Taking a sick day – what did I learn from it?

By Gina Dunlop, teacher, Brisbane

On my morning walks I connect with nature around me, which I love to do. I hear the birds singing, observe the lush magnificent trees, bushes and grasses, smell the fragrance and feel the entire embrace of nature around me. It is beautiful.

But on this one particular morning I could feel my body was aching in many places; I felt heavy and it was pretty hard going.

I contemplated how all those things in nature I was observing were in optimum health and function. Sure, there may be the odd injured bird or animal, but overall everything was functioning spectacularly. My body, a human being on this planet, is a living part on this earth as much as everything else – so why wasn’t I feeling spectacular also? What had I been doing that meant I had a body that wasn’t functioning to the best of its ability and was quite frankly feeling run down and exhausted?

When I got home, I began getting ready for work and realised I was actually sick and I needed to call in unwell. I went into regret and guilt. But on further reflection, I realised there was more – what I was feeling was an irresponsibility.

This was my third day off sick this year – on each occasion, I understood it was my body telling me I was living in stress and nervous energy; I was engaging in behaviours that were not fully supporting me to function optimally and allowing me to flourish.

So with this awareness, on this particular day I felt irresponsible. My body had been communicating with me on two prior occasions and I had deeply understood and linked feeling unwell to these stressful behaviours, but I had not fully dealt with them and here I was unwell again.

On this occasion I decided to do something about it. I spent my day resting and nurturing, but then sought support from colleagues and practitioners. I discovered some new work strategies and visited health practitioners with the willingness, openness and honesty to go deeper at looking behind the behaviours I had previously been exhibiting.

The results have been profound. My body doesn’t buzz with a nervous tension all the time, I am more relaxed and more joyful at work, I have space in my day to be joyful and playful with my partner and young children. I feel so much better!

Since attending presentations by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I have been blessed with an understanding of how our behaviours directly impact our well-being and health. Our bodies are ideally designed to live in harmony and unison with our environment, like the nature I had observed and mentioned previously. In harmony, we have enough energy to function in optimal health, to accomplish all the physical activities we need to do in our day. However, unlike nature, we can load ourselves up with active thoughts, emotions, concerns, stress, over excitement, or consume food and drinks which don’t support us – these emotions and intakes use up energy we require to function – and more often than not, we ‘run out’ of energy.

It is then our bodies become dis-eased which, over time, leads to disease. The ease we should be living with is disrupted.

Just as nature continually evolves, so too do our bodies – as part of that nature – support us to evolve. Illness and disease are the body’s way of clearing anything that does not support us and they are part of our evolution. It is the body’s way of talking to us – alerting us to our harmful choices and behaviours.

How beautiful and wondrous that our bodies speak to us like this – to view illness as a dialogue, alerting us to behaviours which do not support optimal health and living. How often have we felt this – we get sick – and it provides a moment where we can directly feel and link our illness to a certain way of living – a stressful time recently experienced, a few late nights, eating unsupportive foods. Or we bump into something, hit our ‘funny’ bone, even break a bone – it’s all a ‘stop’ moment our bodies are bringing us to in order to pull us up to reflect on behaviours which are taking us away from feeling awesome.

I, like many, had always felt a connection between behaviours and illness, but since listening to the presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I have deepened my awareness and acceptance of this inner wisdom and knowing and have brought this to all areas of my life. As a result, I am living with an inner joy and true confidence in myself, which I had never dreamed of attaining.

I am so appreciative of the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for bringing to me these ancient understandings of the science of life and how the world truly operates.

I am a forever student, ever learning from my body and from life how to grow in love and wisdom, every day.

1,225 thoughts on “Taking a sick day – what did I learn from it?

  1. taking the time to feel, to connect with our bodies actually are,… sounds really simple but the simplicity belies what this actually means because if we do take the time to connect, then our body is like the ultimate textbook and tells us exactly what needs to be done and when to do it.

  2. So true, and it is awesome to be reminded that the nature all around us reflect the same beauty and harmony our body is made of. It has the innate intelligence to keep rejuvenating and regenerating itself given the right circumstances, and it is our choices that would be the determining factor. I have not been feeling very well for the last few days, and I was feeling my irresponsibility as well and your blog has given me a stop moment that was so needed. Thank you.

