovely to read the true meaning of stillness, to live this quality in daily life in all that we do, rush is not needed nor driving, pushing or from an anxious state. In stillness there is flow to life without trying. Fantastic that your period returned through building stillness in your body from your different choices in supporting yourself Gyl.

78. “I know it’s time to continue deepening my connection to the stillness and sacredness in my body” Beautiful. Whatever age and stage of life we are at our body calls for us to deepen our connection to our inner stillness and sacredness.

79. I think I possibly take my period for granted a little – I LOVE it and it’s one of my favourite times of the month but it’s never occurred to me that if I don’t look after my body as a woman then they could stop. As women, our cycle is such a massive part of our lives, it’s like a natural ebb and flow within every month and an opportunity to learn and clear more stuff and deepen our relationship with ourselves. We’ve definitely got to cherish our bodies every single day – it’s incredible what they can teach us.

80. I felt to say if someone wants to take the pill that is fine and their choice to make. It can be very supportive to do so if done for true reasons.

    1. True Gyl for we have a physical body and conventional medicines are a necessary part of human life that supports our bodies to heal.

81. As women, we do have an internal awareness of how natural it is to be in a monthly cycle, and so it doesn’t feel quite ‘normal’ to miss a period. When the period becomes out of sync, it does alter the flow and rhythm a woman has with herself which doesn’t feel great.

82. I love how supportive the Esoteric Modalities are for so many different health conditions. They are a great support to Western Medicine and I feel that we are doing the body an injustice if treating the body with just one and not the other.

83. It is clear from your blog Gyl the extent to which our bodies are responsive to the way we live, or the way we ‘run’ our bodies. It’s so easy to think of the body as something machine-like, as the servant to our wants and desires, but these sort of signs and symptoms are the warnings that the ‘running’ is not sitting well. When we ignore and don’t make adjustments, we are setting ourselves up for something more serious later on.

84. It is quite scary and a sign of how as women our health is in decline when a doctor thinks it is normal and no big deal to have missing periods.

85. It might be normal these days to miss periods but it is not natural and it indicates how far we have strayed from being in touch with our bodies. The monthly cycle is a blessing not a ‘curse’. This is a time to be super gentle with ourselves and honor our delicacy. As you say Gyl ‘The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.’

86. Our periods are a great marker of how we have been living, a teaching that Natalie Benhayon brought through. To call something normal that is anything but normal or natural just means that we are trying to push under the carpet what we don’t want to take responsibility for.

87. When we have many major health issues like cancer, heart attack, stroke, diabetes etc to deal with then a less severe issue may even seem normal. However, if less severe issues are in some way precursors to major issues these minor issues may then warrant much more scrutiny.

88. There is no end of depth we can go to when it comes to surrendering to our own bodies, to that stillness that sacredness that is always within. It really is a choice as to how much we want to connect and listen to our bodies.

89. The divorce between Esoteric and Conventional Medicines has as consequence the false idea of what is normal and what is not. And this is truly a problem when we are talking about illness and health issues.

90. You raise a super important point here I like to put in spotlight: you say how important it is to get inspired and supported in self-care, to listen to our rhythm and what our body is telling us and I agree from my head. It is these days so ‘normal’ to find our body-reflections as a burden or annoying. I for myself caught me sometimes in thinking I have done something wrong or have failed when I am confronted with an illness. To take it like that it makes it so hard to learn on it, as it is possible. To get some support then in a different view on it is priceless for me. It is like I am in a circle of self-accusation (or I blame others – but that’s the same energy) and bad thoughts. And by all of this I miss totally the point! I miss what the body does share with me to inspire me to a more healthy lifestyle. To step out of this cycle of self loathing – which leads us nowhere – I need some support. And so I see more and more that the way others live and find their way is a blessing and inspiration for me. I just have to open up for a different view. Key is here as well to find support in my way and not to get inspired by many different ways, with different directions. The direction is clear: I want to live more harmony and love. Ans so I can see what kind of choices which others have done, did lead them to live a more harmonious life. This is the success I am looking for in the way I choose the people who I will get inspired from: how they live and what their life does reflect. Is it in harmony? Does it have beautiful relationships? Is it supporting others? Is it in self-love? Does it support our all connection? Is it joyful? If the answer is ‘yes’ – you are my role model.

91. I haven’t had a period for over two years now and I feel sad and quite depressed about it. I know it’s not at all ‘normal’ but I got to a point where I gave up on trying to work out and fix the problem, and pretended to myself it was okay. What I haven’t wanted to face is just how far away I’ve strayed from living as the real me – the me where I allow myself to feel everything, say what I can feel without holding back, let go of the fear and protection of expressing myself in full through what I say and how I move, and stop trying so hard.

    I can feel and appreciate how I’m slowly starting to turn things around in recent months, by making a conscious effort to be more present in all that I do, to move gently, to allow myself to feel everything and stay with those feelings, no matter how uncomfortable, and to say what I’m feeling.

    My periods haven’t come back yet, but it’s become so much more than about just getting my periods back – they’re just one part of everything else that I haven’t wanted to look at – my relationship to myself as a woman, and the preciousness that I am that I’ve tried so hard to crush. I feel so appreciative to have women in my life who reflect to me that it’s okay to be a woman – to live that in full, with no holding back – and how joyful this is. And the more I appreciate that in other women, the more I start to appreciate that in myself – how gorgeous it feels to see and feel another woman enjoy being herself, and how lovely it feels when I choose to do this, too. The power of inspiration and appreciation in healing ourselves and supporting us to live as who we truly are is awesome.

    1. I wonder if sometimes symptoms don’t improve for a while simply because we may then stop working on ourselves again while right now we are doing many things extremely well because there is the constant spur or these symptoms?

92. Another wonderful example of how esoteric medicine and western medicine can work together to offer spherical support.

93. The body offers us many messages and much learning. Listening to it from a place of being informed, in fact from a place of it is infinitely wise, rather than from a place of “what can I do to make it be the way I want it even while I treat it badly”, is a grand step forward in a life of health and wellbeing.

94. Awesome blog showing the fact that our WHOLE life equates to the quality of our health, not simply our diet and exercise.

95. Isn’t it really important not to accept as normal and OK, a whole lot of conditions (whether physiological, in our relationships, mental and/or societal) simply because they are statistically common?

96. When referring to connecting to the Stillness in our bodies “in this there is no way you can deny you are divine and deeply connected to God.” I can agree and yet while I have not had a period for some time now it has really highlighted how much I live in a way that runs away from that Stillness. While this is upsetting to face such facts of my choices I have had much support from Esoteric Practitioners to not beat myself up for making such choices but to keep coming back to the body and in that connection the effect of our choices can be healed.

97. I used to live in so much drive, pushing forward, even when I got a moment, I would find something to do to distract me…all the time avoided something that is absolutely supportive and healing, the stillness within me. I have since reconnected with it and it feels amazing to surrender to it and say yes to it being my foundation. No perfection here, but now when I feel myself getting racy, hard in my body or having push, I now know there is another way to come back to. My periods and general health show the benefits of offering myself this care and grace.

98. It is interesting Gyl that the title to your blog uses the words ‘its not normal.” Often when we share our aliments or pain with any part of the body I hear people say my doctor says ‘lumpy breasts are normal or cysts are common for women”. The normalising of these comments often lead people to not question what is truly going on as you have in this blog. If it is common in women then what is it about the way we are living that has caused the body to send this signal? Thank you for sharing how your journey was not a quick fix that entailed a lot of self-care and body connection that is the missing ingredient in our health care today.

    1. When comments like these are made and we do not share our understanding it then becomes the norm and builds to an acceptable way of living that is far removed from our natural stillness as women.

99. “I am re-learning what it is to truly be a woman again. On a practical level how does this look everyday? I’m re-learning to deeply take care of myself and my body, to nurture myself, to speak and live my truth, deepen my awareness and honour my feelings again.” it is not surprising yet still amazing just how much as a whole society we don’t live from the quality that we naturally are, I love the practical steps you share here about what re-learning to be a true woman is – something that could equally apply in its own right to re-learning to be a true man.

100. It’s interesting what takes place for something to be clarified as ‘normal’. In evaluating this, ‘normal’ is used when a situation is – being experienced by many. But what if in reference to the topic of this article, the many are making decisions and living in a way that tips things out of balance or is not in true support of the body? Our body as a woman is designed to menstruate every month from puberty to menopause. Having a change from this pattern is an indicator that something is not harmonious within. Just because many are experience this does not make it normal and instead of comfortably using the ‘normal’ label. The fact that many are experience this symptom is cause for great concern and investigating how one is living in relation to being a woman to have this symptom.

     1. I appreciate this attention to the way we use (and hide behind) what is ‘normal’. Is it the apathy of safety in numbers that has meant we have accepted a lot of dysfunction (in our bodies and the world around us) because we are one of many in/with the same issue?

101. It would seem that we may have lost connection with the natural cycles that our bodies are tuned to and that the absence of a cyclic event such as periods is a clear communication to come back in some way to our natural flow.

102. Nurturing ourselves, something really changed for me considering what true nurturing is… I began to be gentle with my body, this step exposed how hard I had been with myself, and what I have found profoundly nurturing is to speak and hold my truth, not curtail or cower to what hasn’t felt true.This does not mean I have to be forceful or pushy with how I feel, I just hold my knowing of life and and truth from my experience and honour that, no problem if others do not agree, learning to live like this has been the most nourishing and nurturing step I have taken in life.

103. Our menstrual cycle is a gift and the choices we make to carry this gift is a lesson for us all. Thank you Gyl Rae for sharing your experience and reminding us all that there is always room for more reflection and that living with this stillness is the greatest gift to share with others.

104. Gyl, it is very interesting to read your article, my periods stopped for 6 months and have just returned. I can feel how I was not living as the tender, delicate woman that I am, that I was not honouring and cherishing myself, that has changed now, I am now feeling more womanly everyday and more present in my body, I cherish and adore myself and will never again take myself or my periods for granted.

105. At first simply opening our eyes to what our bodies share with us and then caring enough for ourselves to respond… this can be the beginning of a transformative relationship with health and well-being.

106. I am amazed that someone who has expert knowledge of the human body and its natural cycles even could form the words to say that missing periods is healthy! It is clearly not!

107. This was really interesting for me to read as I understand what you are saying here but what this highlighted for me was 1. Do I allow myself to live in the natural flows, rhythms and cycles my body offers and 2. the other day I was teaching puberty to a class of year 6 girls, the whole hour was talking about periods and they had hundreds of questions, they were truly amazing with what they were asking and how they were asking it. The reason it is interesting for me to read this after taking this small workshop is I am pondering that to say to a girl it is not normal to not have periods could make her go into anxiousness. So it is great to be with this and reflect on what we express and how we express it. Something Serge Benhayon seems to do so effortlessly in never holding back the truth but always doing so with much much love, care and respect for others.

108. In a world where so many things that are not normal are now being considered normal, it is great to read a blog that says there is something very abnormal about not having a period. We are meant to have periods and if they are not occurring then that is telling us something about the way that we are living. Medicine is not rocket science. It is simply about looking at how we are living and working out how and why that is impacting us the way that it is. In this way medical science is all about observing people and life.

     1. So true Elizabeth, and when we use words like ‘normal’ to describe conditions that are abnormal, we erode our benchmark of true health. The word itself tends to imply that everything is okay because it happens a lot, but in reality what we are describing is a ‘common’ occurrence that requires observation and treatment of some kind to support the body to return to it’s normal function, in this case a healthy, regular menstrual cycle.

109. I am also re-learning this, it is forever deepening, ‘I’m re-learning to deeply take care of myself and my body, to nurture myself, to speak and live my truth, deepen my awareness and honour my feelings again.’

110. “The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.” I can relate to this, I had such an awareness back in March and my last period was in February, since then my periods stopped, even though I had been working on my stillness and connection, there was still more to the depth and awareness i had connected too. I continued to work on myself and then this November with support of Esoteric Practitioners I was able to connect to deeper depth, by the end of the month I had a full blown beautiful period. My body felt like it had an amazing cleanse. Our bodies are so wise.

111. I have also been missing my period for about four months now. I have had times in my life where they’ve been late or I’ve skipped a month but this is the longest I have gone without having a period. It feels sad because I have always loved getting my periods, I know it’s very uncommon for a woman to say, however I felt undeniable joy every time I got my period because I knew it meant that my body is doing well. Now, I know that it is not and it’s very upsetting.

112. For me, a woman’s period is quite a monthly marker of the rhythm she is living in. Missing a period would feel quite out of sync, and is quite a clear indicator to attend and look more closely at her body and relationship she has with it.

     1. Well said Johanne, missing a period is a clear indicator of a woman being out of sync with her own natural rhythms, and Gyl’s blog is a beautiful illustration of what that means at a very practical level. I love her descriptions of what stillness means to her, and what motion does. Very practical and relatable… and helpful in understanding what getting ‘out of rhythm’ might mean.

113. We have made living in disconnection to the great love that we are very common, but it is never normal. It is akin to holding our breath, going under water, closing our eyes and hoping for the best. There is only so long we can do this before we arise to the surface gasping for the lost breath.

114. “deepening my connection to the stillness and sacredness in my body” this is something that we can all be inspired by, we have so much out of control ways of being in this world that quite simply making life first about the quality in our bodies is both healing for us and shows the world the way to be.

115. It’s fascinating reading some of these comments and seeing how common it is for women to miss their periods. I never knew that this was so prevalent. What is also amazing is how it appears that doctors seem to think very little of it. My sense of this is that doctors are now operating on such a base level of well-being – basically if you are not “ill”, “diseased” or “dying” – then you are OK. And thus even a gigantic alarm bell like missing your period doesn’t register as serious with the doctor because there is no immediate danger. This short-sightedness with which so many of us approach our health, and this low level of well-being that so many of us are prepared to accept is a gigantic iceberg – invisible under the water – that is gonna destroy the health care system. We are careering towards a precipice whereby the systems will no longer be able to keep up with the problems.

116. Our body is always showing us stuff. The key to life is to be prepared to listen and change accordingly. We can never claim that we didn’t know.

117. When my periods stopped I knew something wasn’t normal, but I never considered the years before of monthly horrible cramps, unease, nausea, restless legs and crippling pain to mention a few as ‘not normal’ because my idea of ‘normal’ was what the majority of women were experiencing thus it must be true in life. However the normal you are sharing Gyl is that true normal comes from within, it comes from how our bodies feel and sometimes this doesn’t comply or outwardly appears contra to the accepted ‘normal’ life that we have all lived. My life up until my periods stopping was not normal for the body to be living under and eventually it had to stop to show me how unnatural and not normal it was. Normal from the body may not be normal to the outside world but it sure makes more sense and brings a sense of clarity to life.

118. Gyl, great to read this. My periods stopped for 6 months and have just returned, it feels gorgeous and natural to have them back and this time I will not take them for granted and I feel that it is important for me to continue to deepen my self care and self love; how I express myself and how I move, talk, dress and feel about myself.

119. Something I have found is that our definition of what is normal has changed. What is normal now was not normal 10, 20 or 30 or more years ago. I have had friends who have celebrated not having their periods which for me seems crazy. Knowing the importance of the menstrual cycle for a woman’s body, it should be deeply valued and embraced, not frowned upon or seen as an annoyance – sure I am man, so have not experienced one, but I know when they are embraced like my wife does, what a massive difference they can make and support they can have, not just for her but also for me. The question comes down to whether we want to listen to and be in tune with our bodies or ignore them? What if not having periods or having very painful ones etc.. was our body’s way of saying the way you have been living has not been in harmony with the body and so it is a great clear sign of where you are at? Personally I feel women are truly blessed to have periods, as they are yet another way the body can clearly show us the way we have been living.

120. It’s awesome to read that you didn’t just give your power away to all the suggestions made that would better your health and instead trusted that you knew there was more to it than meets the eye or the medical text book. Taking responsibility for one’s life is a huge step in the healing of our bodies.

121. Good that the body clearly shows us when something is not normal, like missing periods; our ‘normal’ thinking mind obviously is not wise enough to understand what is truly normal and what is not but relies on self-constructed ‘norms’ that may be common but certainly are not normal.

122. There is such sound advice in this blog, stillness is something we women all need to live and the lack of it shows up in our bodies. ‘Feeling that I don’t have to do everything at once’ Just this little sentence does a lot – following a recent hysterectomy, I am learning to listen to and honour my body, and not rushing to do anything is one of the lessons I am learning. That includes how I walk up and down stairs and how I eat. Nobody is telling me to do anything faster, it’s some weird wiring in my brain, and everything in my body is telling me to slow down, and it’s my body I need to listen to.

123. “The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.” Gyl this makes sense and something I can relate to myself as my periods have also stopped. I recognise the rush and drive I put myself in which physically hurts my body compared with connecting more deeply and living from the stillness which feels beautifully harmonious.

124. Just the title is healing of itself – the acknowledgement that actually something that could be passed on as normal just because it’s statistically common is actually not normal. I know I’ve been to GPs in the past for missed periods for many years in fact and though tests were done and I was told all is well but just levels were not peaking in unison so no period happened it was fine, normal to some extent.

125. It makes sense that missing periods would be telling us something about the way we are as women and it is wonderful to read how you took heed of your body Gyl, and started to make those loving choices. Anything physically ‘wrong’ with the body is a wonderful opportunity to take stock and really examine our choices and if we do so the body thanks us for it. Reconnecting to the stillness within is a deep form of nurturing oneself and the body will in time respond to this healing self-care, as it did by your periods returning.

126. It’s interesting to consider that if we were all prepared and willing to take this level of care for ourselves, what other ill conditions/problems we could potentially reverse in our bodies. By bringing consistency, commitment and true love to ourselves, the changes and benefits to our health that can occur are quite remarkable, as you have shown us here Gyl.

127. Gyl, it is so easy to rush, to feel the pressure of time urging us on to get the next thing and the next thing done. I love the way you have taken time out of the equation and given yourself more space to breathe and to feel the quality and the presence of you in your body.

128. Its awesome Gyl that you listened to your self and followed through on the feeling that it was not normal to miss your period, as to normalise something that deep down we know is not normal robs us of the discovery that there is more to health and medicine than what is currently on offer.

129. To know what feels normal or not normal in our bodies is a wonderful guiding compass that can allow us to seek the healing or medicine that is needed to restore harmony.

130. Your blog shows us that, just like our home, our body too needs a spring clean, or renovation too, where it needs care and attention to clear and sort out the ‘stuff’ that cramps our lifestyle, so there is more space and love in the body for it to function in a healthy way.

131. Our bodies so starkly and plainly present something to us sometimes, and it is a shock because we are living out of rhythm with it.

132. Our periods have so much they are telling us and our cycles, if not aligned with nature, will certainly let us know when they are out of sync. Even more of a reason to really clock what is happening, listen to what the body is telling us and honour our beautiful bodies.

133. Missing periods – ‘Every cell in my body knows truth ­­– this is not normal.’ and yet often we ,as women are encouraged to medicate to stop our periods when they become painful instead of exploring the deeper question of what may be causing our body to send this strong message in the first place.

134. “Living what I know, instead of knowing it from my head.” Yes that is an important point, knowing what to do is easy but then truly doing it every day and bringing the self-love into practice requires a little more commitment. It is beautiful to read your blog and feel inspired to take that loving care for myself too.

135. This is a beautiful marker of how our bodies know the truth. Our periods are a great clearing for the body and they are different every month – or so I have discovered in my body – my period changes based on how I am living and what a great reflection that is for me.

136. The attention, care, inner enquiry and nurturing you did towards yourself and then a few months later having your period return, demonstrates the responsiveness the woman’s body is to self love and self care.The way we live in relationship with ourselves as woman certainly seems key to a woman reproductive health.

137. We may think responsibility is just what we have to do practically day to day. Yes while it is, it is equally more than just this. To me, it is deeply irresponsible to view a missing period as normal and shrug it off and do little about it. We have to heal and this requires both Western and Esoteric Medicine to truly do this in full.

138. Many symptoms come and go but the first time I had an ongoing issue, a wheat allergy at age 30, it felt almost like a small death – such an allergy would never go away. In that case it was helpful but it was a strong reminder to be more careful with my body.

139. There is no doubt that the body is wise and when changes occur it is important to not ignore the early warning signals.

140. Like a house with the windows blocked out, the central heating smashed and carpets soggy and pulled out, we can ‘get used’ to our environment and the way it is. Even to the point that we might attack someone who comes along and looks inside, shines a light and says ‘hey you know you can open up those blinds and did you consider that you could turn the heating on?’. Gyl you show us all that we are designed to live in conditions that support and nurture, like a mansion of the Gods, it is not that you must move to a palace, but just start to see its always possible to clean some more and make the space you live in clear and easy to breathe. This is possible for us all and is what we truly do deserve.

141. What I have noticed is that if we are holding back in our expression and know we have so much to offer, our hormones can go through a lot of changes. My periods stopped for a good 9 months, I became aware of not fully expressing, holding back and also causing a deep tightness in my lower back. When that penny dropped and with the support of some amazing esoteric practitioners, I had a full blown period, which supported the clearing in my body.

