Breast Cancer: what links us?

by Fiona McGovern

Last week as I sat in the over-full waiting room for my oncology appointment, a woman passed me by handing out questionnaires on the chemotherapy and cancer services in our local health board area. I asked if I could have one and she apologised as she had not recognised me as a cancer patient. She explained that the number of cancer patients was predicted to rise by 9% in the next few years and the services could not cope as they are at present, so the questionnaire was to establish where their resources should be spent in order to best cope.

I pondered on how best to answer the questions.  I felt supported by the present system but knew too well that some basic questions were not being asked: why do so many women have breast cancer?  How are women living that creates such an illness in their bodies? How can we educate and support our young girls to be, so that breast cancer is not inevitable for them?

I looked around and observed my fellow patients: there were women of all sizes, from all backgrounds, most with children, some like me with none. There were those who dressed elegantly, some sexily, some plainly, some were chatty, others kept themselves to themselves.

What then linked us?

When I have chatted to them many have questioned why it is happening and most will then find an answer in the environmental pollution around here, the nuclear fallout from Chernobyl.  None buy the genetic explanation, many have experienced bereavement or family fallouts, a few will say as women we are under too much stress to be perfect at all things…. as yet I have not met one who will take responsibility for the life and choices they have made to date, although they all nod when I say I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.

I took a deeper look at the eyes of the women and I saw fear, anxiousness, a bewilderment, a shutting down, a giving up; they said “let’s just get this over with and return to how we were.”

What links us – we are all women.

But do we know what being a true woman means?

I know that before the chemotherapy and the esoteric healing I had no idea what being a woman truly meant. I looked outside for an answer on how to be  a woman.  With the healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.

How different the ward would feel if all the patients and staff knew that the healing lay in this reconnection.

So is the marriage of Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine the way the health services can address the ever-rising numbers of women with breast cancer?  I feel it is the only way.

It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.

 

245 thoughts on “Breast Cancer: what links us?

  1. “Let’s just get this over with and return to how we were.” This is the catch cry of many people when illness strikes. It reminds me of the old Protestant work ethic which was about religiously working hard – work (doing) was everything and the body was to be ignored. This applies to men and woman and for women it doesn’t matter if you have chosen to be a career woman, a family woman or both, a student … Whatever the choice, it is still a choice to do… It really is like a religion that we still carry with us even if we don’t go to church anymore we still seem to be stuck with this way of living and we keep adding more things to do on top of it, Championing ourselves for multi-tasking and being able to be independent – who needs a man, we can do it all!

    Breast Cancer feels like a blessing, a forced stop, but it is most certainly not about returning to how we have been living. How we were living before this disease took shape was not working. As Fiona shares, for her the cancer was a call to come back to the woman she is, in full, so much so she didn’t even look like a cancer patient in the oncology unit … That says a lot .. And we can do ourselves a favour by listening to her wisdom.

  2. For some reason I keep coming back to this blog Fiona. It is not hard to imagine a waiting room where the women would come to get medical treatment yet in the full knowledge that reconnecting to themselves and their choices would take them back on the path to recovery. This already happens for many of us!

  3. I do believe that what you say here Fiona about the marriage between Esoteric Medicine and Conventional Medicine being the way forward for every one, for every illness. In time, this will be the way we all begin to live. Taking responsibility for where we find ourselves and making choices that support and love our bodies, bringing understanding to illness and then the fear and anxiousness that so often comes with illness would be way lessened, replaced instead with the steadiness that understanding brings and a commitment to ourselves that in this present day is so greatly lacking in how many live.

  4. The words ‘A commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being the woman she was born to be.’ I sometimes look back to feel how far away I had to get, from being the woman I was born to be. Before I realised that there is so much beauty in being a woman who is connected to her inner self, and from that connection the grace and love shines out. As I slowly reconnect to my inner self, I begin to realise that every woman has a natural knowing of how a woman needs to be.

  5. There are, among many others, two simple reasons why more and more people have cancer: Science has not found a way to reduce the rate we get cancer, i.e. we get cancer just as much (no more, no less) than at any time over the last 20 years – the smoking-related reduction in lung cancers is taken up by other cancers. Hence there is no progress in getting cancer. There is much progress once we have cancer but not in avoiding cancer.

    The second reason is really simple: 70-year olds have many, many, many more cancers than 20-year olds and we are as a society rapidly getting older. Hence the rate of cancer is not rising at the moment but the incidences of cancer are rising rapidly and we have a totally overloaded health system as doctors treat incidences, not rates.