  3. If you had gone to work Gina you probably wouldn’t have been very productive and you would not have developed a deeper awareness of where your body was at

  4. ‘How beautiful and wondrous that our bodies speak to us like this – to view illness as a dialogue, alerting us to behaviours which do not support optimal health and living.’ It is indeed beautiful how our bodies give back to us what is not our true nature. Just like you Gina, I have always known this but Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine practitioners have brought the love back in; to look at illness and disease with love and without the judgement I had before. And this is crucial in the healing our body is giving us in this dialogue.

  5. Gina I do wonder that if we all reflected and appreciated illness and disease for what it offers us then whilst there would be a short term rise in sick days they would then drop off and the entire companies health would be far stronger. As you say “Illness and disease are the body’s way of clearing anything that does not support us and they are part of our evolution. It is the body’s way of talking to us – alerting us to our harmful choices and behaviours.”

  6. Getting sick at work always puts me in a great internal debate whether to continue or to stop and rest. Do I drop everything and rest with the fear of being labeled as slack or a drama queen. Or do I push on? We are totally responsible for how we feel and how we feel is a reflection of the way we live.

  7. It is interesting how we consider sick days. Some people, for example, will take a sick day even when they are not sick and then others won’t take a sick day when they are actually sick. Perhaps if we had a greater understanding of what our body is telling us when we are sick and the opportunity for healing that is offered to us, we would have a different attitude to sick days.

  8. What particularly struck me when rereading your blog Gina was that we are totally responsible for how we feel and how we feel is a reflection of the way we live; our layers of choices. This can be quite daunting but also very freeing; I’ll go for the freeing!

  9. Well said cjames 2012- I didn’t know what true rest meant until I learnt the gentle breath meditation which meant focusing and reconnecting within, and esoteric yoga which I have found has allowed me to deepen my connection and feel the momentum that I have been in.

  10. Learning to rest in general is now something that eludes people… When there are so many distractions that we can indulge in and kid ourselves that we are resting, when we are actually not, because our nervous system is not getting a chance to sink and recharge. True rest is invaluable and enables us to be who we truly are during the day.

    1. I agree cjames2012. Most people simply do not know how to rest. No wonder they have difficulty then when it comes to taking the rest needed when they are ill or post surgery.

  11. “How beautiful and wondrous that our bodies speak to us like this – to view illness as a dialogue, alerting us to behaviours which do not support optimal health and living.”
    Since I began listening to the dialog of my body, as you do, it has thanked me manyfold and I am beginning to enjoy the conversation more too as it doesnt have to shout so loudly any more!

  12. It’s quite interesting to give ourselves a day off sometimes. A couple of weeks ago I had some plans which were cancelled last minute and I had a free day. It was like I’d been given an 8th day in the week, suddenly, I had no plans for this day. I enjoyed it so much, it made me realise how much most of my time, including weekends is planned without having any time off. So now I’m making a day off at the weekend occasionally a true day off, ( like Sundays always used to be a day of rest when I was a child, I would get bored then because I wasn’t allowed to do anything.) When we take time off for ourselves, we will need fewer sick days off because we’re looking after and nurturing ourselves.

    1. I have had this experience too Gill. Having a day off which is unexpected opens up real space for us to stop and choose what we feel to do at that moment. This may be to simply have a day of self-nurturing or there could be more activity. I have found that, on days like this, even when I have been more active with typical ‘jobs’ I have enjoyed this just as much, with a real sense of freedom in doing them, free from obligation.

  13. Getting sick is a great stop moment for us to have a look at our choices and what is needing to clear through our bodies. I don’t like being sick, but I have come to appreciate that it is a healing in itself.

  14. Maybe we should rename ” sick day” perhaps we would see it in a different light without feeling guilty . How about a “day of Healing” or self nurture, not a day off, but one where we do spend the time nurturing ourselves as Gina has shared with us. Thank you for a loving sharing Gina.

    1. I agree Roslyn, having a sick day does seem to bring up the beliefs that we have failed in some way, and it is viewed like that from our places of work. I’m ok taking the odd day off sick but really struggle when I get something which requires a week or two off – there is this pressure and added awareness that people are waiting and expecting you to come back to work. How many of us go back to work too soon, before we are fully healed. Maybe like you say if we renamed the time off sick to ‘day of Healing’ or ‘period of Healing’, the way we look at taking the time off would change.

