242 thoughts on “Gentleness in Surgery and Universal Medicine”

1. “The more we build that gentleness in our daily activities, the more it is just our natural way of being, we don’t have to try to be gentle – we just are.” When gentleness becomes the way ‘we just are’ then we are instantly aware of any movement or thought that is not gentle.

2. Inside the body or outside it’s still the same body that responds the same to gentleness or hardness. If I let the hardness go in the bigger muscles I feel inside the finer details and tissues also relax.

3. What I have found is that gentleness is not something we can put on. We cannot really borrow or fake a quality. It is what we live that gets communicated through our movement.

4. What Serge Benhayon teaches is applicable to every profession, and definitely doctors and surgeons. I would rather have a gentle surgeon than any other surgeon any day – surely the philosophy of gentleness is key when it comes to scalpels and our bodies – and it makes total sense that it’s essential for surgeons to look after themselves and their bodies not only for their own well-being but also so that they are able to commence surgery that last for hours and requires absolute precision and focus.

5. Re-learning to be at-least-gentle is the most humbling experience and can be so normal and simple as we can all remember the way we were when as children the natural gentleness that was lived.

6. Thank you Eunice, it’s very supportive to read about the necessity and impact of gentleness in surgery and the common sense expansion of gentleness into daily life. Personally I feel when my movements are rough, hard, rushed or jarring then it’s something my body has to recover from. I’ve also noticed with the support of Esoteric Yoga sessions that when my natural tenderness is in my movements, for example doing vacuuming, then the activity is not something I need to recover from but something that’s very healing to experience. We also tend to think about inflammation being remedied with diet and stress reduction, but we don’t factor in gentleness in how we move and treat ourselves.

7. Working in the medical field I know that surgeons have a reputation for being very skilled in the operating theatre but not always great with the communication or people skills outside of theatre. But why the focus on being ‘gentle’ with the physical anatomy and tissues in theatre but not be gentle with the person or being that inhabits that body? This does not make sense and medicine in general could learn a lot from this blog.

8. “It’s unlikely that the beneficial effects of being gentle with the body are just confined to the time that body is undergoing an operation.” I think you are onto something here 🙂

9. ‘It is well-recognised within surgery, that gentle handling of the tissues is important in the overall success of the operation and in minimising post-operative complications. It is one of the fundamental teachings in surgery.’ I totally agree that this makes common sense and if we were all taught from an early age of the importance of gentleness as a whole it would become a natural part of our everyday livingness.

   1. Yes I would say that a fundamental teaching on life would be to be gentle with ourselves and each other to avoid complications!

      1. I love that Andrew “to be gentle with ourselves and each other to avoid complications!”, it’s a great prescription!

10. It is so true that ‘we bring all that we live to all that we do’ and committing to being gentle is thus reflected in every area of our lives.

11. So powerful to share how we don’t have to try to be gentle – if we bring it into everything we do – then we just are. And then what an amazing gift that is brought to your patients. That you are naturally gentle with them every step of the way.

12. To observe the lack of gentleness that another is choosing is an interesting thing to feel, as the absolute shock to the body it is cannot be ignored or ever again doubted. And when we have thousands upon thousands of people choosing to live without gentleness, we can no longer be surprised by the huge amount of natural disasters our planet is experiencing.

13. Such truth cannot be ignored, for how we live is felt by others, we can try to ‘put on a happy face’ or to ‘treat another with respect’. But, ultimately how we hold ourselves and treat ourselves is also how we be with others, and while being gentle with another is definitely a huge step away from not being gentle, there is an innate inner part of ourselves that is constantly screaming for us to love another, without abandon, as this is our true nature.

14. It is so true we cannot compartmentalize our life into sections and be one thing in one area without bringing in how we are in other areas of our life. We may like to think we can, but I find that totally exhausting and it leaves me feeling like a liar.

15. One life, I’m really coming to understand this now on a whole new level, that how I am in one area affects another, and that it’s not about performing at a particular standard in 1 area, if I’ve not been living that overall. This I would not understand without the on-going inspiration of Universal Medicine.

16. “For in order to be truly gentle in the operating room, I need to be truly gentle outside of it as well, in how I live my life on a daily basis.” I noticed this the other day, whilst people might know it is important to be gentle with the tissues, it can totally get ignored because of the tension and anxiousness that is in the practitioner’s body. So it is super important to have a livingness, a lived experience, of this gentleness so we can’t but be gentle and tender when we do our job or come by other people in our days. We can’t hide how we are anyway as it is all felt even without touching each other and can be equally imposing in this way.

17. ” if gentleness is beneficial on the table, it is surely also beneficial off the table, as we go about our daily lives.”
    This just makes practical sense, even when we meet people and they are gentle in their action and words we all benefit from this form of expression.

18. There is no cover-up, no hiding from an energetic perspective, and this is something that really changes how we live … so as shared here, being gentle in a particular instance (surgery) but not in life doesn’t work in how we expect for in order to be truly gentle we need to live that everywhere, otherwise what we do is become less of how we naturally are, less gentle and more say, hard for example.

19. Being gentle with ourselves, brings in a responsibility to be aware of how we pick things up, get dressed, wash up, in fact all activities we do, and when we do our body starts to feel more gentle and not as tight as it does when we forget to be gentle.

20. How different life would be if we were all taught as young children to value and choose gentleness in all our movements.

21. This article is the epitome of responsibility.

22. Eunice, this is a great reminder; ‘To understand that in any interaction or operation we bring to the table, or the consultation, all that we live.’ Often in society we think it is only how we are in that moment that counts, but reading this I can feel that it is our everyday livingness that’s important.

23. ‘…we bring all that we live to all that we do’ Just by living our life responsibly, we make an enormous difference, changing harm for gentleness all around us.

24. Having just come from a bodywork training course I realise how much we are supported by the gentle touch of another. The way they move and place the blanket over us, how they tenderly unwrinkle our clothes and make sure our clothes are not distracting in any way to our bodies, the way they place our arms and legs. The quality in which they first lay their hands on us. How they gracefully move around the massage table without bumping into it or being disruptive in any way. There is so much to appreciate here, and this goes for anything in life. The way we approach and carry out any activity can bring this sense of harmony.

    1. It’s a beautiful example of harmony Elaine, of how we can be making sure that our movements are not disruptive or imposing, and support those around us to be free to choose their own way. It also confirms how much healing we can bring to another by our tender and caring treatment well before the massage even begins.

25. Because we don’t choose to see the ripple effects of everything we do, we can claim that certain situations don’t call for the same level of loving care as others, and then don’t bring our all to those things.

26. Isn’t it amazing that we even have to learn to be gentle or loving with ourselves. It shows how far we left ourselves in the first place. I heard on the news today of a young man who started punching himself in the head and then started hitting his head on the pavement – other members of public came and restrained him but his self-violence had been so intense that he died. This is an extreme case but many are feeling the angst and whether they hit their heads on the pavement or inject themselves or consume junk food there is clearly a message that is not being listened to here.

27. This article makes perfect sense and it’s a wonder we haven’t seen this before. When its presented to us in our training the power of gentleness we can see how it fits and how it applies directly and so we apply it however we still have found a way to turn it on and off. Meaning that when we walk out of the operating theatre in this case we don’t see we need to bring that same level of care to everything. Imagine the depth and care and gentleness of that holding when you live that ‘operating touch’ everywhere. I know for me how my life has changed from just being aware of the oneness of life and how everything I do at any point in my life is there with me at every point. This isn’t a pressure but more of a freedom knowing I don’t have to perform anything, all I need do is live consistently a quality and keep an awareness of how much deeper and deeper I can go and from there everything I move has that same quality with it. It is a simpler way to live and certainly takes the pressure off my shoulders.

28. It makes so much sense that a Doctor or nurse would be encouraged to be gentle in the way they handle a patient’s organs or any body part. The energy that the Doctor does the operation in is so important too, as we are conscious of energy at all times!

29. It is true it doesn’t make sense that we make an effort to be gentle when it is brought to our notice, as it was with you Eunice when you were being trained as a surgeon. We also know to be gentle and caring when we hold a baby, so it is naturally innate within us, but we tend to keep our gentleness for special occasions rather than allowing ourselves to be gentle all of the time.

30. A great point raised here, Eunice – we cannot compartmentalize our life into sections and be a certain way in each one without affecting and getting affected by other parts.

31. It only makes sense that the way we were before we entered the surgery room also comes into the room with us. I know that when I go to work, if I have had a bad morning that doesn’t just disappear, I never take it out on any of my staff or customers but my team can feel that I might be a little down or not as bouncy as usual. We can’t expect everything to just go away because we put on a white coat or in my case an apron. Universal Medicine has been tirelessly presenting on the fact that if we begin to take more responsibility for our actions, thoughts, food, exercise and choices, that we will be able to care and love people more deeply, as we are loving ourselves more deeply, common sense if you ask me.