142. Strange what we have come to accept as ‘normal’ – it looks like we are willing to put up with all sorts of medical and health conditions as long as we don’t get a really serious diagnosis. In that equation cancer and diabetes might be considered serious enough whereas missing periods and breast lumps might be considered ‘normal’. I wonder what are we trying to achieve by ‘normalising’ conditions that ask us to pay attention and take responsibility?

143. So many things in life are considered “normal” but who tagged them as such? Who defined what “normal” is and why do we use that term? In my experience, it’s when a large group of people have a condition or do a certain thing, yet what they are doing or the condition they have may actually not be normal at all. It’s certainly time to look again at what is true and then make that our new normal.

144. It is not only missing periods that can tell how us how we have been living as women, but also the nature of the period itself. Recently I have become aware that what I thought were “normal” periods have not in fact been. Although they were regular, the flow was very light and only lasted for two days. In the last few months my periods have started to change – the flow is now much heavier even though the time of the bleed is roughly the same, they have deepened because I have allowed myself to go deeper with my own connection to my body as a woman and to life.

145. Our bodies are the first to tell us that we are straying from our natural rhythms – the danger is that we dismiss the signs and symptoms to the point that we start to accept dysfunction as normal, creeping ever further away from true well-being until we have forgotten what it looks like.

146. When our period changes from its natural rhythm we are given an immediate gift from our body as women. This is one of the many ways our body ‘calls’ us to go deeper in connection with our stillness, our sacredness and the divine order that we are part of and here to share.

147. Our inner cycles are so amazing, precise and natural, starting only when our bodies are ready and continuing in perfect cyclical order – when this is disrupted or out of sync, we cannot brush it off as normal, but see that something is intrinsically out of balance in ourselves.

148. It is pure gold to consider that how we run our bodies as women can affect our periods. I remember thinking when I was young, that periods were this robust thing that would happen regardless of what I did to myself or my body throughout the month. However, now I can see, with wisdom and maturity of years, that it is how I live with myself and my body throughout the whole year and indeed for each and every day of my entire life that determines the frequency and the quality of my periods. And that they are not something to be taken for granted, but a very precious gift that my body brings to me when I have been loving with myself.

149. Our body gives us so many gifts to remind us that there is so much more to us that we may be accepting. This is just one example of the way our body can invite us to go deeper and discover the true wealth that lies within us.

150. I love how unequivocally you make this statement “The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.” This is clearly written by someone who has great understanding of their body and feels absolutely true.

151. Our bodies are always communicating with ourselves, like you said Gyl you knew energetically what was behind your periods stopping, ‘The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.’

152. Something this blog highlights for me is how we are so used to illness meaning something really severe or immediately life threatening that more minor symptoms we can tend to brush aside or ignore because they’re not as bad as say cancer. I think it’s great how you took responsibility for what was going on in your body Gyl and got the support needed to help truly resolve what was underlying it.

153. Feeling into what is going on for us in our bodies and listening to what is presenting is where we need to get to. For me, i have ignored for the most part a lot of my life what my body was sharing. This has changed a lot from what it used to be, but there is also so much more depth that can be felt and awareness developed. This is a daily and ongoing unfolding, which I am still learning to bring love and understanding to that process.

154. If we were to be honest with ourselves, deep down we know what is going on with our bodies, in many cases we just choose to ignore the messages our body is offering us to stay in the discomfort of the familiar drive existence we have become accustomed to.

155. There are some very simple tools we can bring into our lives to truly start to live a nurturing self-loving way. and they don’t cost a thing, yet can transform our lives, by allowing our bodies to live their natural rhythm free from all the aggressive emotions, nervous energies and drive we so constantly impose upon them. And once free our bodies can restore to their natural vitality and aliveness and support us to understand ourselves ever more deeply and clearly. Definitely is worth a try.

156. Normal is not normal just because it is common. It’s a trap society often falls into.

157. Such a joy to read this blog again! Honouring our rhythms is one of the most simple things to do and it can reveal so much about how we are living. But are we ready for such truth?

158. There is such a wealth of wisdom offered by our bodies and the natural cycles in life, especially when we listen and observe deeply where we are in tune and in harmony versus out of phase with our cycles such as in our periods.

159. I so appreciate the extensive reflections and insights offered by Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon that have inspired and supported me to connect more deeply with my body and with life. This is a forever deepening relationship with my understanding, appreciation, awareness and the level of responsibility I take.
     I am observing more and more that each of us are capable of reading every situation we find ourself in and being aware of what is at play at a far more profound level than we imagine we could be.

160. Universal Medicine has – through Serge Benhayon – brought an understanding of the body to us, that allows us to become absolutely responsible for every symptom we may suffer from. For many that’s a scary thing, for some it is the beginning of true freedom.

161. Bringing all these avenues of support together feels super supportive and clearly delivers and re-establishes an overall balance to your body that has made the world of difference to your overall health.

162. It makes perfect sense that if we care for ourselves in a way that is loving and truly nurturing then our health issues will change. Could it be that all of these health conditions we complain about could in fact be lessened or healed depending on the level of self nurturing we have.

163. There seem to be many situations with the body like periods being stopped that get put into the “it’s not a major concern” basket. But what if this is the body’s way of saying something isn’t right, and hence this is like the proverbial canary in the coal mine, i.e. a message asking us to pay attention and look deeper at what is occurring.

164. Once we move with gentleness, with delicacy, expressing and receiving love and in a way that supports our body, there is then the previous momentum to clear. This transition period can be interesting but in my experience it is finite.

165. The way life has progressed through my lifetime of 6 decades so far, I remember all the gadgets we started to get were advertised as time saving pieces of equipment. That has continued with the computer technology but still we could say we have less time and space than ever before. Can it be that we are still in the energy of living chasing our tails? We need to reset the button of looking after ourselves being a priority, otherwise the body shows us in other ways, as you describe Gyl. It’s our wake up call to get us to take notice and return to the stillness forever waiting inside us, waiting for us to connect with it.

166. It is quite incredible to recognise just how much self nurture, self regard, self honouring, re-connection and embracing a woman has with her body seems to have an impact on a woman’s biochemistry and reproductive health. It just goes to show just how there is a strong anecdotal association between Esoteric health and conventional medicine.

167. It is beautiful to read this blog again as it describes motion to a tee! I am sure most people can relate to this way of living and like you, I have been deepening my connection and allowing more stillness in my life. I tend to resist this as it is a very powerful place to be, but that is just a game and one I am calling time on.

168. I’m re-reading your blog with renewed interest Gyl as I have become aware of how my own choices are affecting my digestion and feel there is so much to learn and be inspired by in what you have shared. Thank you.

169. Even though I don’t have periods anymore, I look back at the years when I did and see the direct correlation to how I was living and how my menstrual cycle was. When I was in excess motion and stress, I always had painful and difficult periods. At times when I was looking after myself in a more loving way, my periods would reflect this. A women’s periods are such a blessing and a great marker of how we are living.

170. I love how our body is the best teacher. My body is constantly showing me there are so many aspects of what it is to nurture ourselves. At one point to not eat junk food was nurturing and at another time to not rush from a to b was a whole new way of nurturing myself. Making the choice to appreciate and confirm all that I am choosing is now equally as nurturing. Just as in the past eating junk food or rushing were a form of disregard and even neglect, now a lack of appreciation can be considered the same.

171. Looking at a condition or illness from the whole, rather than in parts makes so much more sense in understanding the cause, and thus the remedy.

172. I love your list of all the things you were living like thinking and over thinking. It is very real and no doubt many of us can relate to some if not all of your big list here.
     How is it that we live in total disregard and wonder why our body then gives us signs that something is wrong.
     Your story is a great confirmation that once we start to connect to our body and stop the doing doing stuff on auto pilot, things change. The quality of how we live changes. That to me is a game changer.
     I am living proof having been through major surgery and now living a life that holds a quality of the stillness you talk about. Thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

173. We can go to the doctor for confirmation and for blood tests and check ups, and its a great support, but sometimes, in fact all the time, we know much more deeply than is often accepted, what is true in our own bodies. We know when we are living out of sync and we know what bests supports us, it really just whether we want to know or not, and what if anything are we going to do about it.

174. Awareness is a beautiful and delightful thing as long as I am not imprisoned by ideals that separate what I feel is right and wrong, good and bad. To be working on letting go of these ideals makes it so much easier to be in life.

175. As ladies we are blessed with such an opportunity each month to have a reflection in how we have been living. I know for the majority of the time I have had my period I haven’t wanted to look at the symptoms that come up time and time again. To be able to open up and observe, listen and read what it is that our bodies are communicating to us is worth Gold. This openness is a choice to connect deeper with ourselves and in doing so we realise that there is an ocean of wisdom and wealth to connect to.

     1. There is so much healing that we can embrace when we open to the rhythm of our cycles.

176. I read recently that there is a procedure women are signing up for that stops periods altogether – Endometrial Ablation. The lining of the uterus is destroyed to deter menstruation. Such drastic measures of pain relief can only take us further away from what our body and our painful period is telling us – that we need to look further and appreciate and nurture the immense power of the sacredness and stillness of the woman.

     1. I wonder where the tension goes that was relieved through periods up to that moment?

177. “Stillness is as natural to us as breathing; it never leaves us.” Love this Gyl and knowing this is such a support. Thank you for sharing.

     1. Stillness never leaves us and it is always available but we need to consciously live it or it becomes harder to access.

178. I have only ever missed a few periods when I was younger and still developing a rhythm, but even then it felt like I was missing something, like a limb, despite the fact at this time my periods were very painful. Periods are so much a part of being a woman, there is a cycle to our bodies we can connect to that is actually very precious and something I actually want as a part of my month.

179. Simply using words like tender, gentle and delicate in relation to the way we consider and treat ourselves is really amazing and inspiring. I love to see these words written and used more frequently… it is like we are claiming them back from a shady corner and realising the importance and power of them once again.

180. Yes our periods do tell us so much. I totally understand that for some women it might be a relief not having their periods anymore and others who would totally freak out because they would like a child but what you shared here Gyl feels so true. Our periods are here to support us to be the true woman we are, so not being there is a big message.

181. if you continually push your body eventually it will find a way to make to stop, it is not that it is clever but that there is a balance that needs to be restored.

182. Gyl I have really enjoyed reading your blog again, there is wealth of wisdom in here that comes from your lived experience. The line that has deeply resonated with me is “In stillness there is no doing, only being, and in this there is no way you can deny you are divine and deeply connected to God.” So well said thank you Gyl.

183. Our bodies are our closest, most trusted friend… and their communication to us forever loving. Every ailment, every condition we receive is a message from our body to come back to living in harmony. Pushing, racing around and being ‘hard’ as a woman is unnatural and it shuts our delicate organs and make-up down.

184. I understand why a doctor would say not to worry about missing a period/s as worrying isn’t going to help and could actually just make us feel worse but do agree with you Gyl that to label it as something normal doesn’t help in the way that we can then feel justified in ignoring it and not being open to seeing what it might be showing us about our way of life.

185. The simple steps and changes can contribute to big changes in our lives, ‘Being aware of the quality in which I move, is it delicate, tender and gentle or is it hard and harsh?’ This is simple and yet very loving and supportive of ourselves.

186. Gyl if we stop for a moment and did a comparison of what we consider normal now compared to the past we would be shocked, yet furthermore what amazes me is that when I listen to Serge present I get the waves of awareness about things I thought were normal, that I accepted as how it was, melt away and see how very un-normal they are. This makes me ask, what else in my life do I accept as normal but is not actually normal let alone true?

187. I see clients regularly who share with me that they have painful or irregular periods, and then they shrug their shoulders and say ‘but that’s normal’.
     Just because lots of women have painful periods, or irregular periods or miss periods, does not mean this is normal at all. It seems we have substituted the word ‘majority’ with ‘normal’. But in truth, what this means is that we have many women that are living with disharmonious cycles, and that they then learn to see this as normal which only ends up perpetuating the problem.
     And the funny thing we could say with these warped definitions is that for a woman to then not have painful periods, and to have a regular cycle, there must be something wrong with her! When you put it in terms like this we really get to hear how ridiculous it gets when we bastardise words!

188. Stillness requires a constant refining in one’ s life choices. It is like a reminder which asks for more truth and love.

189. I love your presentation here, Gyl, of motion and stillness. These are foreign concepts to many, and yet they are fundamental principles to be aware of, allowing us to have balance in our daily lives and harmony within the body.

190. This blog is a testimonial to enormous intelligence our bodies are connected to, that our bodies know how to live in the cycles we are governed by. Connecting deeply to our body is in fact obeying to this grander order that the cycles are offering us. Thanks to the Universal Medicine founded modalities we have now tools available to us to re-establish that inner connection, the connection we have walked away from long time ago in our quest to create a life on our own.

191. I love this flag waving, Gyl. We are getting so used to calling abnormal things normal simply because they are statistically common. And if we do not keep returning to our natural baseline of well-being, which is free of pain, stress, anxiety, physiological dysfunction… we will end up accepting a state of existence that is so far from true living.

192. There is nothing normal about a woman not having her periods and as you say Gyl your whole body knew this to be the case. The beautiful thing is that while the mind can believe this or that to be true the body knows what is true and can always be relied upon.

193. “I was living in a way where there was a large amount of motion and anxiety in my body” when I read this sentence I got the very clear sense that any emotion, whether anxiety or frustration or sadness, is in fact a motion in my body, and felt as such as it is not in harmony with the inner vibration of stillness.

194. It all comes back to the R word – responsibility in the true sense – that is, living lovingly, joyfully and honouring all that we are in essence as women.

195. It’s amazing the kind of things doctors now consider ‘normal’ – I know I’ve been surprised many many times. I love that you took your health into your own hands and made the decision for yourself what you and your body needed. There definitely needs to be more self-empowered choices when it comes to making choices about our health.

196. I love the beautiful rhythm that is on offer for us to live our lives in. A period is a reminder of this rhythm and an opportunity to check in with how we are with the rhythm on offer.

197. Our bodies are absolutely miraculous aren’t they? When we really stop to consider what our bodies do in every moment of every day, working away to keep us going without asking for anything back, other than for us to respond to the signals that they send us to take more care of them, it is astonishing that they keep going in the way that they do when we ignore these signals. The intricacies of the bodies workings, and how they are designed to keep working regardless of what we do to them, is nothing short of a miracle and the absolute magic of God.

198. Thank you for making it so clear that stillness is an inner quality that has nothing to do with being motionless. That then sets the scene for stillness being the foundation for everything we do, no matter its pace. And it is through the stillness that we can feel and know that we are part of the All.

199. The so called modern day woman chooses to live in excess motion (maleness) to override her innate femaleness, the living Stillness of God that is found deep within. When the women try to out-men the men, the world is in trouble for we have upset the balance of the genders; the stillness and the motion, the in-breath and the out-breath of God, the divine rhythm that governs all cycles in the Universe we are an innate part of. This is how we have come to ‘breathe our own breath’ and got out of sync with the divine order that lives within and all around us. Restoring the in-breath, the Stillness of God, is the first step to arresting the waywardness that has humanity fast tracked into illness and exhaustion of plague proportions. Therefore it stands that we as women play a key role in helping humanity return to the One breath that breathes us all…and that begins with becoming deeply in tune with the rhythm within our own bodies.

     1. This is a beautiful and inspiring call to the most loving responsibility women have. It is the quiet, steady building of the foundation of stillness (God’s in-breath), honouring the beholding quality of this gender, for all.

200. If we replace the word period with cycle; and then say the term ‘missing cycle’, we see how ridiculous it is to accept that this is normal.

201. Dear Gyl,
     By simply stating that missing our period is not normal (unless you are pregnant) are words that need to be shared. The fact that many accept this as normal is a clear sign that how we treat and use our bodies is a far cry from how our bodies want to be treated. Mine responds amazingly to every moment where I choose to surrender to what it needs, and honour this.

202. Missing periods is definitely not normal, either are periods that are not full and red and flowing. This has been my experience for a while and I have not really allowed myself to feel the depth of what is truly going on. So reading this blog has been super inspiring for me to go deeper to look at why this is the case. So thank you.

203. I had my first period 3 weeks ago after 5 months of not having one. My period came back after getting super honest and committing like you did Gyl to bringing more stillness into my daily life. I feel the game changer was from choosing to offer myself a daily self breast massage as presented on the Foundational Breast Care website every morning, which in just a few weeks had a huge impact on my deepening of my connection to myself as a woman through true breast care.

204. It is indeed amazing how, when we choose to step up the level of love and care we are willing to give to ourselves, and deeply honour that, that our bodies will and do respond in a way that allows harmony to be restored. It is when we ignore and override what is being asked for by our bodies, that physical problems arise.

205. It is interesting that when we have come to call that which is not natural ‘normal’ simply because it may be a widespread occurrence across the population it is perceived to become acceptable because it is expected. We then, as in the case of the doctor in this blog, almost promote that which is not natural according to our harmonious way of living as part of a trend of such mistaken assumptions across our entire way of living and current state of existence. It is so important to state as you have here Gyl, that it is not normal but just that which has become acceptable by many, but not by all.

206. Amazing! I recently had my first period after 6 months of not having it. On reflection it was no surprise to me that it stopped for such a long time given the state of anxiety I had been living in daily over the last year. In that time my health really declined and I developed an auto immune disease.
     I had to make some big changes in order to support myself to come back to my body. My periods stopped due to enormous stress. Since making some big changes and with the support of supplements that I had been lacking, as well as regular charkrapuncture sessions, my period came back. I never worried too much about it, because it just made sense to me that my body couldn’t possibly function normally whilst I was in such a state. I knew what I needed to do, and in doing that, things are slowly finding their natural rhythm again.

207. Gyl – thank-you for standing by the truth and empowering yourself to heal through self care and responsibility – the worrying part is that many would override any doubts they may have felt through this initial consultation with the doctor, disempower themselves in the face of someone with so called “greater knowledge” and choose to ignore the body’s clear disharmony.

208. I am struck in this by the reflection Serge and Natlaie Benhayon offered you by there commitment to their own livingness. It was because their ‘normal’ of how to care for themselves was so honed they were able to support you and look how much support that offered. We have to do this, each and every one of us to change the trajectory for our own lives so we can support others to do the same, if and when the call is there.

209. ‘The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body’ This is pure gold to know, understand and be aware of. Understanding this gives power back to us as women to restore ourselves to our true natural state .

210. Thanks, Gyl. I love hearing about all the different ways you decided to take care of yourself, through listening to your body and deepening your relationship to it. This feels really responsible, not just for yourself but knowing that this stronger connection to your sacredness will benefit all.

     1. This discussion about responsibility continues to inspire me as I understand more deeply that it is not a burdensome thing I have to shoulder alone, but about my interactions and relationship with everyone.

211. Hello Gyl and while I am a man I find things like this interesting. Why? I am interested in how things cycle around and so to see something like this happen every month for most women I find interesting. What does it mean for women and men? How does it look and what support can I be for women in this cycle. Most of us would know that women can change around their period time, moods, outlooks, emotions etc but how are we as men supporting them in this cycle. Do we see it as ‘their thing’ and so stand on the sidelines or do we take an interest, a care in how we can be with these cycles. We are seeing more and more how we are linked or connected to each other and so I see this as another opportunity to bring this all together. I find is very fascinating that the ‘period’ of time between periods is about a month, why? What is this cycle showing us, is it just something that happens to a women or is this something bigger, grander and a blessing for us all. It is becoming more and more obvious we need to connect more, or connect deeper and for me this is a great place to start. Men are deeply caring and so a question is possibly why at this point in a woman’s life each month why we aren’t continuing that care.

212. A beautiful testimony to not ignoring signs from our body simply because they are more or less statistically common. There are many detrimental things that we are absorbing into what we call normal simply because they are statistically frequent: levels of obesity, increased alcohol consumption, dependence on stimulants etc., and this article inspires the consideration of responsibility and the power of our bodies’ dialogues.

213. A very clear account of true medicine being lived, applied and practiced in and throughout ones entire way of living. This is the one and true way of the future, as for many modern medicine, as we know it, simply is not ‘it’ on its own.

214. It is amazing how much we consider things to be normal or ok when our whole bodies are screaming out saying it is not ok and not normal. How many things do we accept in our lives as being normal when they are abusive to our bodies and so far from being normal when compared to the love we are? It is scary to really think about it!

215. Gyl this is a great sharing – that by connecting to your body you are able to read what is going on and from there seek support of western medicine. We have a responsibility to do this, to stop and take account of where we are – this is a key to healing in a way that we are fully aware and responsible for. We need to start playing a bigger part in our healing rather than handing it over to a doctor and hoping for a cure. And as is evident here, when we do this, we learn a lot about ourselves, we build up a trust and honesty with ourselves and we can start to heal from the point of understanding why the symptom is occurring.