  15. It is inspiring how you took the sick day and reviewed what was going on for you that was not supporting you as well and how this led to ongoing support for yourself. Being ill can be what choices are being made presently, but also a letting go or clearing of old choices. In reading the situation it seems important to keep this in mind and both can lead to appreciating where we are at in our relationship with our bodies.

  16. It’s so important to take a moment to appreciate that we can have this deepening relationship with our bodies – or a relationship with our bodies at all. Most people on this planet are not empowered to have this kind of relationship with themselves as subjective ‘feeling’ is not appreciated for the power and wisdom it is. We each have innate inner wisdom that speaks very loudly, and is there to assist us always. It is hugely empowering to connect to the simplicity of this, and to confirm to people that they do feel, and this should not be discounted.

    1. So true. It is stunning how much easier and simple it is to listen to our inner wisdom. Suddenly we will realise, that we do not have to look on the outside for answers, but that deep down in our body we already know everything there is to know for any situation that we might meet in life.

  17. Getting sick could just be viewed as an irritation, something that just happened for no reason, but if one comes to realise, as I did, that it is always because of something that I have done or not done, then you start to realise that you are responsible for your own illness and even bigger than this is the fact that you are responsible for the effect your illness has on all your colleagues who have to do your work for you and also for the effect on the business as a whole which can hardly be unaffected by the absence of your amazingness.

  18. I have taken two days off work this week as I had the flu and a very sore throat. For me it felt lovely that I did this, I can’t remember the last time I called in sick, but the support I have given my body and to just be with myself at home felt very loving. I did not go into “oh I should be at work” nor was I hard on myself. Then I also got my period and this came as always at exactly the right time!

  19. Our body is so clever to give us information all the time to help us and to allow us to heal through illness. We can get drawn into the details of the pain or problem, or we can feel it as a turning point to returning us to living different choices.

  20. I had for several weeks been noticing the restriction in movement of my left hip and a slight ache sometimes when I moved. After a Connective Tissue Therapy session I was amazed at how free it felt and how easy it was to do the movements that had otherwise been impossible. Such a simple technique, but with such far reaching effect.

  21. Gina what is inspiring about your post is the fact that you took responsibility for why you become sick and worked on building a more loving and caring way of being around work and others areas of your life. This is vastly different from people who are stuck in a pattern of “getting sick” yet don’t know where, or choose not to look at why this is occurring. We accept sickness as normal and fight it, rather than appreciate the signs it’s sharing with us.

  22. If I don’t listen to the early signs that my body communicates to me, I get sick. With the Universal Medicine courses I started to think further: if I am not well-known for my glory across the borders, I have not listened to the communication that the Universe has offered me.

  23. “To view illness as a dialogue”. I love this little phrase and it has really helped me be so much more aware of my body and what it presents to me. What is my body saying and am I prepared to listen???

    1. Yes I totally agree Anne, through little niggles and twinges, slight aches and pains our bodies communicate with us and when we ignore the gentle messages, the messages become the illness, the disease. This is our body’s only way to have a dialogue with us. We tend to totally ignore this dialogue and that is why we are so sick overall as a species.

    2. This is a powerful little phrase, as it shows us that we can be empowered in the time of illness and disease, by virtue of listening to what our bodies have to say. In that we listen, and then act accordingly with what can support it next. It can then communicate back to us by way of healing or what we feel changes and thus the relationship of a ‘dialogue’ is formed. When we know this is possible, it can take a lot of the ‘hopelessness’ out of illness and disease.

  24. “I am so appreciative of the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for bringing to me these ancient understandings of the science of life and how the world truly operates.
    I am a forever student, ever learning from my body and from life how to grow in love and wisdom, every day.”
    I love what you say here Gina, I feel exactly the same way since meeting Serge and embracing the work he presents. I rarely have sick days myself now, and don’t turn up to work under par any more. Taking loving care of the body and listening when it says stop is key.

  25. Serge Benhayon has changed the way I understand any illness, ache or pain and I can see that ‘every stop moment we have in life is not an inconvenience or a nuisance but a gift.’ It is an opportunity to feel into the way I have been living that has caused my body to say ‘Stop’ and make more self-loving choices in the way I am with myself and others.