32. When we go about our business in a gentle manner it slows everyone down to move in a deeper connection and as a result the quality is far greater.

33. We have become so ingrained in reality being only what you can see that we have led ourselves to believe that we can get away with things that can be hidden from sight. But as you so beautifully exposed, we bring all we live to what we do and so our choices impact everyone around us… a massive responsibility… yet one we can’t avoid only choose to be ignorant to.

34. Awesome sharing Eunice, and this one pops to the fore for me today ‘From an energetic perspective there is no cover up, there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do’ and this is in fact what we try to avoid but fortunately cannot, for each action leads to the next action and there is no off switch, so if I want to be gentle at work, I need to bring that quality of all other parts of my life; this makes complete sense but until I met Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I did not truly consider this or live it and now I do and it’s changed my life and the quality of how I am with me and all others – there are no gaps, it’s one life.

35. Such simple wisdom, yet profound if we truly want to put this into lived practice: “in order to be truly gentle in the operating room, I need to be truly gentle outside of it as well…”
    Until coming to the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I would have thought myself to be a fairly ‘gentle’ person… haha… What I came to realise was that I had had no real idea of what this meant – and the enormous difference it could make – to bring gentleness to my movements, from the closing of a drawer or cupboard door, to the way I drive my car… absolutely everything. Embracing this upon coming to the presentations of Serge Benhayon, was challenging, and yet deeply transforming – for I found my body changing, and indeed my levels of vitality improving – all through the simple bringing of more aware presence to any one thing I was doing, and ‘how’ I was doing it.
    And so what you’ve shared here Eunice makes absolute sense to me – in that, we can’t expect a body that is by and large, ‘thrown into’ whatever it is that we may do, to be truly gentle in any one instance. It is the body that has developed and accepted such a way as its foundation, that can truly call upon such a quality when needed – as in the surgery you describe.
    In fact, part of the learning and awakening if you will, in all of this, has been that gentleness and to go further, a tender way with our bodies and beings, is actually needed not just in a particular given situation but actually at all times… The way we move, express and communicate is felt by all, all of the time, and humanity deserves to know that such intimacy of connection is indeed possible. And our bodies – they say, ‘hallelujah!’

36. A great question – if we live that gentleness in everything we do… the cooking, cleaning, gardening, with our loved ones, our work colleagues and every aspect of life, then that gentleness will deepen. There will be more of it, and there would be no question that it was also being practised in surgery and with our clients / patients / customers.

37. We bring all that we live to all that we do. There is simply no escaping this. We can make it look like we don’t on the outside, and we can fool people for a short period of time, but truth has a way of exposing itself, and in many different ways.

38. We live in the ignorance and arrogance of the enormous impact our movements have on each other and within the whole. If we did we would at least question the ill choices we make.

39. Can we expand our understanding of gentleness in medicine to include how we move, how we speak, how we listen, how we touch, how we look at another, even how our consultation rooms, homes and clinics are set up? We all have an energetic being or ’tissue’ that responds equally as well to gentleness as our physical tissues do in surgery.

40. I had a recent experience with an anaesthetist that was as rough as I have ever known. And I Guess it reflected to me that we all have our own measure of what gentle is, and that we all need to reflect more gentleness to receive that quality in our lives. Whether your a surgeon, a bricklayer or a lawyer, whatever really, gentleness matters!

41. Choosing to bring gentleness into what we do, is choosing to be much more present with what we are doing, and this is honouring and appreciating ourselves firstly for choosing this, and is honouring of whatever or whoever we are with, because the quality of what we do is truly caring.

    1. Thank you for this comment. For me doing Esoteric Yoga or bringing my focus back to my body and deepening my awareness from inside my body allows for a deeper connection and presence in all that I do, In this way I am naturally gentle and tender I do not have to try or think about it. This also engenders a feeling of honour, honour for myself and everything in life, it awakens an appreciation and a joy for life that can get lost when we focus on what we have to do or put our priorities on what is outside of us.

42. Thank you Eunice, this is a truly great and so very important understanding you have come to. Yes, we have certain moments in life where we allow ourselves to be gentle but when we feel into this gentleness in these moments we can feel that our bodies do not respond with the gentleness and tenderness we would like to express as we have held our bodies hard and controlled in so many other moments. It makes absolute sense in order to be truly tender this tenderness needs to be lived in every moment and not just in selected ones.

43. Through being gentle with myself I have come to heal the abuse and lovelessness that I had accepted as ‘normal’ in my life, and now understand that our truly ‘normal’ way of being is one that reflects and honors the gentleness of love we are in essence.

44. And to be gentle in our daily living comes with being present with ourselves.

45. It is amazing how when we are presented with the energetic truth we are able to more understand the absolute necessity of living a tender life. What Eunice has shared here with her experience as a surgeon can easily be transposed to how we are with a newborn child. All of us make the effort to be gentle in this situation, so we know how to be so. And all know deep inside how beautiful it feels, until though someone stands up and says why not live each moment like this, very few of us made the choice to do so.

46. It seems to be a huge responsibility to operate on many people for sometimes hours on end, and what stands out is the toll on the physical bodies of the medical team, and after reading this how important it would be to have a body prepared in such away to be able to sustain such a task.

47. In every moment we can either choose gentleness in our movements or we can choose to be rough and hard but knowing that in every movement I make either heals or harms it really does expose the responsibility I have to myself and to all of humanity.

48. “we bring all that we live to all that we do.” There is a precious awareness and powerful responsibility in the way we choose to live and treat ourselves with tenderness that offers inspiration to others.

49. I love this blog Eunice thank you.

50. If I ever require a Surgeon in your specialised field – you are top of my list Eunice!

51. What a great realisation you share here Eunice – it is amazing how we can live ‘in compartments’ and be unaware of the fact that everything we do and the quality in which we do it, impacts everything else. This only serves to keep us locked into separation and our own individuality.
    “I now realise, that how I live every day comes with me to the operating table. And so, even though I thought I was being gentle with the tissues inside the operating room, I was also bringing into it the hardness, the frustration, the anger etc that I was also carrying”.

52. We all are able to be gentle. Give the hardest guy a sweet little baby in his arms and he starts to express gentleness. So it looks like we can do, but choose not to – specially we do not so in every part of life. We save this kind of expression for special moments like a surgery, holding a new born baby or when we are intimate with our partner. We save it for moments, situations or people we honor. Now, how would life be if we expand this expression in all parts of life and see how it goes. Let’s honour all parts of life and living, every relationship and every situation. Very inspiring blog – thank you!

53. Eunice what a great understanding of responsibility in being a surgeon and also the fact that we can all learn that when we do anything it comes with the quality in which we’ve been living. No white coat can cover up a night of intoxication or morning of porn or even the anger we hold onto with someone.

54. It’s not so obvious and practised today in our world to be gentle. I see the most sensitive men only knowing to act in hardness while interacting, chatting, working etc. I have become more gentle and I remember not so long ago to act in hardness was the only way to survive. It’s no longer any issue at all to change my behaviour to gentleness around the ‘hardest’ of situations. In fact through experimentation I have become even more gentle and tender with my way of being, that brings me purpose that then supports my confidence. I do not have to fit in because I know and feel who I am – I am content.

55. As we become more gentle, so too do we gradually deepen that gentleness and it becomes more of a tenderness and then a delicateness. There is no end to the lightness that our touch can bring. It is interesting to see which areas of our lives we hold back on this quality and when we lose it. How gorgeous it is though to experience this lightness of being and to introduce it into all areas of our lives.

56. This is one of the many things I love about Universal Medicine. It makes the obvious, obvious. Of course, you say here Eunice that it makes sense to not leave gentle at the operating table, but you had not made that connection before. And I can think of hundreds of examples for me where I experienced similar. And now since becoming much more aware of energy, I have lots of moments where I go, of course, it is so obvious but I had chosen not to see it.

57. You raise a very valid point Eunice. We do restrict our use of gentle. We are very gentle with newborn babies and youngsters, but somewhere along the line we drop the gentleness and often end up treating ourselves with disregard. I know when I see someone being gentle or if they treat me gently it really registers and feels lovely. The flip side is that when someone is angry for instance, that can be felt too. We do respond to the energy behind actions and would all benefit from treating each other and ourselves with gentleness.

58. It is only when we begin to treat ourselves with gentleness that we become aware of the enormous abuse we have suffered at our own hands. If we were all surgeons, we would have been sacked long ago! Arresting this momentum of lovelessness is an incredibly honouring thing to do, both for ourselves and for others, for gentleness paves the way to tenderness – the gateway through which our true and sacred self is found.

59. My body rejoices at the mention of being treated gently – both by myself and by others. We all know this in truth as we all know how we respond to gentleness.

60. “From an energetic perspective there is no cover up, there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do.” Universal Medicine brings an awareness and responsibility that the energy we choose to live with either heals or harms in everything we do and those we are with. A universal operating table that asks us to be gentle and tender at all times.