216. ‘With this support, and the choices I am making my periods have come back, but I know this is not the end. I know it’s time to continue deepening my connection to the stillness and sacredness in my body, and with that even more Ancient Wisdom’ – this is very beautiful Gyl and a celebration of true responsibility.

217. Thank you Gyl for the beautiful reminder that our bodies hold a wisdom that if we take the time to become still and listen, tell us everything we need to know. Giving our power away to other authorities is very different to listening to the advice of those we consider professionals, and marrying that with our own deeper knowing. The ability to do so however requires a relationship with ourselves first, and to know ourselves already in a way that is open to self-enquiry and self-responsibility.

218. Thank you Gyl. This blog was not what I expected and offered me so much to feel and incorporate into my own life. I have been becoming aware that I am living in a state of constant motion and I get the sense that it is clouding my vision and steering me away from the stillness that is truly needed in my life. My periods arrive like clockwork and yet I can see the effects of my choices in the pain and moodiness I experience during my cycle. I know that these issues can no longer be ignored.

219. Gyl it is inspiring to read the responsibility that you have taken on board for your missing period and your own healing.

220. The beauty of our bodies is that they will always let us know where we are at

221. “So why is it we choose to ignore or override our body and believe that we can make something that is not our natural divine order and rhythm our normal?” I often feel that I think ‘because it is too hard and I cannot do it’ yet if I go there and simply do it, that is living from my true rhythm as a woman, I can do it and it is not hard. I found that these thoughts are insidious and we need to be aware that our thoughts are not always true or supporting us. Our bodies and we know very well how to live in our true rhythm it is just about re-applying it to life. Thank you Gyl for this beautiful blog.

222. “The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.” This is such an honest sharing offering so much inspiration, understanding and support. Thank you Gyl.

223. Great sharing here Gyl about stillness as a quality that we can get to know within us to be as natural as breathing, as you say. Our bodies can work so harmoniously when we allow them to be held with stillness within the motion of our lives, rather than run down through excess motion.

224. Calling normal and natural something that is neither normal nor natural seems to be a sign of our times. The problem with this operation is that it affects us deeply in many ways. The distortion it brings along dulls us, not allowing us to clearly picture life and our responsibility in it. Is this state an undesirable, unfoseeable one or a sought one? The possibility of not being able to picture our responsibility gives green light to irresponsibility and to hide behind the fact that many others also go there (so not one will notice if we join the crowd).

225. What is to be noted here is that we can actually return to balance and harmony within ourselves if we choose to take responsibility for the energetic path of our lives.

226. Our bodies when in harmony operate in cycles just like so many aspects of nature. Nature too speaks loudly and rebalances itself when the disharmony of humanity builds.

227. If the sun missed a cycle or was out of rhythm, the whole world would stop until we worked out why and what needed to be done. However we do not apply the same level of responsibility or even inquisitiveness when it comes to our own bodies.

228. What our bodies communicate to us is incredible and what we do with that is up to us every second of every day. Taking responsibility for our choices is what the body is communicating to us, the result of our choices.

229. Our body also registers all of our choices…. and our body definitely speaks to us when we are listening. Recognising and paying attention to this fact is essential for our true health and wellbeing.

230. It is also how interesting many people take heavy and / or painful periods to be normal. Really we will accept anything as normal when it comes to our cycle. Yet are we really living in a body that allows for normal or is the normal we have accepted based on many un-truths?

231. This sentence rings so true, Gyl – “In stillness there is no doing, only being, and in this there is no way you can deny you are divine and deeply connected to God.” I can feel that my refusal to drop into this level of stillness and connection to God also created a tension in my body which disrupted the flow of my natural cycles…hence no periods. There is a lot here for us to be really honest about, as missing periods is becoming increasingly common it seems.

232. Gyl, when you describe the duality of living – doing two or multi things at any one time – that whirs through our minds, it’s incredible to realise just how much we do not (like to) concentrate on just one thing – i find myself doing exactly this, or rushing through things, and find that there is a definite deliberateness to the choice to do so, or be thinking of more than one thing at a time ….to keep the body tight/restricted, and increase levels of anxiety. Creating and using anxiousness to not feel would have a direct affect and assault on a woman’s cycle; creating and using space to feel also similarly so. The latter is what i’ve been enjoying working on through the joy of Esoteric Yoga.

233. Reading this as a guy has made me reflect more deeply on what other cycles affect us and which of those we may be missing though being unaware of the effect of our actions.

234. Our bodies are so naturally attuned to the many cycles of life and nature so it makes sense that our own cycles such as periods are disrupted when we our out of balance or in disharmony.

235. If we all followed the norm there would never be any great leaders of true change and wisdom. The leaders we all can be.

236. Gyl, this is great to read, ‘There is a natural rhythm, life flows, there’s no need to try, push or rush. Stillness is as natural to us as breathing; it never leaves us.’ I can feel how sometimes I live like this and life feels very simple and beautiful, often though I go into drive and rush to get things done which feels awful in my body. I feel inspired to work on the quality of stillness in all that I do, living this consistently.

237. I love that our bodies are so true that they reflect with every symptom they show, how we are living and treating them and us. Stillness is a big healer and it requires to let go and surrender to the truth and love inside of us.

238. “how I live…” has everything to to with our health, wellness or illness and disease. And this is a great question to ask ourselves when something from our body doesn’t seem ‘normal’.

239. I am reminded of that saying “my body is a machine”, a saying used by those who seek to maximise the performance out of their bodies to get it to do what they want. The irony is of course, that they would not dream of treating a machine the way they treat their body, knowing that such a lack of care would make it break down. Many years ago I knew a girl who was state cross country running champion. That in itself is not news, but what is news is that at one point she stopped having periods for quite a long time. In the athletic world that is seen as normal, even though it is surely a sign that a body is experiencing extreme levels of stress.

240. Missing periods is ‘normal’ if that is what the body needs to do.

241. For me, the lack of periods also reflects how far removed I am living from the natural flow in my body, so busy trying to be something I am not rather than honouring what I feel inside and allowing that to guide my choices.

242. ‘Stillness is as natural to us as breathing; it never leaves us.’ So true Gyl, stillness is just a choice and connection away.

243. It’s crazy to be told that not having a period is normal. Until recently I had never come across anyone who was missing any periods unless pregnant, but now it seems there are many more women.

244. Nothing is random, everything has a cause and a reason for occurring, to live in this way is to live closer to the wisdom we are made to live from. So to dismiss a missed period as normal almost seems lazy, incomplete, because it shows a lack of understanding of the whole picture our bodies are made from, the Universe. And the more we just dismiss what we don’t understand the more dulled down our existence becomes. For me the very least I can do is question why things occur, why I might have an ache or a pain, because for sure it never just happens.

245. “I know it’s time to continue deepening my connection to the stillness and sacredness in my body, and with that even more Ancient Wisdom.” My periods have stopped for the last 7mths, though I am speaking with doctors for tests, I am aware it is about my connection to stillness and sacredness.

246. In the last few days I have spoken with young women who have really painful periods. From my experience and speaking with these young women in the last few days, we are not taught about the sacredness of our bodies, the stillness within, to nurture ourselves, honour our innate connection within or have an understanding that just how we live everyday affects how our periods will be at the end of the month. Although this it is not about missing periods it comes down to the same thing, our cycle and our connection with ourselves and bodies. It is great to have this discussion and to start talking about the topic of woman’s health and it is an absolute blessing to have Serge Benhayon, Natalie Benhayon, Universal Medicine, Esoteric Women’s Health and the Sacred Esoteric Healing modalities including Esoteric Breast Massage that all aid and support women to truly reconnect with themselves within their body and bring truth to truly get to the root of these illnesses and diseases that more and more women are getting and younger too.

247. The support offered by Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine is the only way forth, as we become aware of the level of responsibility we need to be living with to support our bodies in every way possible.

248. “Every cell in my body knows truth” Totally agree Gyl, our bodies are in perfect sync with the flow and cycles of the Universe and they communicate everything we need to be aware of all of the time, it is our responsibility to live in a way that supports our connection to that inner wisdom within.

     1. Yes well said, Francisco, there is a very clear choice to be made as to whether we allow ourselves to stay connected to the grand flow and cycles of the universe or limit our experience to the struggles of daily life.

249. Motion coming from stillness is movement in divine harmony.

250. When we fragment our bodies in the way you describe Gyl, how can they work in rhythm with the harmonious whole they truly are? It is so clear from your experience, and the way you worked with it, how we can make choices that help us to come back to that deep connection with our bodies.

251. It seems to have become normal to not be normal.

252. What an absolute blessing that your period went on strike Gyl, because it alerted you to the fact that something was wrong with your body and how you had been living – otherwise you would have kept going on the merry go round you were on and who knows where that ride would have taken you.

253. ‘Being aware of the quality in which I move, is it delicate, tender and gentle or is it hard and harsh?’ How we are with ourselves, is shown through out bodies. Missing periods is showing a woman that the way she is in relationship with herself needs to be explored, that’s how supportive our bodies are..but often we can override in making the connection between our bodies and how we are living in our bodies.

254. We all have a connection to the natural rhythms and cycles of our bodies and nature. We know when something is not flowing with this natural rhythm. Medicine looks for disease rather than disruption to our natural rhythms, as such, there is not always much to offer from a medical view when there is a disruption to these rhythms rather than a disease. This is where esoteric medicine or philosophy can greatly support our understanding of what is happening in our bodies. Thank you for sharing this example Gyl.

255. All the messages from the body are messages for us to listen to. This is a pretty extreme one to ignore, coming from our feminine area of the body, so it’s pretty loud telling us there is a disconnection happening there. How great that you were willing to look at this Gyl, because we can still ignore it when reassured from the medics that this is ok. But you could feel the message and it’s an opportunity to make a change when we listen.

256. I can’t say I’ve ever missed a period or ever actually had one, (in this life anyway) but i’m learning that many things my body does or doesn’t do are a direct result of how I am living. Facing up to this and being responsible for it may be challenging at times but something that just doesn’t simply sort it self out without honesty.

257. If we are not understanding the nature of what our period offers us, the reflection of our choices and the deep connection with the way we live; then it is easy to say that it is ‘normal’ to miss a period for an extended period of time. If we look at the intimate reflection it provides in terms of our relationship with ourselves as a woman, then we have nowhere to go, but to look more deeply within and assess where we are truly at and the reflection being offered for us to assess the way we have been living.

258. Missing periods are certainly not normal and yet up until my periods stopped I never ever stopped to question if painful periods were not normal. With the support of conventional and esoteric medicine I have come to a greater understanding of why my periods have stopped and since then I have felt more strongly that it doesn’t support me to ignore these messages regarding and giving feedback on my choices from the body.

259. The more I hear the way we used the word normal to accept a declining state of health the more concerned I get about what we are accepting as an OK quality of living.

260. My feeling is one doesn’t just end up with uterine fibroids, a hardened uterus just overnight – but after many years of painful dysfunctional periods which are in fact a clear message from the body that we are not being truly supportive of ourselves. How much else can our body tell us if we start to listen?

261. This changes so much, observing how we move and choosing to be with more care and gentleness.”Being aware of the quality in which I move, is it delicate, tender and gentle or is it hard and harsh?” I was hard on my body, hard with my movements and generally heavy in how I moved….it was no surprise that I felt heavy, hard etc emotionally. Allowing gentleness into daily movements has altered how I feel about myself, the less gentle I am now the bigger the sign that there is something for me to look at. And gentleness is not weak or powerless, it has power and steadiness, and awareness that cannot be measured, it is awesomely supportive.

262. Our bodily cycles indicate to us the truth of how we have been living and if we are in rhythm with the natural order of the universe.

263. How is it that a doctor can advise us not having a period for 3 months is normal? Have we come so far that we don’t know what normal and not normal is anymore? Are we so out of touch with our bodies that so many women experience this and so it’s become normal. Perhaps it isn’t until we speak up on what our bodies are communicating is not normal – that we will see a change – because the way it is going – the healthcare system is shifting what normal is in every respect – weight being a great example. It is up to us to claim it back.

264. I just got my period today after 5 months of not having a period. This has been one of the longest ‘periods’ (excuse the pun!) of time that I have been without having a period. I have known that I have needed to adjust the way I have been with myself in order for my periods to come back Over the last month in particular I have been focusing on developing a much deeper level of connection and stillness to my body. Regular self breast massage as shared by Foundational Breast Care has been an integral part in this process and I am deeply grateful for Esoteric Women’s Health which has hugely supported me in my deepening.

265. It really is quite extraordinary how we could possibly think that when our body is not as it is divinely meant to be, that we consider this ‘normal’! What energy is running us that we could possibly think this way – clearly it isn’t divine energy.

266. Esoteric Women’s health has supported many women who have had or suffer from various medical issues. I have heard so many different stories and it is very inspiring. I really love and appreciate what Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon have presented and shared with the world.

267. It is never ok to have our rhythms as women not be functioning properly, it is a real choice to look within and bring deeper awareness to what is actually going on. I know for me, it has happened, my periods severely impacted due to being racy, wanting to be everything for everyone, but not leaving enough in the tank for myself. This has changed a lot over time, but it is still there, for me to feel what is the quality I am living in and self honouring each and every day.

268. A great sharing Gyl and inspiring for those suffering similar problems with menstruation. It certainly is not normal as you say to miss out on your period for months. So great to know that Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy worked so well.

269. It is amazing how you are willed to look deeper in what is happening with your rhythm, Gyl, and relate it to your daily life. I can observe more and more when I am not being connected with my stillness I feel unsettled and disturbed.

270. When we ignore the small signals our body sends us, it lays the foundation for us to open the door for more messages to be missed. When living this way at some point the body sends us a full stop that we can’t ignore but more than likely, ask why this has happened?

271. Rather than accept it as normal that many women nowadays are missing periods, let’s ask why is this so? Gyl you have given us a good part of the answer in that if we get caught up in the busy-ness of life we leave our innate quality of stillness and race off away from our connection with ourselves. There is a beautiful rhythm to the monthly cycle and when our natural rhythm is disturbed it is not surprising that it affects our periods.

272. What is considered ‘normal’ is often not natural and does often not take into account the wellbeing of the body. For example, it may be normal for people to get drunk every Saturday night but how do their bodies feel and why do they do it? Once we are willing to look at these sorts of questions we start to take greater responsibility for our health.

     1. It is great to develop our understanding and honesty around the difference between normal and natural. For me, normal has become something that is simply statistically common place, whereas natural is what is in line with that which supports and takes care of us as a whole.

273. It is common that we have accepted an out of syncness to our cycles and what they are showing us along with the rest of our body. Learning to put up with pain or discomfort or any other signs that present themselves will only lead to a deeper disconnected way of being that our bodies are communicating with us. Waking up to this is the greatest place to start and then comes honesty.

274. Our cycle as women is key in reflecting to us how we are living. I know that when my period is late even by a couple of days then I have been pushing myself too much, I have been neglecting myself in some way and not taking heed to how I really should be with myself. This is a reminder, a red flag, a call to attention to make a change and come back to more nurturing and caring ways with myself. And then there is the next cycle to see if I remembered to do this, or to confirm to me that I am on the right track!

275. It is incredible that it is considered normal to not have periods, surely that is a sign that society is totally out of sync with the process of the cycles of their bodies and lives. Time to stop and reassess everything but rather than that we medicalise and give pills to cover up the problem. This will not end well for anyone.

276. Gyl thank you for this blog, it is deeply supportive. Our bodies these days are very loud… an instant feedback mechanism to how we are living.

277. From groups of women that I have shared with, Amenorrhea (the lack of periods in women other than because of menopause), seems quite a common occurrence. This blog along with these personal stories show us the crucial part that Stillness has to play in our health and wellbeing as women.

278. “Our bodies are intrinsically made up in a way that is in divine order with God, working in natural rhythms and cycles, just like nature and the Universe.” This is a very beautiful knowing and is important to appreciate all we are and to listen and read what our body is telling us is our greatest gift in life to guide us and know we are all part of this divinity and to honour it in every moment as you share so beautifully.

279. As a student of Universal Medicine I have learnt that treating myself harshly thinking I am getting away with it can have many and varied consequences that build up over time. It may seem normal to live in a way where such treatment is ok, but it has been worth addressing to experience a consistent quality of health and wellbeing that is way more than what is commonly considered to be normal.

280. It is interesting to have been suggested to you that missing periods is normal… our body is not a robot or a computer program… there are many influencing factors in life that shape our body’s response, which is why it is great Gyl, that you have shown that there is more going on and that you are worth pursuing to find out the reasons what and why missing your periods occurred. From this, so much more understanding and richness in your health and well being, and for the whole of women’s health, has been discovered.

281. I am reminded of how I have lived and now there is less of this anxiety and headiness…”I was living in a way where there was a large amount of motion and anxiety in my body. By this I simply mean thinking, over thinking, doing lots of things, fighting my awareness of what I feel, surplus activity, planning ahead, e.g. driving home and thinking about other things instead of the one thing my body is currently doing.” I drove home yesterday, a 2 hour drive, and for the most part I was present with what I was doing. I know some times in the past, I would wonder after arriving at a destination, how I got there. Many people consider this normal, I did. Being more consciously present has deeply altered the quality of my life.

282. True health comes from living who I am. It’s tricky to not get caught up in living a discipline of what I think is “good” or “healthy”.

283. I love how the body can show us that we are either holding on to something or conversely have chosen to let it go. Our bodies are so responsive. I love how my body shows me immediately when I have dealt with an issue. As a result I have learned to trust it and use it as my guide for my own evolution and for feeling into certain situations.

284. This morning it was simply the title of this article that woke me up. How much unwellness do we brush off and put down to being ‘normal’? Our bodies keep waving flags at us about our ill choices that lead to illness and disease and we dismiss these signs often hiding in the comfort of our current shocking health stats, putting abnormal into the normal category. ‘Missing periods – it’s not normal’ – fact – and an opportunity to investigate and take care.

285. The attention from a woman to her menstrual cycle, is her attention to herself and to how she is living – this is what i’ve been learning the deeper i connect with my cycle. What a great physical indicator a period is, and yet how many of us ignore this time of the month and endure ‘pms’ passing it off without looking at the quality of our cycle for that particular month and what it means for us [as our guide to make changes]. In our busy 24/7 lives, we are not only dismissing and downplaying our periods and our cycles, but with it also ourselves too.

286. ‘The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.’ Wow, Gyl you have such clarity and understanding of why you missed your periods and by you sharing how you have been taking responsibility for what is going on in your body will support women world-wide and it is very rare to read about this topic. I can imagine it is very common for women to miss their periods but it is not so common, and it is almost unheard of to take this level of responsibility for your body. This is hugely inspiring for all women and girls to read and I understand it is certainly not normal to miss our periods. You have shown us how we can choose to heal what is going on in our body by looking beyond the symptoms and take responsibility for our choices.

287. I love the rhythms and cycles of life that this blog illustrates. Our bodies can live in harmony with nature and one another, with any imbalance in this harmony and flow highlighted through the body. Both men and women have markers of what it feels to live in harmony and what it feels like to not live by this natural order.

288. I’m noticing the true value of keeping order, precision and space in my home and in my car. It means that when I return to either of them I already have a foundation of strength there to build on from and when I am a little out, they support and hold me by providing that foundation whilst I find my equilibrium again.

289. You are right, not having our periods is definitely not normal but a signal that something is going on that needs to be addressed. Nor are any of the other problems around women’s periods normal such as pain, cramps, discomfort or heavy bleeding. And I write this with thanks to Natalie Benhayon who has brought these teachings through as the blessing they are for all women of all ages.

290. Imagine if we applied such a willingness to expose and uncover the full reality of what is happening with and within our bodies when we experience any form of illness or issue.. the medical system would look completely different, not overflowing for one thing but also completely supportive and complementary to us, our bodies and our needs. When we give the authority of our bodies away to someone else, even if they are a qualified medical or complementary practitioner we are giving away ‘our part’ in the whole experience and missing out on the learning opportunities that are presented for our taking. Love this blog and topic Gyl, having our periods and getting to know what is actually ‘normal’ for us personally is super important for every woman and young girl to be educated on.

291. It is pretty amazing how the body can communicate to us every second of every day. Something like not receiving your period is on the extreme side of communication so we would have to ask ourselves what else has the body communicated before this that we have dismissed and ignore to be at such a poignant place with what our bodies are telling us.

292. I have just started the connective tissue exercises and am blown away with how powerful and supportive they are to connecting to the body, it is an incredibly simple and effective thing to do and I look forward to seeing how my body evolves with it.

293. Thank you Gyl for sharing I am sure this blog will help many women, the way many of us live today is so out of sink from the divine stillness that resides inside, many have forgotten this quality which in truth never leaves. Overall when we ignore this quality within we are setting ourselves up to fail.

294. I wonder what else as men and women do we accept as normal that is actually a warning sign to change our lifestyle and health choices.

295. I have found it I hugely empowering to start to build an awareness and recognition of my ‘true’ normal. It could be the quality of my breath, the harmony in my movements, my responses in life, my type of thoughts, my openness to people – and of course the rhythms of my body. This provides a marker against which I can sense what is and what is harmonious and what clearly doesn’t support me. And I find that what seems ‘normal’ today may no longer be acceptable tomorrow, so this openness to engage in this way allows a forever deepening relationship with what is true for me.