  26. The other thing I’m thinking Dean is how I used to want to take sick days all the time. I was not committed to my work and would rather be on the beach checking out and many days per week I’d wake up dreading the day ahead or go through the day thinking it was boring. Time dragged on sooo slowly and I couldn’t wait to go home and watch a movie – aka check out . But by developing presence, self-love and care this has shifted too. I now look forward to my day and I love it when time moves slowly, I love just being with me no matter what. At times when I do not feel this and slip back into angsy-ness and discontent with where I am, whenever I think ‘get me out of here’ I know I have lost presence and connection with myself, I have stopped thinking about my impact on others andI have stopped honouring myself, and the gifts I am bringing to everything I do, no matter what it is. It feels yuk! All this from a shift in self-care, developed over time and Ive gotta say there’s a depth to self-love I have an inkling I have only just scratched the surface of.

  27. A beautiful reflection for us all Gina in listening to our bodies and taking responsibility to heal what is causing the disharmony. I loved how you appreciated and rejoiced in the changes that you initiated. An awesome sharing, thank you.
    “I am a forever student, ever learning from my body and from life how to grow in love and wisdom, every day”. I am a forever student with you Gina.

  28. I love the fact that I am more responsible for how I live and how this affects me, others, my work, my colleagues. I have been able to give myself permission to stay home when needed but I am learning now to be more responsible as to why I need that sick-day.

  29. “I am a forever student, ever learning from my body and from life how to grow in love and wisdom, every day.” Hear hear Gina. Living like this makes everyday interesting and magical to say the least.

  30. “How beautiful and wondrous that our bodies speak to us like this – to view illness as a dialogue, alerting us to behaviours which do not support optimal health and living.” This is so great, our bodies speaking to us, gives an opportunity to really reflect at what we have put our body through, from food, to emotions, stress, nervous energy. It is a great moment to stop and make different choices.

    1. Our bodies are indeed truly ‘beautiful and wondrous’ things Amita and I really appreciate the way Serge Benhayon has brought light to this fact in a way that clearly defines self-care and the way we live as the best medicine. This wisdom has been life-changing and very liberating for me, not to mention I have never been consistently healthier in my life than when I chose to live with a deeper respect, love and honouring of myself via heeding the signals and messages from my body.

  31. Gina I love how you have brought this back to our responsibility to make changes to our way of living when our body shows us what is going on through getting sick, being in pain etc. The irresponsibility you nominated is a lesson for all of us. Not only are we being irresponsible in relation to our bodies, but the consequences of this are that other members of our team/organisation have to do extra work to pick up the slack we’ve created through not listening to the warning signals from our body earlier. We just can’t think that we exist in isolation from each other any more. What I do to myself affects EVERYONE.

  32. I love the title of this blog and something that I can very much feel at the moment in regards to what am I learning from what my body is telling me. Or .. am I learning or just ignoring and overriding it! The power of choice always lies within us – maybe we (and I speak for myself here) just do not want the responsibility of it? But I know deep down to choose love and all that supports the body is actually easier not harder.

  33. You highlight a very important point here, and that is, how ill behaviors can affect our health. Your sharing encourages me, to check, which behaviors do I still have, which are not good for me and my body and ultimately to let go of them.

  34. It is so important to look after ourselves as you have shared here Gina. It is like the old saying a stitch in time saves nine. if we do not care for ourselves in the present we will likely have to take more care and more time out in the future.

      1. Thank you Michael, yes it does sound a bit odd and I chuckled too. I don’t often do it now but I still do darn a sock or a pair of tights if a small hole appears. If I leave the hole it inevitably gets bigger, more uncomfortable and the garment finally ends in the bin. So if I look after my socks they will look after me and continue to warm my feet for years to come. If I don’t they will wear out sooner and I will have to get another pair. If we don’t look after our bodies in the same way we will need a new body. That’s fine but I would rather not have a long drawn out and continually dysfunctional life just because i have not dealt with the little ‘holes’ on the way. Possibly not a good analogy in 2015 when hardly anyone darns a sock and most don’t even know what darning is !

      2. …but a perfect analogy when so many people are not listening to the communication from their bodies and only paying attention when they have a life crisis or need urgent medical help, surgery or stitches!

  35. Gina, so great to read your blog and how you honoured your body by resting at home
    when you were feeling unwell. I agree “How beautiful and wondrous that our body speaks to us like this” so we can feel how we have been living and bring ourselves back to being more of our true self.