  6. The marriage of Western and Universal Medicine has to be the way to address the ever increasing rate of illness and disease and support people to address the lack of self-care that most are living with and thus taking responsibility for the choices we have made and the impact that has had on our bodies. As Fiona experienced when she shared honestly ‘as yet I have not met one who will take responsibility for the life and choices they have made to date, although they all nod when I say I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.’ There is a deep knowing within us all but we need support to re-connect to that and start making choices that will support our health and well-being.

    1. This is so true Helen – ‘There is a deep knowing within us all but we need support to re-connect to that and start making choices that will support our health and well-being’ and with Universal Medicine I have found this support. Up until that time it always felt like a choice between conventional medicine and alternative therapy but what Universal Medicine offers is all encapsulating.

      What we seem to have lost in our lives is the ability to discern – we have been given a way of life that encourages us to seek outside of ourselves for the answers, when deep within we have this amazing resource that is the fount of all wisdom.

  7. I feel deeply supported by this blog and by the woman who wrote it. It’s so true, we age not ever really connecting to the woman we are or even being clear on what “a woman” is. I still connect more to myself as “a person”, than as a woman. I feel this blog is really giving me a nudge to go deeper, to find myself as a woman and delight in that original way. The essence of this beautiful writer is all the inspiration I need 😉

    1. I too struggled for many years to see myself not just as person, but as a woman; in fact it has taken me a while to understand what a woman truly is, but I am slowly learning, and in the process getting to know me a little bit more every day and that has been a beautiful journey. And like you Melinda I can feel the support from this inspirational blog – it feels so very tangible.

  8. You are showing us the way to true healing Fiona McGovern, that we also have to consider to look for the underlaying couse of the illnesses and diseases people in our society are currently facing. Western medicine in combination with the complementary treatments delivered by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine are the way to true healing and to restore true wellbeing for all of humanity.

  9. “How different the ward would feel if all the patients and staff knew that the healing lay in this reconnection?” – Bang on Fiona! Reconnection to ourselves and each other is the key to healing. In fact the very reason we have disease and problems in the world today is because of dis-connection!

  10. Getting to know the woman within is an amazing experience – I have learnt to take responsibility for my choices and I try to look at why I choose certain behaviors. I know now that my greatness is inside of me, it makes me who I am, not how I use to think that it is in what I do. Once people see this way of living is making a difference it will encourage other’s to do the same.

  11. I love this line Fiona ” The healing I have found that me being a woman comes from inside, from reconnecting to the beauty within and rejoicing in that radiance.” Being true to the women we are within and connecting to our innate stillness will always win. Thank you.

  12. These are the questions that need to be asked to bring about a deeper understanding of breast cancer. As Fiona has stated reconnection to ourselves is the starting point for true healing.

  13. Beautiful Fiona. Yes, the marriage of Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine is the way that health services can address the ever-rising numbers of women with breast cancer. But not only this, every illness.

  14. Very often now, when in the company of women, I witness the struggle they’re in. Very few are relating what is happening in their lives or health to choices they themselves made in the past. Consequently, they remain trapped in the same vicious circle. I see myself in these women as I was in the same position, and not so long ago. I am ever thankful to Universal Medicine for teaching me that the first step to healing is self-responsibility.

    1. This is so true Kehinde, taking responsibility for myself has been a very challenging, yet extremely rewarding way to live. The biggest challenge has been in accepting that it is my choices that have gotten me to where I am, completely eliminating any blame of another. Living in the blame left me powerless and feeling I had no way out. Taking responsibility has given the power back to me and there is always much that I can choose to adjust in how I live that brings much more joy into my life.

      1. Leigh what you share is true. Blame is destructive and poisonous. It prevents us from taking the responsibility needed to free ourselves from the very conditon that causes misery. Without it the vicious cycle continues.

  15. Wow you are such an inspiration for everybody of how to live with illness and disease and make it an evolutionary part of your life and in such a joyful way. A very deep thank you Fiona.

  16. The potential within the marriage of Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine is huge. The UK health service is in financial crisis and the ever growing numbers of cancer rates, diabetes rates coupled with the complexity of conditions is an increasing burden. Only with this marriage and with the self awareness this will bring can these illness and disease rates be reduced. It truly is a marriage made in heaven.

  17. Hi Fiona a great post. Your question “So is the marriage of Western Medicine and Esoteric Medicine the way the health services can address the ever-rising numbers of women with breast cancer? Absolutely, and you are demonstrating how it works by the way you are now choosing to honour and nurture yourself, by the look in your eyes of the joy of living the woman you were born to be.