61. We have an opportunity to offer healing in every moment if we choose to be gentle in everything we do.

62. ‘We bring all that we live to all that we do’ – Beautifully said Eunice, we often live our lives with the off and on switch, why don’t we experiment and live life with the ‘on’ switch all of the time. Our quality and connection to ourselves would deepen and the flow on effect to others would be very inspiring.

63. Gentleness in everything. As a busy man I can so often over-ride this, but have found it to be one of the most direct, efficient and reliable ways to connect me back to myself. An amazing tool that I carry with me everywhere.

64. Eunice this is GOLD: “If gentleness is beneficial on the table, it is surely also beneficial off the table, as we go about our daily lives.” AND ” I now realise that we cannot compartmentalise sections of our life and do what I used to do – endeavour to be gentle with the tissues in the operating room but have no gentleness for myself outside of it. For in order to be truly gentle in the operating room, I need to be truly gentle outside of it as well, in how I live my life on a daily basis.”
    Thank you for pointing this out – gentleness is not a switch that we can just flick on and off, it is about us developing this more and more in our lives so that it becomes once again our norm. We were all gentle or even tender and delicate as babies and children, so essentially we all know how to do it, we just forget as we grow and we learn to be rough and tough. We also all know how to hold a baby delicately, or to handle organs inspirations delicately, so we all have the capacity to choose this at any time. But to be truly gentle and to really bring it back into our lives, it is about choosing that gentleness consistently so in all that we do, and then this too can develop and deepen to tenderness and delicateness until we come full circle back to where we started – as the delicateness that we were born and choosing to treat ourselves and all those around us with the same quality that we all deserve.

65. I wonder how much gentleness in surgery is associated with post-operative pain?

66. ‘we bring all that we live to all that we do.’ There is nothing that we do that is not affected by the energy in which we choose to do it…..if we choose love, gentleness and joy then everything we do, and everyone we meet is imbued with this same energy.

67. ‘From an energetic perspective there is no cover up, there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do.’ If this simple fact was consciously known by humanity (I say consciously because we all know it but have chosen to ‘forget’), it would bring a huge leap in our evolution back to living and expressing with absolute responsibility, for once known it cannot be unknown, therefore even if we resist that level of responsibility, we can no longer hide in ignorance and at some point we will realise we do actually care. At this point we will begin to make changes to the way we live that support ourselves and the rest of humanity to live in honour of this.

68. Eunice it’s great what you share how we bring everything we live to everything we do. It is important we live and build gentleness in everything we do, only then it becomes normal and then everyone we interact with will feel the gentleness. Serge Benhayon is sure a great inspiration in living true gentleness.

69. ‘we bring all that we live to all that we do’, your entire blog is brilliant Eunice and this line is a great reminder for us. The quality in the way we live is evident in all that we do, like you shared we cannot hide anything when we look at the energetic quality of everything. I didn’t realise how powerful gentleness is, so if we were to apply gentleness to our everyday living, this would impact on the quality of everything we do, our body and our life will benefit hugely.

70. It makes complete sense that handling the tissues in an operation with gentleness has a positive effect on the recovery of the patient; introducing this into my way of life has been a more challenging prospect and is still a work in progress. However the ripple effects of choosing gentleness allows my body to perform more effectively and my interactions with others to run more smoothly thus improving my quality of life and my relationships.

71. ” But why should this gentleness be restricted to surgical operations??” why indeed Eunice. I love what you shared about how the way you are affects another. I notice this first hand when interacting with customers. If I have not been gentle and loving with myself, the interactions are all over the place and it is easy to see how my actions have affected another.

72. Gentleness is such a profoundly beautiful quality, and needs to be , no it is essential for all of us to reflect upon and integrate into our everyday lives and relationships.

73. The importance of gentleness in a world that is forever imposing itself upon us cannot be overstated. It is a state of being that truly allows us to understand what it is to not impose upon another – either emotionally or physically.

74. ‘From an energetic perspective there is no cover up, there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do.’ This line encompasses the beautiful offering this blog is making, in particular to other health practitioners. Starting with gentleness with ourselves is genius to me, gentle self-care as we learn to discern when we are straining and pushing our bodies, when we need to rest or get out and exercise are all easy to tune into. Overtime I have have also started to accept that my state of being and emotions are also going to have an impact on others, I can’t privately hold onto my emotions and not deal with them without them being felt on some level by others.

75. The gentle handling of tissues when the body is open in surgery is known to reduce the inflammatory response – funny that we don’t naturally extend this to the other tissues in our body that are impacted by everyday movements. It suggests to me we wait until we are in pain or need medical, even surgical, intervention to apply what we already know – that the body heals best when we are tender with it. We know in the extreme we can move the body in such an abrupt and abrasive manner it results in an inflammatory response – often through an accident or sport. We also know many of our common diseases are inflammatory diseases. So why not consider that every single movement we make can be more gentle and less gentle, and that the less gentle movements may be contributing to chronic inflammation?

76. After any surgery major or minor I have noticed around me that most are more gentle with themselves as their body tissue repairs itself. Also there maybe restrictions of bandages and a plaster cast which certainly put the emphasis on taking care of oneself as movement is restricted anyhow. But – and here comes the ‘but’ – once free of pain, the bandage/plaster is off and pain has subsided (yes I’ve done this myself) we have gone straight the same way of living as previously, prior to injury. Which is a far cry from being gentle. So when reading this today I could really appreciate Eunice as you share “If gentleness is beneficial on the table it is surely beneficial off the table as we go about our daily lives”. Let’s face it, if that was the case there may be less bodies on the table in the first place!

77. I love, what you are sharing from your own experience and perspective as a surgeon, that makes it very clear, yet transferable to any other profession and everyone’s life. “I now know that we are not isolated beings, but energetic beings, where we are all interconnected.” When I let this true sentence in, I feel humble, a kind of amazement and joy as well as responsibility. Beautiful how you have described that process of getting responsible with the truth of being interconnected. Thank you, Eunice.

78. Eunice it would be great if this level of awareness was part of medical training. I notice the difference of trying to be gentle when I’m a bit racy and the level of gentleness that is naturally present when I am deeply connected with myself. Imagine the quality of healing that would occur if surgeons were to bring this quality to the operating table. And imagine how the world would be if we all lived this quality.

79. So true, Eunice. There is no white coat in work or in life behind which we can conveniently hide how we are truly living. It’s all energetically there, playing out in everything we do, whether we like it or not. What’s tough about this is it brings with it a realisation of our own responsibility for the way we are living and then just two choices – to continue or to change. I like your explanation of how aiming to be gentle in everything we do can provide a bridge back to our true state of being – love and stillness.

80. That is what I love about Universal Medicine, since attending workshops with them I see more of the simple truths of life. Like you shared that gentleness is a must in the operating room yet nobody seems to realise and take that one step further that it would be also very beneficial to our health to be gentle outside the surgeries. It seems so obvious but as long as we do not see life as one big sphere in which everything we do affects everything, these simple truths are not seen.

    1. Yes Lieke, seeing life as ‘one big sphere in which everything we do affects everything’ changes the paradigm. From that viewpoint we cannot avoid our responsibility to the self as it affects the whole.

       1. Yes that is beautifully said hartanne60: “we cannot avoid our responsibility to the self as it affects the whole”. This blows the ideal that taking care of ourself is selfish out of the water.

81. “there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do”. This has been proven to me time and time again, the thing is I and others have identified how we live to be who we are and that we become trapped in an existence that is not evolving. When I came across Universal Medicine I found the way I live and the choices I make are something that are regularly being assesses and reassessed to make sure they align with my evolution and don’t become something I identify with and therefore become attached to as being me.

82. Thank you Eunice for a very beautiful blog, I could feel much more gentleness in me just by reading what you have shared, so true are these words, “we bring all that we live to all that we do”.

83. So beautiful to read Eunice, that the knowing is there that you have to treat the tissues with gentleness while operating. The only missing link is what is gentleness and how can we obtain that. Because as you say, if we are hard outside the operating theatre it will be quite a challenge to be completely gentle in the theatre while operating. I do see a marriage of the complementary esoteric healing modalities with western medicine could help in this, as working in these modalities we are taught that the way we live in normal life, that is what we bring to the treatment table, as we cannot separate this.

84. “We bring all that we live to all that we do.” Indeed Eunice, there is no part of life we can abstract from as everything is energetically connected. The way I brush my hair, walk in my presence to the train each morning, greet my colleagues… all is a reflection of my gentleness or lack of it.

85. Interesting Eunice that you discovered that you were no where near as gentle in surgery as you were when you made gentleness a part of your way of life yet to some extent there was a gentle switch- as in you and other surgeons could still be relatively gentle by choice when you wanted to be. Same for everyone – gentleness is just a choice away.