296. ‘The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.’ Thank you for speaking about this Gyl. Stillness is a crucial and essential ingredient for life that we all can deepen and develop.

297. Our body is always communicating with us, we just have to listen and honour it, ‘The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.’

298. When we get caught up in life by the many things that we need to get done there seems to be an automatic override button that we push to get it all done and forget our connection in the process. I have been developing this in returning to conscious presences inspired by Serge Benhayon and the presentations of Universal Medicine. The more you become aware of it the more subtle it can be that we slip back into such a disconnected way of living. Its no wonder our bodies start to protest by not express in our natural harmonious flow.

299. In the wise words of someone we all know and love, ‘the body is the marker of all truth’, and there is no getting away from this fact, as I have learnt the hard way over the last month or so. Things just don’t happen and when they do there is always a reason behind why they do.

300. How often do we ignore the wisdom of our bodies? I did constantly until I heard the teachings of Universal Medicine. I have since learned that choosing responsibility feels so much better in my body, both physically and energetically.

301. The world so needs to hear sharings such as this Gyl:
     “I was living in a way where there was a large amount of motion and anxiety in my body.” How normalised this is today, and yet, you have shown that there is another way – a way in which we needn’t lose ourselves, and that yes, we can develop a relationship with the quality of stillness that is actually innately within every single one of us, but been so rampantly neglected.

302. It’s highly alarming, isn’t it Gyl, that what’s going on for a woman whose periods have stopped, can be labelled ‘normal’… And deeply revealing also – in that, this is clearly so commonplace today, to be deemed ‘not a problem’.
     It’s beautiful to read here all you’ve shared about not taking this as ‘normal’, but rather, a clear sign that there was more to look at in the way you were/are living – in your relationship with yourself as a woman and honouring of the female body. This is true, all-encompassing ‘medicine’ in a real and poignant sharing. Thank-you so much.

303. It feels like a big turn around from fighting your periods to realising they are a blessing as sign posts to your overall health and wellbeing. This is an article that could be shared with all women to deepen all of our understanding of, and opportunities in, our cycles.

304. There is a tendency for us all to act shocked and surprised when we get ill but I would say for me on reflection there have always been at first subtle messages and warnings from my body before I became ill or injured and the only reason it has seemed a surprise is that I have ignored those messages.

305. Many great points you have shared here Gyl. The one that stands out for me today is that – ‘Motion is not a bad thing’ – so true as it is not motion itself that is the issue, more so it is the quality in which we move that determines what we are magnifying in our bodies. If we move in connection to Love, the quality of our innate stillness within, this is then what we magnify in our bodies through our movements or motion.

306. When I was younger I never have had a regular period, and they were always very painful. Taking the pill was the way out. I certainly was not living in the rhythm of my body, of the stillness within. I was only looking outside, and only busy to prove myself. My body had to cope with all that and suffered from not been taking care of. Taking care of myself and being in the stillness within is a constant proces of accepting and allowing being me the gorgeous elder woman I am. Your commitment and dedication towards yourself is very inspiring Gyl.

307. It is wonderful that your periods have come back Gyl. I can remember not having periods for a while. I was about twenty years old and it was a stressful time in my life. I wanted to end a relationship and change my job. I wanted to change the way I was living and my body weight and this had an impact on my body. I was very independent at the time thinking I would be ok trying to work things out on my own. I didn’t want to look at why I was not menstuating and completely ignored what my body was telling me even though my mother told me it was not normal. I am pretty sure that what happened to me is the case for many young girls when their periods stop. It is not normal to miss periods, even missing one period we know within that something is not right. I knew, I simply didn’t want to take responsibility for what was going on within me and in my life.

308. It is so important to be deeply aware of how we are living. Speeding around being all things to all people is the way I saw many women living when I was younger. It was championed to me that women have more stamina and can do things consistently for longer. This was something I expected to be able to do, and perhaps I can, but first I need to be aware of the quality of energy I am in and to also be aware of being in total care of myself while I am working. Women are amazing and we can do so much. To know that there is a way to be still within ourselves while still moving is beautiful and very necessary.

309. Gyl, this is exactly what I needed to read this morning, thank you so much for writing this. And the depth of wisdom and stillness you share from now shows the dedication and commitment to take responsibility — beautiful and inspiring.

310. ’The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.’ – I am forever amazed at the clarity of awareness we can have when we choose to listen to what our bodies are communicating.

311. It’s amazing how the body shows us what we need to know. Your periods stopping showed you how you were living and what you needed to change. Far from being something to worry about, this is an absolute gift.

312. I know that in the past I went through a time where I wasn’t getting very much of a period and it was a directly related to how I was living. I was putting everyone and everything before myself, depleting myself immensely, so my body had not choice but to reflect the neglect I was putting myself through. Much like what you have explained, it has been a process to re-learn to be more loving and self honour no matter what.

313. “It’s about learning to deeply embody and connect to the quality of stillness in my body first – then doing what needs to be done from there – rather than from raciness, stress, drive, nervous energy or anxiety.” this is great what you share and so what I needed to hear. I have been to see my doctor who has agreed we will run some test now as its been over 6 months since I have had a period. I have like you been aware that it’s about my connection to stillness and my movements coming from there.

314. I too have experienced health implications from not honouring my natural way of being, in my case my deep sensitivity and this remains an area of focus in my life now. Learning to know ourselves for who and as we truly are and not what we have chosen to become is so powerful in realising the true qualities we bring in life, as well as meaning that we live healthily.

315. “Our bodies are intrinsically made up in a way that is in divine order with God, working in natural rhythms and cycles, just like nature and the Universe.” I love this line Gyl, when I read this I can feel how we can get caught up in life and not be aware of the bigger picture. When we work with cycles and rhythms and are in sync with nature and the Universe life becomes so much more interesting, less complicated and a lot more playful and illness and disease would not be on the increase as it is at present.

316. “The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.” One day we will go to the Doctor and as well as being quizzed on our life style choices, as is becoming the norm, we will also be asked “and how often do you connect to your stillness in your day?” Making this choice to return to a steady, tender quality inside us throughout our day is just as important as eating well and going to bed early. Running ourselves ragged is one of the most detrimental life style choices we can make.

317. ” I was living in a way where there was a huge amount of anxiety in my body.”
     I realize more and more how past hurts are adding to the anxiety in my body and I want to protect myself through numbing and getting hard, functional and racy. To really stay open, vulnerable and receptive is one of my learning points which brings equally more stillness in my body.

318. For me, everything in relation to my health is a reflection of my synchronicity with the divine rhythm and order of the world. When something is off balance this is reflected in my body and how I feel. This gives me the opportunity to refine my rhythms and how I am living.

319. Periods are such an important part of a woman’s life – the cycle over the month during which a woman is offering the opportunity time and time again to build another life or to cleanse and clear her gorgeous vessel. Both case scenarios are a blessing and an amazing opportunity to strengthen our connection with the body and with ourselves. Hence missing a period is like not having your house cleaned for a full month, and the consequences can be very ‘messy’…And so this does come to our attention at some point and then we look into it more deeply and can appreciate this and so much more which is offered by each period. I know I am certainly appreciating my periods and the cleanse that they bring, and simultaneously I can also say I am exploring the deeper layers of periods and my monthly cycle in general and how they are such an integral part of supporting us as women on all levels.

320. Living our days knowing that our bodies are the marker of truth to how we are living, is a movement that is needed to live in harmony with the all.

321. Gyl what an incredibly supportive blog, I had so many moments when I felt in my body places I could come back to and start to reconnect. I could feel how the consistency to move connected to ourselves and God is the key to health, and how finding ways to support ourselves to live this connection in every moment is an absolute.

322. Often we are not precise in the way we observe our body. We brush off the signs of tiredness, nervousness and dope ourselves with food, entertainment, hobbies, work etc. It’s an art to read one’s own body signs, Universal Medicine is a great place to re-learn this innate art.

323. Each tiny signal from our body is an opportunity to re-appraise how we’re living, and taking responsibility for our health affects every aspect of our lives. What caught my attention this morning is how you re-configured your home and car to support and confirm who you are. I can relate to this and am in the process of doing the same. I’ve deepened my appreciation of the space I live in and how a home is not about look and impressions, but feel and energy, a true reflection of where we are with ourselves. When I walk into my home, everything about it should confirm who I truly am.

     1. Interior design on a whole new level. I agree, Kehinde, our homes reflect back to us how we have been living and therefore offer up ample opportunities to refine, develop and change.

        1. ‘Interior design on a whole new level’ absolutely Matilda, beautifully expressed.

324. “So why is it that we choose to ignore or override our body and believe that we can make something that is not our natural divine order and rhythm our normal?”
     This question sticks out to me today. The natural rhythm is such a blessing and harmonises the whole day. When we avoid it, it does not make sense at all. We just harm ourselves.

325. This level of awareness in our bodies is extraordinary considering the level of numbness we once chose. To feel that the quality of our movements has an enormous impact on how we feel in the body is something that should be taught at pre-school when we start to understand how we make our bodies move. It’s in how we chose to make the movement that creates the flow in which were are going to move in. Whether that is harming or healing, to get to understand that at such a young age would be so empowering and to realise that there are two types of energy that we can align to that creates the movement.

326. ‘So why is it we choose to ignore or override our body and believe that we can make something that is not our natural divine order and rhythm our normal?’ Such a pertinent question. I’ve had abnormal periods and indeed none at all for most of my life and for years did not stop and go, ‘Karin what is going on?! You need to address this.’ Instead I was like ‘Oh this is just normal for me.’ But it wasn’t. In the same way that today I realise my periods are such a strong reflection of me holding back the fullness of who I am as a woman. I don’t have a picture of how they should be, I can just feel that holding back of my natural flow, which I can choose to surrender to and allow, is reflected in my periods.

327. There a thousand little signals that our body gives us every day that we all too often ignore. We get the beginnings of a headache, but then ignore then and push on until it is too late and we are taken out by a migraine, or we feel a little off colour and do not rest, and push on until we are so sick we need three days off work, instead of a mere afternoon as it may have been had we listened to the earlier symptoms.

328. Thank you Gyl for a very inspiring article, I am a post menopausal woman and I find it so amazing that the cycle of our periods offers so much to woman about her choices of how she had lived during the month and the clearing that is offered so that the stillness and sacredness of her woman’s body can be felt and lived by.

329. Thank you, Gyl, for sharing with us the different ways that you have taken responsibility for addressing the strong message from your body, and sought out the right support along the way.

330. We tend to pat ourselves on the back for our multi-tasking abilities, thinking about a dozen things while washing up, or writing an email while talking on the phone. Little do we fully appreciate how much we abandon our bodies when we do this and what the impact is. After all, if we are not fully present and in charge of our bodies when we are doing something, who is?

331. Yes indeed, choosing to ignore or override our body is a way we avoid responsibility? I know it was for me also.

332. ‘Our bodies are intrinsically made up in a way that is in divine order with God, working in natural rhythms and cycles, just like nature and the Universe.’ When we view our cycles as a reflection of our relationship with Divine order, we can only be blessed by what we are shown each month.

333. Driving home and thinking about other things, or having two things on the go at once, we normally wouldn’t think there is anything wrong with this but our bodies and the cycles we live with show otherwise.

334. When we know the body has a rhythm, it seems obvious to notice the signs when the rhythm changes. We can choose to ignore it, because we don’t want to change something we are doing or we can look at what is going on and seek help. Knowing it is a conscious choice increases our awareness to decide, choose to stay where we are or choose to change, but the body continues to send the information irrespectively.

335. I’m just thinking. We are all part of the universe. Every one of us has the same impact on the whole, every movement matters, every choice we make affects everything. This has been taught to me by Serge Benhayon and members of his family. I don’t yet fully live that fact, not by a long way…but I am beginning to accept it. So then i’m thinking….about this blog and how our choices affect our natural rhythms, which in turn are the natural rhythms of the universe and thus each affect the universe…..imagine if the sun didn’t come up one day??

336. Of all the bodily functions it seems to me that one of the most primal and innate is the female’s monthly manufacture and release of reproductive eggs. Which gets me thinking…if this can be so radically disrupted by a lack of stillness in our bodies…and then take a look at the way the world lives…so in how many other areas are our bodies operating so far from their natural rhythm?

337. Just because we endure something for thirty years or more, or that there are many thousands of other women with the same condition, does not mean that it is normal – so thank you to Universal Medicine for speaking up where others have not, and asked the question, why do we settle for this.., and to highlight the grim statistics of endometriosis, fibroids, painful periods and other related conditions. It never hurts to bring more awareness to ourselves and our choices as therein we gain the freedom to make different choices – and giving our bodies the chance restore themselves to their natural balance.

338. A woman’s period serves a purpose beyond clearing away the lining of the uterus that won’t be needed if the egg isn’t fertilised. . . It supports us to connect deeply to the sacredness and fragility that lives within all women and in truth is our natural way, while helping us to clear away the residue of choices that take us away from that stillness.

     And yet periods are widely regarded as nothing more than a functional aspect of the female body and an annoyance to be managed. I heard a woman say the other day that research has supported that women only need to have 4 periods per year to be healthy… The attitude here was why would you have more than 4 if you didn’t have to and these days there are numerous medications that can be used to suppress periods for up to 3 months at a time. To me, hearing this confirmed the excessive drive and doing we as a society are in and that we are not recognising or appreciating let alone living the truth of the woman’s body.

339. What you share is important, to not brush to one side the things that happen to us which could be easily be ignored, but use them to grow and develop.

340. The understanding you now have how to embody the natural delicateness and honouring of the sacredness you are is certainly a highly needed and sought after reflection to humanity. It seems hormonal imbalances are very high on the list of Women’s Health concerns and the way to prevent an escalation of the symptoms and potential health issues is to start caring for ourselves in a more simple and gentle way. I know for me, being into multi-tasking using my body’s precious resource of nervous energy to feed this has only brought exhaustion and disregard that has shown up in my hormone levels being compromised. The wisdom you refer to is well worth choosing as early as possible to care for our selves and take early steps of responsibility and have medical checks when we know something just doesn’t feel and seem ok in our bodies.

341. There are many states of ill health today that have somehow been (incorrectly) called normal, or even healthy. Missing periods, period pain and obesity name but a few.

342. Understanding the important role of cycles in supporting us seems a fundamental basic understanding that we have lost. One just has to look at nature to get a reflection of cycles. Even though it is pretty obvious I don’t ever remember being taught that my period was an integral cycle it was more a process to be endured and if possible have the inconvenience medicated away. Since connecting to my cycle a whole new world of understanding has begun to open up.

343. What is ‘normal’ anyway? If the body needs to stop its cycle for a while to bring attention to the way we are living then that is ‘normal’. It’s so easy to judge ourselves instead of love ourselves.

344. It is very telling that, what we are told is normal is shifting what it is that we accept as normal. It’s a slippery slope for everybody when we stop listening to our bodies and ignoring our own authority and responsibility.

345. ‘I’m re-learning to deeply take care of myself and my body, to nurture myself, to speak and live my truth, deepen my awareness and honour my feelings again’. Just by reading this sentence it is easy to see how missing periods has become the normal for a lot of women, because let’s face it, the majority of women do not think this way or have this level of consideration for their bodies.

346. Reading blogs like this made me initially want to study science, biology – know everything about the body….but then that is missing the whole point of the blog!! Which so perfectly illustrates how we all are innately scientists and we are all living 24/7 with the greatest professors in the world – our own bodies! Ace, so I don’t need to go back to school, I just need to listen to what I am being taught 24/7.

347. “Could it be a way we avoid responsibility? I know it was for me.”
     As i read through your blog Gyl I begin to see and feel what this responsibility is, the dedication and commitment to cover all aspects of your well being and to actually change the way you are approaching and living life – it’s very inspiring and empowering – you have taken your health, your way of being, back into your hands.

348. When we look around us at the weather cycles, they seem to be out of sync; perhaps they are reflecting to us as a human race just how out of sync we are with our own natural rhythms.

349. Every time we settle for an illness, irregularity or disease in our bodies as being ‘normal’, we just hammer another nail into our coffin with a shrug of the shoulders and a dismissive attitude that this is somehow out of our control. I am eternally grateful to Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon who have re-established what normal is for thousands of other people, myself included. Through their living example, we once again have a real and very solid marker of health, vitality, respect and integrity that exposes all that is not well in our world that is in desperate need of our very careful and loving attention.

350. Moving in a way that confirms who I am, makes me feel that there is no limit to me, just a natural flow and expansion.

351. Bring such awareness to our bodies and getting to understand wha they are telling us is super cool. I never had any idea what my body was telling me and if I noticed something I would just brush it off as ‘put up with it’. To develop a relationship with our bodies and feel what it is communicating is something that most of us struggle with. What I have found, it is when I don’t want to be honest about a certain way that I am living that has created such aches, pains or issues in my body.

352. “I didn’t realise just how disconnected from my body, my ovaries and being a woman I was” – Gyl it seems only when something ‘happens’ with our female parts is it that we connect to what you share here about ‘being a woman’, and even then, many of us still don’t really honour this and continue with life the same as before in disconnection – the very thing that brought us the ‘malfunction’. Rather ironic when we see it like this, i know i have done so myself in the past in my ‘busy life’ , though it is with Universal Medicine that this has thankfully changed. I am understanding more and more the honour of myself as a woman and how my body and its workings are a reflection of the hold in which i embrace myself as this.

353. I love this aspect of working towards health, it makes so much sense…to rebuild the health of our bodies from the inside out, through food, nutrition, supplements and vitamins, alongside watching overactive thoughts.

354. When we consider the extent to which we must be out of sync with the natural order of things around us to have health conditions which are clearly showing us to be in discordance to the rest of the universe, we can start to truly appreciate just how far off track humanity has come. The entire universe works in rhythm and yet we make choices to bring us into opposition to this and champion our own ‘intelligence’, when it is often that which overrides our natural intuition as to the greater whole to which we belong.

355. This blog has highlighted the importance of our body cycles and all that they offer. I celebrated not having a period from the age of 38 and realise now how disconnected I was from my body and its communication with me. My understanding of the natural expression of our body and how precious this is has only become available since Esoteric Women’s Health and the modalities now available. Thank you to Serge Benhayon, Natalie Benhayon and all the Universal Medicine Practitioners for all they bring.

356. A woman’s body holds a great wisdom that when listened to, opens us to live in a way that adheres to its natural cycles. When there is a disturbance from living in a way that is deeply honouring, then our body will soon show perhaps by having missing periods that there is a more true way for us to live.

357. This is a huge subject for women, I guess every woman or most of them have experienced inconsistency in their periods.. and that we have been so conditioned to what is normal and abnormal. How we should be with ourselves as women with our periods, body and selves.. also each culture differently so. We seem to have been shaped by society more than living from our own experience and learning what our body is saying and responding to it!

358. I found this a very powerful article Gyl, much of which I can relate to. Recently when attending Sacred Esoteric Healing Level 1 I really felt the quality of stillness I have inside me. Since then I have felt that what I live is most often not in or from that quality. I am fantastic at doing things but I have found that there is a rush that comes with the excessive motion and I’m used to being in that rush. I’m at the stage of developing my awareness and noticing that I’m racing and rushing and how it feels in my body. This is awesome as I no longer get lost in that momentum. I can see more clearly what I am doing and more and more I make the choice to not stay in raciness.

359. ’Being aware of the quality in which I move, is it delicate, tender and gentle or is it hard and harsh?’ – Great point Gyl, I know for myself that if my movements are not of a gentle quality, everything I do is affected by the quality I am in that moment, no matter how well I might try to cover it up.

360. We can create anxieties about just about anything that’s going on in our lives. Anxiousness is simply our minds running worst case scenarios for something that hasn’t happened yet. Our thoughts go round and round and create a tension in our bodies that is completely opposite to stillness, almost as if it were a deliberate ploy to avoid connecting with that same stillness that is so natural.

361. Everything about our period is a blessing. To have our period is a blessing for all it allows us to connect to and clear. As is not having our period as it is also teaching us about what we need to clear, and most importantly claim within ourselves as women.

362. Gyl, this feels gorgeous, ‘I know it’s time to continue deepening my connection to the stillness and sacredness in my body’, my periods have stopped recently and so reading this article gives me much to ponder on.

363. My relationship with western medicine has changed a lot since I embraced the wisdom of esoteric medicine alongside it. A trip to the doctor, the accompanying tests, discussions about my body and its functioning etc are all now part of a greater reflection of my choices in life and support me in taking responsibility for the way I live. This is a big change from how I once was – when I avoided the doctors and with it avoided dealing with my issues. I have discovered or maybe remembered how truly wise our bodies are and how valuable it is to listen to them.

364. Wow I have just learnt so much about stillness and how to honour and build that in my body. I feel I should say more but it is as simple as that…Thank you!! I now look forward to putting it into practice.