  18. Wonderful question: ‘what links us? – we are all women’.
    Before I was diagnosed with breast cancer (July 2011) I had no idea what ‘being a woman’ truly meant or was. I had no idea that my body was hard from all the pushing to do more, striving to be more, and taking on far too much. I had to relearn how to self care and self nurture and to put myself and my needs first before that of others; I had to relearn what it meant to be a woman….Thus, the breast cancer created space in my life to slow down and to spend much time with myself, which allowed me to slowly develop a relationship with myself again and to reconnect with my body so that I could listen to my body and its message in what would best support me at this time….and boy, I was ready to listen! This was a huge turn around in my life and at the same time a wonderful blessing that continues to serve me today. Awesome sharing Fiona.

  19. Outstanding Fiona. Life is about taking responsibility for our choices and accepting it with open hearts.

  20. I too have experienced the power of true healing from the marriage of Western and Esoteric medicine. And through this I have also learned to re-connect to my beauty within, to re-connect to the gorgeous woman that truly I am. As you have beautifully shared – ‘It has empowered me to be me and that is why when you look into my eyes you see a sparkle and a playfulness, a stillness and light, a commitment to life and love, a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.’ – thank you Fiona.

    1. I certainly agree Carola. The marriage of Western and Esoteric Medicine is our true way forward, and that re-connection is what everyone is seeking even if they don’t know it yet.

  21. Thank you Fiona. This is a huge subject and so much more needs to be written about this. This issue of being a man and woman in truth needs to be known and understood by all. Having this awareness alone can change all that you live for.

    Since applying esoteric medicine techniques through all its modalities, including my favourite, esoteric psychology, I am still unravelling the true nature of a man in his tenderness and sensitivity. I am now in the fight of not withdrawing and showing and honouring that sensitivity in full view to all around me.

    1. Yes Rik, before Serge Benhayon & Universal Medicine presented what is the true nature of man and woman (in effect we are the same) we were judging ourselves based on how society has taught us to be as a particular sex. I feel a lot of people actually know that what is being portrayed as manly or womanly is false yet the pressure and constant bombardment from our society overrides this and we try to fit into the mould that is made for us. Thank you Fiona for helping to break this mould and carve out a new one, a true one.

  22. I am also learning to reconnect to myself as a women – to drop all the roles that I play: mother, wife, daughter, friend, health care professional, etc, etc – and reconnect to the glory and stillness inside of me (definitely still a work in progress). This is far away from how I was brought up, or my Mum, or her Mum, which is true for most women. We as women today have a choice to possibly change the predicted statistic of a 9% increase in breast cancer in the next few years. As Fiona shares, this starts with taking responsibility for our past and present choices and connecting to the love that is within us all.

  23. What links all women is that underneath all the busyness, investment in our families and trying to be superwoman is the quality that you have re-found. There is a steady, resounding feeling that ripples out from our epicentre. The way our struggling health system will be able to cope, will be to remind women of this, so they can find their inner loveliness again.

  24. It is very telling that people agreed when the writer mentioned that she knew that her breast cancer had come from the choices she had made and how hard she had pushed herself. It is like we know, deep down, but we don’t want to know at the same time.

  25. This is so true Fiona. Our family has experienced the marriage of both modern medicine and esoteric medicine and the results have been very powerful. It also provided an opportunity for all of us in the family to be responsible for how we held ourselves during the period of dis-ease . The addition of esoteric medicine into the healing process offers not only the “patient” an opportunity to heal but to others who are supporting that person.

  26. Well said Fiona, the most incredible experiences I have had with healing of dis-ease has been through the marriage of both the scientific understanding of the body and equally if not more important the energetic understanding of the body and all the choice we make in living – this truly wholistic approach is the way forward for our society with all the dramatic increases in sickness and disease.

  27. Fiona your commitment to truth and re-turning to the fullness and grace of the woman is beautiful, and the comment the nurse made in not realising you were also cancer patient, clear testament to this very fact. You present it so well, and consider the all when undergoing medical treatment mixing it with the spherical healing, teaching and living as presented by Esoteric/Ancient Wisdom healing. As such your story offers great inspiration and reflection particularly for those undergoing cancer treatment, but additionally for us all.

  28. Thank you Fiona for sharing this very real and moving account of what is such a common predicament that affects the lives of so many people in this day and age. It is such a blessing to have chosen to explore and understand the true cause of cancer and yet, such a tragedy that the healing is within each and every person and yet it still escapes so many.

  29. Awesome sharing Fiona. For me stood out:
    ‘I have not met one who will take responsibility for the life and choices they have made to date, although they all nod when I say I know it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself.’ We as women have lost our connection to what it means to live as a woman and to honor our rhythms and the cycles we live in. For me owning up to me being responsible for how I felt was a big one and I am still learning every day what it means on a practical level to live as a woman without all the pushing, drive and business. All the things I ‘have’ to do can overtake easily and then there is not enough connection and listening to my body.