86. And a great example of the fact that try as we might, we cannot compartmentalise our life. What happens at home, we take to work and the emotions we feel 24/7 we take to whatever activity we are doing. I work with people who are quite aggressive and talkative outside of the work environment, and so when in the work environment, it is virtually no use asking them to be calmer and talk less because this is their usual way of being and it is very clear that changing from one way of being to another isn’t possible; the way we behave is likely to be the same wherever we are.

87. When babies are growing into toddlers, one word I hear a lot is ‘Gentle, gentle’ as parents tell their children when touching animals or playing with their toys. There is something quite natural and known that being gentle is the way to go. But somehow, this gentle is lost or forgotten and is replaced by a myriad of other behaviours, very far removed from gentleness.

88. Someone I know has just completed medical training and is now experiencing elective clinical practice before choosing a specialism. Whenever I read your blogs Eunice, I think of her at the start of her journey in medicine. While I know she will find her own way to practise, I am often inspired to post your blogs to her, this one I surely will. Thank you for speaking out and openly sharing the changes you’ve made in your own life. By sharing your story of self care, you offer, doctor’s, often working in highly pressurised work environments, another and more loving way to care for and support themselves and bring a higher quality of care to patients

89. Awesome and honestly expressed Eunice and written not just for surgeons, but all of us. It’s true we cannot compartmentalise our lives: there is one way of being and we bring this with us everywhere we are. What you share is important: the way we live affects everything we do. True gentleness comes from within, when we’re gentle with ourselves, it is no longer an action, but a quality that flows from us. And yes how amazing it would be if this awareness was brought to medical school training.

90. Great article Eunice highlighting our energetic responsibility ” From an energetic perspective there is no cover up, there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do.” we bring all of us into everything that we do – a huge responsibility for all of us.

91. I also didnt realise how being gentle could have such a positive and healing impact on everything that I do. A really good point you have raised Eunice that gentleness really helps in connecting to our inner essence.

92. ‘The more we build that gentleness in our daily activities, the more it is just our natural way of being, we don’t have to try to be gentle – we just are.’ Imagine a world with only gentle beings. Heaven on earth.

93. ‘I now realise, that how I live every day comes with me to the operating table’. This is true Eunice for every task or job we do.

94. It makes sense that if a surgeon is rough with the bodily tissues there is inflammation. I’m sure it’s the same when I am rough with my body because I often feel wiped out and really tired, however to do the same activity with gentleness and with care and attention to my body, listening to what it needs and how to move, creates for me a much better outcome. I don’t feel drained or strained when I’m gentle.

95. When we live with out energetic truth we have no idea that how we live affects all others but the fact is “we bring all that we live to all that we do there is no cover up, no hiding” Bringing gentleness to our lives connects us to our soul love, and this love affects all.

96. Eunice your article really highlights to me how powerful choosing gentleness is. Why would we just choose it in certain situations and not others and why not consider the impact it has on all that we are and all that we do. Your line “From an energetic perspective there is no cover up, there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do.” reflects the truth that our choices are carried in and with us, they impact us and those around us daily. This article is asking us to consider our responsibility to ourselves and others in choosing the quality with which we go about our daily lives. For me developing gentleness feels the true way of being.

97. ‘If it is necessary to be gentle with a body when it is on the operating table, surely it would also make sense that we should be gentle with it off the operating table??’ I cannot but feel the analogy of the inflammatory response on tissues from surgery and the inflammatory response from the effect of consistent poor lifestyle choices on the human body. I totally agree Eunice – ‘It doesn’t make sense to think that it’s ok to be rough and aggressive with the body in one’s daily life and only when it’s having an operation does the surgeon need to be gentle with it.’ Awesome blog.

98. Allowing ourselves to feel that gentleness with ourselves, to take the time to be tender and caring for ourselves is a great foundation for building that most wonderful of awareness’s, which is self love

99. Eunice what a great experience for all those having surgery. The choices you have made to be more honouring and caring of yourself will no doubt have an effect on those you treat. What a blessed group of people.

100. Recognising that you take the quality of how you live to the operating table with you is a profound realisation to come to. Life most definitely cannot be compartmentalised when it comes to energy and nothing can be hidden, so what you are offering here is revolutionary for the future of medicine and the well-being of your clients. Thank you for a truly amazing article highlighting the responsibility that needs to be applied to how we live and work.

101. “ I now realise, that how I live every day comes with me to the operating table”. This is a great revelation Eunice when we embody this fact for ourselves. ‘How we live every day’ comes with us every day in everything we do. The world would be a very different place if more people became aware of this truth instead of falsely believing that they can compartmentalise their lives.

102. “We bring all that we live to all that we do”, is very important to understand from energetic point of view as we can harm if we do not choose to live in a loving way. Being gentle to ourselves, allows us to create gentleness in everything we do. This is simple and true, therefore it is important in us taking responsibility of how we live.

     1. Totally Agree Amita. It feels like such common sense, that how we are with ourselves is exactly what is reflected back out. We like to trick ourselves with ideas such as ‘treat others how you want to be treated’….which in my opinion does not work. Treat yourself as you would like to be treated, and from that it is simply natural to treat all others equally.

103. Brilliant blog Eunice, I love how you expose that you can be trained in being gentle with surgery because it causes inflammation to tissues if you are not gentle with them, but that the outcome of this research is not taken broader and into our daily lives. I would say: ‘wow if we are not being gentle with tissues it causes inflammation… we better then have a look at making sure everyone knows this and has the opportunity to be more gentle with themselves and prevent inflammation.’ As you have done with this blog, thank you.

104. This is an amazingly responsible approach to life that Universal Medicine has taught you and many others.

105. How amazing it would be if we were taught from very young to be gentle with ourselves, that the gentleness we bring to our handling of a young baby is the same gentleness that we need to bring to ourselves and others, and in your case Eunice handling those delicate tissues. I love how you write; “I now know that we are not isolated beings, but energetic beings, where we are all interconnected” – so it then makes so much sense that from that connection the way we treat ourselves , in gentleness, or not, has an inevitable flow on affect to everyone else. That is where true responsibility begins.

106. Great points Eunice. I used to compartmentalise everything including myself so in effect I separated myself from me and thus all others. Having learnt the fundamentals as presented by Universal Medicine, the walls are steadily being demolished and my care for my patients (and myself) has changed enormously. I was very efficient and functional but there as a brittleness and hardness to it. Learning to live gently and lovingly with myself has meant that those qualities naturally ripple out into everything I am and do. What person doesn’t want that quality of love and care being offered to them?

107. Fantastic blog Eunice

108. We don’t often think about our tissues or the cellular level of our body. But it makes absolute sense that these delicate and intricate parts of our body require the utmost of care. Considering our body from this perspective brings a whole new awareness of how we can be with ourselves. And then knowing this, of course everyone else requires the same care as we all have this in common.

109. I love this Eunice. When I read your line about being tender with the tissues during surgery, my whole body surrendered and I could feel the gift of being like this with our bodies all of the time. I recently had surgery and what was beautiful about it was that afterwards I was really able to rest and take some time to surrender- but to bring this to daily living is a true gift our bodies need. Thanks for your sharing.

110. Thank you Eunice for your sharing. To be gentle with the Patient during procedures and gentle with yourself would surely bring to the operating table a very healing experience for all. Surely then the patients recovery would be sped up too.

     1. I don’t know how it would be done, but it would be amazing to see research proving what I know to be true too, that gentleness speeds up recovery. I know that for me, if I feel a twinge in my lower back or hip and really notice it, slowing down my activity and questioning why I have some discomfort there, it doesn’t take long at all for the pain to go. If I ignore the pain and continue on my merry ways, without gentleness, the pain will stay and actually get worse. My own experimentations have worked miracles and taught me much.

111. As you say Eunice “If gentleness is beneficial on the [operating] table, it is surely also beneficial off the table, as we go about our daily lives”. If more medical practitioners were aware of this truth, it would be amazing and there would be lower rates of illness, disease and suicide in the medical profession.

112. Eunice,
     I so love that gentleness with the bodies tissue during surgery has proven to be beneficial to the patient in their recovery. Right there is the scientific evidence to support every thing that Serge Benhayon has to say about energy. Love it.

     1. It’s science mixed with pure common sense, together makes a perfect match. When you just ‘know’ something to be true, and live by that knowing, you can’t be fooled or swayed by outside influences. Imagine a world where this way was the way for everyone.

113. ‘we bring all that we live to all that we do’. This line sums up our very existence. It is so true. We do not and can not get away with anything that has not come from love. Every choice leaves an imprint on not only ourselves but everyone and everything.

     1. This “imprint” you are writing about, Elodie Darwish, just feels to me like the outcome of our “operations” on life. And it either heals or harms.

114. As you have written Eunice, we cannot compartmentalise sections of our life, everything and everyone is interconnected. When we realise this we have a responsibility to the everything, to live in a gentle way in our every expression, our every move and touch, without perfection but with true intention. This way supports us to reconnecting back to the love that we are. Of course we have a choice – love or not love.