  36. You sum up so simply Gina how every stop moment we have in life is not an inconvenience or a nuisance but a gift. The parallels you paint between us and animals and nature are perfect – you don’t get a butterfly stressed out over its next trip. What stands out is how your willingness to accept and understand your responsibility allows you to return to your natural harmony.

    1. I love this too Joseph – ‘how every stop moment we have in life is not an inconvenience or a nuisance but a gift.’ If an animal is sick, it licks its wounds, it finds somewhere warm and dry to curl up and it sleeps until it feels well enough to get up and get on with its day. There is so much amazing wisdom on offer for us to learn from the natural world.

    2. Joseph, your comment about the butterfly gave me a strong vision of the buzz and nervous energy that our human race currently operates in. We are so many of us like a 24/7 service station in our minds, never closed for business, open to absorb the world. Yet there are some people who are living contrary to that way and understanding that letting the body lead is infinitely wiser and that creating time to stop is healing and rejuvenating.

  37. It is very liberating indeed when we discover that we are responsible for how we are feeling. Not much can change from a sense of victimhood and we tend to stay stuck and blame others or circumstances outside ourselves, but when we take responsibility the doors open and there are plenty of opportunities to take charge and make some changes.

    1. I agree Gabriele that holding ourselves as victims does not work. It is not a supportive way to live and it does not help us to move forward and heal the hurts. I have found it so empowering to take responsibility for whatever is going on in my life and this as you say brings great change.

      1. Me too Gabriele and Elizabeth. And all that is needed is to listen to our bodies and heed the messages then great self-awareness, learning and opportunities to evolve present. It’s very simple.

  38. If we all saw the irresponsibility in many of the reasons we were sick it alone could change the entire way businesses operate their sickness and wellbeing schemes. I understand that most people are sick at work due to lifestyle choices – what they did at the weekends, how much they drank – I know this was the case for me. This short term sickness causes the most disruption to the workforce. Yet we see our private time as our private time, regardless of how this affects the time when we are meant to be working. Rather than being guilty when we are sick, something that will and should happen if we are not taking care of the way we live, if we used that time to truly feel and heal, it would not be long before the rates of sickness would drop, benefiting everyone. As you’ve shared it’s not that taking a day off sick is bad – in many cases it’s deeply needed – but it’s about honestly addressing why that is where the true healing can take place. As Dean shared, it’s far better to earn a little less than be cranky and exhausted, provided we then don’t repeat whatever got us to be sick in the first place.

  39. It is only since Universal Medicine that I can take a day off without feeling the shame and guilt of old. It would be a very rare occasion indeed for me to take a sick day for myself, yet I have taken a sick day to go and help others. I did not feel guilty since I was doing it for someone else. How silly and plain disrespectful of myself. These days are gone. And the amazing thing is that since taking care of myself I very rarely need to take a day off.

  40. It is great timing for me too since I lay here ill on my bed too. I can feel how easy it is when we are ill to, yes judge it that we are ill, but meantime not really putting any effort to change the behaviour which cretaed it in the first place. What you show us here is that we have to take a deeper responsibility about our healthcare for us and for all.

    1. It actually is a gift from our body that creates the space to stop the ill activity and to ponder on what has brought us up to this point. We only have to come to the understanding that illness and diseases are the gifts in life and not a punishment and something that just happens by chance.

  41. This is beautiful Gina, and indeed perfect timing as your blog is a even more stop for me to realize that being sick is not something to be hard at yourself or feel guilty. I feel that by being sick myself now, I have to lovingly embrace me feeling unwell and that this is my healing. Thank you. Everything you have shared it felt in my body – and is responding.

    1. It is so easy to be your harshest critic particularly when you’re ill and the list of to dos grow in your absence. What is important is understanding that we, as a soul in a body, are way more important than anything that we do, and that these times are beautiful respites for us to take heed of how we are living, and an opportunity to heal what is clearly needed.

    2. Yes that’s a great game we can play Danna, be guilty or stressed about being ill, and yet in that we’re just adding to the stress on the body and we’re not actually addressing what are the behaviours that may have led us to being unwell. So it’s about accepting the stop of the body and honouring it and then feeling the way forward from the body and not the mind.

      1. Well said Monica, this proves to me that all patterns are moving in cycles. So whatever we do not heal or move forward with, comes back again. This also reveals to us that when we become ill, if not truly changed, we will have to come back to an illness again, until we get it. This is no play hard game, but actually a loving message from God that love is waiting.