365. Listening to our cycle and what the body is telling us is super important… what the menstruating offers is so much more than what we think it is or what we have been thought and lead to believe.

366. I did not have a relationship with my body through my periods at all when younger, and no-one I knew did either. You never discussed it so it became something that you knew every woman had but that was it. There would be the usual jokes and banter, or resentment around having them and how inconvenient they were for us poor women at certain times when we were active in sport or going away on holidays. Little did we know the disservice we were doing to ourselves, our bodies, and everyone by not listening to our bodies and forming a deep and intimate relationship with our cervix, uterus, ovaries and breasts. The sacredness and absolute preciousness of the woman has been lost for too long and is calling us now.

367. For anyone who is fascinated by the body and how spectacularly detailed and organised it is, I wanted to share something about the eggs in our ovaries. We do not make eggs each month as we have more than we will ever need at birth (1-2 million!). I find this amazing, just like the amazing, perfectly organised menstrual cycle that allows us to clear, heal and grow as women each month.

368. It has become really common for women to stop having regular periods, perhaps adding to the feeling that this is normal. When I was a teenager, the only people I ever heard about who stopped having periods were girls with anorexia. The sad thing is that many women would welcome their periods stopping, as they have not ever felt or been presented with what a gorgeous opportunity for clearing our bodies they are. They are just seen as a curse or a nuisance. Perhaps this is why we are happy to go away for 3-18 months before we seek investigations with a doctor.

369. “Every cell in my body knows truth ­­– this is not normal.” This is so true Gyl, and yet we deny this to avoid the responsibility of taking loving care of ourselves – how crazy is that – why wouldn’t we want love, truth and joy in our everyday lives?!

370. Love how you bring the true meaning of normal to the fore Gyl. Our bodies do innately know what is normal and what is not – it is our minds that try to override, control and deny the messages our bodies send us. However our bodies always win in the end because they make us listen when an illness or disease arrives! And the irony is we are shocked that this happens, and yet it is there because we have been refusing to listen to our bodies and to make loving choices that support it.

371. Why do we relinquish our own natural knowing of our bodies when we are told something contrary to our own intuition from a supposed point of authority? I know I have done this even when I have always known the truth of the situation for myself. Are we really abdicating our self-responsibility to another person so that we do not have to make choices according to what we actually feel?

372. Nothing have I ever come across before has had so much beneficial impact on my health and well being as the teachings of Universal Medicine and changing the way I live.

373. Living within our natural cycles and rhythms is a part living in harmony with the stillness of God and understanding that to be all we can be, we are part of a greater whole. When we live out of that harmony, our bodies let us know. This is a great blessing, as it signals to us that we are here in a life where being seperate to the whole is seen as normal and that through honouring our feeling we can reconnect to the true purpose to life.

374. I absolutely agree with you that it is so interesting that we are told not to worry about not having our period as it is clearly a sign of our bodies that something is not right. The understandings for the Ageless Wisdom presented by Serge Benhayon have brought a depth of understanding of illness and disease to me that makes me able to see this now. That not having your period before menopause is not normal and it is a way of our bodies to say what we do with it is not in harmony with its innate way. An understanding worth more than gold and, as you say, when not only known but also lives worth even more.

375. ’I’m re-learning to deeply take care of myself and my body, to nurture myself, to speak and live my truth, deepen my awareness and honour my feelings again.’ – Beautiful – it all comes down to how we treat ourselves, everything from there on will affect everything we do.

376. Thank you for sharing this Gyl. I love the innate wisdom that our bodies hold. More and more I am learning to listen to and trust this wisdom in guiding me in how to care for and support myself.

377. Being a man I don’t get the monthly marker of where I am at. It is amazing to read this blog and to see how the way you were living affected your natural cycle so acutely. Before I came to Universal Medicine, I reckon I would have missed about ten years of periods – such was the way I was living!

378. This is such a stunning blog and so powerfully resonant to me. Only this morning I was sitting with four other men. I just sat there and listened and through that stillness I got to feel how much anxiety there was in my body. I have a very, very full life, but that doesn’t have to mean a lack of stillness. Like you I am really focusing now on bringing that stillness to even the fullest of my eighteen hour days. Universal Medicine has armed me with so many amazing tools to do this and without them, considering what my life is, I would be a jittering mess – a caffeine-sucking, sugar-inhaling mess!!

379. Hi Gyl, I can appreciate the overall message of this article and that is when we are living in a way that overrides the body’s impulse, our bodies will let us know.

380. This is an interesting question that you ask here Gyl, that it could be that missing a period actually comes down to your own responsibility. If we were to consider our overall health in this way, that any symptom we experience could possibly be a result of the lack of responsibility we are willing to take for ourselves, our general health and wellbeing could look very different indeed.

381. To call an abnormality of the body normal is to dismiss the deeper communications that the body is expressing. When we use the head to try and explain a phenomena or worse still, if we can’t explain it and then dismiss it away we are accepting a lesser state of living. Whilst missing periods is not life threatening it feels just as disregarding to me to say this is normal as it would be to say – don’t worry about the cancer.. that’s normal!

382. The word ‘normal’ is one that I used think meant true, yet the more I’ve come to look at this the more I appreciate that this is not at all the way ‘normal’ is actually used or works in society. It seems that normal is simply what the majority of people do – so it’s normal to drink, normal to do drugs, normal to seek porn, normal to be abusive to your partner. So when you bring this into the world of periods and missing them it’s quite clear that what is called ‘normal’ actually is not and it’s equally important to understand what is behind this, the willingness for you to look deeper is very inspiring.

383. This is such a great example of how Western and Esoteric Medicine work together to offer complete support at all levels of health and wellbeing. How could we be without one or the other? I really appreciate your commitment, Gyl, to understanding the cause of your symptoms, not just accepting the missed periods as one of those curious things that no-one has any answers for.

384. ‘Last year I visited the doctor, after not having my periods for three months. During our conversation I was told to ‘not worry’ about it, and this was normal. Every cell in my body knows truth ­­– this is not normal.’ Great that you clocked this Gyl and didn’t give yourself away to what we may easily deem as a ‘higher’ authority. There is no authority higher than your own body.

385. It’s interesting to recognise the opposition between being told that something is normal yet, deep down, there is a feeling and knowing from her body that it is not normal and that there is more to learn and understand about what’s going on with our body. This is a great example of pursuing self-care and self-initiated healing where one could easily have simply done nothing under the acceptance that it was normal. This is very empowering to follow through on something that led to a huge deep healing and discovery about what it means to be ‘honouring’, and to be deeply ‘nurturing’… the essence of being ‘woman’ and these essential qualities that are clearly so vital in a woman’s natural cycle and biochemistry.

386. Thank you Gyl for sharing your appreciation and the benefits of supporting your health and well-being. To care for ourselves as completely and uncompromisingly as is your experience, is an insight into the return to well-being and vitality of everyday living. From experience I have followed both paths simultaneously of Medical Science while supporting myself with the understanding of the wisdom of Universal Medicine. While the depth of connection is still evolving I know that without doubt the love, care and nurturing that becomes apparent goes a long way to reducing fear, stress and uncertainty around any health issue. And this is just the starting point.

387. It is such a shame that the majority of the world’s women are actually not told what the true purpose of the periods are for. I too really enjoy having my cycle now, I do appreciate the opportunity to go deeper within myself every month and also I love the deep clearing that is on offer. I have long sensed that the period was a cleansing time, and definitely not a dirty time for women.

388. “…I was told to ‘not worry’ about it, and this was normal.” There is so much in medicine that is not yet known particularly in the grey area where something is not normal but it is not yet pathological, it hasn’t met the ‘disease’ threshold yet. In this area is where I see that I need to trust what I know and what feels true in my body. This is where I have found the healing modalities of Universal Medicine to offer amazing support, however, the modalities don’t take away my responsibility for my own health and well being.

389. Reading your blog Gyl is a big reminder for me to take stock and commit to a deeper level of responsibility that comes from truly living from stillness. I haven’t had a period now for a while and I can feel how I want to ignore this and pretend that everything is OK, when really it isn’t. The choices that I have made in my life of recent are affecting the natural rhythm and flow through my body and it is up to me to make changes to restore this rhythm. It is my responsibility to make changes and not to sit back and wait for them to come again.

390. Beautiful article Gyl, I can feel how the way we move can feel very different, if I am rushing I make harsh movements that feel jarring, it feels horrible in my body and is tiring and there is no joy; moving with presence feels gorgeous, I feel graceful and gentle and womanly. I am enjoying experimenting with how I move in my day and am finding that it is simply a choice – whether to move lovingly and tenderly or whether to move in a hard way. ‘Being aware of the quality in which I move, is it delicate, tender and gentle or is it hard and harsh?’

391. What if our body would be our best guide? With this I mean, for everybody around the whole globe. How would we then relate to ourselves and with that towards others? How gracious is it to be living in a world where there are women (in this case) are so openly sharing what’s going on for them and what they’ve learnt from it. Strength, fragility, tenderness, wisdom and delicacy in one. Thank you dearly for loving yourself so much and sharing it with the world.

392. Gyl, I love how you have stated in the title that not having periods is not normal! Too many of us think of a normal that is normal for us, but which does not necessarily correspond to a natural rhythm. Natural might be a ‘better’ word to use – but this only goes to show how our ‘normal’ can actually be so deviated from the natural and that we have not realised this deviation! And so it is…normal and natural for us as women to have periods and in a rhythm and a cycle that is regular and consistent. Anything outside of this is definitely worth our attention and worth exploring, on all levels.

     1. Yes, Henrietta, ‘normal’ is a questionable word these days, as we are so far removed from our natural way of being, in tune with our bodies and cycles.

393. My periods stopping has been a huge wake up call for me, a strong message from my body that there is another level of honouring myself as a woman that I have not been allowing myself to go to. As such, I now see it as a blessing, as it brings a renewed commitment every day to taking care with every movement, and listening intently to what is being asked for so that I can deepen in self love.

394. When things do not seem significant and/or do not stop us from ‘getting on with life’ it is very easy for that then to become the norm and therefore ‘normal’. However, it is by not allowing them to become normal but to recognise them as signals of something which needs addressing and dealt with does result in deepening one’s connection to the stillness and sacredness in one’s body and therefore with God.

395. This link that Gyl Rae has made between the quality of energy in her body and the physicality of her missing periods is very important and rarely spoken about today, in fact this could be spoken about with all young women as we grow and our bodies change. There is no real reason why we should leave the energetic sciences out of our education about our bodies as the result of doing so only serves to leave us feeling confused and disempowered when things change or we do not preform according to the normal paradigm that is expected of women and their bodies.

396. Hey Gyl, you are a role model from the future for all of us now by not accepting a state of disharmony, stopping, standing up and looking at what’s going wrong – and working on it. Thank you.

397. I have experienced that Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy and Esoteric Yoga are great in restoring that connection with my body on a very deep level. To me I connect with the individual cells of my body and in that I feel that same delicateness, dedication and natural order that I feel when i look to the stars and connect with the universe and in that I know that I am part of that. Living in this connection does make me aware that I am not an individual but part of a grander whole, that everything has a natural order and when things do not flow in that way I know that there is something to look at because how can something in me be out of that order I am undeniable part of?

398. I spent many years avoiding going to see the doctor for routine check ups, thinking that I was able to take care of myself by using ‘alternative’ treatments. Although the remedies worked on my symptoms to an extent, what I know now is that there was a much deeper layer that I was avoiding to look at, and that was how much responsibility I was willing to take true care of myself. In recent years I have made more visits to the doctor than I probably did in the 20 years previously, simply to get myself checked out, and it feels very empowering.

399. Wow, this is so great to read, our body sends clear signs. Listening brings a great understanding of life and what we are holding back.

400. In addition to my comment above, I just was reading Marylouisemyers comment, and it reminded me that all the while I have not had my period (for almost 6 months now), a part of me has not been too bothered, for my experience of having my period has been far from enjoyable. Being aware that it is not the enemy and that the way I choose to live my life has huge impact on the quality of my period from month to month not to mention the intensity of the symptoms. This pause in my menstrual cycle is really just an opportunity for me to restablish a relationship with my body that is far more honouring than what I have had with it previously.
     It is possible to have a painless period, it is possible to appreciate the inner workings of the body rather than live in resentment of it.

401. Great article Gyl. I’m currently going through a ‘period’ of no periods. It’s been almost 6 months and I too feel that the reason my body has stopped working as it should comes down to how I’ve been living. With an enormous level of anxiety running my body, it’s no surprise that my body has had to fight to cope and in doing that had to let go of some of it’s usual functions in order to keep up.
     I have been working with an Esoteric naturopath and also sought esoteric bodywork from other practitioners that offer me an opportunity to take responsibility for my choices and how I choose to live.
     Making some changes has already helped ease the anxiety I’ve been living in, but this is an ongoing work in progress that requires appreciation and constant refinement.

402. Our periods tell us so much about how we are living our lives. They are such a blessing for a woman, yet they are so often seen as a curse. I know that for many years because of the pain I experienced with my period, I really didn’t enjoy having them. In more recent years through Esoteric Women’s Health, I have come to understand the clearing process that my period offers my body and I welcome them with open arms. And as I have learnt to live in a more honouring and self-loving way, I only now occasionally have a painful period.

403. The support and healing available through Universal Medicine modalities are fundamental to truly healing the cause of any of our ills and are complementary to our existing healthcare systems.

404. I find that there is always the pull to get distracted or caught up in a drama or a complication but there is also the moment that comes to make the choice to stay with oneself and not go on the rollercoaster of emotions, but simply observe.

405. I went 8 months once without having a period. When I went to the doctor, she told me to come back when it had been 18 months, then she would send me to a specialist. I was told that this happens often to women and they generally just come back. I was in tears. I didn’t want to go another day without my period. I was also sad to hear how common this was for women. I knew this was not normal for me at all. I booked an Esoteric Massage session with Curtis Benhayon shortly after and shared how long it had been since I had my period and how much I missed it. He spoke to me about stillness, and moving myself as a woman through life. I put into practice this advice and within a couple of days my period was back. I am so thankful of all the Esoteric Healing modalities and how they support to bring a more personalised understanding to my ailments.

406. Our period is such a blessing to us. It is such a shame that we are not taught the truth about our period from a very young age. Many women still think their period is a curse, something that happens monthly that gets in the way of their daily activities, some even go the extent of having a type of contraception that stops their period altogether. I have spoken to some of these women over the last 10 years and when I explain to them that our period is a clearing and opportunity for us to connect more deeply to our selves as a women they are quite disturbed that they have been missing out for so long. We need to be talking about this openly with as many women as we can. Even if they are menopausal, many have young daughters or young women they know that they can pass the message onto.

407. It’s interesting how our ‘normal’ fluctuates and how we define our wellbeing against this normal. Perhaps it is becoming more common that women are missing their periods, but a few years ago this was not the norm. It is concerning that we can easily dismiss an ill because many have it…rather than asking, what’s changed, why are many women now experiencing this…how are we living that is making this change?

408. “It’s about learning to deeply embody and connect to the quality of stillness in my body first – then doing what needs to be done from there – rather than from raciness, stress, drive, nervous energy or anxiety.” A wonderful insight. I have recently been noticing that what you have described here has been part of the picture in pretty much every ill and problem I recall facing in my life. Without starting from that stillness, it is as if I am like a runaway train: my ability to properly observe the situation, to connect to my awareness, to reflect and gain an understanding like you have here, and to make wise and loving choices are all hugely compromised.

409. “The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.” The responsibility and wisdom we can connect to from our bodies is amazing and something to truly treasure and work with. I realise more and more the greater subtleties my body is showing me and that the little things really do matter and guides us to caring and looking after ourselves to a very high degree of preciousness and love so we can live our natural clarity health with responsibility and evolution.

410. So many people consider it normal to take some form of medication on a regular basis and the Contraceptive Pill is used as a medicine rather than a form of contraception that it was originally designed to be. I feel that using the Pill as a way to manipulate menstrual issues is not a true resolution to the problem, just a way to delay it. The Esoteric Women’s Health modalities empowered me to resolve my menstrual issues by looking at how I was living and the impact this was having on my body. Life changing and as a consequence my dependence on medications, including the common or garden painkillers, has simply evaporated.

411. This blog really does highlight the fact that there is more going on with a woman’s body and there is a vast amount of wisdom to be gained from paying close attention to the way our bodies speak to us. Women missing their periods for months and sometimes years on end may become a new trend, but it definitely does not mean it is normal, or should be accepted as such.

412. “thinking, over thinking, doing lots of things, fighting my awareness of what I feel, surplus activity, planning ahead, e.g. driving home and thinking about other things instead of the one thing my body is currently doing. You could call it ‘checking out’ ” These are often championed abilities in life yet they are creating a huge anxiety in my body and I feel, like you, are deeply related to the many issues that women currently are experiencing in their bodies like missing periods, very painful periods, infertility and many more.

413. Your blog shows how there is a link in the way we live our day, our behaviours, our briefs, our attitudes etc, does have an impact on our body. So when it comes to any health problem looking at the way we live is just as much our medicine as is the pharmaceutical and medical assistance. If we were encourage to approach our aliments in this way, there’s no doubt it would reduce the strain on our public health system.

414. “Our bodies are intrinsically made up in a way that is in divine order with God, working in natural rhythms and cycles, just like nature and the Universe. ” what an absolute blessing to read this line, that means we can never go wrong, but are either in sync or out of tune with the truth our bodies are.

415. This is super inspiring and to ask for the support when you need it, seeking practitioners that are honouring of you and your body is one thing that I have absolutely loved about working with Universal Medicine practitioners and Serge Benhayon’s presentations. The more truth, honesty and awareness that you can bring into your life the more harmonious it will be in the long run. To stop and consider you are not worth investing in has been a big belief of mine that I am shedding layers and layers of.

416. Working in the healthcare system it is commonplace to see people who have given up on themselves and rely (and or expect) someone else to fix them. There is a lack of responsibility for the way we are living and the choices we are making – even the World Health Organisation recognises that majority of non-communicable diseases are related to lifestyle choices… our health is our responsibility.

417. A very inspiring read Gyl… breaking down what is perceived as ‘normal’ these days – and that it is certainly not normal!

418. Your description of how you were living Gyl, is so common amongst women, we have used and abused our bodies because of all of those ideals and beliefs around what we think being a woman means you have to do, all while that absolute stillness is within, waiting for us to re-connect back to and live from. Thankfully our wise and all knowing bodies always let us know when we need to change how we are living and come back to a rhythm it knows to a tee.

419. I remember when I first started my periods and they where still falling into a regular cycle, I missed one period and despite the fact that my periods were at that time extremely painful and made me very ill, a part of me felt bereft of a part of myself – It did not feel natural or normal, just like if my hair stopped growing it would not be normal.

420. Thank you for sharing this Gyl – I can really feel the commitment to a continual and evolving process of bringing more and more regard and love into the choices you make in every moment.

421. There are so many things that we accept as normal but are far from natural.

422. I love that our bodies give us so many signs, some obvious and some more subtle, when things are not in balance or are out of rhythm. Whether we choose to listen to these signs or not is our choice.

423. There is a contraceptive pill called Yas. Doctors are recommending to take it straight through and miss periods for undetermined lengths of time for women who are struggling with period pain stemming from any number of issues. Doing this can affect moods and psychological stability and yet they are saying it is perfectly safe. Looking beneath the period pain to the energetic root cause of it, as you so clearly express Gyl, sounds like a far truer, more loving and effective way to address our ailments. It will be a great day for humanity when we choose to integrate this aspect of health with Western medicine as a matter of fact.

424. Our bodies are so amazing at telling us that how we are living does not always support them. If we were to only stop and listen more intently then perhaps we would be able to avoid many unneccessary symptoms and live a much more healthy and vital life.

425. Great Gyl, that you took the absence of your period as an opportunity to understand your body on a deeper level and acted on it.

426. Our bodies are very sensitive and beautiful radars for when we don’t live in line with the Universe. Beautiful inspiration Gyl for taking the signals of your body seriously and to build a foundation with Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine on which you can evolve and make space for your body, to nurture the precious woman you are.

427. The depth of support that is available from the many Sacred Esoteric modalities and practitioners is inspiring. Humanity has come to accept so many things as normal because they are common yet we know that it is not right. I love your description of embodying stillness in the body as you say it is not putting your feet up but a living movement within.

428. I love the possibility that what is considered normal, may not be normal it is just something lots of people experience.

429. Thank you, Gyl, for taking this journey of looking at all the details of your life that hadn’t been held in full love. When we fully take care of our body it is as if we were fully taking care of the world, as a true mother.

430. I too am focusing on the quality I move with, this is supporting me to deepen my connection with my cervix, ovaries, uterus and breasts, which in turn supports me to only move in the way that truly supports my being.

431. We have reached a dreadful state where the majority of people seem to be not only be in constant motion but in constant energetic commotion. Life is getting decidedly chaotic for most and our health is reflecting our havoc!