     1. Definitely nothing can be compartmentalised. From my experience it is not possible. Although at times I can fool myself to thinking I can get away with it, however this is quickly revealed.

115. So very true when you say that “we bring all that we live to all that we do”; there is in truth no way to hide or cover up how we conduct ourselves in all areas of life, bar none.

     1. Yes I copied that line to talk further about it because it struck me as a powerful and truthful piece of writing. It can be quite an eye opener to realise that we do this and even though we think we are ‘compartmentalising’ we are seriously not. It is so so so connected. We are all so so so so connected. Every moment and how we are in flows onto the next.

     2. Spot on Gabriele. Sooner or later it all comes out.

116. Conventional medicine taught you the rationale behind the need to be gentle in the operation room. As you said, it makes perfect sense. Yet, what about how one gets there? One might say that this is ‘a private matter.’ It is true that it is up to the person how it gets there, but to teach people who try care for the health of others that living gently helps everyone, including oneself, does not sound too much to ask.

117. Generally I would say that illness and disease perhaps leads us to be more gentle. When we are ill we dedicate ourselves to looking after ourselves more and being more gentle with our bodies. So why don’t we do it the rest of the time? Why do we have to wait for the body to force us to do it rather than naturally choosing it every day? Maybe this would avoid the need for a lot of illness and disease (and operations !) that we currently have?

     1. I would agree with you andrewmooney26. I acknowledge that I am more gentle with myself when I have my period than during the rest of the month, and every time my cycle comes around, I notice this. I thank goodness my body is my leader.

     2. Very true Andrew. I recently hurt my shoulder and it ‘forced’ me to be more tender and gentle in my movements. And my body responded really well. It is like there is an arrogance of when we are ‘well’ that it is a given permanent state in which we can do what we like. Which is so not true but lived by many.

        1. I reckon it is all in the definition of what we call ‘well’ sarahflenley. We have allowed the definition of that word to actually stray from its full and true meaning. Currently we believe we are ‘well’ if we are physically functioning ok and can get out of bed in the morning and go to work, do our tasks at home, do our hobbies etc without any major interruptions. But we are not examining closely enough the quality of this function. How are we really feeling when we do these daily movements? Hard, exhausted, anxious, miserable? Or vital, joyful, playful and calm? If we really were aware of how we were feeling energetically every day then we would make the necessary adjustments to our daily life and movements which would mean many illnesses and diseases would simply not occur.

        2. Well said Andrew. It is the questioning the definition of well that will show us where we really are at. Well at the moment is just the absence of illness ( or a major illness).

        3. I agree Sarah, this arrogance is deeply seeded and stops us from connecting to the ingredients that are needed to support the healing process – gentleness and tenderness and a whole bucket full of self love!

     3. Touché! I’ve noticed many times that when I haven’t been well or am feeling more vulnerable, that I am naturally much more gentle with myself and my body, however I have also noticed that when I feel well, I sometimes forget how delicate I really am. It’s how I can end up with bruises etc on my leg from bumping into things, when otherwise had I been more gentle I perhaps wouldn’t have bumped in the first place!

118. Thank you Eunice for sharing this inspiring, awesome blog. I didn’t know much about the importance of gentleness until I was introduced to Universal Medicine. I was naturally very gentle with my children when they were babies, other children and other people. But I turned it on and off throughout my life with others and myself. There was never this consistency of gentleness or true care for my body from the way I operate daily. The awareness to be in gentleness consistently is something I am learning and to become more aware of when I go into hardness and how it affects me and others around me. Consistency is the key, because we all know what gentleness feels like, it is just that most of the time it is turned off and replaced with hardness. So, I know it is just a matter of choice, and reminding myself to return to that gentleness every time I come out of it.

119. I didn’t know a surgeon was already being taught to be gentle when operating. It would make absolute sense and I imagine to be very supportive for a surgeon to extend that way of being outside the operating theatre, into their everyday life.

120. You make a great link here Eunice between the inflammation response in tissues and being gentle. A worthy research topic.

121. We are absolutely accountable all of the time, we don’t have a private moment as in, nobody saw us so it’s alright that we did something that didn’t have integrity in it. Serge Benhayon teaches and lives this completely, and it is very inspiring, to bring this slowly (without perfection) into my life. Thank you Eunice for your absolutely inspiring blog, and being the amazing woman you are.

122. “We bring all that we live to all that we do”
     Humanity needs this profound ‘one liner’, thanks Eunice.

123. Thank you Eunice, I love how you expose the myth that being gentle is for certain times and places. We may choose to be gentle with a baby, but are we really bringing true gentleness if we have a hang over or we have gone for a run? When we consider how we choose to live, we can’t help but observe that this does have an impact on those around us and everything that we do and then we find that everything we have been looking for in life begins with bringing this gentle way to ourselves first. I love this last sentence….”From an energetic perspective there is no cover up, there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do.”

124. What reading this highlighted to me was that while it is a great step to introduce gentleness into one’s life, even if at first it is just one part of life rather than 100% hard, rushed and fast – if that isn’t built upon from that practice area of life so to speak it doesn’t go anywhere. That is what I have found in that if I am only gentle or present with myself in only one situation in life – for example going to bed early and the rest of the time live in however way I want, that support that going to bed early originally gave me no longer supports me feeling less tired, unrested etc if other areas don’t change.

125. Thanks Eunice, the gentle way you live comes through in your writing – it has helped me to become more gentle in the reading. Thank you for the reminder that living gently in every way is how we return ourselves to living in stillness.

126. Makes a whole lot of sense to be gentle with our bodies as we go about our days! Just the other day I had some fun with some year 4 children by asking them to experiment with how they put their chairs back when getting ready to leave, I did a demonstration of how they normally do it, which is very noisy and bumpy with no care. They had just done the gentle breath exercise and could feel how this sort of action was in complete contrast to their natural gentle nature.

127. I must admit I was in a bit of an anxious state prior to reading your blog and even just by reading about gentleness it has brought me back to me, so thank you Eunice

128. Thanks Eunice for a thought provoking blog. ‘From an energetic perspective there is no cover up, there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do.’ – these words really cause me to pause and truly consider the enormous responsibility I carry to make sure I live my life with energetic integrity, not just for myself but especially for humanity.

129. A great reminder for me Eunice that gentleness is part of everything that we do and needs to flow on from one part of our life to the next rather than be compartmentalized in parts of our life.

130. Great point Eunice – it seems crazy that medical trainees are taught to be gentle whilst operating on the tissues but not in everything else that they do. I feel it is the same for people in general – we can be more gentle with ourselves when we are sick or perhaps recovering from surgery, but then when we are feeling better that gentleness can go right out the window.

131. When I have visited hospitals I have been appalled at the way some of the nurses treat the patients, they are rough and abrupt and uncaring. Bringing more training to the way of handling patients would be an enormously welcome step. Gentleness is a great place to start,.

132. Eunice your article brought to mind a time some years ago when, as a yoga teacher, I adjusted a students body and she reacted very strongly to the adjustment saying to me that I was taking out my anger on her body. At the time I simply rejected what she was saying as nonsense but retrospectively I know that she was absolutely correct. Because I lived in hardness and a lot of anger and frustration then of course anyone I touched, was going to feel the unresolved emotion in my body. It is wonderful for me to now feel that when I do touch others it is with gentleness and more and more it is with love.

133. Eunice, thank you, we bring all that we live into all that we do. I am feeling the truth of this in my daily life and find my self challenged often to maintain my gentleness and tenderness as I live through these challenges. It is not always easy to do, but the more I do choose my tenderness, the easier it is to choose as I move through my days. The most beautiful thing about living this way is how exquisite it feels from within my body.

134. Wunderbare Eunice as long as being gentle in every aspects of the life of a doctor is not a normal way of being or is not part of their medical training, I would choose you as my doctor – I would even fly to Ireland for that!!!! Here is one question from me – can you not hold these medical trainings?????

135. I found it ironic reading this blog that most people would expect a surgeon to be gentle with their body and yet treat themselves in ways that are far from gentle. It doesn’t sound hard to be gentle (and it’s not) but we need to allow ourselves to be this way, to feel we are important enough to go about life gently rather than just getting the job done. Most of us have denied this delicate part of ourselves from the time we learn that what we do is more important than how we are. It is time to reclaim our naturally precious way, which can start with gentleness

     1. Awesome comment Fiona, I love what you’ve shared. I am learning to be in gentleness consistently. Through reading this blog and comments they inspire me to remind my children to connect to their precious gentleness too. I feel it is as equally important to share this with my children as I am learning myself to reconnect to my natural precious way….gentleness.

136. I enjoyed every word of this blog. It makes so much sense to me now that we cannot just choose to be gentle in one area of our lives; to bring gentleness to one aspect of life we must choose it in all aspects. Now it seems self evident, natural, almost so obvious that it needn’t be said, but it wasn’t this way, I didn’t know it at all. It took Serge Benhayon to show us what should have been totally clear.