    3. This is a good point Danna – how we can go into feeling embraced or thinking we are not good enough when we are sick and that we are ‘getting life wrong’ – So hard on ourselves. I know this one and feel ashamed that I am not ‘full of life’. That actually our bodies have a cycle that they go through and when we need to clear and heal, the body needs extra rest and tender care.

    4. Great point Danna. I would often over ride the need to take a sick day and push my body further than was needed at the time. Sick days are there to support ourselves to heal and rest and in doing so we come back to work with the vitality that is required to do what we do best.

    5. Danna, this is lovely what you expressed here and great that you are seeing that to ‘ lovingly embrace me feeling unwell’ …’is my healing’. By doing that we can surrender and allow the body to heal in its own time by being a true ‘patient’.

  42. Gina, it’s perfect timing to read this today as I am off ill from work and feeling the stop my body is offering, and how some recent behaviours are not supportive and my body in its infinite wisdom is showing me. So I’ve been deeply resting and considering how I’ve been living and how I can support me to be and live the love I am.

    1. Monicag2, what a wonderful use of a sick day to re-evaluate your life and clock what is not working and give yourself space to reset your life so you start off afresh.

  43. In the past, I haven’t felt I could have a day off unless I was literally unable to move or had a raging temperature. I had a price and an arrogance that I didn’t get ill. What I see now is that I was very uncaring to my body that was crying out for a break, a sick day to recover, a rest from being pushed. I am now working at a better pace so not needing much time off, but I know now that listening to our bodies is definitely the way forwards to better health.

    1. I can relate to this Gill, as I would have a mental chart of how ill I had to be before I would take time off and call in sick. In the past I would have a melt down just trying to decide if I was ill enough to warrant taking a sick day or two, let alone a couple of weeks. But as you have said it is the way our bodies can advise us to take a much needed break and give us the time to evaluate how we have been pushing our bodies.

  44. Thanks Gina for sharing how you approached needing to take a sick day, it presents a very different option to feeling sorry for yourself! And yet there was no hardness in the realisations or awarenesses that you came to, or the fact that you wanted to take responsibility for the situation.

    1. I appreciated this too Fiona, the choice to simply honour where our body is at and to practically tend to supporting ourselves where we can.

  45. Wonderful to read Gina. It is so important to listen to our body. Our mind can have millions of reason why we should work, but at the end I know now, that my body knows what is the best for him and if I wouldn’t listen, I would pay a high price later on.

  46. I have similarly been inspired by Universal Medicine to be more aware, accept and appreciate the “inner wisdom and knowing” that I have within me and which in fact we all have within us. Starting to pay attention to and honour this inner knowing, has often prompted me to become aware of what needs attention well before it has escalated to a breakdown or some sort of a situation. This very much includes my health.

  47. These are just the wisest words Gina: “How beautiful and wondrous that our bodies speak to us like this – to view illness as a dialogue, alerting us to behaviours which do not support optimal health and living.” Just imagine if this was taught to every child from an early age, how the rates of illness and disease could plummet and the long hospital waiting lists could be things of the past. After many years of ignoring my body’s “dialogue” and paying the price for doing so, I now wonder at its wisdom and its messages are welcomed and acted on.

  48. I find that there is a constant dance between my body and my mind. Often my mind wants to take the lead but I am learning that it’s best to allow my body to take the lead role otherwise the busyness and nervous tension just goes through the roof. I am getting much better at picking up when I am allowing this to happen and to change the ‘dance steps’.

    1. Helen, after years of allowing my mind to take the lead I am realising how false that arrogant stance of ‘not doing stress’ was.I was just very, very good at burying it! Now I am learning to dig it out, and it has become yet another early warning system for my body to send. I dance to a different tune these days.

  49. Sometimes one of the hardest things about taking a sick day off work has been that it means earning less money even though the rest might do me good. Maybe it’s more a of a guy thing but I have often found myself very closely weighing up whether to take a sick day or push to do that extra bit of work to make a little more money.
    It’s a much clearer topic when I share it with my wife. She says she would much rather we had half the money and I was myself, healthy and rested than have me exhausted, cranky but with lots of money in the bank.

    1. Great lesson about money there Dean. Another one I have learnt is about not letting people down, so you turn up at work with a cold or flu…… and pass it on to everyone else! Been there, done both, neither had anything to do with self care, and both led to me having more time off work than if I had listened to my body in the beginning.