432. “Every month a woman’s body creates and releases an egg, which, if not fertilized, results in her having a period – this is normal.” I appreciate the the clarity of stating what is normal here. This is important as for many women have lost their way with how our periods can be and I would add that pain free is normal too.

433. You are right Gyl how can it be ‘normal’ for the body not work as it should! I love this line it’s beautifull ‘Our bodies are intrinsically made up in a way that is in divine order with God, working in natural rhythms and cycles, just like nature and the Universe.’ One feeling I have is that so many women and girls periods stop that maybe it is said it is ‘normal’ to stop them worrying? But having said this, what Serge and Natalie Benhayon and yourself bring in the blog with regards to the stillness in a women’s body and how our choices and how we live affect our periods is very true and something that as a whole we are not currently aware of but; is super supporting for us to know so by working with both western medicine and esoteric medicine we can return to a natural homeostasis.

434. ‘In stillness there is no doing, only being, and in this there is no way you can deny you are divine and deeply connected to God. There is a natural rhythm, life flows, there’s no need to try, push or rush. Stillness is as natural to us as breathing; it never leaves us.’
     I am deeply touched by your words, Gyl, for connecting to that stillness feels like such a natural thing to do and yet, I fight it. I tell myself that I don’t feel that sense of absolute knowing of God, there is still a hesitancy in me to fully allow that, so I eat, I think, I plan, I distract myself, look at Social Media, and then sometimes I am there, right in my body for a moment and it feels great but in the next moment I disconnect. It’s as if I am fighting centuries of living one way when my body is telling me there’s another way. I no longer have periods to signify what’s going on, but there are plenty of other symptoms such as osteoporosis, arthritis, and an irregular heartbeat that tell me I need to take more loving care of my body, so that’s what I’m working on.

435. A beautiful testimony to the divine intelligence and wisdom the body holds – when it is listened to and treated with love, care and respect it begins to respond and miracles can and do occur.

436. Thank you for sharing Gyl. I remember years ago a friend of mine saying how great it was she had not had a period for over a year. I was quite surprised at this. Essentially it meant she did not have to spend the time each month deeply nurturing and caring for herself and could simply get on with life. Something I have experienced with my wife is how supportive her periods are. They are a monthly moment of reflection – offering her the chance to look at how the last month has been and giving her a clean slate for the month ahead. When women truly embrace their periods they will see them as a gift rather than a hindrance.

437. I can very much relate to everything you have shared here, Gyl. I used to be the classic swan – looking graceful on top of the water but paddling like crazy underneath. There was so much motion and tension in my movements and my thoughts, a by-product of the constant reactions I had to life. Taking responsibility to address this state of being and choosing to connect to my body and the stillness that is inherent within is an ongoing process that I am now fully committed to.

438. “Motion is not a bad thing, but not in the excess that 99% of us live in, that constant doing, distraction and raciness.” And this is the medicine we really need, the awareness that rushing around doing a million and one things in the day, head always focused on the next thing and never the present is sheer poison to our bodies. I know in the past I thrived on this busyness because it made me feel important, but consequently felt exhausted and ill most of the time. Returning to a natural stillness in my body has taken some doing (!) but learning to carry out the tasks in my day in connection with this gorgeous quality has had and continues to be a very nourishing energy, a loving medicine that is restoring to me my normal levels of health and vitality.

439. We are taught to manage the things that happen to us because we are female, rather than to embrace and celebrate being a woman. There is constant talk as to the disadvantages of being a woman. No wonder we have learned to push it aside and try to live in the world, ignoring this most glorious part of us, yet this leads to serious problems. It is beautiful to know there is a way back to being truly embracing of being a woman. There is so much joy in this and it is so awesome to connect. I loved reading about your dedicated journey Gyl. It is very inspiring.

440. I have found this blog very timely, not that i have stopped having a period, but I know that I do have a pattern of going into the doing, not honouring deeply what you have been sharing about natural rhythms that we all can align to. Being super conscious of how I am living, eating, sleeping, but being more consistent with it all. I am great at the ‘every now and then’, but having a consistency and building that into my everyday is a focus right now. So have found your blog incredibly inspiring, so thank you.

441. It is phenomenal that women have this detailed feedback mechanism even if, at times, it is extremely uncomfortable and painful. I wonder how much this constant feedback is responsible for the higher life expectancy of women even though their body is more complicated.

442. This is just such a brilliant example of taking responsibility in healing. You sought support from the conventional and complementary medicines – yes, they are the experts in their own fields, but you put yourself first as the expert of your own body, and this feels very important. Thank you for sharing your experience, Gyl. And your sharing on how you looked at the way you were with yourself in everyday life is very inspiring too. Very simple, just going-back-to-basic stuff.

443. Gyl when you speak about the quality in which we do something you share the answer to everything in life. I was washing up the plates after dinner yesterday and noting the quality of stillness, and how with-myself or self-connected this activity actually felt. Something so simple, and yet it can be the easiest thing to let slip as we go about our day, doing things in autopilot. Making this quality not slip, but be the focus in everything we do changes everything, even the world.

444. The message was great and I connected to lots of what you shared, its truly incredible that your periods have retuned through your committment. I feel it’s important that a women does not judge herself or feel wrong if she has had no periods for a time. I also feel it is a very important blog for the world to hear, as it is crazy that we talk ourselves into normalising things that are not in fact natural but are in fact our bodies way of communicating something important to us.

445. Your blog Gyl is an inspiration to look beyond any medical problem to what lies beneath. By changing the ill pattern of behaviour that causes the problem, with support of medication, you show how the body can truly heal.

446. Whatever it is that is going on in our bodies, even if we override the signs and symptoms, there is a level at which we do know that something has changed and does not feel right. So when medical tests come back as negative, there is always something more we can do to look and feel more deeply at what is really going on. And the Esoteric Healing practitioners and modalites that they offer are a wonderful way to support us to do this.

     1. I agree, Sandra, our trial and error of self discovery never stop.

447. Stillness is such an abstract notion to women and the true meaning of its as an energetic quality had been lost to us until Universal Medicine and Esoteric Women’s Health brought it back. Connecting to and feeling our innate inner stillness is absolutely gorgeous and living from the wisdom it opens us up to our divine right. I am very grateful to Serge and Natalie Benhayon for hooking us back up with the power and beauty of true inner-stillness.

448. “This is an unfolding process, but what I do know is, it is both Esoteric Medicine and Western Medicine that have supported me to take responsibility and address the moment-to-moment choices that I have made and make in life.” – Love how you say here that it is an unfolding process, that there are steps along the way that reveal more of what there is to let go of and to embrace in life and that both western and esoteric medicine combined deliver an essential support and healing aid.

449. I wonder how would it be when women from young on learned to truly understand their period and cycle as a precious gift, to read it, learn and grow from it, and even related it to their sacredness and everything they bring as women to all of us. They never would accept it just as normal and brush it off when there occurred changes or irregularities. Time for women to share with women and men and reconnect us all to the natural rhythms we live by and with.

     1. I agree Alex that we need to be discussing these things more out in the open and less behind closed doors or in hushed tones. There are so many wonders of the human body that are under-rated and under-appreciated or even viewed as a nuisance or annoyance when really they are great blessings there to support us to come back to a way of living that is more harmonious for everyone and for the universe itself.

450. How far do we have to move from true health and wellbeing before we realise that normal keeps becoming more and more abnormal?

451. I love that this article isn’t simply about getting your periods back – as in ‘back to normal now’ so let’s just carry on – but that the whole process has been one of learning, revelation and responding responsibly to your body’s signals. Thank you for sharing these important insights, Gyl.

452. Conventional medicine more often than not fails to appreciate the role of ‘primary’ medicine, in preventing or reducing the risk of an illness developing. I have known health practitioners that when a cyst or fibroid appears, their only approach is to offer annual checks to monitor growth of the tumour or cyst. Very rarely is the woman supported to look after her body, in the way Gyl describes. What if this form of medicine was taught in medical schools?

453. Over a period of time I have developed a much stronger relationship with my period and my cycles and my period has responded by becoming far more regular and arriving exactly when expected. I know that if I missed my period even for one month I would need to look into the way I had been living and seeking support to understand why this has occurred.

454. As men we’re to deeply love women and support them when they are sharing about their health and wellbeing. We’ve been very demanding towards women, acting like they are never enough and that they are responsible for how we feel. This is putting an enormous pressure on women. Of course, in the end everyone is responsible for themselves, but when the ‘pressure’ is normal, it’s hard to stay with yourself. Loving care and appreciation is not something most of us experience on a daily level. That many women and men may feel inspired to have more honest conversations about our health and wellbeing.

455. Taking a deeper interest in the reasons behind the body’s symptoms is something that not everyone does. It is easy to go to the doctor and ask him to fix us without taking responsibility and understanding that how we are living may have created the symptoms in the first place. I am always inspired by stories like this where a deeper awareness is reached and changes have been made that support true health. Thank you Gyl.

456. ‘Setting up my home, my car and my space in a way that supports and confirms me – my safe space, so there’s lots of order, precision and space, as this is what I love and deeply confirms who I am’. This is what deeply confirms me too Gyl. And living on the coast now, every-time I go for a walk, all the wide open space around me, the heavenly blue of the skies and the stillness that nature emanates is a reflection and confirmation of all I am, and that we all are.

457. I love the underlying message here Gyl and that is that our bodies are fountains of wisdom and when something is out then the body will try to communicate this to us. Your loving enquiry and commitment to what was happening has proven that there is much to be uncovered and shared when we are willing to go deeper and make the changes needed to deepen the love we are living.

458. For most of my life I avoided taking responsibility, which kept me going round and round on the same old track going no-where. Through attending courses by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I came to understand that all my choices had led me to where I was today. The one choice to take responsibility for my life was the game changer and from that space, I made many more choices.

459. Thank you, Gyl, for sharing this experience and huge learning. I too am re-discovering the energetic and physical subtleties of the female parts of my body, and am amazed at how disconnected I have been without really realising it. When a woman generally hardens her body as I did, in contraction and protection, the exquisite qualities of the female body get shut down, which is a tragedy for the woman and everyone around her.

460. Wow, Gyl thank You, for sharing this inspires me to ponder deeper and listen much more to my body and stop and feel and take a rest when needed and stop overeating. I am also on the way to re-connecting to the woman I am and to my sacredness. Thank you for sharing your experience as I feel the pill is not an for me option either and also my hormone levels were fine.

461. Keeping a focus of “Being aware of the quality in which I move, is it delicate, tender and gentle or is it hard and harsh?” I am finding so supportive in building my re-connection to my Soul and to God.

462. When we trust ourselves, listen to our bodies and work with our doctors and healing practitioners, it forms a powerful combination that brings healing to the whole person. This is clearly what you have done Gyl.

463. What a massive dis-service we do ourselves when we sweep our health issues under the ‘normal’ carpet. The danger here is that we are losing sight of what it truly normal. The lived quality of health and vitality that both Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon live is holding that benchmark of normality for us. The alarming thing is, is that when one looks at how they live their lives at present it is extremely un-normal, but it is our true normal and one that is well worth re-claiming.

464. I totally agree and have found this to be true too Gyl, “The combination of both Esoteric Medicine and Western Medicine is deeply supportive and nurturing..”, with my physical and mental health. My period also stopped for the first time ever this year, apart from when I’ve been pregnant, and of course it stood out like an elephant. I went straight to my Doctor, and usually it wouldn’t be alarming for most (it was only 2 weeks over), because we are in a world today where having a period or not having a period, or having endometriosis or fibroids, is like having a runny nose, it’s no big deal. It’s been made so normal because it is so common for many many women. But for me, it was a big deal and a big stop moment to look at what was going on and how was I living that my period needed to stop. I followed up with specialists and everything and all was fine but what it came down to was me not seeing the beauty in me and what I bring as a woman, and instead over shadowing that with the doing and busyness. And my period came straight back. Amazing what we can learn and heal through connecting and listening to our bodies!

465. “The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body” – such a powerful consideration what you share about yourself Gyl, and for women to deeply connect to. Makes me think how much ‘skipped periods’, are reflective of the way we ‘skip though’ life, i.e. not connected, but missing some important parts or pieces to make things flow…

466. I love your explanation of stillness in this blog Gyl. I can connect to the feeling of stillness being a lived quality of deep connection, rather than an absence of movement. To me, when I am connected to this deep stillness I take it with me everywhere I go. I can have this quality of stillness in activity.

467. “The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.” How wonderful it would be for those women who are struggling to become pregnant, so wanting a child, to know that there is a completely different approach that can also be taken that may give them the opportunity to bear a child. So many women in the world are living in a very driven, hard manner now, with no thought of truly looking after themselves and their body, but they do not realise that their body is not in a condition as a woman to be able to have a child, however much they may want it. The way young girls are brought up now does not usually give any thought to how they may be meant to be living as a true woman. The world has become a very hard place, and women are now so often expected to live in that driven, having to succeed, competitive mode. How different though would the world be if women were to live as the true gentle, delicate beings that they naturally are, caring for themselves very deeply. No weakness in this, it is actually very powerful.

468. How common it is Gyl, for doctors to dismiss irregularities like this as being ‘normal’ or ‘common’ in so many cases. Wonderful that you felt far more deeply into this issue for yourself and realised the messages that your body was giving you. Yes we need all the help that the medical practitioners can give us, but to look at the wider dimension as well can be so very fruitful for us. It can change the whole way we are living if we are willing to go there.

469. I love the way in which you have taken responsibility to get support from Esoteric Practitioners and Western medicine in your healing and ongoing expansion Gyl. What you have written about stillness is particularly inspiring, thank you;
     “There is a natural rhythm, life flows, there’s no need to try, push or rush. Stillness is as natural to us as breathing; it never leaves us”.

470. It is incredible you had this realisation from missing your period Gyl, ‘The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.’ and that it certainly is not natural at all to miss our periods. Your blog will hugely support women to look beyond the symptoms we have and listen what our body is truly communicating to us, and to better understand what it really going on. So, we can make more loving choices to return to our natural rhythm and harmony in our body and life.

471. It does seem we are still for the most part in the practice of re-acting or going into fixing, removing and getting rid of to even ignoring, rather than responding to the underlying cause of our dis-eases. It takes a greater responsibility on our part to truly address the root cause of our imbalances and make the changes to our lifestyles to support our overall wellness. Very empowering Gyl.

472. What is interesting to observe is that women do know when they are pushing themselves and over doing, but it seems so ingrained or accepted these days.In deepening our awareness and honouring our feelings again, we begin to address the disharmony in our bodies. To move and live from a rhythm of stillness when we honour our connection with the body and all it shares brings a quality of being to our doing. Thanks Gyl, your blog beautifully confirms the rebalancing that is possible when we do listen and honour what we know.

473. You raise an important consideration – the normalising of things that are not normal, like missing a period in what is naturally a precise cycle, just as it would not be normal for the tides to stop moving or the world to stop spinning.

474. Gyl this is a stunning account on how we can take responsibility for our own health and not rely solely on medical advice. We absolutely need to be part of the medical world and take tests etc… when necessary but it works much better when we take responsibility for our own health as well, as your blog shows. Thank you for taking the time to share this with us all.

475. As women, most of us don’t live in honour of our cycles. We can be relieved when our period doesn’t come, we can see it as a nuisance, as it asks us to be more delicate with our bodies, e.g. to not play sport, or to move gently, to stay warm, yet we fight it. I like how your bring the sacredness of our cycles to the fore. It is a great reminder for me and many others.

476. What esoteric healing brings to the mix is the understanding of why something is going on in the body. Western medicine is incredible in what it offers and has a solution, fix or management strategy for most conditions. What’s missing is a way of looking at the cause in some instances so the person can get behind why their body has a particular symptom or illness. Unfortunately in women’s reproductive conditions, there are many solutions or fixes but not much in the way of addressing why so many women have conditions in this area. We have surgery, the pill, IVF and no end of other solutions, but none if it really asks a woman to stop and consider how she might be living day-to-day that is causing or contributing to the condition – this is what esoteric healing does, in a supportive, non-judgmental and gentle way.

477. This is a beautiful sharing Gyl. I too have had a long absence of my period which returned for 8 months, but I now have missed my cycle for 3 months… showing me there is more for me to deepen in connection to myself, to stillness and myself as a woman.

478. There are so many ill symptoms that women experience with their periods that are considered ‘normal’ when they are definitely not how our cycle should be. This is further confirmation that we have moved far away from ourselves in our relationship with ourselves and bodies as women when we are not able to feel the truth of what our periods are showing us. All you have shared here Gyl shows there is a way to connect and come back to a true way of living in our bodies and how this is a forever deepening process – thank you.

479. Becoming our own health practitioners, by staying in connection with and caring for our bodies, is the foundation of true medicine.

480. My period has been there for years, often ignored, the majority of time not paid much attention to it, other than to get tired, grumpy and sore and wait for it to be over. Natalie Benhayon and others have inspired me to look more deeply at how cycles are in everything we experience and they share so much for us to learn from. My period no more feels like a bore, it feels like a window, a reflection of how I have been with myself. Something precious to observe, that life can be related to in a whole other way.

481. This is a very rich article, so many layers of awareness to deepen and honour, our cycles for both men and women, our health, our illness, our understanding in terms of why life unfolds in such a way it does, what checking out means for you and what it could mean for others, honouring what we feel over what we think or are told….and more. Thank you, so much to appreciate in your honest exploration of an experience that many women have and something that men and women alike can relate to.

     1. Yes, to considering what checking out means and looks like. I guess we all do it in different ways – but I am up for spotting those moments and then considering what went on just before that I did not want to be fully aware of.

482. “Being aware of the quality in which I move, is it delicate, tender and gentle or is it hard and harsh?” Even that simple act, being aware of the ‘quality’, feels so pivotal and an honouring movement towards deepening your connection with yourself Gyl. Love your sharing.

483. What if the connective tissue exercises you mention Gyl are not limited to one moment or session at the beginning of the day, but flow into everything we do? For there is no movement we make that is not connected and a complete part of the tissue of life. If every time we drive or push our body we push and harm every body’s body too. Wow how can we continue to ignore and override what we do?

484. The degree of estrangement from our body and a natural understanding and sense for what feels natural and harmonious is actually shocking. We need to ask what are we missing to teach ourselves and our children that allows us to accept the abnormal as the normal in complete ignorance of our well-being and health. And what kind of natural science and medicine do we entertain that has lost relationship with the very nature of its study?

485. Gyl, I love your sharing here and how willing you’ve been to take whatever steps are needed to look underneath what is going on with you and your body, and the biggest thing I felt reading it, is now your periods are back it’s not about that aim or the function of it, but continuing to deepen and live in a way that supports the woman – this is very important, we get very stuck on function and ticking the box and in doing so we miss the deeper gift we can be offered, so your example is great, as missing periods provided an opportunity to see how you live and this is something all of us can embrace no matter what we meet in life.

486. It is of great concern to me that something which is a clear sign of dysfunction in the body can be dismissed as being ‘normal’ by a doctor. Just because something is common does not make it ‘normal’, and yet this seems to be the way we define ‘normal’ life, i.e. if the majority lives it, then it must be ‘normal’. So if the majority are living in deep disregard of the wellbeing of their bodies, then this becomes the accept ‘norm’.

487. It’s alarming how many things that are not natural have become normal, simply because it’s happening to lots of people, or lots of people are behaving in a certain way.

488. You cover so much in this blog Gyl. I like the way you make it very clear that stillness is not about lying on the sofa with your feet up and not moving, but a quality that you can choose whether still or moving. What has helped me is pausing before I do a task, focusing on my breath and making my movements purposeful, rather than in a hurried distracted way.

489. ‘ I know it’s time to continue deepening my connection to the stillness and sacredness in my body, and with that even more Ancient Wisdom.’ beautifully said Gyl, it is always time for that.

490. We have many forms of coping mechanisms – TV, distractions, ice cream and fancy things but ultimately if we don’t live responsibly we will endure the consequences. It is a great learning step for us all!

491. The more you are aware to live in stillness and come back to it, the easier it will be to live in and come back to.

492. An inspiring read! When we are doing one thing and thinking about another, or start to be disregarding of ourselves when we move from place to place, that is a worry and a sign we are already ill!

493. I just love this blog love your description of stillness Gyl. It is indeed something that is so natural for all of us but something that can get lost or drowned out in the hustle and bustle of every day life.

     1. I agree as well, all of us have experienced a feeling of being at ease and still with ourselves yet in day-to-day life we tend to let that go and get caught up in what we think we need to do and how we think we need to act.

494. When we listen to our body and the signs it gives us such as in your case Gyl your periods stopped, it can be easy to brush it aside and hope they will return, yet you were willing to feel that to honour your body you had to go deeper. This is where Esoteric Medicine can step in as it looks past the physical side and looks at what is happening in our lives that can cause this physical problem to appear. Learning to be open to this possibility is the first steps in having a true healing as was shown to you when your periods returned.

495. What if we can shift our thinking from seeing the body as a wayward vehicle inflicting various ailments and random diseases upon our being and whimsically blighting our lives, to a delicate exquisite instrument that can only reflect to us the damage that our errant being inflicts upon itself and its physicality, and equally the vehicle that can offer us the path back to true healing and our return to the Soul.