137. For a long time I have been wanting to stick my head in the sand and not take responsibility, but now I read what you have written: ‘we bring all that we live to all that we do.’ and it feels like a welcome statement! What a testament that is to how far I have come in the way I live my life!

138. This is a great article Eunice, ‘The more we build that gentleness in our daily activities, the more it is just our natural way of being, we don’t have to try to be gentle – we just are.’ This is what I am finding, I used to live in a very hard way and was quite rough with my body, but I have changed this now and am much more gentle with myself, this feels very natural and now I find that I can’t be rough or hard with my body because it now feels alien to me to be rough.

139. ‘We bring all that we live to all that we do’. A powerful truth Eunice.

140. I love your words Eunice. It was a great revelation to me to really understand and begin to embody those words… ‘ we bring all that we live to all that we do’. Thank -you.

141. It’s so true, “we bring all that we live to all that we do”. How often do we see someone that looks perfectly appropriate, like a man in a white coat, yet we sense something else. To me, not only doctors but other people and even buildings can feel scary. Houses may be beautifully decorated, doctors have obviously done their training, they may say the right words, yet I will experience fear, trepidation and distrust.
     I have learned from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine why this incongruence happens. It is because the energetic quality and the appearances don’t match. Like you say: “From an energetic perspective there is no cover up, there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do”. So the ultimate responsibility for medicos, and all of us in truth, is to devote our awareness and time to developing our gentleness, tenderness, through caring for ourselves, and then we will be able to share true gentleness and tenderness with others. And may I add, this is in no way burdensome, it’s a delightful path to tread for all.

142. Eunice it is so true we are all interconnected with everyone and everything that we express too. “We are not isolated beings, but energetic beings, where we are all interconnected.” So we can’t do one thing in a harsh manner and it not affect someone, it really does connect us all.

143. Thanks Eunice for sharing this insight into gentleness , to be gentle is a marker of awareness that leads to understanding we are beings of love , to choose gentleness is to connect with being present with the way we move and live the start of a beautiful journey of wakening.

144. If I needed surgery Eunice and you were my surgeon, I would feel in incredibly safe hands, in the knowing that you consider the quality of how you live your life outside the operating theatre and not just within.

145. I was wondering how gentle a surgeon can be when the rest of their life is not gentle – could some of the roughness leak out? Would it require the surgeon to be very aware to be gentle and if they become tired would it be harder and harder to be gentle? There was a study recently about elective surgery and it showed that complications increased each day further into the week, i.e. Monday was better than Tuesday which was better than Wednesday etc

     Would it be possible to remain gentle when tired if gentleness is a natural part of one’s life?

146. ‘We bring all that we are to all that we do’ – Each time I re-visit this simple statement, I find that the absolute depth of it’s meaning is growing. As my awareness grows, my awareness of my self and the way I choose to live my life grows and I am constantly moving towards exploring the more minute details – How I move, what I do, what my thoughts are made up of and where they are coming from.
     Who would have ever thought that to stand in absolute presence and awareness could bring such beauty? There are many areas of my life to be exposed as not loving, excuses for ‘doing’ things a particular way and statements that are made from habit and not love, but slowly I am cleaning out the cobwebs and getting rid of the complications I create in my life. How amazing would it be to have people living this way not only in our lives or professional life, but in every walk of life. Thanks Serge Benhayon for bringing awareness to the fact that ‘maybe there is another way’.

147. What this reminds me of is how people are told to be really gentle with a brand new baby, but then when the child get’s to a certain age, maybe even just 6 or 12 months it’s like it’s not as important to be as gentle any more, because the baby has it’s own ‘strength’ to hold itself up, or get’s bigger and more robust as it crawls and tumbles on the floor. But is it possible that as here, the surgery tissue is obviously really delicate, but why are we no longer delicate, because you don’t look at us under a microscope? or because we are not ‘little’ people any more? It makes sense that we are all equally delicate, all of the time, and we always deserve gentleness and tenderness.

     1. So true Danielle, it’s as if gentleness is seen as a weakness and ‘we must prepare our children for the tough world we live in’ – when in fact the best preparation anyone needs to live in our world is be who we truly are and gentleness is the bridge.

        1. So true Jen, it feels that the hardness, raciness, toughness and rush of life is the part that has to change and is out of place and, it’s not us in our gentleness and delicateness that needs to change to fit into the way life has developed.

148. Perfect sense! there is such a wealth of knowledge in these blogs – sharing this is very valuable.

149. Eunice, what you are saying makes so much sense. Of course if it supports the body to be gentle with it in surgery, treating the body gently outside of surgery must also support it. I never thought of it like that before.

150. Wow thank you Eunice, this makes me feel like having a surgical procedure, just to be under your gentle care, when is the theatre available in Australia. We need a hospital for visiting surgeons, wow! how amazing would that be.

151. As one who compartmentalised her life to the nth degree, I completely agree with you here Eunice and because of the compartmentalisation I couldn’t feel anything least of all me! I would attempt to be gentle in my contact with others but because I wasn’t gentle with myself (very obvious in the fact that I would have constant bruises and cuts or scratches on various parts of my body) I can feel how that lack of true care for me was also imposed upon my patients. The difference since learning to be gentle with myself and whatever I am doing, whether that be opening a door, washing a patients face or doing a dressing is palpable and I notice much more readily when what is going on around me isn’t gentle or harmonious. I love the feeling of gentleness and flow in my body too, which means there is much less tension in it and therefore exhaustion for me is no longer a factor. Just a lovely steadiness and hugely increased energy levels. When this is taught in all schools we will have a very different, much more harmonious society.

152. It makes a big difference when a surgeon operates with true gentleness, the tissue afterwards looks, feels, totally different and heals better!
     How amazing would it be to teach this gentleness and selfcare in university …
     it is true when we start being more loving it has an effect on people around us!

     1. I recall how vastly different the quality and healing process of the post-Caesarean scars was amongst mothers who had surgery around the same time as me. Even without the understanding of the importance of gentleness in surgery, I felt that this had an impact on the quality of the healing wound.

153. The way I see it Eunice is that your gentleness will have ripple effect on the juniors surgeons around you and the circle of gentleness will go on expanding.

154. Thank you Eunice. As I read this article I related the work in an operating theatre to my life and my interactions with everyone I meet, and that I have to be gentle with myself before I can bring gentleness to the way I live and with everyone around me.

155. Absolute gold Eunice, thank you! I love your question “How amazing would it be if this was part of medical training?” I have been pondering…. How amazing would it be if we were taught at school that gentleness in everything we do is the minimum quality in the way to be and do things and that in every moment we bring all that we live. If true responsibility was taught to all of us from very young there would be no disharmony in the world. This way of being starts with gentleness and I too re-learnt how to be gentle through the presentations of Serge Benhayon.

156. Eunice what a great reminder that gentleness is not something we should turn on and off in our lives. It is an supportive and loving way of being. “We bring all that we live to all that we do,” perfect expression.

157. I am truly inspired that surgeons are trained to be gentle with tissues. That was not intrinsic to the training of dentists, yet how crucial is it to be gentle with a person’s mouth, when they are awake, aware of what is going on and often afraid.
     I loved this:
     “To understand that we cannot just put on a white coat and think that will cover up any bits of ourselves or our behaviour we are perhaps less than happy with or which our patients would be less than happy with. From an energetic perspective there is no cover up, there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do.”
     We bring it all, all of the time. To live like this is an enormous responsibility and frankly it is the only way to live.

158. Eunice a beautiful reminder that it is not about segmenting our lives to being connected and gentle in some aspects of our lives and not in others. The importance of considering how we are all of the time and it is through each moment of connection and gentleness that when we can arrive at certain points such as the ‘operating table’, whatever that is for each of us, in the true quality of energy required for the job.

159. For me stood out:
     ‘I now realise that we cannot compartmentalise sections of our life and do what I used to do – endeavour to be gentle with the tissues in the operating room but have no gentleness for myself outside of it. For in order to be truly gentle in the operating room, I need to be truly gentle outside of it as well, in how I live my life on a daily basis.’
     I completely agree with you – we cannot compartmentalise parts of our lives, treat certain people in a more ‘special’ way than others or ourselves. Work in progress for me.

160. Thank you Eunice. A lovely reminder that being gentle is a lived way if being, not just something we need to try to turn on when it is absolutely required.

161. Thank you Eunice for reminding me of how I can compartmentalise my life – that I can be gentle with a baby but not with an adult – or with myself. Since becoming more aware of how I move and act I realise that I have made life very hard in the way that I lived it – always driving myself to achieve. Sometimes it is beautiful to touch ourselves gently and tenderly and to realise how truly lovely we are, with something as simple as touching gently one hand with another and to connect to our skin and to realise how sensitive we are.