      1. Great point Catherine. And what are we teaching others if we go to work unwell? I have seen in some places I have worked how people feel they have to work when they are sick simply because everyone else seems to. All we are reflecting to others in these instances is that we must override our bodies messages to rest and push on through.

      2. I remember going to work for weeks when I had a cold that never left – It was only when I took a break and saw a practitioner that I got to feel what was really going on and address the issue that the cold went away. I was using work to distract me from not dealing with my issue. It was no surprise that when I addressed the issue that the cold went away.

      3. True Catherine, putting self care first can actually save time. I find if I rest deeply when I first feel something come on I recover much more quickly. When I used to push through I would feel sick for a lot longer time and often get relapses so I would function at half capacity for months instead of just surrendering by taking some time to rest and allow the body to deal with it. There is some perverse part of us that finds it hard to stop the momentum even though the body is asking us to stop. It’s almost as if our world is going to come to an end if we stop. In a way it’s true because by stopping we step off the merry-go-round and have a chance to come back to ourselves which allows space for healing to occur.

      4. Yes, I agree, great point Catherine. If we carry on regardless, we are living with a deep lack of respect, however if we choose to ignore it right from the start we are giving the thumbs up to the astral energy – an energy which is not love.

      5. I know this one too Catherine – the thinking that you are carrying a torch, getting through and soldiering on – is misled as it shows no true responsibility – and a lack of care for all others.

    2. Dean I love your frankness and honesty around taking a sick day. My mind would have agreed with you- pushing through to earn more money, but in truth- I agree with your wife In saying that I would prefer my husband being well- not exhausted, grumpy, demanding or controlling, to then earn more money.

    3. I consider myself very fortunate to have a wife like Danielle – imagine if she partner was pushing for me to bring in the dollars! But no that’s not her style. Love is her style.

    4. I remember doing exactly that too Dean. I would deliberate for hours on whether to go to work the next day and I then I would wake early for more mind wrenching deliberation all because I thought I needed the money. These days due to a deeper appreciation of myself I would not even consider working if I was not well enough. The interesting thing though is my definition of ‘well enough’ shifts in accordance with my deepening love and honouring of myself and others, and with this a more confident knowing of what I truly can and can’t do, what is needed and when.

      1. Then from what you are saying Jeannette Gold, it is clear that deepening levels of love and honouring within ourselves directly changes the way we think of about something, therefore the way we feel about ourselves and treat our bodies will completely alter our thoughts. At the other extreme, treating our bodies poorly and without any care or respect invites a different set of unloving and disrespectful thoughts. Therefore we can conclude that our way of thinking is governed by the way we are, move and care for our bodies.

      2. Money, recognition, duty, whenever we put these factors above the feelings of our own bodies we dishonour them, and deny others the opportunity to learn, by reflection, how important self care is.

      3. Exactly Dean. It’s pretty clear to me that “…the way we are, move and care for ourselves” definitely affects our thoughts. Its an attitude shift that changes everything and how simply lovely is that! No more slogging it out trying to figure out ‘what’s wrong with me’, or continuously mopping up the aftermath of our disregard – just up the ante on self care and honouring and the rest will follow.

      4. I like your thinking catherine bower. When we care for ourselves we set examples for others of how to. That puts a whole other slant on responsibility as parents, friends actually as everyone. A very lovely slant at that as it is one that calls us to self-care to the max, to go nuts with self-love because someone may be watching and be inspired to do so too. Gorgeous!

      5. Jeanette this is beautiful and I can appreciate a deepening for me. The last two days I have been unwell, with a contagious bug. Learning to love me more over time has allowed, even in this circumstance, an opportunity to claim what was true for me. When I rang the office to advise of my sickness there was an ease in me I had not felt before knowing that this choice was absolutely true.

    5. This is such a great point Dean, as men we often hold onto that ‘little bit more’ attitude – which weighing it up is never ever beneficial – not for the work to be done, ourselves and anyone else that knows us.

      1. Sometimes I feel sick because I have not been as loving and caring for myself as well as I could have, and sometimes because I have been so extra loving that my body goes into a healing crisis to clear the disregard. Either way – they most certainly are get well days more so than sick days Lee Green, but only if they are embraced with the awareness and acceptance of what our bodies are telling us.

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