496. This is great sharing Gyl and it is fantastic that you honoured what you felt and to get the support from your doctor to see what was going on medically with your body. I know when I have done this in the past I feel more empowered about what is going on and that I am lovingly taking care of myself. Esoteric Medicine is such a wholesome awareness to have as well, to look deeper as to why things have occurred in the body, bringing honesty to the situation and feeling deeper within as to what it maybe. Asking for support on every level is something that I have avoided and have been ‘Miss Independent’ and letting go of this and being more open to ask for what I need is one to keep working on, and it feels so lovely when you do allow the support.

497. It feels an ongoing process deepening our connection to ourselves Gyl. I know I have many more lessons to learn and my body will continue to show me in the future too. There will always be more learning and our appreciation and openness to this is very self loving.

     1. I agree, layer, upon layer, to let go of, to allow our natural shine and light to glitter and glow. And yet making the choice to say YES, to feel an absoluteness within concerning life, love and truth is all it takes to reawaken that light, and we all can feel it when someone has said YES.

498. Your description here totally sums up the way life is lived out of rhythm with our true womanly nature, beautifully and humorously captured; “I was living in a way where there was a large amount of motion and anxiety in my body. By this I simply mean thinking, over thinking, doing lots of things, fighting my awareness of what I feel, surplus activity, planning ahead, e.g. driving home and thinking about other things instead of the one thing my body is currently doing. You could call it ‘checking out’ – basically, not being fully present with my body in what it is doing – making dinner in a rush, or running a bath at the same time as checking my phone, eating when I don’t need to, writing an email and walking the dog – slight exaggeration here, but you get what I mean. There were moments where I was very still and brought that to my day, but I was living in a way that was not true to the innate divine wisdom, stillness and sacredness, I am and come from.”

499. “Being aware of the quality in which I move, is it delicate, tender and gentle or is it hard and harsh? Feeling that I don’t have to do everything at once, nor by myself, and that it’s okay to say no or ask for support, speaking up when needed, rather than holding back what needs to be said. Not over-eating and stopping when I feel to rest. Living what I know, instead of knowing it from my head. Setting up my home, my car and my space in a way that supports and confirms me” As a wise man Leondardo Da Vinci once said “One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself” and here we have the real lived practical steps towards true wellbeing.

500. I love the power in which you write and the responsibility and choices you are making to bring a deeper connection to your self and your body. Universal Medicine brings the honouring of our bodies and our health and the aliveness and livingness of true medicine together with conventional medicine making sense and allowing us the opportunity to take responsibility for all that our body is showing us.

501. Understanding ‘stillness’ is an ever unfolding ever-deepening process. as is the awareness of the layers of anxiousness and nervous tension that we may hold, partly to avoid the stillness and to avoid recognising and seeing that which we then need to take responsibility for. But if we don’t get to nurture that quality of stillness, then the body will inevitably present to us the consequences of the harm we have inflicted on it.

502. I am really enjoying learning about my cycle. It’s not just the period alone, or the lack of period that can tell us about how we have been living, but the period itself. When we pay attention to every nuance the body is sharing we are given support and a window on to our every day choices… this is such an invaluable support because you can’t deny the physical, tangible experience of the body. As has been shared by Serge Benhayon many times “the body never lies”. I have the learned the truth of this for myself and have come to appreciate my body in a way that I have never done before.

503. It was lovely to read your words Gyl and to feel the way you are honouring your body and allowing it to lead the way. It often feels that we allow the outside world to impose and divert us from our natural way of living – listening to our body and understanding that it is supporting us to unfold a deeper level of responsibility and commitment. As I connect more deeply to my body I am amazed at the magical unfoldment that is taking place. Not everything I find is necessarily what I want to feel and see but somehow it leads me to ponder and realise that there are opportunities in everything we consider as an ill in our body. The more willing I am to be open to what is happening the more grace and beauty I find within.

504. Gyl, I just love your honest and open writing – you share your life regardless of the issue and it’s very cool. Missing your period appears to have been a blessing – your body’s way of a ‘stop’ moment in which you can ask yourself what’s actually going on. And it’s inspiring to read about how the supportive choices you made, whether going to the doctor or through esoteric practitioners, helped you to get back ‘on track’.

505. ‘So three months later at the hospital, I had several blood tests taken, alongside internal and external scans – they all came back negative. I know it was deeply supportive, responsible and honouring of my body to get these tests done, to make sure everything internally was okay and there were no major medical issues causing this.’ It’s interesting how willing we are to accept there is nothing wrong if current medical tests do not pick anything up without always trusting what we feel.

506. It makes you wonder if doctors are saying, don’t worry it is normal to miss a period or many, how many young women are going to the doctors these days with the same symptoms and now it is considered normal. Scary really.

507. Like every-thing that we all want, stillness is something that we all already have.

508. Such a rich offering Gyl, so much to explore in the deep wisdom that you have shared so simply. And the perfect time for me to do so, as I have come to a very similar place as well. Recently I have really been noticing the abundant times where my mind is not with my body, the many times throughout my day when I am hard or abrasive in my movements, a peppering of regular anxiety in my body and all of these things running roughshod over the stillness that is already within me.

509. Gyl, this article is very important, having read it recently I have been aware of when I am checked out, it feels like it is quite often, but great to be aware of this, I keep choosing to come back to me, my periods have stopped of late and I was also told this is ‘normal’ and so it is very helpful to read your article and consider how I am living and if I am living from stillness or in raciness and drive.

510. It is really precarious that we call an ill normal just because it has become the norm or average in society. This is evidence of how sick we are as a society and ignore it. What kind of intelligence is running this show and what will be the subsequent ramifications? The collapse of our health systems is preprogrammed unless every single one of us returns to common sense, connecting to and living from their body and developing a harmonious lifestyle.

     1. I completely agree Alex and it is important that we claim the truth of what we feel in our bodies and honour that, so we can work with our health professionals as equals rather than giving our power away to medicine or not taking any responsibility for our own health.

     2. This is such an important point you raise Alex, if we keep moving the goal posts on what ‘normal’ is, we lose sight of true health and begin to manage life with ill health as normal, and yes we do need to address ill health with medicine, but if we say that ill health is normal then we rob ourselves of the opportunity to go deeper and feel and know what exactly is going on; how is it we are living which is not supportive and what is it as a wider society we are doing where we are in such a state of ill health? The first step is to honestly and truly see that we are sicker than we’ve ever been and begin an open inquiry of ourselves and each other to understand and feel this, to come back to what we need deep in us is true and yes that is common sense.

     3. It is as you say Alex precarious to call an ill normal. Some medical practitioners do not know what to do as they treat symptoms not causes. This makes it even more important that we don’t hand over responsibility for our own health to anyone: listening to medical advice must always stand alongside listening to our bodies and if necessary seeking a second opinion. I have direct experience of putting trust in a health practitioner’s advice and only to find out much later, when the condition became chronic and needed surgical intervention, that I had been ill-advised.

511. “Could it be a way we avoid responsibility?” I know that for years I avoided responsibility for my health, always laying the blame for my ill health on external factors or seeing my body as a complete nuisance for breaking down on me. And then I would have the audacity to expect my doctor to fix me and make everything okay, completely ignoring the way I lived and the very harmful things I did to myself.

     What I appreciate most with Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon is that what they present arises from a living model of self-care, one that is perpetually evolving and they share their experiences very openly and honestly. They have most importantly re-established a true model of health to orient our selves by. It’s normal to feel well, vital and joyful and anything less is a deviation away from our health that requires our serious attention. It’s normal for our bodies to do what they are supposed to do, normal but these days not so common.

512. Our bodies are something science is continually trying to improve and duplicate. Will they ever be able to improve our natural ability to feel when something does not feel right and is not our normal? Science is getting better at finding cures for our ill choices and their detrimental effects on our bodies though!

513. Understanding the fact there is great significance to the way we experience our periods, is a very empowering thing as a woman. What you’ve shared Gyl is a fabulous example of the way we can approach ourselves and what is on offer by way of our own development. What you’ve described is truly holistic medicine in my book… taking responsibility for addressing every aspect and combining both conventional and complementary medicines as well as your own choices in lifestyle.

514. For me Gyl, this is a lovely example of the combination of western medicine and esoteric medicine. Looking at the body and its rhythms as a totality, rather than seeing a number of parts, where there is a natural order and rhythm to all of life.

515. What we do in life is all about how we are with ourselves when we do them.

516. Stillness feels like a deepening we have with ourselves. When we have stepped away from it, we come back to being deeply tender to ourselves, the period we treat ourselves like a vulnerable baby then builds us up like how babies literally flourish and grow immensely in front of our eyes when they are nourished with deep care in the first few months of their lives.

517. When we accept normal because it has become commonplace, over what we know is truly normal, we are not trusting our true feelings; it is a way of copping out, or not being willing to accept responsibility for our behaviours, or sometimes even giving up on life. By being in stillness we bring awareness to the truth.

518. I love what you shared about deeply supporting and nurturing yourself through choosing to connect to the stillness within and to then truly embody that before doing whatever is needed to be done. We honestly deserve nothing less….and it is stunning that your body made sure it reminded you of this.

519. It’s also to consider the bodies part in the communicating what it required from you Gyl, what a ‘stop’ literally to communicate the support it needed to return you to your full ‘normal’ expression as a woman. Precious!.

520. Reading your blog Gyl is a big wake up call for me as I haven’t had my period for 4 months now. It is the first time in a very long time that I haven’t had a period and like you I have a knowing that it is because there has been too much motion in my life. I am aware of this and am taking the steps to deepen my connection to stillness yet I am realising that I need to visit the doctor to get fully checked out as a means of extra support. Thank you for your honest and open sharing, I deeply appreciate the reflection.

521. When we learn to first stop, then really connect and feel, our divine nature becomes apparent. It’s a feeling I’ve always known – as a child, in my quieter moments or when I’ve been forced to come to a halt through illness… A feeling that later become obscured by the ‘rough and tumble’ we think is life and take on as the way to do life. It’s been absolutely revelatory – and delicious – to discover there is another, completely different and far more loving way to be. Like Gyl, it’s helped me to become the woman I am but was not living.

522. ‘In stillness there is no doing, only being, and in this there is no way you can deny you are divine and deeply connected to God.’

     It’s perhaps hard to understand the concept of stillness given it is so foreign to our modern way of life. As someone who was definitely in motion most if not all of the time, the way I came to understand it was through the bodywork I received via the Universal Medicine modalities.

     In other words, feeling and experiencing stillness physically in my body, rather than trying to ‘think’ my way into it, was the way forward. Incrementally and over time I was able to bring the stillness I felt on the session table into my daily life. Developing and refining this has been an on-going, work in progress, and there are days when I definitely lose it. What is interesting to note is how disturbing this now feels. Stillness before motion is definitely my natural way.

523. This is a great example Gyl of both the wisdom of our bodies and what is possible when we listen. Thank you for sharing. Truly nurturing ourselves as women from the inside out is part of the re balancing.

524. It is very powerful to feel the wisdom we get from the messages from our bodies. It is loud and clear for us to feel, and I have certainly dismissed it in the past, allowing other signs to lead me round in circles until more recently when I have been listening more clearly. Everything happens to us for a reason, so when there is a message, to ignore it is very disregarding. No wonder the body repeats it louder and clearer until we get out and act upon it.

525. Thank you Gyl, this is an important discussion to have because we are now accepting more and more disease as being normal, so much so that some of our markers of good health are being erroded. It is not normal to miss periods, have painful periods or tender, lumpy breasts but it is very common. I too have benefitted enormously from the combination of the Universal Medicine modalities and all that my local doctor and hospital provide and this for me is my normal, an inward and outward approach that rests on the foundation of my daily nurturing rhythms that has resulted in a return to normal marker of solid, vital health.

526. When we return to being guided by the truth of our bodies rather than the thoughts from our disconnected minds, we will then know what it is to live the true power of a women in her essence. It is then we all receive the true blessing of what women are here to bring.

527. Our bodies are constantly giving us messages, and for women, there is no clearer message than how our menstrual cycle is during the entire month and not just at menstruation but at every stage. Our cycle offers so much insight should we choose to connect to what is there to be seen and felt.

528. A living testimonial to how western medicine and complementary therapies can work harmoniously together. The important link here however is your commitment Gyl and learning to deeply honour the communications of your body and this is where the Universal Medicine Modalities really support us to develop our listening ear, so to speak and to help bring us back to the fact that we are so much more than our physical body.

529. In our current society there is a huge pressure and expectation for women to value who we are through what we do. This consciousness is the driving force behind the way we move and live as women today through which we disregard and push ourselves to the point of exhaustion. From our disconnection to who we are, to our already Divine being-ness, we forfeit our power to focus instead on physical achievements and perfection through which we can never feel satisfied, settled or complete. It is only through our connection to who we are in essence, the surrender to our stillness within that we can live the richness of the sacredness, wisdom and oneness that we hold a and bring as women in this world.

530. Thank you Gyl raising the conversation and bringing our awareness to the fact that we and our bodies are capable and designed to live so much more than what is considered ‘normal’. We have lost sense that our bodies are naturally aligned to the order of the universe through cycles and rhythms. When we live in a way that is not in accordance to the natural order we are part of, we fall out of line, so to speak, and our bodies reflect this through dis-ease and illness. This awareness of our bodies and the stillness that we are within, is what we need to return to opening up to, so that we can be guided to live in a way that honors all that we are and are designed to live.

531. I love the understanding for yourself Gyl. You describe very well that it isn’t normal to not have a connection with our own body. And the denying of this fact is actually waiting until illness and disease come along. In whatever form. How gracious is it to read that you’ve rebuilt a connection with your own body. And that this foundation is just a start, even though you’re having your period again. This is what I’m learning too, that having a relationship with our body shouldn’t come from a drive or as a goal, but simply because I love to be with me and feel me within my own body. Thank you once again for sharing your story.

532. “Our bodies are intrinsically made up in a way that is in divine order with God, working in natural rhythms and cycles, just like nature and the Universe…” This sentence deserves to be on the mantle piece above the lounge room fireplace, centre stage, as it gives the grand picture of life, our relationship with it and, in reflection, the relationship it shows we are having with ourselves. Simply stunning and beautiful. Thank you Gly.

533. I love the power with which you claimed the wisdom of what you knew to be true deep down when you heard that periodically missing our periods is considered to be normal: “Every cell in my body knows truth ­­– this is not normal.” There have been many instances in my life when I have ended up with a physical illness or issue and when I have reflected on it I realised I had the first signs that something was not okay way back. A great deal of wisdom is offered to us through our bodies which is well worth paying more attention to.

534. A great clarification on true stillness – it is easy to think it is all about inertia and hanging out relaxing rather than knowing we are from stillness and it is a natural state.
     “By stillness I don’t mean lying down on the couch, feet up, not moving; I mean embodying the quality of stillness in my body. In stillness there is no doing, only being, and in this there is no way you can deny you are divine and deeply connected to God”.

535. Gyl this is a great blog and enjoyable reading with some very practical suggestions for what is possible with working with the body and the change in your period cycles – a personal choice to bring new choices in self care and nurturing, nutrition and lifestyle. Thank you!

536. This also shows the powerful lead we can take in our own true healing. It’s not about alternate medicines or treatments but about using all forms of medicine to support whatever it is we need. Often we will take one over the other and use it in isolation. But the message of this blog is very clear, Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine working side by side in what is best for the person being treated. This treats the whole person and not just a part, sounds like the only way to me. Thank you Gyl.

537. There are so many levels to which the body can be read. Rather than staying on the initial surface symptoms and signs Gyl, you have taken a leap into the wonderful living science that our bodies are and exposed the gems of information for true healing to occur.

538. A beautiful exploration of how we can live out of sync with our body resulting in dis-ease, and how making this deep reconnection back to ourselves to live in order with who we are, and with our natural way of being, impacts our health.

539. Gyl this is an inspirational piece that I am sure many young women will be grateful for. To appreciate that we have a responsibility to our Body to make an informed decision by consulting a Medical Doctor as well as Esoteric Practitioners, if this feels appropriate.

540. It is true, so many of the things that are called normal are absolutely not normal; deep down we know this and we have the choice to either honour what we feel and know or to obliterate it by labelling it as normal.

541. ‘Every cell in my body knows truth ­­– this is not normal’. You became your own healer by simply following the wisdom of your body and not just the words of the doctor.

542. I can relate to the not living in the fullness of who I am as a woman and also eating to dull myself. When you do this there is often an underlying flatness to life however when I do connect to myself and honour this everything changes and there is a beauty and grace in all aspects of life.

543. I love how you have exposed that what we have accepted as normal is not normal at all. Much that is not explained has been dismissed in this way, but to allow ourselves to ask the question why this is happening opens the door to deeper understanding and awareness.

544. It is unwise to brush off medical conditions as simply happening.

     Being open to the possibility that more is happening than meeting the eye may be a wiser step.

545. I have had quite a few don’t “worry’ about it, and this was normal,” moments with doctors in the last few years and I have walked out of their rooms almost doubting myself and what my body was communicating to me. But how can I ever doubt the authority of my body, as it is my wise companion who today I listen to intently, although that wasn’t always the case. Claiming the authority of my body has deepened my connection to it and I am now clearly seeing deeply entrenched patterns and behaviours that have been so disregarding to my body that have resulted in conditions that are definitely not normal in any way.

546. Super important point Gyl that stillness is not lying down on the couch, feet up, not moving, but a quality of being that is naturally within our bodies. It is a quality that can be lived.

     1. Human being, not human doing.

547. It seems like common sense that anything that is out of rhythm or harmony is not normal. But we seem to consistently persist in making what is not normal, ‘normal’ particularly when there are more and more people with an aberration away from ‘normal’ in whatever way that manifests, for example obesity. It would make perfect sense to do as you have done, seek to find out why and take steps to address it lovingly with full support. I love how you combined traditional medicine with the esoteric understanding of it.

548. I feel this is what is currently missed with many if not all illnesses, die-eases, symptoms and changes within the body … that is how we live. How we live, our choices, what we eat, what we drink, whether we listen to our bodies and respond to them or not all our choices ultimately and directly affect our health and well-being. There have been many times in my life I just wanted a quick ‘fix’ a ‘solution’ to make the problem go away; not once did I take, or want to look at my responsibility in what was playing out. It is only since knowing Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I have started to sensibly and practically do this; there is still much I haven’t wanted to feel or be 100% aware of and this is a loving and unfolding process for me to embrace … my choice. With regards to periods I particularly feel this is not talked about. So much has been revealed and re-awakened re the sacredness of a woman’s body through the teachings of Serge and Natalie Benhayon, the major one being our period reflects how we have been living in the previous month. This was massive to me. Every single young girl and woman should know this as then we are empowered to change this (our periods) through the daily simple choices we make. My periods used to be so painful, I was diagnosed with endometriosis years ago but now they are amazing, with no or very little pain (again if I do have pain this is due to how I have lived in the last month) and many times now I don’t even get any signs my period is starting (sore breast etc) that I used to get. So I know what you present is a fact how we live, the way we are with ourselves at any given moment, the relationship with ourself (by no means being perfect) determines our well-being.

549. Saying that something is not normal even though statistically it might be normal is a huge step to take. We cannot measure ourselves to the outside as we then constantly disregard what our body is telling us. If we compare ourselves to others we simply compare ourselves where we are at as a whole but this does not mean that it is true and according to our bodies’ natural rhythms.

550. The generally accepted determinate of what is ‘normal’ is quantity and not with what is in alignment with what is true. The consequence of this is not living in harmony, joy and truth.

551. I have been having problems with dry eyes and associated issues and have been told that it is more common as we get older, in fact could be considered ‘normal’. For me, whilst following the treatment plan suggested by my optician, I am also looking at what this is reflecting to me about the way I live and see the world and where adjustments are called for to support myself.

552. I feel the power of your writing Gyl and in it the ’empowering’ choices you’ve made. It is inspiring.

553. I love the detail with which you have committed to re-learning how to deeply care for yourself and feel inspired to take another look at every aspect of my life to see where I can bring more self-care to my daily routine. Thank you Gyl.

554. Thank you Gyl for this contribution – it makes sense that the body would eventually show us when we are pushing it or expecting it to perform at the expense of it’s well-being, and has me thinking of how many illness could be avoided if we took more responsibility to be present with how we move our bodies, and actually how much more honouring of the body it is to move like that.

555. “During our conversation I was told to ‘not worry’ about it, and this was normal.” When doctors and hospitals learn about the power of energy western medicine will transform. Thank goodness for Universal Medicine which enables us to learn from our bodies what our symptoms mean – and address them to amazing effect. “The reason my period stopped is because I chose to not deeply connect to, and live from the stillness in my body.” Our bodies know and if we listen, miracles can happen.