162. Thank you Eunice, Yes, teaching gentleness during training, be it in medicine, nursing, physiotherapy or any health practice really should be a foundational course unit ‘connection and gentleness 101’. Perhaps staff education programs within hospitals as a continual development would be a step towards bringing self care to the practitioner and ultimately to their patients. True healing within a hospital all round is quite possible.

163. PS I am glad they teach the trainee surgeons to handle tissues gently whilst operating (even though it doesn’t feel like that when you come round from surgery) and as you say Eunice, how great it would be if they were taught to handle themselves in the same way.

164. Gentleness is such a lovely and old fashioned word and so descriptive of that state. It is a lovely way to live, and as you say the more it is lived, the easier it is to notice when I depart from gentleness, often because I am in a rush.

     1. Your comment reminds me that I do the same, going into hardness when I am in a rush. But I am learning to slow down when I am in a rush and to be conscious to not go into hardness and then stress but to be gentle yet still efficient. Moving with gentleness creates an amazing flow and harmony within my body and everything around me.

165. Such a lovely sharing Eunice. It ‘gently’ reminded me of the first time I became aware of gentleness – I was gentle with my babies/ children, gentle with my animals, even gentle with friends but to be gentle with myself opened up a whole new way of being. I have reawakened to so much since attending presentations by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and I now feel little by little gentleness is becoming more of the way I choose to live my life. Your words “There is no cover up, there is no hiding place we bring all that we live to all that we do” Awesome. Thank you.

166. I am reminded of when I was a new mother – I intended to be super-gentle with my newborn bub, but gave myself none of the same care & consideration. I ended up exhausted & frustrated which makes it very difficult to concentrate on gentleness – rather efficiency comes into play, doing what needs to be done, with very little love. If I had understood then that everything is interconnected & if I treated myself with care & gentleness, I could not have helped but bring the same to my baby & everyone else.

167. If only we could all be sure that the Surgeon we may have performing an operation or procedure for us was as gentle and self nurturing as you are Eunice. To know that what Surgeons bring to the table all of them in the way they live is a bit scary. Let’s hope that in the near future as you stated in your blog that gentleness and self nurture will be a part of a Doctors or Surgeons training, that the knowledge that the way we live is what we all take with us in everything we do.

168. Indeed wouldn’t the world be a different place if gentleness was our way of being, not just with ourselves but in every moment and every action in our every day.

169. It is a great point and I never saw it that way, that if living human tissue responds to gentleness and heals better, then we could extrapolate and say that our lives can also benefit from this approach to all our expression. It is a little like being aware as a nurse how premature babies that were cuddled and held more thrived much faster than ones who were not, even though they were getting the same medical care. I have had conversations with people who just have not got the essence of this message – which is how we all (adult or child) respond to being loved and held with nurturing. Why do we believe this stops at a certain age and why do we believe that being rough or tough is ok?

170. Thank you Eunice for another awesome article – I too find it fascinating that we can choose to be gentle one moment (such as handling a small child) but then slam a door or throw things around with carelessness! This to me shows that we are all capable of doing the ‘gentle thing’ yet it comes down to a choice, and a choice to be gentle all the time, as much as possible and consistently so. And so true too that we cannot switch off how we have been with ourselves outside of seeing clients and then just act all gentle in the room with them – this too comes laced with how we have been with ourselves all of the time outside the room! This might appear to be a huge responsibility, and it is, but really if we look at it as returning to a natural way of being, it becomes something rather simple and easy to do. Of course we will experience our old patterns of being rough or hard trying to step in and interfere with being gentle, but we still have the choice – it is a work in progress indeed.

171. A very gentle article. I so agree with what you are expressing here . I often find myself becoming hard in my body, of tensing my arms or shoulders when beginning a task. I continually come back to this feeling of gentleness and how much more enjoyable doing anything is when we are gentle. I am more present and with me and with what I am doing. In truth our bodies (and psyches) are always fragile and how beautiful to honour that by treating them with a quality that is truly appropriate in every moment.

172. A lesson in surgery as a lesson in life – to go gently to minimise impact/trauma.

173. A beautiful blog Eunice. We so forget about being gentle with ourselves, yet if we were looking after a baby or young child we are nothing but gentle, as they are so precious and delicate. We forget that as adults we were once that child, so why do we stop this gentleness with ourselves?

174. It is funny how obvious things seem so un-obvious until someone points it out. It makes perfect sense to me after reading this blog that if medically we know to treat the body with gentleness while on an operating table then why wouldn’t we treat it the same way off the table? Living this responsibly is something that as yet we are not very good at.

175. ‘How I live everyday comes with me to the operating table’. It is truly heartening to read an account of a surgeon committed to this level of responsibility for their energetic impact on another. I agree, this should be material for Day 1 medical school. It would be life changing in its reach. What you say here is not confined to the realm of medical practice but just as valid and necessary in any profession, any work – indeed anywhere we have accountability for others. It has to start with responsibility for ourselves first.

176. I love what how you say ‘we bring all that we live to all that we do’ as this is so very true. Having the awareness of this responsibility is beautiful as it calls for me to deepen my relationship with the gentleness and tenderness that I am, and so in all that I do.

177. Awesome Eunice I love the clarity with which you have expressed that ‘we bring all that we live to all that we do’ and how approaching everything we undertake in life with gentleness has a positive impact on our lives and all those we touch – both physically and not. Thank you.

178. This is a great blog Eunice, I was only just thinking today at work that the more conscious I am of being gentle the more natural it seems.

179. Love this article Eunice and how you have spelt out energetic integrity in such simple language in that putting on that white coat in truth, hides nothing.

180. Thank you Eunice for reminding us why is gentleness important. You say ‘…It helps to re-connect us back to our true state of being, which is love and stillness…’

     I have learned, by practicing gentleness that without at LEAST a gentleness in our way of being we cannot feel who we are in truth…and that is a big deal when you realize that we are Love!

     Working on breathing, moving and doing things gently is a great place to start if one wants to be & feel who they are and live in full. This alone has lent to beautiful transformations in every area of my life…and I’m not even that ‘good at it’ yet!

181. Thank you Eunice for such a beautiful inspiring article on gentleness and loving ourselves. I too am inspired constantly by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine to bring an ever deepening gentleness and lovingness into my life and this is very joyful and precious.

182. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if all surgeons were taught about the importance of being gentle in all aspects of their lives not just in the operating theatre. I know learning to be gentle has changed my whole way of being, I am much more aware of how I pick up and touch things and how I speak and the words I use. When I lapse into a moment of harshness I can feel how uncomfortable this is and how it affects everyone else around me.Thank you Eunice I really enjoyed re-reading your blog and thank you to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine who have inspired me to know what true gentleness is and enjoy the loving changes this has brought to my life.

183. I too have noticed that gentleness does need to be applied ‘across the board’ in life – I may brush my teeth or wash my face gently but brushing my hair harshly and catching my ears is not gentle. Like the tissue example my hair is still part of my body as are my teeth or face so why do I act differently in different activities when it is all part of my one body..

184. An inspiring blog on the importance of being gentle with ourselves and our bodies in everyday life . This will then be the quality we take into our professional life and into all our interactions….surely this is a win-win situation for all concerned. thank you Eunice.

185. Great point Eunice that we treat our insides with gentleness but not the outsides! What if we went through every day as if our organs were exposed? I know sound a bit gross but how much more gentle would be with ourselves and each other?

186. When I choose to feel the gentleness in my fingertips when I touch or pick something up I can feel my whole body respond and become more gentle in the way I move. When I speak to myself gently without harsh self-criticism I can feel my hard defensive protection drop away.

187. “The more we build that gentleness in our daily activities, the more it is just our natural way of being, we don’t have to try to be gentle – we just are”, this is awesome Eunice, and so needed for every single person to understand it as it unlocks the key to being caring in everything that we do – it is not about just putting up a front when we meet customers/guests, everything we do at home and in our families builds, and makes the person that people get to see

188. Gentleness is a great gift, an amazing quality to have an awareness of and a capacity to live in all that we do. The way we are in all moments greatly affects the next, and they way we are with ourselves greatly affects everyone else. To take the time and really connect to ourselves we can only want this gentleness throughout our daily life – it is beneficial for all, and quite possibly had we been gentle with ourselves in the first place we would not be needing the surgeon to be gentle with us on the operating table!

189. What a great presentation of why gentleness is important for our bodies – if it is so on the operating table it surely must be relevant in the rest of our life. And I love how you have expanded on what true gentleness is through the teachings of Universal Medicine. Thanks Eunice.

190. A great sharing Eunice, this is so true,’ to be truly gentle in the operating room, I need to be truly gentle outside of it as well, in how I live my life on a daily basis.’ Yes, the way we live our life, i.e. in gentleness or tenderness comes with us wherever we go. So, in choosing to build a life of gentleness, being responsible for our energy, we are able to be this more easily in everything we do.