  30. Beautiful Fiona, what you shared here feels very true to me, we as women often live in a way that does not feel natural to our bodies – for me I can say I did live ignoring my body most of my life until the recent years when I came in contact with the teachings as presented by Universal Medicine. Now I am honouring my body more and can feel how indeed the world does not need to be in this most of the time driven and stressful way, if we only all chose and allowed ourselves to live more in line with how our bodies are feeling.

  31. “So is the marriage of Western Medicine with Esoteric Medicine the way the health services can address the ever-rising numbers of women with breast cancer? ” yes I believe so Fiona. As the student body goes on expanding the message will spread widely that we are the creators of our own health.

  32. Fiona, I am glad you are going against the trend and taking responsibility for your illness with grace, the stillness of a strong woman, and a sparkle in your eyes.

  33. A beautiful sharing of what is true – allowing the inner knowing that we are the outcome of our choices and then choosing to not deny, but accept. Our conventional medicine is doing an amazing job, and to combine the consideration that we play a part in developing illness will support the healing that conventional medicine seeks to bring (but at a much deeper level).

  34. I found that really interesting – the only thing you could find in common was that everyone was a woman. Clearly this might mean that everyone can get cancer. It sounds trivial but the sheer fact that there is a major disease which anyone can get is quite distressing.

  35. Love this amazing blog, in the waiting room Fiona says they all nod when I say it was the choices I made and how I pushed myself, That’s simply gold.

  36. Yes Fiona, taking responsibility for my health has turned it around and as the student body of Esoteric Medicine expands, more and more women will deepen into its wisdom.

  37. It’s pretty scary to think that such a devastating disease that already affects so many people will affect so many more people in our future years. Is this what we accept for our future? is this what we really want?

  38. I totally agree with you Fiona, especially: “some basic questions were not being asked: why do so many women have breast cancer?” We will keep voicing this until all women (yes, all women, regardless of whether she has/has had breast cancer or not) will say this in unison.

  39. It is true what you have written Fiona, the marriage of western and esoteric medicine is the only answer. That would start with people feeling and taking responsibility for their choices, might take a while when a lot of people believe their doctor is responsible for their health and their health problems were caused by all sorts of things, anything but themselves. I was like that, it is different now, the initial steps were difficult, but well worth it.

  40. Fiona, it’s interesting how easy it is for us all to not truly look at the choices we’ve made and where they lead us – I know I can struggle with this, less yes, but it’s still there. It’s so easy to blame the outside and it can seem a comfort to do so, but it doesn’t work, as when we do we give our power to something outside us and we shut down the possibility that we can change things through our simple choices. So no matter where we are, be it cancer, an accident, an illness, job-loss or bereavement, if we connect to the stillness we all as women hold within, we have the grace to look and feel and we remain us no matter what. So as you showed, even with cancer we can have our sparkle, our joy, we can remain us. So inspiring to know that someone has lived this, to know it’s possible for us all.

  41. If I did not begin to know( I say begin because I feel I am still very much learning) what it means to be a woman and begin to honour this for myself, knowing that I have a responsibility for all the choices I have made throughout my life I would probably feel like many of the women in the waiting room. It is incredibly empowering to know that we can make a difference to our lives, health, and well being, by re-connecting to the inner beauty and delicateness of what it means to be a woman rather than looking outside ourselves for answers .Thank you Fiona for sharing your experience you pose some great questions.

  42. I love the final line of this blog ‘ a woman who is reconnecting to being a woman, the woman she was born to be.’ Fiona this feels like a delicate graceful statement of who you are as a woman. Simply yummy.

  43. This is a great blog and question “what links us?” Having been diagnosed with breast cancer and experienced surgery, once over the initial shock of diagnosis, I could easily see that breast cancer was not something to live in fear of and just ‘get through’ but it was a time to take stock of my life and choices so therefore became about me re-connecting to myself as woman and developing a relationship with my body. So in the moments of sitting in the waiting room at the hospital I could see many other women who had simply lost their way too and were being called back to themselves as a woman.

  44. So beautiful to see how full Fiona claims herself here. She is a true inspiration to me in my process of reconnecting to and feeling my femaleness. I see her sitting there in the waiting room with a questionnaire which is being put around because our current medical system is recognizing it is in over its head; overwhelmed.

    It’s as if Fiona was, at that moment, a doorway to link esoteric medicine with conventional. Every one of us is this potential doorway and one day medical professionals will start walking in and out exploring all the support of the esoteric that is just waiting…for us all.

  45. I re-read the blog today and I can feel the truth in your words, how choices are what create our health. The sum total of my well-being is down to me. Thank you.

    1. I agree Judy, it’s very empowering to know that the state of our total health and wellbeing is our choices, completely up to us. And understanding that we can get true healing through our illnesses as Fiona has given us in this example is pretty amazing.

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