556. Wow Gyl, great article, I love reading about the ways in which you are supporting yourself – these are beautiful and deeply inspiring, ‘Not over-eating and stopping when I feel to rest. Living what I know, instead of knowing it from my head. Setting up my home, my car and my space in a way that supports and confirms me’.

557. Thanks, Gyl. I love how the body shows us the absolute truth of how we are living. I too have missed periods for nine months and have been taking the connection to my body to a deeper level, bringing the focus first and foremost to the quality of my every movement, listening and responding to the subtle messages of what my body needs rather than continue to override it.

558. Thank you Gyl, for writing this about stillness: ‘In stillness there is no doing, only being, and in this there is no way you can deny you are divine and deeply connected to God.’ I recognise many of the activities you write about as ‘checking out’ and am working on becoming more ‘present’ in everyday activities like driving, eating and walking. The distractions and food are a deliberate choice we make to deny that deep connection to God and the stillness can be connected to in an instant, as soon as we return to feeling our bodies.

559. I’ve had some amazing experiences with doctors and medical professionals, the support and care is brilliant but I’ve also noticed there are many things that are left “unexplained” or considered “normal” when what justifies they are normal and is normal healthy? This is where the missing piece comes in, our responsibility and as you say its about living this and not simply knowing the answer in our heads. The world knows many things we do are not good for us but we do them anyway – that is not so inteligent!

560. What runs our bodies is the choices we make, and this is reflected in how our body moves. We can either have simple supportive movements or ones that cause the body to send us messages of our disconnection. When we ignore these warning signals, it is like running our car with the low oil light flashing.

561. As we evolve that which is outside of ourselves naturally changes. Sometime ago I felt to make changes to my home so I began to plan one step at a time, taking my time as to not rush and to give space to others in how they felt about the changes. Yesterday, I began to empty the kitchen/dining area in preparation for the electrician. It already feels supportive to my family and myself to make the choices which I have been avoiding, to create a loving, nurturing and confirming space around us in the home.

562. Gyl there was a time when I was young where I would have been happy to hear that the absence of periods could be normal simply because I was disconnected to the opportunity and healing that a period brings. I love the fact that you investigated all aspects of the ‘abnormal’ body signal, and that this approach did achieve the return to a harmoniously working body.

563. ‘Normal’ is often taken to mean being common. It is normal for Tasmanian Devils to have facial tumours and for many of them to die from that contagious cancer, but it still means that this is a very bad outcome for each animal.

564. How far do we need to go from the truth before we will start to see that what we are describing as normal is far from normal?

565. Thank you Gyl, for bringing back the simple and practical ways to heal our bodies from where we have been, a life driven by ideals and beliefs but void of a true connection with who we innately are.

566. Thanks for sharing your return to honouring yourself as a woman Gyl. Our cycles are an important part of the rhythm of life when they are out we can be sure that we are out of whack.

567. I found it interesting the response from the doctor, ‘to ‘not worry’ about it, and this was normal.’ Is it recognised as normal because many women experience missing their periods? My guess is yes, we seem to base what is normal by how frequent something is occurring in society but this doesn’t make it normal. This word normal is frequently used I feel to not alarm patients but to let them know it happens a lot to other people too. But the word normal tends to make me think that it is OK to miss our periods but I know from connecting to my body it is definitely not normal. It is incredible how you found support in western medicine as well as from Universal Medicine. What you’ve share is hugely inspiring and will support many, many women to reconnect to their body and learn to honour and connect to our stillness from within.

568. What this highlights to me is that there is a natural rhythm that our bodies respond to and that this is different for all. When we are not connected to and in this natural rhythm, our body will show us. We then have a choice, to either reestablish our connection to our natural rhythm or seek a fix to the symptom. Treating the symptom often only results in further symptoms manifesting until we address the underlying cause.

     1. Great point, Lee. And just as our rhythms are different, so is our willingness to clock those ‘stop’ moments. What may be no big deal to one person could be a huge moment to stop and address their way of life for another. Sharing our experiences brings greater awareness to everyone that the ‘no big deal’ might be a bigger deal than we think.

569. This is a great conversation to be starting Gyl, too often as women we ignore the messages are bodies are telling us as ‘normal’. I recall many years ago losing my periods for close to 10 months, at the time I was training for half-marathons and was obsessed with running. I had taken on quite a masculine appearance due to the amount of physical exercise and weight training I was doing, I was definitely forgetting I was a beautiful, delicate woman at this time and was pushing my body beyond the normal limits that it could handle. I eventually had tests and I had a suspected tumour and this was investigated and all was ok, but it was a warning that I needed to change how I was living my life as I was being irresponsible and training too hard for my body to cope.

570. There is a lesson for us all in here, medicine is vital but we must always ask our own questions and be willing to look deeper when things feel wrong with our body or something feels out. I have had that recently with a minor message of discomfort in my body, I know it will keep showing itself if I don’t question what I need to address in how I live my life.

571. Thank you Gyl, it totally shows us that we are joy and not alone – when we connect to our bodies, our rhythm.. And that we actually support ourselves by doing so. We should never settle for anything that one time was okay, because if we stay there we think we are doing great, but we are not evolving as such, because how can we, the earth spins in a universe that is in constant movement, how can we think that we are still? Interesting question? Does it come back to not wanting to take responsibility again? For me I can say so, because I have been using thoughts to override my actions by my head, and so abandoning the connection with my body. Great learning!

572. Gyl, thank you for sharing your experience. I too had a period of three months where I never had a period. What is interesting is that it was at a time of major changes and adjustments, and that as I settled into these changes, my body again settled into its natural rhythm. Women the world over have similar things happening in their lives, so conversations such as this are needed. For unfortunately the deeper understanding of the natural flow of a woman’s body is not something that is discussed as much as it needs to be.

573. This is a beautiful testament Gyl to the power of self-love and self-care that allows the body to come back to its natural health and rhythm. How wonderful that you did not ignore and suppress the symptoms your body was so clearly showing you.

574. If there being many instances of it qualifies itself as being ‘normal’, how long have we got before we start saying it’s normal to have cancer? Or has it already started? We need to question whether what we are calling ‘normal’ could actually be an epidemic that we are refusing to take responsibility for. And this needs to be extended beyond illness and diseases.

575. What you share Gyl is so important and supportive for many woman who may or may not suffer from absent periods. I have experienced absent periods whilst travelling overseas for 2 months in the past, and know that the way I was living was from constant motion and not honouring my body.
     What is highlighted is the importance of living from stillness and listening to our body. When we live from a drive to do, achieve or need recognition, or from nervous tension/ anxiousness we are disconnected from our true essence, and long term this leads to dis-ease.

576. An unfolding process indeed but allowing this and never feeling disappointed that we are not enough and continuing to be inspired to work with deepening our self care and love is a great way to live. It never gets boring and brings greater sensitivity and appreciation to all the little things we do everyday. There is so much to thank Universal Medicine for in presenting how life can be medicine and not something that wears you down.

577. The health statistics indicate an increase in illness and disease but as a society we tend to move the bar all the time lowering the standards creating a new normal instead of addressing the root cause of illness and disease. It has become the norm to take a handful of pills every day from quite a young age and be considered healthy. When we stop and feel our bodies and take responsibility for what we are choosing to do our bodies through our lifestyle choices by reconnecting with our bodies and feeling our essence we are reminded of how far we have drifted from living a vital and healthy lifestyle.

578. The blend of esoteric healing and western medicine offers a complete package for healing – we need both to work together and never one without the other.

579. Gyl, I deeply appreciate you for writing this article as my body asks me to deeply nurture it. Missing periods is something I have had all my life because I was in deep denial of being a woman and of committing to life fully present. What you’ve written here points to all the gorgeous ways I can deeply nurture my relationship with my body and live trusting it’s inherent wisdom.

580. Gyl, I love the dedication that you applied to finding out why you had absent periods. It is this dedication that is missing for a lot of people who just want the convenience of a quick fix. There is such a beauty is going to the root cause of what is bothering us and learning to live a different way.

     1. Well said, Elizabeth. A case study in how it can be done.

581. What I also got from this is how pronounced our inner voice really is, in your case refuting the “it’s normal”, or “don’t worry about it” comment, and deeply knowing this is not true for you. I imagine your doctor having the best intentions in not getting you more worried about your situation, though for the length of time without a bleed, it would be indication of a body being out of sorts, and therefore something very wrong about the way that body is living life. Perhaps the numbers of women who have this effect are increasing to such levels to make it “normal” and easily dismissed?? If that’s the case then no wonder there are increasing and escalating rates of women with female related diseases and illnesses – here in Singapore where i live, breast cancer is the number one killer for women, a clear indication that the way we are living is not in sync by the way/quality we’re holding ourselves in life as a woman, as you share too Gyl describing the quality of stillness – a woman’s natural state.

582. Learning how to be a deeply self loving, care-full, tender woman is a step by step journey, one day at a time.

583. There is so much out there written about yoga, meditation, and stillness as if it was foreign country where we need to travel to for retreat. It is true the way we currently live is a million miles away from the stillness you describe Gyl, but the truth is it is not unusual, difficult or unique, but is a quality of love that runs throughout life. All we are to do is connect and live in this vibration too and we will bring stillness to what we do.

584. It’s really healing to talk about the marriage of Western and Esoteric Medicine working together to support the body. Both are very needed in the current state of the world and our health. To me, the philosophy of Esoteric Medicine is life changing – my understanding is to live in a way that is medicinal. Our living way is our medicine, how we live is either healing or harming ourselves, so it all comes down to our choices. We have the power to live true medicine.

585. In stillness our true self is found, beneath the rubble of the hum and buzz we so bury it with.

     1. oh I love this configuration of words Liane, beautiful how truth always brings us to stillness.

        1. and a smile 🙂

586. A beautiful example of working with the body and not fighting against it. Thank you for sharing your experience with your body Gyl – many will learn from this and be inspired to look at their rhythms of living, I know I certainly will!

587. It’s true that we confuse what is normal with what is common. We override the signals our body communicates to us and when we get sick we say it is normal simply because everyone else is choosing to override such signals also. Every single one of us walking the Earth is a multidimensional being fashioned from love that knows the majesty of God deep in our essence and as such it is not normal to live less than this, but it is very common.

588. It is amazing Gyl how the natural cycle [menses] of a woman, is reflected by the quality of the cycle she’s living in, or how she’s living with herself – in connection or not. What your post shows is that every thought, intention, action, movement does have an effect on the cycle of the body, and the importance of this in regards its level of harmony, or as a woman, our own.

589. I can see by your blog how society can very subtly change what is normal to suit itself. A bit like the perspective that some women hold around ‘periods’ being an inconvenience. Your connection to your own body and what you felt was true through this whole experience brought you to a deeper level of awareness, commitment and responsibility. I love the way you held true to what you felt and was not put off by the invitation to ignore the cessation of your cycle.

590. This is a wake up call for all of us women to not just sit back and accept if periods are missed for a long period. I too have had periods that have been missed for several months, my Dr said the same not to worry about it, I am re-visiting a new Dr to discuss what checks we can do to find out what is going on in my body. I know I could be possibly in early menopause but it’s good to get this clarified. As at the moment there is no reason why they have not come for several months.

591. “Living what I know instead of knowing it from my head.” – Powerful medicine indeed – we may know what’s good for us but it doesn’t really make an impact unless we put it into action!

     1. Hear Hear – well said.

592. Gyl, you have shown how important it is for all of us, not just women, to develop our connection with ourselves and bring a stillness in how we do everything that we do. As you explain, this is not just lying still, but bringing a true beingness, deep connection with ourself in all that we do, rather than going into the busyness and rush that we do so much nowadays. It is amazing how things just appear to flow when we make all our movements connected to our stillness, rather than going into the head, becoming anxious and plunging into the doing. For women this is doubly important, we have a huge responsibility to the world to bring the delicacy and tenderness of the woman to all humanity, giving others permission to also do so, and for men to look deep within themselves and discover the great tenderness that lies within them all. One day, with more and more of us learning and putting this into action, will result in our world being a far more harmonious world for us all to live in. Thank you for bringing up such an important subject.

593. Such a great blog, Gyl, what you are sharing here is so important for other women to begin to realise. You have discovered a completely different reason for the absence of your periods for so long, a reason that the doctors and our present day society would not have given any thought to. But your deep knowingness that you developed made you look to investigate far deeper for the reason behind this happening with your usually regular periods. It will be wonderful when women in society at large are more aware of the intricacies of the woman’s body, and its deep connection with the divine. When more women begin to live connected to the divinity that they are within, how amazing it will be for all of us, men and women, it will eventually be world changing. You are a role model for other women in your discovery of the reason for the absence of your periods, and your turning around the situation by changing your whole behaviour with yourself as a woman. This is so, so beautiful to read and contemplate.

594. I love what you have shared Gyl as it is very practical, and something that can apply to everyone if they choose to incorporate it into their life. Living in the awareness and stillness you have described will allow us all to have a new normal. We can only really measure against our own normal and keep evolving from there. As a whole, the word normal no longer means healthy or natural. These days it is normal for the majority to be obese, to be cyberbullied, to be tired, to have a range of illnesses and so forth. I agree that most use the word normal as an excuse to be irresponsible.

     1. That’s the key Nicola – we have to re-define what true normal is.

595. Hello Gyl and simply with the support of Western Medicine coupled with Esoteric Medicine you have healed you and your body. I had slight difficulty reading through some of what you were saying because of the language but I could see the great message of what you have become aware of. The blend of these two forms of Medicine supported you and to have one without the other it doesn’t seem complete. Thank you for your open and honest story.

     1. And how cool for the doctors to have seen such a natural and loving change – actually showing the medical profession that there can be such simplicity to addressing illness and disease.

596. “Motion is not a bad thing, but not in the excess that 99% of us live in, that constant doing, distraction and raciness.” – these are not just words. It is so true. As a human race we’ve accepted the lie that the way we live is natural and normal. With illness and disease going through the roof, it would be wise to accept and start communicating with each other that this is not normal. That we’re seeking answers, that we’re running away from ourselves. I love to read how Gyl has the power and guts to come back to her own stillness and share her Wisdom with us. There’s much to learn from, certainly for me. To be more much more honest how connected I truly am to my body, if I truly treasure my body, if I have a loving relationship with my body. Or not. Without judgement, just an observation with lots of understanding, acceptance and allowing. Because I’ve run away from me for many, many years, so returning to me will take time and space.

     1. Our bodies hold the absolute key to all and the lived sacredness of God.

597. Why is it we normalise things that are not normal, which our bodies are so clearly telling are not so?

     1. To avoid responsibility and living our truth.

        1. Nailed it👌🏼. The more self aware we are, the more we recognise the ‘not normal’ as a wake up call.

     2. It also keep us in comfort and separation.

598. Thank you for this blog Gyl. I have gone myself through a period of no period and found too that it had to do with how I was living as a woman. Not honouring myself in every day things and not expressing what I felt. On top of that not truly feeling and celebrating the beautiful woman I am. Also with the support of the work of Serge and Natalie Benhayon. My period has come back too but now is very irregular which I know is also not ‘normal’ as in just the way it is. It is also my body telling me there is something more to look at. I just started Connective Tissue Exercises too and feel this, with living the wisdom of this blog, will immensely support me with getting more regular periods as a reflection of a more regular self loving life as a woman.

599. Thank you for writing this Gyl – an extremely important topic to write on. It is not normal for women to have period absences but what you are sharing is remarkable as without the support from Universal Medicine – would you have accepted that the way you were living was contributing to this? I certainly wouldn’t have. Thank God for Natalie and Serge Benhayon.

600. What a superb example of taking responsibility Gyl. Exquisitely beautiful. Thank you

601. It is very inspiring Gyl, reading how you just did not settle for ‘expert advice’ and that you sought the support of both Esoteric Medicine and Western Medicine to expand your understanding and your responsibility, and that you have worked on deepening the love and care with which you live your life. And wow what a glorious unfolding you have shared here. Thank you.

     1. For me it’s about re-learning to absolutely trust my body, because we do all know exactly what’s right for us and what’s not, we know exactly what support us and what doesn’t and we know exactly what love is and what love is not. But, and a very big but it’s also about taking responsibility for ourselves and seeking professional expert help and support and not dismissing them with an arrogance of I know best, which I can find often comes through new age arrogance. I have never felt so much respect as I do now for doctors and the health care professionals. It’s about working together, taking the best possible version of you to them, by committing to looking after yourself, working on your stuff, eating food that supports you, sleeping well, resting when you need to rest, not getting caught up in dramas, emotions etc and other people’s stuff, saying okay this is what I am doing to support and look after myself, but I need some expert help from someone who’s trained in the specific field. We would never do surgery on ourselves so why would we not see a doctor or health care profession for expert support.

602. Thank you, Gyl for sharing the deeper ways in which we can self care and truly look after ourselves. It is easy to do superficial task focussed self care tasks but we can get caught up in the doing and not be truly connected to ourselves and nourishing and appreciating this special place of connection.

603. It’s amazing that it can be considered normal to not have a period. It really is very revealing of where we are in the 21st century, markedly out of touch with the wisdom within.

     1. Reading this blog and posts like yours, Vanessa, you are educating me on something I wasn’t aware of – but it got me thinking how lucky you are as women to have a period in your lives. What you can learn about yourself from them, how not having them can be a sign to connect to yourself more (deeply) and how they can be a monthly marker of how you’re living. What do the racy, in-my-head, disconnected symptoms that Gyl described do to my body as a man? I’m not sure I want to know! Regardless, I am inspired to work on my connection to my natural stillness.

604. … so what is “normal”?? I too have been to doctors for women’s issues and been told “that is normal” when it most certainly did not feel a part of my body being in harmonious totality with itself.

     I feel that doctors are inundated with a majority of patients exhibiting symptoms of imbalance and so these symptoms can be called “normal” as compared with the current population which is largely dealing with the same issues…

     With the support of Esoteric Medicine I am learning to trust what I feel and learn from my body and not avoid my responsibility to take deep loving care of myself just because I am ‘less sick’ than my neighbor or my imbalance has not got so bad that it shows up as a full blown disease on a test.

     By simply developing a practice of being more gentle and caring for myself I have found that all of my bodies many ill symptoms have resolved or become less and less obvious. I feel way better mentally & emotionally and my body has changed in so many wonderful ways.

     1. Yes, it seems such symptoms are very ‘common’, which makes them normal for many people.

605. Thank you Gyl. Your description of stillness here is so real and relatable. You have me pondering how I can deepen my connection to stillness in my own life. Yesterday I ate food that did not support my body and my thoughts became far more difficult to reign in than usual, it was exhausting to keep dealing with them. At the same time a friend provided me with notes on every day of the 28 day cycle of a period and I realised that there is so much room to appreciate my cycle and monthly bleed. I can see that I am in the 7 days before my period and I got a sense that I am setting myself up for pain and discomfort during my bleeding phase through my current choices. Great work listening to your body and supporting it to heal with both medicine and complementary therapies.

606. What a great blog Gyl! Such a joy to read how and be affirmed by your experience of reconnecting to your stillness. It very much highlights how there is something very big clearly missing in our general understanding of medicine and health care. Yes your body can work on a functional level in the temporal world but just because you can do this does not mean we are by any means healthy if our body is not living its true rhythm.

607. What you’ve shared here Gyl makes a lot of sense. I too have had absent periods and during this time with the support of esoteric practioners and conventional medicine my understanding of this condition has changed drastically. As I now reflect on the last two years and the years prior to the periods stopping I never cared for or held my body in any form of regard or self-love as much as I do now and this condition has brought about a much needed call to take responsibility for the health of my body. I no longer see the absence as a punishment but a marker that a flow of quality in how I live with my body is absent. Something I can re-introduce.

608. It is interesting to observe how the more illness and disease rise in our society, we simply change the bar for what is normal. So what you are sharing here is super important Gyl, we cannot just lower our standards, that is a giving up on what is our birth right to have – a beautiful, vital and healthy life. This is so rare today that nobody even dreams on achieving it anymore, we shrug our shoulders and accept that this is now our new ‘normal’ and avoid the dedication, commitment and responsibility it takes to bring on true change.

     1. I agree, Judith. I have been there – accepting more and more weight as normal. I am very glad it is gone now.

     2. Very good and important point Judith and Gyl! As we change the bar down to what we call as normal we say ‘yes’ to live unnatural and say ‘yes’ to irresponsibility. I understand that the Doctor don’t want to unsettle you – but we should be alarmed when we are not in rhythm. It reminds me on how we live in society and be happy with living in peace, that this is what we call ‘good’, but in fact we sattle for less because we could and should live in harmony. And oh my God – how far away we are from this. So to lower our standards/normal is supporting us in to not taking responsibility about our living together as human beings. And so it will become worse and worse. Then will we say ‘stop, let’s come back to honesty & truth’? You made a great start here Gyl and I love that you have written it down and share. Calling us all to join you.

     3. Great point Judith. We can no longer keep lowering and changing the bar for what is ‘normal’ otherwise the bar will soon be on the floor! It is how we live that needs to be addressed, Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and The Way of the Livingness know this hence all that is presented from them to us (humanity).

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