191. “We bring all that we live to all that we do.’- I love what you wrote here Eunice, and will bring this quote with me as a great reminder that no matter what we say or do, if it does not come from a body that has lived that gentleness you speak of as it’s norm, it will not provide true support or healing for others. Thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for helping me understand the importance of this. In the past, I would just use my wit and memorized ‘knowledge’ to get by and impress people, but now I know I was hiding behind that because I was not truly taking care of myself with gentleness, and this was not ‘impressive’ at all, but actually imposing, because I was just looking after my own interests of feeling accepted or recognized.

192. Great Article Eunice and some great comments above. Very inspiring whilst raising a really interesting point that if Medical Training knows to be gentle with the tissue and body during an operation why not take the same level of care and love to the rest of life. And if the doctor is being gentle as that supports the tissue and reduces inflammation then what if the patient also sought to be gentle.

193. It is very obvious to me now how if I’m not being gentle, how it then effects everyone around me, and it’s easy to see this in the work place. If I go to work and am frustrated, rushed or stressed, then it effects everyone I work with, and not in a good way. It even effects the way I write my emails. If I go to work and am more gentle with myself, more caring and understanding, there is a completely different flow to my day and a different effect on those around me, one that supports others.

194. This article gives a real tangible understanding of the effects of being gentle on our bodies. I can really imagine how gentle you need to be with tissues on the operating table, and why would it make a difference just because the skin is covering the tissues so you no longer see them.

     1. This is true and with a discussion like this it makes me appreciate all the areas in my life where I am not truly gentle and how there is a far deeper level of gentleness that I am able to go to.

195. “How amazing would it be if this was part of medical training? To understand that in any interaction or operation we bring to the table, or the consultation, all that we live.”
     Awesome Eunice this makes such common sense “From an energetic perspective there is no cover up, there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do.” How medicine and the health care system could be transformed if we all worked with this awareness!

196. Thank you Eunice for glimpse of the workings of the medical world. Yes, it would be amazing if this gentle way of being was a foundation part of medical training.

197. Very true Jane, by being treated gently and tenderly would change every interaction. The more we bring gentleness into our lives the more awareness we bring to what is gentle or not. The gentleness and understanding of a dentist or doctor will determine how I feel while I am with them and whether I want to go back or not. There have been many times before when I have put up with something being far from gentle and then not wanting to go back afterwards. I am now more aware of what gentleness is within myself and speak up if the treatment I am receiving is not gentle.

198. Eunice thank you for this great article showing the importance of how we live in every moment is what we bring to all we do, say and the people we meet. I was not aware of this until I came across Serge Benhayon’s presentations.

199. Eunice, through your awesome blog I feel the true power of a truly gentle surgeon. It’s amazing, thank you for that. I also feel that I can apply that same power, for I don’t have to let my inner workings be entirely at the mercy of another. They are mine and through how I choose to treat them I know they are either being loved or left out. And I definitely don’t like the thought of leaving my insides out. Haha

200. Thank You Eunice for saying how we cannot compartmentalise being gentle. It has to be in every area of our life and this is something I was not aware of until I attended the presentations of Serge Benhayon.
     It makes sense because I know that doctors, surgeons and most people are rushing around everyday and this makes the body hard as I know from my own experience. When we are hard we cannot be gentle.

201. “From an energetic perspective there is no cover up, there is no hiding place – we bring all that we live to all that we do.” So True. Thank you for your integrity Eunice.

202. Great article Eunice, it would be truly awesome if being gentle in all areas of life were part of medical training, in fact why stop there – all education – so bus drivers would be aware of their affect on the passengers and butchers would be aware of how they slice the meat, nursery nurses would be a reflection of gentleness to the children in their care, the list is endless, it would be truly awesome and will be.

203. A beautiful clarity in sharing that the way we are with ourselves in everything we do is taken into every relationship, and action that we have. Thank you Eunice.

204. Thank you for sharing Eunice… So many people believe that they can lead ‘double lives’, and act a certain way at work or with certain people, then another way at home or with family. As you say, there is no such thing as a ‘double life’, and to be gentle on the operating table requires you to be gentle with everything you do, with everyone that you come across.

205. I love how you called out the senselessness in only being gentle on the table, and not off the table. It just makes sense.
     As Tim has commented above me, I find that when I am even more gentle in what I do, it makes what I used to think was gentle look rough.
     A great read, thanks Eunice.

206. Thanks Eunice, top article. Thanks for this timely reminder about gentleness. I know that however gentle I am there is always room to be even more gentle. This is definitely a work in progress.

207. Thanks, yes it makes total sense to treat the body with gentleness both on and off the operating table! If we benefit from gentleness in surgery, then we would definitely benefit from it in daily life,
     With love Felicity

208. Eunice and all who have commented, I really appreciate the illuminating nature of your words, it brings such clarity to my life. Thank you.

209. Gentleness was not a word that had really entered my life, pre-Universal Medicine. When I came across Universal Medicine and Serge would talk about gentleness it was so far from my world of rushing and cramming as much in my day as I could that it did not really register with me. Then when it did it would be moments of gentleness at a course and then back to my everyday living of hardness and getting things done. This behaviour was so ingrained in me it has taken until now to really understand what true gentleness is, that it really is in every moment, every touch every gesture, every word, every breath. Thank you Eunice for writing about gentleness.

     1. Same with me Alison, my life used to be about, ‘rushing and cramming as much in my day as I could’, about getting things done at all costs. Now, I still have lots to achieve daily, but I am very aware about the quality of energy I am in, about being truly gentle with everything, and at the same time staying with me as I go about my day.

     2. I recognize what you write, Alison. After all the busyness, gentleness was a complete ‘new’ word and experience. I confused it with ‘slow’ and ‘soft’ in the beginning. Thanks to Serge Benhayon living in a gentle and tender way, I got to see, witness and experience the effects. And now if I am not gentle or tender with myself and thus with others, it stands out like a sore thumb.

210. thanks Eunice, a great article to feel the importance of true cause and effect, and how we are with ourselves is then translated into everything we do. I love your phrase -” I now realise, that how I live every day comes with me to the operating table” – something every doctor, surgeon could learn in their training as you say, or indeed everyone who works could be reminded of… ‘how I live every day comes with me… to wherever I work’.

211. Thank you Eunice Anne, and Victoria. So awesomely put, that everything we do affects everything, and more importantly we have a choice in how we are so we can choose to be gentle and honour ourselves and in doing so we take that out with us into all our interactions with the world. What a sensible way to live! I too did not have this level of awareness until I came across Serge and Universal Medicine, and I grateful for the inspiration and insights I’ve received which has allowed me to live in a more loving and appreciative way of me and also of everyone else. Being gentle with me has completely changed how I am in everything, with family, work, friends and in the process I’m working more with everyone and have a greater understanding of how we all bring something and it’s much more fun – less striving, less pushing, It just makes sense. Now it’s about being gentle with me and seeing how I take that to what I do and seeing that in doing so there is a possibility for something different. And writing this now I can say how beautiful is that. So thank you.

212. Thank you Anne & Victoria for sharing such amazing experiences. Again it shows how much support, love & commitment Serge, his family & Universal Medicine have shared with us so as to all connect to & bring that love into our lives also, & from there be able to share with others that there is another way, a way of love. Thank you for sharing & being so awesome as i know your livingness has touched me also.

213. What a beautifully written article on gentleness, and indeed, grace. Having been trained in singing, I learnt just how very delicate our vocal folds are (let alone other parts of the functional anatomy used). Yet in my own exploration of musical expression and training, I found so much that was not truly gentle – including much ‘widely used’ repertoire that could never be truly sung with such a level of respect for our body – and thus also for those listening. I saw, and see, so many musicians who freely express their anger, their inner-disharmony.. what does this do to the delicateness of the tissue in the body, let alone the being that feels it all? And then, there are those who step up to ‘perform/record’ (i.e. put on their own ‘white coat’) – but the reflection here is, do we know what they are living in the rest of their lives? Is is possible that we don’t just get ‘the beautiful voice’ or ‘great tune’, but also, as Eunice shared, the “hardness, frustration and anger” they may be carrying?
     Suffice to say, when one begins to explore this in one’s own way of living, much can be revealed from within, and also exposed in light of what we ‘thought’, simply ‘assumed’, and may have indeed ‘wanted’ to be ‘ok’. For myself also, the work of Universal Medicine assists me to really honour these things I have felt and feel, and go deeper in the discovery of what is, in fact, true – and what that means in terms of responsibility for my own expression. This, as for the dedicated surgeon writing the article above, is a great learning – one I would never want to ‘walk back from’, and one that I do know can only benefit my own ‘patients’ – who, in my world, may be students, listeners, and anyone I come in contact with.

214. This is a lovely article on gentleness for surgeons, and for all of us- an inspiring way to consider the fact that the way we are and the way we live affects everyone, with love, Anne.

215. This is a lovely article on gentleness for surgeons, and for all of us- an inspiring way to consider that the way we are and the way we live, affects everyone and everything, with love, Anne.

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